The Three Reasons People Lose Custody of Their Children in Family Court 

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Yes. This is great advice. Im dealing with a Narcissist ex wife after breaking away and it is the worst thing I have ever gone through. She is literally attempting to destroy my life and watch me suffer regardless of what our children think. I am so heartbroken that someone I trusted with MY LIFE would try to wound me and destroy MY LIFE so carelessly. I know and knew what a narcissist is but the complete understanding will only come to you after you fall in love with one of them and then they diminish you and dispose of you and then when they're done with that, they attempt to destroy your relationship with your kids because the narcissistic father that raised them is now "bonding" with them and getting supply from their supply coming from YOU. SICKNESS. I'm lucky my kids take after their father and see through most of the nonsense. But it's not easy watching them experience the truth and turn their head when they hear another lie from their PARENT. At first I fell for the "competition" part of it with her but now it's just heartache all around. She forces her will on all of us in order to ALWAYS get what she wants.

Yup I lost mine because of D.V. I was physically emotionally and sexually abused for years. He had family and friends in law enforcement so I was scared. I had no family living to help me. I was scared I'd lose my kids and I did.

Our country is so fuked

@@thomasfoley1699 Dealing with the same thing but mine is a psychopath! Tested 82!

yep, money money money, theres no neutral ground here, she WINS cases.. aka meaning sombody loses.. theres no neutral ground here, its all treated to get all the money

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Well, you missed a few... 1. Bad Caseworkers 2. Evil Caseworkers 3. Caseworkers Not in every case, but I do see the problem sometimes begins with an overzealous worker. They want to make the decisions and be the one to decide. You know, have all the power. However, they do not possess this power, so they abuse the avenues they do have. There are cases of exaggeration, manipulation, intimidation, and straight out lies. You know what I think is scarier that a monster? A caseworker with a power complex. These parents are so scared and they can be easily intimidated. SO sad. Needs change!

Glad to hear it, Marcel!

I hope you got full custody and have a much more peaceful life with your kiddo now!

Yeah my ex is doing my all of these

That’s exactly what I’m going through I did it all for my daughter and still do it all but now my ex wants to step in only because we’re going to court and we’re separated now she wants to play mom

Thanks for watching, Derek!

I agree. They wanted me to do it. However I did the work and because I didn’t kiss their butts. They made me take all of the courses over. Saying they never saw someone take the courses that quickly. It is a wicked system and they don’t care about those children. They never mention the name of the child they call them the child. Sad.

@@mymodernlaw hello can you please assist me... i messaged you in tiktok and would like to speak with you please i beg you

They just busted down the door and took all 3 of Christine Wall's 3 kids, soon after their special needs child was sexually abused by someone at school...She never seen her kids again for 21 days.

Country isn't going to last much longer anyways so doesn't really matter

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Who made more income, you or the mom?

@@GentiluomoStraniero I made more than her. So, you can also say the courts were hoping to just tag me as the non-custodial parent from the start - while ignoring the facts - so the courts could maximize child support. That's another bad incentive that results in bad behavior by courts.

@@FatherX2022 It's automatic, they push to find out who the "Primary Caregiver" of the children are. I told them its 50/50, they wouldn't accept that. They got their way and the money....I only have one more month of this shit show. Now I am just trying to help create awareness of the shit sandwich politicians are forcing down men's throats. Funny how you never hear of politicians talk about this during debates....They will never bring it up on their own. They are hoping that we don't ask questions about it. Don't let a lawyer tell you you have a fair chance. You don't unless mom really screws up and it is documented.

Great points all, and we agree with you, sharing some of the same frustrations. Perhaps you're looking too deep into some of the things mentioned here, we're just describing a pattern that we've seen with cases in the past. Attorneys should always advocate for what's best for the children in any case.

Sounds like Minnesota

I understand completely. I’m in the situation now with my wife. She has lied and coached my 2 oldest daughters. CPS and the sheriffs backed her with literally zero evidence. It backfired on her and our children with Alabama removing the children over the claims. She told me she would tell the truth about lying to get the kids back and we would move past it together. Instead one day before court she made the most outrageous claims ever and said I was going to take the children by force from their school, shoot the place up, blow up the social service office and it end my life with suicide by cop. Just unbelievable stuff. But the sheriffs and CPS ate it all up and even arrested me on a felony solely on her word. I was all over the news, FB, and front page of the paper. Got suspended from my job and was looking at 10 years. The judge was the only one with sense and threw it out at the first hearing. They just recently got out of foster care where they were split up for 6 months. We have 5 kids. My 4 year old is a daddy’s boy through and through. Even CPS has that for the record. The kids were sent to live near my wife with her father while we await the final civil court hearing involving the removal. After only one month their my daddy’s boy is telling me he doesn’t love me or like me and I hurt him. Obviously more coaching and emotional abuse. At the end of the visit when he had to go back with his grandfather he said he didn’t want to go. He wanted to go with daddy and that he loves me and I’m his best friend. He is so confused by what she and the system by proxy has done to him. It is so wrong. I pray to God the judge will see all this for what it is and send them home to me. Back to love, stability and normality.

I know. It's like drowning but you just can't die.

@@1zackdudeit’s been a year since you commented. I hope and pray the judge saw the truth and you’re reunited with your kids now,

Listen to me carefully DO NOT WAIST TIME!!! get a lawyer immediately NOW! and act as quickly as possible. You have to get a lawyer immediately. you have no choice, figure it out, don't waist one day trust me.

Draft a custody agreement. Court forms are on-line. Maybe she just wants to know exactly what your timetable will be to plan around it. You have to stick to it or you’ll be disrupting so maybe your a bad planner. Why would writing a custody plan be so difficult. It’s probably about a six page form.

Ooof with narcissistic people it's about fighting and winning

Yes, fully investigated , these days some parents use false accusations to win custody of their children to gain child support.

School age children can rarely have 50/50 custody.

50/50 isn’t better. Could you spread yourself across two homes?

Exactly... That'll either force the other parent into parenting or it'll expose them for bullshit

@Gemma Dann that's sad truth father almost never win custody over child

Yup. Men lose, in any dispute in family custody, especially where I live. My county still have a law that prevents any child custody case that goes to trial to end in 50/50 custody. World is full of selfish parents and lawyers that care nothing for the child. Family law judges and lawyers are the embodiment of corruption.

@Gemma Dann not the case. Can simply be an allegation. And it’s encouraged by the vultures/lawyers/other cretins as the more acrimony, the more billable hours.

@Gemma Dann I’ve seen it written to lawyers clients and heard it as advice! Absolutely disgusting industry when children are involved

@@danielstringhm3805 selecting a good reputable lawyers with decades of ligitation experience is crucial. We seen 6-7 and dumped 2 to get to my current one. More expensive but more transparent and don’t give you false information.

Damn... aren't they raised yet?? Litigation for 14 years is insane. If your kid was 3\4 when this started, it should be a done deal. What is left to bitch about?

@@mariekiraly100 I'm going through it right now

@@jryanschulz I'm sorry.

Yep same happening to me

My sisters is going through the same thing. It all happened all at once when my ex brother-in-law’s decided to team up against my sisters, turning their daughters against them. I lost three nieces in this process.

"The Game" is actually focusing on your child and not your pride.

When you write up paperwork as ‘In the interest of the child’, the child is considered to belong to the state. It’s in the state laws, also Uniform Rights of the Child (something like that/global). We grew up learning the ‘Public Side’ and the child is your offspring, child, seed (can’t use those words), but the word property in the law books meaning is chattel (people), and other meanings also. When the state owns your child, there is all kinds of money (bonds) running around behind the scene from lawyers, judges and others. They buy property, become beneficiaries of various companies, have their family members as beneficiaries and they somehow put hidden money there. They get rich. When you get away from all that, your child belongs to you. Then you are living on the ‘Private Side’, instead of the ‘public side’. You go by our Constitution, not every statute that can be taken and used in any way the courts choose to twist the legalese, in order to make the most money. I certainly don’t understand this whole process. There is so much we have been deceived about since our birth and when we were issued social security numbers. Thankfully, this is not my fight because I don’t know enough, only the tip of the iceberg. Hope that helps a tiny bit. It’s still mind boggling to me how greatly we have been deceived and used our whole life, from our labors…our time and energy, to make so few so extremely rich.

Also, People lose custody of their children when the court leave out evidence and distort information. Truth For Sanaya ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-EZgcHsk-QQc.html

I have a question since you were/are a CASA worker. If a father has a child with two woman. The second child has an open CPS case (born addicted). Would you interview the first mother as a character witness for the father?

@@mymodernlaw "The Game" is about your control and your profit I was a legal secretary - I did your billing. I sat there and listened to you morons practice your lies in your opening and closing arguments for years Your liars and leeches

You should reach out to DCS or your extended family. Good luck!

@Gemma Dann CPS isn't there to help. Theri job is to funnel vulnerable children into Foster Care to make money off of them.

Raven don’t tell anyone this foster care is worse. Abuser always win on custody court . Judges are psychotic

@@bashemadonI In my circumstances I wouldn't be going into foster care bc my parents are divorced so I'd be able to stay with my other parent. My other parent is an actually good parent unlike the one I was describing. edit: my parent (the bad one) has had incidents in the past that have shown that she doesn't learn her lesson and doesn't change unlike my other parent (the good one) has proved that they can change and be better.

@@coalesce3333 hey don't worry I wouldn't be placed in foster care bc my parents are divorced so they'd just take away her custody and give full custody to my other parent probably. Btw my other parent is very nice and a good person unlike the other one I was talking abt.

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Its not up to parents to know all the laws of the court and some parents are excellent liars. This is part of the problem with the system....they fail to know the difference and simply dont care enough dig a bit deeper. Its a sham!

If you have two newly single people with children in the mix, it's best that both sides have an understanding that top concern is the safety and happiness of the kids. No matter how volatile the divorce is between the adults, or who else comes into the picture as far as significant others, each parent should be able to trust that the children are in a loving, secure environment when they are with the other parent. A little transparency can go a long way.

Also, People lose custody of their children when the court leave out evidence and distort information. Truth For Sanaya ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-EZgcHsk-QQc.html

Scary.

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, hopefully things will start to go your way in 2022. Thanks for watching!

@Sandy Cheeks I am alone. Sleeping couch to couch. My car. A motel. My matter… So very common. I am a typical throw away. Nothing I can do about my destiny other then cope. Your suggestions. Yes, meaningful and purposeful. However, 20 years as a public school teacher. Damn good one too. My cancer battle. Now coparent with the government or never see your children again? Sorry. I’d rather die in my sleep. And I hope I do. The system is so broken. After pouring my heart into my own destiny. Career. Hopes. Dreams. I never needed so much help to be a nobody. Once the government is invited into your affairs… doom is a guarantee. Men are expendable. Suicidal ideation. Common for men like me. Being a somebody for my children. That’s I knew. Having the state come in and rob me of my livelihood. What the hell do I have to live for now? The experiment is a failure. An American tragedy. My ex should be I charged with a crime. Setting me up and stringing me along. Lost my job. Had to sell the cars to pay for lawyers and doctors. My 3 girls… I miss them so very much. I married into wicked madness; watching family members being banished. Theocratic bullying. As if my cancer was an enhancement. There should be suicide clinics at Will County court for Silver Bullet Scheme recipients. The American Dream is Dead to me. Once terminal, I will qualify for assisted suicide. My ex wife threw me away. Used the system and accomplished a diabolical scheme. No longer a great catch. Cancer, an ugly business. I pinned my stars on the devil indeed. I’ve been a zombie since 9/13/19. Bogus unfounded DCFS and a bogus order of protection. So set up. All designed. I hope my story helps other people one day. I’ve done all I could. Please share my circumstance. ‘…here is what can happen to a man in America once the government infiltrates.’ The end can’t come soon enough for men like me. Cry myself to sleep and regret waking up. So very sabotaged. I fear my government and no longer care to be an American. Fraud, corruption, extortion. Hell of a way to capstone my life. I used to be a somebody. All it takes is a bitter woman and help from the government. Now I’m a nobody. Truly, it’s a wonder I made it this far. I wish I died on that operating table. Fighting for my life, 70 chemos, 30 radiations. Major surgeries. I used to be a fighter. Now penniless and hopeless. Parent alienation and the silver bill scheme sponsored by my ex and agents from the state. It’s an ugly ugly story. So undeserving of the outcome. I’m not going to survive my plight. Who in the hell would care to at this point?

@@AllDayKiller serious question but do you have any history of alcohol abuse or drugs? Not trying to sound judgemental but there has to be a reason why this happened... A lie isn't enough to take everything

@@happytrailsgaming I don’t drink, or smoke… I was diagnosed with cancer… lost a spoke so to speak. No longer a good catch. Sabotaged. Cancer is an ugly business. Rather of had taken a silver bullet to the head. For better or for her Daddy. The silver bullet scheme is real. The one with the most money wins the constitution. All it takes is a lie and your life is over. I can help make it possible for your target too. The system is broken. Having my deposition taken tomorrow. Being forced to remove my videos. The American Dream is Dead to me now. Share my story please. May help somebody one day. I have a cause and a testimony. My days are numbered indeed. The 9 most terrifying words in the English language have me. I can consult with you and make it so your spouse seeks assist suicide. Starts with a bogus order of protection… watch & read my descriptions in my videos.. I have a cause and a testimony. Plus coping. Most men would have taken their life. So easy to dispose of a man in this era. An injunction was had about my music… it tells the truth. Being forced to take down. Not going to. Rather die than capitulate at this point. My life is an American Tragedy. Yes, all it takes is a lie. 20 year public school teacher… treated like a career criminal. Go fill out a bogus order protection with a bogus claims… step one of the silver bullet scheme. Lost my 3 girls, 2 dogs, home, possessions, career, and hope. Most men would have taken their own life. I’m just a zombie in shock now. Pray I die in my sleep. The fraud, corruption, & extortion that has infiltrated my life. So easy to make possible. I pinned my stars on a nightmare come true. Nobody believes me till I share the footage of my Ex FILs daughter’s deposition. So easy to destroy a man. Will County Illinois made it possible. 20 year public school teacher… never needed so much help to a nobody till the government got involved. My death… a state mandate. Nothing clinical. Fraud won.

@...on the Fly I will pray for you my friend. God said "lean not on your own understanding... I know the plans I have for you. Plans for good and not for evil." Take care of yourself my friend. The Lord said "I will never leave you nor forsake you." Have hope and faith my friend. Take care.

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They are not real judges they are contractors with title iv-D .

bs, all depends on the judge. If the judge is an ass.hole, it doesn't matter if you argue with the judge or not, no matter what you do and how nice you are through the process, The judges will decide how the hell they want to feel their power over you.

@@mvladalenav most county judges are subcontractor for title iv-D with attorney general child support meaning they are ignoring their oath/job as judge and only thing they care about is generating income for the county thru “services” either being domestic relations services, classes (bipp/parenting/job services/counseling/probation etc). Refuse to believe the judges follow their oath . We have to say we accept their oath and formally tell them we accept it and demand they honor it. Otherwise it’s a crap shoot

Of course. They’re all power hungry sociopaths. I’ll be damned if I ever agree with a judge when they’re wrong.

They are right EVERYTIME. Don’t question them and treat them like Gods, ALWAYS

Family Court Does Not Care. Court - Court - Court - Money - Money - Money

That’s ALL this is a racket to use your kids to drag us males through the family court system. Get your wallet out.

So sorry you are going though this.

Fire your attorney and document anything you want. That’s what declarations do.

My attorney in Hawaii is saying the same thing Trial would be another $10k What did u do? Settle?

@@taramiller4989 I fired my attorney and learning and preparing my own papers, trial is in September

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Hope this helps: during my 3+ years in court, I often sat in the court and listened to other cases, while waiting for my 10 minute appearances. I heard about 30 other cases during that time. In 100% of them, the mother had primary custody. Not 80%. Not 90%. Not 99%. But an entire 100%. 30 is a good sample size for statistics. So if 100% of the 30 cases were in favor of the mother, safe to assume >90% of the total cases are in favor of the mother. Does that help answer your question?

Dude, I am so sorry to hear that. I remember those days. You have limited time with your kid. Your kid cries when they have to leave you. But the judge and police happily put you in jail if you hang on to your kid longer...because it's against the court order. And the court order is in the worst interests of the child. Painful. I'm sorry you and your daughter are going though this.

oh no. I am so sorry. This must be in juvenile court?

@@mymodernlaw family court the case has been going on since our son was 5. My mother started filing multiple restraining orders after any argument and we had with her and she has been granted every restraining order she has every asked for from multiple judges.

@@shecuteandall are you in arizona?

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Your child won’t live if they are not more important than you. It is not natural to go sleep deprived the first eight months to feed them around the clock so they will grow.

@@lesliewinchester8225 YOU have to first survive to help anyone else. In the event of loss of cabin pressure you’re admonished to put YOUR mask on FIRST. If you are not ok your children won’t be

I think your children have to be more important to you. If I had one piece of bread left, I would probably break it and give the bigger-much bigger-portion to her.

@@JustAmyKay not to the point of YOUR detriment. When you’re on a plane you’re instructed to put YOUR mask on first. If your incapacitated you can’t help anyone else

yup...freezing cold...

Also, remember a police report isn't all that you'll need. Remember to save and include any messages, voicemails or video you have supporting the claims of abuse.

@@mymodernlaw Thank you!

@Gemma Dann thank you!

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It shouldn't be a game of chess. But it is. It really is. I lost about 100% of the battles in the chess match...but then I won final custody. We had 3 couples' therapists before going to court, who all knew within weeks that the mother was extremely violent, etc. But when we went to court, the judges ignored her violence, didn't ask any questions to get to the truth, and rubberstamped the mother. It took me 3+ years, 28 hours of testimony, and $200k to save my son from being forced to live with a Borderline Mother. So I can 100% confirm the family court system is a disgrace, as you stated. I found the judges to be grossly incompetent at what they are supposed to be doing. But if you want to save your kids...complaining doesn't do it...strategizing and outmaneuvering the judge does it. And in the medium to long term, we need to overhaul or abolish family court...with a system that actually works for families and kids.

That sounds terrible, Marianna. It sounds like you have your kid's best interest at heart. You can do a quick Google search on family lawyers near you, but we might be able to recommend someone if you email us at info@mymodernlaw.com and reference your story. Thank you!

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So sorry to hear that! I hope your relationship has gotten better since, if at all possible.

Thanks for sharing, George, that's a tough situation with a lot of moving parts.

Keeping his safety and mental health as top priority is key! An experienced attorney may be able to help guide you down a path that allows everyone involved to benefit positively.

@@mymodernlaw thank you for words.

@@mymodernlaw I asked for a B18.

@@Paticruz7 Good luck to you, hope you get custody

Great points all around, thanks so much for sharing your story with us! And you're right, the father is not always in the wrong.

@@mymodernlaw I actually just filed a Motion for Contempt for Parenting Time. And sure thing I am always willing to share my life if it will help others regardless of race, religion, or creed. Thanks for all you do as well ma'am. 🙂

He should bypass the mother. Get a reissued social security card from the SSA directly. May need to show your court order. And get the birth certificate from your local government agency.

Thanks so much, David! Glad you're here!

What is that?

That is what my partners ex is claiming we are doing but she's been on drugs for so many years we have just been protecting them

These are some of the hardest cases. You definitely need an experienced attorney to help.

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I’m in Hawaii as well with 3 kids with temporary custody due to a restraining order but will make it permanent hopefully in my divorce The judges don’t seem to do anything unless it’s moved to trial? Which will be $10k I have had cps and guardian Litem state that father is unfit as well as his 3 felonies charges and still Judge remains silent Should I settle split custody to avoid trial? So curious about how your journey ends

Listen to your solicitor.

Thanks so much for sharing. Situations concerning people with disabilities aren't always fair and sometimes don't seem right, I'm sorry to hear what your family is going through.

Thank you!!

Hi there, have you tried a mediation? Perhaps you can sit down as a family and find out what your child really wants to do, and what is in her best interests. Hearing all of the sides of the story can be helpful to everyone involved.

There may be some truth in that statement, but the outcomes of these cases is totally unique and dependent on the situation. However, that doesn't mean people can't hide who they truly are in front of a judge. Thanks for sharing!

The kids tonight you're right because if you really even do the honest thing know everything it sounds to me honestly when you said be the better parent I mean no offense honestly but that's how I kind of went about it and being being very spiteful and that's not fair to the child is it? So I mean you I probably I'm agreeing if you hear you probably are LOL but I'm just saying you still sound a bit spiteful and you probably ever right to be human and the thing is no you need to know your rights and stand your ground no matter what or who tells you. I mean be respectful but staying your brain and the reason I'm saying this is you never know when CPS will just roll up in your house or try to and they have no right. I thought I had a lovely guardian ad litem and before my kid's father committed suicide he told me that we didn't I mean he stood his ground and he was correct what did I do I let him in and no this guy is so awful but he's going through it with his wife right now she's lying on him so is that not karma? I feel sorry for him the thing is don't just trust these guardian ad litems I mean he's disbarred now it's not my fault? Oh did I mention that CPS also lied and was paid off to I mean because I never lost custody of my daughter? Well isn't that interesting.. did I mention it a boyfriend that a paternal father my best friend who committed suicide the father of my kids his mama and I are on great turns but she is getting drugged by him and was in a trance and my son knew the whole time and but we can't get these years back. Thank goodness for two great friends that are friends first lawyer second.

@@whitneystone5725well being drug through the family court can leave everyone bitter and create a level of frustration when it should be as simple as to share your child. The family courts is extremely abusive to father's I should know because I'm still being drug through it. And my bitterness has turned more to the family court because it's obviously easy for them to see the abuse and depression just settle in you deeper when they don't listen to you. And all you go home with is your child losing again and again and again.

Sorry to hear about your struggles, Darryl. I hope your situation moves in a positive direction, thank you for watching and sharing your story!