The Load We Carry

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In this episode I discuss the issue of individuals burdening others with their unresolved issues and traumas in relationships. I emphasize the importance of recognizing that it is not fair to expect someone else to heal us or make us whole. I hope to encourage listeners to take responsibility for their own healing, to work on themselves, and to strive to be the best version of themselves before entering into a relationship. One must understand the significance of self-love and self-awareness in order to show up as a better partner. The message is: We should not rely on others to complete us, but rather, focus on our own growth and well-being before seeking connection with someone else.
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[00:02:22] "Broken pieces on floor, impossible to fix."
[00:03:30] Connection requires self-awareness and healing.
[00:08:32] "Work on yourself before expecting love"
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@jlemaire22 10 месяцев назад

I am a 47 year old black man. Let me tell you that your videos are not only bringing me peace but also your instructions are very helpful. I truly believe you have brothers watching you in silence and reverence but are taking notes. Thank you for being you.

@lashanarobinson6817 Месяц назад

Bless you for being that man ❤

@Mg-ub3dk Год назад

“You should want to be the best version of yourself’ .it’s your duty, it’s your responsibility. Thanks for sharing

@intentionalparenting2605 8 месяцев назад

Sometimes its the people we allowed to hurt us we want to heal us! I learnt this about myself. It doesn’t work. Then, you grow resentment. Just walk away! Heal yourself. And rejoiced in the new you❤

@triciachibanda9023 6 месяцев назад

Absolutely. Thank you.🎉

@lyetapayet5916 Год назад

The weight of another i chose to help carry when i wasn't aware of my own. It flattened me to the ground and i only had the strength to crawl out from underneath and run away. I really appreciated hearing this today. 🙏🏽 Thank you. 💖

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

You are so welcome

@ieshagibson5950 11 месяцев назад

I needed to hear this, I am at point in my life where I know I am shattered and unhealed but I keep reaching out for a love outside of myself. Which causes the cycle of failed relationships which reaffirms my negative thoughts and feelings, I have for myself. I don't know where to start, I don't know how to fix me. But I do know that I am here at this point, in this moment.

@rakelpeneyambeko 11 месяцев назад

You are not alone.

@1pearls.of.wisdom 5 месяцев назад

Start writing a diary. Write down everything you feel and think about yourself and why? How did those feelings a thoughts come to be? Whose voice do you hear when you have those thoughts and feelings? Is what’s being said true? Why are they true? If they’re not true, what are you going to do to change the narrative? What statement is your inner child telling you she is in? You now need to consciously start to nurture her, listen to what she needs, and provide those things for her. Every second, minute, hour, day, week, purposely, consciously do those things that bring healing, grace, compassion, love, time etc to build up your inner child, peace, strength, this may mean you isolate yourself for a little while, so that you only hear the voice of creator, and your own voice speaking to you. Read helpful book that help you study yourself, make yourself the project, for a while it’s not about what anyone else wants or needs or demands from you, it’s all about you, and building you up, making and having clear boundaries. And please know, you are not being selfish, you are entitled to take time out to discover, renew, build, and heal yourself. I hope this has helped a bit, it’s the journey i took, and then some 😁🙏🏾🩷🌹

@DistinctDiamond1 9 месяцев назад

Lisa, your words are always so profound and I just want to express my deepest gratitude. Thank you for being that gallon to so many pints. Peace, love, light, and abundance.

@invitesbydani 10 месяцев назад

I've worked very, very, very hard over 8 years... it took TIME... to get to a "secure" attachment. I really enjoy this channel because it really embraces being secure and healthy and whole. I never burden those I love with my past pain. I deal with it myself and come to them as a complete person.

@shennelllambie7052 4 месяца назад

So true...its not fair to them to carry it. I try to find self-healing because I don't wanna burden them & pray about my issues to God

@stephaniemillsaps3626 8 месяцев назад

LOVE 🙏🙏🙏

@ifeomacamilla3193 4 месяца назад

Before watching this particular video, I had gotten into a relationship because I genuinely wanted to love this man and love me more but while journaling and introspecting on me, I figured there was an important mountain I had not yet climbed and it was necessary for me to do the work. I spoke to my partner about them and I could feel the weight of fear, on him. The feeling of "this is so bigger than me" on him and I knew I didn't want to bleed on him. I decided to take a break (break-up), although it was a hard decision but I had received a lot more clarity that I should put in the required work to become better. Now, I saw this video and I'm grateful for it. Thank you, Lisa ❤

@sabrinanelson4088 Год назад

Lisa, this message is “Everything” your brilliance and emotional intelligence is off the charts! You touched on so many important and deeply profound things in your message - you’re a blessing to the world!🙌🏾♥️♥️♥️🤩🙏🏾 I agree with everything you’ve conveyed we are responsible for our own healing, happiness, growth and emotional development.😊

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Awwww thank you so much!!! You’re really the sweetest ever!

@ednaevans2025 7 месяцев назад

Yes, which Leads to Emotional Intelligence

@OG_Genesis216 Год назад

"No one is perfect, but you should want to be the best version of yourself. Starting with Self Awareness. " You know Lisa, this is where I am right now. I've been doing a lot of work on the inner me, really realizing what self love looks like for myself and it is beautiful! It's beautiful finding these things out about myself that I didn't know but will allow me to have better relationships, not just romantically but socially. Everything you said is spot on and I'm happy to find this confirmation that I'm on the right path. Thank you for this 🙏🏽✨

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Keep going ✨✨❤️❤️

@tizone8477 Год назад

Once again, though no surprise … you have endeavored to impart such a sage meditation that is so penetrating. The thing about your messages is that they permeate the soul, they tap, ever so gently, into aspects of one’s being … of my being. Thank you Lisa! I lost my wife last year and I miss that connectedness with that one special person. I understand that I am still going through the process of grieving the loss of my wife of 36 years, but I’m trying to find the balance between that and getting to the point of connecting with someone else, someone new. I know that that time is not right now and yet I long for it, because I;m not used to being alone. Today is our wedding anniversary! 😪

@theevolvingmindset333 Год назад

🙏🏽🙏🏽

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Oh my goodness!!! I’m so very sorry for your loss! Take your time! You’ll know when it’s time… since I can’t hug you, I will send you this 🫂🫂

@tizone8477 Год назад

@@SeasonedDialogue Thank you Lisa. 😑

@nicolataylor536 11 месяцев назад

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

@tizone8477 11 месяцев назад

Thank you!@@nicolataylor536

@marshakinsale9574 11 месяцев назад

Broken me relating to the words spoken here. Self forgiveness was a big step for me. Self love is another

@charmedprince Год назад

Someone (a person you idealize as a partner) more grounded than you could serve as your inspiration. Observe them and instill in yourself what positive attributes you see in them. Then you can meet in between. So always always be tactful when trying to connect with somebody, if they are healed more than you, so you won't have to sever any ties of your connection. Rare gems are always hard to find. Stay changing, y'all's.❤

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

✨✨✨✨

@francinalazarus9909 Год назад

I appreciate your videos ❤. I have come to learn that self love is vital. I have been struggling with low self-esteem my whole life and my relationships suffered the consequences. Now in this journey of self-love i have lost relationships and its okay. I promised to focus on my healing first even is it has to cost me relationships. This is one of the safest space❤

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Yes indeed

@Leeas- Год назад

Hi, Lisa Marie. I noticed this about myself a long time ago when I attempted to get in a relationship. I realized that I wasn’t ready for one because I didn’t put in the work to develop the person I desired from others. This was a great reminder and also gave me some knowledge on how to do this.

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

It’s ok!!! We are all growing and learning

@kathudson21 3 месяца назад

Love and light. Well done!

@feliciamcconnell7335 Год назад

Ashe! “…showing up as the best healed version” (paraphrased) is key💚 Thank you Lisa🌸 Oftentimes I’ve thought of entering a relationship whilst in the midst of healing and kinda sort of expecting someone to understand…and hoping they do. I do believe it can be done and it has in a previous relationship that ended abruptly because of the challenges of navigating those healing dynamics😔 we weren’t ready! I discovered two individuals have to be really truly honest and transparent about where they both are…as we are all in a path to evolution even if it’s unconscious. Peace Sis🩷 Stay Blessed we appreciate the vibes🖤

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Thank you so much for sharing!!!!!!!

@lvme718 6 месяцев назад

I am so so grateful to have found your videos. They are speaking life in me thank you.❤

@ashleeharding3289 Месяц назад

This was beautiful and has blessed me so. I enjoyed every word of this. Continue to let God use you to bless others during their season of healing. We all need it. Thank you! I am a a subscriber. 😊🙏

@1MekaArt Год назад

Your words really resonate with me at the point in my life where I am at. Thank you for your encouragement.🙏🏾♥️

@Humble1981 Год назад

Me too ❤

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

You’re so welcome

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

✨❤️❤️

@BrieLani 8 месяцев назад

Lisa , your soothing voice gives me so much peace as I encounter this personal development journey , thank you for your wise words ✨

@WritingonthewallRead 11 месяцев назад

You are definitely connected to the ancestors, God's and Goddesses. Asé. Blessings on your path.

@916_Onyx Год назад

Yes Ma’am…that was deep and very necessary. I know the retrograde has been retrograding! and I have been all over the place in my mind, so thank you Sis. Peace Love & Light. Cyber Hug. ✨Respect✨

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

All hugs ✨✨✨🫂🫂🫂

@esthersbeautysecrets4541 10 месяцев назад

That was so eliqently sad. I thank God that I found your channel during this season of my life. I pledge to work on me to be the best version of me. God bless you.

@QueenKW1984 9 месяцев назад

Lisa Marie has done it again 🤦🏾‍♀️🥰.I have never been checked so gracefully (In a much needed way). I need to re-evaluate myself (not saying I’m perfect) but I’m going to take a long look in the mirror and write out how I can improve for me. Man this video made my day❤!!

@brittanyfigaro Год назад

This spoke to my heart! Thank you

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

So welcome

@shennelllambie7052 4 месяца назад

God bless you Lisa❤❤❤

@bre.._ 8 месяцев назад

Heal

@DMKC Год назад

Dear God, Thank you for using my sister Lisa Marie for such a touching message in reminding me that I and many people on this world are just growing through life. May we continue to be in remembrance that as master-peaces we are a working process and progress in showing up as the best way we can. We may fall into bad habits, mistakes, thoughts, but we recognize them by reclaiming our authority in knowing who we are and keep moving forward. Thank you. Asé and amen 🙏🏾✨🤎

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Such a beautiful prayer! Thank you so much ✨❤️

@DMKC 11 месяцев назад

@@SeasonedDialogue you’re so welcome!

@arnettsmith563 10 месяцев назад

lisa marie, you always have good messages and comments, keep it coming. luv ya

@AlignedLibra 10 месяцев назад

Such a beautiful message.

@calmpills-intentionaleffor7042 6 месяцев назад

Oh so beautiful, and I agree 💯. I am on that path of healing, sometimes it feels scary and I just want to crawl back into my shell because I feel safe there. I understand though the need for self-knowledge, and doing the work pays big dividends. Thank you, thank you, you are a beautiful soul.

@sunshineblu 2 месяца назад

Thank you

@Flatoutfabuloushairandlashes Год назад

You can lie to everyone else but you can’t lie to yourself 😊. Words I live by

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Indeed!!!

@4onelove2 11 месяцев назад

This reasonates in the world and realm I am currently in thank you for the affirmation and reminder of the healing and care for self

@badhabit714 9 месяцев назад

Thank you.

@zenanirae 10 месяцев назад

You are for sure my favorite person

@cushhouse422 10 месяцев назад

Wow so true family ❤❤❤❤

@preciousjohn1588 11 месяцев назад

I needed this

@SensualCee444 Год назад

I definitely needed to hear this message 💙 Much Love to you Sis

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

You are so welcome and thank you

@keithbailey4089 8 месяцев назад

❤ Amen

@tokyo9766 10 месяцев назад

I don't know if anyone told you this but your voice is very soothing

@theevolvingmindset333 Год назад

Thank you for this message, Sis. I'm still learning this. God knows I want a few folks to join me on my healing journey but I also know that they have to get to that season in their lives and that is not my load to carry, I have to continue on my path of healing for ME. I appreciate you! Sending you peace, love & light ✨💛✨

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Thank you so much ✨❤️✨❤️

@michellesimpson4093 10 месяцев назад

Thanks so much for caring for you for us and sharing these much needed gems you are the gift 🎁that keeps on giving! The daughter in whom God is well pleased 🙏❤

@biancahankerson5142 Год назад

Thanks for your wisdom

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

So very welcome ❤️

@Zakiyah5756 11 месяцев назад

The Truth is hard to swallow but oh so necessary for me to heal. Thank you🙏🏿

@Ayden5606 11 месяцев назад

Thank you Jesus, for this message. Confirmation on top in Confirmation. Love this❤

@SeasonedDialogue 11 месяцев назад

Hey Tishhhhhhh!!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@Ayden5606 11 месяцев назад

@@SeasonedDialogue Hey💕

@tiffbaby222 11 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for this I just gotta stay still and trust this process 🙏🏾✨

@JahsunKindredSound 7 месяцев назад

Truthfulness humbleness LUV ❤ALONE ❤RaSTAFORI

@flawlessmogul9719 6 месяцев назад

I was the 2,000th like❤️ watched all your videos.

@sincerelysandi Год назад

Off topic but we need a tour of those beautiful plants ☀️💫

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

I sure will

@sincerelysandi 11 месяцев назад

@@SeasonedDialogueawww , thank you lovely❤

@michellesimpson4093 10 месяцев назад

Can you please have a healing retreat for sisters...?❤

@Water_is_Sacred777 Год назад

Amen sis. You have said it all so beautifully. Every word! ❤

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Thank you

@Deletedforgood1 11 месяцев назад

What A Word.. right in Season. Thank youuuu 🙌🏽🙏🏽

@racquelrobinson3030 Год назад

Aunty just know when to come through! God and aunty just aligned to the T! I was struggling this so badly and just feeling overwhelmed. The reminder is lovely and much needed.

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Goodness!!!! I appreciate it… and keep going ✨❤️

@fran.obicoco Год назад

Thank you Sis, Gods perfect timing. How much I needed this. Thank you thank you thank you. Sending so much love, we are truly blessed with your words of wisdom.❤️🙏🏽✨️

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Thank you so much ✨❤️

@kookiemilkofficial1730 11 месяцев назад

I just love you and the way you shine your light it's a blessing❤🙌🙏🏽

@lagoldie9783 6 месяцев назад

A person that thinks they're superior to you can love you!

@KarresseMe 11 месяцев назад

Whew, this is me. But I'm working on it and taking accountability. Thank you for sharing

@sabdullah8076 7 месяцев назад

I am so ashamed of myself. I didnt realize I was a particular kind of triggered by something that an ex did, and when presented with the behavior, nor the intention, but the behavior... I immediately got in my bag.. Now I'm worried I've blocked a blessing and it's giving me such anxiety that now I don't think I should even bother allowing the possibility of love.

@Daughter.of.Yahweh. 11 месяцев назад

Can you talk about being in your isolation season. I know everyone says it’s a time to embrace. Transitioning old friends, no love interests. But It’s truly a lonely time.

@Ayizeandwele8672 11 месяцев назад

You are so MAGNIFICENT AND MAGICAL! ❤❤❤

@spiritualbaepodcast 11 месяцев назад

Always on point!

@maxicathnry Год назад

I’ve had to pause your message a minute in, but no doubt will continue to play to the end .. I just had to say what your saying mostly thus far into this vlog only comes with wisdom or age or experience and from those that are willing to look within and willing to see self flaws no matter how painful understanding does not come easy especially in this world we are looking in to/ from… just because we/I feel how I think act feel talk is the right way doesn’t mean it’s the only way, acceptance is our key 🔐 to unlock the emotions we entwine our selves up in which serves no purpose ❤

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Absolutely!!!

@selestineshiro3918 Год назад

Hey gal, thanks for sharing these words of wisdom. They are life-changing. May God continue to Use you Mightily

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Thank you so much ✨❤️

@EmpoweredLioness4Yah 11 месяцев назад

Beautiful video 🙏🏾

@Nubian19702 11 месяцев назад

❤❤

@hellonatashatherejohnson2320 11 месяцев назад

Thanks 🙏🏽

@Emprezzlizzy23 Год назад

Ase’ This was so much needed 🙏🏽 Blessings 💕

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Blessings ✨❤️

@MichelleCarithersAuthor Год назад

powerful sister!

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Thank you!!!

@MARCUSX777 Год назад

Profound🖤

@TyroneMarcell Год назад

So when is the book dropping?

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Soon and very soon ✨❤️

@gilliegilbert3353 Год назад

Thank you 😊 💓

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

You're welcome 😊

@QueenSha71 Год назад

Queen / King wisdom, sending love & thanks🤍✌🏾

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

✨❤️

@dennisdorsey111 7 месяцев назад

This Student is ready.Thank God for you.I have been hit all under my foots.I still have a long row to hoe Bless God I will keep trying to get where...there if God be my Helper.Thanks again. Bless her God and Thank You.Amen.

@NaturallyBethany Год назад

Loved it

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

✨❤️

@Fabtruluv7915 Год назад

Just perfect

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

✨❤️

@Alicia-x4k 8 месяцев назад

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@aforeigntongue 10 месяцев назад

Thank you for this beautiful video, Lisa! May I ask where you got the loop-like ring from? I think I have the exact same one by a Turkish designer :)

@stickyscriptures 7 месяцев назад

✝️🛐☮️💟

@stickyscriptures 7 месяцев назад

Trauma Bonds

@VirtuouslyWright Год назад

❤

@ritaworley221 Год назад

Ase’ 🙏🏾✨

@Love87837 10 месяцев назад

Your earrings are so beautiful

@SkyS-qf1mm 11 месяцев назад

Hey! Where do you get your background music from?

@sandyhall6960 11 месяцев назад

You are like a voice to my soul. Today I am in so much pain. The person I thought was my twin flame told me the feelings are not mutual. I know that I know that my soul connects to his. I also found out that he's having a baby. The pain is unbearable. Please explain this to me. How is this possible? Our journey together checks all the boxes 😢💔

@gratitude1181 11 месяцев назад

🖤💚💚💚🖤🖤🖤🖤❤️❤️❤️❤️🖤🖤🖤🖤💚💚💚💚🖤🖤🖤🖤❤️❤️❤️🖤

@OutofMymind-sj5sj Год назад

you alwayzz' know what to say...{K.W.U.}...✨🧘✨

@OutofMymind-sj5sj Год назад

⏳3:37~3:51⌛...💯×💯×💯...✨☯️✨

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

✨✨❤️❤️

@LynnaHenry-wf2sw 3 месяца назад

How do I heal myself

@dannie-cp5oi 11 месяцев назад

PLEASE FORGIVE ME SHARON,TWO BROKEN PEOPLE ARE NOT A MATCH,YOU TAUGHT ME THAT I AM A SCARED LITTLE BABY THAT HAD TO BE BRAVE AND ACT LIKE EVERYTHING WAS ALRIGHT,ITS STILL NOT,IF I NEVER SEE OR TALK TO YOU AGAIN,I TRULY DID NOT MEAN TO MAKE YOU MAD OR SAD OR CAUSE YOU ANY HARM,MR DANNIE O'NEAL ,SORRY

@oyandakona5994 Год назад

Can we talk about your beautiful rings❤️

@SeasonedDialogue Год назад

Thank you ❤❤

@bobochieng7402 7 месяцев назад

Lisa Marie,You are from which country?

@CrystalNelson-xb6oh 10 месяцев назад

I when you start looking for so you just let it happen naturally and meanwhile you pray and you ask the Lord to send the right person you just don't jump out here just looking for Daniel annual person to be in it just doesn't happen