The Strategy To Stay High Value When A Man Pulls Away 

Once you feel avoided by someone,never disturb them again. Period.

Rejection is God’s protection

If a man wants to be with me and suddenly he pulls away, I will not reach him at all. Then he doesn’t contact me for 5 days, I assume he passed away. If he comes back, I will say “sorry, you are not worth my time” with smile and walk away. A lot of good guy in this world, I should give another guy the opportunity to approach me 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away, if he does'nt want you, nothing can make him stay.

I heard it somewhere and I live by this rule: "Never let a man tell you he doesn't want you more than once". If I feel he doesn't or no longer wants me, this is an end for me. I completely remove myself from the situation, no matter how hard it might be for me.

Date multiple people, sleep with none of them and only become exclusive with the one you're sure is worthy of marriage do not accept engagement ring unless wedding is within 6 month or tops a year. Most important pray always.

i got love bombed by a man recently, it was hell for a day i just cried non stop. a few days later i took myself out on a nice date, put on my sexiest dress, the same one i wore out on the date with him, treated myself to good food, gelato, bought myself flowers. and reminded myself, it's his loss, and that, i am golden. im 31 and im at an age where i dont want to settle for anything less than 100%. even 99% does not cut it

If a man pulls - walk - for good. Let him learn what he lost. PERIOD. Tired of people putting up with games and trying to figure out people's nonsense. THAT'S HIGH VALUE

The man who pulls away and hurt you cannot be the same man who could heal your pain. Read it again.

1: don’t try to figure out why he is pulling away; accept it for what it is, do not resist, go with the flow, don’t do anything to try and get him back 2: remind yourself that you are a high value women, have unshakable self confidence about you your self worth, do not doubt yourself, remind yourself you are high value, you deserve one who will show up for you and want to be with you no one else 3: rebuild your feminine attraction, boost your self esteem and do what makes you feel good, force yourself to do things 4: go on other dates, you need to feel your value you will feel designed by other men 5: I’m shaky with #5, leave him alone

If a man wants to be with you he will stay, If a man pulls away, don't force it. Love that is forced is not love.

Some of you are not understanding tip #5 and that's the most important. If a man comes back and you're still talking about something that happened weeks or months ago, it only shows him you still care and that he is of great value in your life because you're still stewing about his behavior. I've made this mistake and it took a few times before I realized the guy loved when I would be all righteous and indignant when he came back because he knew he still had control. Listen, indifference is the key. Being upset only means you're still hurt it's no different from love. When he sees you don't care and his actions didn't affect your life at All (even if they did u don't tell him), he will develop a different level of respect for you. A person always know what they did wrong, they don't need you to tell them!!!!! If they cared about hurting you they wouldn't have done it in the first place. Trust.

It starts with respecting yoursel. Then you ask yourself" Why would I want to be with somone who doesn't want to be with me" Initialy you may feel little down. You get over it, its a lesson. Life goes on. You are in charge and control of yourself.

Comment section is no less than a therapy❤️ more power to us all women!

Remember: No response is a response. Loud and clear message

If he pulls away, you soar away. Be grateful for the meeting, say thanks to it, fold it and put it away. Redirect that energy to achieving your own personal success such as getting a new promotion, killing that presentation, finally saying hi to that cute co-worker, go on dates to improve your social skills, attend that concert etc. So if he ever texts you, remain upbeat n just say "oh hey, I'm doing great. Just had [insert success here]" and leave it like that. IF he wants to reconnect with you, remain ambiguous and say 'Not sure about that, I have (future plans e.g a date) coming up! 😊". No questions, no suggestions. Remain upbeat and busy and he'll realise he is no longer a priority. You're welcome 😊

I dated a man for 2.5 years, we brokeup because of some reasons, I started working on myself, 1month no contact, suddenly when I was doing good by myself, he appears and tell me he isn’t doing good without me. I was a fool to give in to my emotions and reach out to help him only to know later that he was already dating another girl, didn’t even bother to let me know when he exactly knew how emotional of a person I am and still chose to lie to my face, telling me he loved me, calling me and trying to get back etc etc. Now I'm at my worst and he doesn't care and he never will. I really hope he gets all these back, I helped and this is what I got. It's embarrassing but please pray for me I am not okay, I'm trying my best to be okay every single day but God knows it tiring.

The man you're describing is a man NOT interested in you. Let that fkr go. Block, delete, move on. No woman deserves to be treated that way. He's just not interested. Accept it, so you can be with a man who IS interested.

This is the trick to detach quickly. Don't initiate contact for atleast 2 weeks. If you do, then start afresh and start counting. With time you'll release that he is falling off the pedestal that you put him on. With time you'll go through the day without thinking of the clown. Thank me later.

I've stopped chasing after people entirely. If I've clearly expressed my interest in them and they pull away, I don't even bother understanding why anymore. It might be their insecure attachment style, their past traumas, their unhealed wounds. It might be that they're just busy and overwhelmed and don't know how to make space for a relationship. Or they might be playing games. But ultimately, it's everyone's individual responsibility to communicate those things, and if they can't, it's not my job to intuit for them. I spent way too much time doing all the emotional labor in relationships only to get taken for granted. What Matthew said once was right on: "I understand you have your reasons but I have my reality- and what I'm interested in is my reality." If a man pulls away from me, I assume the connection is done with and stop investing. If they come back, I usually only entertain them as an acquaintance. Trust built takes work to bring back online- and for me, doing that work with someone that already disappeared once isn't worth it.

I’ve dated 5 guys in my entire life. 3 were ones who were truly devoted and marriage material and never “pulled away” - in fact I was the one pulling away and they forgave me. The other two “pulled away” from me and caused me the biggest heartbreaks and both almost ruined my life. The next time a guy tries to pull away I already know he’s not the one. Delete him and move on.

If he gets distant, he can stay distant in my opinion. Just means he's juggling other women. If things don't work out with them, he bounces back to you. Hell no!! Stay the hell away!!

1. Don't try to figure out why it happened 2. Remind your self that you are high value 3. Rebuild your feminine attraction 4. Go on other dates 5. If you want to get in touch, do this. Just once!

I must say, if the guy pulls away, usually there is another woman in the picture, with or without you knowing. At least that’s what happened to me all the time.

if a man pulls away that is everything you need to know, the best thing to do is not care and take that as a sign of God protecting you. When he comes back do not respond, if I am bored sometimes I will respond to a few messages to show unbothered but no extra conversations no meeting up and after the 3rd message I never respond again. Unless he has an apology you feel is genuine (most men do not disappear on a woman they were serious about

My boyfriend pulled away so I mirror his actions and he told me that I don’t care about him since I never cared to know how he is doing. That’s when I knew he is toxic

I needed this. He can stay wherever he wants. He has lost me for good. I'll detach myself completely. He doesn't deserve me

Ladies, if you're struggling with letting go of a man, feeling very attached to him and afraid of letting go, if the pressure of constantly keeping your "high value" is overwhelming you, this is for you. God loves you. The only way you can have "high value" is by letting Jesus Christ make you holy through His crucifixion. Instead of prioritising men and playing dangerous mind games, put GOD first and be WHOLE and COMPLETE in Him. If you don't know what to do, Jesus Christ will guide you along your uncertain journey and give you PEACE above your own understanding. God bless you and I pray that you turn to Him as your ultimate source of happiness. 🙏😇

I had a man who was very interested in me. He would come and go but each time he would contact me back after weeks I always answered him kindly as if I didn’t care. I always went on with my life. At the end that man proposed to me and ended up pouring his heart out to me. I never imagined his feelings for me were so deep. If a man pulls away it’s ok we don’t know what he’s going through and what’s Going on with his life. Just go on with your life and go with the flow.

In my opnion - its not about being comfortable with uncertainty, but knowing and valueing yourself enough to be comfortable with letting things go that dont serve you

I feel like this is the lesson my mom should've taught me as a woman, but she was insecure about herself so I don't blame her. Thank you for this

This video just appeared in the right time. I started talking to someone recently and he seemed interested at first and as soon as I started showing as much interest, he started to pull away. Bottom line most men suck, don't settle for less! :) Thank you so much for this video❤️

*So crucial to have strategies to maintain our value, especially when a man pulls away. Let's all focus on self-growth and self-love, and attract partners who can match our value.*

The reason why he pulls away is because he is seeing another woman! So now you have to decide if you even want him back when it fizzles out with her and he comes crawling back to you.

Define relationship. The only way to stay high value is not to sleep with the guy at all.

Indifference comes easily and naturally when women learn how to truly love themselves first. It is incredibly powerful and will protect you from the manipulative behaviors of others in every area of your life.

A bunch of strong and powerful women in these comments ❤

If they avoid you, avoid them, your attachment issues are pursuing him, not you.

A guy called me today we got into a bit of a riff bc I was ending our call as if I was speaking to someone I just met. He said it was being sarcastic but I let him know being I hadn’t heard from him regularly, I was responding in a pleasant non descriptive manner. He says you can call me. I said “sure, once I hear from you I’ll respond, just as I did today, bc I’m interested, but I won’t continuously reach out to you once I don’t get you. It’s a reset on my end when you’re not consistent.” This man starts telling me I should keep calling him bc we’re equal. Never told him I was his equal. In the end I had to flat out tell him I don’t pursue men, I engage with the right man. This is the 3rd time this summer. Men really intentionally pull back to get us to chase them as to believe it proves our interest. This is all before a date even. It’s really cringe.

Great advice. I expect more frequent communication from the man I'm dating like daily especially in the beginning of dating. When he didn't reach out for 2 days twice, I cut off dating him exclusively after the second time. Effort wasn't consistent and words didnt match actions. If a man can go two whole days without checking on me, hes not the one for me.

Lol, you are SOOO right. It took me two decades to realise a woman never should chase a man. If he is interested, good. If he is not, it's better not to be with him.

If a man gives one time sign he is going away NEVER accept him back, NEVER . Let him GO

I've been like this for a long time, I even dealt a Narcissist 😊. I'm married now but when I sense my husband pulling away. I turn my energy into something I love. Ex pets, music, movie , make-up, yoga....the more you love and enjoy yourself..he will too❤️❤️🙏

Your happiness doesn't revolve around him, forget he exists 😊

I’m starting from the inside and changing my diet and exercising. Looking after myself first. I deserve a wonderful man who is 100% into me, when the time is right.

MY FELLOW WOMEN; WAKE UP; YOUR VALUE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM!!!!!! OMFG!!!! SMH THERE ARE TOO MANY MEN OUT HERE THAT FEED ON WOMENS PAIN AND SUFFERING. EVERY TIME YOU OPEN YOUR LEGS TO A MAN, YOU RISK YOUR ENTIRE LIFE. ALWAYS BE READY TO LEAVE & BE AS INDEPENDENT AND PROTECTED AS POSSIBLE. FOLLOW YOUR HEART, UTILIZE INTUITION AND DISCERNMENT, BUT ALWAYS BE READY FOR MEN TO SWITCH OVER TIME. COMPASSION, CARE, RESPECT- THESE ARE EITHER THINGS THAT GROW OVER TIME OR FADE OVER TIME- & OFTEN THE FADE IS ON PURPOSE TO CAUSE WOMEN PAIN FOR MALE EGO. ALWAYS BE AWARE

The last guy I dated started being distant after 4-months. I dumped him 😀

A man who pulls away from you just because he can, without any concern towards your feelings should be dumped by you right then and there... because someone like that will never treat someone respectfully because of their own insecurities. Any place where you feel unsure or uncomfortable.. You shouldnt stay.. Because on a long term, it is difficult to always be high value whenever a guy pulls away from you without any consistency.. I suggest that you move to the next one.

Lol in this dating culture I will be surprised if anyone gets together and stays together. I hate these games. Was there ever a time where people simply communicated effectively? Some points were good though. When a man pulls away, focus on making yourself feel good. With taste of course.

I'm at the point in my life that I don't need to listen to these anymore. Just listen to your gut instinct. Action's speak louder than words!!

Love isn't everything. Don't expect Be free

If you watch many of the male channels many of them teach men how to get a woman chasing after them by disappearing after courting heavily and romantically or dating you, this is why its happening to so many woman. Once the woman reaches out they feel the man then feels they are clear to date others and then they have you on a rotation because the persuing is over, most men wont admit this but they develop actual feelings for you while they are persuing you for long periods of time. By playing games and cutting the time of pursuit they can open their resources, time and availablity to persuing other women perpetuating nature in the desire to have multiple women and spreading the seed. Its not in any womans best interest to chase a man so I agree with this tho I wouldnt reach out, thats a trap they are waiting for and your worth in their eyes will plummet.

One of your best videos by far. Happy to report, even though completely smitten, I didn’t say anything further to a guy who started giving crumby responses after our last date. I was pretty crushed, and he still pops in my mind from time to time, but damn it feels good that I didn’t give in to the temptation to reach out. It’s been a pivotal experience for owning my worth and knowing I deserve THE best.

This lady is so right! I overcame my last breakup restoring my self esteem and realising I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me because I have everything to offer to him and deserve nothing less in return!

I like that…. The man you want vs the man you deserve!! 🙌🏻

If a person pulls away let them go.They always come back out of curiosity in most cases.If a person wants you ,you will know it you won't have to guess. 😊

It all boils down to the old and well known ‘never make someone a priority when you’re only an Option.’ If you can’t even make yourself a priority in your life then how do you expect others to see you that way?

I reacted in every wrong way that you described. It’s been tough because he’s my husband and we’re still newlyweds. Never the less, it’s time I straighten my crown and seek an annulment as well. God help me.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

My problem Is that I build whoever I’m dating up in my mind, so I’m not receptive to anyone else. Going on a date with someone else is depressing, and I just compare him to the guy I want.

They always try to come back after they realize they can’t find another you. I notice people come back after I disappear. And when they come back I’m healed and moved on.

Step 5 is the most important. You should ask yourself the question: Do I want to be with someone that fulfills my needs on a consistent basis or irregularly, inconsistently? To have a healthy, secure relationship the latter always need to happen. So, step back, even though it hurts. Know that you are worth a man that gives you what you desire consistently without you needing to manipulate him to give you what you want. xxx

You need to beat them in their own game. Get yourself a stable of men and move onto the next one! The right guy will always win in the end! Remember you are worthy! Put yourself first!

I need to detach from toxic relationship, it's so damn hard i had 8 years of relationship but he ended it in minutes.I hope I get over it 😢.

Many men have been traumatized in their childhood and throughout their adult life. This trauma is the reason why they ghost in the first place. Men who ghost don’t deserve any woman let alone a “high value” woman. What ever that means. Once we as human beings start to respect the fact the we are all on a path of learning and healing we will learn to respect one another and stop waisting each other’s time by playing foolish games. Love and light

Once he pulls away , I ain't trying to figure out sh** ...Then once a man sees that u are not running behind him & sees that you are going on w/life as usual, here they come back again...Being detached is the best way to be..I'm in that situation, he's back & he won't go away...Thank God I do want him to stay or else I would be filing a restraint order.

To men and women equally... we need to learn to recognize and correct the narcissistic traits in ourselves. There is a way to protect and love ourselves without putting the egotistical "high value" vibe out there. We should always be focused on being a better person. It is ok to look for traits in others as a way to not get stuck in a destructive relationship, but do not use it as a form of judgment. Peace be with you all.

A self-confident woman will not react in a panic to such a man's behavior. Let go of such a timid partner. A man must be ready to take responsibility for his woman and her life. A woman cannot control everything and especially this situation when a man distances himself. Tell him ""au revoir"" and don't waste your time on him. The sea is full of fish.

When I was younger this would trigger alot of anxiety inside me. I’ve learned to detach since then. Currently going through this and I’m not even fazed. He was intense for the first weeks now hes gone 3 days without contacting me. Sometimes the thought pop up to contact him but its not anxiety like before. I don’t contact. He knows where I am. My focus is on myself and my life.

Agree with most of this video aside with going on dates to get your value.... Get your value from yourself or your higher power not from other men 💜

If he pulls away why are you trying to get him back?!! Let him go!!! Wasting your time which is precious

I belive that when a person pulls away, it is not the wright one.

Fantastic advice. I did most of these tips eventually when I got sick of hating myself. Realised I had nothing to lose to finally start caring for myself and having some fun. I still feel insecure from time to time, but trusting that it's a big world out there, there are always options, and that you deserve to be treated well is a good foundation to fall back on.

I wish I knew this earlier. Completely agreed on don't think why he is pulling away. Just pulling away is the enough reason to stop. And never give benefit of doubt to any man no matter how much you love him. Just boundaries to be never crossed.

I agreed with everything up until your final point. If he comes back and has no reasoning for the silence, I believe a high value woman WOULD tell him that that’s not okay and her time is worth more than that. I wouldn’t make a joke out of it or try not to offend him … it’s okay to let him know that it hurt you or you don’t want to deal with that

If he pulls away i finally have some time available for all my other boyfriends....i am a Little bit too crowded ya know...

Wow I needed this video a few months ago. You explained this WAY better than my therapist did! Thank you for your high quality content!

After listening to anxious people it seems it's better to be an avoidant person.

He pulls away he never hears from me again...

I very much agree with this video. On the other hand I never considered myself a low value woman and I wasn't. I gave responses which might indicate low value, at least in the eyes of certain kind of men. There's a difference. Indeed I acted so because of lack of control and sometimes because of too much control. Not being able to deal with the unknown. Being too passionate, too anxious, too much about justice and calling them out, too giving and understanding. Too emotional and not protecting myself enough. But to tell the truth most of the time I didn't care that much of what they'd think, how they'd perceive me. There was a lot of wasted time though, however probably I wouldn't have learned what I know now ( mainly about myself) if I hadn't made a ton of mistakes. The biggest struggle is attracting a man whom I'd very much mind losing and for all the right reasons. A great man with integrity. And why I haven't come across such a man is not because I'm low value but because of not living and acting according to my value. I guess there are lots of princesses among us walking around as geese keeper or Cinderella or other inferior creatures from fairy tales, robbed from their real position and sense of value. The real turning point is when we stop believing what our environment conspired us to believe and start drawing the line, and not only with men. I suspect that this is a much bigger issue than only dating. And unfortunately it doesn't get solved miraculously like in fairy tales by a man coming to save us ☺️.

I understand the advice, I d give the person pulling away a few days… 10/14 days. Sometimes people just need to recharge, and think if they are properly ready. Then taking time to think is NOT a jugement of your value, it’s about them assessing if THEY are ready. You could be the most wonderful woman in the world, but if they are not ready, then they are not ready… timing is also a factor. I have 2 brothers and they go into man cave mode quite often. It’s not “intentional”. I am talking about emotionally healthy people here. If someone ghosts or stops replying then yes get the hint…

Not reacting and remaining still when all you want to do is text them a million times demanding clarity is hard lol but it gets easier with practice. My detachment game is 💯. They know what they're doing. And if they do care it'll drive them equally if not more crazy that you aren't freaking out lol You can freak out in private, write it out cry it out but never let 'em see you sweat

I'm nearly 60 and it makes me furious to see so much hard work done by women in the 60's, 70's & 80's now seeming almost irrelevant again. Women need to be 'high value' for themselves, no one else. i find it a really objectionable phrase when i see it attatched to comments about a womans appearance, and her 'worth' in the eyes on a man. You only need to be 'high value' in your own eyes, and the eyes of those that love you as you are. Why are we still letting our daughters measure their worth against the 'value' of a man? its wrong..its depressing and its like watching history slide backwards!

* Be comfortable with uncertainty. 1. Don't try to figure out why this is happening. 2. Remind yourself that you are a high value woman. 3. Rebuild your feminine attraction. 4. Go on other dates. 5. Get in touch only when you want to.

This is really great advice, thank you! Because of your videos I’ve been more committed to my yoga practice and doing things that make me feel like a goddess ☺️🧘‍♀️One thing I would say though: the strategy of the one text to test the waters is great 👍 but in my opinion, asking if he is ok and you hope he’s fine, is not the best thing to text him. Of course, if he really likes you, it probably doesn’t matter what you wrote! But - to build attraction I don’t think it’s the best. Firstly, he will probably know that you’re texting him to test the temperature, not because you’re concerned for his well-being. Men are also intuitive about these things. Secondly, asking men if they’re ok is a maternal response, it comes from our naturally nurturing, caring side. A lot of men don’t respond well to unsolicited mothering or anything that feels remotely like being they’re being checked on. I don’t know if you will agree but I would rather check in by sending a text with a photo showing a nice snapshot of my day, for example, I’m on a boat and send a pic of my view (not a selfie lol) - with the caption “greetings from Lake x. How are things on your side?” Or if you’re at a restaurant he likes you could say, “you were right, the clam spaghetti here is great. How are you? You’ve been a bit quiet the past few days“. This kind of message brings value by sharing a positive moment, it also shows him you have a life, as well as giving him the chance to update you if he would like to.

I got into a relationship and it was moving so forward and nice that I didn’t see it coming. When he starts pulling away, I started fighting with him and now I am broke and he is laughing out there without any regret. At the end he put everything on me and moved out. I didn’t had the courage to come out of it when I saw the red flags but it is true. Red flags and men pulling away, everything is real. So to all the ladies out here, this is seriously a good advice.

Thank you for the tips! I use to do it the wrong way…. Now after decades of experience I have found that you are exactly right!! Every example given is precisely how you learn to stop worrying about men and fall back in love with yourself!!!! The makeup the pedicure new perfume!! Thrift store for new cute outfits because after losing those few extra pounds …..why invest? Every woman in this world 🌎 that is free to make her own choices should always choose herself first only then will she have the space and strength to be ready for whatever life wants to throw at her!!! Thank you again for Reminding me how far I have come on this journey called life💕🙏🏼

If he pulls away, he doesn't like you period. Don't fall for them randomly reaching out either unless you won't get hurt going for a booty call.

Sadly I learned this the hard way, I found out that this person was a liar, and his actions contradicted what he said, but I just kept on pushing and wondering why he became so distant. I finally accepted that I had allowed myself to be low value for too long to be treated badly for too long. No more. It really is hard to do, but you’ll look back and be glad you didn’t get too involved.

Why can't we all just leave these games and strategies and just be honest and authentic? Honestly, I don't even want a man who requires any of this, nor do I want to be part of a dating world which works by some gaming rules. If you like each other, be together, fall in love, have fun, get married and have babies - simple. What's the problem?!

A lot of times when you hold your ground they come back chasing, it’s about control and they try to get away with what they can. So it’s best to not over prioritize men before you see consistency in their actions and not entertain those who play these games. Be firm and you’ll attract the right ones.

It's good to hear it from a woman.I'm also naturally anxious,so this is very helpful, I also panic and try to figure out why a guy is pulling away, and would try and post stuff of me on social media for him to see how much fun I'm having when in actual fact I'm "hurting" and feel rejected.

No, it's not a sign of any " value", it's a sign of cherish this situationship. If a guy can't see this then it makes him low value. Then youshould cut him off and never look back. Not all the men are the same, a lots of my male friends treasure those women who treasure the relationship with them.

Please don’t chase anyone. Period!!!!

I really like this content because it’s not about putting him or anyone else down, just about lifting myself up

If you choose to reach out ladies, never tell them you were worried if he was ok. Specially if he isn’t giving you explanations or apologizing as to why he fell Off the face of the earth. That ending was a bit contradicting. Just check in, feel the vibe, get your clarity, and act accordingly. ❤

I disagree with the go on other dates part. Take yourself on dates, you don't need an external source to know your value

Sent that exact text message to him and I’m so glad I did because he was genuinely super unwell and sick in hospital. He also appreciated the concern in that text message. It was obviously a huge misunderstanding, he wasn’t ignoring on purpose. So thankful I came across this video. Ladies, if you’re reading this then know that the in some cases the guy may be genuinely going through something bad in his life which is why he seems “distant”. And the nicest thing you could do if that was the case, is to send him a message showing that you’re concerned / care. ❤

You don’t have to wear make up just to to the shops . Just keep yourself well groomed.

LADIES READ THIS COMMENT. IT WOULD SAVE A SISTER TODAY FROM DEVALUING HERSELF!!!! I like this video. It is empowering, but ladies, it is not in your best interest to do the number 5. Men are not stupid, they know exactly what they are doing. Sending such text to him even if you sound casual, tells him a lot. If that man were really a man you found unattractive, even if he were gone for 3 months, you wouldn't notice. It's when he comes back that you remember, oh this man. So he knows that you really really like him enough to have noticed his absence. Enough to even ask him about it even though you sound casual. He's not a fool. Besides, if you had other men you were talking to. If there was another man consistently wooing you, buying you things, I bet you on all logics, that you wouldn't even Wonder a second about this man that suddenly ghosted you, in fact, when you see his message after days of absence, you will leave it on read. You won't even take him seriously. The best reaction to these type of men is simply NO REACTION. Please don't call him, don't text him. When you see his message, leave him on read. Don't pick up his call and if you accidentally do, sound as Sweet as you would usually be to people in general, and tell him, "Oh I'm busy, I got to go. Talk to you later", then either block his number or never pick up his call. This makes that man step up on his game. It tells him that this woman has not really fallen in love with me if she's not clamoring for answers to my sudden absence. It tells him that there are other interesting men and that she's got no time for him. It tells him that this is not a woman who would tolerate inconsistency from any man. Being in your dark feminity my Darlings, you should learn to return a man's energy times two. If he ghosts you for 2 days, ghost him for 6 days, if he ghosts you for 5 days, ghost him for 15 days, if he ghosts you for 3 months, ghost him for 9 months and only reply his message when you've sensed his desperation to reconnect with you after the many messages and numerous calls he's left. and when you can feel the desperation in his messages, reply his text just casually and tell him that you've been so busy. In fact, 5 seconds into the call, claim busy and cut the call. He must work to be worthy of your time again. A man only learns the intended lessons the hard way. If you want a man to never disrespect you in any way, then make sure that after the first DISRESPECT, before he has access to you or your time again, that he must stress for it. Otherwise, he will repeat that disrespect, even worse, it is just a matter of time. As for me, should a man I'm getting to know ghosts me for 5 days, it's the end. I do not care about his reasons, I will never pick up his calls or reply his text messages ever again. I do not care if his mother died or the world crumbled. The woman who is selfish gets put first by men. The understanding woman will always be a last priority. I am speaking for experience and knowledge. When you ever encounter a man who really likes you, you will never accept any excuse of an inconsistent man, no matter how sensible they sound. A man who really likes you will be consistent. Of course he knows that there are other men and he wants to show you that he is worthy of being the only man in your life. Stop listening to the men in the comments section telling you that it is manipulative to do so. If you expect a man to tell you the TRUTH that would leave him at a disadvantage, sis, you are incredibly naive and I feel sorry for you. Please protect yourself out there ladies. Believe me, when you encounter or experience a man who really wants you, you won't need any relationship advise to help you instantly see the ones that do not, and you will stop entertaining men who DISLIKE OR HATE YOU. The quality of a man's efforts equals the degree of his interest in you. Inconsistency at any level means that his interest in you is 5%. It is okay to feel hurt sisters, but like this video says, remind yourself of your worth There is always a man out there who wants you and will give you his 100%. Stop making excuses for men who DISLIKE you, sisters. You are worthy of so much more. Please do better. I love you all.

5:43 Wow "When you shift the focus from who you want to be with, to who you deserve to be with, that's when you start ruling out all the inconsistent men, the time wasters, the ambiguous men, the men who aren't ready for a relationship, the men who don't know what they want, etc...if someone is no longer reciprocating your attention and your interest, tell yourself onto the next one who really likes you and shows up for you. Remind yourself that you should only allow yourself to be with someone who wants to be with you a 100% and nothing less. If he has any doubts, and we all have doubts at some point, he has every right to take the time to think. But you shouldn't give him the benefit of knowing that you are quietly and surely waiting for him. Don't give him this free option, and if he comes back he has to prove himself to you again."