Therapist Reacts to INSIDE OUT with the filmmakers! Meg LeFauve, Kevin Nolting, and Jonas Rivera 

Can you pretty please do a Rango episode? Muchas gracias

You guys have to see yuru camp. If not for yourselves, because your fans deserve to see it too.

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Time and again throughout my life, people have used the vulnerablitities I let them see, to punish me when I've dared to stand up for myself to them. It's thanks to those who understand emotional integration & have emotional intelligence & use it to help themselves & others heal, who are the heroes of life.

Lifetime’s Flowers in the Attic, Petals in the Wind WITH Heather Graham plezzzzz!

Aww, that's such a beautiful story. It's really wonderful and inspiring that your daughter understands that it's healthy to show sadness, and not to suppress it.

Aww that so sweet, I’m glad the movie gave you a way to truly understand your daughter and have her to express her emotions in a healthy way

Good job mama 👏👏👏

@@trinaq Thank you! I was a sensitive kid and seemingly passed it on 😅 I needed that knowledge when I was small 💙

That's incredible. Good on you for being open to change and advice. I know we don't know each other but you did so well and I'm so proud of your little one! I admire you. 😊 💕

It reminds me of my favourite scene from Love, Simon. For all its flaws, the scene when his mom says ”you get to exhale now Simon” is one of my favourite scenes out of any movie. It captures the emotions around holding something in and being able to finally let it go so so well. You can see how being able to sit with the fact that he doesn’t have to hide anymore affects Simon and ot gets me every time

Everyone always talks about Bing Bong but to me, what you described is the real emotional core of the movie

This is extremely well-written

Riley’s sadness/joy in her parent’s arms is only comparable to Coco’s last song. Deeply moving work by animation.

Bruh second movie to make me cry ever

Takes a special kind of person to do that. That is a high compliment indeed.

They're literally telling you, you're so empathetic! So it's indeed, the best real Life badge of honor someone could give to you

There's something broken in our society, isn't there? :D People are so afraid of being sad and try to pretend they aren't. It's okay. Sometimes we are sad. We are sad for a reason.

you being sadness is the highest complement you could achieve

The show might not fit your sensibilities, but the portrayal of Keith (from Grief) in Big Mouth is pretty spectacular. Cathartic and reassuring and worth watching, albeit definitely not a Pixar movie. Plus Richard Kind is the voice actor, and he's just delightful

I would say you grew into additional emotions - that would be my answer nowadays to your parents question. I can relate to your description of yourself, I also always was more the happy girl. But nowadays I realized that there also always was a big sadness inside of me - not a bad thing, just something that makes me feel more intensely, be more empathic, seing more of the unjustly things that happen in life and which are wrong (and moarning it). I also had trouble admitting this to myself - and I am learning more and more to embrace also this side of my character. It is a never ending journey to find out who we are ourselves and I am in awe how I can surprise myself over and over again. I am not that fixated picture someone (or I myself) put on me, I am so much more. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, they made me think about interesting things and finding new ways of describing and thinking.

I need to remember this. I have 3 girls, eldest being 14, and I often think the question like your parents asked (but i dont ask it). i really do need to remember that my little girl is still there, just growing and maturing.

I had no choice but to stop speaking to my parents a number of years ago, and in my final conversation with my father, he said he refused to accept my sadness, and that he wouldn't take anything less than his "happy little girl." It really broke me. Children grow into being so much more than "happy little," as they should. And they just need a safe space to do it in.

Thank you so much for your comment! I remember hearing often while growing up "what happened to our happy little boy?" or "you were always such a happy baby, what happened?" It always led to me feeling so invalidated. And yet simultaneously my parents would wonder why I was never able to open up and be emotionally vulnerable with them. Sadly, there was never that "safe hug" moment with them. I'm no contact with them now as the invalidation (among other things) continued got worse into adulthood. But reading your comment finally validated everything I felt when they would say those same words to me. Thank you for speaking up about your experiences, and for allowing me to share in it with you.

I felt this really hard. My parents and extended family talk a lot about how happy and helpful I was as a kid when they reminisce, and for years that's felt like an impossible standard that's slowly crushing me. Between anxiety and chronic fatigue and pain and years of burnout, I often feel like I'm an anchor while that "happy little girl" that lifted everyone up is just gone, even though I know she's still at my core. I had a really bad fight with my brother once in my early teens, and although I don't remember anything about the subject or what either of us said besides it was harsh, I do remember my mom's response. "You used to be so kind! What happened to that kind little girl?" It still haunts me almost a decade later. I try to be helpful and kind when I can, but I often don't have the mental or physical energy to get out of bed, let alone regularly go out of my way for others, and being in pain makes me more snappish and bitter than I'd like sometimes. Being hyperaware of those "before" standards that I'm falling short of is so hard, and I wish more parents would realize how damaging those types of questions and statements are. There's a small part of me that watches this film and cries every time for that not-as-little girl who was repeatedly told to look on the bright side and power through, and rarely got that big hug she desperately needed.

So true, we make things seem bigger then they truly are.

Great pickup. I totally missed that.

it’s quite literally all in our heads!! 🥺

It's also great foreshadowing for why Riley NEEDS to feel SAD about moving! Not every kid in her class is going to connect with her because she enjoys ice hockey, but by middle school, most of them can relate to losing friends. Of course, Riley isn't used to have Sadness creeping up on a memory and having her other emotions fight to take it down, which puts Sadness in the driver's seat, so it comes out suddenly and clumsily as crying in class. Ironically, if Joy had accepted that Sadness was doing the right thing - having Riley admit she'd lost her team and friends - then she could have directed Riley to say something like, "I hope I can find a good team here." Then Riley wouldn't have cried in class, and someone might have invited her to play with them at recess (the sad pivot to *"We used to play tag and stuff"* is a much more common experience than hockey!) or sit with them at lunch. But events don't always play out well when your life's been uprooted at 11.

Nah, 12 and 13 year olds really are the most judgmental people on Earth. It's not just in your head. The problem is that experience makes a lot of us keep expecting that later in life when people aren't actually like that any more.

I just wanted to say that your comment made me cry because it's so similar to my story. Thank you for sharing this.

@@ionaskualexander1255 Im sorry someone hurt you in the past, but trying to pass those feelings of insecurity and distrust on to other people is not kind.

man she must regret that decision so much. good luck

I'm sure she was hurt, and I'm sure she knows you were worth it and have made the intervening time a positive one for her overall. Honesty can be difficult to practice with oneself, and your courage in doing so is how I know that being with you was worth it. ❤, --a sister

@@lars7747 Wtf? Are you processing what you're watching right now?

Exactly. Been there too. Bullies always punished me for crying, to the point I find crying hard even now, years later

@@elaineb7065 I'm so sorry that people were cruel to you. Nobody should be bullied, especially for showing emotions.

@@elaineb7065You're not alone in that. For a very long time, I didn't even accept having emotions of any kind. While healing is in progress, it doesn't change what has happened and how difficult it was and still is.

I’m sorry that you were punished for being vulnerable, I hope you are currently around people that feel comfortable enough to express yourself too.

My mum did that all the time too, and now she wonders why I won't share anything with her, lol.

yeah, that part shocked me as a child, it was like it hit my heart, that it's horrible not to feel anything, and when I'm older, that part still hurts me, because that's what depression feels like.

Yep, i cried when they said it and this movie actually helped during depression

@@batpat830yo, same! I fell into a deeply depressive state while vacationing in New York some years back and this movie did the same for me. I think it was 2 days after the deep depression started that I finally got myself to sit up in bed, order food, and turn on the tv. As I was channel surfing, up came Inside Out, and I went “Ha! How ironic. Probably not a great idea to watch a movie involving depression while depressed. Or maybe…” I decided to leave it on. It quite literally transitioned me out of that deep depression. When I first saw the film in theaters, the moment Joy and Sadness got removed from the control center, I almost immediately froze. Like…oh no…I didn’t realize THIS is what the movie was going to be about. And during that weekend in NYC, my sister asked me what was wrong. And per usual, my answer was “I don’t know. Nothing? Everything?” That’s what depression is-it’s about nothing yet everything is impacted/involved. Something specific may have triggered it but it’s not always obvious. You may be able to identify what happened right before, but you still don’t know what happened to pull you “down” that far, you know? Sadness may preempt depression, but you’re not necessarily experiencing severe sadness, which is a huge misconception. Well, I personally stop feeling sad. However… fear, disgust and anger can pop up. And all of this is precisely why Joy and Sadness being removed and ejected so dramatically from the control center was an immediate point of recognition for me [in identifying what it was representing].

It's a painfully accurate portrayal, really flashes you back to what it was like in the moment, wanting to make yourself feel something and only feeling that cold, hollow indifference.

I went through a year-long period of intense depression before, and that scene made me feel so seen. That was exactly what it was like.

Absolutely. Her parents are GREAT parents. I mean they do it right, everything parents are supposed to be…and kids still have all these feelings. It’s so important

You’re absolutely right, but it also shows that parents can do harm without meaning to because they’re also human. Like when mom tells Riley that dad will be less stressed if they both pretend that they’re not stressed. That isn’t the job of the kid and she shouldn’t have put that on Riley, even though her intentions weren’t bad. It’s such a good, well-rounded storyline. Humanizing not just Riley, but both her parents as well.

​@@laurenlongfellow9714Thank you for bringing this up. I cringe every time I watch that scene... The pressure we put on kids some times to accommodate adults can be really damaging. Being a parent it's really difficult if you want to do it right. You learn on the job... I am still learning after 10 years 😂

​@@laurenlongfellow9714 And I don't think Riley's mom meant to put any pressure on Riley. Her mom is an adult, for a lot of adults "let's keep smiling" can help. For at least some adults, focusing on the positive sometimes helps. And Riley (on the outside) seemed totally fine with it. I think to some degree, it's just a misunderstanding. No one is at fault, just an honest mistake. I think if Riley had cried in her bedroom, her mother would have comforted her right then and there. But Riley didn't understand what sadness was, or the purpose of it. There is something to be said for having a god cry. And there's something to be said for looking at the glass as half full. A person can be too negative and a person can be too postive. Life need balance, and balance is hard. Especially when you're younger and therefore have less to draw on. And teaching that balance (as a parent) is also hard. Heck, maybe the mom was judging herself as being too negative, because her own daughter seemed to be taking all of it in stride. Again, from the outside. If you filter the movie down to only what the mom can see (what her eyes look at), it looks a bit different.

That's the shared moment of "Crap what did we do that made her think she couldn't confide in us"

I’m so sorry for your loss.

Hugs, we're here for you

We grieve with you. Thank you for sharing.

Me too! It was only my Grandma, but she was the Family Matriarch in the truest sense of the word.

Sorry for your loss...Lost both my grandpa's just after the pandemic...Cried every now and then, whenever I remembered them. The feeling of not being able to be with them, still makes me feel like I didn't/don't grieve them enough...Feels murky

yes, it bothers me a lot that there are people who shame others for crying as if they don't have feelings themselves, because for me it is okay to do it, it is okay to be emotional, it means that you can connect and express your emotions, Inside Out confirmed it

send this to my whole family. im kind of a sensitive person, and i cry easily. When im sad, angry, or sometimes happy, and every time i do, I'm perceived as weak or met with ridicule.

@@alexialaura3529same

@@alexialaura3529 If only I could singlehandedly affirm everyone when they cried. I would love to see more people grow up being affirmed in their sad emotions too

I feel like people who cry often are overall happier people anyway since your just kind of venting your problems to yourself when you cry and that’s so healthy

That scene gets to me more than the scene where Bing Bong sacrifices himself. I also like the scene where everybody expects Joy to fix everything and she lets Sadness take over, and Sadness says "Joy, I can't!" and Joy says "Yes, you can. Riley needs you".

Saudade? I thought it just meant longing... Well damn!

Maro did a song about “saudade!” (Although anyone following Eurovision no doubt already knows that. 😊)

Love that word. I lived in Portugal for a year, and after a friend explained saudade to me Fado became a new level of beautiful.

Sounds like the Portuguese equivalent of melancholy to me

​@avetleeg3654 portuguese has "melancholy" as well, to feel saudade would be literally translated to the feeling of missing something/someone. but at the same time it feels like "missing some-" is bit too shallow to truly translate saudade. idk if I did a good job explaining it, but I tried lol

I was seeing a therapist due to depression and anxiety issues. When Bing Bong evaporated and Riley's memory islands collapsed, I cried.

@@WayneKitching I can barely believe this movie came out almost 10 years ago. It's still a masterpiece of a movie. I hope you're in a better place with your anxiety and depression.

@@rita8274 Thanks. I'm in a much better place. I had been in a toxic work environment, but since physically and mentally moved on.

As someone who suffered from depressive episodes until I got on mood stabilizers at age 29, I agree. "Riley can't feel anything." That's absolute depression. It makes you do things you wouldn't do if you could feel something. It's not like everything when you're depressed is 100% sadness. It's the lack of feeling anything. ANYTHING.

My dad has depression. When we saw the movie in theaters, every time something related to depression happened (like the islands losing their color and falling apart) he would make a comment about how he didn't like the movie very much. He went on to see it again many times and said it was his favorite movie for a while. It really resonated with him, even though and maybe because it made him take an uncomfortable look at himself.

I was watching the movie on an airplane. My jaw metaphorically DROPPED when I realized what they were doing - depicting the numbness of depression. It may be the only movie I've sought out to finish that I had begun on a flight.

I cried when I saw this in the theater, the scene where Ryley is running away and the console goes black got me so bad because it's so accurate to what depression is like.

7:17 She was right, it changed the world

YES!!! The Fact that This Movie is not only Phenomenal, But it helps Kids and Everyone Express Their Emotions is just Incredible!!! One Of My Favorite Films Of All Time!!!

For me I was like 40 I am glad you found it so early ❤

I was 25 when I took my 8yo stepdaughter to the movies for this. I remember being stunned- looking around the theater to see if this “anger and sadness aren’t just my brain malfunctioning, throwing a temper tantrum- they’re valuable and serve a purpose” was mind-blowing new information to anyone else. I wasn’t the only adult scanning for common epiphany expressions 🥹

It's terrible but a lot of parents seem to view other emotions and complex feelings as an inconvenience. Not something to help their kids work through and understand but something that needs to be buried.

You're so right! Thank you for sharing this

I feel that. my parents expected me to know how to regulate my emotions when I was a little child but my emotions always felt like something big happening to me rather than something I can control and change. and as I grew they only got bigger. now I'm an adult trying to learn to not be ashamed and afraid of crying or being angry

@@sunshine-dz6xjI read a text today that really resonated with me : I wish I could’ve cried in my mother’s arms but she was always crying in mine. It was too heavy to carry as a child. I didn’t grow stronger, I grew tired”

@sunshine-dz6xj I’ve had dealt with my emotions the exact same way as well. I’ve always felt that I had to put my emotions aside and put others before myself, as an adult I realized just how unhealthy that was since I couldn’t control or even understand my own emotions. After going to therapy for a little while it helped me realize that I’m allowed to feel, to express my emotions in a healthily way. That I shouldn’t have to put them aside and put myself first.

@@yb9964 I relate so much! I should’ve been comforted by the adults in my life but instead I was blamed for my mom’s tears and told that I should stop crying to not make her sad. adults with no emotional control expected a child to be more responsible and emotionally mature than them

Thank you! Glad you're enjoying them! It really is so incredible to talk about films with the people who worked on them - to hear their insights and stories and share them with all of you.

You think that your idea is better for having a civilian inside you? I don't think you need to crap on ideas that are not your own. And I think that it was an excellent movie and Jonathan did well to explain why psychiatrically, it is a good movie too.​@user-lx5je1bh4g

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Specifically Alans tears

@user-lx5je1bh4g I think being aware of your emotions makes it easier to navigate life in general, especially when a problem exists. This movie personified emotions to help children understand the concept of emotions is all. That's my take, anyway.

My EXACT Reaction 😂

After my parents divorced, my mum remarried and we moved to the other side of the world! (USA to Australia). Moving is so hard when you are a kid. I was teased for my accent, because I have glasses and because I am small. I am still in Australia, even though my mum and stepdad moved back to USA!

It's definitely a crying episode!

Over here sobbing too. Cinema Therapy knows how to open the floodgates.

I would ADORE these episodes. Especially the ones on Joel and President Snow!!! They are such interesting characters

President snow would be an excellent choice

God I would love to see the Iron Giant. I feel like too few people talk about it.

I’ve wanted them to do Nimona since I watched it, I would love to see their takes on it

Oh my god _Over the Moon_ and _The Iron Giant_ would be amazing

I was thinking the same thing!

I’d wear a shirt saying that phrase. LOL

I'd buy it

And then Alan's face pointing the finger threateningly hahah❤ i would buy it too!

There are no bad emotions to have, but there are many bad ways to express those emotions. My developmentally disabled older brother (64) who is being care for by our mother (84) has got it in his head it's bad to repress emotions and they shouldn't be held in. Their many disagreements quickly escalate and although he hasn't hit her (as far as I know), from the one's I've seen, it wouldn't surprise me if one day he killed her. (We've spent decades looking for outside help or a place of his own, but when you're poor, you just have to make do, pray, and deal with the consequences.)

Same

I'm dreading the day for when I have tk put both my feline friends. They're 3 and 1 and a half years old so I have a lot to live with them.

We can't wait!!

Me too I'm excited for see it 😌😁

I wonder if they will make Riley gender fluid or something since she has both male and female emotions whereas everyone else in the movie just has one gender in their head. I know the IRL reason is so you can have more varied characters, but it sets up some opportunities.

Same here

That's so awesome! Best of luck with your animation journey.

Same!!! By any chance do you know the Animator of that shot? Because it's my fav shot too!

Hi, same here. I think I probably started with Lord of the Rings review, but the Inside Out one was the biggest hit that time, I think. And this is what kept me glued to this amazing channel. Can't wait to see Inside Out 2!!!

​@@divyadharshani0512It was video about Aragorn and toxic masculinity for me. It was one of their latest posted videos! I got hooked up and I'm still here watching every episode. This chanel had helped me to understand many things about myself my friends and family. I'm so glad I clicked on that video all this years ago.

You're so kind! Thanks for sticking around for so long. And thanks for watching!

Same here!!! I am now currently deciding to pursue a major in psychology to become a therapist. I also want to minor in film studies, because I have learned so much from media and movies and I love to create art in both film and theater. I may not have my life figured out but I know who I am now and who I want to be, and that is all I need for now.

@@krlorigami I think you should give it a go! Take a few Psych Classes (Intro will be hard on purpose, I swear most the classes are not that demanding) I think go for it

I loved that Inside Out dipped its toes into exploring this more by showing us that Riley's mom and dad have different emotions as their central 'leader' at the console - dad's being anger, and mom's being her sadness iirc. I hope the second movie explores that more, because which emotion people tend to comfortably fall back on changes the lessons about which emotions they need to learn to embrace more.

I prefer to feel sad because it's comforting, it sucks but it's what I'm the most used to. I've worked on it, but it is a lot to learn how to accept all of your emotions good and bad to be better/healthier. I want a whole series for Inside Out that lasts a long time with each season (or however many seasons are needed to explore the moment presented in their life) being a different person and why/how they react to external forces due to their emotion. I feel like it could go on and change over time and be a little time capsule of moments in history as well. Idk that's just wishful thinking and some things are better short and sweet like 1 or 2 movies.

@@rita8274 Sadness is a healing emotion. Tears are pain leaving your body. You can cry for and with others as well, healing together as you do. Embrace the bittersweet melancholy, dear healer. You have an amazing gift to share ❤️‍🩹

yeah, the movie also taught me to embrace other emotions, even if they are not happiness, but learning how to manage or direct them

Also, the way they depicted sarcasm in this movie is one of my favorite things ever. One emotion disguising itself as another emotion *does* create something new and visceral that we recognize as its own experience. I absolutely loved it, and I'd love to know who came up with that!

I'm very blessed, I rarely heard those words. Usually my mom would check in on why I was crying. I usually only heard those words if I was being a brat about something, crying because I didn't get my own way or the toy I wanted

@sarahlandis289 I'm glad to hear your family was more understanding. Unfortunately, I heard these words 99% of the time I cried. Mostly because my mom didn't understand why I was crying and it felt like she didn't want to deal with it

@@chibichump I'm sorry it felt like she didn't want to deal with it. That sucks. *hugs*

Not filmmakers, the editor, producer and co screenwriter, not the director

@@kevinzhang6623 They are still a part of the team behind this film.

@@kevinzhang6623 what are the editor, producer, and co-screenwriter, if not filmmakers?

Since you're a therapist I want to share that this particular video really got me to and this is I think why: It has taken me a while, but it was this movie (AND their RU-vid reviews on it... BOTH of them- this one being a very important player) ... which has allowed me to turn bittersweet memories that I'd been just trying to distract myself from "sitting with" ... into cathartic, appreciative revisitations. In my first watch of "Inside Out", I learned the actual value of tears (ironically, after trying NOT to shed them, while watching the movie with my roommates!) ... namely, how tears can release painkilling endorphins and oxytocin along with them. I had definitely noticed... with my [otherwise-successful] attempt to NOT cry upon my first watch, suppressing those tears was VERY PAINFUL... so much so, that I vowed to never again try so hard to suppress tears, lol. Again, it took another good while, but I eventually realized there were thoughts and memories I was unconsciously [repressing?] - pushing away without realizing it "because they were too painful". This upload helped me to realize that and make some good mental progress with productively facing those things :)

We had to! It's special to us! And you know we'll be doing Inside Out 2. 😭

Thanks for sticking around for so long. And thanks for watching! 😊

You're so welcome. Thanks for watching!

Thanks for being one of the OGs! Thanks for watching!