The Transphobes Are Confused | Accidental Allies 

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I've been in the woman's toilet when a (cis) man has come in to take his daughter to the toilet, only the end stall was free so I directed her there (she couldn't see it past me), the dad looked uncomfortable being in there. I said he could stand by her cubical in case she needs him, which she did (she was 3-4). An older lady (50's maybe) saw him and asked what he was doing stating that this IS the womans room, trying to force him out, making his kid cry (in the stall) so he went in and comforted her, the lady called him a pervert and rushed out to get "help". I told him not to worry he hasn't done anything wrong, he let me know that the last time he tried taking her into the mens room his daughter got creeped out by men staring at her, and some questionable behaviour from the men in there, so he thought it would be safer for her in the womans room even if he was uncomfortable, and this was the first time he had an issue (there weren't any "parents" rooms). He was/is a single dad so he was just doing his best, I was in there for a similar reason helping a small sibling (also 3-4) use the toilets, so I know what he was struggling with that the child needed help with. All this to say idc who is in the toilets, do your business and be gone, mind your own and get on with your day.

Yesterday a young person didn't know how to refer to me and gave me the honorific "Boss". I thought it was an awesome gender neutral honorific.

I'm DYING over the "Trans women can never be a man" one 💀💀💀 CORRECT sir!

"Is non-violent" Batman never kills. This is like a main plot point in the comics. He never kills the supervillains, so they always come back. This person doesn't even know Batman lmao.

This literally happened to me in Overwatch yesterday because I use the trans flag in my profile. This girl was mad I outplayed her, and she said, "You'll never be a real woman!!!" I just said, "omg thanks!" (I'm enby/transmasc) Like what a doofus.

"Batperson provides a safe space for others." Like Batman doesn't? He's a superhero, that's his entire point?? Edit: Guys your opinions on Batman as a hero are irrelevant. Any criticism you have that he fails to keep people safe only confirms the point of superheroes, not negate it.

"you can't change what you're born as" is so funny to me because it implies that everyone are all still infants.

The thing about transphobes that is most insane to me is how they fixate SO HARD on what's in everyone's pants, like... y'all call US the perverts.

Everytime i hear some one say "you are what you were born as" i always think about that response that's like "i was born a baby."

i literally had to explain to my husband yesterday that a trans woman is a WOMAN, because he was trying to figure out how to refer to a trans person in reference to their assigned birth sex and i had to be like "no, they're women because that's how they identify and the fact that they are trans women is what tells you they were not assigned female at birth. trying to refer to them by their birth sex instead of their gender identity just negates the whole concept of identity. they are women, and they are trans, and that's all you need to know."

Speaking of "Birthing Person" and womb transplants, I love that meme where someone describes women as "born with the intention or capacity of holding eggs" and someone replied with a picture of a man who is most likely an egg farmer, considering he is both holding a pallet of eggs, and has at least a thousand eggs stacked up behind him. Making Diogenes proud with that one.

*Laughs in electrician* just illustrates the Dunning-Kruger effect perfectly. People get so confident in their 6th-grade level understanding of things, and severely underestimate how complex the world is in all its facets... whether that's electrical outlets & components, or snail sexes.

The rainbow wasn't related to Jesus in the Bible. Noah received the rainbow as a sign of God's love for creation and a symbol of the covenant--the promise not to destroy humanity again. Proof that people who claim they are so religious actually don't have any idea what they're talking about.

Transphobes: HIS PRONOUNS ARE SHE HER NOT HE HIM.

I once did a post about loving my woman's body, and all the transphobes liked it... because they though I wasn't trans. Uh, nope, trans as a foldout couch!

"you are your birth gender!" thanks i was born nonbinary "you are your birth sex!" thanks i was born intersex somehow this is very confusing to them

I once met a person who kept telling me that there were only two genders and your sex and gender were the same. I asked him about intersex people, and he of course didn’t know what it was. After explaining, he said whichever the person was MORE was their gender. I said, what if it’s equal? And he said than it could be either, but definitely not both. Like buddy, according to you your sex IS your gender so having male and female parts should mean, in your logic, that person would be a girl and a boy. Transphobia is not based on facts, and their argument dies after any kind of research.

12:21 It was someone challenging Graham Lineham to define a chair -- and he did so as (IIRC) "generally having four legs, a back, and a seat for one person" or something along those lines. And the person replied with a picture of a horse and said (with all the gusto I'm sure that Diogenes had when they plucked a chicken and brought it to Plato's academy) "Behold, a chair".

I imagine the transphobes typing those repeated sentences while sobbing and rocking back and forth lmao

“Confused” is a full movie about OT being confused by memes. I’d watch the heck out of that. 😂

I saw a terf say “Trans people, or, as I call them, men,” and I found it kinda funny that they affirm trans men while denying trans women 😅

edit: phobia is aversion. not fear. original post unchanged below ive seen several times bigots saying "I'm not homophobic/transphobic because I'm not scared of gay/trans people and don't have a phobia" but forget that fear is the triggering of the fight of flight response. the *fight* or flight response. as in them *fighting* gay/trans people? yea their phobia manifests as anger and fighting, not running and fleeing.

The ones just repeating the same sentence over and over remind me of 1 of 3 things: 1. Some kind of arcane ritual 2. Cult brainwashing tactics 3. That annoying 7 year old kid who thinks he's winning the argument by shouting the same thing on repeat while the rest of the class cringes

"Batperson: Funded by Bill Gates" as opposed to...Batman who is...also a rich man? Wait. why would Batperson need to be funded by Bill Gates when they are probably still ultra rich in their alter ego?

As a trans person who isn't accepted in a bigoted house, this helps me get through it. Thanks, Jammi!

i think that "assigned gender at birth" should be referred as "assumed gender at birth"

Once I mentioned to a friend how a lot of transphobes will mix up what "trans man" and "trans woman" mean. He said he actually wasn't sure about it himself, and I explained it to him. He was a little embarrassed for not knowing, but the fact that he wanted to learn and wants to try to not be a bigot is the big difference! These people don't know the difference AND they don't care. That's why their bigots.

I just realised I hate the plug analogy specifically because the group that's clutching their pearls like "think of the children stop sExUaLiZiNg them!!!" is the same group implying your relationship is only valid if one partner can insert their bits into the other like wow what a way of telling on yourself that seemingly the only value a partner has to you is sexual and that's the mindset you bring into how you think about the LGBT+ community

the fact that transphobia, homophobia, etc, still is a thing is really sad ngl :(

My accidental ally story is that my mom and her neighbour/friend got pregnant almost back to back and the woman's husband was every kind of phobic and ist and before either of them had an ultrassound he would always say his his "son" will flirt with "weak" ladies like me,he got 2/3 right,cause i am weak lady and all 3 of his daughters(2 of which are twins)are butch lesbians

I’ve had blue hair for quite a few years and the more I see “blue hair” used as an insult the more I want to dye it even more.

Birthing persons could also be used because "women" doesn't encompass all birthing people. Not everyone that can give birth is a woman, and not every woman can give birth.

Always funny to laugh at people trying to be hateful but ending up being supportive

Confused definitely looks like it would be a Pixar movie. We'd get a gripping, emotional coming out story as we follow the protagonist on their journey of figuring themself out

I was involved in a car accident awhile back, and the person that hit me was trying to offend me (ftm) by saying I would never be a real woman. My response was, “oh my god I know. Thank you!!” He didn’t know how to respond

Not my story but... One summer day my sister and our grandma were eating at a restaurant and the local Pride march happened to pass right outside the window (there were like 100 people because a tiny city, so it was over in a minute). The group of people who were sitting in the next booth started bad mouthing the event and being overall homophobic and otherphobic and such. Then my grandma came out as an ally by just starting to bad mouth the group and saying "Let people be themselves, what's it got to do with you!" ...she didnt know Im ace so this story makes me happy.

Referring to X "tweets": David Pakman calls them excretions.

the thing i love about the gendered plug and socket memes is that *they do realize theres more than one hole and more than one way to plug them, right?* *YOUR POINT IS FAILING KEVIN*

About that electrician bit, I remembered these similar statements. A key that can unlock any lock is a master key. A lock that is unlocked by any key is a useless lock. A sharpener that can sharpen any pencil is a good sharpener. A pencil that needs to be sharpened by many sharpeners is a dull pencil. So is the man superior? Is the woman? Neither, because neither analogy correlate to humans. The second was given to counter a man who tried to use the first to claim ownership over the vagina.

The country flags in that "Confused" poster is hilarious, like fair enough, the bureaucracy involved with citizenship or even just getting a visa can be so needlessly complicated.

isnt the whole point of a super hero to provide a safe space for those who need it?

12:11 Oh is this the "Transphobes will still call this a tree" thing? Like "Transphobes would call a butterfly a caterpillar."

its so interesting when transphobes say that they / them pronouns dont exist and then use them subconsciously because its just basic english 😭 my mother swears shes NEVER used non-gendered pronouns, and that they're grammatically incorrect, then will simultaneously use 'they' to refer to an unkwown person ... then of course, back track and say "he or she" when i call her out

My first computer was a Frankenstein of sorts because I was given old parts to cobble one together, and the plug connectors for the brainbox and monitor were a 23 pin connector and a 15 pin connector, and both plugs were male connectors that needed a specific adapter to connect to each other. That I had to dive into a bin of components for at the computer parts store. Was able to link the old CRT monitor to that massive computer case and had the most Frankenstein looking dinosaur of a computer, but it worked. You absolutely CAN connect male plugs to male plugs with the right attitude. 😅

Just to make you all laugh : Since COVID we see QR codes everywhere, since that i've always been calling them "queer codes". At first it was mispronunciation and it makes my partner and queer friends laugh a lot. But now I just do it on purpose and of course they all call them "queer codes" because it's in the queer agenda !

"This is a chair. You are a male. Next." What even is this logic???

I have to tell someone about such idiocracy of a conversation I had with my very Christian friend: Me: "They don't choose to be trans," Her: "But they choose to transition," Me: "Yeah, so they'll be happy and free in their skin" Her: "But Jesus wasn't happy and free on the cross" UMMM????? my AFAB brother has since come out and I have been slowly cutting contact with this 'friend,". It's a difficult situation because my dad and her dad are business partners...

"you can't change what you were born as" alright, guys, this is me: 👶

Aww bless their stony little hearts & smooth, shiny brains.

Honestly, I would love for a superhero called Patman (or Patperson) to exist. Imagine, you're in a seriously bad depression and then the Patman arrives, gives you some headpats and you instantly feel a lot better (those are some very magical pats. In addition to the magic regular headpats already have)

Trans men are not women. Trans women are not men. (Best part is this was intentional 🏳️‍⚧️)

Lol what does getting a vasectomy have to do with being "woke" or your gender? My dad is (unfortunately) very right wing and he got a vasectomy after an accidental pregnancy. It didn't make him any less of a man. Literally all they do is cut the vas deferens. You keep your testicles. And even if you didn't, is a man that lost them due to an accident or cancer or something suddenly not a man because he doesn't have balls anymore? So silly. There is a big difference between a vasectomy, losing your testicles because of a medical need, and getting a gender-affirming surgery to remove them

Does anyone else see those posts where the person is repeating the same thing over and over (You are your birth gender, etc) and think they're trying to convince themselves? It's like psyching yourself for a test- I think I can, I think I can, I think I can! Homie, if you need convincing about your gender, maybe you should talk to someone.

As if, anyone can be in a loving relationship without sexual intimacy. Only heterosexual people, think that any people who are together in relationship that "sex" is the basis for that relationship. This is a heteronormative bias. In MHO

Me when I heard "a Trans woman can never be a man" over and over again: keep going, don’t make it stop

The "you are what you were born as" posts are ridiculous. We are all born as babies, and then grow up.... None of us are what we started as.

i always get confused at transphobes not understanding why trans people need accommodation.....they function differently, just like people with syndromes. but because they think that taking hormones, having surgeries and affirming your gender or as they say "changing genders" is like getting bbls from insecurity they go against it. it doesn't matter what the method of dealing with your condition is, what matters is that it's treatable. as someone who has diagnoses that can't be cured, i would be hella happy to know i have one that CAN be treated.....i can't imagine what it's like having people telling you that you're "demonic" or that you'll regret it and you have to "let go of that phase" tho. stay safe y'all. and never let other people speak about your mental health and decisions in life.

3:40 To people who use plugs and sockets: Magnetic/Wireless Charging exists. We can accept plugs and sockets but there’s nothing without compatibility.

re:bathrooms they're now trying to make women use mens restrooms like, cis women in utah there's a weirdly worded bill that describes women by reproduction capacity only, which means women who have had hysterectomies or are post-menopausal or intersex or a whole host of other things (possibly also children? not sure) are all legally MEN specifically for bathrooms it's WILD they're so transphobic that they're making even cis women, legally, have to use the mens room and make it easier for them to be put in harms way (since, you know, that's usually what the transphobic bills are said to be about.....protecting cis women.....but we all know it's obviously not about that)

“Problemistic Pat” should be the next villain in the Batperson series

Who doesn’t love a batperson😂😊

I’m actually kinda able to imagine the themes of that AI generated Confused movie. Like, yes, for awhile, the MC would definitely be very confused about their own identity in regards to terminology and flags, legal bureaucracy stuff is always confusing, and just social stuff in general, but they would also see the people around them being confused about their whole deal too. “Why did you dye your hair?" "Why did you change your name?" "Why did you stop dating so-and-so?" So in the end, MC realizes that everyone is confused about different things from different standpoints that all intermingle into this enigmatic, shadowy web of doubt that holds us all back with the sticky slime of fear. We need to let go of that fear so we can walk past that web of doubt and move on with our lives.

Don't make me tap the sign again "Dinosaurs are cool, transphobia is not"

Nope. I'll never be a real woman. I figured that out in preschool, maybe 60 years ago. Glad I didn't wait for total strangers to get over being "confused" by something that was true before they were born. And that archaeologist 2000 year from now? Not even in the top 100 things I'm ever gonna worry about. Cheers, Fam.

My mom makes me do chores bc they're "boy chores" and I "wanna be a boy" jokes on her I won't do them no matter what she calls them :)

Accidental allies are so cute tbh cuz then they get all enraged and confused, and prove themselves wrong 🦎

A woman called me "good sir" when I held a door open for her last week and I'm still reeling (happily).

I just want to say, as an artist, that I am super happy that you differentiated "Effort" with "AI", because OH MY GOD, Am I sick of AI Bros calling themselves "artists" when they clearly are not. I've also noticed a lot of the AI-spheres are very homophobic & transphobic spheres filled with terrible views on women and LGBTQ+ so it doesn't surprise me they'd use AI to make Transphobic claims! It is a minor thing but still something I wanted to thank you for doing, you're awesome!

We're not mad at the transphobes and accidental allies, we just want them to be better...so its more like pity and disappointment, rather than anger 😕

NOT THE TRASHY AI ART! 😂Omfg ain't no wayy

What's more regarding the electrical parts, if you're trying to repair a broken wire, you'd strip off the insulation and twist the loose ends together. So even on the most basic level, you're connecting two matching parts end to end.

What I find incredulous of those that rattle on about chromosomes and the chromosomes they believe they and others have based upon nothing other than appearance or even a stated transgender status is that one cannot know what chromosomes one carries until by scientific method they have been ascertained.

"Laughing at accidental allies is not the only thing I do for fun" Gold. Also, Jamie, thank you so much for your amazing videos, this is just what I needed to cheer me up on a half-hour study break (((:

I was about to say, NEMA plug receptacle standards have a lot more than just 5-15P/R, and lots of them interconnect!

On the repetitive sentences - this sort of thing was a 'punishment' for me growing up, with pencil & paper. I'm picturing a transphobe having to write these to learn a lesson - no copy & paste, type out each letter. 😂 😂

Like it also doesn't work considering not all outlets around the world are universally the same. Meaning there are several types of plugs, with each having a corresponding outlet. Some have two holes, some have three holes, some are more rounded, long. Some plugs are round, square, triangular, some with flat prongs....Like it doesn't even work as an argument, considering there are more than one type of plug and one type of outlet.

11:27 I think I saw once somewhere that Jesus would be AFAB since no Y chromosome could’ve been contributed if it was just Mary lol.

"YOU WILL NEVER BE A WOMEN" "Thank you" "HAHA I HAVE WON!"

25:10 it’s Ai someone started a trend of making Pixar styled posters and for some reason bigots got their hands in it. I want to blame Bing

The transphobes are always scared and confused

In my opinion, homophobia and transphobia comes from the fear that the big alpha man is in fact a pushover sissy. Keep up your great videos, Jammie. Your videos and those of Roly and Luxeria are showing a huge emotional intelligence, and successfully put me out from melancholy. Regardless of me being a cisgender, demisexual man.

“Birthing persons” sound so alien. I’d rather say “people who can give birth” even though it’s longer. It feels more natural. …or I guess “baby makers” is pretty succinct…

I was watching a Professor Neil video over on insta, and he was saying how transphobia is pretty much designed to exclude certain cis women because ultimately, it boils back down to bigots' obsession with policing and controlling women and women's bodies be they cis or trans (Edit: spelled his name wrong, oops)

“you are your birth gender” was extra hilarious because it was interrupted by an ad and it was still going strong when the ad was over. That was an “all work and no play no play…” move right there. Jack is scooting over for room for the ally in the photo.

"You can't change what you were born as" Yes... I am baby

Imagine being so obsessed with what is in people's pants they gate keep the shit out which bathroom to use.

I'm 34. 35 in 2 months and I'm still questioning my identity. Never too old to figure yourself out.

For the longest time, i was very confused about how to refer to trans people. I didnt know if a trans woman was a woman who transitioned to a man or vice versa. I still wasnt hateful, just nervous, and i'm super glad now that i know🥰 especially because i have many trans friends

The bit towards the end of the video about when a transgender person stops using the facilities of their assigned gender is such a great example of how much we think about our own perception of ourselves. I'm FtM and I worked at a toy store before I medically transitioned and was accused of being a p*do in my first week of working there. I used the men's restroom while some customers' children were in there too. I thought I was passing fairly well and went in, but when the mother saw me exit she shouted at me and raised a huge fuss. Luckily my managers and co-workers were very supportive of me and told her that was the restroom I am supposed to be in, but due to that experience I actually reverted to using the women's facilities because I didn't want to deal with that again. Jump forward a bit; I started a job at a gas station and our restrooms were single room but still gendered (there was a urinal in the men's room). I still hadn't started my medical transition, but at least with the single room circumstance, I no longer felt uncomfortable using the men's room because there was no chance of someone saying I was trying to peep on their children. The best thing that happened with this was a transphobic co-worker (who did not respect identity) being surprised that I actually used the men's room and not the women's room. I guess he made a fuss about it and weirdly included that it was "unsafe" for me to use the men's room because "often times men miss" and was "worried" that I would sit down on someone's urine on the seat. First off; Still don't get why some men will still choose to pee in a toilet when there is a urinal available in a single room toilet, but also that I would just sit on a public toilet. I've been hovering for years and if I do need to sit, I pump that hand sanitizer onto a wad of paper and wipe down the seat before I lay down a nest of paper to sit on. Insane, ahahhaha. Glad to give that dude a scare though.

I had so many people call me all sorts of names when I was growing up because they were unsure of my sexuality and gender presentation. I heard it all, AC/DC (plugs again!), he she, it, F slur, ect. When I finally came out as enby, the same people said they didn't think I was. They said it was midlife crisis. Transphobia is no joke, but all thease accidental allies are top shelf! Thanks for sharing 😊

The other thing with "birthing person" is that not all women, cis or trans, are capable of carrying to term

The plug meme always gets me. As someone who has traveled, and often has plugs that don't fit, I have used adapters (a 3rd option) quite often.

One time I saw someone randomly tell someone that had a trans flag in their pfp the usual transphobic thing against trans women. The thing is though, that the OP never stated their gender. I replied to that guy by calling them "Schrödingers Accidental Ally".

Humans can’t be compared to plugs. We’re creatures, not electronics.

AMAB and AFAB could also be "Assigned marvelous at birth" and "Assigned fabulous at birth" just a silly thought heehee

Plugs? Personally, I think I'm a USB-C to HDMI converter cable.

12:00 I think it's a meme that goes like this "Transphobes be like : still a tree tho" followed by a picture of a chair.

Sometimes when my friends first learn about my pronouns (he/him) they struggle, so they just decide to refer to me as random objects, the most common being “basketball”

So many interesting potential new words in this one! Problimistic: when a person is being a little problematic but it's not on purpose and they're actively trying to learn. Bathtomb: where a vampire does their personal grooming.