INTJ Fears 

My fears as an INTJ *Being a failure at life *Dying before I accomplish my life goals. *Having children who end up being failures and who undo all my hard work and make it pointless.

I really liked it when he said"INTJs are not fans of, what's the word.....fun." We just have a very different definition of fun.

INTJ's are stubborn and controlfreaks in a very specific way. Tell us to change or abandon our goal and we will resist. Show us there's a better way in the physical world to reach the goal and we will gladly go with the flow.

As an older INTJ, I can definitely say that I have lived my life future oriented. And, to a degree, I have achieved about 95% of my goals. But the cost and sacrifice was living in the present. I have to think hard about past life experiences because I wasn’t always present internally when they happened. I’m 48 now, but my 20 and 30’s are a blur with no distinct memories. There is something to be said for enjoying the journey, unfortunately I can barely remember the journey.

INTJs are not necessarily misanthropic, they are just not comfortable with the give and take of social relationships. They are not comfortable with sacrificing talking facts in favour of maintaining a relationship.

This is exactly what pisses me off the most about myself. I know what I want to do, but I recognize it's a lot of work to get there, then I ask myself if all that work is worth my time and since I can't answer that I end up doing nothing with my time, which ironically means wasting the time I could have been working on achieving that which I don't know is worth wasting my time on. It's an infinite loop of wasted potential!

Me, an INTJ, having fun: - Playing games: what's the best way to get all the achievements in the least amount of time? What's the general strategy? Can I improve it? - Watching TV: what's the principle being discussed in this show? What is the connection between this series and other works? What the director took from the book? How is my backlog of movies? What will I watch next? What would be my score for this episode? - Playing Sports: MUST IMPROVE. MUST HAVE BETTER TECHNIQUE.

Sum of all fears that almost no one mentions has to be the open space office where it is basically adult daycare for extroverts.

My INTJ fear: This is the best that humans are capable of...

As an INTJ, my greatest fear is reaching a point to where I cannot improve anymore.

Nathan, a lot of people probably say that here, but your thumbnails are really a piece of artwork. I love them!

Small addition regarding Chaos vs Control. INTJ don't necessarily seek to control people, but we do have high standards of others and may seek to improve their actions and thinking unsollicited. A controlled environment merely breeds laziness. We truly strive in chaos, I had to learn this the hard way. Never get stuck, keep moving. Can chaos be stressful? Sure. Does it allow for progress? Yes.

WE DO LIKE FUN!!!! It's just that our kind of fun is usually very different from the things most people consider fun! Reading, researching and working can be fun too! Occasional social games with our closest friends are fun too! I wish they wouldn't have stopped playing room escape games with me because I'm taking it way too seriously and I'm overly competitive about it though... 🤣🤣🤣

There was no need to let the world know we have fears too sometimes pff

Not liking fun is pretty spot on. There are a bunch of reasons for it. I'm not good at it. Most "fun" isn't fun. Work is incredibly fun.

Interesting video. I can tell you from personal experience that many of these INTJ “fears” can make family life especially difficult. When an INTJ has a family to look after (spouse and children), they are often unable to focus on the future and are forced, sometimes quite uncomfortably, to live in the here and now. I struggle with this every day. Fortunately for me though, I do have a job that allows me to work by myself and a boss who despises micromanagement. Therefore, I do get a break from the daily struggle of home life and have an outlet for my need to plan and be productive.

Not knowing how to have fun is so relatable.. I always get that, apparently I'm robotic and don't know how to losen up.

Biggest fear: myself To go the downward spiral, to allow myself into a bad situation be it outwardly or self-imposed. Many troubles are easily avoided. Some troubles are random or unavoidable and as such are not to be feared until they happen. Then there is the bad frame of mind that is like an open invitation for trouble. I'd like to avoid that.

I'm reclusive because it is difficult to find people that I can relate to or that can relate to me. It is more comfortable to be alone. I sometimes force myself into social situations and find that I have enjoyed interacting with others. I just cannot do that too often. Give us a problem to solve and we will be in our element. All the people that wish that they were an INTJ have no idea what it is like.

INTJ "fun": One of the most fun nights of my life was when I first learned about string theory- the section of the book I was reading started talking about it, then I took a break to watch an episode of Through the Wormhole and COINCIDENTALLY it also ended up being about the same things. It was years ago but I still remember that night. Ahhh...

I struggle with cynicism and depression. I hate that feelings of grief and loss can hijack my plans. With the pandemic, the future isn’t predictable, so I have trouble planning things. Few things are still “ normal.” This haiku is my roadblock now: What is wrong with me? I am loathe to explain it. At least I’m alive.

I appreciate the way you "spoke in INTJ" regarding the financial support on Patreon. If I didn't know I'm on the wrong career path thus my finances are endangered, I would truly support. Let me get back to you when it is solved. - INTJ

I think one of the biggest intj fears (at least for me) is aging... I think we're much more aware of the dire consequences of aging as we're such future oriented, and we can already see that it'll end sooner or later.

Because goals give my life purpose, making progress towards them is what is fun for me, and unless I'm burnt out and run out of energy, everything else feels irrelevant.

I was lucky to have a dad who got me (I'm pretty sure he was an ENTJ) and he told me to always have at least one goal to be working toward (no problemo, Dad, I have many), but he added that as we grow we change and always be ready to let go of what no longer works for you. It's Never a failure;it was a learning experience that will help you define where you need to go next. His main point that always resonated too was that especially failures where we gave it everything we had, we did everything right, and it still went south...he told me that then it's not a test of intellect or capability, but a test of character...will you get back up and keep moving, whether it's to try again or to walk away, get up from the ground, dust yourself off and keep moving forward. Priceless advice that has held me together through many of the opportunities to learn that Life has afforded me.

I, as an INTJ, know that my biggest fear is the loss of one's self and identity. Like, succumbing to insanity and forgetting your loved ones, your past, what you've built up, hallucinating thing different from reality. I also find the idea that what's after death is just black, nothingness, the end of oneself, the cutting off point of consciousness. I loathe the feeling of inevitability and dread it brings me, and I would take any opportunity to prolong my life, even if unatural.

"They care more about their future selves than their present selves." Yes! This is very true. I think of doing things for my future self because I love myself, the same way you might go out of your way to do something for another person you care about. About that though, I had an epiphany once where I realized that, since life is finite, someday there simply will be NO MORE FUTURE. Eventually most of your life will be the past. I don't want to get old and think gee I wish I had enjoyed myself more but now it's too late. So I've been trying to be more in the moment, enjoy my SFP lower functions more. I don't see many INTJs do this. But in order for your efforts to be worth it, you've got to have a time where you sit back and sow what you reap too.

"They need to control their environment so it doesn't impose upon them." hahaha that is... that is apt. /intj

As an INTJ, I have found you genuinely have a pretty good grasp of this MB personality. Though I know it is claimed there is not a lot of substantial research to give much validity to MB, but INTJ fits me to a tee and has been one of the most helpful tools to help me a) accept myself and b) improve on who I am as a person. I appreciate your diligence. Here is a "topic" you might ponder on: "INTJs and restless periods."

My INTJ fear: What if all I did was for nothing. That all of it was undone later, or that it served a purpose I didn't intend, i.e. probably an alternative evil purpose

I thought I was an INTJ for a long time because I share a lot of these fears, and maybe because of them every test I took told me I was an INTJ. It took me a few months of studying the cognitive functions in more depth to realize I was actually INTP, and a quarantine to confirm my real behaviour when I'm away from other people and not working all the time. I don't know if it's good or not, but I used to put on an INTJ facade at work in order to get things done quickly and effitiently, but it would stress me out quite fast. No wonder I felt like being close to a burn out once or twice a year. What I gained in mental health during this quarantine actually compensates the financial setback I had working at home.

What has helped me with an answer to 'Is it worth it?' is remembering the mantra that 'the best result isn't always the best outcome'. It tones things down somewhat

I agree with this list. The main fear is not being significant. Dying with the music still in you.

Okay, I loved this video. I'm an INFJ and had not realized until now the extent of how much my Ni makes me value my future self more than my present self. I am so scared of the possibility that eventually I will find that I chose the wrong career, the wrong boyfriend or even the wrong book to read, that I forget to think about how I feel now. It seems that if I just let things flow, I'll be overwhelmed by the reality of the world and soon I'll no longer exist (dramatic, I know, but this type of video invites drama).

I would say i definitely fear not being able to find a kindred spirit very much. Thats probably one of my biggest fears

"Is it worth it?" In my mind, I've taken to referring to this idea as "economy of effort". When I get into something, it can be to the point of near-obsession, so I feel the need to ensure everything I do is worth the time I'm spending on it. Am I getting more out than I'm putting in or, at the very least, breaking even? If the answer is no, I'm already gone. Unfortunately, it isn't always clear what is or is not worth it, so we're forced to gamble our effort on a project (etc.) that could very well be a complete waste of time. Finding out I, for example, wasted years/decades of my life studying writing, with the goal of being a novelist, only to end up hitting a dead-end...THAT is my greatest fear. Nothing demoralizes me more than realizing I wasted a large portion of a finite life on something that never bore metaphorical fruit.

I got a feeling some INTJs are likely to develop an avoidant attachment style with what you've pointed out in this video (to overly simplify, they'd rather not engage with their own emotional needs or other people in fear their needs won't be met, or they won't feel understood) but maybe that'd too much of a leap ! Great video btw - an INFJ that really digs INTJs

One of my biggest fears is to have kids. A dog distracts me from my work enough that if a child were present, I'd never get anything done.

You're on point Nathan! 😌 The question "Is it all worth it in the end?" is my biggest fear. Once I decide to do something, I go all in and can't quit mid-way so I get caught up in a perpatual self-doubt of not knowing if what I'm pursuing is the 'right thing' and the 'best' way to do it. P.S I'm watching this video while working with my lab coat covered on top of my head and my computer to remove visual distractions like office light and people with earphones plugged in to remove background noise. 😁

I like being alone, as it is a state I deliberately chose to be in, yet I am extremely scared of being lonely. Loneliness is something you don’t chose, it just happens. It will eventually slow you down, make you less productive, less efficient and of course way less happy/content. It is an incredibly depressing feeling, when you are passionate about something and have all these great ideas but feel like no one understands them, or wants to hear about them. As confident as I am in my own decision making, at times I really would like to hear the opinion of someone who is competent, as well as interested in my project. Someone that gets passionate with me.

Thanks to people like you I have discovered that I am an INTJ, whereas I had thought I was an INFJ before. Your knowledge about INTJs is commendable.

I love the video. With the being alone point, (I'm guessing because of Fi) one of my biggest fears is not being accepted, so I want to do stuff and create stuff as I think that's going to get me accepted and "loved". I need to understand Fe more, that would be useful. Wanna hear something funny? Reason I haven't subscribed yet is because I've been thinking if in the future, where I'm in a different headspace and not searching for it, would I want to see the video recommendations? As probably I would be tempted to click on an interesting topic when it's there, not when I search for it. But RU-vid just tricked me, and recommended your video regardless, which I'm actually grateful for now haha And you made an irresistible hook at the end, so after 6 months of watching your channel, I subscribed. It is worth it haha Amazing quality, keep up the good work :)

Great video! It's taken me quite a bit of mental training to shift from an overly perfectionistic (often to the point of not acting at all) approach to life to one that is slightly more flexible and allows me to accommodate the world and all its messy competing processes.

INTJ here. Very accurate video indeed. I literally laughed out loud at 6:02. The "fun" word just always seems like a foreign word, which is yet to be explored. But it is ok to relax every once in a while in order to maximize efficiency for future tasks. My top fears include: 1) Unexpected chaos 2) Being controlled by someone 3) Wasting time 4) Waiting for results to happen 5) Remorse from wrong decisions 6) Emotional blackmail 7) Fake and dumb people 8) Over-emotional people By the way, I love all of your INTJ videos. I have a personal question: What is your own type? I think you are INTP, but I am not sure. Please let me know. Thanks.

INTJs are one of the types I find most intriguing, because as an INFJ we both have that Ni Se tension but are still so different in many ways. I defo relate to the 'Is it going to be worth it?' investment question. Am pretty new to MBTI and a bit frustrated sometimes by not being able to type people intuitively like I can with the enneagram (as have so much more experience with that). There are whole types I don't really 'get' yet. Think I'm drawn to analysing INTJ because it feels like a type I've almost unlocked intuitively but am not quite there! I wonder if other people have had a tipping point where MBTI just clicked and they could easily map all the functions they observe in others and relate them back to the types without too much conscious analytical effort?

As an INTJ that's been simply lurking on the channel you've convinced me to like and subscribe 👍

I must admit, this is very accurate ! Great job! Possible elaborations and things I can add: - Fear of not being good enough or worthy of your goals. You have been working towards this vision of yours but you forgot to take into account other factors , maybe that you aren't as smart as you thought and can't get the PERFECT grade you so wanted. This crushes you, as you associate yourself kind of with the goal and your POSSIBLE SELF in the future. You gain confidence through the knowledge of your own potential that you can achieve these things. If you turn out wrong - your identity gets hurts/crushed. And you have to rethink everything and learn to accept. + This is why INTJ prefer people with goals and a growth oriented mindset (that's the case for me). A person being stuck in their ways without the strive for change is the worst that can happen. I am sorry for all the people who are living in their delusional world, not dealing they might be wrong sometimes or need change. -Battle with the world was on point. But also the sad thing is... You don't know how to balance real life with potential and are never sure if your sacrifice was worthy enough. Should you hang out with the person that seems okay but you don't get immediate emotional reward? Your current friends might be enough, why find new ones who will potentially waste your time? You don't know and by investing time into people, you are essentially investing in yourself (the people you spend the most time with will shape your character) -Maybe striving to this somewhere, to some random future is not the way to become happy. (spoiler: it isn't) - Fear of loosing your strive for change and ambition and improvement and loosing sight of the goal :o Those are all small variations of the same problem I think, you already mentioned all of those in some way - great job! If I think of anything more I'll add it. BC you focused more on the goal and future mindset, that's why these are the first things that came to my mind :p

This video is a scam. nobody has ever gotten an answer out of an INTJ concerning their feelings!

That’s a great video and view of how we (INTJ’s) think. Everything is weighed out to what is the purpose. Even my recreation and down time is the cost benefit. Relationships, jobs, religion, downtime is all a cost benefit relationship. I am completely indifferent to religion and politics because, to me, there is no answer so therefore there is no point. I seek out Ni doms to draw into my inner citadel. Good video. Thanks.

Hey come on, I haven't watched the video yet, but you better not be giving away straight-up fears on the INTJ. You are getting NFP's to be all mushy and "oooooh, I get your struggles, come here love!"... NO, get away from me

My fears as an INTJ -Failure -The Unknown(which would obviously include negative unforeseen circumstances) -Death before success -FAILURE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!......

I'm an INTJ, and i have to say that I really like the content you create. It adds a lot of value for me and helps me process things that I'm struggling with. An honest and massive thanks.

I hate boredom. It’s like I’m not doing anything worthwhile and I despise it.

When I(INTJ) was talking to my INFP sister we ended up saying," we can say what we think is wrong, praise what we think is right, make ideas on how to fix the world, the hard part is putting ideas in practice and in the physical for these places only exist inside our heads"

Nathan this is one of the most accurate description of the INTJ Yet Especially people you befriend Should be people you work with chosen wisely and getting straight to the point of saying give me money I like it

😝 random recommendation video in RU-vid intj : “ is it worth it ? “ Like your channel bdw 💙

Thank You!!!! i misstyped at 16personalities as INTP... but after watching your intj vids i am really really really really really sure, to be an intj.... this is so me... and i like it

Not an INTJ but the whole is it worth it and the misanthropy I can relate to, if you been burnt so many times, and talking about people here, you tend to develop this attitude. But that was a learned behavior for me. But I can imagine walking up to an INTJ and they probably saying in their mind, is she worth it, it answers many questions actually. And to think when you finally do climb that mountain and they do find you worthy, feels so good lmao ain’t gonna lie. They put the “work” in relationships, not for the faint of heart.

I scoffed a bit at your suggestion that we fear loneliness. I locked down for 3 months by myself no problem. However, that loneliness in crowds did hit home. It's a rare and refreshing event when you meet someone who thinks like you.

And all the information we have to compare and gauge against to make decisions about what we commit to are almost always either misconceptions, lies/flasehoods, or others trying to manipulate you to their perceived benefit. Hence why we withdraw.

Haha, the government part is great. Obviously, I only speak for myself, but you are partly correct. However, understanding that human needs are vast. I believe a council is preferred instead of direct control over everything.

Great. I'd like you, sometime, to contrast the Fi (introverted feeling) -- focus on me, the self (selfish?) of INTJs, with the Fe (extroverted feeling) -- others first, always (selfless?) of INFJs, as both have introverted intuition as the dominant function and extroverted sensing as the inferior function. The hair, Nathan.

Damn, you have me pinned. Every word. Are INTJ so obvious? When I decide upon a path, it Is Happening. It just is. So, what is frightening is 'getting it wrong'... of wasted energy, or at least, the appearance of it. Having a vision, a goal, a plan, and satisfying that need to shape some aspect of the world is inspired by a paradigm shift, a new perspective, disorder, the unknown, the dynamic nature of things, failure or being taken by surprise - that is where all the most meaningful ideas and connections come about. That battle between chaos and control is definitely raging as long as I can remember, and I both love it and hate it at the same time...

INTP worries - will this work?

I write this understanding that even as INTJs, we conceptialize worth differently. As an INTJ, it is difficult for me to live in the present. Unfortunately, for me, I have realized that giving up the present constantly and orienting towards a future with too many variables that I cannot control nor conceive of was not worth it. I have come to trust my instincts instead of thinking of the variables I cannot control, think about the ones I can, and live in the present moment at the same time. I think INTJs have a difficulty with trusting their own instincts im times of chaos even though they work well in those times.

I’m still stuck on the “Is it worth it,” stage of things with an overwhelming fascination with psychology, namely the role of self in perception of one’s self, the world around it, reference points they build, what roles they best suit and how they can cope with their construct. I have this endless fascination with a singular thing, with bringing it somewhere. Seeing the branches I’ll be passing along the way, I will always end up asking “Is it worth it?”. I’m thankful every time I’m reminded of this construct, the jungian functions, the intj type. It reminds me that I’m not psychopathic. Although the archetype, in a healthy individual, is lacking some key aspects of psychopathy, there are enough parallels to bring about the thought. The thought is entrancing, abandoning the search for genuine connection, living in the mask, learning to enjoy acting, forging your path with such a tool at your disposal. Being reminded that the speck of humanity I have is nothing minor, but holds my very core together? That’s an important detail, quite possibly the key to fulfillment for an intj who’s felt lost on their journey.

1:20 missing word, “Is *this* the right path?” That said, as an INTJ, this video is refreshing to watch. Thank you, Nathan.

The focus thing scares me. I can see myself getting lost in painting & I won't come out. In stead, I work in horticulture/landscaping. I get to create order out of chaos in real time for future enjoyment.

I can relate to a lot of this as an INTP which is probably why I have been confused in the past about my type. Also would love to see more Fears videos!

2:54 Shit. I've been denied this for much of my life. You know things are desperate when an INTJ finds radical extremism appropriate in order to declutter environmental noise. Paves a brilliant path to psychopathy.

I would say that I don't fear "chaos" so much as "uncertainty", which certainly can be a companion of types of chaos, but so much is chaos, some things I quite enjoy, but throw uncertainty in the mix, and fear begins to enter very quickly.

Most of these fears have happened to me and now I am more or less in a cesspit. I did several projects where I invested a lot of time and energy up front only to be rejected afterwards. And that happened multiple times. And isolation - that is more or less the situation I am in now. I know only one real intuitive type in all the people I have contact with and that is my INFP mother. Everyone else may be a person too, but nobody I can connect with. All these sensor types don't care about the future or the past and that makes real conversation impossible. But I disagree slightly with the "dictator" part. Perhaps that is different if you are more strongly in the dark triad, but I have absolutely no desire to "rule" and force my will upon others. Yes, I know how to save the world, but obviously the world doesn't want to be saved. But unfortunately that stance is seen as weak by the sensor types which led to my kind of failure as entrepreneur - made enough money through my own hard work, but was abandoned by all the employees because I was too nice to them because I expected them to be like fellow intuitives - just point them in the right direction and let them loose. But that obviously didn't work. So now I am a a point where I just need someone in my life with whom I can connect and that seems pretty much impossible from a geographic and psychological point.

4:36 lol you're not wrong, dude. Although, I would be a just ruler; ordinary good folk like yourself would have nothing to worry about. Sure, things would be very, very shaken up at first, but I would ask you to pardon my unflinching ruthlessness during this phase. A terrible mess like this cannot be cleaned up easily. Gonna have to crack a few eggs to make an omlet. Honestly, then after everything is fixed and the course has been corrected, my interest in administering would be low and I'd probably resign to go live in the woods or something.

”what’s the word... fun” 🤣 this is why they all need an NFP goofball in their lives 😜

Living an almost completely connection-deficient life (social media is the only source of different opinions talked in depth and where I've found some people that share some of my values) is very hard and it requires me to question my mental sanity multiple times in a week to be sure to stay in reality with my thoughts. As an INTJ loneliness and isolation are fundamental (to form an hypothesis independently) but then profound connection is always seeked with the purpose of challenging my ideas and opening my sight to other views.

My fears 1. The Unknown 2. Failure 3. My goals and dreams being crushed before my eyes 4. Being hated by everyone (not a feeler I just don’t wanna get on the bad side of everyone) 5. How I die

I'm an INTP (I think) but I'm just subscribing now because I just found your channel.

Man...you hit the nail on the head with every sentence! Imagine me, an INTJ, dealing with the uncertainties and anxiety from this pandemic, a job loss, moving to a new country, and trying to find my career goal. :) Sometimes I really do hate my personality. It’s like I’m missing out on life, and it always gets worse whenever I’m lost about “the goal”.

INTJ here; I appreciate your shameless capitalism and the content of your videos and I am now a Patreon subscriber. I don’t know how you can absolutely nail us, but you do and it’s amazing. Please keep it up.

Out of the fears you listed, I would say the one I resonate with is "is this the right ___." Worth is something I consider pretty often mainly because I hate for my time to be wasted - even when I do it. There has to be a reason for nearly anything I do. Even for mundane things, I like to find multiple reasons for why this thing should be done to feel at ease for spending my time doing it. For example, I turned down an mentorship opportunity years ago bc I didn't respect the selection process or the participants. However, the next time around, I found a reason to join: I still felt the same as before, but I figured since I'm weak at self-promotion, I could work with a mentor who would do it for me, improve my social skills and have a longer break from work since it was too draining at that time. That made all those hours "bonding" slightly bearable. Anyway, your cadence is worth a follow, but I'll see about the patreon.

The goals I set are based on good probability of success (like 70% plus) and reaping great reward from minimal to slight risk. I will play out all possibilities in my head to foresee bumps in the road. I often have contingency plans set in place as well (and I don’t like it if I can’t come up with one). Yes, I am a total recluse and fun sucker although I do enjoy a good game of code names or deception now and again. I admittedly find pleasure in what others view as work (like hiking, working out, etc.)

Waking up one morning in my old age to find that I’ve wasted my life. That my future self is going to be screwed over. Waking up one day when I’m old to find I’m still alone with dozens of cats. Less rational more straight forward fears: failure. Clowns. The darkness that surrounds me when I’m up in the middle of the night. True unadulterated chaos and entropy.

I feel manipulated to subscribe and donate

Thanks for the video guys. I really relate to your insights, and I find what you explained about control insightful. You also touched on it being a difficult way to live. It can be. I mean - suffer you will suffer: either when you sow or when you reap. Keep up the good work guys.

Litany Against Fear "I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."

Nice video. Spot on. Thanks for the advices at the end.

It's videos like this one that makes it seem like I am transitioning from INFJ to INTJ somehow.... This has happened a few times in my life, but only between these two type/behaviour/motivational clusters. My motivations seem to be changing, perhaps it's age and hormonal changes.... but anecdotally it doesn't seem to be that. Maybe it's some of the people that have vacated my life recently, and now I am becomming me again.

I hate fun. I am often lonely going through life. In my whole three decades, I've found two people who can match my intensity. One who understands me.

5:22 very true. i’m an intj too and even tho i do have friends, i don’t have a kindred spirit in any of them. i truly feel kinda alone, i’d like to have someone to chat with everyday, be it in person or through texts. my friends just don’t click with me on that level so it’s not possible to call anyone of them “bff” or kindred spirit.

I'm an INTJ and I do appreciate your shameless capitalism. However, I don't have any money - yet. Otherwise, I would pay you for your videos.

That was pretty accurate. I hate to be controlled, but I would love to be omnipotent. Because I would clean this mess up, fast. And there'd be a body count.

All too true, Nathan, love the INTJ videos, great insights /INXJ staying in today, avoiding all sorts of fun 😉

Oh, and I wanted to add that you find the best quotes! ☺️ They are always on point and are very thought-provoking. 👍

Do more ESFP videos! Would love to see one on their dark side and another on their fears.

I have never subscribed to a channel so fast. My jaw dropped half way through. I feel completely called out by this video and that is wonderful to be understood. sincerely, an introvert who pretends to be an extrovert because it is more lucrative.

Ah, a good one - I was quietly weighing (1) whether I'd invested too much time and effort on one job this month, with no sign that things would pay off down the road (2) whether I was in a bad spot in life for having taken a non-standard path that made sense to me at the time, instead of single-focus career path in life, and (3) what foods I should best make today so I won't have to bother with cooking tomorrow, and thus possibly make time and have energy to finish one of several projects I have going.. I don't always agree with everything you have to say about us INTJs, but the start of this video today was very accurate.

As an INTJ, I think you perfectly described why romantic relationships are often very difficult for INTJs. There’s no formula to romance, no playbook on how to weather the storm. So we often plan what the future relationship will be, but it never turns out the way we thought. And enough failure and sunk cost into relationships causes loss of incentive for future attempts at relationships. Also, from my experience, people are often less committed to working through difficulties in a relationship. They’d sooner walk away, then stay and resolve issues. It’s hard when you don’t really feel understood, and your girlfriend won’t make the slightest effort to try to understand you. No self pity, just some observations. I’m sure there’s many who feel the same way. Great job on the video by the way.

you're missing one important thing about we intj's: we are very open minded, and if someone has a practical, reasonable better way, we're all in! that's why we'd never become a dictator. and yes, we don't like gummint control. i've been a team leader during my career many times, and while i provide the structure, i'm very open to how we get it done, and very consensus driven: we already have a "skip" what do the other (complementary thinking to my own) team members think is the best way to get where we as a team need to go? i don't mind if folks get into heated disagreements - i don't encourage it, but i'm pretty detached about it. i was in the military for 7 years, so i've seen worse. i usually remain quiet and sort of referee those sorts of engagements, make sure no one is bullied, etc. probably because i'm calm when others get far more emotional than i am, cuz i'm sort of used to it.

True Detective vibes from the thumbnail, love it!

I am a textbook INTJ in every way. If you ever want to pick my brain, im game.