The Dark World of “Christian” Domestic Discipline (should husbands spank their wives?) 

These weird marriages where the men ritually spank the women for discipline are just kink. It’s BDSM kink, but the sub cannot consent. You can’t mock God, He knows exactly why you’re doing it and repackaging it as “holy.” Christ’s love and respect for women is undeniable.

As a Christian man happily married to his high-school sweetheart, I couldnt bear to listen to all of this. Nobody raises their voice to her, and nobody threatens her, and that includes me. How can a man vow to protect and provide security for his wife but still be the instrument of her fear? Be a strong, assertive, competent, masculine husband and your wife will respect you and you will love her. It makes no sense to have a wife fearful of you. My head is still spinning from what little i watched, so maybe im not making any sense, but my goodness, a man ought not need discipline his wife. She ought to gladly co-operate. edit: "a man ought not need discipline his wife" I'm sorry , ladies, wrong choice of words. But the subject matter really struck a nerve and my linguistics skills got overridden by my amygdala. Even the photo of her sitting there with him standing over her threateningly . ..dont do that. We get a bad reputation from every direction. We don't need Christian ladies adding to the stereotype.

Yikes 😳 abuse veiled as “Christian discipline” is still abuse… it’s disturbing that Gods holy word is used to condone this behaviour🥺 sounds VERY misogynistic

As a 65-yr-old woman, who endured a soul-crushingly-abusive marriage of 25 yrs bc I believed this was “God’s will”, I hugely applaud you for explaining this issue so well! Untold numbers of women suffer & endure abuse as they are told it is “love.” Love is a scary word bc it can be used to justify abuse. I now prefer the word “kindness”, because real love is always kind, always gentle. Your channel is appreciated, thanks!

Exactly blasphemy,how annoying it is for a man to act in wickedness and compare himself to God 😠

Omg thank you for tackling this topic! When i first started seeking more femininity and godly marriage content, i found so many creators on social media promoting this and i found it so surprising.

Thankyou so much for talking about this! I am a teenage girl and I am getting increasingly interested in Christianity/Traditional Femininity but these sorts of concepts definitely have exacerbated my anxiety around romance/sex and traditionalism/religious living. Misogynistic men who claim to follow biblical gender roles but then advocate for the objectification/abuse of women have made me much more apprehensive about being born female than anyone who is more progressive. The quote about the crying during the spanking quite frankly brought me to tears. Thank you so much for being both a traditionally feminine woman and also being someone who strongly criticizes this sort of thing because it seems conservative men all too often let this slide. God bless 💕

Notice how the guy uses softer language like "spanking" and "forced sex". Let's be real here. He's excusing beating your wife and raping her. It's amazing how some men genuinely don't view us as human that they seriously sit around and debate whether it is appropriate to beat and sexually torture us.

Wow that man is straight up evil :( makes me feel so ill that he genuinely believes and then SPREADS this disgusting information 🤢

I've been beaten by my parents for too many years and Christian or not I am not allowing my future husband to do it.

I never thought of BDSM as sinful until you explained it like that. Just because someone consents to pain doesn't give you authority to inflict pain. And the people who enjoy this sexual kink really ought to work out (maybe in therapy) what underlies their unholy desire to commit violent acts in the bedroom.

When porn fries your brain

It must be nerve-wracking sometimes, taking on controversial issues so boldly and honestly! I’ve appreciated hearing your thoughts throughout the past months, and I hope the negative aspects of internet discourse (misinterpretation, vitriol, hate, etc.) don’t ever dim your wholesomeness and your message.

I very much appreciate your biblical exposition of this issue. Every aspect of this man's ideology that you've addressed is a gross perversion of Christianity. I'm so excited about the exposition of Orthodoxy videos!

i’m so glad you explained the rod quote because it always bothered me that the bible endorsed child abuse but now i know that it’s not meant to be taken literally

If this isn't a kink on the part of the man it is a man treating his wife like a child instead of a partner! Crazy and weird!

Hit the nail on the head when you called that website satanic. Grew up in a house that used scripture as permission to abuse the children, which turned me off to all Judeo/Christian religions for a time, (which is probably the real intent behind that man's website). Your videos have been helpful in slowly healing that wound. I'm looking forward to your intro video on Eastern Orthodox, as it's been a bit of a mystery for me. ❤

If you are abusing each other YOU ARE NOT CHRISTIAN

Honestly I've been struggling with porn addiction for a decade. I'm ashamed to admit it. There was a time I was full into doing mental gymnastics to find a way to excuse BDSM as something good and positive. Something that should be allowed in marriage if both consent. Something that shouldn't be condemned by the bible and God. But it's a slippery slope that can suck you in and send you to the depths of hell and depravity before you even realize. I'm still not over the addiction, it's very hard, it's ingrained in my brain and I am paying the price everyday. But I believe that I'm doing progress lately. Because I reached out to God for help. And I learned how blind and sick I was and still am. I learned the BDSM is never really justified even if it's a kink.

It scares me that there are men out there who think like this. I worry and pray for his wife and any wives who are victims of this. I assume he has a wife, but I wouldn’t be surprised if he doesn’t.

Dear Jasmine, thank you so much for touching on this topic! I once came across this guy's blog (tbh another guy that I was talking to at that time recommended me to read it and apparently he was a fan, that's how I knew it's a red flag). This is so bizarre. This man is so far gone. He also promotes and encourages masturbation and lustful thoughts. No comments at all.

May the Lord free all the wives that undergo this treatment from their husbands. May he help them escape and find a save place. 🙏

Now this is ACTUAL misogyny. It's painful to see another man poorly attempt to hide his deep (very deep) depravites behind God's word. It's things like this that makes some women fear the concept of "submission". Can't even imaging seeing my sister or any other female being trapped in a marriage with this person.

The bending over the knee seems like a method to infantilise, to treat a woman as less than a full adult. This is not to say its then acceptable to do such things to children, but it does seem like a way to control a woman by mentally reducing her to a child.

Wow! That man is the perfect example of how those with ill intent can interpret the bible for nefarious purposes. Thank you for presenting your sane perspective on this concept.

Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and be not bitter against them.

Thank you for making this video. I came across this vile theology after stumbling upon a site called, Biblical Families, where the whole group actively promotes/lives polygamous lifestyles, using God's word. They teach that if a wife doesn't submit to her husband's desire for other women, that she is obedient and rebellious, and in danger of God's wrath. So many things I've seen on there have been so egregious and have really messed with my understanding of God. But seeing people like you warn about these horrible doctrines, gives me some hope. And yes, I've noticed that a very large portion of people in these fringe groups, are the type that have forsaken assembly - those who forsake the guidance, protection and instruction of the church, to go and pave their own way, thinking they are the church unto themselves.

Thank you so much for making this! When I saw the screenshots in your Stories I felt my skin shudder. I went and told my husband (as if he was going to go beat the guy up). I am so so happy you are addressing this and giving him his lashing! This is healing, honestly. What a blasphemous evil he is spreading. I also truly appreciate you clarifying what a 'rod' is in scripture as I have said this so many times to Christians who use the Bible as a means to support their spanking practices.

God was very specific when he called out "false prophets" in the Bible. This individual promoting this insanity, will get what he deserves eventually. Unless he truly repents and follows the word...

Someone has to report this man to the authorities. He is EVIL.

You are a part of my Christian journey, because of this informative content. It’s refreshing to see a young lady, like myself speaking so eloquently and presenting such grace and goodness. God bless you and your family ❤

I had no idea this was an actually thing. UTTERLY Sickening. Gross. Thank you for speaking out on it!!!

Yikes! this was some terribly warped thinking to hear about. Men can be leaders but should not be tyrannical. And you are absolutely right it's not sex, it's actually just fallen lusts.

So who holds the men accountable when they make mistakes? My comment was directed towards the Christian blogger guy who said that the husbands can discipline their wives. That's what I meant in case anyone didn't get it

Well said! Thank you for exposing the darkness that man is spewing. It is so tragic and terrible when people twist the Bible to falsely affirm their desire for power over another human being.

I cannot wait to see your Orthodoxy content! I am enquiring into Orthodoxy right now and would love to hear what you have to say.

Been waiting to listen to video since you briefly mentioned it last and I am eager watch it through but the juxtaposition of weight of the topic and lightness of the music is wild ahaha. I'm sure it will be good as always ❤

you are teaching me context I did not know, even though I was taught the values those verses really mean, I didn't know what it really meant lol. Thank you for the context.

Listening and so good! I loved mostly the rod mentioned for discipline child I thought it was really as that. I appreciate your content, love your videos💜

This was a great topic to address, thank you!

As a Christian for almost 30 years, I have NEVER heard of this. NEVER!!!!

This was beautifully explained lady ❤️

it’s so hard to even make in through this video, so disturbing to know there are people who think themselves to be holy, yet are flat out abusive to their wives for sexual and lustful purposes. it’s sick

So glad you are courageous enough to speak truth.

Lol @ "I'm gonna domestic discipline this remote". Great video again Jasmyne!

Thank you for this. Truly, wolves hide in a sheep's clothing, and this is a great example of it. I hope more people will see this, be enlightened, and have a desire to learn more about Christ.

Thank you for this video! I also very much appreciated the explanation about spanking children not being sanctioned in scripture. That seems to be an all too common misconception among Christians.

Man. Just when I think I have seen it all.

Not that my man would ever want to, but even if he did, he would never DARE lay a hand on me. He knows I’d fight back and I wouldn’t fight fair.

I can’t wait for your orthodoxy video!!! Hoping the week goes by fast haha

This is so gross. Lord have mercy on this sick soul. Part of me wishes I never heard about this, but I guess it is good that Christian's are addressing this. Better they hear about it from you first and not from proponents of it. Great work Jasmyne! I admire your courage in addressing these sorts of topics!

Really great video. I think most people in the CDD crowd seem genuine, but very misguided, and I pray for their repentance

I’m an Orthodox, (Serbian) and I can’t wait for the video 🤩 subscribed!❤

Already watched this on patreon, but I'm gonna leave a comment here for the algorithm ✌️

Definitely a triggering video for me, but I’m glad to hear this side of this topic.

Thank you for this video!❤

Lol the bloopers and yes we're appreciating them😂

I do appreciate the bloopers 😂

Great video! Was always nice to see more of your personality at the end 🙌🏾

Thank you for the video! ❤

Will you be doing a video in the future about how motherhood is going for you? I know you are still figuring it all out but I would love for you to talk about it

Very interesting video, salute from France!

These are the reasons why I am really getting drawn to the apostolic churches because it’s so tiring to constantly bicker about individual’s own explanations of the Bible in light of their own feelings or understanding. Specially for men and women when it comes to sexuality. And yes as a married woman I am sick and tired arguing with a Protestant husband who constantly hates and condemns all of the apostolic Churches calling them pagan also constantly interpreting Bible from his own fleshly desires … he says “ it’s another way to look at this verse “ I am just tired of arguing so I quit. He even was saying there can be orgies in heaven … it’s another way to look at the Bible.Lord have mercy on us. Another thing I wanted to add just because two people are married sometimes men think and usually it’s the men that think they can do whatever in the bed with their wives … like they want to bring their cornographic imagery in the bed and if the wife doesn’t want to act according to their imagery she is suddenly not doing her wifely duty to pleasure her man. It’s this weird expectation for her to be a good Godly wife kneeling down in front of Lord but then turns around and transforms in to this succubus in the bed..she has to be the most vile promiscuous one that brings alive the dark corn that these men daily consume.

This needs to be on a podcast and free. Everyone needs to hear this topic debunked. Men and women.

That this is even a question in anyone's mind is a huge feckin' problem.

I dont agree with all the points of your argument, but i do agree with the whole premise. The authority of a parent over a child is very different than the authority of a husband over a wife. Unfortunately today is very common to romanticize and embellish (christianly or secularly) bdsm practices. Movies, books... As godly people we should know and do better.

Thank you for this ❤

Hii Jasmyne!! I love your videos❤could you make one on why submissiveness isnt bad or being and doormat/ mindless slave? My family has a really bad idea of it and think it means to be a servant and have no opinions at all /say and they call me naive and crazy. So please could you make a video about its bad rep? Tysm❤❤

Hello, Jasmyne. I'm an old widower from Scandinavia. You are younger than my daughters and sons and I think your points of view about near everything are very thoughtful and in fact; I find your religion as in the Ortodox Church is interesting. I've been a Christian all/most of my life and am thankful for that. I'm a member of two churches and that's not a problem here. I miss my late wife a lot and haven't had the opportunity...and craving...to find a new wife - she perhaps is irreplaceable? In fact, she was not easy to live with and her family did and do have the same opinion. Excuse me now but she was turned on by the physical side of CDD and took initiativ several times and now I understand that I made her disappointed with me for not taking enough responsibility for her development in her role as a wife. She was the most brilliant mother you can imagine but as a wife, not so much. Isn't it remarkable that these secular books about spanking wives are written by...women? Even this "...50 shades..." story and numerous books on line too. I mean, there is oxygen and we can/want to breath, there is water and... I read the Bible every day and much because of my issues with my late wife I'm quite familiar with how the Jewish/Hebrew and the Christian views are when you read between the lines. Haven't you missed a couple of verses here and there! * In Genesis 3:16 (!) the husband's duty is to "rule" over the wife and the Hebrew word is associated with how a king would handle problems including physical punishment. * In Revelations (3?)God/Jesus is chasting the ones He loves... Of course the Bible can't be grafic here, there are enough of psychopaths out there who enjoy giving pain... Personally I, and not my wife either, did spank our children, if you can't communicate with them verbally you shouldn't multiply! But in the end(!), why do so many women find it appropriate - and attractive - to submit to her man, even for spanking? Quite a mystery if you don't accept the need for some kind of CDD, but not for all marriages? But in my case I think we should have done this "maintenance" version quit often and in hindsight I think my wife in a way missed it and perhaps lost trust in my competens as a caretaking husband. Too late, sadly. Friendly, Sigurd.

I feel his content is more directed towards a Jewish or Islamic lifestyle. This isn’t common in the Christian way I grew up in. Love your videos!!!

Thank you for another incredible video! Agree with all you said!

The same way we submit to Christ because He loves us enough to die for us, is the same way a wife will submit to a husband who loves her well. All this to say submission is a result of being loved well.

alot of people misinterpret the word and mislead many . its so sad. the best thing to do is to know God personally and seek him diligently , that is a sure way to stay on the right track and not be misled.

Sorry I'll be snarky for just a second : Why does this guy not just become Muslim rather than go through all this effort to lie about this. It has already been done for him some 1,400 years ago smh Do people actually believe what he says?! I thought the majority of people in this age are literate and could grab a Bible anytime... *sigh* Lord have mercy

The Bloopers. 😂❤

“Each are made in the image and likeness of God.” We must remember our roles in marriage, and in large part; helping to make each other holy.

Thank you for spending time thinking about this. This has been such a fascinating listen and really helped me see God's good design for sex ❤

I've heard that this Larry Solomon guy is actually a troll very elaborate on his trolling, but it's admittedly very hard to argue this with the way he talks about himself in his website.

Oh my goodness! I didn't even know this was a thing🥺🤢🤮. This man is horribly sick....

You should google Berean Patriot. This person says that polgyny and lesbians and threesomes arent forbidden according to bible...anyways... Thank you for your great content :)

I must have been living under a rock! I had no idea this was going on..in God's name no less. I knew abuse was a thing, but not on this level. WOW! Not right and totally twisted.

Is there a way to report this website? Gosh it should be banned

Great video dear.. Just a thought.... So who spanks the man when he s out of line? 🤔

The guy who wrote those articles should read about how a regimen of medication and therapy can be helpful to persons with disordered thinking.

I’ve come across this account before and had a very similar reaction.

The titles of the articles are awful. This is awful. This is not okay at all ever. Thank you for talking about this.

I googled “wife discipline” with something completely different in mind. I did not know this was a thing. Wow. People are messed up.

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Ultimately, this is yet another example of how the sinful world has infected the church for centuries and promoted male entitlement and declared that the Ephesian verses are about hierarchy with the man at the top. The truth is that 1) we go by Christ's command to love one another, 2) Ephesians discusses this and 3)Ephesians calls for a husband and wife to submit, give in, to one another, the wife to the husband, and the husband loves the wife as Christ loves the church. There is no hierarchy of who is the boss, but about how to love one another in their God-inspired feminine energy of love and surrender and the masculine energy of action and service. So yes, "Christian" domestic discipline is sinful and so not Biblical.

Well-done again Jasmyne. I agree with you in all respect save for the issue of spanking your child. I don't think that's inherently wrong as long as it's modestly done.

There is a difference between kink and abuse. This man clearly had a kink, and felt the need to justify it. That is disgusting.

I am vehemently against all hitting in the home but when it happens to a grown woman, with a fully developed brain, who consented to be there in the first place after potentially years (however long she wants) of testing the partner to weigh if suitable or not, can opt out anytime she wants, is not financially dependent on the perpetrator, legally dependent or dependent in any other way. If she gets hit once on one occasion with a hand, we call it "dark" "violent" "unacceptable" but if it happens to that exact same woman when a defenceless, tiny little girl who is financially, legally and emotionally dependent on the perpetrator, with a developing brain, didn't even agree to be there in the first place, is a novice/beginner at life, isn't free to leave at all and has a whole society saying she not only can be hit but should be hit, it can be done on numerous occasions over years even with instruments/weapons and with forced stripping, it's not seen as being as "dark" as the above scenario against her when she's bigger/less helpless?

I thought those sites were satire.....God help us all. Imagine how many women are experiencing this terrible abuse because of heretics like this.

This video is good but I think you should be very specific on the things these wives get spanked for. I saw where one wife was severely beaten for sitting next to her mother-in-law in a restaurant because her husband thought she should sit next to him. Another was beaten for bringing dinner to the table too slowly. Another was beaten several times for attending a church meeting slightly late (she was at work) talking animatedly and forgetting some snacks for her church group. One wife revealed her husband shaved her head (and beat her, of course) because her hair got in the way when he tried to have oral sex. Another was beaten because she drank a beer in the frig, (the last one) but there were more in the garage, etc. One wife (and her daughter) had to stand in full display in the living room naked after having received their spankings. This was while the woman's son brought his fiancee over for dinner for the first time. It seems these husbands who are borderline or outright abusive use DD as an excuse to abuse their wives. The wives take it because they signed a form agreeing to this discipline. Once they enter into this agreement, they cannot argue with their husbands or they will receive MORE discipline.

I have been wondering lately if there is DV in a marriage, does the Orthodox church permit divorce?

What a disgusting perversion of God’s holy word

Great video! I was just watching an old “I Love Lucy” episode with my daughter where Ricky violently spanks his wife Lucy after she causes trouble. Granted it was supposed to be funny but it just shows that even in the 1950s this was still considered somewhat acceptable in marriage 😳😬. I still love that show though 😄

The marriage bed is undefiled. There shouldn’t be any shame with ANYTHING within the MARRIAGE BED with the husband and wife regardless of the activity between them

Im a Muslim in Arabia where patriarchy is live and well, we are infamous for being rude and crud but man haha we don’t do what that man says. If I hurt my future wife her family will punch me to death 💀. We are commanded in Quran to hold gently or let go gracefully “divorce”.

Do some on red flags before getting married from an Eastern Orthodox perspective