Top 4 facts that will change your view on relationships 

+Leo R Same here bro lol but don't sweat it, if anything talk to her and see if you two can decide when would be best to get off the pill. Aside from this the pill is still bad for the body and has multiple side affects.

+Leo R haha simple, get super manly as soon as she stop taking the pill

+Leo R I doubt the whole reason you're together is becuase of a birth-control drug. If you sweat over losing her because of that, then your lack of self-esteem will most certainly be unattractive

+Leo R Let suppose if her hormonal levels nomalises, she will reject you. I was thinking just wait until she delivers you a kid, that will stonger your realshionship and you will be passed you genes, even you and her break up, she is not so needed anymore. But Irronicaly that is not possible :D So try to convince her that you say when she will take the pill and when not. Just make her a baby, she will become actually pregnant, do as many kids ass you want, and if she want she can stop the pill when the kids are done. VERRY BRUTAL STRATEGY, i like my thinking so much, yeah. But maybe the best is to stop the pill immediately, and risk losing her. And find another woman if she does not like you anymore.

MP USMC SRT read his sources.

or just play the field...treat all women like whores .... and wham bamm thank you mamm

Prenups are worthless. They have and will increasingly become thrown out by judges.

Prenups don't work in the english-speaking world due to court corruption. In Denmark, they still work apply though. So step 1. is to get the hell out of the feminist-ruled anglosphere if you want to marry at all. Though, I'd suggest not to.

Marc Bjørnholt Good point. So the optimal strategy is to emigrate to a jurisdiction where prostitution is legal. With prostitution, you get sex in exchange for a one-time payment. With marriage, you get sex in exchange for half of your income and the promise not to have sex with anyone else. So unless the prostitutes are ridiculously overpriced, marriage is a bad deal.

But what matters more than financial security to me is mental and emotional stability. I have confidence that I can build up enough finances if I were to lose everything. But keeping my faith in love and trust in a lover would be a greater treasure to me. Losing this would be my greatest fear.

answer"because Im Batman!!!". Now seriously try to find a way to show her why you first started dating her and why you like her so much and if you dont love her, maybe is better this way

I don't see how that is a problem. Especially during baseball season.

Can you play the guitar? sing? find her, and serenade her. Or if you're not so musical, a Shakespeare sonnet ought to do the trick. Or something else similarly over the top and cheesy to get her attention. Then apologize and express your confusion. And you can ham up that confusion part if you want, the more confused you seem about her reaction the more she'll begin to realize that it's not as logical as she originally thought (and it isn't, she asked you a question which nobody can properly answer). The truth is, if she's like most women anyway, she simply has low self esteem and probably assumes that you're only with her because you pity her. Your silence seemed to confirm her theory, in her head. Showing her that you do in fact truly love her, even if you can't explain it, will likely help her a great deal.

Well my ex once asked me that question, too and I answered that if he feels that my love is for him is not justified, then I don't understand why he's with me. I don't need to justify why I felt the way I did about him and asking me for "proof" just shows a certain level of distrust which I don't need. He accepted it. We broke up due to him moving away.

Feuerbringer She seems like an unstable person. Gud job m8

GregTom2 Same here.

Is the joke really on someone else if you don't have any close friends?

Mike Clyne Poor Clyne. You really have zero notions of rhetoric right? Here. Educate yourself a little about how humans communicate and make jokes. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-deprecation tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/SelfDeprecation

GregTom2 Deprecating other people is really funny too. How do you know he wasn't doing that? Also, your response makes it much easier to believe you were speaking literally at first.

Be a good friend to as many people as possible...it's all in the statistics...

"Hello fellow human, lets initiate a relationship!"

Doesn't help against friendzone though... For some reason some will never be considered as a possible partner, but rather as a good friend that helps and listens... Annoying as it is for some women it seems that they want a mister universe for sex, a rich guy as their support and a kind man for her problems and to watch after her kids...

edi Hey, what's so bad with having a good friend?

Harald Kanin Nothing per se, but some people end up allways in this role, which sucks for them (especially when she cries about how bad her boyfriend is).

Thanks for the support! And yes you have a good point. I've now put the links in the description

why

+razi ava Obviously he was married before age of 26

he's a poor black woman

IM A STRONG PROUD BLACK WOMAN WHO DONT NEED NO MAN

same here

GregTom2 this was so deep

Bruh..

dude, jesus

Wow

dem...

This is when someone is supposed to make a cheesy "I am right here" joke. I am disappointed in seeing nobody has done it yet!

im right here.

^He's right there

Elizabeth R. Yes. Match a couple using DNA. That's gonna be the future of dating and finding a partner.

personally I would never date someone whose opinions about life and values completely conflicted with mine

Yas! We are HyooMans and wear clothes because we look past baby-making to look at someone's personality!! #actual love conquers all.

Why? It's simply an abstract stamp on a relationship. It doesn't physically mean anything as far as nature is concerned...

CzechRiot that's an interesting theory. I'm probably doomed to never have a relationship because I'm 100% muse afflicted.

What will be your substitute?

weed shows some interesting birth control properties moreso for men than women though, but worth looking into

Question everything, and I mean everything.

The "opposites attract" thing is a little weird cuz it's true to an extent. In that case there's a fine line between love and hate (and in some cases quirks in someone's personality can cause someone to fall OUT of love when those were some of the reasons why they fell in love in the first place), but it all depends on the person. Relationships are a compromise so moving too quickly or thinking that someone's someone they're not is (in my opinion) how people can end up not in love with someone who's completely different than you..

+ No google I dont want to use my real name. Exactly you got the point

it is just in general, like someone else said there are 7 billion different people after all

I think it also depends on how secure you feel in a relationship. I know that my partner is not my soul mate and I know there are probably a few people out there that I could love just as much and I would be just as happy with, but by fate or luck I met him. I choose to stay with him because I'm happy. I know I could be happy somewhere else, too but yet I stay and I think that's the key. Those people who will re-evaluate their relationship are probably scared already. Maybe they depend too much on their partner or are too afraid of losing them and then start over-analyzing every little thing.

Although the first statement is probably true. Just not always in a good way.

***** I knew some were dominant people who were constantly fighting for the alpha position. You call the alternative abusive, but some like it that way. Of course, it can go way too far too.

I think it's important to differentiate the kind of character trait/interest you're looking at. My partner is quiet and rather submissive, I'm talkative and dominant. This fits perfectly because I talk a lot and he listens (and I need that) and he doesn't have the need to talk too much (and I'm not a good listener so that suits me fine). We have this dynamic going on where I usually get as much attention as I need and he doesn't mind stepping out of the spotlight since he never wanted to be in it in the first place. But looking at interests and hobbies, we are very similar. We love the same genres when it comes to music, gaming, movies etc. We love to climb together or take walks or talk about similar subjects. Of course we have our differences but the things we do the most are generally similar. Now I'm not pretending that we're the perfect couple and we're never going to break up but we've been together for quite some time, hit a couple rough patches, moved in together and we're surely heading for marriage. So what I'm trying to say is that you have to look out for when interests will clash and when they won't. So they should probably have opposing character traits such as introverted-extroverted, dominant-submissive, impulsive-calm so they can balance each other out but at the end of the day they should have to have similar hobbies. Enjoy doing the same things, share similar values and views on religion, politics, etc regardless of their personality.

No, that doesn't need to be true. First of all, people can change. Second, I can get into a relationship with someone I don't love or treats me bad and then get into one with someone I love or treats me good. That will have an effect on how loyal I am to my partner. People are more complex than that. Don't think you've figured it all out.

People don't change. Yeah, occasionally they do, but once trust is involved you're better off assuming they don't. People are consistent and predictable most of the time. Would you trust someone who went to jail for stealing from his former employer with your company's money?

People change, if they want to. If they believe they actually need to change they will. I've seen it myself oft enourgh.

You can't just make a statement like that. You're generalizing a whole of things. Maybe that person was in an abusive relationship and didn't know how to get out. Now they might be a lot happier and never cheat again. Maybe that person was someone who doesn't care much for relationships then yes, they're likely to cheat again. But you can't know without knowing the details of why they did what they did, how they did it and how often, etc.

subwayvesubscriber Would you believe that for example a veteran who has killed in a war is more likely to be able to kill than a person who's never killed before? I'm not talking about a PTSD attack or completely losing your morals after being through war, what I mean is, would you believe that someone who was trained to bypass the mental block over killing and then proved that he successfully ignored that mental block in a real situation is more likely to kill than an average person who never received any training nor killed anyone for real? Obviously the mental block over killing (which forced the development of better training methods and psychology tricks to improve the rate of soldiers who would not hesitate to take the shot) doesn't have a perfect analogous system when it comes to cheating, but isn't it logical that an otherwise faithful person who cheats, even for a legitimate reason, may cheat again because the cat is out of the bag?

i on the other hand feel that relationships are the most important thing to have. what is the point of wealth and status if you cant share it with the people you love

You're looking at this so objectively. If I don't like the movie, I still watch it because it makes my partner happy. I don't have to be selfish. And I don't pretend that I would always spend my time with more "productive" things. If I wasn't watching that movie, I'd probably be watching something else. Now, I don't presume to know you or what you'd do with your free time, but most people wouldn't be doing "better" things, just different things. Yet they choose to do it with their partner because of the company and because humans are social beings. It's completely normal and necessary. If you love them, then it's not a compromise but an opportunity. If it doesn't feel like an opportunity, you're probably not in love.

+Delano Johnson It is in the description. Just press "SHOW MORE" to see the links to sources.

***** Phew, thanks. I was having an existential crisis for a moment there.

Mark Contini hahaha

Oh no not really :) there is always exception. Studies are not always accurate, and some/few studies on minority of people doesn't account for the 7 billion majority population. Ma'am, if you really love each other, you love each other. Don't let things/researches determine whether your relationship would be successful or not =)

Dutchik follow you're heart and gut instinct IMO

Don't let a youtube video change your heart's instincts. You know whats best for you, not some study on the internet.

You really shouldn't let yourself be influenced by someone else saying something should happen. Subconsciously you will take on that attitude and it will reflect back on your relationship. Now because of this video you might start noticing all the differences and start getting annoyed by them until it might lead to your break-up. Without this video you might have never even started thinking about the differences. It's all about attitude and thinking. Besides, these were just averages and general statements, so don't be too quick to presume that you'll fit in the average category.

Nooo! Don't trust your instincts! They are a really bad guide. The rush of happiness in the beggining of a relationship will eventually fade, that's almost guaranteed. The problem is: most people take that for a tragedy. After that you might start to think things like "maybe we are not meant for each other" or "he's probably not the one". But the important thing to know is that there is no such thing as the right person for you. No matter who you will find and no matter how perfect they may seem in the beginning of a relationship, you will inevitably start finding problems with them. But just roll with it! You are probably really flawed, too (and I don't mean it in any way badly). It's just natural. If your man is treating you well and it's possible for you to keep up the relationship despite the distance, then by all means, stay with him. And if you ever start thinking of breaking it off, just remember to ask yourself this: are bad things happening because of your boyfriend or are they happening in the presence of your boyfriend? And then do the maths.

"just the children" OK

The children also wouldn't suffer nearly as much if the parents were still on speaking level and could even have dinners together and have fun together. I think this would be more likely to happen if the divorce happened sooner rather than later. I think this would also help with bias in custody and visitation on their part.

Kailah Birchler yeah I know a few well adjusted people with similar situations

Well just imagine you want to marry the love of your life and then you hear something like "There's a 50% chance that you get divorced anyway". Not exactly the kind of thoughts you want to have on your wedding day.

I think he means opposites as in your attitudes and beliefs to things not your personality, so as long as you share values and attitudes amongst other things (like attraction, friendship, feelings) it shouldn't matter if your introverted and their extroverted

I agree, this fourth reason is not explained deeply and thats the reason its not reliable.

That's actually an interesting ethical argument buddy cuz it really makes you question what 'free' thought is. I can only speak anecdotally: My grandparents never would give a reason for why they loved each other that wasn't a joke. Observing them, the best way I can describe what I saw was that both of them were living soo in the moment of each other that they didn't really have or need little asides to ponder upon their partner. It also seemed like the little things they did for each other, the way they did it really rubbed well with the other instinctively. I've never seen them try to force each other's personalities into something so confined as an adjective (or series of adjectives). In fact they never talked about each other except to make fun of the other's actions. My grandpa was a soft spoken bicycle mail-man with a long raging temper for slights against his family and my grandma was a career politician with a mercurial wit and a deep throaty laugh; one that would be considered impolite in her days. Neither were perfect in how they treated other people, nor were they perfect themselves but their 68 year marriage demonstrated what many couples who had reached their age had: Chemistry. And for that reason I believe the subconscious mind to be the only way to 'choose' perfectly. I've come to believe words we use to describe our mates as mere afterthoughts, like us searching for some invisible behemoth and grasping only its slippery shadow. I hope one day when I see it I'll remember to keep my mouth shut as well. :) Anyways man sorry to bore ya. I hope you find someone perfect consciously or unconsciously. I'd deny no one their happiness just to be proven right.

Or just take the pill once you're in a relationship. I don't take it when I'm not in a relationship because I don't need it. Once I am, I take it and even though it might slightly change my feelings towards my partner it would never be enough to cause us to break up.

subwayvesubscriber hmm I wouldn't be so sure about that. I mean, your feelings are valid but the hormons influence the way you think and act and do things.

Elisa Lehner They influence you but it's not like you're suddenly a different person. You don't just go from totally loving someone to totally hating them. As long as you're secure in the relationship, there's nothing to worry about. Many of my friends have started taking pills and none of them ever had any problems, including me. Even in this comment section you will find proof of people going off the pill and still loving their partner, husband, etc. The pill is really not that big of a deal as this video makes it out to be. It's not something which completely changes the way you act. The differences are very minimal and barely detectable. If for some reason a couple breaks up after the woman goes on/off the pill, then I can assure you that there's an underlying problem which was already there and the pill just gave that final push for the woman to reconsider the relationship, that's it.

subwayvesubscriber Well, if that is the case, then thanks for explaining I guess

Sorry for my poorly written comment, writing on phone and realised. Was talking about being asked why you love your partner.

5 months later that girl comes back to you are with mgtow too deep to feel any love back for her. So you didnt get dumped, rather. you dumped her.

+Stefan Travis Well, the pill contains hormones that are normally excreted by the embryo and/or foetus in the womb. This makes the body think that it's pregnant, thus not releasing new eggs and influencing the brain not to look for a male, but rather focus on someone who can take care of the upcoming baby. And this makes a lot of sense if I think back to what kind of guys I was attracted to when I was on the pill. :p

BlackOreoCookie Yes I think we all know how the pill works. The point is there's no mechanical 1:1 correlation between hormones, mental states, and actions.

Ah okay. I think you have a point there yes.