One builds confidence through the accumulation of victorious experiences. One must have a history of victory. Each new task the coach gives the student must be appropriately challenging to complete but not impossible to complete. So if building confidence is like building trust, then one must have experiences wherein the other person "came through" in order to view them as trustworthy? I agree with you, JM.
This is so true. This is why old school boxing managers would build their pro fighters up slowly over 20 fights (minimum) before starting to fight contenders and then eventually going for title fights.
Best episode hands down. The world needs more people like jm and dave who want to motivate and teach and are less worried about what they are gaining from the transaction
I agree with JM. I'm training my son in Strength training and he struggles with lack of confidence. More significantly than my other children. I have to get really creative and find little momentsb to train my son to see the victories in the everyday moments, every set, every added rep.
Do keep at it. Though I didn’t have anyone encouraging me, I can confirm that I, who was once a scrawny child at 16 cause I hit puberty late, definitely got a huge confidence boost when I inflated with muscle.
Each rep, set, exercise, training day, training block can be broken down into bite sized bits. Open and close the book with each rep, each exercise, etc. Don't think about rep 1 when you're on rep two. Just think the proper cues and do rep 2. Open and close is a great technique for any occasion. Its giving each single portion it's deserved attention, instead of having to remain in a willed constant state of focus
This really takes me back to my sports psychology class in college. Shit's a trip. He's spot on though, positive reinforcement helps infinitely more than negative. I was even part of a study where the results showed just that lol.
All the psychology agrees exactly with this. We sadly focus on the outliers that succeed despite overwhelming circumstances that make most fail rather than on the ways that have mountains that show a history of success. Great video.
I played football 2 different high schools. One had a pretty successful program and the other was pretty terrible. The irony is that the school I played for that was pretty terrible and disorganized, the entire coaching staff believed in just insulting you all practice long, ripping your face mask off, punching your helmet and I always knew in my gut this wasn't going to work. Our entire team had zero confidence and it would show when we would play more successful teams. I never understood the reasoning of why adults coached this way.
I'm not going to lie, this was really affirming and I needed to hear this. I was a teacher for many years, and I always tried to teach kids how to be confident and set up moments of glory for them. I saw so many teachers, coaches, and administrators use the exact opposite method. In fact, having administrators (a few who were also football coaches) who used a negative approach on me as a teacher that THEY HIRED year in and year out is what drove me out of teaching. Now I coach independently and we're back to positivity and celebrating the good shit again.
This is what has been holding back my deadlift. I haven’t missed an attempt for squat or bench in a while, but I lack confidence when it comes to the deadlift. Time to turn this around
Mmm no, i have no first hand experience but i have read a lot about it, apparently Louie was inbetween, he would have challenged you to do something. But he wouldn’t put you down like the coaches JM talks about. With Dave Tate’s words “Louie Simmons told me twice in 12 years «good job», but he never once called me a failure” I feel like that sums it up
Cus Damato was one of the best philosopher in athletics, he was abke to dismantle mike tyson and turn him into perfection.. its definitely positive visualisation that works better than degradation.
Here is a question for Dave, IF those 10 + years you spent at Westside used positive training and motivation techniques instead of negative do you think it would have made a significant difference in your training / lifts? I understand this may not be reality because then it wouldn't have been Westside.
Back injury, keeps almost healing and then getting worse. Anyways, thanks for remembering. I remember watching through your BF4 vids. I started playing again after seeing them.
Indeed, but it will beat the ever-loving shit out of you if you do it say each time you lift 90% or above. So when your hitting say 75-85% weights for reps with good form, remember that's good.
A lot of things seemingly work for some people. Correlation isn’t causation. Also just because something appears to work doesn’t mean it’s the most optimal
JM, have to disagree with you! I don't need to read a book about children. I have 5 children and none of them respond the same way to coaching. Some need positive reinforcement. Others need to be yelled at, but there is no one way to teach a child. I say that also as someone who has taught younger kids football and basketball too!
Wrong. Everyone is different. It works extremely well with me, I owe all my success in life and training to negative reinforcement. Americans are so precious - I don't want anyone telling me how great I am...GROSS
