Yip thats the truth. Your body soul and Spirit actually protecs U from anymore darkness and evilness from entering into your life and doing anymore damage. God decides. No more pain for my child. Leave her NOW in Jesus name xxx
Yesss.. I literally loved my ex soooo much I always wanted him, then when he was talking/having sex with other ppl I literally had to force myself to sleep with him & I never felt or looked at him the same way. I held onto him for 1.5 yrs, trying to feel the way I did before about him but it was over way before I even left.
I was told in my younger years "As long as he can still make you cry, you're not done. The minute he does something that should hurt you and you feel nothing, that's when you know you're done." It was completely true.
It should never get to the point that she’s so disgusted by you that she checks out. What’s happened to you men? Just be stand up men who can provide for a wife and family without struggle and you’ll be good. All the other races figure out how to be accomplished men so you can too. Stop making simple things hard by being lazy and lacking initiative. Make responsible education and/or business decisions that set you up for future success, BE that man, then choose a wife. You’re literally NOT qualified to date a good women IF you’re out here earning low wages, no plans or purpose, and taking no steps to become Head of your own Household and family one day.
@@stormyweather4898 Negative. Everyone isn't codependent. There are people, men and women, who can truly be alone - without human crutches. A person who can't stand in their pain and heal, alone, isn't a viable option, imho. That's someone who requires a lot of emotional support. 🚩Rebounding only creates more baggage.
A man gets to a point where he disgusts you....like the very essence of him being alive is repugnant...no matter how much he's changed....he's a being she just wants to act like she never met🙏🏼💕
Yep, women we will emotionally leave before actually physically removing ourselves and just letting the loudness of the silence in our absence do what it needs to do! The healthy women will go on a journey of self-discovery, going completely no-contact to heal, and level up!
I must agree 100%. We check out mentally, we tell our family and friends how we're being treated, getting second opinions, and invisioning life without this person. Lastly, we wish them the best on their journey away from us.
Some men think when we’re fussing and nagging them because we’re being mean and bitter but it actually means we care enough to constantly try to talk and tell u what’s the problem and they don’t get it but once we’re silent just know it’s a wrap we no longer care to express anything
How about communicate like an adult instead of fussing and nagging and being mean and bitter. Last chick I was with thought I didn’t care about her issues because I refused to discuss them if she did not come respectfully and under control. Why do we have to put up with that? Then you want to accuse a dude of not caring when you didn’t try to address your problems like a mature woman would.
@@bruceleroy5585 well majority of women’s fussing comes from her partners poor ability to communicate that’s a Big problem in relationships too many adults don’t know how to communicate
@@MsSN518 someone else’s poor communication should not justify me to act a fool. We should always have self control and be in control of how we react. Sounds like justifying bad behavior.
Yes! That was me, cheated on repeatedly and I stayed in the marriage for 8 years before I finally chose to leave. I've been single for 2 and a half years so no, nobody else was in my mind when I chose to leave.
I lost the best thing i ever had and its all my fault.I wish i could go back in time and did better but i guess i didnt see her for who she really is .Now i m lost and dead inside knowing i can never get another chance 😢
@niongg8042 so you were using her as God or to make yourself feel like one? I hope you learn what God really is and get in alignment so you're not "broken" over your own actions. It's ok to let go now and keep living.
What about when they give no warnings? What if she was telling you she loves you every single day for months and never broke her routines, spoke about future plans + more children and then one day says I feel indifferent about us! What does that say?
This is where I am now. Took 14 years. Married 20 years this year. First 6 years, I didn't see the issues as issues but as challenges that every couple face, no one is perfect etc. 14 years of crying, going to therapy to work on myself, so could be better for him and our kids. I still believed in him through it all. Think it was last year that I finally checked out emotionally. I am in a lot of pain today but not about him. I finally feel like I know what I want. I would like a companion. A strong, steady mature man. A loving, firm, fair and gentle leader. I went to therapy to fix me for him, but I am becoming whole for me.
This young brother gets it, so true. We women, when we truly love you-- will give you a ton of chances. But when we reach the point of DONE, we DONE!!!
When a man avoids issues its a wrap. To make light conversation when I'm confused?? How can you VALUE me without acknowledging MY WORTH.. I'm Done-Done ✔
Exactly they’ll sweep it under the rug then next time it’s bigger, keep handling issues that passive way until it festers. Like Hello? We have a problem here can we discuss a solution? He can’t 😮
That is nothing but the truth! I did 30 years and then I couldn’t do it anymore. I walked away and never turned back, and my life has been so wonderful and full and I’m happier than I’ve ever been and you definitely told the truth on this!💯💜🙏👌🏾
This man ain't lying. Inwas like this with my ex who i forgave time and time again. When we are good to u and we get taken advantage of and emotionally abused we eventually become unattracted to you in every way. Eventually we start to resent u and there is no coming back . I feel that's how a lot of women get over their ex tbh. There's literally nothing u can do. It's like constantly chopping a tree down. Once it falls that's it
I told my ex husband if I ever get to the point I am no longer communicating about anything other than bills, it's no turning back. Needless to say he didn't believe me, until he did. 😏
Ooooooh brother preach!!!!! Is not the easiest thing for a woman to do but the peace that comes with it is bittersweet I’m soooo done that I believe I’ll be single my all life
There’s no flipping the switch back. It’s done and they never see it coming bc they think you’ll just keep taking it until the day you don’t and they are shocked.
So true, I gave warnings in ways like expressing how I feel, asking for what I need, it was constantly ignored until I just got too hurt and emotionally exhausted to try anymore, I cried a few days and then I was at peace
” You need to worry when I stop asking for communication and common ground. When I don’t get emotional and passionate about us, it’s too late.” That time came and went now I could care less, nothing he says phases me. At this point we’ve already gone thru the grieving process by ourselves, we are out of emotions and numb to it. You can parade your new girl in front of us and get nothing but a sigh dismissal.
Cus we know the new girl going to eventually go through the same shit that we went through. If not worse!!!! No!!! The new girlfriend can keep my old trash. I'll keep keeping on walking!!!🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
This is so true cause I don't give a DAMN!!! Mentally I gave him back to God. It's nothing with me💯💯🎯 He's a enemy that I love from a distance. I don't hate him, I forgive him but I won't spend an ounce of my emotions on it I'm checked out. That narcissist was the worst experienced in my life. I'm unbothered & free🕊️
Yes years of me repeating the same sh!t over and over and having it disregarded. That's what's so pathetic and sad is that it's not like we give them a few weeks, I gave this mf a few years and his dumb ass still didn't get it so bye. 🙄
I’ve finally reached this point-I’m just biding my time. We have our children, I’m going to stick this out to keep things stable for them because they deserve that much. But when they are gone, it’s a wrap. May these next 13 years fly.
So True! At that point she’s gotten tired of ALL of your B S, your neglecting her feelings and not being mindful of the words you say to her. She’s Just done and the planning to leave begins.
He knew he would never be able to come back when he asked “Do you hate me?” . I told him I don’t care enough about you to hate you, I’m indifferent. He walked away with what little pride he had and left me alone.
Once the blinders are taken off your eyes by the narc, and you see what is revealed behind their deceit, you can never “unsee “ it. I got over him faster than a common cold 😊
Idk why some men love to put us in a situation where we hate them. It's bs. Inmature. It hurts, man. Why don't you all get it? Why push our limits like that??
Right, Sis!! I'm not hating anyone. It conflicts with my divine nature. I'll hit him with the "oh you're one of thooose" real quick ✌🏽😂 Some men loathe themselves so much that they have to create that same truth for any woman that crosses their path. It's not personal, it's them.
I partially agree with what this gentleman praise. For example I feel very uncomfortable in fights, I much rather say kindly and firmly I don't like something. You do it again, I forgive. You keep doing it, I am emotionally out. I don't understand much the pushing limits side. Do the have so much hormones/energy to spare? Because if I have to keep fighting for simple concepts and respect, it's a no. No matter the man love for arguing.
Very true. I checked out sexually, then emotionally, next love, but when I mentally checked out, I woke up that morning and said boo I can't do it anymore."" It's been 8 years since then.
This is definitely facts!!! First I mentality left, then I emotionally left, and finally I physically left. Once a woman does all three it’s a wrap. I’ve been broke up with my ex for almost a year after being in a relationship with him for 8 years. It is nothing that man can do or say to get me back.
True....I checked out years before I removed my self and children physically after 12 years of marriage. What he did was questionable and unpardonable but I chose not to go low that but level up and let it go and let God! Once I did that there was no looking back. I haven't regretted it.
@@allme813 its actually illogical to keep sticking around a person you already know you don't want to be with,especially for that extended length of time........unless you are using that person for something.......or you are scared to be alone and you are just waiting for a better option to come along,which is still using them.
Thank you... I know the people seen/heard of countless examples of this types of situations. One stands out that people know of is Queen Latifah U.N.I.T.Y.
At that point now he hanging out over night with his "homegirl" too much....lying about where he at ...if he with her, when he See's her, he ain't touching me...calling her before me etc. I'm packing my shit now I deserve better. I would never do no shit like this to anyone so before shit gets crazy I'ma exit because men CANNOT HANDLE WHAT THEY DISH OUT✨
Yes, hunny. Please be careful. Some things just aren't worth it. You leaving and not being bothered will hurt him more than anything, but at the end of the day, don't concern yourself with anything other than healing and being healthy and happy once it's officially over. Remove everything and everyone who could be a distraction during your journey. Good luck! 💖💖
@@brwnserenity2351 Thank you so much for your encouraging words and support. It really means a lot Ma'am. That's what I'm doing focusing on me and our kids...my goals and dreams so I can be a better person for myself and kids first. I'm about to sign up for culinary school Monday and start working again. Much love🥰🙏🏾✨
@Olivia Griffin That's amazing! It makes me so happy to know that you have a plan/goals for yourself. I'm so excited for you and your children! I know that you're going to do so well! Be blessed! 🥰❤️
LADIES WOMEN OUT THERE PLEASE TELL THE MAN YOUR DONE AND DONT WASTE YOUR TIME ANY LONGER DONE IS DONE ITS LIKE FORGIVENESS YOU DONT DO IT FOR THEM BUT FOR YOU AFTER 3 WARNINGS I THINK IT WONT WORK ANYMORE JUST SAY IT WITH BOLDNESS NO FEAR AND CONFIDENCE AND KINDNESS ITS OVER AND WALK AWAY IN PEACE WITH PEACE ,TEACH YOUR DAUGHTERS TO PUT GOD FIRST LOVE THEMSELVES MARRY THEMSELVES AND THE RIGHT MAN WILL COME IN TO STAY FOR A LIFETIME AND DONT WASTE THEIR PRECIOUS YEARS BECAUSE OUR CHILDREN MUST DO BETTER THAN US AND KNOW IT SOONER THAN WE KNEW WE BECOME THE LEADER AFTER LEARNING
You better let them know! These men think it’s a game out here. Just like you thought I was cute…someone else thinks I’m cute too. I have talked, cried, written letters, and accepted a whole lot of stuff I should have never accepted. All bc I loved him. No more! Im done. There’s nothing else to even talk about. Not even mad. I just want to be left alone.
I slowly stopped saying anything to him. It became meaningless conversations and we did nothing together ever. I had checked out but he still didn’t seem to care until I was physically gone🤷🏼♀️
I never wanted to check out. I wanted what we had. He let others influence him to give me the bare minimum, while I was giving him and the kids 1 million percent. I think that hurt the most. 😢
Speaking true facts 💯👌 that’s how it was with my ex husband it’s only so much we can take especially when you give your all to a person and for them to cheat cheat cheat different women a lot of outside kids while you married then wants to physically and emotionally abuse you yes I was done and I walked away straighten up my crown I’m so glad I did because I wouldn’t be here today had I stayed love don’t hurt the man I’m with now it’s been 25 years we been together never married raised our kids together and we still going strong 💪🏾 💕so you most definitely can find love after the pain 💯💯💕💕🙏🏾🙏🏾
This is factual indeed 💯. I tried in two cycles for my love Who disrespected me by dealing with someone I know and lied about as well made me out to be the karmic of some short ghosted me and choose this other got her pregnant and everything. God is of all TRUTH. I lost everything due to blockage from witchcraft they were doing. I lost in the game of life and I had for given him I had I really did considered if he came to me. I would take him back NO SHAME ON THEM BOTH. I pray for them for he didn't know what kind of GEM I was that GOD was hiding and protecting me from especially with a certain lifestyle and behaviors. My eyes are NOW spiritual and physical open and I see everything for what it is. Thank you TRLL for this message👑 Truly a Blessing to the WORLD COMMUNITY RESPECTFULLY
I’m probably older than most of you.But I’d like to say that at one time I hated my ex.And that hatred and anger was holding me down.So I prayed and asked God to remove the hatred out of my heart for him and he did. I ve learned to tolerate him but I’m happy being alone with my 2 kids But at the end of the relationship he call himself getting into the church.Too little too late.
That’s how my boyfriend was. He was always saying u talk so nice to ur ex (kids dad) but then will argue with me. Why u don’t argue with him. I told him, cuz he can’t get me mad and upset anymore. I’m not letting him get that pleasure of upsetting me. I don’t have to see him. But with you, I see you everyday so yes, if u yelling at me and saying crazy stuff (boyfriend was a narcissist btw) I’ll take it easy on you, but I will argue back because I care & get emotional. I had to walk away, it was too much on a daily basis - now he gets that version of me who he can’t make upset. I no longer care
I kept warning him that he was going to lose all access to me. Now...he can't come around or talk to me at all. I blocked all access...and he still don't get it.
That's what I keep trying to figure out like how did you picture this working out? Did you think how this was going to play out long-term? We're either are or are NOT! There are no in-betweens. Take a good look because this is what moving on looks like. Understand clearly, it doesn't mean we're enemies but it also doesn't mean we're friends. You know what you lost and you know what you let go of. Periodt. And just in case you forgot I LEFT!
When she is indifferent, that means no more love. When she hate you, that means the love she had has turned into hate. Your really lost their too. When she hates you, her love is burning out. Then it became indifferent ❤
When a woman disconnects from your family.. and just send the kids and stay at no functions .. and when you drop them off and you just see the hand open the screen door and door closes.. she been checked out.
The point of NO RETURN, and he can only blame himself. Our love doesn't change, unless he changes it. Once the switch is flipped OFF there is no flipping it back on.
