Things you HATE when you're an INTJ 

Accurate, and as INTJ yes I’m power hungry but not to rule over others.

Want to find a needle in a haystack? Use a magnet! Sincerely, an INTJ

Well said Nathan. I’ve always referred to myself as the “laziest non lazy person”. Figuring out the best ways to expend the least amount of energy but get the most amount done towards a specific direction is god.

#1 thing all INTJs hate: authoritarian collectivism (and slave morality)

INTJs watching this in hopes that it won't waste the time they are running out of in life, lol. This video was the call-out we needed ;)

My brother is an INTJ and he just hates everything 😂😂😂, the fact that he's the only Thinker in the house makes him suffer a lot , but what he hates the most is when me (INFP) and my ESFP and ESFJ siblings start playing around and screaming , it drives him crazy

As an INTJ, I found the following almost orgasmic: the way to find a needle in a haystack is to burn the hay.

"Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans" -No successful INTJ ever

This is related perhaps, but the thing I (an INTJ) hate most of all is someone using their authority to make me do something for my work that I KNOW is stupid, and despite my logical arguments to the contrary. The fact that I had felt some ownership over the work and am forced to relinquish control in that way makes it incredibly infuriating. The only way I've been able to survive this type of experience (which has happened all too many times) is emotional detachment from the work, and reveling in very, very dark humor.

For my entire life people always told me "to live in the now" "be present" while I always seemed to have one foot in the past and one foot in the future. Took a long time to just accept that and tell people who wanted me to live in the now "No".

My friends, after I helped them finish something they usually do for hours in just literal minutes: OH MY GOD you're such a genius! Me, an INTJ: no, I'm just too lazy to go through all of that nonsense. INTJ here and, sir, you have once again nailed every single point accurately!

The concept of energy is so true. As an INTJ, I am constantly weighing if my efforts to improve X is worth the energy. So much so that I pick people to talk to with the important topics which normally fall into ideology, philosophy, future of humanity. The main issue I face as an INTJ is intellectual loneliness. I literally feel like a ghost in society. I can’t express my thoughts without some sort of cultural backlash so what’s the point.

It took me a long time to realize I'm not actually lazy...especially because of how many times I was told that I am.

I hate it when someone tries to dominate me, or seeking help from someone. - an INTJ

I love the laziness Intjs, always making my life easier, I love how quiet, but powerfull they seem. Its super fun to sit back and enjoy the ride of thier percepctive

I feel like intjs try to find a purpose in an assignment and try to fulfill the purpose with a more efficient method. This got me into trouble in school sometimes, but I understand better than doing something actively. I just dont want to do things like there are done, I do things when they benefit me. If it doesn't make sense, it's not Done. easy as that.

"In my last INTJ video... 70% weren't subscribers." Well, you caught me, so I just subscribed. Also because your videos are very accurate and interesting. More videos with us please. -INTJ fan in love with your eyebrows 😂

Brilliant analysis. You never fail in accurately describing INTJ’s values and motivations.

3:59 It would be a relief if more people would think of this when dealing with us. "I want to be useful. I want to be alone. I want to be sought out." -INTJ

I love my INTJ fiancé. He is straightforward and uses logic and will explain his thoughts to me, and agrees that someday we should prioritize logic and forethought in our lives and yet be open to ideas that could solve problems. ❤️ INTJs, you are loved!

I've been through my whole life feeling like an outcast, but not in the traditional sense. Always had friends in different groups of people. But not a single one of them could understand me. Hell, neither did i understand myself completely until i found out i'm an INTJ recently, after taking some tests. I've never even realized there was such a thing. And since finding this channel, it's scary seeing someone describe my experiences so accurately, to the point of even using the same words and sentences the i use in my own head for years. But at the same time is such a relief, finally realizing i'm not the only very specific type of "weirdo" lmao! And having someone explaining things and validating things about myself that i learned through much mental pain and frustration and other things that finally "clicked" about my personality. Thank you for all these videos man. I've been finding a lot of peace and self-love through them.

The two things I hate most both come from my time in the air force. 1, "Blanket Punishments": if you're unfamiliar with the term, it's when an entire group is punished for the mistake of a single (or maybe 2 - 3) people. That's right; you can follow the rules and do your job perfectly...but you're going to get punished just like that one lazy, incompetent jack-ass that barely puts any effort in. 2, "Mandatory Fun": Events, paid for by the military, where everyone not on duty is required to attend (even if you just got off a 12-hour night shift). To their credit, they actually do put some work into choosing things that people might actually enjoy. As an INTJ, however, I was conspicuously the least happy person at the event in question-every time. Forced socialization, with a lot of people I don't really like, during my limited free time? Hell. No. Honestly, the military is a REALLY rough place for INTJs. Conformity, uniformity, obeying authority without question, doing things that don't make any sense...ah, memories.

Almost every T type I know is irritated with incompetence. Side note - I get super annoyed at systems too. And people not thinking for themselves. I get annoyed at my lack of efficiency and quick thinking but not much I can do about it. Though I try. - INFJ

The part about incompetent leadership is so true! I’m currently working in a company where the leadership above me is completely incompetent. Safe to say, I will be walking out of the door shortly!

Yes!. Efficiency and planning ahead often give the impression of laziness. One summer, I worked as an assistant stage manager at a theatre company. Over the course of being trained to take over running 'Lend Me a Tenor', I followed around the experienced ASM for a few nights, taking notes as we went along. She seemed stressed as she rushed around backstage preparing this and that, hurrying back and forth behind the set multiple times in the dark. Several times, we passed actors poised to re-enter their scenes, making them nervous. On the surface, the ASM appeared to be working hard to ensure the show ran smoothly, but I instantly saw the flaws in her approach. When I took over, my aim was to be the calm, unseen hand behind the scenes. I optimized the positioning of every prop and every movement I made backstage. I was there to facilitate the show and avoid distracting or interfering with the actors. After I had everything rearranged, I actually had long periods of time to read between cues. It surprised the actors at first, but they came to trust me and appreciate the changes. One night an actor came to me in a panic with mere seconds to re-enter a scene, but I calmly pulled out an invisible bandage and handed it to him. Doing the mental work of optimizing effort upfront and preparing for every eventuality saves time and energy in the long run as well as improving performance. The only downside of this approach is that it is rarely recognized or appreciated by those around us because, on the surface, it looks like you're doing next to nothing. It makes it tough to compete against less-competent employees who seem to be working harder, but aren't working smarter. Only an INTJ boss can fully appreciate and value our unique skills.

'Do as I say...' , 'because I said so' and 'because it's been always done this way...' makes my blood boil when coming from anyone. If the same comes from the mouth of a superior figure (e.g. someone of a higher hierarchy at the work place) who happens to be incompetent at the same time, there is only one way - out. And no regrets. I may forgive stupidity, though I will never accept wiliful ignorance . And as for delibarate abuse of one's power - I will stand against.

Nathan, it suddenly occured to me that I could totally hear you being a public speaker for a TED talk or something. RU-vid is just the beginning. Trust me... I have NiFe 😉😁

just a theory the most problem intj face is interacting with people who are not necessary for success but are necessary for some weird reason ranging from the bosses son to incompetent gov official

I hate when my group does the hard way. I learned from that lesson and becoming choosy or end up do most of the project by myself.

Can you explain how you know INTJs so well when you aren’t an INTJ? It’s like you can read my mind and it’s both creepy and exhilarating all at once.

Your self aware sassiness is very alluring.

It's not the INTJ way to hate what we don't understand -- but rather it's the things we do understand but can do nothing about, for whatever the stupid reason, that we wind up hating. Great video. That thumbnail is definitely how I sit when I hate things.

I kind of hate when people that i don't know pretty well say "dude, you're like an emotionless robot/monster" I'm like "the fact that i'm not interested on showing you the inner me doesn't mean that i don't have one, i just don't want it to stay on my way"

In summary, intj need to analyze everything

Being an individual that has limited energy and at the same time a perfectionist. Completing numerous tasks (or goals) is very exhausting, I find myself spending too much of my time and energy trying to “perfect” what I’m doing.

You may be right about our insights being useful. It's mostly wasted on others, because it gets treated like gossip. I keep to myself, because results are what matters not attention.

I need an intj in my life! As a very lazy non lazy infp, I get so caught up in my head sometimes, that I unvoluntarily just waste a lot of time with the smallest of things. Having an easy to follow escape plan, could come in very handy sometimes!

Brilliant. I do often think that the world is very fortunate that I am not in charge.

Again, a very appropriate take on how the INTJ functions. As a small suggestion: It would be interesting to see a video discussing the stereotypes related to INTJs and the tendency of being mistyped as INxJ.

Dead on! And I have to say, what I think bothers me more than incompetent individuals is when everyone goes along with a flawed system. Something related to solving problems far down the line and the future-focus for me is, I know what I do and don't want to experience in the future. I want to prevent problems at work, for example, because I really, REALLY don't want to experience what's coming if it goes wrong. As one INTJ You-Tuber explained, we can vividly imagine and pre-live a future experience many times, over and over, before it's even happened, the way some people re-live past bad experiences. Like our own personal premonition hell. It's bad enough in my head; I don't want to ACTUALLY experience the real deal. Like having to deal with irate people on the phone or things breaking down because nobody took a negative possibility seriously. I'll go out of my way to prevent it so I don't have to deal with it. I don't mind if someone doesn't want to go along with my prevention plans as long as they're willing to take responsibility for all the crap that follows and let me off the hook 🙂

I (an INTJ) relate so much to this! I've found that I can't stand big corporate companies now (currently being in one), and I'm just sick of internal politics, and other nonsense involved. In other areas (sometimes politics now as well), it's just come to the point of, "This is a waste of time and energy, now it's just a needless distraction." In the end for me, I've found I like smaller companies and I want to end up running my own business, mainly because I can't find anything out there in terms of career that completely satisfies my vision, goals, etc.

I'm INTJ. Throughout my 57 years of life, I have developed a deep feeling that if you want to get something done right, you have to do it yourself. I am a thinker, a schemer, and a part of me wishes that I could be king of the universe, but the better part of me knows that God is the only one suited for that job. As I age, and wizen with each passing day, I understand more and more just how little I really know about anything. I do know this, however. God gave us life and individuality so that we could live free. Free to make our own decisions in life, whether they be for good or bad. Free to experience the outcomes that arise from the actions that we take, based on our decisions with the opportunity to better ourselves because of this. I beg of you all to be ever vigilant against people who would take a political office of power over you, promising security to you in exchange for some of your freedom. These are people that you must beware of because their ultimate goal is to enslave you. These people are the deceivers. They will accuse their political opponents of high crimes while, they themselves, are truly the ones who are criminal. I could never, as a child, ever have believed that our world would come to what has become now.

Great thumbnail art Nathan! I didn’t think about how each type see their own pool of energy and how they decide to use it... very good point. Also, this made me think of the quote by Bill Gates “I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it.”

Don't necessarily believe the statistics that RU-vid gives you about your videos - yours truly, INTJ skeptic of those with power in society xx

This whole conspiracy theorist thing has never rang true for me -- I research everything to find the most truth I can from reputable sources. I'm skeptical, if anything. Seems like a stereotype that keeps being said in the MBTI world.

You speak aloud my thoughts as if it were me saying them. I watch your videos for this very reason. Thank you for being true to our INTJ type.

"Introverted intuition is a function that seems to perceives the world over long periods of time". YES! This is the best description of Ni I found yet, this is exactly my natural state! (INFJ here). Thanks so much for this insight!

As an INTJ, I only want the power and agency required to minimize external intrusions so I can do my own thing.

Efficiency - why I watch RU-vid videos in double speed. :)

Needle in a haystack. Is it important to keep the hay intact? I would burn down the haystack and zift through the ashes with a strong magnet. With a shovle and a filter if I have to.

Its not always easy though. I noticed in the workplace that people see my advantages of being naturally efficient and driven, and that sometimes comes with jealousy and distrust from those people. Especially gossip heavy work environments are a nightmare for me as an INTJ as I will, a lot of times, be painted as the bad guy. But it's just on the basis of perception, not on the actual truth of taken moral actions. In fact, I would say that my moral integrity is actually comfortably above average. Certainly above the people who systematically engage in gossip and baseless judging of other people.

As an intj, I've left 2 well paying and secure jobs because of incompetent management. It was soul destroying working in those roles. I definitely could identify with your video

This was so insightful. New sub. I’d be fascinated to hear any reflections you might have on INTJs with ADHD. It creates a lot of internal conflict for me.

“intj’s never seem to be satisfied with achievements” the accuracy is yes coming from an intj

As an INTJ, I’ve spent hours upon hours working with my psychologist about how to deal with the incompetence of others. I’m really bad at dealing with those people. When a pharmacist accidentally gave me the wrong medication, I lectured her about how her incompetence was so severe that she could kill people. Had I taken the medication she gave me, I would most likely have ended up hospitalized. I didn’t stop until she was crying, and even then I was on the phone with the corporate office telling them to replace her with someone who could read. Like I said, I don’t deal well with incompetence.

I click the subscribe button on every your INTJ video! I think that now I am super-actualized now 👍

I don't know how you know INTJs so well but the things you listed are all pretty much the source of my frustration. & the efficiency/conserving energy thing is definitely number 1 on my list too. My family calls me lazy because I hate to do chores, but really I just like to do things that require more brain power & conserve my energy than doing chores which will immediately drain my energy lol. Also, I once worked under someone whom I found really incompetent & I really really really hated it. I'm not greedy for power, I prefer to stand on the side & manage things without the responsibility of a leader (so I still can have my freedom), but if that means incompetent ppl are going to be leaders then ....

The incompetent people are also scary to the ISTP, if they have to work with them. Speaking of experience.

Glad you quoted Ayn Rand. After discovering I'm INTJ I understood, why I liked her books.

Me reading the caption before clicking this, my mind went straight to "dumb people who dont have any common sense"

Everything you said in this video resonated with me so deeply that I wanted to double-subscribe. Thanks for posting this. ❤

Yeah, traditionalists - and in this case, authorities - maintaining irrational systems is something I don't tolerate, especially if I see potential for improvement. It bugs me even more when bosses have some kind of fragile superior complex and expect people to follow their rules with no explanation. Give us a reason to do it.

Power hungry because power can create freedom. And achievements mean I'm improving.

I'm never...NEVER satisfied... Always find myself constantly rewriting my stories! 😖😫

You can find a needle in a haystack by using the wind or a leaf blower, since the iron in the needle is denser than the hay it should stay whilst the hay gets blown away in the same way panning for gold works

I find watching your INTJ videos a comfort and a sense of camaraderie. I listen at 2x speed when I have an unavoidable time delay. I like your quotes. Edison went about things in the dumbest ways: a broken clock, correct twice a day. Poor Tesla. (One of my kids pointed out that a broken clock is not necessarily ever correct on the time 😂).

As an ENTJ, I related with a lot of these. I feel like INTJs and ENTJs(having the same functions) are two sides of the same coin- ENTJ is the top side-basking in the limelight, while INTJs are the shadow side of the coin, hiding from the same.The only difference is that ENTJs are fundamentally unafraid to draw attention towards themselves, while I have seen my INTJ friends literally DIE and crumble when people try and announce something about them in public.

Hey Mr. Nathan! I remember talking with an ENTP and INTP yesterday in the discord server about work smarter not harder, where I rephrased it in my way that you work smart and hard. Where once you achieve that level of smart work, you double your efforts for more success, to achieve your endgame. Utilizing what you have learned to your benefit and it is really good to see it being discussed here.

INTJ-T here. Totally agree with number 2: Incompetence. And whenever I complain about these things people think, I am a negative, toxic person! Truth is, most people are afraid to see the truth and afraid to change it rather than suffer. What a waste of energy. And I also got the term "Lazy" stamp on me sometimes, while in the long term, my achievement is a lot more than the average person's.

This is why I hate morning meetings about nothing at work.

80% of outcomes results from 20% of inputs, the rest is irrelevant

I loved that outro so much, I wish I could subscribe twice.

Haaaaaaa this is the first time in the history of RU-vid that anyone has convinced me to click the notification bell. That was great. XD

I like how every intj thinks of themself as the next elon musk while in reality we are all just stupid goofballs. -yours truly, INTJ

OMG, intelligent laziness! Never have I heard a more apt description for what has always come naturally. My description of it was that I was working hard at hardly working. Kudos for finding a far more concise way of saying the same thing!

LOL... *BAM!!!* I run my own service business so all I need to secure is the client's trust, which doesn't take long- they find out about me through word of mouth... I've never advertised- another Pandora's Box I deliberately circumvent!!! I am constantly busy, but have already plotted out today's actions... now only mindless motion, as I'm plotting tomorrow... & the next day, all the while a sub-program is running on one side, plotting out the weekend trajectories to address what needs doing at home. ADD to this the fact that my "wildcard" is running a 24/7 Wildlife Hospital, where I answer calls in 4 COUNTIES for the State. Always have a contigency to jump to if necessary. And... *I DO ALL OF IT ALONE.* I loathe excuses, so I avoid ppl whenever possible... Just _Leave Me Alone_ & "let me do my thing" & we're good. I am done & gone before anyone realizes it, & my fone is tagged w/Thank You(s) all the time... I don't have time to waste...💜 Edit: subscribed, but... Most pack excuses... I pack SOLUTIONS. "Lazy" becomes evident if you're paying attention to the efficiency quotients.... VIVIDLY MISSING in the ones who pack excuses. You are bullseye in tapping past experiences pulled forward to address current & future scenarios: I was fascinated w/engines, specifically HP & Torque, when a child... by 12, I could listen to an engine & tell you what was wrong- to this day, mechanics are afraid of me... I know my hotrod better than they do & She's maintained flawlessly by RACETRACK pitcrews, as "the others" _dropped the ball._ It vividly illustrates exactly what we INTJs confront: incompetence, excuses, all leading to ultimate FAILURE... & I have no time for it. When I need the vehicle to "respond" ....whether it's a job call or a wildlife emergency, She needs to "jump to it".... That's how I roll...🌪💜

Wow... I just watched a 4:25 min long video about INTJs even though I know no one of that type But I'll say, nice video👍🏻👌🏻

That was so true about INTJs being aware of their finite amount of energy. I am so aware of this and get annoyed at the thought of wasting my time without the return I see as worth it.

But as an INTJ, the thing I hate the most is MY BIRTH DAY

1.) Wouldn't it be nice if, after you've subscribed, you don't have to listen to the spiel about subscribing? Efficiency please! 2.) I'm curious how many of us came by this personality type 'honestly' and how many came to it via circumstances. Myself, growing up in an abusive household and having health problems since birth, I think I came to it somewhat out of necessity. That part about expending a lot of energy up front to avoid needing to later is one of the traits I had to develop early... I never knew how things would be later on so I had to do what I could when I could get away with it - either because my body happened to be cooperating or because the adults could be loopy/unavailable/angry/who-knows-what at any time. Thoughts? 3) I've definitely felt a lack of femininity all my life. To the point where I've always wanted to be male and was extremely upset when I got boobs and periods. It's only in the last few months I finally accepted that my way of thinking doesn't define my gender and man is it freeing. It's allowing me to just act, to just be, without filtering it through acceptability filters... most INTJs censor in public but this voice was in my soul. I don't know if this is an INTJ thing or not but when I realize a big picture truth it's like a switch being turned on and, once illuminated, what is seen can't be unseen - you just aren't capable of thinking the prior way anymore. This is thankfully one of those changes and holy snikies it is wonderful! I like what I like. I dislike what I dislike. It doesn't make me any more or less of any one thing or another, it just makes me me. So simple!

"Most INTJs will be able to talk at length (if you ask them) about all of the incompetence shown by the powers that be. Systems that are fundamentally flawed, incentive structures that make no sense. Institutions that serve no or the wrong purpose. All those things drive INTJs nuts." - - Think I've finally figured out what sort of IxTx which I am. :)

Lol nice plug at the end. 😋 My husband is INTJ. Yep 👍🏻

If i was to rank the things i hate as an intj it’s probably plans being ruined and energy being wasted tied for first maybe having energy being wasted as number two and number 3 has to be incompetent fools so the final list would be 1-plans being ruined 2-energy being wasted 3-incompetent idiots But their all the same thing as incompetent fools ruin my plans thus the energy on those plans is wasted making me extra pissed

That was awesome! TY❤🤍💙All true, too! (I also really like the graphic on the beginning of the video.)

Wow. You really are aware of your site analytics. I'm sort of awed... and sort of concerned...

Oh god! You've literally understood the INTJ at a deep level. Your understanding and analysis is commendable. I'm curious to know what really drives your curiosity, since INTJs aren't typically on other people's mental radar that often (or so I assume...)

"Work smarter, not harder." is pretty much my mantra. The quicker you get something done, the more time you have to either get other things done or to have more personal time to do whatever. Hmm, so I don't recall filling out anything for youtube with my personality type. (Although, I'm sure google is well-aware with all the information they compile.) I'd venture to guess your analytics are based off the numbers associated with the subject matter of the videos? lol. In any case, this INTJ is already subscribed, but I don't need to hit the notification bell for this channel. (That's more for channels I hardly pay attention to for one reason or another.)

As an ISTP with an INTJ brother, I'd like to say that INTJs and ISTPs are radically different personalities even with only two letter changes and that we constantly butt heads over those differences. As you already pointed out, my brother like most INTJs are very much future oriented and excellent planners, whereas I as an ISTP am very much present oriented and prefer an open-ended approach. Oftentimes he views me as an impulsive and stubborn smartass, and oftentimes I in turn view him as an inflexible know-it-all with a superiority complex. It's like trying to compare Clint Eastwood and Albert Einstein, both hugely influential in their own rights but they're entirely different from each other and there's probably going to be a fistfight if you leave them alone together long enough.

😂 absolutely accurate. I am always complaining about incompetent systems, policies, processes, coworkers and even strangers.

Amen. Omg. People are so inefficient, it drives me freaking mad.

Somehow this sounds like a completely accurate description of my way of thinking. From the planning ahead to save time later, to hating greater powers that hinder my plans, to thinking in long periods of time, instead of short term.

What I hate is cowardice and conformity masquerading as virtue.

A friend cancelled our meeting after I'd driven down to meet him. He did this _five minutes_ before we were due to meet up, and when I explained that this wasn't acceptable I got no response. That made me re-evaluate things.

If I want to find a needle in a haystack, and if I don’t need the haystack, I will burn the haystack.

Imagine being an INTJ living in California seeing all the mismanagement by the State gov and Federal gov.

It's tue. I subscribed a week ago and liked every video, now I am a fully realised human being

Lmao being the only introvert in fam of extroverts is hard af 🙂

This is my second time watching this video... And I... Wait for it... Subscribed.

Yes this was very relatable lol my LED lightbulb went off on all 5 things mentioned on the list! Good vid!

Maximum the intellectual effort upfront to minimize the physical effort later.