A hurt guy (n*%#@) will play with anyone! A (REAL) MAN may play with the female’s being described in this video but he will ONLY WIFE/MARRY a WOMAN whom know’s how to carry herself and is a good REPRESENTATION of HIM.
I literally wear jeans or jogging pants all the time😭 You can still see my shape because I’m curvy. I don’t go out half naked or anything. Some men are just immature. Like you say it’s about what you allow to be attracted to your reality and your mindset. Because I ignore those immature type of men.
Most women dress reasonable and are quiet. Men will still want to play. I think he summed it up best when he compared the 10 year old girl and boy playing. The little girls grow up mentally but the boys don't and still want to "play."
Man I don't dress like that and I still get played. They tell me in the beginning that they want a relationship then when I take my guard down their no longer interested
I had the same problem and at some point I realized that what I understood as letting my guard down was actually letting them disrespect my personal boundaries by disrespecting my personal boundaries and needs myself. I don't know if it helps or not but I really had the same problem which I do not have anymore. I had other problems though 😊
they tell you what they want to hear... Listen to man when he talks about dark stuff only, that's usually a warning to what you might need to deal with. The rest is pure nonsense to numb your brain, watch for their actions and if nothing is done by 3-6 months max, move on ruthlessly and don't look back. Keep "bedtime" for much later and avoid it altogether if possible.
At the end of the day a man will play with you only IF YOU ALLOW HIM TO! Stand on business & never allow ANYONE to play with you in life and there’s your solution!!
Hey, I hear you. I don’t dress revealing or anything like that, but I am still attracting the same type of guys who seem to desire me for mainly sex. I don’t have very low self-esteem, but I have to believe there’s something I’m doing that’s attracting these great guys with great careers, education, and money; yet still all seem to enjoy me for mainly the “fun”… never willing to be in a committed relationship. So after listening to your video, I’m deleting numbers and asking God to reveal to me and fill me where I have empty spaces and strengthen me so I no longer respond to cheap thrills. Thanks 😊
Right they will approach you regardless its all in your discernment and the standards You throw at them that will determine whether they will go far with you or not!
Dress tye way you feel good and comfortable ladies. What we need to focus on is valuing ourselves and protecting ourselves. Men will use and play with women no matter how they're dressed. It comes down to what women allow.
💯You should ALWAYS dress the way you want to be addressed. You can dress decently & be very smart & fashionable. That way people will respect you more & take you seriously. It's a harsh reality but it's very true.
I think it depends on how you are built. A man can see through a coat. Most women today wear stretch pants which are very revealing. Your reaction to him will show him who you are. Men are visual creatures. If you don’t attract him he won’t pay attention to you. I’m not saying go outside half naked or anything, but be comfortable with who you are. It’s not always the provocative dressing women that are fast. Don’t let the plain Jane’s fool you. Just be you.
I don't want to be approached ever, but as someone else said, you can see a curvy shape. You can wear a damn bag and they will see it. And I really don't want to be a zebra getting eaten by a lion.
Not one tale detected.💯 I love your directness & honesty!! Back in my day....my Dad would say "You have to leave something to the a man's imagination"! No man wants something for himself, permanently that he may feel has been passed around or as they say today "Have a high body count"!! Do what's comfortable for you. Remember 1st impressions are indeed lasting!! Thank you Kirk for your point of view!! 🤔💬 A man's 1st hand experience is always better than room full of women trying to figure it out!!🤷🏽♀️
I think they treat the scantily clad women one way and the respectfully dressed women, another way... Neither style of dress, will make them treat a woman nicely though. The "respectfully" dressed one is gettin' dawged out the same way, once she gives him one thing. That's all.
Not Tru y'all 🤣🤣 this is an opinion it makes sense but its not every mans reality.. . One person cant speak for everyone we are all different men women we all dont think the same ..
I'm 36 years old and I've been married, in relationships both platonic and romantic. My experience has changed my perspective on a lot of things and these comments reflect listening without understanding. As women you're allowed to have your own style and sex appeal in your womanhood however y'all are defensive to the fact that men perceive you as such regardless of it being TRUE or not that's their preference. You don't have to like it but try to understand it and apply it rather than find the flaw in it.
According to everyone I've ever met I'm "unapproachable" which makes sense because I avoid people at all costs outside of work... Not sure how I'd feel about being more open to interactions. Food for thought. Oh shoot but I gotta stay out of my head 🤣
I love that i dress simple..BUT!! When i go out with friends or on a date i am very fashionable without looking half naked. Having a natural sex appeal is a gift, no need to over do it...
My man, You ain't NEVA lied...and your delivery is flawless!Wisdom stands even in this degenerate generation. Because so many dont get it very few are truly happy. So sad.
@@bertaalvarez349😂😂😂. You must dress like it because you are hurt by my comment! I don’t dress like this either, but I’m happy to hear someone talking about this. You have a good one 😂😂😂
Ladies wear what makes you comfortable and confident. Men will use and abuse even if you dress modestly and have a natural body. I wish these “influencers”would start to focus on men’s behavior instead of telling women what we should be doing
You right the way you act carrying yourself all of that been new all this in the 60s 70s I grew up in rhe 60s and are really right how you are that's and be that's the kind of men you get. Because there are mess up women like mess up men you are so right.
Hey bro frist time watching loving hair you are telling truth omg we love you ladies take notes stop showing your bodies cover up have respect for your self thanks for sharing blessings 🙏❤️
My husband used to buy me sexy clothes to flaunt me😂 I walk and dance around my house in silk sexy stuff. I need wear sexy dresses and can't walk out in jogging pant unless I'm in a mood. I can tell in his eyes what he's after. And I just got proposed to again today by a good guy.. .......
So true! Because I dress modest, and I gave lots of good things going for myself and I’m celibate! And never get chosen!! But I always see other ladies get approached and then I start wondering why?? 😢
@@Justalady054 def not no plain Jane LOL WOW!!! I would rather not be approached if I have to be half naked that’s just crazy! And most I SEE when I’m out get approached more when they are. They can do whatever they want idc, I’m referring to what I prefer…I say modest as in I don’t show my body parts off and hanging all out!! I’m not holier than thou at all….I’m classy and sophisticated about how I dress. And men still pretend to want relationships but only want sex in the end and I’m not that type of female. Not knocking who is…but I prefer to not sleep around. My point was men play around and don’t be serious regardless of age, how a woman dress, etc etc. IF A MAN A REAL MAN ready those things don’t even come in the fore front of his brain because he’s on a whole different level. That was my point. Sorry if my comment.. confused you.
I dont judge men based on what they wear. He could wear a suit at work and sag after for comfort. Men however...it dont matter what you wear. If your not an easy target it might take them longer but they gonna get what they want an bounce.
U are soooo right! But alot of the young generation don't believe it. I know cuz I try to explain this to my younger daughter who is 18. I'm older wiser more experienced. But I guess it depends on what your preference is. To each his own🤷♀️
King a friend of mine introduced me to your live , thanks for being so real and honest to the point where it hurts 😢 but it's so true,I appreciate you king for your insight ❤💛💚🌄
I’m a masterpiece whether I’m in scrubs, a nice pant set, or a sundress, and I treat me as such, but I’m honest, a bit nerdy, comical at times and flirty too so men try to have a conversation to further evaluate me until they realize😂😂 study me you won’t pass, I’m not the average book😉
@@pedroquiver9489I’m in my own lane babes, but, going back to the zebra, I don’t disrespect myself or the men that approach, I just observe, be myself and act accordingly. I am a supporter of love, men power and family, nothing like a victim honey🥴
Thank you! New subscriber here!! I’m the quiet one. This helps because i believe that is what had happened currently… ugh 🤷♀️ what to do! Thinking just offline and only RU-vid here. Thank you!!🙏
I was with someone for six an half years an whenever we went out say in the evening or anywhere he would always look at other women an i just hated it !! Especially woman who didnt have much on ! It really was awfull !!!
I agree. If a man is a playa it doesnt matter because they will use you for what they want regardless. If a woman dresses more conservatively than provocatively, they can get approached by the wrong guys and played too. Yes they might take you slightly more seriously, but some men will deliberately misrepresent who they are and their intentions regardless of how you dress.
I think the point of this convo is...... if you dress a certain way the players that's attracted to that players will come out. If you dress like a soccer player, you will attract soccer players. If you dress like a baseball player, you will attract the baseball players. The man you're desiring you dress to attract him if you are attracting men you do not want maybe you need to change something up.
Ok so we can't win for losing. Im in the category of men won't approach.plus i was bore with a nice body and i cant hide it to save my life. I either dress nice or dress like an old women. As far as roles, thats so sexiest bcus women are always blamed for busted dusty empty males. I come from old school, i was taught to dress modest not matronly but leave something to imagination. I look like i have money and my shit together an i have always been this way. I still get those with breast milk on they breath or old enough to be my great gpa. Then i get those that aren't serious. My self esteem has been stepped on so many times. Even the highest of esteem can't stand after that. I'm always asking myself whats wrong with me. Im easy on the eyes keep a job and nice car, cook clean and a great mother to an adult son now.
It still appears that we have to kiss a lot of frogs until we find out Prince charming. 🤴 We have to let them prove themselves first without giving them a damn thing! No honey, no money until they reveal their true intentions. It's a waiting game.
If you are a people pleaser and always doing the most for said people that will get you dogged out. If it's a habit you gotta break that and also have standards with whomever you meet
Some women wanna play The Game like men do the roles have reversed and a lot of ways, But the game is dead. It's been dead to all those who like to play. Just remember 1 day you might be played. Like you play them.😂😂😂😂
I’ve always dressed accordingly… I only reveal (just a peak), when I’m in a commited relationship, going out at night with him… My body type, gives my attire class, no matter what the attire…😌
I wear revealing tight clothes and i notice the opposite men pursue me more and want a relationship. I reckon its because most of these men soon find out im not sleeping with no one! In fact i was a virgin up until 20 and only been with one man. Looks can be decieving
A MAN AND BOY ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS Some men are confuse and done know up from dowm dome men do marry shall i say ina man eyes loose why do u guys keep talking sbout woman's clothing those woman's who dhow ev do get marry before a women's who are clothes up you know something U guys need to get yourself together u don't know that u can't speak for all men You are talking about yourself because u cover that don't make u good u have alot to learn pray anf seek the lord awomsn must value herself and aman need to do the same😊