"I respect people with leukaemia, but I don't think children with leukaemia should get treatment, because they might grow out of it", is the non-trans version of trans skepticism I generally hear.
also to add onto that, "0.3% of people diagnosed with leukemia ended up being misdiagnosed and given the incorrect treatment, so no one with leukemia should get treatment."
It all depends on what we call children though, and I have to say that I think treatment should be reduced to puberty blockers and no hormones until 16, though I don't know what the regulations surrounding blockers and hormones themselves are in your countries. Some people advocate for young teens to immediately start treatment, as in hormones, which I just don't feel good with since young teens are still children (talking about 12-14 to be clear) and shouldn't be makimg such a permanent decision yet. Hormone blockers, again, I don't have any problems with since they just facilitate transition later in life without any permanence. I probably haven't worded things as well as I could, because I don't know all the words surrounding this topic in English, so keep that in mind.
@@artema. i agree with you that children (or people under ~18) shouldn't be put on hormones but rather on puberty blockers after being diagnosed. that being said, i haven't seen many people arguing for kids under 16 being put on hrt or going through surgeries. mainly i've seen people outraged by the idea of putting kids on puberty blockers, even some being outraged just by kids socially transitioning. i think the important thing to recognize is the risk vs. reward.
Chris Relhard I agree you guys that children should be placed in hormone blockers until the time that their peers are going through puberty depending feel ready to go on hormones then. For trans men that would be starting around 14 or 15. Thinking about the idea of waiting until you’re 18 to start hormones hurts. I don’t know what I would have done, seeing all my guy friends go through the right puberty and leaving me behind. I have no idea where I would be right now (I’m turning 18 in October) if I hadn’t started hormones 2 and a half years ago, but I surely wouldn’t be where I am now: living what I feel is to be the best life in the entire world. 😁
@@chrisrelhard I think it's a lot of misinformation. Most people do not know what transitioning is and think all transitioning is medical/hormonal/surgery. They don't realize that social transitioning is first and they don't really understand what puberty blockers are.
Karen not knowing I'm in the bathroom "I would die if I shared a bathroom with a trans person Me: are you in the in the right mindset to hear something that could potentially hurt you?-?
Transphobe: YOU WERE BORN A GIRL/BOY AND YOU CAN'T CHANGE THAT me: I was born a hairless, yelling, wrinkly alien, but I'm pretty sure things have changed a lot since then
When my friend came out of the closet as trans to his now boyfriend, he responded like “I support you but-“ and just didn’t finished it, then when my friend asked said “but what?”, he just said “oh no, I just wanted to call you a butt”. Ngl I think that was the moment my friend fell in love
NB maybe ftm? I don't know. I'm hiding the vid while doing school work, so glad I do it with the screen faced away from everyone HA! I'm a master of secrecy
There is one instance where it is ok to put “but” after “I support trans rights”: “I support trans rights BUT I know some people don’t so if you need a friend I’m here for you, dude.” :)
"I support trans rights BUT I don't know how I can do that the best way possible so it would be great if you told me good ways to do that" is also acceptable :)
It always sucks having to choose between mental health(avoiding the dysphoria) and physical health(avoiding the side affects of binding). Make sure that you're taking care of yourself in both departments, and keep being true to you!
I am a Muslim and while my mother and brother are pretty open minded the rest of my family and especially my father are not. So I find it quite hard to talk with my family about stuff. I mean we don't even get THE TALK. I fully support the lgbtq+ community even though I may not be a part of it. Edit: I really don't even talk to my father as he was pretty emotionally abusive and my mom basically had to raise him like a third child. She was the only one with a job and running out family and tried every possible way to keep it together. My father ended it(which I am forever grateful for) in a rage and is now a nearly 50 year old living with his mother
My mum: Take your binder off, you have had it on too long today. Me: no. Jamie: Don't bind too long kids *takes off my binder the second he says that* My mum: So you listen to Jamie huh?
Listen, every time a trans guy gives me TMI about his testosterone experience, that’s one less thing I have to be horribly surprised by so please continue sharing. 😂
“I respect trans people,, BUT..... I want you to respect me too as a Genderfluid pansexual person cuz I appreciate basic human respect torwards anyone :3”
I’ve gone to a public restroom with one of my trans friends to make sure she felt comfortable and didn’t get harassed. I also shared a restroom with multiple trans girls at my college. They’re literally only going there to use the toilet and check their makeup. They’re way more scared of cis people than cis people seem to be of them... and have more reason to be afraid of other people in the bathroom, because if anyone is going to be harassed in that situation, it’s probably going to be the trans person that just wanted to pee in peace.
You're awesome! And yeah that's sad. No one should be afraid of going to use the restroom because an intoletant person might hurt them! I wish transphobes would chill. I'm cis & I never once thought about if somebody was using the restroom the same time as me was trans. It's no big deal.
I don't get it.. All my bathrooms in any home I have ever owned has always been for every gender. I don't get the issue of why Public bathrooms NEEDS to be gendered. I get that there are pissoirs or whatever they are called, but surely they can be stalled too? I never met a guy who found it comfortable to pee standing next to a guy with his wiener out.
As a cis woman. I will always say that as long as people are minding their own business, I don't care who is in the public restroom with me. I have personally used a public restroom for its intended purposes. I have used a stall as a changing room. I have shaved my legs in the sink. I have done my makeup and hair. I have also given myself a hobo bath (no undressing). I also have used the single stall men's restrooms. As there was no one using it and the women's had a line. As long as no one is trying to look into my stall, record me, or other nefarious things. I really have no cares about who is in the restroom with me. But then again I'm a very "as long as it doesn't harm others, you do you" type of gal.
Yeah I just came out as genderfluid and I am lucky enough to have a unisex name; it was originally a Scottish boys name but then many people began using it for girl so yay meee but I still lowkey wanna change it
Ahh you guys are so lucky, im not out but im genderfluid and i have a feminine birth name. Im still trying to find a neutral name but settled on having people know me by a boy name while my family uses a girl name
I'm cis, but maybe if you're closeted and want people to call you a gender neutral or fem/masc name, maybe find a nickname or name which sounds close to your birth name and ask them to call you that? I mean you could just tell them it's a nickname and sounds cooler or whatever🤷🏻♀️
one of my favourite jokes is to say "i'm not racist/homophobic/transphobic but" and then follow it with something completely unrelated i'm nonbinary, but also a bad person
Legal Fiction Natural Fact Genitalia denotes sex not gender and girl implies gender not sex ^-^. So in your attempt to be a factually correct asshole you kinda were wrong. Have a nice day!
So I found this channel because I was raised in a transphobic household. One of my friends is trans and I want to support her, so I’m watching these videos and honestly learning so much. It’s such a nice environment and I feel really happy.
Did you ever find them sobbing on the floor, because I've had that experience & I promise someone payed for it & it wasn't either of us, I'm very good at using back chanels when I can.
Yes I have too, my teacher. she is not on hormones yet. I was surprised to see her bc it was a single toilet and im always alone in it haha. transphobes really make it a big deal
@Gi Ferrari Exactly! male predators can just walk into the ladies toilets, they don't have to dress up. but transphobes don't want to hear about that...
Yeah I remember when someone said something similar while I was talking in a discord server That guy said something along the lines off “No offence but trans people are ugly” And I was so pissed at him for saying that.
As a younger child like 10 or so I talked to my brother and somehow the conversation ended in me saying I wanted to be a boy, my brother is older then me but he just didn't understand fully, so as my parents were saying goodnight to him he said '_____ says she wants to be a boy' my mom then opened my bedroom door and yelled at me I was way too young to make that decision and to be quite fair 10 years old is too young, now that I'm almost 14 I still feel the same, but I'm so scared to even try taking to her or my dad about it because of how she reacted when I was younger, the thing that bothers me the most about it is that I wasn't asking for surgery or hormones, I would just have wanted to start off with cutting my hair or being referred to as a male, I probably won't bring it up to her until I'm a lot older because then she can't tell me what I'm too young or too old to do Thank you for coming to my TedTalk
damn that sucks... I hope they'll be supportive and accept you as their son. If that would not be the case, I hope you've got friends or other relatives to go to who will accept you for who you are best of luck, and hang in there man! ♥♥♥
i support transgender people, but i would not date a trans guy ... because i’m lesbian edit:.... well i’m dating trans guy (he/they (although i don’t know what term they use)) so guess i was wrong
I Recently came out to a friend of mine, she said “I don’t believe that we were made to be this way, BUT I truly respect your opinion! And I will support you!” And that just makes me happy!
AlsoI met a guy who was super Catholic at a mental health hospital, and he didn't know I was trans until I walked out of my bedroom in the morning for breakfast, and I hadn't put on my binder because I was just planning on going straight back to bed, and I have a...rather large chest. I haven't had top surgery yet (but I got my letter of approval for my surgeon from my PCP yesterday, so it shouldn't be much longer!!!) and the Catholic dude was like 'Oh...I didn't know you were trans.' I was so nervous and I just kinda froze, and the guy was like 'It's okay, dude. You're cool.' He later admitted that he didn't think he could ever be friends with a trans person, but meeting me made him want to get back in contact with a friend that he stopped talking to because she's trans, because I'd helped him see that trans people are just normal people with normal lives who just want to get through life like everyone else. He'd always seen trans people as different than cis people, but I helped show him that we're just like any other person, and he had an entirely new view on them. It was a really wholesome interaction tbh
@@lichofthewoods1132 I forgot that I had commented on this thread, and out of nowhere got a notification that just said "I support trans people but..." and my heart legitimately skipped a beat. I'm glad it was this comment section and not one of the ones where I'm fighting some douches.
Me when mom gets my name right all day: YAY Me when my mom corrects herself when she says my dead name: YAY Me when I stay in my room: hippity hoppity your gender euphoria is my property
JK Rowling says: trans bad Literally everyone else involved with Harry Potter: trans valid and good for you for being who you are Also there are so many good trans Harry Potter universe headcanons of things that happen at Hogwarts. A trans girl yet walking up the girls staricase and it doesn't turn to a slide so her gender is confirmed The mirror of erised showing them as the gender they really are Other things you people can think of because that's not all of them
everyone is so confused as to what that unicorn is doing but the trans girl/guy is absolutely ELATED the unicorn is just "hello girl, pet me pls, you are a girl" or "no pls you are a boy you can leave now goodbye"
There was a new kid at my school. He always referred to me using my preferred pronouns and i assumed he knew i was ftm. I was talking about trans stuff with a friend when he walked in and asked why. I said it was because i was trans and he was so confused. Supportive but just in shock because apparently i passed so well he had no clue. That was very validating.
lol i need someone to know this cuz it made me so happy * me visits my cusoins * my female coson: wow your voice got alot deeper! ( she was the first one i told) MIND YOU im not on T made me soo happy!!!!
The story on how I found Jamie: I used to think I was trans, so I started to watch this dude. That's it. I'm Agender, and I still plan on changing my body to what I feel comfortable with :D
I found him on a quest to learn and be a good ally (I have a trans kid.) Along the way, I discovered that I'm bi. 🤷 Have a lovely day/night, fellow human! ❤️
@@missnaomi613 that's good!! 😊 I'm glad you discovered who you are!! I hope your child feels better about themself!! And have a good day/night, fellow human!! ❤
When he said, "I wish my chest would... b sharp?", my immediate response was to say, out loud, "people in the fifties be like" and that's going to haunt me until the day I die
I might have thought the same if I hadn't been watching his stuff for a while already, because I know everyone has moments where they miss something obvious, but the title literally says "Trans Guy" as the 1st two words XD
It took a solid 5ish videos for me. He'd said a lot about trans things but I figured he was a good ally until he started a video with "I'm a trans man"
Honestly, first time seeing the “family visits the same beach after 18 years” pic in a positive context. Like, whenever I see it, it’s either a joke or a reason to be grossed out for people in the comments. So thank you Jamie for sharing some wholesomeness💙
"I want that cupcake. But then I'd feel bad eating it, because it has a face. I would not eat the cupcake. I would care for the cupcake, as if it were my own cupcake. But it would be my cupcake though, because I would have the cupcake. Give me the cupcake." I think you are truly the most wholesome person in the entire world :)
Personally: As someone who is trying to be the most supportive of my trans partner/best friend I am always quick to say this instead: "I support you and..." But shouldn't have any place in that sentence.
It's also a good way to see if your qualifying statement is offensive or not. If it doesn't fit after "and", it probably goes against the when supporting thing. As a general rule for everything, not just trans acceptance.
@@t.martin51 Yeah and I find it so interesting :o i'm not that much into literature but general knowledge like this makes me want to know more about these kind of language tricks
So I was in dance, and my instructor called my dead name, and I looked back, a bit angry. Then I got yelled at because she's "trying." (I've been out for three years, and my name has been legally changed)
The other day I was at work and there was a lovely trans boy who asked me what our bathroom policies were (I work at an amusement park) and I told him that he can use whatever bathroom he pleased. We ended up talking or a good 10 minutes while he waited to get on the roller coaster with his brother and when the line started moving again, he gave me the biggest hug. Then, later in the day, a guy came up with his young daughter and started to complain about the same trans guy I was talking about earlier being in the bathroom when he took his daughter and asked me what I could do about it. I swear to God, I looked him dead in the eyes, laughed a bit, and said, "Well, if your daughter was in the men's room, why are you complaining about a man being in there with her?" as sassily as I could and the guy went beet red and just left in a huff. I could've lost my job for being so unprofessional, but Trans Rights are more important to me than a pay check. If that boy in the Gravity Falls hat is reading this, I love you man. Keep on being a great person.
*me a trans guy who is mainly in the closet*: My voice is rlly deep! *ppl who don’t know I’m trans*: your voice sounds just like any other girl! *me*: **visible disphorya**
My grandfather: i don‘t understand. You are such a beautiful young woman Me: i‘d rather die than be a woman any longer My grandpa: well ok then We have a really nice relationship and he now proudly calls me his grandson :)
my mom lmao. but also with a side of yOu'Re JuSt A cOnFuSeD cIs GiRl. Mother dearest, I may be confused but I sure as hell ain't cis. AFAB aro ace demigirl. was probably not what she'd expected when the doctor told her "It's a girl" or whatever they do anyway.
“If i had as much facial hair as i did butt hair i would have the most impressive beard in the world... that’s probably to much information im sorry” 😂 - Jamie❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
3:33 okay cute story time! My niece was like 5 or so when I changed my name. And recently she started pointing at old photos of me and saying my deadname. When someone corrected her she got very stern and said no, that wasn't their name back then. I didn't really know how to handle it cuz she's like 8 now and it's a weird conversation, cuz I'm nonbinary which her parents don't really get. Anyway we were all on vacation last week and we were playing some name game or something and she said my deadname, and I could see that she was proud that she could remember that that used to be my name. So the next morning we were alone and so I talked to her about it. I said that I understood that she thinks it's cool that I've had a different name and explained to her why it's hard for me to hear that name. I asked her if she understood and she said yes, I asked her if she could stop saying that name in reference to me (or past me) and she said yes and gave me a hug. I don't expect anyone to have read this far I just wanted to share my happiness with the void
that is great. also, it's a common thing that names are attached to old memories, and it's easier for people to use my name talking about something recent, than when they're on memory lane. to me, this doesn't feel as bad as people not accepting who i am now. i think my main problem with this is that people using my deadname among people who didn't know my deadname, makes me feel bad because i don't want new people to know - what point is there in knowing my deadname if they don't have old memories of past me, in the way that people i knew pre-transition do?!
Yes though, my grandma saw me watching your video and she asked me who you were, out of anxiety I told her "just a random guy on the internet" and she said that you looked nice.
I am not a guy! and I'm not a girl! and I've finally gotten the courage to tell people!!! I'm so God damm happy everyone has accepted me and I'm so happy!!!! I'm sorry I only just started telling people today and I'm really proud of myself since I got over my extreme anxiety!!!
Okay I’m just gonna tell you guys my experience and I’m hoping I’m not the only one who’s felt this. So before I started dressing more masculinely, I had a difficult time recognizing myself in the mirror. I found myself objectively pretty with some exceptions but it felt like I was looking at a window with someone else on the other side. Even now, looking back at old videos or photos I feel like she’s someone else.
“bind safely!” me: *is wearing my binder for a week straight and refusing to shower because then i can’t wear my binder again until i do laundry again so i’m just doing it all now*
You can be a woman, Or you an be a man. I’ll love you the same if your cisgender or trans. You can be neither, Or a mix of the two. You’re a beautiful person, Just by being you.
@@MarcyTheKindaCoolWizard Yes. If my understanding is correct, Lana Wachowski privately came out to friends and family around the time the third Matrix movie was released. She publicly came out of the closet during the promotion of Cloud Atlas about a decade later. Her sister Lilly Wachowski came out of the closet a few years after that, after the Wachowski sisters' Netflix series Sense8 was released. I personally haven't seen Sense8, but I'm aware one of the main characters is a transgender woman played by a transgender actress. I have seen the first Matrix movie, so when I heard Lana Wachowski came out of the closet, I realized the movie has a lot of transgender subtext. Subtext which Lilly Wachowski has acknowledged.
@@HB600 Oh wow! I really had no idea at all! I might rewatch Matrix just to see it with a different context, i'm also happy for the sisters for coming out!
If anyone hurts him, the spuds will throw potatoes and wholesomeness at them until they retreat into their jerk dungeons I wanna put a potato pun here but I don't know any good ones, do y'all know any other... puntatoes we can fling into the world?
The marge meme was me about asexuals and aromantics to myself for the longest time. Can't believe it took me this long to figure out why I cared so much 😬
