Tips For Shorter Guys To Look And Feel More Confident 

"......if you're short" - never clicked on a video so quick

My husband is 5’1 and does just about all these things. When I met him I was so impressed and he had an awesome wingwoman who backed him up so I wasn’t overwhelmed with the Kevin Hart style forwardness. He still impresses me and it’s honestly amazing how he can make friends and acquaintance anywhere he goes.

I usually say “I’m short but I identify as tall”

This video is so valuable, you could replace height with any other variable outside of a person's control and these ideas and tips still hold water. Thanks so much guys!

I’m 5’2” and I have a hobby called motorcycling and it is perfectly fine. If you’re insecure about your situation, go do the very thing that scares you the most.

I am a woman and I am 6'1. I benefitted a lot too for this video and I am sure it is relevant for my boyfriend who is shorter than me. Thank you Charisma on Command I value that you bring this subject up.

I like how you incorporated clips that show ´´uncharismatic traits´´ it makes it easier to understand your point!

YES! People DO get weird about shortness, but I've always taken the Kevin Hart approach. When people ask how tall I am, I usually say; "4 foot 11 AND 3/4 inches (on a good day)". I also like to joke how people taller than me are abnormally tall.

As someone who's 5'0, this is pretty helpful! Just goes to show there is something you can do

" How To Command Respect If You're Short" Literally, be spiderman.

This applies to being fat too. I've always been a little overweight and when the conversation goes there I say I'm preparing myself to survive in case I get lost in the mountains, or that I'm fat on purpose so I can be warmer than everyone else during winter. People find it funny because it's absurd, and it shows I'm aware but comfortable with my body to the point I joke about it being "useful" rather than a negative trait. After I joke about it I usually bring up to the table how I lost 25kg, how it changes your perspective, how I've found out there's more of me inside than my appearance, and how it makes you feel weird that people treat you different when you lose weight. So... self-awareness, humour, and sharing a point of view some people may have never experienced.

Can you make a video on how to get your charisma back when you’ve already come to be known as the non-charismatic person of a group?

Love this video! Would love to see one from the female perspective. One issue i face as a super short women, is that i can come off as overly assertive and too masculine; which unfortunately turns off male leadership and make it difficult to climb the corporate ladder.

I agree that being confident and charismatic can get people to respect you but we shouldn't ignore the fact that the people in this video are celebrities that's got a lot of money

Ben, this might be your best video yet! Great stuff.

The worst thing about being a short guy (non-celebrity) is that most women just dismiss you as a romantic option at first sight. You don't even get the chance to display any charisma. I do agree it works for other social interactions though.

This works for women too! I was taught these things in hs by one of my teachers pointing out why I command a room and "literally feel much taller than you are "😂

I'm 5'6", so my go-to self-deprecating short joke if someone says something about it is: "Hey, I'm above average height for a woman!" I'm a man.

Its just sad that even the guys who live by these tips gets accused of "overcompensating". The society really need to change their outlook on short guys so we can get over with this heightism. Luckily where I am from Its much less of a problem and Its common to see short guys in leadership roles and dating tall girls. At least that's the case with my province where the average man is 5'5. These tips are good for anyone to get respected and I recommend you use it no matter your size but Its just said to see that in the west we have to a point where we have to make these videos to and hope that short guys practice them effectively to even get the respect they deserve. Guys the height disparity with men in leadership roles is real, womens unfair high standards on tall men is also another thing. We really need to make a difference, someday.

Ooooohhh finally a video about this!!! That's more interesting than using tall guys as an example, not only from a social advice level but on a scientific level, to know what makes us tic.

I must say that I've learned so much from these videos! But a thing that I found very interresting was that i realized that i recognize these patterns more in other people and take that to my advantage. But deffinetly also used this knowledge for myself. Thanks alot!

Would’ve added working out to this list. It takes awhile to get results, but it helps you take up more space

Great message!! I agree with these! A lot of the girls I've interviewed on my channel have said the same things. Short Kings!!

I feel blessed to find this channel 😊💫

I would say though that I believe that Tom Holland's approach is better than Kevin Hart's. I believe not making it a big deal is the true path to removing the power that being short may have on a person.

It's pretty helpful. Good to know. Thanks.

This the perfect thing that I need right now

0:00 I realized that this is specially a problem in the US, it's crazy how a guy's value and potential can determined just by a simple number. I've lost count of how many times i've read comments like "if your height start with 5... [insert a super disrespectful and insensitive comment here]".

I love this channel very human

These are great videos!

I love this channel

Some of the most charismatic people are the ones with the lowest high and in my country we have some sayings to describe that. The point is not how big you are from the outside but how great you are inside and you you make the world perceive you.

Watching this video reminded me of a time when I was insecure about my height.. but I kept my eye on celebrities of similar height and observed how they exuded confidence and thought ‘if these people can do that, so can I’. These are great tips though ;)

Gosh needed this haha

love yourself and the chrisma wil be appreant

finally a video made just for me😌

Forgive me if you already have a video on this topic or a similar idea, but I would _love_ to see something covering the topic of demonstrating confidence and/or controlling the frame in a virtual meeting environment like Zoom, TEAMs, etc. Although our world is slowly returning to a "new normal" with COVID, I think many companies and organizations have realized the benefits of video based "face to face" interactions. Especially when it comes to limited interactions like a job interview, and short-form meetings and appointments that don't rely on any kind of physical evaluation, I think a LOT of people could benefit from some guidelines on demonstrating confidence and control in social interactions where body language and verbal cues can be significantly limited.

This channel is great i have been watching it for 4 years now and not even once it helped me out turns 9ut you gotta be either pretty or rich to use these tricks

Every single one of these videos provides expectations on how people should react, respond, behave when they aren't communicating, etc. It just shows how much society EXPECTS people to behave, versus capitalizing on differences. Let's all pretend we have the same thoughts, actions, and conscious/unconscious desires.....

Thanks bro

I'm 5'6 and didn't talk much because of a gap in my teeth. After I got Invisialign, I started talking more, and noticed I immediately got more respect. It's all about just being comfortable with who you are.. people feed off that vibe.

Although I'm ok with my height this is still great advise thanks

Great video. I am a wheelchair user. I am four feet eleven inches tall and this video is going to help me immensely. Thank you.

2:08 YOOO STEVIEEE OHMYGOD I KNEW A CLIP FROM HIM WAS GONNA BE THERE

This is a bit off-topic, but can u make a video on Tom Hiddleston? I've always been fascinated by his charisma and confidence.

Thanku thanku thanku from heart

It would be great if you could do a similar video knbody size eg for those who often experience negative comments about being too skinny

finally something i can relate to

I would like a video about the Gallagher brothers confidence, would be really interesting

Can you do a video on Ika Wong from Big Brother Canada? I think it’d be a very informative video !

brother i am going to command so much respect now just you wait! 👊💥

My short kings, let’s go!

This video made my confidence taller

Do a jack reacher video, he absolutely has something to offer, I mean the series not the movies

WOW I needed this! THANKS!!

I'm not short yet this advice still applied to me. I try to take up as little space as possible. I feel like if I don't it will be like I am hogging up space. Actually, to be honest, it was more like "Do I deserve to stretch out more? This isn't my train/room/couch." I read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and started to take up more space and it felt good. I would even take up less space when in my car by myself because it was such an ingrained habit. I highly recommend the book especially if you find yourself seeking validation from the gender you find attractive.

can't believe I've been doing the Kevin Heart and Tom Holland approach all the time, it seems soo intuitive

I love Tom and Kevin they're such nice guys

Best thing to do is work out. I'm only 5'6" but I'm also probably 5'6" wide lol. No one makes comments about my height since I started working out seriously.

I do all these things subconsciously. I am 5'6 and had her few occasions where someone way larger than me try to intimidate me but it always stems from there insecurities from my massive confidence.

Also being in incredible shape is a good thing to do when short

Do “how to hold a conversation if you don’t have good social skills”

Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.

This is the first time I've seen a Top Gear clip on this channel. I feel like you might've missed an opportunity to include Richard Hammond in this video. That said, it might be interesting to incorporate Clarkson into your content somehow.

I often watch your videos and ironically most of the things I come to know I’ve been already doing subconsciously But when It gets point out in your videos it just makes me anxious and cuz of this I not often but rarely gets awkward lol

Tom Holland calling himself quite short when he's 5'8 and average height is 5'9. The image of height is so off. Zendaya, and I don't mean this in a negative way because she's a gorgeous young woman, is above average for a woman. And they get along well. So it's a good example of how it doesn't even have to be an issue.

My video finally!

#1 genuinely don't care. #2 genuinely don't care. If you dont care other people won't.

This is so good!

When it comes to shaking hands, there's something else that can be helpful. Imagine that you shake hands with your right hand, in most cases that's true. The other person may put their left hand on your wrist or lower arm. You should then put your hand on their upper arm or shoulder. This gives the sense of you being in control, confident etc. If you want to create a feeling of likeness with the other person, rapport, then simply match them. They will subconsciously feel that you are like them and so more likely to get along with you. Something else that i'm sure many knows is how you shake hands. If you have a firm grip, although not to the point of stopping blood flowing, you will again come across as confident. If however, you give what is known as the dead fish handshake, Weak and limp, it will give the impression you lack confidence, that you are in a sense, giving in to the other person. It's a little like a dog laying down in submission to another dog. Watch a dog at play with another and you will see this happen from time to time.

I’m 5’2 and I approve this message

I'm 6'3 and here just to read comments. Just wanna say to all my brahss, WE'RE ALL GONNA MAKE IT regardless of height!!!!!

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.

Hi Charlie, Can you please please please make a video on Jim Carrey and Robin Williams in the near future, please, i think they really are a great positive influence on millions of people.. Thanks you Regards

We love Tom ❤🎉

This is good advice even for short women

2:10 lol wasn’t expecting to see Key from Shinee here

Great video! 5’4 here. One joke I’ve used when giving talks before (but could easily work as an intro to a story): ‘I’ll make this as brief as I am short’

Joe Rogan awkwardly ignores that he's as wide as he is tall.

I was today years old when I learned that Tom Cruise is "short". I guess I never noticed.

Great video. you've remind me of what someone once said❤️ "The mind is the man, the poor is in it and the rich is it too". This sentence is the secret of most successful investors. I once attended similar and ever since then i been waxing strong financially, and i most tell you the truth..

Charisma university looked like PH for a sec…also great tips! It’s nice to know that my approach to my height is validated haha

Yes please

I clicked on this because I was intrigued. I'm 5'6" so not tiny, but short by most male standards. I actually sometimes do one or two of the things on this video, though I had never noticed. But actually, the most significant thing for me is that I really don't care. I come from a short family so being short is a part of my identity, it's a connection to my heritage. Additionally, I don't think people really give all that much thought to my height, so I don't really worry about commanding respect. It has come up in conversation, but broadly most people have never given a damn. I've never seen myself as in competition with the tall people. Aside from the mild inconvenience of having to ask people to reach things for me from time to time, it doesn't impact my life at all.

Being rich and famous helps too

oh, just the perfect one to me

I’m not even short but knowledge is everywhere👁

Good

… it's easy, just be a witty comedian.

4:53 lol, I wish I could freely use the unused neutral space above my head

"Never forget who you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you." Tyrion Lannister ( GRR Martin)

Its true, however joking about shortness or obesity or whatever can easily come of as insecurity if its excessively or performed shyly or if the other person doesnt laugh and be very awkward so id be very careful

2:43 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 That was brilliant

I'm 5' 4" n I'm forever using the "I'm too short to get on some theme park rides" line When people try to make you the victim or target your height flipping it n using their attack is a great way to negate them n normally gets a laugh from people around

I am a 6 feet tall (182 cm) woman. And I am not thinking about it more than that I am very happy I can reach all the stuff in my kitchen without using a chair. Super practical. But once I met a girl that was my height and uncomfortable with it. She actually approched me because of my height and expressed how happy she was that there were another tall girl in the room, and we could stand next to eachother. I kinda just thought that that was super weird. I hadn’t noticed that others were shorter than me before she said it, and I had nothing in common with this girl who somehow though that because of our heights we had something in common, and that I would be happy to have her standing next to me. That was a weird moment. I don’t choose my friends because of height. In fact I have in many occations hung out with a group of friends who were all very shorter than me - like just reaching me above the elbow. Maybe it looks kinda stange for others to look at us. But I don’t notice what others are seing. And if they thought that our heights were stange, that would be their issue. Why have a problem with your own height? You don’t know what others are seing and judging. Why imagine that they notice your height. I rarely notice that people are short. I am a face person. I look at peoples faces. And how they speak and move their body. I would give credit to my mom who succeded very well in not letting me inherit too many complexes about my looks. I just learned my neighbour have complex about her feet being «to long». And she has my shoe size. I never looked at her feet before. She told me her mom and her sister had the same complex. And that when shopping shoes they were thinking about what shoes could make their feet look smaller. So my friend had worn black shoes always in high school. I feel lucky I have never heard about this complex before. I am thinking what a waste it is to spend time being sad about how the feet looks. I feel the same about height - what a waste of time and feeling it is to think about this. Rather it could be good to think about what flowers grow in your surroundings. Learning their name. Flowers give happy feelings. However being so tall, and of course then heavy too, has made me insecure about sitting on other peoples lap, or jump onto others to give them a hug. But I think that is a good thing, because my weight could do real damage to others if I jump on them. Like they could get back problems. So the possibility to do these things I really envy short people. And also my legs don’t really fit it my car - so if I did crash I would be seriously injured. So if you are short. Learn from my mother. Think about the practical benefits. As a tall person I can watch a concert standing behind a crowd of people, but as short people you can: - Be lifted by others - Survive easier (need for less food) during a zombieapocalypze - Live longer (this is true, tall people die sooner). - Be closer to the ground if you fall. So you’d be less injured. - Get more clothes with you when travelling. (Suitcase would be lighter). Also your clothes probably dry faster. - Can climb easier. Do acrobatics easier. - Fit in cars. - Fit in your bed. (The bed I got in the hospital once was to small for me, because it has this foot-end I would bump into.). Also when I have slept over at friends I would have to sleep on too short sofas. Really uncomfortable and this problem has happened often. - Bigger chance you can inherit clothes or buy used clothes because it is more normal to be shorter. - The smallest clothing sizes are often on sale, I’ve heard. So as we can see there are pros and cons to everything. It is just different qualities - not good vs. bad. When it comes to dating. I have not have a heigh- preferanse myself. But I suspect that shorter guys are reluctant to date taller girls too. Because there have been less interest from shorter guys I have noticed. But it could also be because some tall girls sadly reject shorter guys - so short guys might think I would be like that too. What missed opportunities this can cause. I urge people to be open minded and not pre-decide what your future partners hight or apperance «should be». But I do also believe that because I am a tall woman I do get more automatic respect and attention when I enter a room. So that I think is very sad for the shorter, or normal height, girls. I have seen that they get easily ignored. And taken less serious. For short guys I don’t know how it is. I think that this video from Charisma in Command is important - to combat that issue. There is probably a need to do more effort to «own the room» being short. That is unfair. On the other side. Who am I to decide that «owning the room» is better than not. It could be «blending in» is exactly what you want. In that case it is a benefit being shorter. All is preferanse I guess. And luckily there is much that we can do to overcome out obstacles. Like getting a chair when you need something on top of a shelf. We have chairs! And once I met a short guy from US Navy Seals. He was so strong I could jump on him and he lifted me like in that scene from the movie Dirty Dancing. I guess that there are no limits after all. Much love!

We are short that's why you are tall

You should do a video on Jeremy Clarkson, that guy from "Top Gear" with Tom Cruise

This is fantastic!!! I have two sons who are 5’7”. They are brilliant and don’t have “short man syndrome”

Im 5'9" and im Amazed how Tom Cruise Behaves like me. He does a Really Good Job and wish him much success

Short king representing! ✋