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Also, saying that “the gay people I know are stronger than that” implies that the people who do die by suicide are somehow weak or just weren’t strong enough to not do it?? As someone who’s lost a queer loved one to suicide that makes me so angry. She was one of the strongest people I’ve ever met
Loving this episode - recently learned about logical fallacies in Comp 1 class at community college - 58 yrs old and this is starting to make more sense to me - Things are not so black and white anymore
Shiiiii, Nuancehoe is one of the few people, if not the only, I've ever willingly waited on premieres for 😂 like you know I smashed that mf notification button
Alsp maybe another reason for logical fallacies is because they refuse to even consider that they might be wrong, it would destroy their whole reality and aren't able to accept that. That's how my parents are
On the slippery slope to a homosexual society: If this guy thinks that everyone would be gay if the church allowed it, there might be some projection involved here. 😂 Stay strong, you'll find yourself.
Dammit Carah. This was an awesome video and then you pulled out the porn shoulders and now the men can’t control themselves or listen to your content. 😂😂😂 Can you believe that is a legit thought in the church? And to think that their leaders claim Mormon God has mastered accountability when the church can’t even teach the concept accurately. They teach YW that that are accountable for men’s thoughts and action, and that’s bull shit. Great video, shoulders or no shoulders! Thanks for the great content.
I love it when you troll the trolls. I'm sure it hurts you at some level, and I am sorry for all the ad hominem abuse thrown your way, but the way you take it head on and rise above it without throwing it back - a bit nuanced, sure, but totally awesome. You are a wonderful model for the rest of us.
I’m always almost surprised that so many people don’t know about the concept of logical fallacies, and then I remember that I didn’t know about it until I was completely out of the church. The concept itself goes so much deeper than religion, the more you think about it and apply it to other things like politics and morality, the more you are like whoa, I know nothing, it’s all a lie. Then you have to try to not get overwhelmed by all of it and that is the hardest part. It’s almost as if, and I’m really trying hard not to laugh myself off of my chair writing this, a veil has been lifted.
I remember in college learning about them. I guess they didn’t penetrate the cognitive dissonance I carried around for 35+ years. It wasn’t until my deconstruction that I actually realized what they were saying and why they are important
@@Maryfs1logical fallacies kill faith but they don't have to. You can be sound in your reasoning and approach to the Gospel but these logical fallacy arguments basically encourage you to abandon your faith.
I always knew that the real Santa Claus would have a bag full of red-and-white peppermint flavored candy canes, so when I went to the LDS Church on Christmas Eve and met someone, claiming with great confidence that he was indeed the real Santa Claus and then saw him pull out a bag full of exactly the kind of candy canes I expected the real Santa Claus to have, I knew I had found both the true church and the real Santa Claus. That's the story of how I gained my testimony, so I'm having a hard time understanding how you can find any logical fallacies in Brother Alexander's story of how he found the true church.
Logic gets thrown out with religious and cult manipulation, and that is a key concept. It’s a part of the process. To get somebody fully hooked, you have to get them to believe something absolutely unreasonable..
AH! I HAVE WANTED SOMEONE TO DO A VIDEO LIKE THIS!!!! Thank you; I remember watching April's general conference this year and trying to point out how many fallacies they used!
The very bottom line in the Mormon and JW religions as to why they will go to any length to defend the ridiculous beliefs, or just avoid confrontation at all, is that there are consequences for leaving. It's an emotional problem, not a logical one. You cannot produce any logic, no matter how sound, that will get through. They must want to see it for themselves. If a Mormon or JW can see that there is safety and love on the other side then they may take that first step of searching.
I LOVE your channel! It was TIME to move on-for real. I just realized you were gone and I am glad to find you here -on your own channel.I can applaud you-yet not criticize John -so that’s what we’re doing. You are definately in a better place-just my opinion but I bet you think I’m right-huh? You’re great-keep doing what you’re doing.
One of the only Mormon Stories interviews I've ever had to stop halfway through. Wouldn't have blamed Carah for fighting that man right there in the studio.
Saying that LGBT people are welcome at an LDS church. It's the minority of cases and the MMs are pretending it's the most typical experience. Is there a named fallacy where you switch the most common with the rare exceptions?
I LOVE the way you think and the way you explain things! Some of the clips you showed were so hard to watch. It’s hard to believe people actually think that way and then say it out loud!
If you ever want to learn how to love and help open the hearts of missionaries... NuanceHoe will guide you. Please remember what someone is raised in doesn't make THAT PERSON evil or wrong. Brainwashing is real We will only ever heal and open eyes through love. Feed those tired missionary babies
I read a book on logical fallacies about 20 years ago (yes, I can read). The author claimed he was an expert on logical fallacies, and admitted that even he used logical fallacies occasionally. I find it much easier to spot logical fallacies when others use them than when I use them myself. Perhaps, I don't spot my own use of fallacies because I never use them 😉.
Carah you nailed it honey! Right on girl! You remained calm, collected, articulate and spot on. Kwaku… shame on you for making a bad analogy. Black people were denied the priesthood, terrible, but not denied sexuality with someone you love, as a whole. That’s a fundamental human right. And if you have to stand on graves to make a point, so be it.
I have watched the David Alexander videos and chatted with him. I then presented his pro-Mormon arguments to some missionaries.. LDS is the right church because everybody attacks it. I believe everything Joseph Smith says, because I am a simple man and Jesus says we should have the faith of a child....so, therefore I just believe in Mormonism because it feels good. They accepted these arguments with quiet and stoic repose. They did not dare refute anything pro-mormon, but probably could not believe the simple insanity of my arguments. That is where these boys lost credibility with me. If they were honest and true, then they should have encouraged me to believe for better reasons....but they don't have any better reasons. Done and done.
I'm always baffled by "they're only imperfect men" admissions. It's completely contradictory to the claim that the penishood/truth was lost initially due to wickedness.
I notice that arguments by women are often dismissed and scrutinized because of their appearance, not the validity of their arguments. Young men are not as scrutinized or dismissed, at least not because of their appearance.
Hi Carah, Love your episode here (and all of the others). You are so intellectually sharp. I have an interesting faith journey story, I feel (Two faith transitions), and I'm 69 years old. I just sent you a message on Facebook. I'm not on Instagram. I'd love you to interview me on your channel.
In my village there was a quote on the sign outside our local church that said "The Bible is true" and it was a quote from the Bible and that always got to me
Yeah. "He was only brainwashed into thinking he wasn't welcome..." Let's just ignore all of the LGBTQ people that found out personally how unwelcome they are.
Not that last commenter at the end of the video (you put on the screen, that Samantha replied to) calling Samantha weak 😂 They don't know how fucking hard it is to dismantle your whole fucking LIFE. Leaving the church is a brave thing to do. It's like transphobic comments I've seen Jammidodger cover on his channel, ones that say we're trying to make children trans and get gender affirming care when they're "too young to even know their gender" (though gender affirming care is not the phrase they use, and cisgender kids are never "too young" to know their gender). Jamie always says that trans people are never trying to force other people to be trans. Because, of course the whole gay and trans "agenda" is to make people have less rights, experience discrimination from all around them, and potentially be disowned from family and friends, right? We're all just over here trying to exponentially raise your kiddo's chances of suicidality, bad mental health (bc of things like not being accepted for who you are), and a generally more difficult life. *To clarify - not saying queer ppl can't have full lives. I'm queer myself (though I'm cis, not trans, so I'm just speaking from a point of observation and not from personal experience about that). I'm just saying that, statistically speaking, it's a lot more difficult, there's less acceptance for who we are, we have less rights, we face discrimination, and it's a whole fucking journey for most people to get to the point of accepting and loving who they are because they/we are taught to be ashamed of ourselves. Because our mere existence as our true selves is taught as wrong, immoral.* I'm waffling on here. But there's one more thing I want to say. One of my favorite comments I've ever heard on Mormon Stories was from you, Carah. No idea which episode, and I could be butchering it. But I remember you saying something along the lines of: You'd never want someone to go through a faith crisis if they don't have to. I've seen that sentiment reflected more on Mormon Stories ever since I listened to whichever episode that was. John and the interviewees often stress that they're sharing their stories not to make the church go away, not to attack it unwarranted, but to try and make it change for the better. To make those changes happen - changes that have already started happening. Like you said in this video - changes brought about that members are often grateful for, not knowing they come at the cost of excommunicating people like John Dehlin for speaking those truths and pushing for that change. Because we know the church isn't going to go away. And because faith crises can be traumatic. Like yeah I'd love it if the church just doesn't exist. But that's not realistic, and there are people I love who are in it who would be so so so destroyed by not having it. Even though it's harmful as fuck. So that's why people like you and John and Samantha and Tanner are sharing your voices: there needs to be change. So, anyway. Yeah. I've thought of that sentiment a lot lately - of not wanting to make people go thru a faith crisis if they don't have to. Especially with my little brother on a mission. So instead of shoving things like the CES letter in his face, I'm quietly supportive, and keep gently but firmly reminding him that he's loved, and that I'm here for him if he needs anything. (I gave him my phone number in case he needs it for an emergency. He probably doesn't have it memorized - I don't have his memorized lol.) He's more of a Jesus oriented guy, and seems to be focused on serving and loving ppl, and seeing the nuance in things, instead of going for straight numbers. But it's rough out there. Missions are tough. There's a reason I left mine early ;) Love the content as usual. Your nose is still beautiful. Your countenance is blinding us. ;) Much love to you, and to Samantha sitting in the corner wearing her headphones 😂❤ Edit: wow, this was 703 words apparently. I'm halfway thru a smaller essay here. 😂
I was really getting into what you were saying and then you pulled out those porn shoulders and it didn't affect me at all, I guess I've been out for too long. This was great and I can't wait to see more of your content :)
In debate class, my favorite rebuttal to the opposing opening premise ...."True! but a fallacy" ... they never knew how to handle that critique, because I agreed with their error.
Not sure I agree with this fallacy bingo. Trying to figure out logic based on fallacies is relatively inefficient in my opinion. To give just one example, the religious people in the clip are saying, "You're saying, either we change this ritual, or a bunch of lgbt people will suislide. And that's a bad argument." The comeback is, this is a false dichotomy. I suppose you could shoehorn that in. A much more effective response would be, "there are hundreds of thousands -- no -- millions of lgbt people. If you don't change your ritual, only seven of them will _ill themselves. Max. Guaranteed. Don't worry about it... There'll still be plenty of lgbt people around." You might want to add, "you should consider the other negative consequences instead." To fully digest the logic of an argument, you only need to acknowledge two fallacies. The does not follow fallacy, and arguments that end in contradiction. You do a little math on that, and you know the validity of any argument. This will prevent you from falling into a trap of assuming an argument is bad simply because you don't like the conclusion, and then force fitting a fallacy in, without understanding why it is a fallacy. Afterwards, you can open up more response possibilities by looking at moral and emotional arguments. When these Christian apologists are talking on the job, they are attempting to say three things at once. Reading the logic and responding in kind is a simple matter of some math. Next you want to read connotation. "x happened, and that's good." "x happened and that's bad." A moral argument. And respond in kind. Finally, you want to look at the energy of the conversation. In this particular case, these commentators are going with upbeat and friendly. You can start with a wet towel, and say, your energy is inappropriate for the seriousness of the situation. Then you need to replace it with a different energy.
This was fantastic. What did it for me is during the pandemic I did a lot of study of ancient Mesopotamia, Egypt, Rome and Greece. and came to realize how fake the Bible was. That led to a domino effect of the Book of Mormon, God, Jesus etc. Another was a statement made is priesthood meeting once when someone asked "How do you know if something is a blessing or just a coincidence." The teachers answer, who was some high and mighty church scholar, said he chose to believe every good thing is a blessing and every bad thing is test. That statement resonated due to his absolute denial of reality. He refused to question anything. In his mind there is no evidence there is only faith and God would explain the contradictions in the after life. That was the last time I ever went to church. Since then I've come to see how absolutely wicked and deceptive all religions are.
21:15 I'm sorry I can't finish the video I'm livid these people don't understand the amount of pain queer people go through while closeted in the church, how vile I, I just can't fathom being so "allied" and still saying those things
Pretty sure I did not hear or understand anything you said in the final 2 minutes of the video. (yeah, right) Maybe I will watch your next video with the laptop closed, so as not to be distracted by your shoulders, yes? ( uggh, some people)
15:33 Opposition exists, of course, it doesn't prove anything but I don't think it disproves anything either. I wouldn't make this case to try to prove something but rather opposition presents an opportunity to weigh evidence and make a choice. Your take on the church doesn't disprove it, it I were to make my case I wouldn't be proving anything either just presenting cases for consideration. After weighing evidence I come to a different conclusion than you have.
Alot of people are damaged plus hurt and and it can go on through generations, I'm navajo indigenous and to be labeled it effected me and it well continue from here on effecting my kids here after, because I don't believe in the church anymore, until I hear an apology which they never well,
Is my urge to discuss these things with the Mormon missionaries who add me on Facebook wrong? I have a feeling they might not be receptive to it but I want to try
We have to just let them talk until they realize how ridiculous they sound. Unrelated but related, I think Dan McClellan is on his way out. 🤔 I follow him on Twitter and yea….
Being exmo, I'm not taking Meldrum's position, but I do understand what he was trying to say, which is basically: God alone determines what is and is not a sin. So although homosexuality is nothing like pedophilia (few things are worse than victimizing a child), God nonetheless told us that it is a sin. To label them both a sin is not making them equivalent in degree. If I fall short of perfection by 1% (by being homosexual) or by 100% (by abusing a child), either way I fall short. It seems to me then, that the only effective way to present an argument against what folks like Meldrum believe is to question whether or not God actually did define same sex relationships as sinful. And in that, there is little evidence, aside from a few misunderstood scriptures from the Bible. Outside of the Bible, their evidence is to just quote each other and past leaders in a spate of circular "reasoning". I hope this made sense. Keep up the good work Carah.
but specifically in how much control the individual has over the attraction itself, pedophilia is the same as any other sexuality. just like any other sexuality, they can choose how they express it. pedophilia is wrong because it can't allow for consent, but for the individual experiencing it, it's the same.
Ah, the toxic-masculine gift of thinking loudness, anger, and literal fingerprinting makes you smart. It scares the shit out of me how many young men develop a worldview around this kind of content.
Pro tip from a place of support: did you know you often say "casual" when you mean "causal"? A casual link is unimportant, a causal one pretty significant. :)
Understanding Logical Fallacies are great and all but they’re limited to discerning truth in the physical world, only. Jesus prescribed a simple pattern to know the truth of Spiritual Things. If any man do His will, he will know of the doctrine whether it be of God… He blessed Peter because he received a witness not by flesh and blood, but by revelation. Faith, the Holy Ghost, none of these concepts are verifiable by logic and science. Remember, you can only perceive spiritual truth thru spiritual means.😊
"logical fallacies"--she learned a new phrase. How trendy. Tara aka Taradactyl is a perfect example of why the bible forbids women from speaking in public.
23:01 Loveless marriage? I don't endorse or encourage gay people to marry straight people but your poinr about "loveless marriage" seems very shallow and narrow. Love is only expressed through sex? You sell the human experience too short.
50:52 Slippery slope is something to be mindful of but we are allowed to consider how a decision or action will turn out in the future. The slow accumulation of heavy snow leads to an avalanche. One example with trans stuff. There were reports of an increase in the UK of children being referred to the transgender clinic by 4000%. Now if someone said "it is possible to consider that by normalising and rapidly spreading this idea that a child can be born in the wrong body we may see an increase in cases. This is especially true when there is a profit motive behind it all." Would that person be wrong and committing a logical fallacy of slippery slope? No fault divorce laws have led to an astronomical increase in the number of divorces in places where it has been passed and family courts in many countries are an absolute shambles. In debates on this issue before it was passed would you dismiss them of making a logical fallacy and to just shut up and sit down?
This whole video is to get you to intellectualise yourself out of your faith. At the end should I be happy and say to myself "I'm glad my faith is gone and I am now not guilty of committing any logical fallacies Nuance has discouraged me to use." These logical fallacies have their place and the more sound we are in our logic and reasoning the better im most cases. But it doesn't mean there can or should not be any faith in ones life. Athiests and other content creators present these as some kind of new doctrine and they espouse them as ways not to think or argue. I frankly don't make my cases in these ways but rather weigh evidence and make a choice for me. Part of the whole problem of all this believer and non believer debate is we are trying to prove or disprove things on a scientific level. Faith doesn't work on that level. It's all quite sad to see former believers so hell bent on destroying the faith of others that many people perhaps struggled with greatly to attain. I know you may feel you are doing some kind of good deed but I deeply disagree.
16:25 you also run this when you highlights when people make personal attacks towards you or challenge you in person. You don't say it in words but you also play persecution as the victim of parents who disagree with you and the one who is teased. It is the same case made by Dehlin when he talks about being excommunicated. "The church is persecuting me because I told the truth!"
Wow dude, you're all over the Comments section like a cheap missionary suit. That'll help the algorithm and help her spread The Word about the falseness of the gospel. So keep at it. Satan has really been working overtime lately under the guise of your favorite religion, and it's high time the truth came out to one and all.
@@latter-daydiscussions4289 Wow, you're like the gift that keeps on giving. With your help, Nuancehoe will spread The Word faster the we could have ever imagined. I can't thank you enough!
@mylesmarkson1686 hopefully someone sees the other side to these one sided arguments made by Carah. Very religious of you to describe Carah as spreading the "word." Can't quite shake it can you? Perhaps a few more videos and you'll get there.
@@latter-daydiscussions4289 You know what? We could start our own missionary program and and start going door-to-door. You'd be perfect to get it started. You seem to have a lot of time on your hands. Let's spread The Word all over the globe about what an awful brainwashing cult this farce of a religion really is. People need to know the truth before they even think about getting sucked in. You're alright, my friend. You're a true inspiration to us all!
35:58 remember those men are stating personal opinions. Also on the issue of apology deliveries which people seem so adament about. We don't believe we are responsible for the sins of our fathers, we also don't know their circumstances or why they made the decisions they did. God will judge men and if we go around apologising for everything then we are playing God and judging others.
Isn’t an apology the opposite of a judgment? Only you can know your own intentions. Sometimes you apologize for something no one else noticed but you know it was wrong because of your intentions, and you want to be honest and get it off your chest. And sometimes you might have to apologize for something where you acted with good intentions but accidentally caused something bad to happen, in which case it’s not your “fault” in the same way but apologizing makes you seem nicer and helps with social cohesion. It also lets people know you’ve learned better if it was some kind of mistake due to ignorance (if the only reason you did the thing was because you didn’t know a certain piece of information, people will trust you more if they know that you’ve figured out the missing information so you’re unlikely to make the same mistake). If it was just a totally random accident and not a mistake on your part at all, apologizing is just a social thing to make you seem nice and to make people trust you. Imagine if someone accidentally stepped on your foot or spilled their drink on you or your stuff but didn’t apologize because it was an accident and they didn’t mean to do it… it would seem weird and you’d think that person wasn’t as nice or trustworthy as someone who did apologize for those things. That kind of apology is about showing concern for the person who was affected, not about judging yourself as “guilty”.
21:59 those speeches aren't for personal platforming of views. It was a mistake to let him say that. Holland simply reminded staff at BYU that they represent the church and are funded by the church and they should uphold the values of the church that sponsors them. You and others spinning it into something totally different is wrong and you should let Holland speak for himself and present his talk more fully so people can make their own judgements.
44:02 haha I'm glad you recognise the cringe in left terminology with things like "heteronormative." Telling a person you are going to kill yourself if that person breaks up with you is emotional blackmail. Telling a person if you don't change or unless you change something is emotional blackmail. I don't care what the argument is for anything if you are arguing or discussing from that point you are guilty of emotional blackmail and that is wrong.
27:49 so many times the pot is calling the kettle black. You do this very thing. You point to evidence that supports your views and ignore things that don't support your take. The Midnight Mormons clip you are showing shows them trying to clear the air and say people are welcome they also identify that not everyone is as welcoming. Not a very good example. We don't ignore or dismiss individual experiences of lgbtq or any other type or individual but there is a difference between an individual experience and a collective or general experience. You and others make these individual cases out to be general experiences which is wrong.
The best way to defend the beliefs of the Church is to testify. Not only through words but actions and character and conduct. (I can feel the heat already.) 4 But blessed be the name of God, that he hath given me to know, yea, hath given unto me the exceedingly great joy of knowing that they are established again in the way of his righteousness.
Your empty platitudes of faith and belonging to a greedy corporation mean nothing when the best you contributed to society was a couple of dollars and less than an hour of service. As per your church documentation. Mormonism is not what you think it is.