WHEN TO BE SILENT :- 1. Be silent - in the heat of anger. 2. Be silent - when you don't have all the facts. 3. Be silent - when you haven't verified the story. 4. Be silent - if your words will offend a weaker person. 5. Be silent - when it is time to listen. 6. Be silent - when you are tempted to make light of holy things. 7. Be silent - when you are tempted to joke about sin. 8. Be silent - if you would be ashamed of your words later. 9. Be silent - if your words would convey the wrong impression. 10. Be silent - if the issue is none of your business. 11. Be silent - when you are tempted to tell an outright lie. 12. Be silent - if your words will damage someone else's reputation. 13. Be silent - if your words will damage a friendship. 14. Be silent - when you are feeling critical. 15. Be silent - if you can't say it without screaming. 16. Be silent - if your words will be a poor reflection of the Lord or your friends and family. 17. Be silent - if you may have to eat your words later. 18. Be silent - if you have already said it more than one time. 19. Be silent - when you are tempted to flatter a wicked person. 20. Be silent - when you are supposed to be working instead. "WHOEVER GUARDS HIS MOUTH AND TONGUE KEEPS HIS SOUL FROM TROUBLES".
1-you hear what's on aperson's heart 2-you grow in humility 3-you become a giver 4-you protect youself 5-you walk in obedience 6-you give grace to your husband 7-your light shines bright 8-you're able to hear the Lord
You are a beautiful a vel from God!Truer and wiser words have never been spoken.Most excellent advice.I believe in God the way you do.Thank you you've, you've helped me so much.
This is a transformative process. There's a habit of letting loose after a certain point that has to be changed and replaced with something else. I'm praying and working through this! 😭
@Ezan Stephane God bless you for this powerful word. I have to write down your comment because it touches my heart so much. By his grace through this comment God will help me with spirit of self control especially with my Younger ones because they can be very annoying sometimes.
Oh yeah, that's a good one! Because in my heart I know that when it is pressing on me to say something, it's probably not good and that is why the enemy presses on me to do it.
I work i childcare. People have always looked down on me because I was "too quiet" and "too passive". They would draw conclusions about me without knowing me at all. So they would try to intimidate me and try to take advantage of me and found out that they were wrong. I'm not a push over I just know when to keep my mouth shut. I spent too many years hurting people and destroying relationships with my words. It never made me feel good at the end of the day so I changed
Jasmine Giles When you are being godly and temperate, the devil will have demons tempt cooperative people to cause you to stop the godly behavior. Resist them and suffer with Christ. Romans 8:17 if we share in his sufferings, THEN we will share in his glory. Bless you
I'm a very quiet person, but sometimes it becomes necessary to speak. And speak up LOUD. I have lost a lot by keeping too quiet. So we must identify with "keeping quiet" and speaking out when necessary.
Michelle V.H. Toussaint best comment ever! When they say people should keep quiet, it doesn't mean you shouldn't open your mouth at all. Talk when it's necessary and keep quiet when it's necessary as well.
I am the same way...I've been stepped on and messed over because of it...I strive to be Christlike...but Jesus beat the moneychangers out of the temple...now I am so full of holding things in...I'm about to burst!!!!! I learned we can speak with wisdom...NOT BE A DOORMAT...season what you say with love..be led when to speak..always keep in question" What Would Jesus Do?"
Same with me i lost so much being quiet but lost more of myself speaking being emotionally drained and satisfying the ego of the other person and also loosing focus, in all this i have come to the conclusion that speaking is more confusing and exhausting to being quiet or silence.
Keeping quiet sometimes can save your life. But being too quiet sometimes will also get you killed. People can be soo evil in whatever doings you just have to listen, slow to speak but do it in a calm way shouting and being angry only confusing you and others. I'm a quiet and shy person my entire life. But i wont let no one take my silence for weakness.
I'm very smart and quiet and people thought I was weak or dumb. When I opened my mouth they were surprised by my wisdom. But people will run over you when you're quiet. I've prayed to my Lord and asked him to keep evil people away. So now I just stay to myself cause I now have a very short toleration for haters.
L Farmer People will definitely walk on you for being quiet. Especially if they know that you are smart. They are intimidated by the strength and intelligence that you posses that they feel they are lacking. Communication with others should be viewed as a tennis match...give and take, right? If someone cannot play the tennis match, it simply means that they are a poor conversationalist. Not you.😃 I recently gained some knowledge that I need to practice... knowing when to step up or step back. This is done by listening to your inner voice (the REAL you) rather than the/your ego (caring about how others see you). We need to love ourselves for who we know we are and shake off the shit that assholes throw at us...😄❤
I swear I got mad at someone who hurt me right now and I was provoked to say more than enough and I came on and saw this...I believe it’s God who made me see this when I just came on RU-vid.
Amen me to .....lol i was making pretend last night what i wanted to say to this person who likes to pick with me them just now i saw this video and it calmed my storm😁🙌
@Lissy I, I swear God sent this to me but I wish I saw it before I went to work. I was called in a meeting because an employee provoked me about saying ;I said some rude stuff about the boss trashing the companies image. They know I'm quiet and i wasn't gonna say anything but I have kept quiet for too long and when I heard this and how everyone came down on me...I felt defenseless and just exploded and said some things.... Now I wish I would have stayed in my closet and said nothing.
Father please please please help me to keep my mouth shut. Put a guard over my mouth,, so I can protect myself. I decree and declare this prayer sealed with the blood of Jesus amen. Father. I believe you will and have done this for me and my family amen.
It can be hard to keep quiet in a world that mistakes being quiet as being a weak doormat...someone to be taken advantage of. So...I guess it's all about discerning when to speak and when not to!
wisediamond830 I get it but I think that at same time being quiet makes you more respectable.You just have to give a good answer when you’re feeling disrespected,of course without offending.
I very quiet and am a giver.. but the problem is everyone else has a opinion and a taker. I am exhausted .. some speaking up and boundaries is okay too
Good god, yes. Please be careful when taking advice from another. Seek guidance within. I doubt your creator wants you to be weak. Silence is strength, and silence is also weakness. Depends. Always depends. Duality is Life. LIFE IS DUALITY. Balance is essential. ☯️💜☮️🦋🌈🌟
I DEF NEED TO GIVE MORE GRACE TO MY HUSBAND..LORD HELP ME I ALWAYS OVER TALK HIM AND HE HATES IT, I NEED TO SERIOUSLY WORK ON THIS...BEING QUIET MORE. GREAT VIDEO. THANK U
You are not alone....I am always praying for grace to help with my tongue. And we're tested most with the ones we're around all the time (like our husbands)...but God is able! :)
Ibotta Lotta Yes, its good to choose your words wisely. And not everything merits a response, but the idea of silence is stressed upon women, which is unfair. Also, he idea that you grace your husband with respect by silence? Bullshit. Made by men who hate nagging wives. True, you must respect your husband and nagging is ineffective. It just seems like this advice is some BS.
F'aneshia N. Yeah sis you dont want to end up in divorce court Ephesians chapters 5-6 Also be quick to listen slow to speak slow to get angry Lose the fight to win the battle Let God fight your battles xoxo sis
I am shy and quiet but it is really hard to be yourself around other people if you have these qualities. At work I'm termed moody, not a nice person or have unresolved issues. Being at work stresses me out and no longer gives me joy. People take me for granted coz they know I'm quite and I tolerate and take all the harsh words and treatment they throw at me. But when it get to a point where I can't take it....I spit fire and everyone hates me and I just cannot control what I say and feel guilty afterwards though I'm the one who was being wronged from the beginning. I am so confused on how to socialize or be seen as a good person in my work place without people labelling me as a moody or unhappy person. God help me not to be moved by people's words or respond to anger. No matter how bad the situation is....I pray I keep silent.
I have been there countless times and also where people purposely provoke to set me off on jobs. It's almost like a game to others to see if they can shake a quiet person up. Then when you flip they call you crazy. Smh. Just smile and keep it moving. I have had countless bosses to test me. Found out later, quiet makes the other person very nervous. Keep being the quiet confident and powerful you!!
I pray God gives me the wisdom to be quiet, because when offended I do not stay quiet and my husband provokes me, and I know better, but still speak out. 👐 help me Lord👐
I think I've always believed the adage that "silent speaks volumes." I realize once something falls out of your mouth you can't take it back. I either let things go or speak my mind later when I'm no longer feeling angry or provoked...i find the delay de-escalates the situation (in my mind)and i usually end up saying nothing.
Thank you so much. Father, ... you are ministering through my sister, ... continue to bless her willingness and obedience, ... even now, ... in Jesus name, ... Amen.
yeah I know when you're quiet and smile and someone's talking to you that normally talks to you and they realize why you being so quiet they ask yeah that's weird and what do you say when they say why you being so quiet you know or just smile I guess
I do have to say that me being quiet and listening to the other person talk I do realize that yeah they are talking from the heart where they have to say it's interesting to observe so I did it yesterday quiet my mouth and let the person talk normally talks and I got to know her heart what's really in her heart and I just smiled and try to be loving and kind but yes no kind sweet words so now she's thinks I'm sweet and kind and I've learned a lot about her because I let them talk and you do know a lot about a person if you just shut up and let them talk and they just go on and on and on about things that that's from their heart not have to respond not responding they just look at you sometimes they say why you so quiet but I'm learning a lot letting the person speak especially my enemies cuz you learn a lot about your enemies when they just talk and talk and talk and never observe their heart
I have practice silence for years, because if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say nothing at all. When you listen to people you learn about their character and about your surroundings. When I do speech it is to be cordial. Being quiet also allows you to meditate on positivity, so I let peace be still.
Sister in Spirit and in TRUTH, FIGHT the warfare. It is NOT against your son's father but against spiritual wickedness which works ARE EXECUTED THROUGH your son's Father's flesh. Become angry with the spirits and FIGHT NOT THE FLESH of your son's father, for only then will you begin to reap the spiritual warfare's victory which WILL manifest itself in the flesh. We Fight against NOT flesh... REMEMBER this bc bottom line, a woman was made for a man and TOGETHER they and their offspring are a GOOD thing, it is written! Gal. 5:16. Bless u and SPEAK, as long as it is by the Law and to the Testimony as it is written Is. 8:20.
@@Maksie0 Noooo! YAHshrael must reprove & correct one another in Righteous love and give one another instruction in Righteousness as it is written. Building one another up bc we all fall short. 1Jn. 5;3, Eccl. 12:13-14 and I am a YAHshraelite Queen, married at age 22, and now married for 26 yrs strong/SOLID years with 4 fearfully & wonderfully made offspring. False indoctrination and enslavement by Masa has taught us division. Fight venom which is an unclean spirit with the Spirit of Love, Courage, Humility, Reproof & Correction. Qam YAHshrael! Bless u!
Sister in Yahuah, I hear you and hold you up in support and encouragement. Yah is listening to you and giving you experiences (times with your ex) as opportunities to refine and expand your patience. He does not do the work for us, so when we pray for patience or some other blessing, He will give us the experiences to keep refining ourselves. Good job for your maturity in keeping silent, the best weapon to stupidity. I forget the chapter/verse, but the Bible says if we chime in with stupidity then we too become equally ignorant. Better to keep silent. Love ya;)
Sometimes you do have to speak up when you have been pushed around or manipulated, but I do appreciate and realize what you are saying. I think silence is powerful too like you say. I've put my foot in my mouth - been truthful though. Sometimes you don't have to explain or justify - but just let the truth come out as it always does.
So, in situations like that should I speak up or stay quiet if someone is poking and manipulating I was always having a problem with is because I tend to ignore poeple like that.
I’m extremely impulsive this has been a big problem for me. Everything that comes up comes out. I talk over others because I wanna say what I have to say now. I find myself apologizing often to others. I’m trying so hard to be different and better. This video is very helpful.
Brittany Cohen You have an honest conscious and God heard you. HE will have mercy on you. I have never commented on RU-vid before, but I fell the need too.
Why do you we have these behaviors Brittany? You are me and I am you. I do the exact same thing. Who though? Is it that as a child I was ignored? Or as a wife and mother taken for granted and over looked? I refuse to be in that place again. Someone is going to hear me!
Brittany Cohen, I'm with you on this. Me? I'm overcoming ADD (attention deficit disorder) Another believer with ADD suggested this book written by two women who have this disorder. I read some it on line, then borrowed it from the library. I didn't want to to it but I must face the (elephant in the room that everyone else sees). I'm not saying this is your issue, should anyone wants answers, there is a REAL science behind this excessive talking and other behaviors that brought me a lot of pain. It has helped me a lot. The book is called: You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! K. Kelly and P. Ramundo. I will purchase the book and the Lord is with me. Hope this helps.
Wow...Wow...Wow! Thank you Holy Spirit lol talk about conviction. I was going to watch another one of your videos but the Holy Spirit said chew on this for a while & let this go thru the digestive process 1st.
Although this video was uploaded 7 years ago (prior to 2023), the message is timeless. Thank you for this message and referencing Bible scripture to back it up. ❤️
Carrie Ann Marshall Trust in God to lead you and fix your broken heart and make you better than ever. I'm in the same situation but I've learned to give God all of me and to use this time for Him. He has provided all," ALL " of my needs better without the relationship. God is Awesome!!!!
Sometimes being quiet gets you into more trouble than if you were loud. We have to know when to be quiet... cuz sometimes I wished I would have opened my mouth and not missed opportunities.
But if we consider that God orders our steps, then not every opportunity we see is a blessing. I've felt I was slighted many times, however, in the fullness of time I learned otherwise. I've grown to open my ears AND EYES to listen, my mouth to teach, edify, lift someone's spirit, entertain/laugh with people. When I'm hurt, I stay alone and am silent. That way I don't say hurtful things. Funny thing is the things I might say r true, but if saying them won't achieve the points above, to me, they're not worth saying. Lastly, hurt people hurt people.. Folks seem to go along in life hurt n broken we get older n think age brinfs healing, but it don't.. We're all being worked on the potter's wheel. In the fillness of His time, words can bring healing rather than simply do more damage. These r my learnings. Peace n love❤❤💕❤
I needed this so much and especially at this present moment in my life! Thank you so much for your words of ministry that really spoke to my heart... I was just contemplating on confronting someone and possibly making matters much worse.... but now I'm gonna pray on it, speak on it and get clarification and direction on where to go from here, so that I'm acting in the best possible way. And get great results because of it...
A timely word! I remember a time when I was a part of a ministry when I felt some of the other members were "picking" on me, because I didn't say much, and they felt I wasn't speaking up for myself. There were times where I would imagine what it would be like to really speak my mind and let them have it. But I realize that if I said that, I wouldn't have some of the friendships with them that I have today. I thank God for allowing me to keep silent, because He kept me from lashing back and saying things that I would regret later. Thank you for this message and God bless!
Juanita Nelson-Combs We perpetuate our own stereotypes of black women supposedly all having no hair when we make comments that every black woman with shoulder length or longer hair is somehow wearing fake hair. smh
This is a real blessing to me. I'm glad i ran into this on my feed. Implementing better habits starts within, and this is something i used to do, be quiet, but it was more for the reason of not speaking up for myself. I believe quietness also reminds you to be still, and shows a still confidence in Who you rely on. Thank you so much for this sister💞
wow so timely, I noticed I've been getting into petty anger moments with my husband over general issues, I just went to the bedroom and asked the Lord to help me and give me wisdom, 1 minute later this poped on my reconmmended videos, 😮.. Thank u jesus
I just love your life lessons. They make me grow, they make me listen. I just wanted to share one of the things I do with you teachings. I put the video on subtitles and write word for word in a journal. This journal then goes in my purse and I carry it with me. When ever I'm in a doctor's office waiting or a lot of times on my lunch break, I will read them over and over. And each time is a blessing to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking your time to give your gift. God Bless you.
Cindy, this blessed me so much....wow! I can't believe you actually do this! :) I can only thank and praise God that the videos speak to you in this way. God is so good and so faithful. Thank you so much for sharing this with me. It is refreshing water to my soul. May the Lord bless you richly, my sister. xoxo
Elaine Anderson jus keep positivity on your mind at all times in say out loud today is going to be a good day god protect my energy everyday before you step out around ppl
What helped me was practicing "no". And I didn't start it with people. Like a nasty song comes on the radio, or some manipulation comes through a commercial, etc. say no turn the channel, turn off the TV. You'll notice your no start to change. Yelling the Word no is what is used in self-defense classes. Having an energetic wall of no around you, gives you an air of the wall of NO. Then it will just start being natural when you use it with people.
That's good word, I encountered a black Hebrew as a Lyft driver, he spattered on with his religious views , I just kept quiet and when the ride ended he was amazed in my meekness and quietness, he wanted to argue religious views ,in the end God got the glory not me.
Gurrrrrl Thank You for this REMINDER! Dont know where your channel just came from but boy is GOD on a roll revealing NEW things to me & REMINDING me of an OLD thing I let slip. It's Tight but all the way Right LOL THANK YOU 4 SHARING DOLL❤💛💙💚
I needed this so bad! I had a situation Saturday where I was gonna run my mouth to my mate but I had a sore throat and lost most voice and it still has not came back fully LoL. When it does I will practice this., my young son said, "Ma I like this new you that can't talk". 😂
Feel the same. They used to call me little X or tupac but all that taking up for my people or people in general got me in trouble cause they ain't have my back when they were the ones I was trying to protect. Now I be so quiet people get mad cause I dont share info with everyone and I be like a ghost. They hear of me and assume I've died or jail but life just got better and better, I been just that quiet.
I know this video is quite old, but I truly believe in this I went to university and did not let no one know about it, I decide to keep it 🤫 from family and friends and final 👩🎓 and my family members were upset and did not congratulate me, I’m the first person in my family including my parents to get a degree. I’m truly greatful to God.
I always felt this was sign of weakness, that being said i just started to voice my opinion and got me involved negatively, gossiping at work. I am feeling like sucked in. I know GOD is giving me this message through your video that popped up out of no where. Your very easy to understand. I like the comment that they put it on subtitles and journal, this will help me to remember. Thank You
Thanks God for this video. I'm from Brazil and talk so much! But I admitted that and I know God will help me to change. Wise woman! Keep it up this great ministry to share the wisdom God has given to you through the Bible. I'm so blessed now!!!
Sister!!!! You confirmed my decision to be quite last night. God was with me 100% . I gave grace to that person and walked away and stayed away the next day so I would not sin against God. Amen Amen.
Lord, I'm not alone😂...Ok I get it..I just asked GOD to help me with my tongue..I put anointing oil on my tongue, I walk with Christ I ain't no punk , sometimes I have to shut satans advocates down
Had to send this to a friend I feel uncomfortable to be around nowadays because of their quick responses. I listen to this video for my own good as well.
I won , I won , and yes I did win the Battle just by staying Quiet. They went on to say everything that was on their heart , and their true colors came out , though they came back to apologize nonetheless no word can ever be taken back .
I am so glad I found your channel. You are truly ministering to my heart. I am hearing things from you that I have never heard in the way you are sharing them. I appreciate your time and I thank God for your life. May you continue to be blessed as you are blessing so many others. Please, what bible version do you prefer to study?
I so appreciate your encouragement and praise God that the videos are ministering to you. God is so faithful. I've studied from the NASB (New American Standard) for years (that's what I'm referring to in the videos. I also like the ESV. Blessings to you, sister!
