Are The Cis (Straights) Okay? 

It’s not gay for a man to cry when he sees the bride on their wedding day. It’s only gay if a man cries at the sight of his groom on their wedding day.

I love it when I ask for pronouns from someone and they're like "Nor/mal!!!" and I act all surprised and go like, "oh sweet, neopronouns!!! Can you use them in a sentence so I can use them correctly when referring to you????!?!?!" the death glares and the flashes of anger going over some of these people's faces when I do that is pure delight.

I work with a guy who was openly transphobic until he realized that I'm trans and I'm just a normal dude. Man actually told me that I changed all his views because he didn't know trans people are just people. He'd only ever seen extreme examples and genuinely didn't know. But he saw how I interact with his dog (a super sweet German Shepard) and how his dog acted towards me and it made him question everything he'd been taught. Like... they genuinely don't think trans people are people. They think we're monsters hiding under beds.

i hope they realize "nor/mal" implies neopronouns and isn't the typical she/her or he/him so they're trans allies 🤭

The one about men crying at their weddings is SO FUNNY to me bc it’s basically just like “hey if a man finds a woman SO OVERWHELMINGLY BEAUTIFUL that it literally brings him to tears, that obviously means that he’s attracted to men!” Make it make sense 😭😭

Anyone can change their name legally to any other name they want. You don't even have to be trans to change from a "Scott" to a "Suzie". I don't know if any cis man would want to, but he could.

As a trans person with a degree in acting... Yeah we're amazing at pretending to be cis.

Even in a non political sense, "non woke coffee" is a horrible name to give a coffee company People want coffee to be awake, to wake them up

as an autistic trans man, i had two acting gigs! to pretend to be a girl and to pretend that im neurotypical lolz

My college only had unisex toilets. All the stalls were completely private, and no one seemed to have an issue with this. It was just normal, and no one seemed to be made uncomfortable by it. As a non-binary person, I preferred them being like this, as I didn’t have to feel dysphoric about using the wrong bathroom. I even found it weird when I went to uni and they only had male/female ones.

As a cis asexual, I apologize for all the crap other cis people are doing. Also, fellas, is it gay to get married to a woman?

Am I a part of the LGBTQ+ community in any way shape or form? No. Will I continue to absorb Jamie's content and be obsessed with his videos? Yes. Edit: Thanks for the really sweet replies - I appreciate it ❤️

"We shouldn't get bullied"- No one's bullying Rishi Sunak. If we could bully him I promise we would have bullied him into being less shit at his job by now.

20:20 "So ain't nobody creepin'" YOU'RE FILMING STRANGERS IN A PUBLIC RESTROOM

“You ever been in an all-gender restroom?” Yeah man, literally every time I’ve been in someone’s home

That all gender bathroom one makes me so uncomfortable. Trans people are constantly getting attacked because we are supposedly causing problems in bathrooms, meanwhile this (supposedly cishet) woman is harassing strangers and filming in the bathroom. That guy at the end that she called out, after talking about, "obviously a guy went in that one" was clearly so uncomfortable by her. In fact, all the men were clearly made uncomfortable by her, which I find interesting. And also, the "obviously a guy went in that one" comment is just weird, because I've been in plenty of mens and womens restrooms, and on average, in my experience, the men's restroom is way cleaner and nicer than the women's, so like, what?! If it's a mess, I'd personally immediately assume a woman was the last to use it, if anyone. God, just so weird and gross and frustrating, and makes me so uncomfortable. Like, why as trans people are we made to feel like we are the problem, when there are women like that harassing people and filming them in the bathroom?! And uploading unconsenting people's faces online! None of them consented to that at all. Just ew.

It's actually extremely illegal to film people in a public bathroom (yes, even by the sinks) without their explicit consent! That lady could be doing a lot of time in jail for that, plus extra for posting it.

Halloween is gay Xmas

I cant stop laughing at the idea that 'theres people bullying others into believing you can choose your gender.' Like what do they expect will happen?? "Hey there NERD! You look like you dont know that you can choose which gender youd like! What a LOOSER!" lmao

"If a trans man who looks like a man is going to enter the ladies' room, how are other people supposed to know?" I thought they could always tell!

Imagine thinking that crying with joy at seeing your bride on your wedding day is gay….

Have I ever been in an all gender bathroom? Yes. For every year of my life. That's what bathrooms are in houses. That's also what the "Family" restrooms in Wal-Marts are. Or just the general restrooms that are in small stores. I think the lady who made that video has lived a very strange, very abnormal life if she's never seen a gender neutral bathroom before.

It’s crazy that this cis woman is filming in the public restroom and doesn’t think it’s creepy but she’s thinks it’s strange/creepy that there’s all gender restrooms

Three things really bothered me about the all-gender restroom/washroom/toilet video. (1.) Filming anyone in a washroom is creepy! (2.) Accosting the man who walked in and shouting "a man in a non-gender restroom!" and practically chasing him to film his use of the toilet! The man was simply minding his own (private) business! (3.)It was gross that the young man was leaving the restroom without washing his hands (though, to be fair, he may have been so surprised and anxious about being filmed in such a private space that he simply wanted to get the hell out of the situation as quickly as possible!).

The child rapper is the son of a “popular” right wing rapper who basically does the same exact stuff on Fox News here in the US. It’s sad to see him raising his kid to be so hateful, but not surprising

As a CIS - straight - female, I honestly wouldn't recognize a trans woman in the bathroom with me. I would see them as a woman. I see humans in the women's bathroom that could be either male, female, or non-binary as they are gender neutral, and I don't even try to figure out what their gender is. I mean, I sure as hell am not going to be looking at their genital areas. These people are some of the scariest, perverted people I have ever seen. WTF? Maybe the women's bathrooms and the men's bathrooms should ban Transphobes completely and make them hold it till they get home. I mean it is a hate crime to do these things and say these things about trans people!

On a positive note btw (on the topic of restrooms), when the school my daughter attend (in Sweden we call it "högstadied" ages 13-15) got their first non binary student, they changed all restrooms to be gender neutral. (They wasn't before, the school it selfe is build in the 60-ies).

"Ok" masculine...guess I should tell my husband to stop using "okidoke" then. Can't even guess what they would say that one is.

Filming in a public restroom? WTF? That woman is terrifying. I'd be creeped the F out by her. I have a strong feeling she'd make me feel uncomfortable in the ladies' room too.

"OK is masculine, Okay is feminine" - meanwhile me writing "k"

The fact that when that woman handed her husband the nachos he reacted like a 5 year old is insane

I cried the day my daughter was born. She just got engaged and I can tell you with all confidence I will cry at her wedding. If that makes me gay then I guess I'm gay.

12:00 To be fair, while the Anti-SJW crowd seem to not really know *themselves* what "Woke" actually means, it kinda feels like Barbie was tailor-made specifically to be everything they hate. And it was glorious :D

As a cisgender bisexual, It's not okay to make any hateful comments against the transgender community. With everything going on in the world, we have much bigger issues going on than to argue about something if it allows a person to find peace and happiness truly. No, we're not okay, just like anyone else right now. My husband is thankful for his role as a member of our house. Any hateful comments to the transgender community that person needs to seek therapy.

I said this one the short that was specifically about J.K. being fine with going to prison for misgendering someone and I’m fine with her going to jail for misgendering people too, let's goooo!

As a straight person, I can confirm that we are not ok

19:00 my first all-gender larger bathroom was at a convention, and my first reaction was “woah this is different, cool”. I did not think “oMg ThErE aRe MeN hErE tHeYrE gOnNa CrEeP oN tHe WoMeN” I just thought “oh this should be more normalized, everyone’s minding their own business, it’s exactly like a normal bathroom but more comfortable for people.” (I am cis btw, you don’t have to be trans to be an ally and it takes more effort to be a bigot) edit: its been 4 months and im no longer cis (agender :P)

As a brit, nobody likes rishi sunak. That only adds to it

I think it's hilarious that that person thinks that men crying on their wedding day is a "trend." This has been a common response to seeing the bride walk down the aisle for at least all of my 38 years of life. There's nothing trendy or feminine about it. It's a natural reaction to an incredibly touching moment that they've been waiting for for months or years.

Ah yes. Nothing spookier than transphobia for spooky month

Did she even asked for the right to film those people in the WC? I don't think so....Shall we call her "Predator" then? i wonder...

I swear people obsessed with what they call '''common sense''' are teenager edgelords that think lgbt people were invented 10 years ago. they really think common sense means calling lgbt people names and or saying women are inferior. like bruh, common sense means street smart lol. they give me such im14andthisisdeep vibes

y'know, my dad isn't the most open-minded person, he can be a bit transphobic and homophobic, but he realizes that they're still people. He treats everyone the same because he realizes that he's old and stuck in his ways and that , even if he doesn't "get it" it costs him absolutely nothing to treat them the same as everyone else

I had a mother like that. She just enjoyed hurting people. At her cremation everybody agreed that she'd been a rather terrible person.

One of the funniest moments in my transition was when someone at my university just pulled off the gender signs on the bathroom doors and at the time I was a new student so I just assumed the bathrooms were gender neutral. I walked into the men's room and every guy in there looked so unsettled like deer in headlights and I only realized why afterwards (and had a good laugh about it with my friends and boyfiriend). Me being forced to use the men's room regularly in public spaces would by far be more uncomfortable for everyone else than if I just keep using the women's room as I have for the past several years lmao

How is that woman not being charged with voyeurism? "Gotta make sure there's no creeps in the bathroom" Hun, you're the creep in the bathroom! It's not even like she was just filming herself, she's actively filming other people

HAPPY SPOOKY MONTH TO ALL Y'ALL QUEER PEEPS AND CISHET PEEPS 🎃🎃🎃

Omg this just reminded me of a story! For some unknown reasons my university changed the labels on the bathrooms during the summer. I was there during the transition back. So one day I'm in the shower and I hear a masculine voice come in. I can't remember if they were maybe on the phone or taking to someone outside or something but they sounded male. I totally freaked out and started screaming about a man in the women's room. Oh wait. Actually, no. I quietly continued my shower and made sure not to exit the curtains until I heard them leave. I didn't call attention to our differences, it might have been a safety issue or just embarrassing for one of us. After, I simply went to the resident assistant and asked them to have a floor meeting to decide which bathroom would be which for the school year. It's literally that easy to not be a jerk.

I took a grant applicant to our public library and he saw his first all-gender restroom. Men's and women's were a few yards away. He looked at the signs and arrows, and complained that the "all gender thing" made him feel that he didn't belong there. He is back on food stamps. You can lead a man to the library but you can't make him think.

I've always found the idea of laundry being a "feminine task" to be wild. Mostly because my parents split up the household chores a lot differently when I was growing up. My mom can cook. My dad's bad at it. So mom does the cooking. Dad's really neat and organized so he does the dishes and the laundry. Mom works from home so she pays the bills, but Dad likes spreadsheets so he writes the budget. The take turns mowing the lawn (now that they're empty nesters without two kids in the house to make do it, that is! Lmao!) So like, the idea that laundry is a feminine task is weird because my dad *always* did the laundry.

"Great at pretending to be something they're not." Sir, you're right. I'm GREAT at pretending to be straight and cis and happy, who would've thought 😂

Most of them are, a few have absolutely lost it over our existance and just become obsessed.

I'd love to just have public restrooms where there are no gaps for people to see through in the stalls. And stalls for urinals too. I get so self conscious going into public restrooms.

so transphobes just want to be referred to as "human," i'll keep that in mind the next time they start saying something about "short women" or "curvy women" or "white women." ah ah ah, susan, you explicitly said you don't want ANY prepositions, adjectives, qualifiers or other descriptives applied to your person.

What even is the deal with bathrooms these days? I remember being like 15 and seeing people I presumed to be cis men in the women's bathroom, and no one cared. I just figured the men's was closed for cleaning or was out of paper or that they were in there with a small daughter who was just starting to go by herself but not *completely* by herself. I used the men's when the women's was occupied or out of order, and no one cared. Just build stalls so we don't have the stupid gaps and make all bathrooms all-gender.

If someone is comfortable sharing video on the internet, to whoever may see it, in a restroom, then either the restroom offers sufficient privacy for anyone to use it, or that person had no business filming such private matters of people who did not consent. In any restroom, I would be more uncomfortable with someone filming than I would with someone of a different gender being present. That was creepy. I’m pretty sure she violated some privacy laws by filming.

"[Boys] can't be a Suzie" Clearly this kid has never heard the Johnny Cash song "Boy Named Sue" 😂 "Kids are not born with hate." No, they are the source of most wholesome stories you see online. Also made me think of a quote from Critical Role's campaign 2 (they are on my brain this week for... reasons). Specifically a line from Caleb (played by Liam) to Essek (NPC played by Matt): "You are not born with venom in your veins. It is learned."

I believe this idea that "it's gay to cry at your wedding" is because men are supposed to hate being married or something.

honestly i felt so sorry for that first guy in the bathroom. could feel the cringe through the screen. man just wants to pee and he's getting a camera shoved in his face

We do pretend to be people we aren't, but then we come out. I catfished everyone in my life including myself for over a decade. I convinced everyone I was a cis guy and not a nonbinary person. 😂

I'm a cis straight woman who cannot have another child. So that definition of being a woman always makes me laugh. I'm female because that's my choice, not being able to get pregnant again doesn't negate that.

If I have to choose between sharing a bathroom with folks of all genders who are minding their iwn business and sharing a bathroom with someone who thinks it's okay to film total strangers in a public bathroom.... THAT'S what should be against the law in public bathrooms, folks. Cameras.

The woman filming in the toilets would have a heart attack if she lived near me. A local council near me has put in all gender restrooms which are individual, fully enclosed toilet cubicles and a communal handwashing station. It makes it so much easier for them to clean and I never have to que for a stall. Positives all around. I need more of these in my life.

the knocking scared the shite out of me ngl

I'm a cis-het woman but I use "OK" and "Hey". So I guess I've got real mixed energy 😂

another fun video idea would be the "we can always tell" people who get it wrong. I follow a creator on fb who constantly gets called "a man" and comments on his adams apple. Trans masc, of course. his currently working page is "Trans Guy Peter Parker Webshooting Inclusivity Hour" (transphobes got his main page 'Trans Skater Boyfriend' demonetized) and he posts pictures with comments from the comment section overlaid, and it's always things like "you'll NEVER be a woman!!" and hes like "aww thanks what a great ally"

"Nobody creepy in the restroom" Oh, there completely is. The nut with the camera taking a home movie of people peeing and pooing is absolutely creepy.

Today some of my classmates showed some transphobia. So someone wanted to tell us a debate, it was about genderless bathrooms and literally all their reasons against it was if gendered bathrooms didn't exist. Like "people could be perverts" and "it takes away rights" or something like that, just go to the gendered bathrooms Btw I moved to the farms field lands in a small town. Also I'm just a trans ally

Guys, I have a definition of woman for when anyone asks: Someone that feels comfortable using feminine pronouns and being referred to with feminine pronouns.

Can we take a second to appreciate Shaaba's hair? It's so prettyyy!!!

12:50 I feel bad for that unborn child, that their parent decided to turn their pregnancy announcement (something that should be a joyous occasion) into something hateful and ugly.

There are many reasons that a grown man doesn’t like certain foods (ie. autism) and that doesn’t make them childish, or a bad person. But making food you know they won’t eat is purposefully spiteful. However, if he chooses not to eat rather than make his own food, it isn’t her responsibility to feed him, and choosing to do so is her choice, but to simultaneously try to publicly shame him makes the situation even worse on her part.

That last guy just shows that some people never grow out of being spoiled brats. I half-expected him to swat the nachos away, cross his arms and demand chicken nuggies while pouting.

It is funny how much those types of guys make big talk about being strong masculine males but will think of a million ways that can be destroyed by an action as simple as saying "hi" differently. Way to shoot yourselves in the foot and create a self-made minefield for no reason. On a side note, Shaaba both jumpscared me with that knock and made the AD part even sweeter. You both enjoy that cottage pie!

It’s so odd to me that people feel so strange about all-gender bathrooms. Especially the “this has sealed doors, that’s good in an all gender bathroom.” I find that odd, sealed doors are good anywhere! You shouldn’t have to deal with anyone watching you go to the toilet, it doesn’t matter if they’re whatever gender, it’s your body! I’ve yet to wrap my head around all of the reasoning for the attitude towards it, it makes very little sense.

As a Cis straight man, I can confirm that doing my laundry, licking ice cream, spelling out "okay", saying "hi/hey" etc. my whole life has not reduced my masculinity one iota and I wonder what events traumatized these Alpha Chad wannabes into such a fragile state where their sense of self identity hinges on things like not being responsible for themselves in their own home and not being able to spell properly.

If I see someone filming in a public bathroom they are going to be asked to *stop.*

"A man is a man, and a woman is a woman, that's just common sense" is such a common excuse for transphobia, and it's a bullshit one. The thing is that they're painting gender as a thing that's like "its only these two things, its just that simple, no need to complicate it." but that's the thing. There is literally not a single thing in the entire universe we reside in that is simple. It only appears simple because that is only what you limit your knowledge of the subject to be. If these knuckleheads took the time to learn even more about the subject with an open mind, I highly doubt their opinion is going to stay the exact same.

Its funny how much stuff in life boils down to "don't be a dick"

Always said it; the more a guy chest thumps about their masculinity and the more rules they invent, the more insecure and pathetic they really are. I have yet to find the opposite occur. Also, "non woke" is one of the most eye rolling grifts ever.

The temperature might be dropping, but the snowflakes (cishets) are still melting.

2:44 & 21:39 the thing about "feminine responsibilities" that I always wonder is how do men without such skills survive if they're single? Do they eat out every day because cooking is "feminine?" Do they live in filth because cleaning and laundry is "feminine?" These aren't gendered tasks, they're basic life skills that all adults should have.

HAPPY SPOOKY SEASON ALL! Hope all you lovely people are having a wonderful month! I am so proud of all of you! Keep it up! 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🦕 🎃

19:13 most places it's pretty illegal to film in a public restroom.

There is something that deeply depresses me about homophobic (against gay guys) females specifically. Maybe I've grown accustomed to Women being generally the face of progressive values, what with all media I consume, but seeing women try to enforce "masculinity" is something that disturbs me profoundly.

All the people who have never been in an all-gender bathroom - where the heck are they coming from?? I thought maybe it's a USA thing and you don't have many of those or something. But no, I was recently talking to a woman from Moscow (I live in Siberia myself), and she was so disgusted when she confirmed that of course she has never been in an all-gender bathroom! She hasn't even seen a sign for one! And I was like... how... both where I live AND in Moscow AND other Russian cities there are lots of all-gender bathrooms, esp in restaurants...

Happy spooky month! Nothing scarier than homophobia/transphobia :(

Love you Jammidodger and Shaaba!! That poor 11-year-old is being *groomed* to hate people who don't affect his life at all. He's just doing what grownups tell him. I want to see him at 21 in the hope that he's escaped their *indoctrination.* I was forced into a super right-wing evangelical hypochristian church 8 years, from 8-16. And as cis bi-romantic ace, boy did that church suck. They kind of left me alone after a while because unlike the other kids who were smoking and drinking, then acting pious on Sunday, I didn't get baptized in my teens because I didn't want to lie. That was a weird time. Anyway, to update you on my travels into "who I am" near the end of my middle-age heading to old person territory, I'm still bi-romantic Ace but I've been flirting pretty heavily with two different lesbians who both work at grocery stores. They're just so pure and honest. And very visually appealing. I haven't got the second woman's name yet, even though she's a manager. I didn't think to read her name tag. But Nicole introduced herself to me last time I was at the store where she works. So now we know each other's names. And we know we both like cats, never got married, and never had kids. I have SUCH a crush on her, but today I met an equally esthetically pleasing, friendly and outgoing woman. She has a natural rizz about her. They're probably both in relationships, but I can still look and do some minor flirtage. Anyway, if I posted this on other social media my dad or other assorted relatives might see. I know they wouldn't say anything, but at the same time ... maybe later. I'm such a coward, still. But I had to tell someone, so I'm telling RU-vid. I'm almost freaking FIFTY-SIX and it took my mom dying this summer for me to realize there's no time like the present to be who you are. I already told my stepdad back in 2017, and later I explained it to my mom and she was very understanding. I mean, she couldn't fathom not wanting to have sex, but she tried to understand. They were both basically like, "Oh, okay. Do you want to stay for dinner?" So I'm gonna talk with the lady I met today next time I see her and ask her pronouns. Because I'm just guessing, and it's a not-so-subtle hint that I am "of the queers." My roomie is a lesbian and calls herself "of the gays," so that's where I got it. Thanks, random anyone who read this far. Jammidodger's comments section has become my spill zone. I'm weird af sometimes, yet boring. Shit, it's 1AM I have to get to bed. Peace!

Hello everyone, I hope y’all have good days, remember that all of you are amazing, and valid :)

Not Shaaba scaring me with that knock thinking it was someone behind me in my house 😂

As a cis, I've never been okay. Not for a single moment of my entire life. Send help.

Btw yes in America bathroom stalls have a like 1 and a half foot gap at the bottom and go about 6 feet (180 cm) for walls. It is disturbing how someone can stand up and you can make eye contact with them. This is WORSE in schools where they tend to be even shorter. Ive been in a school where It went up to the bottom of my boobs. You may say "but they're for kids who are shorter" Then where are the adult bathrooms? Ohh yea locked and reserved for staff use.

Something that always bothered ie when they say if your (insert masculine name) you can’t be (insert feminine name). They act as if some women don’t have more traditionally masculine names. Also the whole name change thing in general ignores the fact that some cis people have changed their name too.

as a trans person I've pretended for long enough, so every halloween I dress as myself (it helps that I already like dressing like a Witch, so I may just don a witch hat)

I mean, as a trans woman, I am pretty good at pretending to be someone I'm not. I spent 23 years pretending to be a dude after all.

7:40 you could also call cis people “homogender” and trans people “heterogender” if you don’t like the other prefixes

Spooky, scary skeletons Are silly all the same They'll smile and scrabble slowly by And drive you so insane 💀

I'm going to make nor/mal to mean "normatively maladapted" in my head cannon and take anyone claiming that to be openly stating that they not ok and don't understand what is actually normal.

Had to pull this up on a seperate platform just to comment on the ABSOLUTE SASS Jammi delivered when that kid rapped the "I'm homeschooled" line. 😆 🤣 😆 🤣 Beautiful. Brilliant. 10/10. Amazing.

Sorry for everything going on in the UK at the minute. Down here in Australia I'm thankfully in a pretty good state, but my family are elsewhere and trying to stop the ban on conversion therapy, which is pretty distressing. I'm not out to them, but it's just kinda terrifying to know your own family would put you through that if they had the opportunity