This Makes You INSECURE... (95% Of People Get This Wrong) 

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hope this girl really does start loving herself

I thought I would gain my confidence back once I lost weight and have longer hair. But wherever you go, there you are. And I simply didn't see the difference - I still thought I was too big with too short hair. So whenever I need a reminder to accept and love myself the way I am right now, I think of my current self as the goal. Because if I were 10kg heavier with 10cm shorter hair, I would give f*cking everything to look like me right now. It's simply unfair to yourself, to only compare you to "better" versions of you. I don't know if this will help anyone out there, but it just puts things into perspective for me.

Here are the steps to freedom: 1. Journal in the third person to create a separation from yourself to gain perspective. Write all things troubling you until another part of you takes over beginning to solve your problems. It is fascinating that another self eventually shows up with the answers. 2. Write down a list of all people who have hurt you. Create a session with each person using a pillow acting as them and have the conversation you never had to use your voice of power to make your wrongs right- your subconscious doesn’t know the difference. 3. Begin meditation sessions twice a day. This will feel uncomfortable at first because your mind’s chatter will want to keep running you. In time, your mind will shut off and you will no longer be thinking and instead, be being. In this natural being state, joy will take you over. Continue this practice and joy will have ripple effects of love, acceptance, happiness, wholeness, self acceptance and self love. 4. Continue to cultivate and nurture this new found relationship with yourself as you now love yourself and no longer need external validation. 5. Appreciate this beautiful relationship with yourself and memorize this feeling because this is your new home that’s always available to you.

She is actually beautiful in her own ways, her sense of humour, cute face , and being absolutely honest on stage ! Kudos babe 🎉

"Programmed beliefs" This hits. We start to feel if we're not "fit", not wealthy, not popular/charismatic, not sexually active etc. then we're doing something wrong. The only thing we do wrong is trying to be like everyone else because someone else said that's what's preferred or the way to be.

amazing how much you have helped me julien and owen, literally snapped me out of a horrible depression

I swear the first time I seen Jullien I thought he's batshit crazy... I mean just look at his clothes for instance.... I'll never regret I watched bunch of his videos however.... reall life saver

It's really hits, growing up in my area. I was always told that the self comes last and other people's needs first. However the people I've been around always told me to be more of a giver and never take to be selfless and not selfish to leave my ego behind that the ego was wicked. I changed groups and this particular group said that we have good and bad inclination. And sometimes the bad inclination is not always bad and sometimes can save your life not that you go out and do wrong things and rob and murder. Sometimes being selfish for yourself saves you from bad things from happening from people who want to hurt you. I found out this was true and on this journey I moved forward I still have a a lot on this journey however I'm better and on a better path.

12:00 is a good thing to always remember - when speaking to others makes sure your voice comes from a grounded place within you and not something you force out because you want others' approval or attention.

2:45 A lot of you, raising your level of self-esteem means being okay, not being "Perfect," and realizing that "Perfect" is a constructed image. 17:37 is that in the end, you're always left with the relationship with the present moment. You're always left with your relationship with you. 21:18 make the present moment and the present you the goal, that's self-love. And that's also what leads to true change, 'cause otherwise it's always outta reaction. Love you Julien no homo I watch all your videos, best Netflix channel hands down!

That first scream was bold. Usually people seem way more stifled about that.

I love this! Such a healthy reminder. Especially, few points resonated: 1. In altered states of consciousness it's amazing, because we're out of duality. I've been there and it's such a relief. But the point is to bring those realizations into daily life here, and not to run away from it. Plus, it's so true about hardships of operating a physical body in those states 😄 as I've once said, "You cannot even cross the road". So you are very right 😄 2. So true about self -acceptance vs. self -denial. Once I was a raw foodie for 2,5 years and back then I was the slimmest I've ever been. Does someone think I was 100% confident? No, it always was not good enough. I never even stopped for a moment to appreciate myself RIGHT NOW. I enjoyed it, but still there's something I didn't like. And now being an intuitive eater, it's so much more loving to myself. But of course some part of me believes it was "better back then". What about NOW? I'm so more in tune with myself now at this point, so why should I compare? I am a process, not a product! (I've realized it after my psychedelic experience). Plus, when I look at any pictures of myself, which I don't have many, I see everytime was good, no matter what. But I have this trick or perception: RIGHT NOW it feels like it's not good. Only after a while I see all was good. Interesting! It is just a pattern of thinking that kicks in, and not actual reality. 3. And yes, I've realized something similar about low and high states. Before the war, as soon as I went low, I accepted it after a bit of rejection, and thus I was in acceptance, and acceptance itself is a high state. When war started, I was low almost all the time, not to mention, all my past traumas or not fully healed pains tremendously enhanced. I then was also rejected by a person I liked, and giving all 24/7 stress due to war, that was also much harder for me than I thought would be, just because I'm already in so much pain. So it's a good reminder. Just to love my pains, the most difficult emotions, and not only being with them, but truly loving them. That's huge.

Hey Julien, your videos were like the last step I needed to become a grown man with responsibility. Something just clicked, like a switch had been flipped. It's been a long journey since then and I'm really glad that I'm no longer in that big hole of self-hatred and hopelessness. I'm 25 now and have a positive outlook on the future. I know a new journey has just begun and I still have a lot to learn, but I really want to continue to grow. Thanks for your work dude, I really appreciate it! Keep it up, lots of love from Germany.

Beautiful courageous girl!

4:56 I want to give her a big, genuine hug ❤

Such truth that we will always find a way to not be good enough, always have something to worry about... if we constantly place our contentment in external things. I always thought when i had enough money, when i had clear skin etc i would finally be happy. But I have simply found something else to be consumed with worry over.

“You being for you” is a great line, Hope it helps her. Hope she’s getting better at dealing with her issue. She is pretty btw

You dont miss Julien. 👏🏼 The voice pitch thing is actually crazy, the way you conduct your voice makes massive difference. Obviously anxiety makes it feel more forced like you’re trying to win someone’s approval rather than speaking authentically.

this things take alot of time to notice for yourself to learn and the reason you might feel disconnected is just cause your not on the same path as others may be and thats totally okay just need to take your time

Both of these teachings are needed. 1. Connect/talk 2. Walk them through because some people never got the “that’s good/ what you’re doing is good “ in practice( while doing the things) 3. Teach them to build and learn from that 4. Build their own lesson and conquer their own goals AKA. live life.

hey julien..i love the fact u are talking so much about lester levinsons three wants u legeend ty so much!

Love your work Julien. You inspire me to do similar work for humanity! Hope we get to meet one day :)

Love this Julien!

Reading Immunity to change after seeing you mention it in another video. Good book so far and resonates with me on other stuff i’ve read about belief systems and their purpose & effect. Long story short thanks for the recommendation😂

Was waiting for your video and BAM! ❤🎉

This is awesome. So helpful. Thank you so much.❤

So much value! What a blessing Julien's videos are!!!

Your a great teacher 💪

Hey Julien, I love your videos, they’ve helped me a lot! Non-duality doesn’t mean that we stop being human. Non-duality is actually the inherent truth of existence. We are not fixed, limited entities, we just believe we are. Once we realize this, it frees us from our self-centerdness which is the cause of all our confusion. It frees us from self doubt and we become much more capable and kind hearted as a result as we live with the understanding that we are actually all interconnected.

Thank you ♥

This video was super resonating

She’s awesome!

I disagree with some of the thoughts about non-duality, but you bring up many important points. Being able to thrive with whichever state of mind we find ourselves in is essentially non-dual and something ive been struggling with for many months now. Non-dual doesn't imply going limp from a body perspective, it means something more along the lines of letting go of the mind. The insight I found most valuable was that we as humans nearly always find ourselves in that gap between where we are and where we want to be. To become "enlightened" is to accept this fully. One cannot achieve the highest energies of love without accepting their lower state and working with that

You dropped a lot of gems here 🙏🏽💎

Hey julien, have u heard the quote “Don’t chase the butterflies, mend your garden and the butterflies will come to you” ? Thought it was a cool quote you could use that when your talking about dating and or not being outcome oriented/living for the experience and process etc etc Thanks!

Soooo eye opening!

frak... wasn't plan on crying at work.. thanks Julien..

hello. i am half japanese and half english. from a young age and upwards to university i have been faced with racist actions from other people (name calling, prejudice bullying etc). im finding it hard to accept myself and i feel almost inferior to others. almost like im automatically thinking that other people are going to treat me differently straight away.

Julien my boy Love this vids every-time man!❤

Best seminar🎉

Undeniably the greatest feat in self-help history. 🦶😻

this man speaks!!!

I'm not where I used to be and THAT'S progress ❤

These videos are a god send. 🕊

The shoes 🤣 I really like your idea with these outfits. I can see the negative outrage in the comments of your Shorts- it proves exactly your point right.

you gave me gold without asking for it

I really wanna you how did you become this influential I would love to learn this from you

With his clothes, acc to me he wants to be different from others. One it shows confidence and secondly he needs to be different for his business as a self help coach, cause god knows there are a million of them out there. So this is good for his business to be recognised and his channel to become more popular.

Amazing❤👏

Hi Julien, I've come up with a question. I'm a VERY loud person. I worked construction (talking over loud equipment) for years, and I've worked in the equine industry, where I had to project my voice across an arena while riding. My family and coworkers tell me I'm yelling, when I'm not. That's just my "normal" speaking volume. I have another 6-8 levels I could go up, I'm NOT yelling, but I am loud in basic conversations. If I try to lower the volume, no one can hear me besides me. I can't seem to find a middle ground, where I'm loud enough to be heard, but not so loud they can hear me 2 tables over at a restaurant. How do you find that mid volume, like what you're using in your seminars?

I honestly love you Julien. I wish we could collab...

Being jacked never goes out of style

Notification squad Have a nice weekend!🔥🔥🔥

My biggest take away from this video is : Accepting your current self doesn't mean you can't reach your goals / desired image of yourself.!!!!

I think you are lovely and amazing❤️

I think she's awesome

Does that girl realise how beautiful she is. Chubby>>>

So I'm scared of speaking my true feelings with my dad. But if I be honest with my words, he might hurt me. What should I do? He's much nicer now but I'm not sure

it made me so sad when she said social media told her she had to be skinny 😢

Shes cute

Julien, you're great! Please come to Israel in the future :)

16:46

Is he talking about hamza?

actually she is very cute and lovely, even I fall in love with her ❤❤❤you looks pretty .

She's got nice facial features, skin, hair, glasses suit her and she rocks black

Julien my guy you gotta stop making every volunteer rag their vocal cords

W jullien

3:32

Sweet heart❤ I wonna tell how dang cute she is forreals❤❤❤

Yo soy la meta

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Just be yourself 😁

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Hello i wonder what kan you do when all of the peppole is stuped 9 graders. That vandalizes things eatch week. I Don’t whana talck whit them😅 I,m a nine grader to. This is from the contest of the first ep i imrowe my social skils.

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first time stumbling into this guys content. can someone explain why he dresses like this. is he trolling? who is he trolling?

Any form of the word "trigger" triggers me...

So nobody is gonna talk about his shoes 👞 😂😂😂😂😂 it's really disturbing 😂😂😂😂😂 I've been on them the whole time😂😂😂😂

Everything is fine , but don't touch the subject you don't have knowledge in - now I'm feeling like doubt in your subject. Guru system - you know nothing jhon snow

And look you’re getting clapped for crying 😂🙏🏼

Cameraman wearing same clothes again

Smart guy and I love the content but it’s hard to take him serious with that outfit.

this a acting class thats all nothing new

Oh no, Julien became a liberal

She need to workout

resonate

I am so impressed. Not only by this real time coaching, but 100% by this young lady being so willing and open to BE COACHED in front of so many people. This is the vulnerability we are all meant to have all the time with ourselves. Why do babies cry in public? Because they can and they are expressing a need. When did we all stop TRULY expressing ourselves? Amazing and truly inspiring for someone like me who really struggles with self confidence and staying confident in the face of adversity once I reach a good point. 🩷

Ahh, Julian making girls cry. Not much has changed 🤌🏼 😍