Even Mike Tyson said his fear helps him out & still faces the challenge like a man unlike people who have to join some crew to have their beans sprout.
After a lifetime of bullying and introversion, I had a mental breakdown and just started doing whatever I want. I no longer fear talking to people. I think I was an extrovert all along, but one that got beat into submission by a society of bullies.
I overcompensate and will talk to anyone and everyone, which sometimes gets me into trouble. If I want to talk to a woman then I will do and then I’ll walk off, it confuses my friends and even the woman in question. Now I was the fat kid at school who knew the cool kids but I wasn’t respected by them or even the opposite sex. I’ve learnt that the people I grew up with could just put on a better false sense of security and hid there problems, better then I could. Nobody is born wise but you can become it. I am 35 and learnt a lot of things after turning 30, I make mistakes everyday but I try not to make the same one twice and I use the word try as some things are out of your own control.
Confidence is only partially earned through self acceptance. You need to find confidence in something in order to be confident in your flaws. It can be anything.
Confidence is just an aftermath feeling that comes from past success nothing more nothing less. For an example if a person was able to attract someone that they was interested in than that person has gained past success which is what established and contributed to their confidence in the first place.
@A.J. I was just about to say the exact same thing that you said here in your message.... Well spoken... Also, I think it can possibly be a fleeting confidence that comes when a person feels good about themselves because of compliments they may receive about they're looks or getting a promotion at work. When you gain the kind of confidence you get from a long, hard life, and your still kicking after one setback after another. It creates a feeling of invincibility. Not to mention, you just dont give a F**k, so much any more of what people think of you. Because you've come to Love yourself.
@@pamelaweinberger3373 The magnitude enigma of self hatred can be a very deep thing, deeper than what many people can comprehend or understand, I am just speaking for myself, I am 35 years old by the way, Black American male.
Man I need to start reading those books. Ned was cool as fuck stoic took John in as his own and took one for the team to protect him screwing up his marriage in the process for that secret
I have always loved this train of thought. Confidence isn't about being a loud "alpha" wanting attention and treating others as unimportant...... that's called ego. What confidence means is to be honest with yourself and working to overcome your fears. To stand up and do what you feel is right to do even if you are afraid, and to not care about what others will think when you do.
Confidence is just an aftermath feeling that comes from past success nothing more nothing less. For an example if a person was able to attract someone that they was interested in than that person has gained past success which is what established and contributed to their confidence in the first place.
@@saltykraken9471 ive always dreamt of it that way and hoped it was that easy but i hate to break it to you that isnt always the case for people. Some people move forward and accept it. Some continue living their lives with hate and anxiety for who they are. The moment you realize that nobody is perfect and that just here breathing on earth is a blessing then the only thing left is to find it in yourself to be grateful for who you are and to make others feel heard and understood as well. Yet thats what we do as humans though right we judge we criticize we compare . For what to make someone else think your good enough. It may seem hard for a person with so much anxiety to feel confident but its more so about FEAR. Its all in your head. May you find peace within yourself and love your life in ways you never thought possible
@@fullfradi95 Stop coping, Tom Hardy has confidence because he is attractive, has received constant positive affirmation, and is famous. You’ll never look like him no matter how you trim your beard.
@@user-nz7mv2iy6d "never going to look like him" " trim your beard " , okey sure.... if you say never going to look like him cause of the triming , im out
@@user-nz7mv2iy6d nah, you are the one coping. You can look like him if you put in the work. I don't know you but I suspect you are just lazy and irresponsible. You definitely can't look good with that attitude. Your attitude is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
@@lilxsweet googled my ass. Not every English speaking person is from USA or Europe. I don't have an effing clue who tf he was until I checked some other comments to check his full name duhhhh
What are you even on about? I'm very confused by your agressiveness. Not all English speaking person is from the US and blah blah the what now? What? 🤔 Where did that even come from? LOL Do you even know why you're angry for this reason? You need help. This will be my last reply to you because you are just not making any sense. I hope this is not your passing enjoyment, because it is such a sad existence.
@@lilxsweet I think they just wanted to know his surname because it wasn't mentioned in the video. Their response was a bit over the top though. Seems like people thinking the world revolves around the US or UK really gets to them (not saying you think that btw).
A very long time ago I worked in a Prison. In that environment tattoos are everywhere. Quickly it was apparent that most but not all people who have alot of tattoos are actually insecure.
Society raised people to think tattoos are 'scary'. Much like everything else society taught me: that assumption was completely wrong and for years did me a disservice of not talking to people simply because I was scared of them.
What do I fear? I fear stagnation and lack of progress. I fear never reaching potential and being average. I fear being forgotten... The past... Yesterday's news. I fear giving up and being passed by, going softly into that goodnight. I fear letting those I love down, letting myself down. I fear settling, giving in to the "that's just the way it is" mindset. I fear dying without leaving my mark. I fear not feeling these fears anymore and just floating along. These fears feed me, they nourish my drive. I love my fear.
Im a bodyguard. I got to know Tom quite well about 12 years ago after he'd returned from the States filming Warrior. With me he was very down to earth and easy to talk to. True fact, he'd even considered becoming a bodyguard himself before his acting really took off.
Just be honest. I needed to hear this.. I've tried being consistently appear "flawless" and that MO I've learned from my upbringing has been a detriment and a liability. I've watched this video 3 times back to back. This video helped me to drop that habit on the spot. Some of us need to watch this on repeat to soak in. Every man old and young need this video. Thanks for the vid 😎👍🏾!
I've actually met him in person, and I can honestly say he was such a gentleman, extremely humble and polite, and a very VERY nice man. 2 of my boys age 10 and 14 were both entered in a Brazilian jujitsu tournament. Unbeknown to us, so was Mr. Tom Hardy. There had to have been easily 1000 plus people there, both adults and kids and everybody kept asking him for photos (even though he was trying to warm up for his fight). He never said no to anyone and actually was so incredibly nice to them all. Outstanding, beautiful person.
I really like this one. Some of these “self-help” vids/channels are utter 💩...feeding on folks’ manifest and latent insecurities...but this one is spot-on 🙏💪👏
This is true I was so obsessed with these "self-help/improvement" so much that my thoughts pattern seem crazy as I try to be perfect every second I becomes aware later on that my insecurities only grow bigger and bigger.
It's funny he said stop trying to look flawless. I remember years ago walking through a mall with muddy boots, concrete dust all over my shirt, unkempt beard and hair and thinking to myself weeks later I truly do not give a fuck what people think 😅 I had spent years trying to maintain a certain level personal grooming etc but realized as I got older It's hard to try and look flawless all the time and also a huge waste of time. True confidence comes from embracing and being proud of what you're good at and accepting what you're not good at. Also stop giving a fuck about others opinions, you know you more than they know you and if you think you're the shit and they don't then clearly they're wrong 🤣🤣🤣
I hate suits. But there is specific ones that enjoy wearing I don't have any suits. But that does look cool sometimes concrete dust on your shoes paints on your pants and shirt. Working boots. They don't know what it's literally the feeling of working in construction. If you feel tired and it's not necessary to be dressed properly wherever else you're going other than work then I think it's comfortable. I can't look flawless with my hair standing up all the time so I shave my 4th dimension hair off and as of now I'm not bald because currently I supply my body to my scalp the nutrients it needs to literally keep my hair and not go bald lol. I sometimes hate the hair on my scalp. I hate cutting off my hair and I hate growing it but sometimes it looks good and I look good. But I'm unhealthy af right now so I had to cut it because it was literally dead human hair seaweed on my scalp which no longer had a good reason for being there and had to be cut down.
Wow, what a hero. Someone making 10 bucks an hour had to clean those floors and I'm sure they were real happy for you about whatever dumbass epiphany you had while you were tracking mud and concrete dust everywhere. I hope eventually you had the "I'm kind of a huge asshole for not taking 15 seconds to wipe my filthy fucking boots, maybe I should do that" epiphany.
@@mrchaotiq the fact that you think insinuating that my family members were janitors is some kind of insult tells me everything about you. Sometimes confidence is unearned.
Not really.look at all the pretty people with major issues. Just ad money does not make you truly happy. It can make life easier but it does not make you good person
It's very liberating once you stop caring what others think of you and just live your life the way that makes you happy. Social media has made that very hard for most people.
It’s the man thing. Never show weakness or perceived weakness. That’s not healthy even though we don’t want to admit that. It’s a horrible way to live. Putting up a front is false and painful to keep up. It’s very hard to break out of. It’s fear based. I’m not young, I’m aware I’m like this and I still struggle with it! You really have to be present in your mind, present in the moment and be aware of your behavior while you are doing it! You have to actually think about it as you respond to things. You have to train yourself to be aware of your actions in real time. It ain’t easy, but you have to focus. I’ve even thought of writing that word Focus on my hand to remind me!
It's all biological. A weak person in a society back in primitive times were a liability. Weakness meant death. It imprinted in our DNA to never show weakness and this is something that cannot be erased. People might say it's okay to cry or show weakness as a man today but people will unwillingly judge that man subconsciously, which is sad really but that's life. Nature is brutal and always have been. Everything becomes easier to understand when you study humanity objectively through the lens of nature and biology.
You shouldn't show weakness, you should work on not having any, not saying you should be perfect cuz no one is, but work on being the best you can be at everything.
Think this is super ingrained in men part society part biology. The funny thing is soon as you start being more accepting and forgiving of your flaws and less self critical what you can actually achieve skyrockets. All the energy you were devoting to beating yourself up for 'being weak' or 'failing' can just be expended on getting on with things.
@A.J. lol which is basically what you are doing here. the guy is a high status Chad (ie highly attractive). that's the lesson here. normies can't get away with acting like a snowflake.
@A.J. you don't get it do you? just like the video creators, you are under the illusion that behaving one way or the other is of influence on how confident a high status Chad like this actor would appear. you are in fact implicity praising this guy for his looks and status because you genuinely think the reason he comes across confident is not the fact he simply is a good looking Hollywood figure, but that he shows a certain (supposedly vulnerable) demeanor. that's a fallacy called the 'halo effect'. dude, you are not Tom Hardy. I am not Tom Hardy. don't think we can emulate everything such people can get away with. regular men will simply look weak, especially to women, when behaving like this.
He is so underrated and truly one of the best actors in the business. Most actors act a roll but he becomes an entirely different person everytime a true badass of an actor. He should have won the Academy Award for his acting in revenant. In my opinion he was a co star
He's nowhere underrated. He's starred in indie films as well as blockbusters. Respected and admired by his peers and fans. He's just not a famewhore getting "candid" pap pictures. He belongs in the Christian Bale and Cillian Murphy class of actors: true talent and doesn't give a fuck about celebrity.
@@benjaminroman916First off he's nowhere underrated make No sense but he doesn't get mentioned when people talk about the great actors they always mention Denaro, Pacino,Hanks but never him and he is every bit as good as them and he deserves an Oscar but he doesn't have one does he no there for he is not getting the credit he deserves so he is underrated he may be getting the work but he isn't getting the credit
@@brianlittle9202 Oscars are overrated and it takes years of butt kissing and expensive campaigns to win one. See Leo. Also those actors you mentioned have decades in the business and he's not there yet.
@@benjaminroman916 Well the man has made over 47 movies and has been making movies since 1998 which is long enough for anyone to judge his work and while Oscars may be overrated to U and I if U busted your ass at any career and was among the best in the world at it U would want the appropriate raises and or credit U deserve. I know Hollywood is a filthy out of touch even satanic sh*t hole but none the less right is right and he should get what he deserves if U were an actor who was that good U would want that Oscar especially when U see some of those who have reserved it in the past.
Confidence is just an aftermath feeling that comes from past success nothing more nothing less. For an example if a person was able to attract someone that they was interested in than that person has gained past success which is what established and contributed to their confidence in the first place.
I could watch him talk about a watermelon for hours and still be intrigued. 🤣 Whatever he's talking about in this I AGREE 💝 OH yeah, confidence. I agree 😊
I always subconciously do this,admitting and making fun of myself and my weakness,making others not expecting much from me,but in the end if i can somehow overcome my weakness,they will be suprised
I don’t fear too many things but I do sit back and watch people.. you learn alot that way…. I have been lied to mislead, gaslighted, taken advantage of… nothing to be scared of really.. just live and learn. He is an absolute legend. ❤️
Good on you, Thomas! It ain't that fear is going to go away and leave you alone forever. Don't expect that. Courage and bravery are just words to describe doing whatever, afraid. Battle through fear, and don't worry, GOD's helping you. You don't have to do it alone with no help. Just do it afraid. Then, with diligence, the voice of fear will get to where you can't hear it. YAY 😁!!!!!
@@yanceyboyz oh boohoo. Try being an ugly person who isn't treated like there a king every day of their life. We all have problems but beautiful people have such an advantage its crazy.
Lol, dude's making monster movies making millions and whereever he goes everyone tells him how great he is, that'll harnass your fear pretty quick. Doesn't really apply to the normal dude in the street though. Nice try.
Exactly what I was thinking. He can afford to come out and say that he's scared of everything. It's charming, instead of lame, for someone in his position.
@@thomash7252 I think what most people want is to just be authentic to who they really are. I would find it absolutely charming if a “street dude” said these things as long as he was being real
My partner met Tom hardy and forest Whitaker one morning they were shooting a film in Wales. So down to earth really nice guys my partner called forest Lawrence 😂
"Tom easily becomes aware of how handsome he is so he don't care how awkward he can be. His beauty makes him automatically confident and interesting, even though he has an avg personality"
I can relate to this in a lot of ways. I’m covered in tattoos, it’s simply just because I wanted to face one of my greatest fears in life. Being under the needle for prolonged periods.
i always thought this and still do, only strong person has a courage to confess/show his/her vulnerability, being vulnerable was always connected to some kind of shame and was treated like if you are vulnerable then you are weak while its not true, we all get vulnerable sometimes and i think we should confess whatever we feel and just accept it, its okay to be scared, its okay to be hurt, its important that we allow ourselves to feel those feelings but we shouldn't let ourselves to be in that state for long and let those negative emotions overwhelm us bcuz then it becomes permanent problem
THANK YOU FOR THIS ♥️🙌 This is valuable information that a lot of people humbly need to hear. Society has had everyone out here pretending to be something we are not. No need to hide behind brands ego or perfection. This is a tower moment in authenticity! It’s about honesty truth & expanding away from what we are not. When we walk on our true authentic path, we encourage others to do the same, to break away from the fake facades put upon us, by society. The stuff we hide from other are the things we truly should be unafraid to share♥️💫🍀🌸 Much love to each and every beautiful authentic soul out here in this dance of life!♥️💫🍀
That's exactly what I do since i realized that I'm kind of shy guy... But now it's getting into me that if you realize that you are shy and start thinking that you are shy, you can easily fuck your brain up, it's better to think that you are confident and it's just normal human behaviour but at the same time it's good to be kind of "responsive" :)
Something that Tom Hardy does which earned my respect was he never answers questions about his sexuality when being interviewed. He says that it’s inappropriate for them to ask him about it, also that his sexuality is his business and nobody else’s and that it has nothing to do with any of the various projects he’s worked on. I agree with him 100%! I don’t care about his sexuality one way or the other. I think he’s a great actor and I enjoy the various roles he has played.
It’s much more fun, easy, and liberating to walk through life being honest about who and what you are. Faking and lying to please people around you is exhausting and provide stress, a couple mistakes and people will see right through the show you put up. Honesty and integrity will always make you shine.
