I know all the transphobes wouldn’t believe this, but your video documenting your bottom surgery actually helped me understand I didn’t need it. For context I am a 23 year old trans masc guy (he/they). I knew I was trans since I was 14 and came out at 17. I’ve always felt HORRIBLE discomfort and dysphoria with my chest, but not much with my lower. There were some trans RU-vidrs (not naming) preaching about how you have to get bottom surgery to be valid in your trans identity. This made me feel all types of horrible, cause I didn’t know if I wanted bottom surgery. But when I found your content and saw your videos, you explained how there’s a million + ways of being trans and how everyone was completely valid no matter what surgeries they got or how they expressed themselves. It made me realize that I CAN be completely valid in my trans identity, even without bottom surgery. Thank you for that! And also, I did end up getting top surgery sept 6 2023 and it is the best decision I’ve ever done for myself! I did have complications, I did have a big hematoma, blood seeping from my incisions, and lots of swelling. But it thankfully healed on its own and I have never been more confident, comfortable in my own body, and happy in my life. I say this to say, what’s right for one trans person may not be for another, and no one should judge that. Just support each other always. 🖤
Yeah I don’t watch many fellow trans channels because there’s so many transmeds, I don’t listen to them. I can watch Jamie because he’s non judgmental and has a kind personality.
I'm a cis person, but I try to educate myself about being trans. I know I can't fully understand what it feels, but I want to fully support it. There is as many ways to be a trans person as there are trans people❤
So, some positive news: I'm FTM. With the help of my therapist, I talked with my grandmother about wanting to start transitioning. She began doing her own research & is much more informed & supportive!
The ‘worst pain I’ve ever had in my life’ was recovering from my emergency c-section I had to have my first child. I was traumatised by that experience for many months after BUT zero regrets. The result of it all was my beautiful son - an ongoing joy in my life. Things can be painful and traumatising and overwhelming and still bring about an ultimate and amazing good. You are a happier and more comfortable person for the struggles you went through with this and transphobes need to get a life.
ive heard they just rip your skin apart. is that true? thats so horryfing but ive read it heals better than a clean cut? im glad you and your family is doing well
It’s a very small incision all things considered and I think it was just a clean cut. I know once they do they have to pry apart the skin and muscle and fat to get the baby out
Now imagine your lovely son take cross-sex hormones and go through surgeries in a mostly vain attempt to look like a woman, ruining his health in the process. I'm sure you'd be delighted.
I had a grapefruit sized hematoma from a simple knee scope. I was on crutches for 3mos and in terrible pain. But never near death but the iron in the hemoglobin in blood is very irritating and it leaked down my leg, over time, so the pain spread. It's why bruises hurt. After 4 more scopes, my later total knee replacement was just the worst, extremely uncomfortable complicated surgery. I had complications, a second surgery, and pain for a decade. So it happens outside of trans surgery (there's more regret after knee surgery than reassignment. I can attest to the knee part!). There's arteries everywhere and they get cut. Or other things go wrong. Surgeons tend to minimize surgeries, and for most people, they aren't so painful or have complications. But it's good to know what can happen, and not be in fuzzy denial when doing the risk/reward calculations. I realize many surgeries are not elective, and I imagine that they're not always elective for trans people, but if you have the luxury of making the decision then do the research, understand what can go wrong, then IF it does, you'll be less fearful, and more relaxed, and therefore less pain. That goes for transphobes getting breast and pec implants, too. And, uh, "enlargement", or the "beautifying and rejuvenating" one cis women get. Have you ever seen a facelift being done? Sorry, couldn't resist!
@@Vinni-2K there is a clean cut into the skin, after that muscles, fat, etc gets ripped apart and then a second cut is made in the uterus. So you have an inner scar on the uterus and an outer scar on your skin. The ripping should lead to better healing, as the tissue ripps in the "right" places. Getting the baby out happens very quickly, but it takes quite a while to get stiched up, first inside then outside. If you are under PDA (needle in the back anaestisia), you feel it happening but it is not painful. But very weird, esp. the ripping. There is a curtain, so you+partner don't see it happening. You usually get to hold your baby while they are stiching away, which binds your attention. But nevertheless, you have a hole the size of a bowling ball in your belly, which takes time to recover from, especially while painkillers are given only sparingly (bc of breastfeeding) and you can't sleep for more than an hour a piece and have to learn how to take care of a fragile newborn, while your hormones crash and you organs wander around in your suddently empty belly. So, even when there are no compliactions it is quite the experience....
Hello Dear Jamie!! I'm a 60 yr old cis woman and I absolutely love this channel!! I tuned into you to learn about what Trans really means and I'm so happy I did!! I've always been supportive, once I learned it was a reality, that is!! Hahaha!! I honestly had never heard the term Trans before I was in my late 40s!! I learned about it the day my son told me he was Trans!! He's a wonderful Trans man. I prefer to just call him a man!! Thank you for all the information and help you give!! ❤❤❤
@@tw0tr1ckp0nyficateddon't despair, there are a lot of us out here. maybe not as loud as the transphobe bigots, but honest, open, curious to learn cis straight people are here! (and eager to learn more and support you). i am a cis straight woman and mother and learning about this, and many more topics about how to make the world a better place for our kids, and neighbours (and their kids) ❤❤❤ we are here. and together we are a much bigger part of a society than it might seem. we are interested in problems of trans people, racial issues, mental health findings, possibilities of permaculture for our earth, all things that can move humanity, hope and community forward. we usually don't scream online but we are here when you need us. (or just need someone to feed your cat). ❤❤❤ lots of love and support. humanity and empathy is not dead, it is our true nature.
Oh my God, you are so wholesome! You make me feel hope for acceptance in society for people like me 💜 (I'm non-binary and come from a very non-accepting family)
I had appendicitis. The established treatment for this condition is surgery. So for surgery I went, and had a laparoscopic appendectomy. Tiny incision, quick neat surgery. Most people are in hospital for 2 days or less with that kind of surgery. Well, I had..... COMPLICATIONS!!!! Infection, abscess, etc. So many antibiotics were being pushed into me that I had to have a picc line installed. I also had a draining situation that had me literally SCREAMING in pain with like 5 nurses freaking out over me. One of my lungs partially collapsed because I was in too much pain to breathe deeply. I was in hospital for a full week, on home oxygen for another week after that, and had drainage tubes hanging out of my belly for almost a month. Absolute worst pain of my life. Also an absolutely necessary surgery in order for me to live a happy, healthy life. It would be beyond irrational for anyone to use my tale of complications to try and paint the appendectomy procedure used, or me for needing it, in a bad light. I didn't have a horrible time in the hospital and gain some medical PTSD that took a while to work through because I chose to have a dangerous and unnecessary surgery for shits 'n giggles. I accepted the recommended treatment for my condition. The treatment was surgery. Surgery sometimes has complications because it's FUCKIN' SURGERY, AND OF COURSE IT DOES.
You're absolutely right-- surgery of any kind can have complications. One of my husband's brain surgeries had a complication-- an epidural hematoma. Fortunately, they were able to take care of the problem. We'd been told there was about a 2% chance of things going screwy, but that it hadn't ever happened during that surgery at that hospital. Apparently, my husband's brain likes to prove people wrong. (He's fine now; they go the info they needed from that procedure, which meant subsequent surgeries were successful.) Nobody would hear that, then go off about how nobody should ever have brain surgery because OH THE HORROR. My last bottom surgery (removing a remaining ovary) had a complication-- there was some ovary left behind due to a massive amount of scar tissue from my hysterectomy a couple decades back. The surgeon is preparing to go back in and finish her work. Still no regrets. Still planning top surgery. If crap happens, crap happens. To me, the risk is worth the reward. Thank you for sharing the positive and negative about your surgery. It's always good to know the risks, and equally good to know that everything worked out in the end.
I'm not sure if it's like this everywhere, but where I live if you have surgery you have to sign forms acknowledging that you understand and accept the risks involved...my brain surgery one basically said that I accept responsibility if I die on the operating table or end up paralysed (I was 16) lol
What up Dan the man who has a cool turtle profile because he can but in all seriousness I read your about page dude my only critique is you said that this was your Minecraft channel with no Minecraft videos what up with that bro
As someone who is absolutely terrified of having surgery but also very much wants to get top surgery eventually, honestly hearing about things going wrong was amazingly helpful for me, because it just helps show something going wrong does not mean it can’t end up being okay in the end still. Thank you for sharing ❤
@@nathanboonstra1600 why do you care what adults choose to do with their bodies? do you campaign against any other form of cosmetic or elective surgery? against tattoos? why is it not an issue when someone decides they don't like having thin lips, or wrinkles, or a bump in their nose? but deciding they don't really like having breasts or a penis is a step too far? by your logic, all of these procedures should be replaced with this miracle "psychotherapy" that supposedly fixes all of a person's insecurities forever and is definitely a real thing that exists. but i only ever see people aggressively campaigning for this sort of thing when it has some association with trans-ness. odd 🤔
ANY surgery can go wrong, that's so true. In october, I finally got my bariatric surgery. I have horrible PCOS, so this surgery is life saving for me. In mid-november, I got horribly sick, and then I wasn't able to eat bc I couldn't keep anything down. This went on for weeks, and it turned out one of my surgical staples came loose, so there was a LEAK in my STOMACH! This is a complication that was explained to me pre-surgery that could potentially happen, and it unfortunately did. I was in the hospital for 10 days, and I had to be NPO (not allowed to eat or drink) while im healing from being patched up. Couldn't eat for a full month and a half. It was terrible. Worst experience of my life. But do I regret the surgery itself??? No!!!! I've lost 40 pounds, and have much more energy now than I did pre-surgery. The complications sucked, yes, but I totally feel you about not regreting the surgery itself. :3 ...Unfortunately, transphobes don't care, but oh well, their opinion is rubbish lol
Bariatric surgery is one of those surgeries I have people around me who have had and with very different views about it. One of my relatives totally regrets hers and her brother loved his and they are in the same family. My relative who regrets it says she would never have it done had she known what it was like before but no one talks of her as a regretter because of that.
First, as a nurse for over 10 years I've heard some beautifully illustrative food analogies for various wound descriptions, black currant jelly is a wonderful new one for me. Also thanks for sharing your experiences
I wonder, did you try to do a factory reset on your human OS system a.k.a. your brain or maybe you can install some ram maybe that would help the buffering I’m just joking
@@PokhrajRoy. full disclosure I have severe ADHD, so my brain is always on the off button got broke Like my buffering will be like 1 billion different thoughts over lapping each other to the point where my brain just shuts down and I can’t function while like im paralyzed mentally it’s hard Dealing with life questioning your gender identity trying to figure out who you are dealing with both mental and physical health problems. It’s hard.
I also had complicatons after my bottom surgery, I was not in any danger, but it was still very scary, hard and a little traumatizing at the time. I always loved that you talked about the reality of getting surgery. It is a big thing and people who want it need to be mentally ready. However, like you, it changed my life for the better and not once did I regret it. They always seem to leave that part out. If we are ready to go through that much pain and we don't regret it, it should tell them something.
Transphobes love to make surgery a topic where you can't win. If you're honest about complications (should you have them) they latch onto it like the people harassing Jamie did here. If you don't disclose it, they'll be sure to let you know about it. I'm not trans but watching this all from the sidelines is so frustrating. I did have an orchiectomy for testicular cancer so I can at least relate to the recovery process, appreciate your honesty on that front.
And if you choose that surgery is too high risk for you or not something you're interested in, you're a performative faker trying to feel special that can't settle for being a GNC cis person.
Transphobes also act disgusted by trans people who haven't had surgery because, "Men aren't supposed to have these parts, and women aren't supposed to have those parts." Yet when it comes to trans people who have wanted and could afford to get these procedures done, transphobes describe it in derisive language and grossly exaggerate the rate of regret. Your second point needs to be emphasized as well. Almost all procedures associated with medical transition were originally developed for and still used in cisgender patients. Yet transphobes only have a problem when trans people do it. Actually, that's not even the case, because their end goal is to remove bodily autonomy and make healthcare harder to access for everybody.
I'm a 54 year old bi cis woman, and I love this channel ❤️. I'm sorry that those hateful ghouls are bothering you. You've built a lovely community here 😊.
@@larachaplauske8818 you're either a woman or a man. The only thing in between is a hermaphrodite. You are a woman if God created you biologically that way. bi - you are attracted to men and woman - a choice, but still a woman. A man cannot be a woman. A woman cannot be a man. Delusion is mental. God is not.
The TERFy response reminds me so much of how people talk to survivors of sexual assault. Like there's something terribly wrong with you if you talk about it publicly, you must be lying about what really happened and have some sinister agenda, you must be a bad person in some way and deserved it, etc. It just turns an already difficult situation into something much more traumatic. In silencing the people who try to talk about it, they are ensuring that all the bad stuff can keep happening to others. I'm so sorry that happened to you (both the complications and being targeted by transphobes), but you're doing a lot of good in the world by talking about it all.
I'm a csa survivor. I always push back at ppl who try to victim blame. I'm like, so you're blaming a 5 year old for their biological father cs abusing them? Hmmm. Says a lot about you. I am always open about my sbuse. And any covering it up on anyones account imboldens and rewards abusers. Same with transphobes.
as a SA survivor I've been through that - with people I thought were my friends, with so-called psychologists, hell one of them said outright to me "your trauma is your fault" (I never went back - luckily for me, I was far enough along in my healing to recognise that she was wrong - had I not been, I dread to think how that would have damaged my psyche). I feel like it's not even specific phobia at this point, it's just xenophobia, if someone is different (for whatever reason) they are to be feared instead of understood. Wilful ignorance begetting xenophobia. As a species we're supposed to be evolving past all this and instead it feels like we're devolving back to the disparate, negative, secular ways of the past. I hope humanity can turn this around or else we're all just paving the way to our own annihilation (be that physical or societal).
Yup. Obviously I can never understand what the trans experience is, but my god do I have plenty of experience with how people (mostly cis men) treat me as a SA survivor.
These people do some real mental gymnastics to accuse you of hiding something they found because you shared it publicly. Like, you aren't glorifying the surgery and advertising it while hiding your complications, you made that video so that people could be informed of the risks before making a decision. It's literally the opposite of everything they claim.
This is literally just informed consent and it applies to EVERY medical intervention under the sun- including common OTC medications! Everything has its share of risks and adverse effects, it's just a matter of weighing risks versus benefits, understanding them, and monitoring for severe adverse effects so they can be treated promptly.
Proud of you for talking about this Jamie!! I'm sorry about the transphobic videos made about you :/ This is very unrelated to this entire video, but I'm getting my official autism diagnosis tomorrow! I'm sorry, I'm just happy that I can finally get support and I wanted to share that because the commenters on this channel are all very lovely :))
Wait wait, you weren't trying to convince me to get "bottom surgery?" Because I was totally looking into it even though I'm a cis woman. (Of course I saw an ad for insulin once and went out and got T1 diabetes so maybe you can't go by me.) I'm sorry people are stupid and I'm glad you are in the world. Thank you for sharing your journey and your hilarious takes on the aforementioned stupid. Much love! ❤
Im a bi cis woman and I had a breast reduction surgery years ago. I’ve actively encouraged many other people to get that surgery (those that expressed to me that they were considering it) because I was so pleased with my results. And not one person has ever harassed me for doing so. Because you’re absolutely right. This is purely about people being transphobic. They don’t actually care about anyone else’s welfare.
@@haylene7521 Turkey is a good place to get cosmetic surgeries in my experience, as the prices are very reasonable and almost feel too good to be true for what the results are. My mum went there to get breast reduction surgery and I went there to get top surgery. For reference, it cost me around 5k euros in total (plane tickets, surgery, hotel all included). I believe the actual surgery was around 4k.
This is not the same your a woman who reduced your breaststroke sheesh ove pushed out two kids I've had more reconstruction then you done there in sure but you don't see me trying to compare myself to trans people that's insane 😂😂😂
Not denying that there are transphobes out there, but you can't compare a relatively simple augmentation with a high risk one like bottom surgery. Like, you can't lose your ability to climax from a breast reduction or end up a eunuch. One tissue is removed, the other they literally reconstruct the entire area, it's far more dangerous to do and you wouldn't go around recommending people do something dangerous to their bodies.
I had stage 1 phallo in late 2022 and I can't explain or fully convey how much it has improved my life even though I'm not finished all of the stages yet. While we had different types of surgery, Jamie's videos are incredibly helpful in preparing people for the realities of surgery. As it stands, my recovery from phallo was incredibly pain free, just long. Compared to my top surgery (I had a hematoma also requiring a second surgery), recovery from bottom surgery was less painful. Everybody will have different experiences and its so important to hear a diversity of experiences to better prepare yourself for a pretty massive surgery. I have never regretted either my top or bottom surgery despite complications or long recoveries. These surgeries made my life worth living and I'm so lucky I've been able to access them.
Just wanted to throw this out there; The regret rate for knee replacement surgery is around 20% to 30%, while the regret rate for gender-affirming surgeries is around 1%. Haven't seen a lot of people advocating to ban knee replacement surgery. 🤔
do you have a source for the 1% regret claim? not that i dont believe you, i want to see if its something i could use in arguments with other people if needed
National Institutes of Health was the first one i could find but there are far more. If only transphobes opened up google and looked up some things without saying its wrong immediately or twisting their search to benefit them. @@svkona
@@svkona I can't provide a proper number or citable source, but the information pack from my surgeon describes 'Regret over having the operation' as 'Exceptionally rare; the main regret patients have is choosing one particular type of [surgery] over another'
I really appreciate you discussing your experiences. I'm queer but not trans, and I do know and work with trans youth. You are a wonderful voice to hear, and are living proof that trans people can and will be happy with their lives and choices. Simply presenting information, both pros and cons, and being open about your own experiences are so so helpful for people who need that information.
Thing is, you didn't 'nearly pass away' because you were being taken care of by trained professionals who had the training to make revisions if needed. Transphobes want to make safe surgery inaccessible to trans people and cause thousands of people to fall back on untrained, unsafe surgeons working under unsanitary conditions. That would be a problem, not grown adults making choices about their own body.
On top of that, lack of resources for follow-up care is an issue. Many people still have to travel long distances for these surgeries (especially bottom surgeries). While they'll have support initially while recovering at or close to the surgical hospital, once they return home it's sometimes a very different story.
The sad thing to me is, this sounds EXACTLY like the warnings others made for a certain other politically charged medical procedure (*cough* ABORTION *cough*) and look where we are now. And if they're willing to look the other way at the figures of maternal fatality and victims like Kate Cox, they'll look away from these poor souls too.
@@autumn_k Yes! I live in Canada where there's only a handful of surgeons per province who do masculinizing top surgery, many of them don't take the public healthcare, and more than half the provinces and territories have one or zero options in the whole area -- New Brunswick, Nova Scotia, and Saskatchewan each have one; PEI, Newfoundland and Labrador, Northwest Territories, Nunavut, and Yukon Territories each have zero. I'm lucky to live in a city that has a couple of providers, so I'll probably be able to recover a lot at home and have follow-up care, but for bottom surgery, there's five surgeons in the entire country who do it -- two are in Vancouver, two are in Montreal (the only place that accepts public health insurance), and one is in Ottawa. I do trust my local doctors to be able to handle my follow-up care if necessary even if they don't perform my specific procedure, but there are clear risks involved with, say, flying or driving a long distance a week after having genital surgery.
Trans"phobe" suggests we're afraid of you guys, when you're really just kinda amusing in a sad kinda way to most of us. Feel free to use "sane folks who think we're ridiculous".
You people keep claiming genitals doesn't define gender or we are the one obsessed with genitals but you people are the one saying stuff like this all the time 🤣. Peak comedy and projection lol
Childbirth is often the most painful and dangerous medical situation a person will ever be in their life. But nearly everyone who goes through that horrific, painful, potentially life threatening experience says they don't regret it, and the result was worth it 1000%. So why don't we see people on the edge of their seats, gasping at how anyone could dare go through such a trauma! Childbirth is seen as this sacred thing by some people, in spite of how dangerous it can be. And, the audacity of these people, who almost DIED doing this, suggest going through such an awful thing to other people! I'm sure the reward you get from trans surgery far outweighs the negative experience of the surgery, much like people who have a baby.
Exactly! I had complications after childbirth that I will deal with for the rest of my life. That doesn't mean that my son's existence wasn't worth it. The same goes here with surgical transition.
Actually, regret rate for pregnancy is higher than for any trans specific surgery (both are really small though, 1% for trans, 5+% for pregnancy), which makes the demonising of trans stuff make even less sense.
Well.. in that case, isn't there a neurological/chemical response that makes people forget the traumas of pregnancy, as an evolutionary mechanism to encourage having more?
I just straight up don't understand why people think being trans in general is a bad thing anyway, but let's put that aside for a second. What benefit would it be for anyone to try to "encourage people to get surgery." I don't even understand what they think any kind of "agenda" is or how anyone would benefit from trying to "recruit" someone to join said "agenda." Makes no sense.
Which is surprising. Trans people existed for a long time. Even a lot of cultures believed in more than 2 genders until colonization & Christianity happened...
Uh ... If everyone is trans, then... Uh... Ikea will make millions in shark plushies, yes, that's the trans agenda. Ikea is the one who benefits from turning the youth trans. ( The trans agenda is a literal conspiracy theory )
I believe it’s projection from most people. The most grooming behavior I’ve ever experienced has been from highly religious people, particularly Christians, forcing children to be a specific way and believe specific things starting from really young and threatening them if they don’t just blindly follow
as an easily influenced youngster of only 42 years, i must say that i've been watching your channel for many months now and i am quite disappointed that i am still not trans! i mean wtf is that about? all of these social media trolls have assured me that your videos are explicitly engineered to convince young people to become trans and yet here i sit, still cis. i demand a refund.
Yeah, me too. After watching these videos, I'm just a much better informed cis person. I'm still not interested in changing my pronouns, taking hormones, or having any surgery. WTAF?! It's not working!
Im cisgender but I think I can understand the effect of your body not matching how you feel in a small way. I got chemo in 2016 to 2018 and lost all my hair. The effect was beyond devastating and I really really struggled for a while. I had always thought that losing your hair would be no big deal because wigs etc but my god the effect was really heavy depression, feeling like a monster and just feeling entirely wrong in my body. The mirror didnt match my view of myself. My point is I really don't think anyone should judge anyone else's medical decisions, they're so personal and depend on a persons feelings. Feelings can't be dictated or argued. Unless you are a doctor you shouldnt be venturing a medical opinion imo. I'm so glad Jamie is happy with his results and sad people use his personal journey as a stick to hit other people with. I wish people were nicer to each other. ❤
Yes - all surgery carries risk! I’m a cisgender woman. My menstrual cycle gave me complications that resulted in me losing so much blood that I required a transfusion and hospitalization. I also had to have multiple D&Cs. You don’t have to be trans for your reproductive organs to cause health problems. Your videos have helped me understand trans people so much better, and I’m so thankful for you and your generosity. Big hugs! ❤❤
Thank you. At 70 years old this isn't a subject I know much about. However I wish you ongoing health and happiness. Keep up with letting us know about your life. It is educational for me.
I think your vlogs about your experience has done a lot more good than bad imo. Don't get discouraged by it. My daughter is not trans but has learned a lot from your journey and has helped her be more educated on the situation and has become a better ally for her friends who are experience gender diaspora as a result of it. Your videos don't only help those experiencing it but also those who just want to learn how to be a better person in society. I appreciate greatly for your willingness to be open and honest to better improve the views and help people who want to be there for others. Thank you for being an awesome person
I just wanted to say a big thank you for making this video ❤ I came out to my mom as ftm a few weeks ago and her response (after she stopped ignoring it) was to have me and her look up detransitioner stories for a few hours. 😮💨 (She's also been getting her info from Christian/transphobic sites.) All that to've been said, I'm making a playlist for her to watch, and this is defo going on there. ❤
This was the best video ever we have seen .. because of your honest and open demeanor.. we subscribed.. thank you for your courage and strength doing what was best for you.. thank you 💜💙
I love your videos, man. As a rather young cis male (a bit younger than your average demographic), I want to know more about the lifestyle and struggles of trans individuals in order to better educate myself and allow me to properly interact with other trans individuals in my life, and heck, even look at my own dysphoria. Whether I find that I need to act on it or I find solitude in my current identity, I think it's important for everyone to understand the risks, but also the many, many benefits that comes with transitioning. When everyone gets it, the world can be a better place for everyone.
Jamie, thank you so much for sharing all that you do. I can't imagine how hard it is to find the balance of what to share and keep private. Not to mention the strength it takes to handle things as professionally as you do, no matter the hate some folks choose to spit at you. I'd also like to thank you for being a source of education for those like myself trying to learn about people different than me. I learned a few years ago that someone very dear to multiple people in my life was transgender. I decided to try to learn more about what that meant. I didn't realize how ignorant I was but I am forever grateful that I found you. (For context I live in Mississippi. Casual transphobia is common I'm ashamed to say.) Sending you SO MUCH love Jamie❤
Thanks once again, Jamie, for sharing yourself, your experiences, and your knowledge. I'm grateful that you have the strength, courage, and honesty to be "vulnerable" with us. As an "80-y.o. cishet white girl," I admire you tremendously and appreciate you lots.❤
My kid is a young person who watches your channel, and I’m glad, because now I watch it too! (We also have your book, and I’ve got a little Pud watching over me.) Thanks so much for sharing your experiences and teaching people who want to learn. These are such personal experiences, and it would be hard enough to be open about such things if there WEREN’T all the transphobes and potential threats-I really appreciate your bravery, kindness, and fun personality. You and OT are both what I call “wholesome RU-vid.” ❤
Only just started watching the vid. But just wanted to say that you and your channel are amazing. Im a cis female, though, im an ally with a lot of trans friends. My dads friend came out as trans to us and qnd began transitioning when i was a teen so ive been an ally a long time. Shes amazing and is thriving as her true self now. Its lush to see how much it can make someone shine, to finally live as their true self. I think you and your content is very helpful and very brave. Ive followed you for a while and always reccommend your channel to rhose around me. Thankyou for helping create more understanding and a safe space for all the trans people out there Youre fab. And i hope you have a wonderful day
Your videos have educated me so much when it comes to trans issues. You’re going incredible work. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing such personal information for the sake of education.
@@Mossyspring They're not opinions. They're facts. In this video, Jamie just says what happened, straight up, no embellishments or dramatisation whatsoever.
My mum nearly died from complications of gallbladder surgery. I don’t see anyone getting their knickers in a twist over how nobody should be allowed to have that operation because of potential complications. Happily, four years after her horrific experience of spending a month in hospital and needing further corrective surgeries, I had my own gallbladder scooped out and it was entirely routine, with me leaving hospital 24 hours after admission.
I had the same surgery, it was also routine, I was actually let out of hospital about 6 hours after coming out of surgery (although was unable to do much at home beyond read books for about a week) - though mine was keyhole so maybe that's why it was only 6 hours. At any rate, I agree that it doesn't matter what prefix you put in front of "surgery", there are ALWAYS risks and ALWAYS a chance something can go wrong. I wonder if the bigots have the same view of cosmetic surgery like breast enhancement or liposuction... /ponder (I suspect not)
When I was going in for my gallbladder surgery, my mother felt the need to tell me that my great grandfather died during gallbladder surgery. That was in 1931. Could have had something to do with the 7 hour train ride to the nearest hospital, but thanks mom, lol.
I think it's so important to learn about trans people experiences from them. That's why I'm so glad I found your channel when I was younger. I didn't know any trans people, I had a lot of questions and hearing about your experience helped make sense of it and at the end of the day made me a better person
I'm so glad that you are doing so much better. I'm so glad that you've found a good place with wonderful people (hi Shaaba!) and how you try to help others get there too. Thank you and warm wishes to everybody that's a part of this community.
Can I just thank you again for making yourself vulnerable, sharing your story taking on the labor of educating people about this subject. It has given me context for the experiences of the trans people in my own life. ❤
Even as a trans guy who doesn't want bottom surgery (personal reasons), this was very interesting. I do know that could change and I might want it later in life. Yet as of now I don't.
You take your time and be your true self. Your genitals don't make you YOU!! My inner gender doesn't match my outer gender in any way but I know who I really am and love me for me. Others may not, but I can just not talk to them. Why would I expect others to love me when they don't love themselves? Again, I love me, so it's all good.
Same. It would take a lot more time and thought than top for me as well. And I am the kind of person that looks at doctors taking my blood and ask them the physics of it... Removing the reproductive hell organ called a uterus though, I have already decided is very likely.
Surgeons are not honest people no matter how much they seem they are. Surgeons are not interested in your happiness, they are only interested in your money. Please be careful.
Transitioning is a hard and long journey but the benefits are so worth it. Thanks for sharing your story, Jamie! In my own news, my girlfriend is hoping to start HRT soon, so that’s a massive W for us.
Good on you Jamie standing up for yourself, it’s so bad there are people out there trying their hardest to put their beliefs into other peoples’ experiences in ways that are supposed to discredit them (that would be you in this case). I find this happens in a number of situations. They have overstepped the mark. ‘Stay in your own lane’ is a saying that seems appropriate here, though people would like you to be silent so others cannot even see what’s happened in your lane. This of course is ridiculous, no one needs to stay silent about their own experiences. Some people ‘worry-wart’ that other people will be influenced into doing something these worry-warts think is wrong, again I say ‘keep in those lanes people!’ Maybe they could sort out their own anxieties & look at their own lane staying habits. I would vote for that. Cheers.
I was a baby trans around the time that came out. I was so happy for that information! It helped me so much. I didn’t know where I was going in my transition at that time. I’m currently planning on meta and very thankful for you in general. Watching your videos tide me the strength to come out and I’ll be forever thankful
The only thing I regret about my social transition is that people are transphobic. It's not MY identity that makes parts of my life suck, it's that other people can be horrible. I bind my chest because that's what's right for me. And I've actually had some issues there, as I have other medical things going on. I can't bind as much as you're meant to be able to without having some fairly bad pain. That doesn't mean I regret it. It just means that I have to be careful. People will take issue with us just because we're trans. If they really were concerned for people's health, they'd be petitioning for free healthcare so that people don't need to wear "do not call an ambulance" bands and things.
1st- I love your videos! My teenage son is trans so watching your videos helps me understand so much and opens up conversations with my son. So thank you SO SO much for sharing ypur story! 2nd- my first pregnancy ended up in an emergency c-section. There were complications that led me to bleed, lose 2 liters of blood, my kidneys were failing, and I had to go to surgery again. I share this to backup your point that all surgeries have risks. Though the birth was traumatic, I am so happy with the child it brought into my life. But transphobes will never discourage people from having children because of my story because it doesn't fit their stupid narrative.
I haven’t watched the series you’ve been referencing yet but, as openly as you’ve talked about your experiences and surgeries, you lead to me having an important conversation with my doctor the other week. I have a connective tissue disorder that makes complications a bit more likely with any surgery and while I do plenty of research I had been reasonably anxious about getting invested and turned down. Particularly with something as complex as bottom surgery. Thankfully I was put at ease and we had an important chat about assessing risk and how there may be some additional precautions. If surgery will improve my quality of life it isn’t off the table by any means. Which understandably has me alot more confident about my future whatever I decide to do.
Oh my gosh Jamie!! This story made me squirm I can not even imagine your emotions at the time. This is so scary to imagine you had internal bleeding to this degree! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and thoughts on bottom surgery. It’s so valuable to have information for trans people and their families to know on the internet like this. Thank you. ❤
The energy people dedicate to being hateful is just unbelievable. 😂No one was screaming about my complications from a burst appendix. A 'simple' surgery, but due to human error I didn't get the right help to the point it was too late to even risk opening me up and removing it. So I had to emergency drain all the abscesses and fluid that was cramming in my organs. A whole mess! Doesn't mean that all appendix surgeries end up badly, lol. Thank you Jamie for being so honest about things. Stay safe everyone. 💖
I've had the cis female versions of upper and lower surgery (reduction and hysterectomy) for health reasons and although the surgeries were difficult and I was lucky not to have any major complications, what matters is that I am healthier now because of those surgeries. Everyone deserves access to necessary medical care which includes affirmative care for trans individuals seeing as mental health is just that...part of your health!!!!! And healthcare is no one else's business to judge since they aren't living your experiences. If surgery is part of your healthcare journey, then that is between you and your healthcare team, and anyone else can keep their opinions to themselves unless specifically asked.
Thanks for sharing. Being a gay cis male I know nothing about what you've been through, but the information your sharing, I can see, will be very useful to those who are considering that option. It helps tremendously to have all available information. I appreciate your candor, keep smiling and spreading the word.
My bottom surgery (different surgery, naturally) was seven years ago as of yesterday. I can hardly remember what it felt like before. It ended up being a strangely great time. My results were good and uncomplicated. Owing to luck, perhaps, the pain was low for me. Not a universal experience, I know. But the major upshot was during convalescence at the surgical hospital, it was the first time in my life I had spent an extended amount of time in a space where nearly everyone was trans. It was the first time I experienced feeling normal without having to closet myself. Still waiting for that regret that transphobes always warn me about to kick in. Haven't felt the slightest hint of it yet, but who knows; maybe next year.
I (60ish cis woman) was at lunch with two work friends who brought up someone they knew planning to go through transition and criticizing and ridiculing those people very viciously. I had never heard the term and had no idea what they were talking about. But tried to defend the people who seemed to be trying to improve their lives. There was also a long diatribe about how this would ruin sports, etc. So, I went home to You Tube to figures out what my friends had been talking about and ran across Jammidodger’s channel where he was chronicling he transition and providing clear information. I followed the entire process and it all made sense and should be a person’s decision to make for themselves and not for others to judge. I learned so much and came away with great respect for people who stood up and went after what they needed to be themselves. When I next had lunch with the others, I blew them out of the water with accurate information and “slapped” them around for daring to think they had the right to tell others how to live their lives. I continue to work to be an advocate for choice and against those who try to decide for others how they are to be allowed to live their lives. JUST LEAVE PEOPLE ALONE TO LIVE THEIR BEST LIVES. IT’S NO ONE ELSE’S BUSINES!
I just ordered your book as a bday present and I’m sooooo excited to read it. You’ve been a amazing help to me as I’ve grown into my nonbinary self through the years thank you for posting about your transition and yourself
I'm about to start T and then have top surgery next year. I'm so glad that people like Jamie exist on the platform so that people like me can get the information we actually need to know
I had my bottom surgery this last June (minimal depth vaginoplasty) and I remember complications with my IV and with not being able to pass gas. The pain was terrible, I threw up on myself, and there were a few hours that I thought I was just going to die there in the hospital. The next day, I was released. My recovery wasn't too bad. I have zero regrets. I love your openness and your channel is my favorite trans-related channel.
Hi Jamie, ive been watching your videos since 2020. I truly belive people just need to realize that they need to get their information from the actual person or group. I was hearing a lot of stuff about trans people back in the beginning of 2020, but it was all from non-trans people just deciding that trans people were "being trans" for nefarious purposes. I realized it seemed a bit biased, so i chose to find a real trans person on youtube sharing their actual perspective and life. I found you! You changed all of my veiwpoints and helped me understand. I used to have some transphobic thoughts, but thanks to you i dont have them anymore. I love your videos. Never stop being your amazing self. ❤🏳️🌈
I'm trying to think of how to be trans for nefarious purposes, and the only thing I can think of is a trans person sneaking into a staff-only area to slap hundreds of trans-colored pastel stickers all over the walls and desks.
Thank you for sharing your journey, after my hysterectomy it took a long time to feel like a woman still, you have helped me so much along with your wife to understand that woman are more than just our ability to give birth. The recovery pain of surgery is always hard, I am so grateful you are where you are I. Your recovery now.
I think it's great your sharing your experience, I am sure it will be helpful for someone having the same surgery. I'm glad after that scare of swelling and needing the complications fixed that you healed and are living your best life!! I had open heart surgery and shared my experience so why is any surgery of any kind bad to share your experience, this video popped up I watched and thought good on you sharing your journey and experiences xx
I feel that people shouldn't have opinions about what surgery someone is getting, it doesn't matter if it's trans related or not. Everyone decides for themselves what they want to do with their body, it's not a topic that is up for discussion unless someone asks for advice. You shared your story about your own experience and maybe someone out there who might be considering getting bottom or top surgery will feel like they are ready for what's to come, that's fantastic! I'm not trans but knowing what MIGHT happen is always a bonus and hearing it from someone who has first hand experience is amazing!
I've told plenty of people about how bad my wisdom teeth surgery was, how I was spitting up so much blood and hallucinating on anesthetics, and no one's ever accused me of "encouraging dangerous surgeries" even though the surgery was mostly for cosmetic issues. Surgery, all surgery, is ugly and gross. It's better that folks like you are there to prepare people.
I love you and your videos so much, but i had a mouthful of diet coke when you mentioned the jam for your toast... I'm now drying my phone and apologizing to my bf for his brief cold fizzy shower 😂 So much love, and thank you so much for all the transparency in your private life. You are raising awareness in places where you wouldn't expect. The transphobes are a loud obnoxious minority. They are pathetic and just try to be as loud as they can to make ppl think there are more of them than there really are. You are amazing and loved!!❤
I am so thankful for you. I found your Chanel 6 yrs ago when my kiddo told me they are trans. Your videos helped me to understand so much. Thank you for your honesty and transparency.
From reading comments online, I've noticed that the type of person to describe a gender affirming procedure as a gory and traumatizing affair, are also the same ones describing the very horrific thing that is childbirth as a clean and almost enjoyable experience.
(Deleted long rant about personal experiences.) But, basically yeah. It seems to be the same groups of people who hate trans people and who worship labor as since kind of serene, holy experience. My partner wasn't told any of the risks for her first pregnancy, just told how beautiful it would be, and I'm STILL LIVID, even though I wasn't even in the picture at the time.
@@ShegrasiRegalis imagine being told that a somewhat dangerous and unimaginably painful prolonged process is nothing but beautiful and then going into hell and back with positive expectations. that 100% can and will traumatize the SHIT out of people, and it's the polar opposite logic to what Jammidodger's on about here, he wants people to be aware of the possible complications and regular difficulties to expect with a surgery that not everyone expected to have will actually want, to help them decide for themselves through being properly informed but somehow nope he's actually just the bad guy doing the first thing
Thanks for sharing your experience Jamie! We need more people to talk about and normalize trans health and healthcare. All surgeries are scary and have the risk of complications. It’s a shame you had to go through such a tedious aftercare situation.
Jammi. Just wow. I've been following you for a while. I think you're helping people a lot by sharing what happened/happens to/with you. I'm happy you've come out the end and in good shape. Please, keep letting people that it gets better. (Just FYI, I am cis, male, hetero. Probably doesn't need to be said, but there it is. I used to be an idiot in my younger days. But I've grown up. At some point, I realized, it's all Love. As long as everybody involved is a consenting adult, it's LOVE. Sorry, rant over.)
i had a full hysterectomy which ive been wanting since 2016 but it was sorta emergent due to me discovering having severe PCOS my entire life. each of my ovaries were as big if not bigger than my uterus. i had no complications and that was a surprise since im disabled. im fortunate that i healed and recovered well and it relieved nearly all of my dysphoria!! im however due for top surgery this summer!! woooo!! im nervous but hopeful i will be ok and if anything happens i will be well taken care of. thank you jaime for sharing a more indepth story and honestly it doesnt sway me in a bad way. i may still want bottom surgery personally in my future or not!! its so important to understand that with any surgery like you said and even recovery things can change and go wrong!!
@shintososotrill5122 If you have a full hysterectomy, then your ovaries are gone so would assume PCOS symptoms would decrease or go away. I would also think it would probably be good to start T before or after a hysterectomy if you want T. But I think if you didn't start anything you would be put into menopause due to ovaries being gone.
Highlight of this video (please watch all of it): "...getting a tooth-filling comes with risks; but you don't see bigots on the Internet shouting about how we shouldn't go the dentist". Well. Said.
P.S. Lived experience is so important for any reporting of a target issue: this is a quite fundamental thing in any formal education (past the age of 14, in the UK, I guess). Why can't this be the case for educating *ourselves* too?!
How can we compare getting a tooth filling and removing your genitals completely? I'm a straight woman (no cis) and my close relative is trans who I've supported 100% from the start so not being transphobe just curious how both those things can be compared as gential removal has higher risks and life changing outcomes then getting a tooth filled.
@@loujew8973 Not trying to argue with you, but that's not really how trans surgery works. There's a list of different surgical options to choose from, but the genitals are not completely removed in most cases, they are reconstructed. Still, people should take these procedures seriously, as they can't exactly be reversed, and there's many potential complications.
Thank you for sharing your experience - as having honest communication about the risks and benefits of trans-surgeries for those of us who need it are important. Too often we are bereft of accurate information in order to make a proper informed decision. As an older transwoman (I'm 42) who figured out they were trans by looking up "male lesbian" in their local library (only to stumble on an autobiography of a Transwoman) - it can be a very lonely experience without the support of our community. And yes, surgery is very scary. Like you - I was scared of surgery, and would only undertake surgical options if I felt that they were absolutely necessary to solve my dysphoria. And after a slow transition, I eventually got bottom surgery myself. Like you, I had complications (although mine were minor in comparison) - and had a post-op infection of my surgical site that fortunately I was able to treat at home without any additional intervention. So again, I thank you for sharing this, as it will help many of our trans-siblings in the future :D
Hey Jamie! I want to thank you for sharing so openly and genuinely about your experience. I think the last time I checked in with your channel you still had scars from your top surgery. I'm glad to see those have healed so nicely, and that you are doing so well. As a cis gay man (he/him/his) doing his best to not be an "ugly American," I realized at one point that I was relating to the concept of transition (esp. surgery) from a place of cringe, and I decided I needed to learn more & hear more stories to help me get to a place where I could be more genuinely supportive. I'm glad I found your videos. I find you attractive and pleasant to listen to. I remember thinking, "He's CUTE! I'd date him, whether he decides to have bottom surgery or not." You're one of my heroes, dude. Keep on doing YOU! Love to you and your family.
Thank you for being so brave and helpful. You obviously are trying to help and educate others. No one can understand what some else goes through without listening. We are put on this earth to take care of each other! Bless you Jamie, keep up the good work! Love from Lois!
Having complications after a wanted surgery can be really traumatic. Doesnt mean that you shouldnt have had it in the first place. It was necessary and it sucks that there were complications. I had septumplasty surgery 1,5 ago and I needed it because I couldnt breathe. I had really bad complications afterwards, they had to operate me 2 times after the original surgery. Nobody would come to me and say “ah why would you even have that surgery?” Because I needed it. Its the same thing with any kind of gender confirmation surgeries. Thank you for documenting it. Im not trans but it was very informative and I love to learn more about these processes so I can be a better ally.
I had my MtoF bottom surgery around the same time you did. This past December 12th was the 6th year anniversary of my bottom surgery. I ended up with a urethral stricture that was first diagnosed when I ended up in the ER (A&E) because I couldn't urinate. My urologist recommend a urethroplasty to fix it. Unfortunately there isn't anyone here in Las Vegas qualified to do that surgery on someone who has had a vaginoplasty. I am lucky to be seeing trans knowledgeable urologists. They just aren't qualified to do the surgery. So I have to go to southern California for it. As much as a urethral stricture really sucks. I don't at all regret getting bottom surgery. It's done wonders for my dysphoria. I would rather have a vulva and a urethral stricture than a fully functional penis. Transphobes hold trans surgery to an unreasonably high standard that they don't apply to other surgeries. They complain about AFAB people getting top surgery but never say anything about AFAB people getting huge breast implants, face lifts, Brazilian butt lifts ETC. How come they never tell cis women that they are fine the way they are and don't need cosmetic surgery? It's transphobia. The correct answer is transphobia. Otherwise they would raise concerns about cosmetic surgery. Thanks for sharing your story Jamie.
This strength is what I was thinking about the entire time I was going through top surgery and will be holding on for my bottom surgery journey. 🏳️⚧️Self made men squad🏳️⚧️
I am so amazed by how much you've physically changed i recently decided to accept my being a trans male ive known since i was 6 im now 47 ive spent the last 22 years denying who i am to make others happy i moved hundreds of miles away so i could start being me and in couple of months my mental health problems have lifted like never before your videos make me feel braver about the physical changes of becoming me you really are an inspiration
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's super brave. I really appreciate your candid and factual attitude. I find it helpful for friends or partners of transmen, too, to be better prepared for caring for our loved ones who are recovering from bottom surgery
Complications and tramua can happen in other surgeries as well, but they are still most likely recommended for improvement of life, saving of life etc as Jamie says. This as a rediculous argument by transphobes. As a cis-het women I have extreme tramua from my own surgey as well as witnessing medical situations of family completely unrelated to trans-surgey. Yet we are all better/alive for having those surgeries/procedures. Talking about it helps us heal and feel less alone.
THIS VIDEO IS EVERYTHING - the standard trans surgeries are held to is absurd! My top surgery recovery (7 weeks post-op now) was so incredibly smooth and honestly so easy but I was worried I'd have to hide my real experience from people in case they would weaponize any tiny complication or bump in the road against my choice to get surgery
My top surgery was just yesterday, through the same clinic, surgeon and hotel as the elder friend-of-the-family who drove me to my operation, and I'm happy to say it went without a hitch. My brother was out of it when he had his, and doesn't remember most of the following week, but I'm already lucid and wasn't even nauseous when I woke up like they expected me to be, just spent most of the rest of the day only waking to eat or drink or take my pills.
I'd put on silky-soft pajamas from my roomie when the surgeons woke me up. When I was brought back to the hotel, one of my friends had sent flowers to my room. I slept with a neck pillow and chest pillow and sleep mask from the roomie and her mom, maximally comfortable. My phone was blowing up with congratulations from all my friends and group chats. My grandmother is gonna be staying at my house when I come back home to make sure I have everything I need. I was filled with so, so, so much love.
The way Transphobes are saying that he's "promoting trans surgery to children" is as if I were to say "I had chocolate icecream today. It was really nice." and them responding with "why are you telling us that we have to buy chocolate icecream? some people are lactose intolerant! you're forcing this onto us!" like what even
I just ordered your book! It should arrive by March 7.. I am so excited! You've been such a huge inspiration to me throughout my own transition, I can't thank you enough! Looking forward to reading your book!
Going through surgery (as your only option) is scary. I had heart complications that resolved itself 2 years ago and the only option was surgery. And yes, there could've been complications if I went that route, so you're brave for doing it. No transphobe will ever take that away.
