the daddy issues club. - 20 something diaries 🎙️🎧 

I honestly wanna tell you one thing: your mom went through all of that so that you don't have to go through that with anyone else but him. Like think about it as your dad has given you the key to identify what type of man you would never allow into your life. You truly have the power there girl. Thank your for sharing this part of your story Lisa 🤍 You are healing for real

The best thing you should do is take a personal, private trip to Nigeria. Not to meet with relatives but to take in the other part of who you are. It will help you heal, grow and give you better boundaries on how to deal with your relationship with your dad.

This whole situation has made you such a strong independent woman. Your going to help so many others by sharing your story ❤ speak your truth sis! Much love! Cant wait for the next pod ❤️

I'm currently 15 years old and havent talked to my father in over 2 years because of the way he abused me and my siblings our whole lives. Watching this and listening helped me know that it's okay to not forgive someone who has done you so wrong for years and years. Listening helped me know that I'm not the only one who struggles with a sh*tty a** father, thank you for making this video as you and your videos really help me out a lot, Lisa 💓

I’m Nigerian and I completely understand you. You are so strong for talking about this girl!!

Watching this from South Africa 🇿🇦🇿🇦❤

It is so weird to actually find someone who has the EXACT same daddy issues as u, like the way I have been pausing in shock of how similar my daddy issues and ur daddy issues are.. love this podcast so much xx

He is a book narcissist... even having "flying monkeys" watching you, wow. Protect yourself for real and don't give him attention at all. So proud of you for opening up Lisa 🥹🥹🥹

My father is also Nigerian and I feel and can relate to every single thing that you have said. I am 19 and I still can't open up to my dad about anything because I never felt that way ever in my life anyways. I have always been afraid of him and there are sooo many things that I want to tell him that have hurt me through the years. I haven't had the courage to do it yet because I feel like even if I did, nothing would change. I know he has sacrificed a lot for me but the way that does it and portrays it is what is wrong. Just like you, he wanted me to be a doctor, do this, be that... but in reality he just wants me to be what he couldn't be nad that made me realize that he doesn't know me at all and never tried to. You have no idea how many fights we have had and in all of them I was not able to tell him how I felt. The only person who I could talk to was my mom but she passed away when I was 12. That alone destroyed my life, because from that moment I wasn't me, I was going to be the "mom" of the house and take care of everything and everyone.

My dad is definitely a narcissist and it’s sad that he is still with my mom, torturing her and my younger brother, but I won’t change it for anything because it made me who I am today, and i now have this need to work so hard to take my younger brother and mom out of that situation, because I got out

Honestly, when I started watching the video I didn’t think I would relate because My dad and I have a great relationship. But there are some things you said and I was like « yeah I know how it feels » bc I believe that many african parents even though they come from different countries, have the same habits and mindsets that are complicated for us as European children disagree with. Whatever, thanks for sharing. You’re helping a lot of people ❤️

I felt what you said about your mom , Im a mommas girl and I love it. She’s always been strong and committed while my dad just went off and had other children it’s just crazy

so proud of u for opening up and being honest, it isn't easy being vulnerable 🤍

I definitely hear you and see where you’re coming from when you speak about having a kid on your own.

Omg the part where you shared how you are uncomfortable around men, I related to that so much. I’m currently 20 and I’m still uncomfortable to date and the idea of being viewed sexually attractive makes my skin crawl. I’m definitely a momma’s girl and I mean I still love my dad but I refused to put up with his baggage. Not having a good father figure has truly left an impact on my life but I’ve learned a lot and grown in ways that I’m proud of.

I relate to this a bit my Nigerian father has not been in my life for over 10 years. I turned 18 years old this month and i found out he has a new family. It was really sad. My whole life is not where it's meant to be because my mum has been doing everything on her own with no help. When I say I won't forgive my father people think i'm crazy lol. Call me crazy but I won't make friends with my half siblings, I don't even want to know them.

Thank you so much for sharing this. As someone who also had an absent father this hits so hard. It's so depressing when there's so little effort put into creating a bond. Glad that you and your siblings had such a strong system in your mom and your younger siblings mom. Proud of you for standing your ground, it was his responsibility to take care of you not yours to bond with him. Fuck him, proud of you! I think it's important to acknowledge that you're not healed from the situation, and that shows that you're growing! Forgiveness is not necessary for your healing journey, but if it is what you decide to go with then good luck <3

I feel you, my dad & I had a huge fight where he said something absolutely disgusting to me. Now I’m basically done with the relationship but feel so free, def not healed & wanna smack him but therapy/self work to do lol.

I relate to your situation with your dad so much. My father is a narcissist, gaslights me, and never takes accountability. He will literally hurt you then blame it on you. And just like you, I have my own opinions and I will not just agree with you coz you are "older" and that upsets him because he can't comprehend that I even dare to oppose him. I don't get along with him and get irritated every time I am around him. I am glad that you are independent and I hope I get my own independence soon. I've watched him treat my mom in the worst way, she'd come and vent to me about what he does to her. Imagine having to live with that as a child and they expect you to be okay and not have any mental issues???

I’ve just cut off my real dad today, my step dad is the only father I appreciate honestly😢