(01:40) - Keke Palmer wylin at the Usher Concert (21:20) - It takes unbecoming to progress as a person (31:40) - Men need to be a bit more selectively selfish (43:41) - The one who trusts the least wants to control the most (52:19) - Men gotta take care of their business FIRST and the women will follow (01:07:18) - Why successful women struggle to date men (01:28:30) - Is it wrong to not follow your spouse on social media? (01:30:34) - It’s a lot of women with kids shooting their shot at me (01:42:18) - I cheated on my girl and I’m not sure if I should tell her
I'm "old" school! I would NEVER put my man OR husband in a position that would disrespect him OR embarrass him!!! GROWN WOMEN get this!!! This younger generation is just clueless to relationship etiquette!!!!
That’s just the way carriage before the horse relationships work. A constant game of oneupmanship. They’ll be back together like nothing ever happened soon and cycle will continue
I guess one can only speak from what they have experienced. I can’t speak from an area of something I have never experienced but, only, that which I have experienced with the openness of learning from others experiences. This show serves as a great example of that. I can never tell someone coming from an abusive relationship that they were abused because of something they have done. Whenever, a life is in danger, husband or wife, seeking to protect yourselves takes precedence over avoiding him or her the embarrassment. Not the time to protect him or her but, yourselves. Discerning situations and moving correctly saves lives. Thanks for sharing. God bless you.❤️✌🏾 Great message
"The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively." - Bob Marley
I’m a successful black woman and it took almost 15 yrs for the right man to find me… it’s hard out here and women are losing Faith in black men for that reason. I had someone tell me “ if you were willing to date outside of your race, you wouldn’t be a baby momma, you would be a wife” I’d rather wait and I did wait… I just knew my time would come ❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾
This was a must send to send to my man because of how much y’all spoke about the guys taking care of themselves just as much as they take care of their families. It’s so so important 🫶🏾🤞🏾
Ok fellas, cut the women some slack. Some women come from a background of having to step up and take care of everything and everyone. They may not know how to allow you to be there for her until you show her. Help her take down the defense mechanism. Bragging about what one brings to the table is another thing. I guess discerning and paying attention is key. Great message and very funny. Love the show. Thank y’all for being so real and pleasant. God bless you❤️
Nobody cares. Lol A lot of men don’t come from supportive backgrounds but women aren’t lining up to fuck them or date them. Women are hypocritical, dumb, children that think men should care about their problems but couldn’t care less about the origins of a man’s inadequacies.
"Letting superficial things draw you to people that you shouldn't be nowhere near" 💯% true story of my life since college 🤦♀️ Love the part about trust and it being a problem with you. So absolutely true I had that problem really grew a lot in the last few years as far as my standards, non negotiables etc
This podcast is so healing to me. I’m 26 and maneuvering relationships and it’s so nice to hear men discuss these issues with emotional intelligence. Y’all make me laugh but even more than that yall make me THINK. Thank you all for your perspectives and insight ❤️
Didnt nobody talk all this trash when Destiny's child serenaded 3 married men. Terrence Howard, Magic Johnson & I forgot the other. Cookie& them were NOT on the internet doing all this.. She was NOT letting USHER grind her down, I mean damn😂😂😂😂
I think Smuv taking it as the guy's friends just encouraging him to break up so that he is single. No, they said break up so you don't hurt her bro. They his friends, so they probably know him well. Dude already hinted that he's not ready. So what is he gonna do when he cheats again in another 6, 7. 8 months later?? Exactly. It's better to leave her if he's not ready bro. FR
As far as the last question. I was gonna agree with the parents. I didn't get why his friends said that...but as he read more, I now get why his friends said that...cause they know him. Dude said he met the right woman at the wrong time. So yeah, you're young dude. You Know you shouldn't be in a relationship...so why even get into 1. Cmon now. SMH! So I say let her go....to further prevent you from hurting her if you're not ready. If you are Fully Ready for a Relationship, then stay with her. But if you know deep down that you're not...which is what it sounds like...then yeah, I agree with your friends that you need to end it with her. Live ya life. Hopefully yall connect later on in life when you're both ready & good. It is what it is.
Keke situation: I agree that he shouldn't have hit send BUT ... her behavior and them cheeks were public, so he made his feelings about it public. Prayers to all parties.
I blame all parties in the Keke situation I also have a theory that because what she has been known for plays into this. She been a child star for so long some people still don’t even accept that she a grown woman. Her dude wrong for bringing a problem in they relationship to the internet, should’ve addressed it when she came home. She wrong for initiating the serenade. She threw them arms around Usher so fast 😂 Usher wrong for damn near fantasizing about smashing her at the moment and he damn near watched her grow up. Her dude don’t know how to handle being with a baddie and Keke don’t know how to be a baddie. The attention will be kind of new to her. I guarantee more attention from men will come from this
@@SimonKnight1023our identify is highly judged by how we look. It’s the same thing as all the bbl girls taking pics from the back and all swimsuits from surgery on forward. You now look and feel what society as a whole deems beautiful and desirable🤷🏾♀️
😂 Now, we all know KeKe been loud and "fast" since puberty hit! The kicker is: The dress is the only reason for the conversation! My apologies to men bc we women have finessed y'all into thinking y'all can't feel no typa way about what we do. We've LGBTGIA'd y'all 🤣😏
My ex wanted to be up under my ass and was mad I made time with my friends and for myself. It fueled his jealousy and insecurities to the point he was sneaking in my phone while I was asleep and tried to control me.
That isn’t a analogous argument, one is talking about being a parent to the child you created another is how you act and carry yourself. Not discrediting just saying it isn’t comparable.
@angiew7057 it's still personal business and Women are alot more ok with having text messages and screenshots to talk about their mate..which is nobody's business...
1. Usher does this with a celebrity every show. It's an act. 2. The dress is by a designer so she was showcasing the dress because she promotes his stuff. 3. Kiki and old boy were broken up at the time, which is why he is salty. He was hoping to get her back and she was on her girls trip having fun. 4. Kiki is an actress and she was acting the whole time, she and Usher are friends, she doesn't want him. That video of her in the audience was pure disney acting. 5. Old boy is a baby daddy, not her husband.
He knew who she was BEFORE they had a baby, but they had one anyway…BUT, if he felt that he was having some concerns about anything that was a conversation to have BEFORE this trip even came up…BEFORE having a baby…that’s what dating is for..collecting “data” and having the “what if” conversations…LEARN some of who a person is…While I don’t agree with the way he handled it, I am not in love with KeKe’s choice of dress either, but him calling her out wasn’t going to magically cover her up and the usher effect didn’t help….he further positioned himself in his feelings acting as if he’s bitten off more than he could chew and he was trying to reel her in…He never really appeared or presented with the “presence” of a man when I’ve seen him and his response confirmed that for me…the way this all played out it appeared as if they were already having some sort of issues between them and this situation was doing too much and pushed it off the ledge…
Re Kiki situation: there are no levels to loyalty and respect for your partner. I don’t care if its Usher or Chris Brown, I would never disrespect my partner like this. Even though I disagree with her baby father publicly commenting on it, I understand how he must’ve felt. If someone gives you a reason to be insecure which she clearly did, you’ll feel some type of way. No ring is another story, but that might be the reason why she’s not getting the ring? Either way I don’t think people are taking relationships seriously nowadays. I’ve seen women on Shaderoom IG page commenting on ‘who’s paying the bills sir’ etc who gives a damn?! That’s why so many women are single and so many ken are damaged! We live in a messed up society, that’s all I’m saying.
@@soundsaboutright--- in my honest opinion it doesn’t matter. That’s part of being in a relationship. Our opinions on who was right and wrong doesn’t matter. In their situation her boyfriend was uncomfortable with it and her job is to validate his emotions in that. He went about it all wrong but nonetheless, there are some men who wouldn’t care because like you said they’re entertainers. At the end of the day nobody’s opinion is right or wrong.
@BlickyWhite I'm pointing out hypocrisy. Also, her bf wasn't worrying about disrespecting her when posting videos of her tweaking. That being said he chose wrong, so that's on him.
@@soundsaboutright--- lol now he chose wrong and she has to be a terrible woman because of a situation? We can be adults and communicate to correct behaviors and things we don’t like without labeling it as “picking wrong” my guy.
I honestly believe Keke palmer is going through something emotionally & mentally . U know how celebrities and not only just people in general like to put on the best outward especiallyafter pregnancy. I guarantee months from now she gone be on the biggest talk show, explaining how she's going through it. To me she just giving off "Facade" vibes . No discredit to her, but that's just the energy I'm getting
😂😂…,smh … I don’t believe she’s going through anything… babies can bring out the best in us!!! A woman that has a baby will Never be the same woman again!!!! I’m so happy she was able to be out and have a dynamic time and with Usher… that’s beats all!!! Get it Keke!!!
Smuv and most people treat God like a genie whose only purpose is to grant wishes. If I cant get nothing from Him then I dont need Him…funny thing is thats what the lady was talking about.
Like I said before does it have to be YOUR GOD...ppl on this planet pray and believe in many different Gods...I just can't believe in a God that the very ppl that inslaved black ppl GAVE us...because without white ppl none of us wouldn't know what Christianity is FACTS...if u think I'm lying Sunday go to an all white church and sit in the front and see if u feel God in there...ppl quick to throw stones but don't understand who gave them the stone to throw at their own ppl... The only true religion on this planet are on the Pyramids where we find (from what we know) the first ppl to walk this planet...and they didn't pray to a GOD...they prayed to the Sun, Moon, and Women for creating more life...it's deeper than that but I'll let u breath
@@dsmoove008 you couldn’t be more dead wrong. Christianity dates back to the eastern part of Africa before colonizers used it against our ancestors. The white man doesn’t own religion nor Christianity. You have to do the research before making such statements SMUV. Moreover, the colonizers were not Christians at all… they were so called Christians and there is a huge difference.
The most wrong thing that was said was ‘you have to put in work to get respect from women’, that a problem in the black community. A man has to be Superman to get colon respect that ain’t it. Respect is a common courtesy she didn’t have to put in ANY WORK for me to treat her like a lady. I shouldn’t have to put in any work to be respected as a man. That’s a cultural thing that has our women losing disrespect is earned not respect respect is the default
Common respect is just given, that deep respect & trust that yields submission does require work period. Men give common respect to women. Women put in work as well in order for a man to give that real love & respect that yields their loyalty. Men don't just love their wife, just because, she inspires something in him and brings peace to his life and more. There are reasons why men go through many relationships and many women before being true to one woman.
Keke has no respect for that man so the problem wasn't gonna be solved public or private...he definitely shouldn't have made the tweet but now she gotta while diss track talking bout slim...lesson is no matter what they say WOMEN DON'T RESPECT MEN THAT AREN'T THE BREADWINNER!!! Don't be no damn house husband!!!
That 2nd video...yeah too much but still she didn't commit any sexual act...to me that's like how guys look at other women whether their woman is by his side or not. Guys: but baby I was just looking. Women: it's the way you were looking... To me this situation is something like that 🤷🏽♀️
The outfit argument, I can kinda understand...the dancing with Usher is just the two of them being performative - it's not that deep guys chill lol...wa she supposed to do? Push him away publicly while he's performing? Cmon guys
Yea do exactly that like Winnie Harlow did when usher tried to serenade her and what Saweetie also did. It’s called having respect for your man. I know that’s a foreign concept for a lot of women today tho🤷🏿♂️
I love want she said and how she related it to God. Great discussion! 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉❤❤ I believe that what she said was misunderstood when applying it to God. She is speaking on someone WHO is FOR you, not when you chosing what you picked which you KNEW wasn't it. I wish Smooth would not get so defensive when someone present God. Got to check that. But mostly all men stop being so defensive and upset.
I think she could have just did the "auntie at the spades game two step" while holding his hand instead of the arms around the neck lol but aside from that I don't think she was wrong. Not to mention I believe her kids father was in Vegas with her so he knew how she left out he could have handled it at the crib.
Keke Palmer was cutting up lol she aint even have her glasses on purely feeling herself. And i know she has an issue with trey songz but yall then seen his concerts. Usher was a total gentleman. Her baby daddy need to put up or shut up & that might be why she out there clowning like that.
01:30:35: He shouldn't settle for a baby mama. Plenty of us child-free women around and he can concentrate on what he wants. If he knows he's not ready for all a baby mama brings (plus, potentially meeting the bd) I suggest he not voluntarily sign up for that. Who needs that kind of stress in their young life🤔? They see him as fresh meat in a zoo. No wonder their eyes are all on him! 01:43:00: You don't *deserve* her. You lack self-control, discipline, and cannot trust yourself to do what's right. You need to be honest with her and yourself. Stop cheating on good people! You're young and dumb. She's going to find out sooner or later and when it happens *it's on you.* Hypothetically, if I ever got cheated on of course I'd want to know. Then I'd break up a.s.a.p. I don't play those games.
I get the feeling that the 21 years old guy is not cut out for cheating. Let the memory be your restraint and punishment but don't tell her. Live with it.
If y’all do that show with the women who tend to be the breadwinner,Shoooo let me know! I can be one of those women,who tell you what a struggle it is. Also to me a woman who bashes a man with her money or wealth lacks respect for that man and that is a no no! Like what you got him for, if you feel he ain’t on your level!
A woman paying for her own trip w/ friends is a problem because the man can't control that. In the same breath, it's also a problem if she asks you for help? 😒🤔
