The Selfish Benefits of Kindness

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@braincraft 4 года назад

I’m baaaack! With some words of wisdom... and science. Do something kind for others, okay? Turns out it’s pretty good for *you*

@willemvandebeek 4 года назад

Welcome back! :)

@StaticImage 4 года назад

The positivity in this video made me feel very happy

@braincraft 4 года назад

@@StaticImage 😁

@KBS_ar 4 года назад

I like how you made 'you' small. Your voice is unique I love it. I tried to be emotionless but my life went to hell I thought if I become emotionless I'll as successful as Japaneses are. It turned out that our cultures are deifferent. Going back to kindness and interactive mood again 😁👍🏼💚

@deadlynightshade7867 4 года назад

Everything we do is actually selfish. We help people to make are (self's) happy

@pusspussmckitten 4 года назад

The killing them with kindness is taking way longer then I expected

@braincraft 4 года назад

😂

@delancyj67 3 года назад

According to this video, you are more likely to outlive them.

@HumansOfVR 4 года назад

*_"Helpers High"_* is such a wonderful thing!

@braincraft 4 года назад

This is such a great term for it!

@MidwestArtMan 4 года назад

I was confused when I heard “early immortality” but then realized you said “earlier mortality”. Those are quite different.

@RosheenQuynh 4 года назад

I'm so glad I wasn't the only one! xD

@fran6b 4 года назад

Being kind for the environment can be rewarding too!

@farouq7107 4 года назад

Another reason to be kind is why not. You won’t lose a thing when you are nice to others. Even if your health doesn’t improve and you still have chronic and mental issues, at least there are people who you are nice to that will help you. The though of you making someone smile should be more than enough to do it

@RealThomasHyldig 4 года назад

Agreed !

@ruaoneill9050 4 года назад

I agree. I’m not sure why, but the thought of setting kindness targets, doesn’t feel right?

@RealThomasHyldig 4 года назад

It's so true, awesome video Vanessa! Kindness is ironically enough a selfish act ! Because you get all the benefits like reduced stress, you live longer and it makes you feel better too !

@AthAthanasius 4 года назад

I'd say it's "not selfless", rather than "is selfish". Definitions of "selfish" say it's without regard for others.

@pohkeee 4 года назад

Ironically, you’re apt to survive longer too because people are less likely to want to strangle your selfish arse! 😳🤷‍♀️

@redhammer92 4 года назад

Me and my dad have been talking about this a lot lately. We both go out of our way to help people but we agree we do it selfishly. I think being selfish is ok in this sense. Thanks for the video!

@Aquagreen53 4 года назад

You and your dad sound awesome 😁

@TreespeakerOfTheLand 4 года назад

There are also material benefits through reciprocity. In the Netherlands, we can collect stamps for a free coffee by buying a coffee. I am always kind to baristas at my uni and sometimes I get double stamps or even a free coffee. Reciprocity can be abused as well, so be careful about that. You don't want to be the person who manipulates others.

@Master_Therion 4 года назад

Thank you Vanessa for this video about being kind. You are... one of a kind!

@rainbowfoxmagicgrrrl 4 года назад

Vanessa I'm so glad you're making this series!

@skybluskyblueify 4 года назад

I love videos like this that help improve the world and human society. One thing to keep in mind is the cause of this ability to improve while doing either of these kindness measures. It could be that people who are depressed or that have anxiety problems are unlikely to participate in such experiments or receive benefits from them. So if you know someone that does not try to do such things or turns it down, it could be that they are suffering in the first place rather than having their suffering be caused by either refusal or inability to do such kind things. So be kind to your fellow humans and give people that refuse to this the benefit of the doubt.

@AlecMuller 4 года назад

RU-vid's algorithms are so weird! Something made me think of your channel, so I looked it up and discovered I haven't seen any of your videos in months in spite of being subscribed. Notification bell is now on. I enjoy & appreciate your work.

@suchizonline 4 года назад

Lovely! Sharing this video on my FB page that is about kindness. It's called 'A Kind Me' ! It's perfect reminder to my followers to be kind!

@Grizzly_Lab 4 года назад

Well, I have to admit that I *do* recognize the benefits. I operate as a rescue volunteer on a local civil-defense organisation in my town, and I see how being both kind and useful not only helps us being better persons (and give help to people in need) but, at the (literal) end of the day, results also as a nice... let's call it "marvellous self-esteem elixir" So thanks for this video and analysis: I've found it really useful and interesting: it'd be another (positive) message about keeping myself into this kindness road 👍 (and, to share some kindness, let me also offer a gentle scratch on Luna's head 😉)

@PracticalInspiration 4 года назад

The subject in this video made me think of Friends, the episode when Phoebe and Joey debate if there's such a thing as a truly selfless act :D

@ruaoneill9050 4 года назад

Practical Inspiration I think about that debate ALL THE TIME!!!!

@dmrc43 4 года назад

Reading the title and i already agree with you.

@dmrc43 4 года назад

P.s you already know I liked this video. 🙃

@RealThomasHyldig 4 года назад

I had it the same way lol !

@liriodosvales2009 4 года назад

legends say you're so kind that will give me a heart

@Larry21924 7 месяцев назад

This is a treasure trove of content. A related book was a pivotal experience for me. "Kindness Unveiled: A Journey to a Happier Life" by why i live a happy life

@Arthera0 4 года назад

Something related to this topic is that I feel guilty when people give me stuff. I don't know why it happens but it does.

@BobBob-xv1ny 2 года назад

Maybe you feel guilty or undeserving related to something you did. It can be something you didn't and just made yourself to believe so. I feel the same as well I don't like when people give me things.

@johnalexanderpaiva 4 года назад

Thank you for your great videos. I appreciate them.

@jvoolich 4 года назад

Nice inspiration. I’d also enjoy longer videos on these psychological topics.

@BattlewarPenguin 4 года назад

Being a jerk doesn't pay off later in the long term, (unless you want to be in a relantionship) and you will miss opportunities because of it, being kind often brings new unexpected opportunities

@christopheb9221 4 года назад

I don't think it's just kindness but overall cooperation and I think most people return kindness. Also this type of stuff should be taught in elementary school along with conflict resolution and

@rod.lustosa 4 года назад

I love this series!! I click in new episodes without even thinking

@braincraft 4 года назад

Thanks Rodrigo!

@rod.lustosa 4 года назад

@@braincraft ❤❤❤

@SteveJB 4 года назад

1:34 how did the study determine that the children made more friends? Did Kid A do something nice for Kid B and then Kid A said at the end of the week "yeah, they're my friend now," but when Kid B asked if they would consider Kid A their friend, Kid B had to be reminded of who Kid A was? :)

@jinenjuce 9 месяцев назад

As a gentle reminder, I am choosing kindness. Which means I’m more than happy to explore other options, if I feel that kindness is not working out. You see, I’m not committed to the kindness. There is no ring on my finger in regards to the kindness. I will jump the kindness ship with such ease you will wonder if I was ever on board.

@Solizeus 4 года назад

What about how people feel when they are rejected while trying to be nice?

@Avvura 4 года назад

I describe myself as aggressively kind

@lucierevay6165 4 года назад

Totally off topic, but... I LOVE YOUR ACCENT :) :)

@Dootnd 4 года назад

But in the scenario you described there were no kindness to be noticed, the normal thing would be just to let it go and leave, even when he said have a nice day you would not be likely ever notice anything about the situation.

@Limomon 4 года назад

I usually dislike to praise myself, but for once I'm kind to myself and do it anyway: Recently, I noticed that I regularly do a small act of kindness by watching videos on RU-vid as soon as I can if they are from a smaller RU-vidr, in hopes to boost their chances of getting picked up by this unforgiving RU-vid algorithm. And yet I don't know if it is paying off in the end for them. I also picked up the habit of actually liking every video I like, even though it'd be easier to just move along. Now I'll go back to a neutral feeling towards me, because writing this comment made me physically uncomfortable. :)

@christopheauguste1532 4 года назад

Giving a like to this video is not an act of kindness at all... it's just giving it what it's deserve!

@poorplayer9249 4 года назад

WHAT LIVES INSIDE We scrutinize morals, gauge ethical standards. We weigh and we balance and proclaim the results. But the subject of the judgement isn't really being tested. The questions, and their answers, say more about us. We are defined by what we care about, Refined by what we do about it, Shine brightest when in service to those most in need. The elemental bond forged within the act of giving Rewards the giver with a bonus transcending the deed. A connection, a belonging, a sense of community, For some the fulfillment of a search for unity. These bonds keep us in touch with our own humanity. All that from a concept so easy, so simple, To reach out, lift up, to extend a helping hand.

@narwhaleicornog 4 года назад

The switch to a more papercraft style, is interesting. Still the same amazing lessons so no issue with me! Its also impressive btw stop motion is no joke lol

@martinwrangler1353 2 года назад

You be kind to people on a regular basis the universe returns the energy

@Shmrky1 4 года назад

I think that is true. Because... A month ago some crushing sound brakes my sleep after nightshift. My first thought was it's earthquake. I was going to the opened window to leave a house. Than I saw what actually wake me up... My neighbor got his firewood delivered. I was so mad! I was mad at myself, the neighbor, truck driver... at every breading creature on Earth and my pavement got blocked. The weather was nasty it should rain any moment. If rain starts neighbor will leave his firewood and go home. So I thought... should I be at home and mad at everyone and still have my pavement blocked or should I help a guy? I choose second opinion and I was feeling happy to the rest of that day.

@nayelliperez1551 5 месяцев назад

Did you make the animation for this video? What tools did you use?

@maidengems304 4 года назад

How kind of you!

@positiveserene1870 3 года назад

Thanku for this useful video

@Chrysaries 4 года назад

Can you please tell us the name of the music? Epidemc Sound are on Spotify, so I could probably find it then!

@TheGuerrero612 4 года назад

It makes me feel sad and frustrate me when I'm kind to someone and that person doesn't appreciate. If I practice my act of kindness to that person, will it change its mood and apologize, or I it will make that person grumpier?

@blessedcreationsbynicole4066 3 года назад

Thank u

@josefdubisar5115 4 года назад

Big Like for Loving Kindness!

@Nico18_ Год назад

Great video! 0.o new subscriber 💪😄

@jammutarun8900 4 года назад

Hey I've been kind by liking your video 😀

@louisfranckie922 2 года назад

Awesome

@jbielic4067 4 года назад

Do you get the same benefits if the acts are for animals or the environment?

@Flakjacket96 4 года назад

And for nolife gamers such as myself. Play Healer,Help a new player get pass a hard level,give helpful advice,say GG at the end of each game,and switch teams when the other team is being dominated.

@abhishekbonyt 4 года назад

That is why Ellen always says 'Be kind to one another' 💙

@LENZ5369 4 года назад

Sure; that meditation could be have anti stress/ageing effects on people...or the people that have the time/opportunity/will to do that meditation are already living a less stressful life?

@LynnFishmanMeditation 3 года назад

great great video just wish it didnt end with an advertisement

@merlo1101 3 года назад

i help multiple people every day (weird flex, im sry hahah) and i like doing that. so, i recently wondered why i like helping and came to the conclusion that it makes me feel better and now im thinking a lot about if helping is selfish. you know, cuz you do it to feel better yourself

@TheChamp1971 4 года назад

Say something kind to me..... Show me THE LOVE!!! :-)

@Aquagreen53 4 года назад

Hey, you have amazing taste in videos!

@braincraft 4 года назад

You must be very smart spending your spare time learning!

@pepeinstigator6921 4 года назад

You probably won't die from smallpox.

@WWZenaDo 3 года назад

"How can you learn to be kind?" Easy. Act exactly the opposite way to the behaviors of my horrible, viciously cruel narcissistic parents who constantly scapegoated me from my birth SEVEN years into their marriage.

@nephildevil 4 года назад

I'm very kind when I'm on mdma without I'm a wretch and any suffering bears the load off my own lol

@ruskreeder2434 4 года назад

You performed an act of kindness when you made this video.

@Scrapio12 4 года назад

Liking your videos

@Spiritualitywalachannel 3 года назад

Awesone😍

@nikhillekhra 2 года назад

Kindness can't be there where the self is.

@beskamir5977 4 года назад

A potential issue of being too kind is you end up wondering if people are only friends with you cause you're useful/helpful to them rather than cause they actually like you.

@donovanackleyiii648 Год назад

I got relief from that when I stopped caring: Unconditional kindness because it's who I want to be feels better. It doesn't matter to me whether other people appreciate it or think they're benefiting in a one-sided way.

@bourhou 4 года назад

Very nice, welcome, I hope you accept my joining you, how proud I am, you, Ibrahim from Morocco

@jakegazebos4788 4 года назад

You used to do less animation

@PHANTOMFACEPARADOX 4 года назад

Is it bad, that I am happy all the time. I must be sick with kindness!!😜🤪👍🏿

@nihalelmoujaddid8166 4 года назад

yaa i like the video now i should be satisfied

@braincraft 4 года назад

👏

@NickCombs 4 года назад

The connotation of “selfishness” implies that what you do is at the expense of others. So I’m not sure it fits well when talking about a mutual benefit from everyday acts of kindness. I completely agree with the message otherwise!

@AthAthanasius 4 года назад

Not necessarily at the expense of others, but certainly "without regard for others" (I took that from the first definition on m-w.com). "Selfish" is indeed the wrong phrasing for this. I suggest "not selfless", that being defined as not "having no concern for self ".

@nathanbanks2354 4 года назад

Be kind. Like this video 3:26

@unsocialforawhile6404 3 года назад

I'm in a zoom meeting 😀

@joelburkell8286 4 года назад

What about the ethical implications of being kind? Maybe it could unnaturally increase your expectations of others, make you more privileged and arrogant, and possibly more evil in the future (due to moral licensing)