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I’m a wife of 7 years and we have had six children together. Got married at 19. Husband’s a contractor who works his ass off, taught me to lift weights, eat healthy, emotionally regulate and love my life. He and our children are an immeasurable blessing.
Sounds like a soldier. Great sign that he wants you to grow with him too. In our old age, all that matters to us is having someone by our side who values and understands us. Cherish and uplift your loved ones always.
Got married at 18. I am incredibly happy. Folks have been telling us we are in the “honey moon phase” for literally YEARS now. It is possible to marry young and stay married and be happy.
Can confirm what they’re saying: met my husband at the gym at 5 in the morning. We saw each other every day for months until he finally asked me out. He’s a conservative, finance bro, 6’2, brown eyes, love of my life. To meet him I had to become the person that goes to the gym at 5am and become the person I would want to date.
@@deadsick95 You missed the tiktok reference, but If being attracted to my husband because he is handsome, smart, and successful is superficial then so be it.
My mother at 65, me 30, revealed to me she thought her thyroid cancer was from all the times my dad choked her...lets play the silly little game of what "feminism" is and split the hair 50 ways on "modern"... Don't get me wrong on your 13 years. Good on ya...I just hope this hyper Christianized version seeking to spin "feminism" one way is very surreal to me (literally can't stand talking to the christian right). Maybe its just the two party dualism way of talking about things that adds to all the miscommunication by my upbringing. I WILL ALWAYS be a Feminist, and Ill let whatever version christian control freaks lie any and every way they want. Feminism wouldn't need to be a thing if your sky god didn't stop them from voting, getting a job, considered their reproduction, considered that some men are abusive, or have similar rights, be able to THINK for themselves. Jesus had no problem telling my mom to stick around...in fact, my broken nose at 7 (chewed some lipstick up, while urinating I got punched across the bathroom), broken ribs at 14 (talked back on being grounded to my room for 3 months), hundreds maybe thousands of belt bruises later....you and your sky super power friend...promised my mom an "eternal family", because she stuck through it all. Insanity.
Why in the heck would you offer women at age 21 free IVF! That is not the point here….. The process of IVF is cruel, there are many embryos that are created through the process one is picked and the rest are thrown away… life being thrown away. Similar to how we should accept the way God made our bodies male or female, the same way we should accept if we can or cannot have children. Then we pray to God and ask Him to gift us with children. IVF is NOT the answer.
@@markstewart4501 I'm sorry, but what in the world are you going off about? Your rant here is completely incoherent. I'm sorry if your dad was abusive but I can't understand what point you're even trying to make.
My wife and married at 22, both virgins. She walked away from an accounting firm where she was on a fast track to partner so she could be the best mother she could be. After four wonderful children and 35 years, we've never been more in love.
@@TheOlzee My husband and I are millennials and have a similar story; he had only had one partner, I had none, we weren't religious then so we didn't wait until we were married but we did marry young at 23 (we met just after our 18th birthdays). We are days from having our forth son in a row and very happy! I was on my way to being a professor and I am so glad I'm able to be at home instead, it's a real blessing.
Likewise... 41 years ago my wife and I married at 21 and 20. Two kids, three grandkids so far. We feel we've made it, it does happen. It wasn't perfect by any stretch, but we were committed from the start.
There is so much negativity in the comments already. Just because Brett is young and probably a little naive doesn't mean she's destined for divorce and misery. Real happiness is attainable.
Young and probably naïve was a valid excuse 20 years ago. It is no longer a valid excuse to be uninformed with the Internet, RU-vid channels, content creators, etc. Stop making excuses for other peoples bad decisions lady.
@@brianz7861 "How can anybody be enlightened? The truth is after all so poorly lit" - Neil Peart Just because *information* is out there, doesn't mean the truth is easy to find.
Well it makes sense. Video comes out, the most rabid haters immediately jump on it and leave comments, more levelheaded people come later (especially because they probably actually watch the whole thing), start downvoting the hater comments into the ground and leaving more positive comments... And now RU-vid doesn't show you the hater comments anymore. Sometimes the system works :)
Having a different opinion is not mean. Brett is unbelievably ignorant of the male dating experience. And that's okay because she's a lady. But just put yourself out. There isn't real advice for most men. Cuz we have been and we've got nothing to show for it
To those who aren't aware how the comments section works, as good comments get liked they rise above bad ones, as bad ones get disliked they lower and lower so no one sees them.
I like how Chris is comfortable saying “what’s that?” To anything he doesn’t know. I want that, comfortability and confidence to say I don’t know something, please tell me more. Completely admirable!!! Brett, you are amazing as always ❤
It's a skill you need to practice and hone. I try to do it, but sometimes I still fail and just end up nodding my head as if I knew all along--most of the time this ends up fine, but occasionally I come out looking like a dumbass because I didn't suss out the meaning through contextual clues.
The irony is that if you have the courage to do this often, you actually become more and more competent, which builds your confidence and courage even further.
Like Luke says, not only will you become more competent, but knowledgeable too. The key is to not worry about what others will think of you. I'm very naive but recognise it really is absolutely fine "not to know" & appreciate the opportunity to learn - if it's important to me, it stays with me. It's also very valuable in the workplace, especially if you are customer facing 😊
"Getting married at 22 is a pretty radical to do for someone with a career." It is only radical for people that believe a "career" will be more fulfilling to their lives than people that believe a family will be.
the reason its radical today is because of the usual lack of commitment that is present early and hence what ends up being a quick divorce, but Brett is an exception because shes already cemented her career instead of being in the initial stages of building it.
Maybe in the US its different but in my country its pretty radical mainly (ofc besides other things) because at that point very often U dont even make enough to live on your own... Especially if you show potwntial in a career that requires a degree (like lawyer, doctor etc.)
@@BalazsFingszEgyikFingja At 22, if you are preparing to be a doctor or a lawyer, you haven't started your career yet so that analogy doesn't really apply here (your education is not your career).
@@h00ded0ne4 i'm currently doing my law studies and work part time simultaniously at a comsulting firms law section. My program takes five years altogether and so far I did like 2,5 years of it while working. Honestly in my country a lot of us works during our law studies because the competition is really serious and you hope to get ahead with the extra experience (good grades or first class honours on their own dont necessarily cut it anymore unfortunately). So yeah I talked about my experience, here the border between our education and career has become pretty blurry to be honest. Theyre kinda connected for many of us. Maybe in the US its different.
Got married at 21 and 5 years later, not one regret. All of the people saying she’s too young can’t comprehend that at a young age it’s possible to know who you are , stay true to your values,and be ready enough to commit have someone that loves them enough to commit to them. Wouldn’t want to spend life with a partner who loves you. A friend you get to do life with? Not everyone is selfish.
I got married at 21 also and 6 years strong, I think the biggest thing is we grew out life together instead of taking two very independent people and trying to smash it together. That's what my friends are struggling with now is men and saying conflicts with their social and work schedule
I think half the time, people give advice based solely on what they perceive is best and what conforms to their values. The don't look at it from the perspective of the person who they are giving their advice to.
In my 20s my employer said that I should, "Marry for money the first time - then you can afford to marry for love."😮 I did not take his advice and I've been happily married now for 34 years and I loved, loved, loved being a stay-at-home mom!
Married at 19 and 20. Had my firstborn son a month before I turned 21. We are now married almost 14 years and have 4 kids together. We are really blessed!
My mother is a very successful doctor and I always felt her very present in my life. When I was seven she moved to Spain (we lived in south america) to do her masters while I stayed with my dad. They are happily married today and I think having such a positive and fun relationship with my dad really impacted my confidence and how I relate to men and seeing my mom so succesful in life and her carreer really shaped me as well. You can have a carreer (one that you are passionate about-not like a boring job) and be a great mother. And dads are I would argue even more important in today's world than before.
Very true ! My bf and I both love our careers (he’s a musician and I’m a marine biologist), but we know we’re gonna be great parents when we finally decide to both adopt & have them biologically. It’s about getting to a point in ur life where u can provide emotionally & financially
I married my husband when I was 20. Within four years I became a stay at home mom. Thirty-nine years later and we’re still married and just recently had our house full of our four kids and the spouses of those married. It’s a wonderful life.🥰
@@fourliltadpoles I wish I could have been a SAHM... I honestly hate feminism. If I had been born before that, I honestly believe I would have had a better life. I'm very meek and submissive and because of youth traumas, I'm a very nervous and fearful person as well. (which, in that time, my parents wouldn't have screwed up everything either so those traumas likely wouldn't exist) I don't function well enough for a normal job. So I'm on wellfare, which society naturally probably hates me for. I'm ashamed of it myself. I work on voluntary basis in the local library, but of course most people don't see that as "working" and I understand... they have a lot more patience with me, they don't get angry at me when I make mistakes, they don't put pressure on me and I don't have a lot of responsibility. The tasks are a lot more simple too. I know it's not comparable to a real job, but I really do what I can. But I'm not happy at all. I'm 33, a virgin and never had a relationship before. I don't expect a man to want to be with me... I definitely don't blame men. But it's sad. I'm often suicidal. If I didn't have my dog, I would have ended things a long time ago already. My first dog died two months ago. She had been my angel for 5 years. One of my brothers stayed over at my apartment and checked on me every single hour to make sure I wasn't doing anything stupid. Thankfully a few days after, the vet that had tried to save my dog told me about a dog that had lost his owner around the same time and she felt he was meant to be for me. He had no one else to take him. I immediately felt sympathy for him and also felt a connection so I agreed to meet him and well, you can guess the rest. He's the only one keeping me going. Knowing that he relies on me, that I have to take care of him. But yeah... I often wonder what my life could have been like in a different society than today.
I am glad to hear Brett speak favorably of Candace and that friendship isn’t phony. I don’t personally care for Candace but it’s good to see someone like Brett demonstrating loyalty. It’s good to know that you can still be real with people even when there’s drama.
@@simply.living.bettercause she’s fake, she’s legit just contrarian for the sake of being contrarian. Started all the way back when she denied that Kanye west’s tweets were anti-s3mitic , and now as of recently she believes the moon landing was fake lol . . Regardless, even though I’m not a fan of her , I respect Brett for being loyal to their friendship over siding with her company. She handled that either way grace and professionalism.
@Rio26202 , @simply.living.better Because way lower in the food chain compared to Candance Owens so she can and is appreciating openly. Wait till Brett gets there and lets see how genuine it is. I agree @simply.living.better , @simply.living.better and @sjappiyah4071 she is super annoying. I watched here many times and with Chris Cumos debate on PBD she was over the top. Plus first 20 mins with Bill Maher was also super annoying. It is like a bug or mosquito buzzing near your ear. I am like you don't have to yell and be angry all the time, with all the topics/views.
When my wife and I met, neither of us wanted children. That was a relationship condition for both of us. I got married 4 years ago at 23, had a daughter a year later. I'm 27 now and I can't express how great marriage and being a father are. It's impossible to explain to someone that doesn't have kids how they change your life for the better
I’m 22, married, and have a baby. I totally understand her talking about how hard it is to step away from her career. But, despite being a 99% of the time stay at home mom, I’ve found there is so much out there for me still. Ive been a first responder my entire career, now I work 1 24 hour shift a month, it’s a total reset for me and my husband and baby have “boys weekend” as he calls it. They love it. My husband and I joined the local volunteer fire department together and they’ve created roles for me that allows me to have my baby with me and I only respond when my husband is home, it totally works. I still get to do what I love without ever compromising my baby’s needs. Also, marriage is the best thing ever. Everyone told us the first year is really hard, but we just had tons of fun and joy. Even through pregnancy and the newborn stage.
I don't know why people are so malicious towards Brett. She comes across as a thoughtful, no nonsense and down to earth girl to me. I'm the same age as her and I totally look up to her. Thank you Chris for having her on!
I can see it, and I agree with most of her perspectives on life. Her 'dark side' comes out in very small outbursts, for example: they mentioned pickleball and she said (in reference to a group of all men playing) "it was the gayest thing she's ever seen, just go play tennis or boxing or something." She does a pretty good job of riding the fence, but if you pay attention you can see some of the motives poke through every once in awhile.
Successful, feminine, cute, has morals, chasing meaning, etc. etc. etc. seems to be doing 100x better than the dum dums in the comments saying shes too young to get married lol.
I got married at 22 while still in university, now 28, both of us graduated and are working good jobs, and still happily married. There’s been loads of growth and ups and down, but I wouldn’t want to live any other way. People don’t know the joy of growing together. Currently pregnant with our first baby and couldn’t be more excited to grow our family
She’s the perfect blend of idealism and realism. She has lofty goals for a traditional life but also has approached it with her eyes wide open and with wisdom. This is the kind of person who will marry once and forever and create a beautiful life with her husband.
When I ditched the Feminist Marxist cult/religion I found freedom and happiness. Brett is 100% correct. The only thing I remember about my feminist mother was that she was miserable and made my father and me miserable with the resentment that is inherent in such an antagonistic ideology. It takes too much energy to always be in such an activist state of mind, always looking for how one has been wronged all to project and avoid one’s own accountability then wondering why nothing gets better in their lives and it’s damaging effect on others.
That has been my experience exactly. I too left feminism. Thank God I was already very young so my entire life wasn't derailed. I'm a 22 yr old virgin woman. I can still do everything right. yay. God bless you
I know many 30 somethings who are more immature than 20 yr olds and vice versa. I guess it comes down to social education, critical thinking, IQ and good influences? Age doesn't seem to be a very good determinant of a successful relationship (excluding minors ofcourse). I'm a 22 yr old woman. So grateful for positive influences like Brett, Candace owens and Matt Walsh etc. They saved me from modern feminism. Thank god I was curious enough to do research rather than stay in my echo chamber xD
I disagree with a lot of the things Brett believes in, but I really really like her. She's articulated, able to provide arguments for her opinions, smart and positive. I think what people lack nowadays is the ability to agree to disagree and the ability to see nuances. For most political stances, there is no right or wrong because there is no such thing as a perfect political system. I also seriously dislike the dichotomy that exists in the American politics - there is nothing wrong with taking ideas from both sides. I really enjoyed this talk.
I have to say this is one of the best comments I've read in an extremely long time. You're absolutely correct. A good idea is just that, no matter where it came from. Person, side of isle, or time in history. There's a definitive lack of respect for the opinions of others these days. That's the single biggest issue I see. Or lack of respect, period. And that leads to the inability to listen to each other.
I really respect this comment. I am someone who leans to agree more with Brett on these kinds of things, but finally hearing a respectful kind comment of someone who might disagree more with her is so refreshing. I don't really care what you beleive, but we've lost the ability to hear people out and be kind no matter what,
I agree! The way she lives her life is not for me, but she's very eloquent and lovely to listen to. She obviously knows what she wants in life and working towards that goal. To me, feminism is about having the freedom to choose.. She's made her choice and it's ridiculous that it is controversial for her to want to marry, have children and be the very best mother she can be.
well duh, that's why it's radial, at the moment people require more time to work themselves out such that a 22 years today, won't be the same person when they are 32, hence marrying someone that early comes with a real risk that the person you married won't be the same person in a few years.
@mcbean1 dude, everyone changes. You aren't the same person at 20/30, or you are not growing. Waiting it out means you will both devolp trauma 'dating around'. Speaking from experience. Marriage will only work with God though
@@mcbean1It's not that they need more time to work themselves out but instead that they are waiting for the perfect time to get married. You will never be done growing and changing as a person, even into your 80s.
@@ElAndresRodriguez Sure you never stop growing but the turbulence one endures between 20-30 is no where near the same as 50-60, that's the point, yes you continue to refine who you are, but ones major personality changes are generally set by 30ish
I married at 19 and became a mother at 22. My husband and i always say we finished raising each other. Together we've started two successful businesses, had six children, and now i homeschool them and absolutely love my life.
Good for you! You probably heard this a lot, but time flys by so fast and littles get big so fast. Enjoy the time you have. Our kids have been a lot of stress with different issues, but I don't regret any of them and it's tough for me seeing our latest baby get big (1 year old now). They are so awesome. Watching them grow and seeing who they become. We are so thrilled with our children. And your marriage probably has some issues with a baby in the mix. Every baby has stressed my marriage, anyway. But we work on getting connected again and it's been 9 years and still going. God has helped us through a ton. Health, financial, and emotional issues. It's been wild. And it's been fun! There are so many amazing memories. Good luck!!!
This girl was all over my feed and, admittedly, I didn't want to hear anything she had to say, being only 22. But take it back and accept I was being ageist. I enjoyed listening to her viewpoints, and she has deep insight. Not many people have this at this stage of life. I am curious how her views will evolve in ten years. But after listening, I feel less worried about the next generation knowing an influencer like her exists.
My husband and I got married at 18, four years ago, and we are saving every single penny to build a future for ourselves and our eventual children. Gen Z is struggling in this modern society, but we are NOT lost.
Both of my grandmother's were married and had their first child by 20 years old. My grandmother on my dad's side. Was married and was pregnant by 19 years old . She had six kids, five survived to adulthood. When her kids started to get old enough to start to take care of themselves. She went back to school, to not only get an education, but have a job. As woman and a mother. She got into aero space industry. Where she worked on making circuit boards for the defense industry. My grandmother before she retired in her mid sixties. She was in charge of the quality/control for circuit boards. Those circuit boards went into F15s, F16s, and the F117 stealth fighter. My grandmother on my mom's side. Had 15 kids. My grandfather on my mom's side not only worked for the railroad, but also worked on the farm on his days off. All of my aunts and uncles on my mom's side worked on the farm. They learned what hard work was at a very young age.
I’ve been reading for a while and haven’t seen any negative comments?? I have learned, however, that all her followers got married in their early 20’s….
It's a classic RU-vid phenomena, the wannabe opinion contrarian. 10 people comment A, then 5000 people bravely go against the grain and declare despite all the hate their support for B instead. True heroes
So, people are saying Brett is naive because she married at 22? What? I got married at 21, I’m still happily married 6 years later, we have children whom we are also happily raising. Don’t project your lives onto hers because you made bad choices in life that resulted in divorce.
Chris clearly decided to be dedicated to his work...which would leave less time and energy to focus on a partner and a family. Chris is an amazing human being he's too busy to catch 😂. I like to joke the only reason I was able to connect with my current partner was when he broke his leg and had no choice but to slow down. If he hadn't broken his leg he would have been working constantly and I wouldn't have even considered him as an option, let alone as a long term partner.
It's just statistically it's unlikely to work out. That's being realistic, the more you marry young the more the chances of divorces. The age with the more long term marriages is 28-29. Doesn't mean it's impossible but people change and life circonstances change as you grow older. Let's see in 10 years if she's in the same position, same thinking etc.. I really wish her but life rarely works out how you want it.
My father said to not get married before 30. I dated many amazing women when i was younger but from my upbringing i did not take any of them super serious and broke up with a couple and the rest broke up with me Now i am 33 and the dating climate has radically changed as well as some of my politcal and moral beliefs making it more difficult to speak to women. Guess we shouls have been looking for marriage earlier
At the age of 8, I had three thoughts for my future. Between ages of 10 and 11, much hatred entered my life. My desires were to find a get a decent job, marry a decent woman, and make a good life for the kids. That was the 1960s. I was in the academic courses, which meant college. With other factors in my life, I wondered how my academic courses would be best for those goals. It might be wise for people to keep track of their goals, and what needs to be done to achieve them.
Speaking as a guy on the center left, Brett is so refreshing. She is able to present the best parts of conservative values without making you feel attacked for being a progressive(majority of the time). It helps to showcase your side when you're not looking to "destroy" someone on the other side of the political spectrum.
Woman on the center left and I agree ! The only thing I’ll never agree w her on is that most women are like this, she’s just too chronically online I fear 🤚🏼😭. But yeah she’s cool
I got married at 22 - everyone told me it wouldn't last, that I was too young to possibly know what I wanted in a relationship. I'm now 30 and we are stronger and happier than ever, and my marriage has survived so many things that other people get divorced over, while many of our friends from college are on their second and third marriages. What I've learned & found in my own personal experience is that it's not the age that matters, it's the intention. If you get married with the intention of growing together & staying together & being willing to face life's challenges as a team, you have a much higher chance of success than the people who get married merely based on the honeymoon phase/lovey dovey feeling.
Tbh marrying in young adulthood is quite ideal. The body is at it's physical peak. People are naturally full of energy, motivation, optimism. Progressing in early adult life together gives you a huge sense of belonging and trust.
@@lippi2171 100%. My husband & I have been through so much - pregnancy loss, major medical diagnoses, career changes, and so much more. All of my major milestones in my adult life, both good & bad, are intertwined with his. I trust him with my life.
I’m in a relationship for a year, I’m independent nearly paid my mortgage and doing well. I get what I want within my limits and I do this in my time. Being in a relationship has helped me to be less selfish, less decisive and more inclusive. My partner is a go-getter so i told him that i will step back and support him whilst he focuses on our relationship and his career. So when he travels for work we plan for me to be with him to help us get balance in our relationship and I get to see more of the world from different perspectives and be my partners PA when he needs me, ironing his clothes, washing, keeping the house clean, giving him leadership advice from my experiences and academic input. I get to do things I always wanted, go on gardening, creative art, cooking courses, and to become a therapist at some point to give back to society. My new role is not a step back it’s a huge step forward outside of corporate politics. I can be real and be in nature and go to the gym to develop cross-fit skills with my partner and by myself.
I only just started the video, but... I'm not willing to give up my family, the wellness of my family, and actually being a PART of my family for some worldly success. I can be successful later, if I even wanted to do that. Our fertility doesn't last forever. Our youth doesn't last forever. Taking care of my kids requires much more from me than a career would, and I'd rather give it to them than to some job for which I'm replaceable. Brett, I love you. You're amazing. Thanks for being the woman you are.
How many kids do you have ? People don't have jobs to have career. Some have it to put food on the table tooo. Not every mother in this world can stay at home due to circumstances. And that's me talking from traditional society in a third world country.
@@Dhyaam5989I didn't say every mother has to do this, or should, or can. But personally, I find it to be a silly argument that some women make, that they won't give up their career for a family. I see it the opposite way: I won't give up my family for a career. I have four kids.
@@Dhyaam5989 FWIW, I was referring specifically to something she said in the video. I agree that this is a false dichotomy: work-oriented vs. family-oriented. I'm sorry I don't have time to read everything you said in depth right now, or respond in depth. I have to make lunch for two of my kiddos. If I remember, I will come back later and reread!
We met when we were 19 and got married at 23. Going on almost 20 years. Best decision I've ever made. Im so glad I've never had to do the bar scene and dating apps. Just found a woman, I couldnt be without.
I totally agree - when I'm going through a difficult time w my husband I always think: "At least I don't have to deal with dating" 😂 Married when I was 21, 16 years and counting, plus 3 kids I'm so proud of
My parents got married at 19 and were married til the day my mom passed and my dad was never the same after... love isn't all rainbows and sunshine it's not perfect but you and your spouse will have your story no one else's and I hope for a beautiful life for you both.
My wife and I first met when we were 22. I was head over heels by the third date. We got married 7 months later. When we married we owned nothing save for two old cars. But we figured it out together. 33 years and 11 children later, she's still the love of my life. We've got 5 college grads, two more in college, 3 marriages and 2 more soon to be married. Get married, stay married...you can do it. In fact, there's nothing really worth more doing in this life. Looks fade, careers fade, but marriage and children are forever.
My daughter is getting married at 18, and i think its GREAT!!!! 50 to 70 years ago, families supported their daughters finding a great young man, and getting married. It disgusts me how we have made marriage a terrible thing.
I was married at 22. 3 kids and 20 years later, I’m widowed. Said all that to say, it can work. Though sometimes things happen out of your control. But it is possible.
Chris immediately going into his Sloth impression from The Goonies while Brett shared about her awkward ugly duckling puberty phase is giving serious big brother energy 🤣😂
I met my husband at 18, at a local pub quiz. It was heavily raining and I didn’t have a car so he drove me home. He didn’t put any moves on me just took me home. We met at the pub quiz every week for a month before he asked me out. We’ve been together 15 years now with 2 kids and love each other more every day.
It is interesting that we humans have such a strong inclination to “retaliate” against people who have made different decisions with their lives than we did.
Nope and nope that's entirely dependent on the situation cynical can save you from being killed or maimed in lots of situations if your naive your assumption is built on the hope that the thing embarked on is something one can afford to be naive on and the thing you can afford to be naive on was probably not significant anyway because if it was you would have approached with some discretion.
When Brett was talking about how much of her content is evergreen I just thought "this would be the perfect transition to a RuffGreens ad!" Whenever she mentioned the importance of balance in life, as she did when speaking about her social media use, I couldn't help thinking "what a perfect jumping point for a Balance of Nature ad!" 😂 I'm becoming too suspicious of everything she says being the beginning of ad and I love it
Twice divorced at 25, but I don't regret a thing. Age was never the problem. It was a lack of self-awareness and commitment. Be certain about who you are and what you want, and acknowledge that both WILL ALWAYS change over time. It takes a days to cut down trees. It takes months or years to build a house. But it takes a lifetime to build a home.
Met my husband at 18 and he was 25. I’ve been with him for 12 years and we have 2 beautiful kids. We fall more in love with each other every year that passes! I’m still crazy about that man. Having a Christ centered marriage is essential!
I occasionally listen to Brett, not often just because I'm not really interested in pop culture. I'm only 6 minutes in and I have a whole new level of respect for Brett, and her outlook of life.
My wife and I started dating when I was 18 and she was 17. Got married after a few years. We met 1st semester of college in math class lol. I'm a mechanical engineer she's a Nurse Practioner who works part time so she can be home with out 1 year old daughter the other time. We have been together 22 years and I couldn't be. Happier
My wife and I married young and broke at 19, started having kids while still being broke at 21, and are still going strong 26 years later. The only regret I have, is not having more kids!
This episode is on point! My two favorite shows coming together. My husband and I got married at 19 and we have been married almost 18 years. Best decision I have ever made even though we received much criticism at the time. We both went through college, bought a house and have two kids. I think people forget the power of growing together and are more focused on their individual lives. There is such beauty in growth with your partner. It provides a richness in your life you can’t replace with individual ambitions. I know not everyone is able to find someone young, but I think we need to stop making marriage in your 20’s so taboo. After working in the family law field off and on for almost 20 years, I also have realized the later you get married the more problems you seem to have. I think it goes back to the fact you become more set in your ways as you get older and are less likely to want to grow with someone which causes issues.
My wife and I married at 22 and 24, respectively. Over 16 years later, we're more deeply committed than ever to each other, and to God in responsibility for each other.
Got married at 23, now I am 26 and pregnant with our first ❤ I love my husband very much, and yet STILL get shamed for "settling down so young" by family, coworkers, random people. I am so grateful for our church community..
Got married in 09. Been together since 06. Of course, not every step has been perfect, but there is no better alternative to having a family and spending life with the one you love
I like Brett, but I struggle with multi millionaire boss babes talking about how being a boss babe is bad. No hate, not saying she’s young, or naive. Just that hasn’t ever been addressed.
I KNOW. Also, the fact that her family wealth never gets mentioned baffles me. She got all those opportunities and activities when she was young, thanks to some money running in her family - no wonder she has a dream life (seamingly) - money is not everything but greatly helps, to say the least !
@RichardTavilla lol thats absolutely not how it works. Im not saying she doesnt have any merit. But talent flourishing is linked to financial privilege, whether you like it or not. It is extremely obvious in her case when you listen to her whole story. The fact of not acknowledging this at all is dishonest in general.
@@Hermes-xc8jp my point is she is talented and hardworking in a business sense. She’s extremely likable. Watch her for 2 minutes and you can see why she blew up. My point is, that person who is grinding and making millions kinda contradicts that point.
Married my high school sweetheart when I was 21 🌹🐈⬛ Celebrating 7 years of marriage and 14 years total ~ My marriage is my greatest accomplishment and blessing in life 💗
She is amazing in her relationship advice. Women, your body is a temple. Do not allow anyone to desecrate your temple. Any man that loves you, doesn't need to have sex to love you. Marriage is a lifelong commitment. You go girl!!!!
There are alot of attractive women on the internet, but I just realized what draws me to Brett is not just that she is pretty, or "ideal", but that she is someone to admire. Its funny how 20 years ago, not being a tradwife was looked at as going against the status quo, which made women attractive and admirable. Fast forward to 2024 and the status quo is being a anti-tradwife feminist. The fact that she has more than enough awareness and drive to not be sheep, to stand for her own outlook on life, is very admirable.
We got engaged after 10 weeks, married 6 months later, at the age of 23. Fifteen years later... couldn't be happier. Looking forward to the next fifty. When you know, you know. No need to wait to check if there is something better if there's already something great right in front your very eyes.
Chris, I loved your questions! I’ve always wondered about the day-to-day stuff. I also appreciate that, when an idea was discussed by either of you, a concrete example was usually given to make the idea tangible. This interview’s down-to-earth communication style and topics made it approachable, and listening sure made folding laundry more enjoyable. My (homeschooled) high school year old daughter is not on social media or RU-vid, but she does LOVE listening to Brett. Her show, though it does have some language, has served as excellent fodder for mother-daughter discussion. It is also a great way for her to learn about cultural trends without being thrown into the middle of them. Brett’s commentary has helped her think deeply about her life and the culture around her. I am thankful for her show. Thanks for the excellent interview!
As a mother of 2 young daughters I'm constantly worried about the potential dangers of social media and how we will handle the issue of them being online when the time comes. ...Although our 7year old is currently dressed as Harry Potter making a potion in the border of our front garden with her school friend, so maybe were good for another few years yet! 😅
just make sure that she knows that not every child has the opportunity to pretend make a potion at age 7.. just let her know people come very damaged sometimes and that she won’t be able understand why soo many young people her age are dysfunctional.. and im not insulting u, im saying good job momma, some day we’ll be able to ensure all children are raised as such 🥺
Do not allow social media. Also, start pointing out now how people will take 30 different pics and put the best one on it. It is important to start making comments on how it is people only putting their best or fake aspects of life. I think having conversations about real life and its struggles age appropriately is necessary. For instance, when my kids were toddlers on and they wanted toys from the store, I would say no, not today and they would say, because I need a job? Yes baby, that is why. We can’t get everything we want and explaining gently why. I show my boys articles where people who post stuff when they were teenagers and they were crucified as adults later on and lost jobs. We also talk about the studies and how it is addictive and how it literally changes their brains. I also am no longer on social media and my husband is not really on it. We model how it is a tool, but not an important part of our lives.
At 1:53:16 Brett said something that really resonated with me and I respect that at 21 years old she is mindful of this... for years I lamented the decision an ex girlfriend took (who I thought I was going to marry tbh) to end my 3 year relationship with her exactly because of this... She graduated college in 2010 at 23 years old. While I still had 3 more years of college ahead of me (I was 24 at the time), she went out to the workforce and got a taste of what earning adult money was like, she saved enough and eventually bought her 1st car, meanwhile I was still using public transportation to go to college and to my part time job trying to survive and finishing my degree in engineering, she absolutely got impatient with our relationship and we started to fight almost everyday until she became indifferent In late 2011, I noticed she stopped caring for me altogether, we would make plans to do things together but she stopped prioritizing our time, several times she went out with other dudes to concerts where she sure fire started to cheat on me. Christmas of 2011 rolled around and I didnt get any sort of gifts from her like I always had years prior then a couple of weeks into January 2012 she finally had the talk with me and ended the relationship I started to put the pieces together and realized she started seeing a guy from her workplace who was way older than me and was making bank at the time and they at least started dating since November of 2011 and i was clueless. That was the hardest relationship in my life and the biggest heartbrake i had to go through, she and I daydreamed of getting married having kids and leaving the country, but nah, she thought she was more mature than me and that I'd never reach her level I move on and in late 2012 started a new relationship to the woman who became my wife with which i recently celebrated 10 years of marriage. It was at the beginning of my new relationship that i found out my ex gf was pregnant, which was devastating for me but something odd happened... Months before starting my new relationship, my ex gf called me and we had a one night stand, it was that night that while she was asleep i decided to go through her messages on her phone and found out the saddest messages i could ever find from her partner (yes she cheated on him with me) ... reading those messages it was clear he was extremely abusive with her and pretty much used her as a rag doll for s*x and nothing more, i could tell she was desperate for someone who cared about her but our relationship was way beyond repair and there was no turning back She ended up having had a baby boy with him and they got married, then more time passed ,years at this point, and I heard through the grapevines that their marriage falied and they ultimately divorced I tell all this story because had she been patient with me she probably would still have a marriage and a family, likely with me In the end I did graduate and met someone new, had a family of my own and moved out of the country as i had always planned and I can say I'm happily married 10 years later.❤
I don’t remember getting older. I turn 55 next month. I married my 18 year old HS sweetheart at 19. It’s has been the single best decision of my entire life. It has been the most amazing marriage, I couldn’t possibly imagine a better life with my wife. It really has been perfect. I wish that for everybody, but I know it’s rare. I hope Brett and Alex have it.
We all married early when I was young. I was one of a close group of students. A boy I met when we were both 19 married at 22. At 25 and you were on the shelf. Many of that gang of students only two broke up, the seven of us left all finished growing up together, holidayed together from time to time and remained happy in our slow move to maturity, middle age then retirement. They were innocent days compared with today. I am not saying put the clock back at all but I am saying that maybe our rush to mature might not be the best for everybody.
Brett not only looks like a younger female Ben Shapiro, but also speaks as fast as him. I may need to set the playback speed to x0.75 to be able to follow the conversation 😂
I 💯 thought they were siblings for about a year. I introduced Brett’s show to my husband and said “this is Ben Shapiro’s sister”. I’ll never believe she’s not. 😂
I'll be 30 this year and am still single. I always just thought/hoped I'd meet someone naturally, through school or work or friends, like the majority of people I know did. And it just hasn't happened. Dating apps always felt so unnatural to me and were never something I was comfortable with. But I'm very active in my church, pursue my interests in whatever ways I can, do my best to take care of my body, etc... I say all this to say that some things are just out of your control and everyone's timeline is different. I've seen so many comments online telling women in my position that we must be the problem. There must be something wrong with us, we must be doing/saying something so unlovable to prevent us from attracting good men. And I simply don't think that's the case, but it can be so hurtful when you hear it often enough. Not to mention, I know some pretty terrible, unstable people who have significant others lol so I'm pretty sure that's not an accurate measure of any kind of superiority
@@mcedwards "That's not what I'm saying and I refuse to elaborate why I'm blaming the timeline and claiming some things are just out of your control, while failing to realize the only factors I can control is myself"
@@BadMannerKoreaIt's interesting you interpreted it that way, I took it differently. I know the kind of comments she's talking about and it often comes across like men think we just float through life without a care in the world, get offered all the opportunities simply by flicking our hair and fluttering our eyelashes and of course cannot walk down the street for getting approached by dozens of eligible bachelor's, whom we of course turn down because we are all 10's and deserve our 6"5 jacked millionaire . 💁🏼♀️😂 The reality is most average women don't get approached in normal life. (Unless you count the occasional tradie van beeping us in the street.) The rhetoric I mentioned may well apply to some women but it's probably reserved for the top 5%, as it is for the equivalent cohort of men.
@@tempsoda I'm not "interpreting" anything, she said it. She straight up said "some things are just out of your control and everyone's timeline is different". She is blaming outside factors and failing to take responsibility. Your reply above is now more blaming, just like her---the ease of dating when it comes to attractive women and how average women don't get approached. You should take responsibility, because anything else doesn't look good unless you're perfect
I got married at 24, I'm a lawyer, is it cool? yes, but my biggest dream? being a mother, 100%, we are talking about it now, an he is on board too, building a family with a good foundation has always been my main goal in life, and I found someone that dreams the same. My job is nice, but being a wife is what a truly love to do, I'm brazilian, and everytime a I say that I would sacrifice my job to be a mom 24/7 people go crazy, so, not different around here
Not too late, but it'll be hard to find someone good who's not snatched up yet. Plus if you want kids you'd biologically need a younger woman. There's a lot of career girls who hit their thirties and realize they want a family. Find a church or routine social function that you're drawn to and find a thirty-something who's also drawn there, and you can bond over your commonalities and shared future goals. They might be divorced or with kids already, but that's a compromise you may have to make at your age, and there are still good women who have that past. My parents got married in their mid thirties. Still going strong decades later with four kids. There's hope should you choose to act on it.
@ante5544 I will probably have to. I can marry a woman who has been divorced. The only thing I will probably stay firm on is that I don't want to marry a woman with children. Most of the time, being a stepdad is an awful situation for men. I would be more open to adopting kids than being a step father. If I fell head over heels for a single mom, so be it-but it's the last resort.
Get off your phone and get out there! I am 29, my man is 48. Our baby is almost 14 months old. Make yourself desirable to the women you are interested in.
@irislikestosew I am working on myself to become more desirable. In the last 9 months I have lost 60 lbs. I am also transitioning careers to increase my earning potential. I recently joined a local church.
My parents got married right out of high school and they’re the best example of unwavering love that I’ve seen in my life. 36 years later now. My lil sis got married to her high school sweetheart last month at 20 and I have zero doubts in them both. Idk man, young love works and marriage is the thing that turns a child into a proper adult.
My wife and I got married at 22 and we have three kids together (one in heaven). We highly recommend it, but we didn’t rush into it. While we were young, we were both raised with valuing marriage, we both strongly value our faith in Jesus and are aligned on other values, both had good work ethics and were fortunate to meet at age 19 and spent three years dating before a short engagement. I’ve loved growing with her and spending the best years of my life with her and now our sweet boys. Thank you for helping break some cultural myths that need to be broken.
My husband and I got married at 21. We’ve been together since 15. It’s been 22 years together. As tough as marriage can be it’s been so rewarding for both of us as it has presented us with opportunities to grow as individuals and as a couple. These opportunities for growth wouldn’t be possible without marriage or partnership. Both of us have to sacrifice things in life for a family life. Even though we only had one child, it’s been literally the best thing i have done and I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.
My dad was 23, my mum was 21 when they got married. It's been 55 years since, abd they're still together. It took me awhile to see the subtleties of their relationship, how they take care of each other. These things were bever clearly stated, but you see them if you're observant.
Got married at 18 years old. Will be married 13 years this October, and together for 17 years. ❤❤❤ Just because you are young doesn't mean your marriage will fail.
