Then does that make what I did in Tescos two weeks ago, a very rebellious act? The girls toilet was out of order so, *shock horror* I went in the boys and NO ONE EVEN CARED! I just want somewhere to pee, I care not whose it is. If the girl's toilet isnt avaliable, I'll use the boy's. I did that in school and the teachers thought I was insane.
@@starscreamthecruel8026same, I’m non-binary so I usually just use whatever one is cleanest (Except in school where I’m required to use the one of my birth gender :(
8:40 if I may have a nerd moment: Gandalf would never tell a trans woman she couldn't go into the women's bathroom. Gandalf is a Maia, created without a physical body but later taking physical form, as a dude, because he was a dude even without a body. I think he would be very trans positive
You never need to ask to have a nerd moment. Knowledge is the coolest! Be you and don't hesitate just because some people might not get it! You're amazing! Thank you for sharing your knowledge with the rest of us!
I'm a British cisgender, bisexual, autistic, vulnerable woman and I am so tired of TERFs speaking over me. I literally fit into every single category that they claim to be fighting for, but they aren't fighting for me at all. They are petulant children with nothing better to do than shit on a vulnerable minority. I stand with you all in the trans community. 🩷 You are my queer brethren. Trans women are my sisters in womanhood. I'm sorry that some of my fellow cis women are like this. I promise some of us are trying everyday to fight it from the inside. 🩷🩷🩷 Sending love and hugs to all trans people. Always remember that you're valid no matter what! 🥰💖🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
As an autistic bi as well, it’s annoying seeing it’s annoying seeing NTs believe and say that we can’t process our thoughts and introspect. It’s also annoying that they believe that being autistic is a mental illness and/or a disability.
@@bobaoriley1912 It is a disability, but everything else, I agree with you. It absolutely is a disability though. Even with all the accommodations in the world, I still can't take care of my own personal hygiene, my finances, or feed myself on my own. Other than language, I'm quite a high support needs autistic tbh. For some reason, I was never given a DSM-5 level even though I was diagnosed under the DSM-5, but I think I'm a level 2 personally. Bc I can't really socialise outside of my family and like 3 friends lol, I have debilitating mental health problems, and I really struggle with sensory issues and doing "basic" daily tasks. I also struggle to know when I need to use the toilet a bit, but mostly OK with that one. That symptom is more active at night when I'm sleeping than anything. And I also really struggle with my sleep as well. No hate to you, but I think it's just important to remember that even if you don't find autism disabling (which is totally fine 🥰🩷), it's still a spectrum, and for some people, it can be really disabling. Some people can't talk, some people have to wear nappies/diapers. Even if you subscribe more to the social model of disability, it is undeniable that there are disabling aspects of autism that, even with all the accommodations in the world, are still there. My autism personally is very disabling. I can barely leave the house and I will never live on my own. It doesn't mean that I hate being autistic, I love being autistic, I just do wish it didn't have negative aspects as well. But I still am proud to be autistic and am proud to be disabled. 🥰💖 I know you meant no harm by what you said though! /nm /gen
Okay, on the "trans men are men but trans women are also men" topic, it's also how people feel about bisexual people. Bi women are seen as really straight while bi men are seen as really gay, and it all boils down to the assumption that everyone will or wants to end up with a man, just like the terf assumption that anyone contaminated with "maleness" in any way belongs on the male side of the aisle.
If I had to guess: they read in a biology texbook that humans all start off female and thought "if your body made testosterone naturally or if you take it artificially then you're male", therefor proclaiming cis women to be the only ones they'd call "real" women. (At least that's how I'd assume people who argue that decide.)
Honestly, the people who say things like that make me genuinely concerned for their wellbeing. Like... they were obviously raised in an environment that objectified and dehumanized women to extreme degrees, for it not to send up a red flag to say, "women aren't people."
@@alchemysaga3745 what are we then, Starfish? Actually that would look kinda cool, little Starfish with placards saying: We are female but we are not people, we are Starfish :)
@@PlatinumAltaria they're just using the kids as a scapegoat to cast hate on us. they don't actually give a sh1t about the health and safety of the kids, they just want to make trans people feel bad for existing
however intersex infants are often getting non-consensual unnecessary surgeries to make their genitals "fit" sometimes without even getting parental consent if those people really want to protect kids they should be fighting against this sort of thing not something that doesn't happen but that doesn't fit their narrative
As a cis woman who grew up bi in the 90s, B and T go together like butter and toast. I remember what it's like for people to say what I am isn't a thing.
Yep. Like I've had people tell me they were extremely concerned I was *allowed* to be around children *because* I'm ace. Like that directly implies they think that sexual attraction is a necessary component to be around children. 🤬
Yeah I'm on the spectrum too( demisexual demiromantic) and I'm not even attracted to strangers, let alone almost all my friends. Like you think I'd wanna get with children and r@pe them?? They don't understand how stupid they sound when they say shit like that.
Maybe we need to form our own community with the other half? Na, that would make us as bad as the ones that want to split us up. I dont understand their beef with Intersex, Queer, Ace/Aro's and Non Binary individuals. How do we get dragged into this?
Another point about the gender neutral language. There are some women who don't have cervixes and even more women who don't menstruate, so it also excludes the people it doesn't need to include as well as includes everyone it needs to. For example "Women can suffer period poverty" is less accurate than "People who menstruate can suffer period poverty", because a twelve-year-old girl or a trans man are way more likely to suffer from period poverty than an eighty-year-old grandmother. So it's just stupid to complain about those terms. Being a woman is more than just body parts, but in some context it's important to highlight specific body parts or their functions.
@@chrisbfreelance Are you just using terminology you don't understand in an attempt to sound smart? Post menopausal women will no longer menstruate. Girls who have reached puberty will start to menstruate. These are not "mutations," they're part of normal development and aging. Besides, every human who has ever been born is technically a mutant, as children have an average of 70 genetic alterations compared to their parents.
Yeah, and like it's easier and quicker to say "People with periods", than it is to say "Women and girls with periods". Because 9 year olds are not women.
@@DaveBadger Yeah, and they still are called women. All the people who aren't women in this situation didn't like being called women, and now they're not. Everyone is being called words that are accurate now. Sorry if that triggers you, but you don't get to force thousands of people to be called something they're not, just because the more accurate terms make you cranky.
@@DaveBadgerNo. Wrong. This is in medical contexts. Not in day-to-day use. From another angle: are you gonna want to change the words "patient" and "client" too? It's a matter of efficiency and broadest inclusivity in that context. We're not changing nouns and pronouns in classic works of literature, your private conversations, or your favorite cartoons. Do you get what I'm saying??
can't say i'm surprised they're proudly taking up the nazi label. it doesn't seem to matter what words you use to point out how awful their ideology is, they'll just be like "DAMN RIGHT I'M A LOATHSOME SHITBAG AND PROUD OF IT!"
Tbh, it really seems like Alt-Right/Far Right bigots are the ones who actually fall down the 'slippery slope' of extremism, in spite of their insistence that it's the Left/LGBT+ people and allies are the ones who will do so. Probably because they're so openly hateful that they can't get anyone other than other openly hateful people to agree with them. Plus, to them, anything other than being equally vocally hateful is 'oppressing' them. It basically creates this tendency for them to be willing to accept friendship/help even from people who are known *globally* to be absolute monsters who have no right to exist in society.
Kristen stewart isnt even trans shes just bi and sometimes dresses masc, why would someone claiming to be gay "lgb" be upset that she dresses masc? So some gay people are just policing the gender presentation of other gay people? I hate it here
Not just gay people's presentation either, but everyone's. A cishet man wears a dress? That's what a trans woman is, right? A cishet woman dresses masc? That's a trans man erasing women, isn't it? A woman dresses femme? That's anti feminist. Women can't wear clothes, it's not allowed.
Since this recent awareness of trans people, some cis people started to think that gender-nonconformity is a sign/cause of being trans so they started to go against it
@@taiyouscandalous1175 Smh they think that just because we want people to be themselves, that that means we're talking even slightly GNC individuals to go and be trans when that not what we're doing at all lmao! We just want people to start being themselves without limits, that's all. ( if a transphobe sees this and says something along the lines of " Well that applies to us too1!1!1!!1" no it doesn't. You don't get discriminated against sweetie.)
Most of the time, it comes down to respectability politics. They think that if they agree with the people who hate other demographics, they'll earn 'credit' with those bigots. And that that 'credit' will protect them from the hatred of those bigots. They're so desperate for protection that they don't realize the moment that they help the bigots oppress the other demographics, they'll be next on the chopping block. The whole, "First they came for the Communists," poem, except with letters of the Alphabet soup.
Last year I was chatting with a cis woman in her 50s, and she said “I hate being called a “cisgender” woman! Why can’t I just be a woman?!” And I was thinking “oh no! I only just met you and I was really starting to like you, please don’t be a TERF!” So I said “I have no issue with being referred to as cisgender, and I refer to myself as a cis woman, because all “cis” means is “not trans”. So if I were to refer to me & you as “cis women”, I’d be saying it to not exclude or “other” trans women”. And she said “but trans women are women too! We’re all women!” I said that if only more people thought that way, then maybe we wouldn’t need terms like “trans” or “cis”. I think she got it in the end. But I wanted to give her the biggest hug, and I was so relieved that she wasn’t a TERF!
You can also remind people that it has value in terms of medical needs! Trans women need to have exams for certain anatomy that cis women likely don't, just like trans men need exams for anatomy that cis men likely don't need exams for.
I think we're in that terrible, awkward stage in between "never heard or seen it" and "yeah, that's normal, why do you feel the need to point it out?". Like, we're currently having a revival of the Lavender Scare, or so is my impression at least. It took us a good three decades to get to a point where being anything other than heterosexual wasn't so much of a shocker anymore. So I wouldn't be surprised if it took us until the 2050s for trans people to be as accepted and normalised as they should be. And by then, we'll hopefully be able to print reproductive organs from stem cells, and people will hopefully be able to access such treatment if they wish to (cis people, too!). And questionnaires would be completely gender neutral, as in you'd have to check off your gender, what your body configuration is and what sort of medical treatment you're looking for, just on a normal basis. By then, the next big scare could be bionic augmentation ("Augmented eyes? But can they see through clothes??"). And/or AI taking over the world. Or some other dystopian sh*t.
I'm glad it sounds like her heart is in the right place, but the "can't we all just be women?" argument is pretty close to the "I don't see color" argument. Sure, in a perfect world, being trans would be just a random fact about a person like eye color, but that's not the world we live in. And until people stop being killed and denied medical treatment because they are trans, it's harmful to not acknowledge the difference being trans makes in people's lives.
Yeah, as a bi+ person, I really wish the "LGB Alliance" folks and others who lump the B into their exclusion would stop. Because a) we all know they are biphobic as well, and b) the majority of cis bi+ people I know are very accepting and inclusive of trans people, and more so than the monosexual people I know.
@PinkPuffball1992 People often can't see their dumb ideas for what they truly are. They've set their minds on trans people being wrong, so it's hard to convince them otherwise. It's just like flat earthers or.. any of the other ones like that
@redbirb pan is just bi but your in a cult that believe identity is whatever they decide about themselves. Appallingly dumb people accept these ideas with zero legitimate evidence that their ideas are real
17:13 Wow, what an amazing story for that future child: "Mommy why did you want to have me?" "Well, I mean, how else was I going to prove that I'm a REAL woman and definitely better than all these disgusting fakers who... wait, why are you crying?"
"Stop crying, you're an XY biological male, you don't have real tear ducts! I won't let my child be transed by the woke agenda!" It's sad because this isn't even far from what these nutters believe.
in the near future when trans people inevitably become more accepted in society: "i only had you to validate my bigoted belief that trans women aren't women... and it didn't even f*cking work! :D"
I recently just came out as non-binary to some friends! It went really well! Thanks for making content that helped me realize and come out as non-binary Jamie ♥️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
@@ekrtznekrtz5229 What about intersex people, people with different sets of chromosomes, and people with different gender identities. Your comment is irrelevant, illogical, and you only see people for their genitalia rather than than who they are as a person.
"A puzzling thing. Ah, here it is, zeroing in on its prey... "Oh, it's not doing anything," you might say, but this is actually how they attract their prey. They make odd noises hoping that it does something. It's a wonder they haven't gone extinct, really."
"These creatures are extremely loud and tend to block out any common sense by screaming and creating weird videos. They aren't the smartest from their boycotting in Costa Coffee."
I have seen the funniest and saddest transphobe attempt A woman started a sentence with "I am a cis woman..." and the very first reply was "yo dude you're male"
as a cis bi woman I want to agree with Jamie's take on the B getting removed soon after the T bc let's be honest, the community has always been side eyeing us the same way the heteros do, like "you can't have both pick one" vibes. and also as a cis woman I wanted to say that I personally do not have any issues with like "birthing person" or "person with uterus" etc type language in broad use because trans/nonbinary/genderfluid folks should be included in those conversations. I would prefer to be called a woman if someone is speaking about me individually but I think that's just basic respect like if someone wants to refered to a certain way then do that if you're speaking about them specifically but I think it's a bit selfish and inconsiderate of random cis women who claim to support lgbtq rights to be like oh well i don't think we should use inclusive language in situations where those people should be included.
I'm bisexual and I'm attracted to bisexual women and gay, bisexual and transexual men. And I'm also a transguy. I'm tired of being stealth, so there I said it. I also don't like straight people and yes, dating guys is easier for me but I don't know why.
.@@batsnghostz yea - also terms like people whi menstruate, or people who can reproduce, or something. It shouldn’t sound talking down to i feel. Like chest feeder sounds weird af to me, and I think we should find another term for that because it sounds mocking.
@@batsnghostz i mean it's usually used in the context of discussing actual childbirth. if you are pregnant and going to go through child birth, you may be refered to as the woman/mother, the birthing mother (in cases where there are two moms), or a birthing parent (in cases where you are trans or nobinary). If you aren''t going to go through childbirth then you arent typically going to be called that. If you are, i'd think its a bit strange to be bothered by the word 'birthing' when that is something you are literally going to do. In any case, you could always just request to be refered to as a mother or a person who is going to give birth.
In India, surprisingly mainstream media is creating some trans content and people are accepting that. Even my mom became very hooked to one such webseries
I think it may also have to do with there being trans/nonbinary/intersex god figures in Hinduism? so it seems like a more normal & natural concept due to it being familiar through history/religion
@@a.b.1429 No sadly Hindu religious extremists( and the current govt) are not supporting the LGBTQ+ community. But i guess we have some awakening after a few landmark judgements.
@StopSin If you are not sarcastic then its so funny that you viewed a trans content and replied to a thread in trans content thereby increasing engagement in the video. Hahaha omg
@@debanjalighosh6818 I think they misspelled their name -- it's supposed to be Stops In, because they don't mind stopping by to learn and to increase engagement 😂
It's not surprising that one meme including the I and the A in what they wanted to cut. We've seen GCs cry "groomer" at people talking about asexuality. To them, not wanting to have sex with anyone is the same as wanting to have sex with children. Once someone is that far gone, there's pretty nothing to be done but abandon them in the desert somewhere and hope they can figure out how to survive on the local wildlife.
Yeah I'm demi ( demisexual demiromantic) and when I told people this the were just like, that's just "normal" right? , Karen, it's not. Being demi is on the ace/aro spectrum and alot of people just equate it wirh beikg picky and or being normal, or that it isint real. Like, no Karen, I'm not attracted to minors just because I need a strong emotional bond to find someone attractive romantically or sexually. And The thing is, most LGBTQ+ people are minors.
There are those in the fundie world who consider those who either are ace or who do not want children to be going against "God's plan" and therefore are evil!
@StopSin you realize that by commentating you’re supporting a trans person and that flag, you buy it from somewhere that supports trans people. And they call us snowflakes 🖕
I'm not Trans but I wanted to learn more about the Trans experience so I was really happy to hear about and buy your book! Thank you for being such a positive force in the community!!!❤
I'm a cis girl who presents quite masculine. A few days ago, I went into the bathroom the same time as this older woman came out, and she just stared intensely at me as I was going in as if she was about to say something or stop me, and honestly it was quite uncomfortable
@@maddymaiolo171because they think any slightly GNC person MUST be trans ( because they think we're "forcing" GNC people to be trans or something idk) and they don't have an atom of intelligence to know otherwise when someone is trans and when someone Isint.
@@batsnghostz yeah it does, my friend was saying people never used to be this weird about bathrooms. When there's so much hate going around, it's going to start leaking out and affecting other people too
4:48 My initial thought was "well, she has a point", then you started to explain. Once again this 55yo Cis Hetero man is grateful for people like Jammi (and for example OT and the Click) for broadening my views and explaining things I simply didn't factor in in a simple to understand way. I try to be an Ally but I also still have lots to learn.
Don't feel bad about initially agreeing with her- that's something that bigots are very good at doing. They know that if they come out and say what they mean, people will realize that they're being completely irrational in order to justify their hatred. So they get really good at making what they say sound initially reasonable.
Something that I just realized (and really should have recognized a LOT earlier) is that all those folks that think that LGBT should focus entirely on sexuality and drop the gender nonconforming stuff always exclude the A(s) from the list. As a reminder this stands for Asexual/Aromantic - a minority sexuality. They don't even realize that they're cutting off exactly a part of the community that they're saying the community exists to protect.
Congrats! I am so proud of you! May I suggest fighting the transphobes by ignoring them and instead posting uplifting comments to others who are sharing their stories like you in the comments of these videos and others like them. Whatever you decided, you are incredible! Keep being you!
Transphobia has killed cis women. I know of at least one situation that I think was fairly recent where a man murdered a cis woman that *_HE DID NOT KNOW_* because he thought she was trans.
I read one where a man attacked an old lady because he thought she was trans. He got 2 years in jail and the woman has to be cared for for the rest of her life. Not to mention she's terrified to go outside and living is a scary thing in general now.
I am in full support of my fellow members of the LGBTQ+ community. I may not understand everything and I'm still learning, but I will NEVER turn on y'all. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Thank you so much! You are incredible! And don't worry. We are all always learning and will never stop. And I think that's a good thing. Also, I love your profile pic. Owl House is amazing, and I am watching it right now.
I was so proud when my country showed that posey person that we didn't want her here. We had thousands show up to support our trans community and only a handful of bigots there for her.
That's true in the UK too, trans supporting events get hundreds to thousands of people turning up, terf events tend to have a dozen at most. They are a vocal minority that is given a disproportionately big platform by UK media.
Phrases like "person who menstruates" are also important because even typical cisgender women don't necessarily menstruate, such as if their uterus has been removed or if they've gone through menopause, and so when you're referring to "people who menstruate" you're being more specific than just "women" anyway, and there's probably a reason for that. It's all context.
Exactly - I understand if it was being used individually, like if someone called me (if I was a mother) a birthing person, I would be offended, but if it’s being used in general then it’s fine.
Even more so for words like Mother to mean pregnant person. Not every cis woman who's having a baby is going to be a mother. What about surrogates, those giving up for adoption, and potentially most hurtful, those having a still birth? Birthing person is definitely clumsy, but we do need a neutral term to refer to someone in active labour.
@@toast47178 they genuinely don't care if they're viewed as evil. they don't even care if they KNOW FOR A FACT that they're evil. they just want to live in a world without the things they don't like and they don't give a sh1t about how they're perceived for that
Actually, that raises a question. Is the egg Pud's transness, or is the egg Pud's child who will be trans when they are born/hatch? (Though obviously the reason for allowing it to be detached is for people who may have less than accepting family members or housemates.)
@@alchemysaga3745 I think it's also a visualization of what Pud once was y'know, Pud WAS an egg but now he's fully grown and the transness is inside him and they can never take it away :)
I’m really glad you make content like this Jamie, I’m an Australian and we recently had this awful “documentary” about people who transitioned as kids detransitioning as adults on TV and even without all the blatantly incorrect information it was so misleading and manipulative. The trans community in Australia is really hurting right now but it’s nice to be reminded that there are good people and accurate sources out there doing the work to fight all that misinformation
@@chrisbfreelance For starters, they used footage of people who have explicitly and repeatedly said "I don't regret transitioning" and claimed "These people regret transitioning". They edited one woman's videos to make it sound like she medically transitioned at age 13, when at that age her transition involved simply wearing a dress and using female pronouns. They also made claims about children as young as 12 transitioning medically with zero backing evidence. They implied children as young as 12 are transitioning surgically, a procedure with is both unavailable in Australia and also illegal - so they've falsely levied vague accusations of a crime against minors against all transgender healthcare. The generous interpretation is that their report was a complete and utter failure of basic fact-checking. The realistic one is that they were deliberately deceptive.
they also interviewed a clinician who claimed that there was “no evidence to suggest that access to gender affirming care decreased the rates of self-unaliving in trans youth”, which is just a massive lie that you can’t even pretend is supported by the research
@@trevorchester4439 Even if I were to accept that you're being honest, it's irrelevant. I wasn't talking about that random person. This report lied about specific people, as well as making generalities that your little anecdote doesn't address at all. Come back when you know how to actually address the points people making instead of whatever dumb culture war talking points you pulled from your X-twitter circle-jerks.
Cisgender people exist, and they never had to think about that before (being cis as opposed to being trans). "I'm 'normal', hetero? where's the straight option?" Queer inclusive language isn't meant to be exclusive to the benefactors of a cisheteronormative hierarchical societal thingamajig. Cis is NOT a slur; they're just not trans.
@@ciastomarchewkowe7103we all like to mock the men who think women have no hair, but women think that to to the point a friends mom when I came out to her told me how she has to wax and talked about her body and facial hair care routines cause she KNOWS how women can be.
@@SkylerLinux asexual people don't fall under the Q, "queer" isn't an all-encompassing term. it just covers the majority of sexualities. same goes for intersex, it's its own thing. it doesn't fall under anything else
@@SkylerLinux My counter to that argument is that some LGBTQIA people had the term queer used as a slur against them and aren't comfortable with reclaiming it the way younger generations are (in some cases because of PTSD issues)... I think, like @PlatinumAltaria said, that people should be able to choose whether to use LGBTQIA, LGBTQ+ or Queer instead of assuming everyone is comfortable with the same label for the wider group
i had a collegue who turned the bathroom thing the other way around he's a dude who gets uncomfortable when a woman is in the men's bathroom, so as i did my usual shtick of showing them how ridiculous it is, i realized too late that i should then take the example of a trans woman and see that she should enter the men's bathroom, just to show how ridiculous it is
I had a client ask me if I remember "when men were men and women were women." I told him "no, I grew up in the 80s." I actually got a long pause, then a "good point" for that one.
Why do cis men care what’s happening in a lesbian dating app?? I couldn’t think of anything that has less to do with cis men, how doesn’t it effect them at all!
As someone who used a lesbian dating app. They want to date us, they think we should serve men and that we should be their property. Yes they are suck in the 1800s
Thank you Jammi! Thanks for being respectful, wholesome normal guy. Sometimes that's too much to ask for.. Thanks that there are people like you in this messed up, crazy, confusing, dangerous world.
I’m glad you draw a line on what’s fun/important to mock and vent about, and items/quantities of content that get unhealthy or counterproductive to bother yourself with. Taking care of yourself IS taking care of your audience ❤
3:56 As an ace person, this kind of meme makes no sense. Like, what do you have against someone _not having sex?_ Just goes to show how this whole thing is just selfishness, not standing up for any cohesive principles. 8:46 It's actually quite simple what they believe. You see, they don't see trans people as real people, and therefore don't think any trans people should be allowed to use any public restrooms.
Yep, like I've been called a sexual deviant, predator, and told that "it's really concerning you're allowed to work with children" because I'm ace. Like what???? Is sexual attraction a necessary component to be near children???? I'm concerned.
@@waffles3629 i wonder if they have it _so_ incredibly twisted that they think "well, EVERYONE has sexual attraction to SOMEBODY, so if they're admitting they don't have attraction to adults---" but the thing is even that requires an _additional_ leap of logic first because i don't know a single ace person who explains their sexuality as "I'm not sexually attracted to adults" my ace friends say "anyone" is it.... do they think "anyone" only applies to adults? kids aren't people? i don't know
Like seriously, if you are talking about who I think you're talking about, they said that you have autism, even though they are not a doctor like at all. They have said that they are a geneticist that clones bees and apples multiple times in these comments, and they think that that gives them the authority to diagnose several random people on the Internet? Like bruh. They also think that gives them the authority to talk about human genetics, which is like no, not really
Yeah, I've had transphobes in some video comments tell me that I have no understanding of basic biology. I am molecular scientist specializing in human cytogenetics. Pretty sure I've got the basics down.
7:24 Wait, what;! My entire world is a lie!!! Are cis people unicorns? I mean I think I exist? ... oh never mind, they're admitting we're all a little nonbinary. right?
I don't get it either. The divisiveness and internal conflict frustrates me to the point of tears sometimes -- because there's no way for me to fully understand it, and no easy solution😞
@StopSin ok? like it's a flag you're not scaring us. if anything it shows how much you all try to offend us but actually end up spending money on things you're gonna burn or throw away. I'm happy you're wasting your money on something literally no one cares about
@@alicebthegachaweirdo8378 let's make the aliens come, bring the dinosaurs back, and they hunt all the trasphobes. They don't kill them though. They teach them. They show them positivty. And once the transphobes are no longer transphobes, they can go back into the world
There are also trans women who were born with persistent müllerian duct syndrome. For those who do not know what it is this means this AMAB person was born with a uterus fallopian tubes and maybe even ovaries. Even if no ovaries she could get a fertilized egg placed in her uterus via in vetro allowing her to carry a baby.
@@dr4-g0n94 The terms “AMAB” and “AFAB” originated with intersex people, because they’ve typically been assigned one or the other at birth, and in most countries they still are (Germany is one of the few exceptions, cf. the “divers” option Jamie was confused by recently).
@@ragnkja oh that's a cool fact! Tho I kinda wish we weren't so gender oriented that we felt the need to assign infants genders even when they don't have a biological one.
Aren't dogs 🐕 more trans because they don't have sexual dimorphism to the point the sexes look the same and have the same personality? More specifically, they would be monogendered.
A couple of weeks ago this type of stuff would have scared the shit our of me but now I'm on track to potentially start T before the end of the year and suddenly everything seems brighter. I didn't realise just how much being on the NHS GIC waiting list without knowing where I was in the queue was affecting me but I was evidently in a very dark place. But now I've gone private and, while it is expensive, it is already paying for itself in terms of my mindset and how quickly I'll be able to access healthcare. A few snips to my spending habits and all is well. Your content has kept me going through that dark time and I'm sure I'll continue to enjoy it throughout my transition and for the rest of my life. So thank you Jaime, you really are a beacon of hope for trans people.
As a straight, Christian, cis man I support all of you, because believe it or not god has made mistakes too Remember the Noah’s ark story with the whole flood He apologized for that So he could have made a mistake when choosing your gender, but he also allowed ways for people like you to change their gender, because if god created everything then he created the things for you to change your gender Ps the whole line man shall not lay with man is blasphemy, it’s meant to say man shall not lay with boy as in don’t take a child’s innocence
We just have to pee. For the record, I'm a cis woman. Now I could even be called an old cis woman. And I started my own personal bathroom revolution when the line to the women's room was soooooooo long, I was 32 weeks pregnant (just before the whale stage), and there was no line at the men's room. You betcha I walked right in there straight to the stall. One man said wth, I said sorry have to pee, not looking. I peed, left the stall, and kept my eyes to myself to wash my hands. After that, I decided we have to pee, we get to jump to the shorter/no que and go for it. Not the royal we, just anyone I happen to be with in the line. A toilet is just a toilet. And I have never been assaulted or felt threatened by anyone in either needlessly gendered restrooms. For the record, I'm bi, always have been since I was a little kid. Terfs can just deal with watching me cut line while they stand there with their legs crossed.
I appreciate your discussion on gender neutral language in the medical sphere, Jamie. I also want to emphasize that it’s for the knowledge and education of all persons as well - someone with a cervix needs routine exams regardless of their gender. Someone with a prostate should start getting routine colonoscopies after a certain age regardless of gender. Stating that only women need one or men need another implies that those who don’t fit that niche may not need that care, which puts them at risk for the health issues that those exams are early detection and prevention for.
@@chrisbfreelance”people shouldn’t get healthcare because i dont like their gender identity” doesn’t sound like something a rational person would say, but go off ig
@@chrisbfreelanceOnce again -- wrong. Certain examinations can be difficult enough to consider, discuss, or try to schedule, and having someone feel called out specifically won't help that trepidation. Your constant attempt at cold logic only reveals what a block of wood you are.
The transphobes are just...incredibly not okay. Not a surprise that the vast majority of them are just screaming in the echo chamber without actually knowing any trans people either, tbh. Also, really looking forward to the book coming out here in a couple of weeks, definitely going to pick up a copy.
@@trevorchester4439 "Ok but trans women still aren't women. They're men :)" Reality: Transgender individuals (TIs) show brain-structural alterations that differ from their biological sex as well as their perceived gender. To substantiate evidence that the brain structure of TIs differs from male and female, we use a combined multivariate and univariate approach. Gray matter segments resulting from voxel-based morphometry preprocessing of N = 1753 cisgender (CG) healthy participants were used to train (N = 1402) and validate (20% holdout N = 351) a support-vector machine classifying the biological sex. As a second validation, we classified N = 1104 patients with depression. A third validation was performed using the matched CG sample of the transgender women (TW) application sample. Subsequently, the classifier was applied to N = 26 TW. Finally, we compared brain volumes of CG-men, women, and TW-pre/post treatment cross-sex hormone treatment (CHT) in a univariate analysis controlling for sexual orientation, age, and total brain volume. The application of our biological sex classifier to the transgender sample resulted in a significantly lower true positive rate (TPR-male = 56.0%). The TPR did not differ between CG-individuals with (TPR-male = 86.9%) and without depression (TPR-male = 88.5%). The univariate analysis of the transgender application-sample revealed that TW-pre/post treatment show brain-structural differences from CG-women and CG-men in the putamen and insula, as well as the whole-brain analysis. Our results support the hypothesis that brain structure in TW differs from brain structure of their biological sex (male) as well as their perceived gender (female). This finding substantiates evidence that TIs show specific brain-structural alterations leading to a different pattern of brain structure than CG-individuals. Source: neuropsychopharmacology -> Biological sex classification with structural MRI data shows increased misclassification in transgender women
I really love your commentary! I have a problem, maybe you can help me with this. I'm a cis lesbian, and 30 years ago I had to have a medically necessary full hysterectomy. Since the age of 27 I have not been a birthing person, a menstruating person, or a person with a cervix. Does that mean I'm not a woman? I AM SO CONFUSED!!! 😜
What it means to be a woman is separate from your chromosomes or organs. The transphobes end up being bigoted against elderly and infertile women in their attempts to exclude trans people.
And this is an example of how flawed the arguments made by transphobes are. They can never make their arguments- which they try to base on anatomy- not exclude SOME AMOUNT of cis women.
Yep, plus even if you'd had a "normal" cis reproductive system, and used it to make kids, you would have stopped being a woman when you hit menopause. Since they say there are exactly two genders, male and female. "All" women have periods and the ability to bear children, and grew the organs for it themself without transplants or medical intervention. So /by transphobes' own definitions/ post-menopausal, otherwise healthy, cis women *can no longer be defined as female humans*. Can't be a woman, can't be a man, no other human options because of the only-two-genders rule. So... congrats on your post-humanity or ascension or something, I guess? 👍
naturally i too shall cut out the trans (and ace!) parts of myself off before attending any community spaces or events again never again shall i walk into my favourite bookshop or cafe as my whole entire self, nor will i darken pride events with my transness and my flags, no, i shall simply only be the bi parts of myself whilst the rest stay at home (/s)
I never thought about it before, but if I ever get a trans friend who's going from f to m and they still need OB check ups, I would totally pose as the woman getting the check up so they aren't glared at and don't have to worry about anyone starting anything. I mean, if I was with them and someone tried starting something, I'd push back at the ingrate, but yeah, I would totally help where I could
I actually find people refusing to use the terms that include "person" to be kinda degrading. Yes, I am a person who menstruates.. Does being AFAB make me not a person? F you, don't deny my personhood. Also, I clearly have amazing, superhuman powers. As a wheelchair user, all public toilets I can use are unisex. Cis men use the same toilet I use, as do cis women, trans folks, enbies, anyone in a wheelchair, really. Despite men peeing in the same room I use to pee, I have yet to find myself in any danger. It's almost as if AMAB folks don't go to the toilet to harm AFAB folks, just to pee and poop. Either that, or I am superhumanly powerful. The transphobes can't be that wrong, can they?
Same. Whether you group me with women, people who menstruate, people with cervixes, people who have migraines, or any other relevant group depends entirely on what’s relevant in that specific context.
And even if someone who was AMAB¹ *did* go to the bathroom to cause harm, a sign on the door or a law saying they can't be in that bathroom _isn't going to stop them._ They're already planning on breaking at least one law. They aren't going to go, "Gosh, I was going to break these laws about not causing harm to others, but now this law says I can't go in that bathroom. Guess I have to go home." ¹Not saying that AFAB abusers don't exist, mind. Just that these people always assume that the only person capable of being predatory are those who are AMAB. Which makes the laws they've tried to implement even dumber, because they're just assuming that AFAB abusers don't exist.
@@alchemysaga3745 yep, or they say ridiculous things like "Child predators shouldn't be in the bathroom with little girls!!!😠 They should be in the men's room where they belong". Like so you want them in the room with little boys? Uhhhhhh......
@@waffles3629yeah they don't understand how stupid they sound when they say this stuff. 🤦 It's like they want people to get raped and be scarred for life. Smh.
If only there was 1 simple word we could use to describe a person who mentruates maybe something as simple as a 5 letter word that begins with a w and ends with a n
When have they been ok? Thats a genuine question. A second question i have is how long will it take for the replies to turn into an arguement? Edit:3 minutes, i suppose i shouldve been more specific with the type of argument. I ment transphobic arguements
Yeah, the first thing just really shows how obvious it is how small the transphobic... community? ...really is. Unfortunately it also helps highlight just how loud they are.
it really helps to vocalize their bigotry and make them seem much bigger than they really are when you're being forced to live with transphobic parents
@@redbirbi have said this before (on a different video, but still) and i will say it again: this reminds me of a species of monkey that screams, and ones with smaller "Areas" scream louder
I needed this. I have a coworker who's openly transphobic, and I've been feeling uncomfortable around her since I'm not out at work. She's very friendly toward me, and I worry that she will immediately become hateful toward me when I come out. I'm having top surgery in the future and have no plans to change jobs. I'm so scared of people trying to argue with me and waste my time when I'm trying to do my job, especially people I consider work friends.
It is truly sad. All we can do is continue to spread our own positivity and love. I hope you have a wonderful day! You are amazing, and I am proud of you! Keep it up!
Hate is a human emotion so being hateful means that you are human. If someone would kill a loved one of yours then you would feel hate, because you are human. Transphobes aren't bad people for hating other people. They are bad people, because they had a stupid reason to hate people and take action to make the lives of those people harder. That is if you are refering to the dictionary definition of the word transphobe. I've seen a lot of people use the word to defend against valid reasoning, because people always seem to accuse people who critisise them of being hateful.
The woman near the beginning who complained about the gender neutral language and not mentioning that they have a cervix or uterus is certainly *interesting* considering these people love making everything about a trans person's junk. On another note, considering how also unnecessary TERFs are as well, I managed to go on a walk in the countryside recently with my parents and find a bench 8km in with stickers that featured the shitty TERF definition of women and that trans women are 'men' on it. They really do love to insert their 'opinions' even in the middle of fucking nowhere.
I think one of the most powerful stats is the one where 75% of young people who are transphobic don’t know a trans person. One of our (collective human) biggest fears is fear of the ‘other’. As one makes their circle bigger their concept of community grows. The ‘other’ gets smaller and the circle of humanity gets a little bigger. This is also called empathy
@@ScarletTiger109 I know tere are different waves of feminism and different types of feminism. I was just trolling. The whole "We are not the same" is a meme.
I live in Germany and bought your book from Blackwells and recommend that to anyone outside the UK who doesn't want to buy from amazon. Postage is free and you don't have to pay Customs duty either! Rock on.
How anyone could ever hate someone as wholesome as Jamie I will never understand. The book has been wonderful so far, btw. I'm reading through it very slowly because it gets my brain juices flowing so much that I have to keep pausing just to go through all the thoughts in my head.
@@trevorchester4439 But kids should have access to the education, if not forced on them, at least make them aware of what it is at a basic level and that there are other sources out there. Proposing a viewpoint is not manipulation.
@@trevorchester4439 I would be honest. Let them learn it all for themselves. All perspectives. I'm not into that concept of suppressing viewpoints, I just like people realizing y'all are dumb for themselves. Besides. Telling somebody this Thing, that People are, is Normal, and Acceptable, is not grooming. It's just a viewpoint not forced onto anybody.
Quick comment about the scissors meme (the one that cut out the TQIA+).... as an aroace person who's seen some of The Discourse going around, I've noticed that transphobia and aphobia tend to run in the same circles for the most part, so I can't say I'm surprised.
The interesting thing about it is that transphobes aren't just trying to remove trans people, they're also cutting the other parts off too (everything to the right of the B), so they're invalidating so many different identities on top of being transphobic
It's so bizarre of that idea that ciswomen have a problem with "men" being in the bathroom because the amount of time these same women would have no problem bringing gay men into their bathrooms 😂. Also getting so mad and oppressed being referred to as a person who gives birth is so hilarious because the same women would say that doesn't makes them a women and that they are more than that 🤔. It's literally saying that's all they are which then again also discredits and disassociate with women who can't give birth or doesn't want to. It also discredits other people that can give birth like nonbinary and like men who are born with a uterus and v. So apparently they are women too?? Seriously these type of women be making women look bad tbh
you got something wrong: transphobic women DO define women as people who can give birth. that's what they base "motherhood" off of. if anything, they SHOULD be happy that we're calling them "people who give birth" because that's ALL THEY THINK A WOMAN IS
Don’t forget that it’s also not super uncommon for women to use the men’s bathroom when the line is too long, they willingly go into the men’s bathroom but can’t accept a trans woman in theirs for some reason
and what's with this whole: peering under the stall thing? Seriously are people actually doing that? I don't care what you identify as, if you start peering under my toilet stall door, I'm kicking you in the head.
@@quisait5794 Seriously, this. Like, I've seen women at big venues go "eff it, going to the men's room" when the lines are huge, or dads taking their little girl who's about to pee herself into the men's room because he's worried she's too little to manage by herself (hell, my dad did that when I was out with just him and was little enough he couldn't be sure I'd manage unfastening buttons in time if I was all alone in the ladies' room), or women going into completely gender-neutral washrooms just fine. So, it's okay for them to invade the men's room, for a man to take a small child into a washroom full of adult men, and for women to use a washroom that men may in fact also use, but a ladies' room must in fact be aggressively limited to AFAB people (presumably of only a particular variety, because I can't picture TERFs wanting a fully transitioned trans man who very definitely appears AMAB in their washroom, even if they're in fact biologically female)? Yeah, nope. Y'all don't get to eat your cake and have it too, folks.
@@Mokiefraggle The classic transphobia of "trans men are men, trans women are also men" seems to be the cool new trend, it’s insane how much femininity is gatekept
Inclusive language is actually humanising, not dehumanising. Humans are different from other animals specifically because we develop language that allows us to express and define our own identity and other abstract concepts. Inclusive language gives agency to the individual person, allowing themselves to define themselves regardless of their organs. So saying “person who menstruates” gives the person agency to define themselves regardless of that biological function, while using “woman” in this context takes that agency away and defines a person by their biology.
