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@jhuenegale 10 месяцев назад

I realized how selfish and manipulative I was being when I was a people pleaser. Always trying to control the narrative by trying to make it seem like I was doing things for others so that they would like me. Wow...

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

That’s some BIG accountability and self awareness right there babe 🙏🏼

@curlsgonwildx 9 месяцев назад

woah this!!!!!!!! the self awareness you just brought into my life

@SierraQuinton 10 месяцев назад

i think it can also be difficult to realize/notice when you’re people pleasing. noticing where you’re not being authentic is a great start!

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Yes!!

@taniyaallen5657 10 месяцев назад

you should make a video about quitting a job that no longer suits you/choosing a new career path… preferably for the women who are trying to live a softer life, I have worked DAILY since my junior year of high school and finally wanting to try and start working for myself!

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

I made a video on how to build your dream life while working a 9-5, I think that will help 🥰 also longs of soft life videos on my channel too!

@taniyaallen5657 10 месяцев назад

@@eliciagoguen thank you I’ll go watch it again 🥰❤️

@sevensepias 10 месяцев назад

I expressed that I was unhappy about something to my dad today (I'm in my 30s and married). I was not rude about it but I was very direct. He told me I "could have worded it differently." In the past, I would have worded it differently because I knew how it would make him feel. Ultimately he feels bad because he loves me. And he is telling me not to word things in a way to make him feel bad. He is putting the responsibility of his feelings on me. This was very unsafe when I was a child. But now I will say how I feel if that's how I need to resolve a situation. I am not responsible for the feelings of other adults. I am not responsible for the feelings of other adults.

@Cookiedesigns254 10 месяцев назад

You go girl! Speak your truth and allow people, especially adults to process their own feelings. It’s their stuff, not yours ❤

@FullyLovingYourself 10 месяцев назад

After being in foster care, I struggled a lot with people pleasing. It took me until my 30’s and getting married to really put my foot down and put me first. I also had to move away from my family too lol

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

I’m really proud of you! Wow 🥹

@mims924 10 месяцев назад

@eliciagoguen where are you from

@jorjaclaire8255 10 месяцев назад

i’m just getting over a failed situationship and i couldn’t have heard this at a better time. trying to tap into healing my anxious attachment style as well. i can only go up from here 😇

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

I’m so proud of you!! You’re in the right path 🥰

@popark9107 10 месяцев назад

"I came on this earth to have relationships" SOO POWERFUL 🥰 thank you so much for all you do

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

You’re so welcome 🥹☺️

@izzylove89 10 месяцев назад

I'm now working through a lot of stuff this past year. As a chronic (hopefully past people pleaser) I realized that I tended to go above and beyond for some people who didn't earn it, and in a way that's a form of manipulation bc they would then feel guilty for not reciprocating and then sabotage the friendship. I'm learning to really temper myself now and match energy and investment

@Cookiedesigns254 10 месяцев назад

Omg yesss people pleasing is not the vibe anymore. I finally feel free and more energetic being authentically me 🤩

@survivalsilk2101 10 месяцев назад

my younger self feels so seen rn.. healing my inner child and your work has been integral! thank u queen

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Awww I love you!! You’re so welcome 🥰

@gutterpeach 10 месяцев назад

I’m excited for this one. I always people please. It’s exhausting.

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

It really is 😴

@essence____beauty_92 10 месяцев назад

This is thing I struggle with from time to time 😩😩 thanks for doing this video for us ❤❤❤❤ 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

@Nicole-wd8yg 10 месяцев назад

Needed this today, thank you

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

You’re very welcome 🤍

@theleylachykulina 10 месяцев назад

This came at the right time, thank you so much🌟

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

You’re very welcome ☺️

@theauthorgirl-podcast 10 месяцев назад

Your videos always come just when I need them. After a horrible weekend, this is great and inspires me. Thank you.

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Aww I’m sorry you didn’t have the best weekend! Sending you lots of love 🫶🏼

@MustLoveJones 10 месяцев назад

This has been the theme I’ve been discussing with loved ones all week. This was very well organized and well said!

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Thank you!! 🥰

@danielaa060 10 месяцев назад

i love this💖💖

@shaniyadunchie 10 месяцев назад

I needed to hear this!❤

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Yaay 🥰

@GetElevatedWithMe 10 месяцев назад

Stop. Coming. For. Me. Elicia. 🤣🤣🤣 love you lady! I’ve been doing too much self help lately and took a mini break so I’m excited to binge all your new videos in like 2 weeks ❤

@GetElevatedWithMe 10 месяцев назад

FROM the past 2 weeks or who knows it could be only 5 days. 🤣 anyways if anyone’s reading this have an amazing day, I love you and your butt looks great in those jeans!

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Haahah I love you! I hope you’ve been well 🥰 a self-help break is always needed 👏🏼👏🏼

@edwardleecaliforniausa 10 месяцев назад

Good morning happy Monday morning and I hope you having amazing weekend and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter

@eduardadoumid 10 месяцев назад

I LOVE THE NECKLACE, you're so beautiful

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Awww omg thank you gorgeous ☺️

@Billy33753 10 месяцев назад

Amen! Gotta stay true to yourself can’t make everyone happy

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Yes!!!

@studywithme2707 10 месяцев назад

Lots of love ❤

@Sashaket491 10 месяцев назад

Love u so much ❤😭

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Love you more 🥰

@Sashaket491 10 месяцев назад

@@eliciagoguen mwahh broo❤️💋

@user-vt9up9vp6z 9 месяцев назад

i stopped pilates because everyone told me my weight lifting body was more attractive, i stopped dressing girly because everyone told me to dress edgy and dark bc that was cuter even my family and friends say this to me.

@eliciagoguen 9 месяцев назад

Please start doing what works for you 🤍

@user-vt9up9vp6z 9 месяцев назад

last time i did that all i could think about was how everyone was telling me to do the opposite sadly. @@eliciagoguen

@Maeven. 9 месяцев назад

omG about staying up late with boyfriend to watch TV even though I have a whole day planned! Then I’m cranky and I lash out and he’s like, “well then why didn’t you just go to bed??”. Uhhhm because my initial reaction is people please then throw a fit and take it out on everyone around me? 😅😆 ahhhhh…. Learning right?! 😂

@eliciagoguen 9 месяцев назад

LOL yes you’re learning😭😭🤍🤍 the craziest part about that is, they literally are not affected if you actually were to just go to sleep and do your own thing 😭 we’re out here doing the most for no reason🤣 remind yourself in the moment that if the roles were reversed, he would go to bed 🫠

@bklynbarbie90 10 месяцев назад

Wise beyond your years ❤

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Thank you 🥹

@Byebandit50 10 месяцев назад

Omg could you possibly help me? I’m dating a guy I really like and I’m trying so hard not to ruin it. It’s like I self sabotage. I basically was in a mood when we hung out 2 days ago and haven’t heard from him since. Im trying not to freak out and overthink by reaching out in a thirsty co dependent way. My hope is that he offers me some grace and we just talk. Not sure what to do but I know if a guy isn’t talking to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. 😢

@Cookiedesigns254 10 месяцев назад

If you see him just communicate how you feel so you guys are both on the same page. If he’s cares about you he’ll understand and stick around, if not then it’s okay to move on.

@Yoboyobo 10 месяцев назад

❤

@picklesandicecream3549 10 месяцев назад

Not me seeing this while procrastinating going into the office of my boss to quit😭😭

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Miss thanggggg… go do what you need to do 💅🏽

@booboobear 10 месяцев назад

I have a question that might be strange or something like that,but can you do a video about bullying? I've been getting bullied at school lately,as in today kids were trying to close me in inside a room which made me have a panic attack,i just need advice about it please (if you already have one about it i will dig in search for it)

@gracetalluri 9 месяцев назад

Omg I hope your doing better // also that’s a great video idea🥹 I need it

@booboobear 9 месяцев назад

@@gracetalluri I am doing a bit better thank you!The kids are just giving me looks now,I just hope it won't happen again,but thank you very much!

@gracetalluri 9 месяцев назад

@@booboobear honestly bullying is cringy to me like why act like that you must be miserable or something to be hurting others! Anyways I’m glad your better 😊

@booboobear 9 месяцев назад

@@gracetalluri thank you!I honestly think the same,but thank you very much☺️

@user-rw4ef1ik5z 10 месяцев назад

🩵💚🩵💚🩵

@AuthenticNaturel 10 месяцев назад

This is just what I needed to hear 🤎

@eliciagoguen 10 месяцев назад

Perfect 🥰

@niwnoom 9 месяцев назад

Guys i have a genuine question, how does one detach from toxic parents? It would be easy if i didnt have 2 younger brothers (15 and 5)… i moved out, i visit them rarely for my brothers only, but is me trying to protect my brothers even more toxic than just staying away? I have no idea what kind of relationship i am supposed to be building with them… i hope its okay to post this here 🫶🏻