Often one's preferences/goals/values aren't well-defined enough to have more than a vague sense of wasting time. Procrastination is only possible with something worth pursuing, which is the bigger problem worth solving. And before than, one must consistently be in the mental state with enough self-esteem/faith in their long-term ability to imagine and choose what is meaningful enough to commit to pursuing. The ideal self-help course/tools/approach MUST begin with enriching mood states (i.e. self-efficacy, optimism, resilience, and hope ). Next imagination/vision/goal-setting (long & medium-term). Until then, optimizing time is just another distraction. People watch videos all day aimlessly for good reasons sometimes, like exploration/discovery of perspectives, developing curiosities, social and cultural sense of involvement, and so on. Unfortunately, the feed-based interfaces (especially with notifications, auto-play, addictive recommendation algorithms, etc) changes the consumption of information from an active pursuit driven by the user's conscious search queries into a passive, automatic, sensationalist mind-numbing and pleasure-seeking. Props to people for realizing these problems: those seeking solutions, as well as those like Andrew offering solutions... Just be wary that goal-setting itself often is the thing being procrastinated. The 'Stay hungry!'/power-through-the-pain mentality obsession with productivity and focus itself is totally shooting many of us in the foot, self-sabotaging like someone who cannot relax turning to excessive smoking cigarettes. self-efficacy, optimism, resilience, and hope -- mood states are ephemeral for 99% of us who aren't the Buddha or Tony Robbins etc. Once we awaken to goals/purpose/path forward in life (say a 5 year and a 1 year plan at least), then we are better able to consistently feel optimistic and planning our days and months becomes energizing instead of being a dreadful reminder of the aging process/staleness of routines which leave many feeling life is passing them by.
Thank you for this video. 🙏🏾 It was succinct and compelling. Already knew the information but it came at a opportune moment of personal growth for myself. Keep up the vids! ✊🏾
Hey, Martin. I am 60 and learn things everyday. Yes, even at 60 or 79 - it's not late. I m messaging from my brothers phone. My name is Myna. I thought of encouraging you. Tk care
It's the long game- that's what I say quietly to myself every time I make a decision where I'm giving up having something right now for something that will provide a greater outcome in the future 💪🍀But this also just applies in general like you portrayed, e.g. training, taking care of your health, saving a little money continuously, reading some factual information, etc.
For Ali there was the training, then the fighting, then being a champion, then the brain damage. I wonder if he felt it was worthwhile. Brain damage is pretty bad. He kept fighting after he was a champion, so being a champion wasn't the real goal. I suppose these details aren't analogous to my situation - I don't want to be a champion or fight, and the things I value aren't likely to cause brain damage.
“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” - Jim Rohn
I disagree. I find they weigh about the same, the main difference is discipline weighs you down on a daily basis, while regret only comes around once a month or so and only lasts a few hours.
Or you can just trust in the universe that instead of discipline is better to passionately enjoy actions and rejoice all that is desired will come true
@Voicu Cristian Valentin I think the quote is perfectly making the sense, everything is hard for average person and this is why they can't be in top 1%..! To be in top 1% you definitely need to do super hard things, otherwise you'll stay average/ mediocre
@Voicu Cristian Valentin so keep doing hard things then. That's how life has been since the beginning, we all were hunter gatherers, we were working all the time to find food and place to sleep. Fight with nature and animals to be alive. Hard work is what we must do. 1:1 = 1*hard work: 1*smart work
Jasmin Ha It's taught in uk schools, life skills, values, pastoral (form) time, it's just not backed up much by pop culture or parents, or marketeers of course, so kinda gets lost. Teaching the finer details of debt entrapment, low paid jobs and high priced credit to 30 13yr olds during a "not a real "lesson "" lesson has got to to be tough, I didn't listen to my form teacher explaining the crash of Black Friday in the 80's and I didn't listen to my union rep about pensions when I joined the workforce in the 90's. This is a parental responsibility but even that's tough, that's why this guy is so valuable, like any 13 yr old going to be relating to anyone born last century! I agree with you tho in the absence of such, we need to relate these concepts as a common thread throughout the curriculum.
The Government runs the school’s curriculum so its never going to be taught in US schools same with learning about money and how to actually acquire money aside from a job that pays you shit money unless you’re with the banks, real estate, business owner, investor and entrepreneur. They dont teach you how to do taxes and manage your money, life and budget things out, etc. they literally dont teach you any important life skills just science math english history thats flawed...
@@TehFibe I hear that, its more or less the same in UK schools, but things like form/tutor groups are pastoral teaching groups and things like this will be addressed, but not assessed nor really monitored so its a bit of a teacher lottery. Plus there is a oot of teachers who dont really know enough anyways teaching in the uk is good, sercure and carrys a good pension plus a "free" national health service, so there is less need for teachers to be "surviving the real world." One of the best quotes i saw years ago on the net was "J.O.B = Just Over Broke"!
System is designed to keep us trapped. Just like the human batteries in the matrix. Governments set the school curriculum...no way would they teach anything which will break down the system of debt entrapment. True...the lessons are learned often too late in life.
... that moment when a young kid preaches and an old man feels the wisdom. Great video mate. For what its worth, during lockdown I have been doing oldskool shit like starting to grow plants on my window ledges, cleaning the whole apartment and taking the time to cook food ... all these things felt like chores at the time, all have paid off in the long run. Becoming self sufficient in green leaf vegetables was a lot of time and effort, with no reward in the short term ... but no every time I even look at my plants ... I get a warm glow of satisfaction.
Sleep now! Sleep is so important for memory formation and brain toxin flushing. It's how you grow better instead of wondering why you are not improving!
Since a few days i try to completely changed my lifestyle. Less gaming, less social media, less nsfw stuff. Friends told me i have muscular potential so now im doing exercises every morning and every evening. Since 2017 im trying myself into electronic music production and it keeps on growing. In about 40 days i start a 3 year education. Every thing i want in future im writing down on my phone so i dont forget about it and thats probably one of the things besides motivational videos like this that make me feel good. Im finally happier than with my life than before and im ready to sacrifice my time for a good life in future. Im so motivated and if you still read this: Go write down your plans! Get into some good longterm habits and get out of the shortterm habits! Cheers people!
I applaud you!! Sharing your story is motivational for people like me, and let’s people like me congratulate you on your work! You got this my dude! I wish you the best in life
You should actually dislike it so that the video will have a current negative feedback but will be back to positive in the long future when you factor in time.
For those confused, I'll explain what he means: Rather than doing what you want (aka play Xbox, watch porn, eat pizza, instant gratification stuff) first do things that you don't necessarily wanna do but SHOULD do (finishing your homework, going to the gym, brushing/flossing your teeth, delayed gratification stuff) and THEN you can get back to doing what you want aka the instant gratification stuff because the delayed gratification stuff is already done and out of the way.
@@VesDegree If that's the interpretation of the quote it still doesn't make sense. Don't do what you want, then can you can do what you want. Don't eat the pizza, and then you can eat the pizza.
This may have been posted before, but the secret is to find activities that give you both instant gratification and delayed gratification. For me that would be coding/scripting.
Yeah I remember watching a video (can't remember the name), but there was a guy describing a grid with 4 quadrants, where each of them represented a relationship between short and long term gratification. There was: - "hedonism" red quadrant (gratification now, detrimental later) -> e.g. watching Netflix - "rat race" green quadrant (detriment now, gratification later) -> e.g. reading a boring research paper for your class - "nihilism" black quadrant (detriment now, detriment later) -> e.g. getting in a fight with someone - "???" blue quadrant (gratification now, gratification later) -> e.g. gym session he basically claimed that you need to find a balance between each of these (except black) in order to succeed in life. Because sometimes you just need to engage in some of those 'red quadrant' activities in order to get some rest, you also need some of those 'green' activities, because even though they might be more boring in the short term, they are usually much more rewarding in the long term. But you should build your core activities around the blue quadrant, because that's where most of the fulfilment comes from. So in your case, gym would be the blue quadrant I guess. P.S.: Pls don't laugh at me if it's one of Andrew's own old videos haha
EDIT: This was a book called "The happiness equation" by Neil Pasricha -> I haven't read it, only watched a video summary, but it made a perfect sense to me.
Let's be honest. Only about 10% of our daily choices impact our life. The key is to understand which choices are important and which aren't. By understanding that fact we can reach the stars.
Everyone does something stupid at least a few times in life, I think Lindsey Spiteri Bellizzi. I like to think I have learned from my mistakes. Being human, I will no doubt make many more.
There is a scripture in the Christian Bible that says, “All things are permissible for me, but not all things are beneficial. All things are permissible, but I will not be controlled by anything.” This makes a lot of sense. It’s about how much control an activity has over the quality of life. The question is not whether or not someone can live without it. Humans can live without all kinds of things, even if they think they cannot do so. It’s about quality of life and whether or not someone has surrendered their ability to create long term good.
It doesn't really mean what this video is referring to though. It is about looking out for those around you rather than pursuing your own interests. The Bible, more specifically the New Testament, is of course very social democracy leaning in general.
A big life hack is when you realize that pleasure always starts from within you, and you are able to reward yourself whenever you take "long term positive / delayed gratification" actions. The gratification can be instant for any action, if you choose to give yourself that pleasure. Build these long term positive / instant gratification cycles and it becomes automatic.
This is something I'm working on lately, is finding that dopamine hit through making the healthy decisions, even if I don't always feel the intended effects of them immediately. Thanks for sharing!
Wyatt Overstreet you can use something to help... a basic example is eating a piece of candy every time you read 5 pages in a book... then your brain is trained and you can read more easily
I love how this was put in graph form. These are familiar concepts but the way Andrew presented them shed new light and is more effective at motivation than anything else I’ve come across.
My biggest regrets are the many times I could have had potentially wonderful & life changing experiences via instant gratification but chose not to. Those are missed opportunities, and they haunt me. It's not healthy to live solely for instant gratification...long term goals and delayed gratification are definitely worthwhile...but don't be afraid to sometimes live spontaneously and enjoy the moment. Balance, my friend.
As a Pro Musician from a young age, I practiced everyday. Once the gigs as a solo Entertainer started stacking up, I hardly needed to practice at home. I was getting PAID to practice by playing. When the gigs became fewer and now none due to covid, I don't practice like I did as a youth, and have noticeably lost my performance skills. Time to practice again... ugh. Hopefully there will be a demand for Live Music in the future.
Keep practicing! People will get fed up of being indoors. Live music is needed. Evan now you can do some live music videos online. Options are: RU-vid, Facebook, Zoom, Google meet, etc
How did you keep your consistency of practicing every day? I want to do that with so many things... piano, guitar, yoga... but I just can't seem to form habits.
@@Surge246 i understand every life experience, every book read, every biography, every religious book etc. but man every week? This guy gets blown away EVERY WEEK? Sounds like click bait to me bro
@@benyameenyitzhak1036 yr on youtube man, not a book. its just the way it is. Creators need to make a living and that works. Also he probably learned all this for years way before he figured out how to segment his comprehension into weekly uploads. Like lets say throughout the course of 8 years there are 100 things you learn, which is plausable given the timeframe. But then you decide you wanna make a youtube channel, you would make videos quite easily since you have a lot of things in your past to fuel the content.
Pity it is so poorly researched. He needs to read more. If he'd researched this properly he would have found out the problems with the marshmallow experiment and that the results don't hold up to scrutiny. He'd know the actual purpose dopamine serves and would not make the faux pas of referring to hits of dopamine.
Quite right, JXEL. Most of the "benefits" claimed here are extremely generalized and have a tenuous connection to reality at best. I'm not saying there are never any benefits from considering the long term consequences of your choices and decisions - I would encourage people to do that - but from an actual statistical standpoint, that graph is mostly garbage science and magical thinking, useful as no more than a motivational tool for people who have trouble with impulse control.
My motto this year has been simply "DO BETTER" and, honestly, its working. Just, on average, trying to make more good choices is all it takes to begin changing your life... the more effort the more results though, but start with better -- do your best at doing better... because that is all you can realistically do.
The key to a happy life is to practice moderation in everything - including moderation. The odd hit of dopamine ain't no bad thing and we all need to let our hair down once in a while. Otherwise, yes investing in the long term by doing the hard yards is sensible and beneficial. Just remember to live in the moment and have fun along the way or you'll regret it later. You never know what tomorrow may bring in terms of sickness or disaster.
Glad I discovered your channel while I’m still 15. You may not see this but I want to say it anyway. The knowledge you have given me has been a monumental part in my self development. I grew up surrounded and partaking in negative things. I started drinking when I was 12, and smoking when I was 13. I skipped school after years of good grades because of burnout and stress. My family fell apart early in my childhood, and currently I struggle with financial stress and isolation due to the pandemic. But despite it all, discovering videos like yours and learning more about self improvement on other platforms has quite literally changed my fate. Even as a child I was sure that someday I’d end up killing myself, whether it be intentional or not. I thought I’d fail school. I thought I would be dead young due to my habits. But here I am, because of you and many others, finally happy for the first time in years. I’m set to graduate as early as 16/17, I’ve stopped smoking cigarettes and only drink on special occasions. I’ve started taking opportunities as they come, and contributing to my future while I am still young. Among other many great changes, this all compounded and I am 2 years self harm and depression free. Videos like these, whether you think so or not, can quite literally save a life. People like you who hold such passion in these topics, enough to share them with the world, have my respect and my appreciation. I was never taught how to be disciplined, emotionally stable, how to navigate through life - yet the wonders of the internet have changed that. I actually see a future for myself. I finally have the will to pursue harder things rather than lay in my bed all day. I’m making the most out of my situation. I’m learning new things everyday and realizing new things everyday because of people like you. Thank you.
It's matter of habit. For me going to the gym and exhausting myself is more fun than watching tv, but it wasn't always like that. Same thing with books. You have to start reading and find the way to like it. Then it's easy and fun
Things to consider while making decisions- 1) Take the effect of time into consideration 2) Habits are formed and hence the practice of instant/delayed gratification in one area, spills over in other areas, which amplifies the net negative/positive effects. 3) Always keep in mind the domino effect, and hence take into consideration the second and third order consequences.
After watching this vid I immediately got working on my project report and finished it, achieving more than I usually could in a single sitting. Good stuff
I dont remember who said this, probably Dr. Peterson. He said to that for thousands of years people have watched the successful and the unsuccessful. The successful practice sacrifice, they delay instant gratification. To be successful, you would sacrifice what you love most, it might be a treasured item, a favored cow, a dream, a time-consuming hobby. Negotiate with the present to shape and bring forth a future you that can succeed in the long term and not give in to pleasures. I hope this can be of help to anyone else who's struggling towards order in this chaotic world.
@no name He's in rehab because he got prescribed an addictive opiod by a psychiatrist, wich he didn't know would have such effects on him. Heck, I think anybody who says he doesn't need to calm down when his wife is dying of liver cancer is a liar.
@no name My response goes in accordance with yours. You pointed out facts for wich you have no proof (and wich I dare to say there isn't). On the other hand there's plenty of proof of Peterson's professionalism, that's why I'm pointing out you're either ignorant, or a troll.
@no name Do you know anything about how physical dependancy and withdrawal symptoms work? It's nothing you can avoid psychologically, it can kill you, in fact he had a very severe reaction quitting cold turkey because he didn't know the addictive effects of clonazepam. That's why he decided to leave it gradually and with professional help, I see nothing wrong or unprofessional in that. Let me ask you something, what would you do if your life partner was suddenly diagnosed with terminal cancer? And, would you stay free of medication to keep stress levels from rising too high even if meant affecting your own health too?
I believe the message in the video is carefilled and means well, but if you really accept the truth of the matter, this way of practicing and living can put a person in a state of delusion and even make a person more depressed. Because they will always be putting everything in the future and are on a never ending treadmill of more more more, better better better. Once they actually are healthier, wealthier, more fit, more enlightened, have a better relationship, they wont be there to experience it because they will be too busy with the future. And when that future becomes present, guess what, they wont be there either, they will be in there next future. Living with the feeling of unfullfillment, always chasing what they already have. I've put to practice everything he talks about here for the past 7 years of my life. I ran every morning and still do, worked out at least 3 days a week, eat a better diet, I read all the time because I love learning, but I still felt the same feeling, like something was missing. So I explored more emotionally and spiritually in many different ways, and I realized again I was still chasing something. Only now instead of physical it was intangible. I was chasing enlightenment. But when I look at where I am now and who I am, I do believe I have made some good changes with my life. But I have also experienced so much anxiety and stress from living this way and I have had the tough to swallow realization that I am rarely engaged in what is actually happening RIGHT NOW, which is what was missing which is the only true reality. And that putting everything in the future is what causes a lot of my anxiety and feeling unfullfilled and depressed. I am currently trying to undo and unlearn everything this video talks about so I can actually BE HERE, and BE NOW. And actually do things I really feel pulled to do and stop putting them of for some future reward that never comes, because its always right in front of you, right here, right now. As long as you put anything in the future, thats where it will be, and you will never be there to experience it unless you are capable and disciplined enough to live in the present. I am not saying he is right or wrong nor you or Jordan Peterson, its just a perspective from personal experience with living the way this video says. Do make good choices, but not for some future gratification. Experience the gratitude of being alive NOW.
My dad always said that "We make the biggest decisions in life when we are least equipped to do so." (being young). Career decisions need to be made young and you need to work hard. Relationship decisions must be correct.
Or maybe when we are least educated a bit on life...... Not young and naive. So you are 17 years old and you decide you want a career and your going to work hard... You've just decided to give up all the best years of your life to working hard 5 days a week. 50 years you will do this. Most of what you earn goes on tax and interest. probably about 70% of your income. Then because you've worked so hard when it comes to retirement your body is worn out because you worked hard and you are now useless. You then spend the majority of the hard money you've earned paying for someone to care for you, then you die and the government takes a massive chunk of everything you've earned. I wouldn't say this is a very good way to spend the majority of your life. 😬
Francisco Scaramango it’s sad that you are so correct. Doesn’t feel as miserable when you are living it,but when you get older and realize the time that was wasted. That’s the real kick in the guts.
@@kingleonidas4296 totally agree. I remember being in the 2nd year of my apprenticeship..... I was about 18-19 and it was then I realised I had been fooled and conned. It was then I realised that I had to do this for the rest of my life, get up everyday and go to work for another 50 years. I then realised school was there to brainwash me to agree to giving my life away. To think it's normal and ok. Everyone does it, so it's fine. The whole system is corrupt to the core and just a glorified version of slavery in my opinion.
Francisco Scaramango I am about to turn 19 and I learned this lesson during the past two weeks because all my friends are picking up careers or going to university. When I finished school I still didn't know what do but i thought something that pays well and is fun should be good enough. But I never thought about the fact that the actual thing I want to get from working is enough money and as much free time as possible to do the things I love and share time with the people i love. I just wanted to say thank you because your comment reminded me of this eye opening lesson.
@@danifufu281 Nice comment. I would say that the only way to have the spare time in life but also the money, is if you set up your own business. If you learned a trade at your age, then you went self employed.... Doesn't have to be a trade though, just your own business. You then dictate the hours you work and what you earn. You will never become rich and have spare time if you have to go to work for somebody else. But sadly our schools don't teach you anything about filing taxes to HMRC and how the money banking system works.
I had a friend the asked me "why do I think exercise and eating well will fix everything" now I know her mindset better. I told her what you put into your body or life is what you get back. That is my belief 100%.
Instant gratification is built in the design of the economic system. En masse delayed gratification would be a massive blow to the current world order. I am all for it.
Its not about the current world. In the past, people were trying to pass time in instant gratification way any time they could. Poor people went to pub every day after work to drink (atleast in my part of europe), rich people did some rich people stuff (probably drink some more expensive stuff or go to brothel which used to be normal 200 years ago here). Instant gratification existed since ever. Or rather since creation of society. The problem is we have way too much of it.
It seems to me that it should not be kinda seems like, it should be exactly like that. As old people would be at the far right of the last graph he showed. Either really well off or really poor off. Good catch, by the way.
JAYZUPP damn it’s so true though. Keep your delayed gratification activities going guys! I’ve been learning to master the stock market and I also started bodybuilding one year ago. Ive come far already but I still have a heck of a way to go, looking forward to the journey!
I'm 51 and have been making gradual positive changes for the past 3 years. You have a great gift of wisdom as a young man. Wishing you good things Andrew👍
You can tell this guy understands what he is preaching because he always steps in to tell people who are itching to skip, leave or fast-forward that they are fucking up and he does it exactly when I get that urge. "If your impatient and watch to see what the graph looks like here it is..." and flashes it for a second. This is exactly my experience in most videos.
Delayed gratification is the best way to describe real estate ! At the street level it’s “ what goes around comes around” “ karma” . Excellent thank you!
This is great info. Just add the passion component... When a delayed gratification task is actually something you like, it becomes easier, you do it better than others and you get more benefits from it over time. The problem for many of us is that in early stages of our life, we never got to experience an useful activity that felt as good as watching TV or play videogames, therefore we grew up without passion and every task that could be beneficial is a huge burden. So maybe this is an idea for another video, how could anyone at any age find their passion... I believe is imposible for many of us, but maybe someone figured it out.
Love that video! You just forget one point, it's totally possible to have instant gratification and delayed gratification with the SAME action. For example, if I play Basketball with friends it'll give me instant gratification because I love to play basketball, but it'll also give me some delayed gratification because I'm doing sport and I'll fell better in my body in the long term. [Edit] Another example : If I want to improve my English (my native language is french), I can see some english series. So it'll give me some delayed gratification because I'm learning English, and it'll give me some instant gratification because I'm seeing series (which is fun). So, to use this rule in the best way, I think we have to find some activities which combine instants and delayed gratifications. Do you agree with me?
Whereas I admire the enthusiasm and optimism in this video, there are fallacies and quite a lack in actual examples and sources to back next to every claim. This isnt to say that this video shouldn't be shared but that it should be dissected a bit before taking everything here at face value. For anyone who might think I didnt, I did watch the entire video
@@reilleyluedde4135 Consider Ad hoc ergo proctor hoc. This comes before, so this must come after. Exercise has proven benefits, but running every morning isn't proven to lead to promotions and better relationships.
"It's harder to read a book than watch a RU-vid video". Take this to heart and it can be life changing, especially if you apply it in every area of your life instead of only correlating it between a book and RU-vid. seriously.
"If you eat a burger you may enjoy it in the moment but you're not happier for the rest of the week..." This guy obviously has never had a really good burger.
That’s one thing that I’ve learned on my own regarding food: you will never ever remember how good you felt when you ate something in a moment in life. That’s what stops me from eating like a maniac and gain weight which I hardly managed to loose in the past.
Michael Kirtley that would defy the basic law of food. The better it tastes good in the moment and the more you crave it after, the less healthy it is.
some would say that you would be always living for the future, the question is, once you start reaping the results of you delayed gratification, will you be enough in the present to enjoy it. everything needs to be in balance, which seems impossible these days.
I just watched a great interview, Ed Mylett was interviewing Kyle Cease. It's on RU-vid. They talked about this very same subject and I recommend the video to anyone who is wondering about this balance.
I hate the general concept that reading is always good and videos are bad, i can't remember the last physical book i read but at least 75% of all youtube videos i watch are educational and science related and i read plenty but mostly they are articles online, wikipedia, etc and some downloaded books. My point is as long as you are absorbing information and learning it doesn't matter from what medium you are getting it. Also reading a funny book is basically the same as watching funny videos you are not really learning because the point of them is to distract you and unwind, which is perfectly fine imo.
It’s reported that people like Warren Buffett and Bill Gates read 500 pages a day. Wonder if it would be less if they had the internet 50 years ago lol
This is a very good point. I've always believed that good stories and life lessons can be learned from movies and video games. The mentality of "put down the controller and read a book" is stupid and antiquated. Many times, somebody poured their heart and soul into writing the story and dialogue of that game you're playing, and it is worth no less than a book of a similar story. Books, as a medium, do have the aspect of having little in the way of instant gratification to sift through. Movies, and especially video games, can often have these instant feel-good aspects that might be worth reducing or avoiding, but that does not mean the medium itself is inherently negative. Lastly, to further this point, if you despise the act of reading books, and enjoy the act of playing a game, you will learn and remember far more of the story or lessons from the game than you do from the book, solely on that alone. The one you despise will feel frustrating, and the one you enjoy will feel natural.
I work in a doctors surgery in SW England and I see examples of the order of consequence every day. Poor short term lifestyle choices such as (1)smoking (2) lack of exercise (3) poor diet have a knock on effect such as finances, you keep going sick so you're fired from your job or passed over for promotion. An effect on your relationships, your partner has to nurse you through illness or drive you to hospital appts, drs surgery, the pharmacy etc. A compounding effect on your further health, you get complications from drug interactions and you need more and more medications to counteract the ones you're already taking, you need other uncomfortable medical interventions such as endoscopy or steroid injections, this leads to more of the first two. The internet is full of videos on how to reverse this, EDUCATE yourself.
@@AndrewKirbys You're welcome, it may have sounded like a horror movie, but it's depressingly common and every word was true. People seem completely oblivious to the 'dangers' of jumping onto the health service merry-go-round and don't realise that a very high % (80 -90% ??) of medications are designed to manage symptoms, they don't treat your illness, they're NOT a cure.
@@briancorcoran9888 good comment, brother. It's good to take a moment and think deeper about the numerous negative consequences that aren't that obvious on first sight. And you're right, bad choices and habits really do influence our entire life, affecting everything from daily mood and health to our decision making, self esteem, finances and relationships.
I also live in UK and totally agree with what you say...I’ve seen this exact series of events in my family...very sad. In the recent UK general election I was dismayed to hear none of the main parties talking about the benefits of positive lifestyle choices in relationship to personal health and welfare and depressed to only hear the politicians talk about pumping more and more money into the NHS to treat illness, no long term plans to prevent illness in the first place. I would love to see Boris Johnson give this message to the general public, now he doesn’t have to appeal to their instant gratification of ticking the box for Tory in the voting booth! (Sorry, didn’t mean to get political! 😉).
"Nothing worth having comes easy" Is a quote in my parents workout area and I always remember that when I don't want to do something that takes time for gratification.
It reminds me of the Matthew principle, which is clearly right I think. To those who have everything more will be given, and from those who have nothing, everything will be taken. That's exactly what this video was about, and it's a fundamental rule indeed in the world. The success in life (delayed gratification, or sacrifice) will increase the probability of further success (general improvement). p.s. This video helped me to get back my feet and remember that I should be doing my best for the world because I tend to spiral downwards and emotionally forget it. thanks a lot.
This video was the most important realization in my entire life. After I watched this during pandemic in 2020, I learned more about delayed gratification, changed my mindset and started to learn new things. Now, the skills I learned at that time helped to get new jobs. I’ll never forget the concept and live with that. Huge thank you from Japan❤
I live in Thailand and today I'm hanging a mosquitoe net over my bed. Woke up with a cockroach in my bed last night. Delayed gratification 🤔🙃😊 Seriously... Wonderful video. I've been a long time drug addict. 25 years but not now, but I need to be reminded all the time about my problem. And this video has helped me going through another day and... Thank you 😊 ❤️From Thailand 🇹🇭
This explains perfectly why whenever I engage in something that gives me instant gratification, I seem to engage in many other bad habits afterwards. There’s a chain effect that comes from engaging in one bad habit that will have a greater net negative effect than you would have anticipated
Yeah, I'm reflecting on this right now, and I'm getting to the realization that usually, whenever I opt for something that provides me with instant gratification, that day is gone, filled with bad decisions, procrastination and frustration. And when I do force myself to be productive against my own will, I am able to get so much more from my day.
Seems to me instant gratification is linked to base emotions like greed, lust, jealousy, rage, frustration etc......but even though sometimes we feel them we don't have to bite, that's our choice. Another brill vid Andy, thanks.
You're investing into a vast godlike pool of different intelligences while simultaneously testing your mechanical abilities on top of having a great time adapting to new enemies and environments. Sounds *PRETTY DAM AMAZING TO ME*
@@voices4dayz469 video games are fake, made-up, fabricated, simulated, whatever you wanna call it. Play the universal game of "going outside" just like our forefathers and see the reward irrespective of some made up arbitrary bs
I agree with the general concept of investing in yourself for the long term by pursuing things that don't give you instant gratification, but I don't understand this feeling that people have that reading a book is inherently a better way to gain information than watching a video. RU-vid videos can be more informative and illustrating than a book can because it has another aspect of storytelling, which is video. Likewise, you can just as easily read a junk book as you can watch a junk video. I think it's more about the TYPE of book and video that you watch rather than books are always inherently better for you than videos.
You will remember more when you read than when you listen, Although theres a you can learn and remember when watching and listening. We did after all pass down stories to each other through speaking before we created a writing system. Some cultures never created a writing system, those cultures tend to have better audio memory amongst its population.
Exercising and eating healthy don’t have to be boring/hard. Everyone has healthy foods they like, and sports/activities they think are fun. That said, your video is quite motivating!
fukk healthy food do you want to die at 90? 70 is more than generous and 75 should (in my opinion) be the legal limit for life just have fun, screw these idiots who tell u to suffer for fukkall
The video has a great point, but I think the "rich vs poor" setting near the end of the video is a bit on the failing side of comparison. Lack of money causes tons of negative effects as you can mostly only focus on survival. It is rare that a person from a poor background can get into a delayed gratification loop unless the society makes it possible. Means for this are free education, cheap or free child care, cheap or free health care, availability of mental health services, monetary support... you need all these to encourage as a society for everyone to have a good chance in life. Otherwise you're relying on luck and fortune, having only select few hit a jackpot every now and then, instead of solving the greater picture. You could even argue many policies and ways are instant gratification, such as tax cuts or donation culture. If you want the people who need this advice the most to not take it negatively you probably want to avoid indirect blaming based on conditions people might have no control over. There is a lot of focus on individualism and "be who you are" in our culture and as a standalone advice this is very individualistic. In reality a lot of real power is behind support and networks of people. No matter how individualistic life you try to live for successes you need other people: someone to trust on you, someone to give you a chance, someone to give the advice you needed. The stronger position someone is in their life the bigger impact they can share for others. This is one factor why poor remain poor unless you actively provide support to improve the baseline.
I just loved the way you explained. Remembering concepts through visuals kind of solidifies them. I will definitely paste this graph in my room and your explanation in my mind. Thank you for the great work.
"Focusing on the long run, balancing it with fun in the short term and the world is your oyster" 11:30 Balance is the key. Be honest with yourself. Seek and understand your true inner motivations. Support yourself to be better.
My little contribution - it is possible to enjoy the 'boring' stuff like washing dishes, cleaning the house. It takes practice though. It needs presence/mindfulness. It is amazing what can be gleened from even the most mundane of tasks.
Damn I saw this one in my recs on the perfect damn time. It's quarantine and I was feeling sluggish and unmotivated as HELL. I've been wating for the day to end every day, it's the same loop, passing time scrolling mindlessly through social media, I feel my mood get worse and my brain get slower, my usual sharp witty brain is now something of a worms brain. This video got me out of this gutter by providing indisputable logic and making me realize my own shame. Thanks so damn much
Bear in mind that activities that provide _both_ instant and delayed are necessary for our wellness. We become unhappy, unfulfilled, dependent on dopamine, potentially addicted, and ultimately unfulfilled if we primarily or solely stick to instant gratification activities. We become unhappy, dependent on endless achievement, can feel stuck waiting, and ultimately unfulfilled by adhering primarily or only on delayed gratification. To make the model described in the video work, apply the principle of everything in moderation.
The most encouraging thing is - boring things become enjoyable. Salad, gym, work, reading, meditating etc becomes fun and stays useful. As we all heard The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.
In 2012 at my high school I bought 20 Bitcoins at $14. So did my other friends in my engineering classes. My other friends went for instant gratification stock exchange. They kept getting good instant money but it was small. We kept buying more. 2 of them started mining more. It rose a few times, then came 2017 we sold at around $18,000-$18,600. My friends from my engineering class waited 5 years to get delayed gratification and they became Crypto Millionaires. I did not become a crypto millionaire but made amazing money. My other friends that went in instant gratification stock exchange made money but got enough for a small car. In 2018 they took their money from the stock exchange and joined us in the Crypto world. Now we are waiting for 2021, for that delayed gratification.
Shawn Nichols That’s excellent! My wife and I just purchased our first home after years of living really tight financially. In the end we were able to roll our gains over into the house. We had MANY tough days/nights but it was SO worth it in the end.
deltaxcd Look at a stock market chart. In the grand scheme of things, a disasterous pullback is just a blip on a stock chart. In 2008, I saw a 22% decline in my portfolio. No dividend cuts at all. A decade later, I was up over 130% from 2007! By 2011, it was like the recession never happened. The only people who lost in the recession were those who pulled out due to fear or never invested at all.
@@Psyberify Yeah, I know. And this is why you will pull your hair until you will become bald this time ;) who could have expected that FED will flood everything with money to prevent the crash? It is hard to tell when to pull out when you are gambling.
This graph and surrounding concepts should be fundamental in education early in life all the way through graduation! I think it deserves it's own class like math or science.....
