Trans Masculine folk and "Feminine" Gender Expression

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@andirogynous5406 6 лет назад

"My body is male because it belongs to me and I am male" has honestly helped me so much.

@someonesomeone3776 4 года назад

Same

@goodfella_ 3 года назад

Lol

@lauvaqwerty 6 лет назад

Sees any man with nail polish: "ok, hot."

@thenerrdpit7441 6 лет назад

This reminds me of a quote from Sophie LaBelle: "I was not born in *the wrong body*. I'm a girl. This is my body. Girls have all kinds of bodies." I am questioning my gender and really needed to hear that. Everyone needed to hear that.

@SpecialBlanket 4 года назад

I don't get that. If I weren't in the wrong body, I wouldn't have an issue. If it were just about my gender expression, I would just be a butch woman-- but that's not the problem at all. I love femme shit. But not in this body!

@someonesomeone3776 4 года назад

@Karen Van Zant hello fellow human, you sound uneducated about the topic, here is some science to educate yourself: blogs.scientificamerican.com/voices/stop-using-phony-science-to-justify-transphobia/

@user-fm4un1wd8x 6 лет назад

What you're saying about freedom in gender expression when being read cis vs. freedom in gender expression when being out as trans is sooooooooooo true. Trans people are policed far more than cis people for their gender expression, and the only purpose is to invalidate our identity. Thank you for this.💚

@TheZionrouter 4 года назад

@Karen Van Zant Except for people in other countries who are being KILLED for their identity...

@someonesomeone3776 4 года назад

@@TheZionrouter yeah I live in Morocco wich is an Islamic country and being LGBTQ in here is illegal, but I hope to go live in Canada in the future to be able to transition.

@beccabear426 3 года назад

@Daphne Van Zant not sure what country you’re in but there’s plenty of issues with this in the US. It’s not just predominantly Muslim countries.

@omnichrome9784 6 лет назад

Men, at earlier times in history, wore makeup, “painted” their nails and wore frilly shirts and floral embroidery on their clothes. It is a fairly recent historical development that such things have been labeled as “too feminine” for men or the purview of only woman.

@bookslug2919 6 лет назад

Yes... the 1980's 😉

@marcat3900 4 года назад

Yeessss historical context preach to the course

@someonesomeone3776 4 года назад

@Karen Van Zant Trans people don't transition because of stereotypes or "girlish" and "boyish" things, they transition because they have gender dysphoria wich is a serious mental issue that can only be helped by transitioning. Trans people aren't "pretending" or trying to be someone they're not, this is just who they are and they are trying to be themselves. If you still don't get it, I'll tell you a little bit about my every day life: I am very uncomfortable in my body, I am dysphoric every day, it brings me so much emotional pain, when I was 8 I wanted to grow a penis, I strongly believed that I would one day wake up and have a male body and go through male puberty, but as I grew up I realised it was impossible, the day I reached female puberty at the age of 12 I passed out, I got panic attacks and was about to commit suicide, I wear multiple layers of clothing every day to hide my chest because I can't get a binder, in my dreams I am always male, I am disgusted by my body, I had an addiction to cutting when I started puberty to cope with the changes of my body, but luckily I was able to get out of it, I always wear hoodies and baggy clothes to hide my body, I am ashamed of my body, showers are the biggest challenge for me, I shower with male swimming suits because I can't handle being naked, I rarely go out apart from going to school because I'm afraid from being misgendered, misgendering causes me so much pain, I struggle with a severe depression and I'm very suicidal, I wrote 4 suicide notes and commited suicide at the age of 13, I tried to come out to my family but they made fun of me and hurt me a lot, attention is the last thing I want, now I'm just a hopeless 14 y.o boy waiting to die to end all the pain. I'm sorry for this long paragraph but I hope you change the way you think of trans people. Trans isn't a choice, no one would choose to go through all this pain, no one would choose to be bullied, descriminated and murdered for being trans. The rate of suicide for trans individuals is 41%. Our lives are very hard..

@citrusangel9488 3 года назад

@Daphne Van Zant yeah no

@atleynater 2 года назад

yes!! iirc, painting nails started with Babylonian warriors to differentiate between class/rank. black was higher rank while green wasn't. i'm also pretty sure they painted their lips to match their nails too!

@teddyhrrs8279 6 лет назад

"I have a uterus, but it is a man's uterus because it is mine. I have a man reproductive organs : it's my uterus (...) I get to decide how my uterus identifies, not you. Why ? Because it lives inside me" Thank you so much for this ! I also laughed a lot because I pictured a uterus with little eyes, floating (for some reasons) in space. No one ? Okay...

@nootnoot1290 6 лет назад

Teddy Hrrs my uterus’s eyes are the ovaries lmao

@someonesomeone3776 4 года назад

@Karen Van Zant yes you're right, facts don't care about your feelings: the existence of trans people was scientifically proven, so yes males can have a uterus, that's called trans men, science validates that. Biological males don't have uteruses, only biological females do, and trans males are biological females, so they have a uterus (unless they get surgery to remove it)

@shadow705 4 года назад

Most stupidest thing I've ever heard. Your really gonna say that you decide what your uterus identifies and not us? If you have a uterus you are a *Female* not a male. Ben Shapiro once said "I'm not gonna modify basic biology, because it threatens your subjective reality".

@shadow705 4 года назад

@@someonesomeone3776 Men can not have a uterus. It's scientifically impossible. Don't think I'm right? Let's see the proof.

@someonesomeone3776 4 года назад

@@shadow705 biological females have a uterus, biological males don't. If you still don't believe the existence of trans people then here is a link so you can educate yourself: blogs.scientificamerican.com/voices/stop-using-phony-science-to-justify-transphobia/

@bryntendo 6 лет назад

I'm very typically masculine presenting but I love bright colours and stuff so I like having lime green nails. I don't know if it's a thing in the US or other places, but in Australia there's a thing called the Polished Man Campaign that's basically like Movember except instead of growing out your 'stache you paint your nails, to raise money and awareness of child sexual abuse. People usually assume that's why I have nail polish on sometimes, and while I like that people don't question me for it, it still feels weird that anyone should need a 'cover story' or a 'good excuse' to do something as simple as wearing nail polish

@borderline_sunshine 2 года назад

Omg I wanna paint my nails but I only can do it in black cuz that's the only color boys are accepted to wear (y'know, cuz emo lol) and that's only sometimes, some ppl will still see it as a "ur a girl!" Thing and I really hate it😭

@nathancha834 6 лет назад

Reclaiming freedom of gender expression from a gatekeeping cis-centric society is the most affirming sh*t ever tbh ♡ I love yr wholesome videos about this & also thx 4 mentioning trans men who r not on T/pre-/non op ☆

@sycamore33 6 лет назад

Omg I literally teared up watching this. You voiced so many things I've been thinking lately and in such an eloquent, effective way. This hit me in a lot of places and I'm so glad you made this video

@HONEYDROP11 6 лет назад

redcloudofrandomness same same same! I seriously kept myself up late a couple night ago because I love makeup and some other “feminine” things and it just reminded me about how a friend said I needed to make up my mind and it just made me feel very doubtful and insecure, but fuck that. Im over it now.

@someonesomeone3776 4 года назад

@@HONEYDROP11 I'm glad you were able to get over it and your friend was wrong, you are valid and a powerful person. I wish you the best in your life •‿•

@tabeykat 6 лет назад

This video came out at the perfect time for me. I go back to work tomorrow after being out on disability. They changed the dress code and we can wear whatever colours we want. I bought a light purple shirt because purple is my favourite colour. My mom asked why I bought such a “girly” shirt. It hurt me. But watching this made me say screw it. It’s on me. It’s a mans shirt then.

@insidiouschaos812 6 лет назад

Aaron, this is exactly what I've been struggling with this week

@jayymeszaros8744 6 лет назад

insidiousChaos oh my gosh, me too! So good to see someone else like me :)

@sas-jx7im 6 лет назад

once i feel comfortable with painting my nails pink its over for yall (this video made me so happy, i have been having a hard time with my gender expression thank u so much!!)

@anthonyweber1759 6 лет назад

sas *throws a bottle of pink nailpolish at you* So pink them already dearie! :D

@lucadennis2576 4 года назад

Once when I was in elementary school, a boy came to class dressed all in pink, with pink nail polish. I admired his dedication to the color that day. It's one of my favorites, too!

@mossryan4027 6 лет назад

This video was really helpful and important to me as a afab non-binary person who only experiences social dysphoria (like, I don't hate my chest, parts etc. it's only when other peoples perceptions of my body being "womanly" that I feel dysphoric, and even then sometimes I don't mind but sometimes it makes me want to peel my skin off haha) I struggled with feeling valid or "actually non-binary" for a while and occasionally still do, so even though this video isn't specifically targeted to me, it's still relevant and helpful so thank you Aaron!!!

@shadow705 4 года назад

Non binary is a stupid thing. You were born a certain gender. You can't just say your not a female or a male, no motherfucker you identify as what you are at birth. I don't give a fuck what else.

@Fluorite-Fox 3 года назад

@@shadow705 wow, rude.

@sortasamm 6 лет назад

I’m going to give the link to this video to people who ask why I used to dress hyper masculine vs how I dress now (I wear a lot more floral print, flowing wraps, leggings, stuff like that) when they ask why it took so long for me to get comfortable dressing how I do. This video perfectly sums up my experience with gender expression. Love your videos :D

@callmemax029 6 лет назад

I have been using makeup since I was 11 and I actually wore a crop top once in highschool, lol. I also started to do exercise with the girls during my last year in highschool. Yet, I still Identify as a cis man and I"m really happy to see this video, because it emphasizes the idea of dgaf about people's opinions -which is really important when it comes to be happy. *Good content* ❤

@michame1284 6 лет назад

Man, I really won't let myself wear nailpolish or really anything femine but I'm sure as soon as I get on T and I start to pass I'm sure I'll allow myself. This video made me feel so much better about my expression. Thank you!

@skywise8 6 лет назад

This is me too. I wear men's clothes and I bind when I can (only have 1 binder), so I'm doing my best to pass with what I have.

@ghostkid8201 3 года назад

@@skywise8 Same. I dont have a binder (yet anyway) i only have sports bras so im trynna pass with what i have.

@skywise8 3 года назад

@@ghostkid8201 I have a sports bra too, one size too small. I just bought a compression top recently as well. I have been told my face is very feminine. :(

@drakehav 6 лет назад

Thank you for giving so much inspiration. Im a transgender guy who also pains my nails. I like it. Its cute. Go for it.when it feels right, its is. Go for it. You look awsome. Rock those nails bro

@second_conflict 6 лет назад

Wow I love this video so much. And that nail polish! You rock that. This is so validating, especially the part about having a male body because you are male. Yes. I love this. I feel so empowered. Keep up all the great work Aaron! I see all the effort you're putting into your channel right now and it is so awesome. :-)

@aronspillsthetea9405 6 лет назад

Aaron thank you so much for posting this literally just last week I wanted to put on some nail polish (cuz I like the way the brush feels lol) but I didn’t want to because I thought people wouldn’t take me being trans seriously but you helped me realize I can do whatever the fuck I want and whatever I do is male because I identify as male So thank you so fuckin much Love you

@deadboy5678 6 лет назад

WHO IS THAT SHE DOESN'T GO HERE

@mitchellprice5586 6 лет назад

I fucking love how you go about discussing ‘female and male’ reproductive organs. It’s your uterus therefore it’s a male reproductive organ because you are male. That’s so fucking empowering and I’ve never heard anyone else put it that way. You just helped me break down a stigma I didn’t even know I had against my own body by giving me the means to talk about it. Thank you Aaron. 💚

@deadboy5678 6 лет назад

Don't ask me why dude, but when I saw the notification for this pop up, my excitement manifested itself in the form of me repeatedly slapping my knee. Anyway I'm gonna go watch now LMAO

@its_ambs 6 лет назад

Honestly this channel is helping me out so much, thank you ❤️

@CelesteM 6 лет назад

You are just killing it lately with your videos 💗

@corrupt.corvids. 6 лет назад

I'm so happy that you posted this, especially today because I was getting really anxious and kinda dissociative about painting my nails pink and glittery. But watching your video helped ease me brain.

@crossroadswanderer 6 лет назад

Thank you for this video. I've been kind of on a makeup kick recently but feeling like I have to tone it down for the sake of other people. It helps seeing someone else owning that kind of self-expression.

@deadboy5678 6 лет назад

Okay last comment, and then I'm out ✌🏽 What you said about how you used to like painting your nails, but didn't like to be seen has been PAINFULLY RELATABLE for me (w/ any of my more "fem" stuff, too). I'm trying to break down every box and barrier I have whether it was put up by cisciety, myself, or both. It's heavy, but I'm getting there. Ilu~ 💖 thanks for being a shining light for us all

@nicolassierratrujillo 6 лет назад

Thank you for making this video, I have constantly been questioned about my transition because I love doing traditionally feminine things like painting my nails and wearing shirts I found in the "women's section"

@quirkyblackenby 6 лет назад

Honestly every one of Aaron’s videos is pure gold

@captainsalamander946 6 лет назад

I PAINTED MY NAILS THIS SAME COLOR TWO DAYS AGO WE'RE MATCHING

@jnerosfire 6 лет назад

The part about objects not defining gender....remind me of my therapist seeing my new phone case and was like..."That's actually feminine" *looks at my BLUE phone case...* ummm...not only do I not know how a case can be feminine but why if you're being stereotypical about objects would you think a blue phone case is feminine....it's smaller than my other one...but...

@flynneves3152 6 лет назад

Aaron's pep talks are the best! Honestly, his comments are like the things we tell others that we feel we can't say to ourselves. ✨

@drewg.4779 6 лет назад

I love how much content you’ve been putting out! They’ve all been really great videos!

@ghostbill1010 6 лет назад

Saw this video on my feed just after I painted my nails for the first time in maybe ten years. I was nervous as I am a trans guy, but nail polish really doesn't change anything

@TheLucyblades 6 лет назад

This was a great video Aaron, I always love your videos but you made SO many great points here. I feel like your videos could often be linked when trying to educate people and I say that as a compliment. Also, your shirt is rad dude, and you do you!

@ElijahCem 6 лет назад

If you want nail polishes to last longer a base coat and/or a top coat could help it last. Or if you want to be able to peak it up faster/easier then Elmer’s glue mixed with some water and using that as a base coat can make it easier to peal off. My sister really doesn’t like nail polish lasting that long so she doesn’t do base coats or top coats. Also top coats that aren’t just clear are a thing. They can be rainbow or sparkly. It really is fun to get into nail polish.

@graypetcoyle 6 лет назад

McKenzie Brennan they also make dedicated peel off base coats. The channel Simplynailogical did a test on all forms of peeling base coats including Elmer’s glue

@renfricke9109 6 лет назад

I've just started t and I don't "pass" at all yet, but I decided last night, "Fuck it. I'm wearing nail polish." I love nail polish, I love glitter--still a man!! Wow!! I love it. Thank you for this timely validation.

@finn7435 6 лет назад

I got an ad! If you want the nail polish to last longer, I think not putting a clear coat on first helps. Fantastic video, I love the thing about your body being male because you are male.

@rosejuliette5965 6 лет назад

No. 1 Fander I was thinking the same thing. Like where is the matte base coat, where is the top coat and most importantly where is the holo!? 😂😂😂

@nootnoot1290 6 лет назад

Rose Juliette holo the most important part 😂

@shadow705 4 года назад

He is not a male. If he wasn't born a male at birth, then no he isn't a male.

@someonesomeone3776 4 года назад

@@shadow705 notice how everyone is sharing positivity and you're the only one sharing negativity and putting people down.

@iliveforzelda 6 лет назад

I LOVE your iris shirt!! I love when men express themselves, wearing flowers, nailpolish, and/or makeup! I think all genders should be able to express both female and male sides in whatever way. I love and support all of you who express yourselves how you want

@magnificentliza2830 6 лет назад

yassssss i need to show this video to my entire family! Thx for mentioning thisxxx love your channel.

@bumblebriar9738 6 лет назад

I feel like the "roam where you want to" picture behind you is very thematically appropriate for this video (and those pictures are just really cool). Nonetheless, this is a really important message, and I'm glad you're putting it out there, Aaron. You voice a lot in here that I've struggled to put into words until very recently.

@itzellaralaursen1088 6 лет назад

I soooo needed this right now, thank you.

@TheRogueDM 6 лет назад

I'm definitely more stereotypically masculine in that I'm not a massive fan of makeup, nail polish etc., but since socially transitioning I've really come into my own about how I enjoy expressing myself. My wardrobe has got more colourful and I have more shoes and hygiene products than ever before. I love styling my hair and having different looks for different situations. Before coming out I had none of this. And that part about the uterus being male because it's yours, THANK YOU. I can't stand it when people invalidate a uterus being male "because it defines reality" or "you're ignoring your body parts which is unhealthy". It's like, no I'm not. I completely acknowledge I have a uterus, but I'm still male.

@hawkfishandy7584 6 лет назад

You are so well spoken and I appreciate your insight :)

@unstablestar675 6 лет назад

This really connects with me. Thank you for putting this out in the world

@draxquirnon6809 6 лет назад

Another great video Aaron!!! Love you buddy!!! ❤️

@katk6562 6 лет назад

You give me so much strength to be myself. Thank you for being the amazing person you are 💕💕💕

@cordeliaC1234 6 лет назад

I love this so much. The point about these objects not being feminine really resonated with me, I wear nail polish, I'm planning on wearing booty shorts and a crop top to pride in a couple of weeks but none of it is feminine to me, it's just a different way of showing my own masculinity.

@AK-dx3pd 6 лет назад

My son i love this video! Keep doing you!

@punifulteakat6050 6 лет назад

ohhhhh my gosh this! is! exactly! the mindset that has been helping me immensely with dysphoria, and its really nice to hear it outloud. It's made it pretty manageable (also with presentation and masc hair cut that helps a lot although I don't pass which sucks) and I worry a lot that I'm not trans enough because it's not, like, debilitating atm? which is prolly kinda dumb and I'm talking a lot, so long story short, aaron you're very comforting and sweet and it's a nice reminder that even with social and physical dysphoria for a lot of nb/trans people, clothes, makeup, and nail polish are just things, and they don't have to control us. anyway, ty and ily and have a great day.

@gonniez4854 6 лет назад

i'm painting my nails while watching this video

@snottyreptissue 6 лет назад

Your video quality is just incredible

@Mary-op8hi 6 лет назад

"Nail polish and make-up and clothes are not powerful enough to change who you are fundamentally .. no one else's opinions, no one else's words are more powerful than our own, and our opinions are not less than the opinions of cis people" AMEN GOOD SIR! You, and only you, are the expert on your mind, body, and self! Plant Daddy TM you did such an excellent job at explaining gender and gender expression in this video in a way that I think truly anyone, even someone totally new to these concepts, could understand. Also you rock that nail polish and you have no idea how huge of a smile your absolutely adorably sweet, "hi, hello, hi" brings to my face every single time 😀💕😀💕

@rachelahrens9696 6 лет назад

Thank you, so much! I've been having a hard time with this sort of stuff, and it just really helps to hear someone else say this. These videos mean a lot to me, and I really appreciate you making them.

@auntiesash 6 лет назад

Important & clear & respectfully stated. xo

@FinneganBeck 6 лет назад

I'm a nonbinary trans guy and I love wearing crop tops and lipstick and nail polish and I really appreciate this. People doubt me a lot because I like to wear skirts and my presentation is femine, I appreciate this a lot. 💜💜💜

@maddieross4856 6 лет назад

Thank you so much. I’ve been trying so hard to find a video that talks about this and just haven’t had any luck, so I was super happy when I got to watch this! As a trans man who likes to wear dresses sometimes and do my makeup or whatever I get a lot of remarks about it and geez I really needed this pep talk. Thanks again! :)

@ivankavoutchkov650 6 лет назад

Aaron this video was really awesome. you are one of my fave youtubers ♡

@Brinzvidz 6 лет назад

You perfectly explained thoughts and concepts that are always floating around just in my head, but that I never actually fully communicated. This video is definitely a fave to save. Love you Aaron. 💕

@fenleevolquooper4260 6 лет назад

You beautiful soul... bless you and your words. * *-* *

@aidanfynnmorrison3660 6 лет назад

Thank you so much for this. This has been such a struggle for me.

@TailoredChaos 6 лет назад

Thank you so much for this video. Yesterday I was told very clearly exactly what you had said, that although I may identify as male I will always be female because of my anatomy and although I didn’t believe it hearing those words really hurt and made me waver considering it was from a parent. Knowing that no matter what I say they won’t ‘believe’ me. So thank you for reminding me that I am who I am and I should be proud of it and fuck what anyone else has to say about it. I really appreciate your videos and hope you have a wonderful day.

@DANCEYpants95 6 лет назад

I love this, Im so grateful that I found your channel and that youre sharing so much with us. much love to you. ❤️

@archquenneville 6 лет назад

This is a wonderful video! Thank you for putting my thoughts and opinions into words!

@HayNay 6 лет назад

This video kind of saved my life. Thank you.

@maxinchains8489 6 лет назад

I love this video Aaron xoxo. I painted my nails black last week for the first time in two years. I try to see it as more of a Punk Rock/metal thing instead of entirely feminine

@mochreach429 6 лет назад

I really relate to what you said about enjoying wearing nail polish but not wanting to be seen. I used to love dressing feminine and wearing makeup just because it was a form of art to me, but seeing mirrors and being reminded that that was what I looked like all the time and that was how everyone else saw me made me so uncomfortable.

@kylebennett4577 6 лет назад

literally needed this video today

@rosiejohnston2174 6 лет назад

i needed this video. thank u sm. :') 💓

@jeremyduer3098 6 лет назад

Thanks so much for this video Aaron. I’m in the beginnings of my transition (been on T for 7 months) and I do find myself questioning my own masculinity especially when I compare myself to cis males. But it’s true, it’s based mostly on societal constructs/pressures and not on how I identify and feel on the inside. I am a trans man and I need to listen to myself, and not others, when it comes to how I express my masculinity. Whether it be how I dress, how I look or what I wear etc. I identify as a male and that is what I am. 👍🏼 Thanks for reminding me of this. I need to be who I am and love who I am. I’m scheduled for top surgery in two weeks from today. Super anxious but excited. 😬😆Wish me luck! 💕

@spookthesilly 3 года назад

The happy music just lifted my mood so much-

@hads5279 5 лет назад

I’m not a binary trans guy (I’m an agenderboy), but OMG!!!!!!! This video has me crying in the club! I have been so uncomfortable and dysphoric lately because I’ve been leaning toward “feminine” patterns, colours, wearing leggings and people, not meaning any harm, will say things like, “oh, you’re feeling a little more feminine lately?” But I’ve actually been feeling HUGE spikes of masculinity lately. Not alpha dog masculinity; soft pretty boy masculinity. Every single thing you have said is how I’ve been feeling lately. Ususally I can brush off being misgendered (or I thought I was brushing it off. In reality I now realise that I was just ignoring and ignoring and now it has come to it’s inevitable boiling point), but I am to the point where I 100% know I need to start low doses of T until I’m at a comfortable level of soft masculinity. I have been feeling physically ill and dead inside everytime I’m assumes female lately. I just cannot believe how accurately you have taken the words out of my mouth and made sense of them!!! I love leggings and nail polish, but damn does it misgender me! When I first came out as agender (I didn’t have boy attached to it) I was under the impression that I had to dress as androgynous as possible for people to believe me. So I went from one box right into another. I also cannot appear 50/50 androgynous to people. People would see my hips, tits, and hear my voice and then they’d read me as like, a butch lesbian. So that made me feel like I was failing and caused bad bouts of dysphoria. Okay, sorry for the novel of a rant. I’ve just been having a really really hard time lately and I don’t know very many trans/queer people and I’m so lonely and don’t have anyone to talk to about trans related stuff. My cis friends are amazing allies, but there are things that they will just never understand because they don’t experience it.

@ru22MGregory96 6 лет назад

You are AMAZING Aaron

@rob0t9 6 лет назад

as long as you're not disrespecting anyone else, you're ultimately allowed to express yourself however you want. if that's wearing full, over the top, pastel, rainbow, fun times outfits every day, do it. if that's wearing exclusively designer brands, do it. if that's wearing track pants and a hoodie, do it. if that's wearing makeup and painting your nails, do it. do what makes you excited to get out of bed, get ready, and start your day. and if you can't do it everyday, that's fine! if you're being yourself, and you aren''t disrespecting anyone in the process, have fun.

@pepaxxxsvinka3379 6 лет назад

I haven't heard such thoughts from anyone but me.

@NeitiMau 6 лет назад

my spouse (cis man) use nail polish, bright red is his favorite.

@nathanc8541 6 лет назад

Amen ! This vlog is powerful , you wear that nail polish all you want :)

@Maxcute-rv8qu 6 лет назад

Thank you so much for this video I have been struggling some much recently I can't thank you enough

@davismcqueen36 6 лет назад

I'm definitely waiting to be comfortable within myself so I can start wearing make-up & get my nails done again. Those things were things I enjoyed doing because it expressed my uniqueness. I battle with these thoughts everyday, but after watching your video it helps me see that I can do these things without worrying about what others think since they're not me. Thanks for the pep talk. 💜

@CharlieJasper1 6 лет назад

i came out as nonbinary before coming out as a trans guy bc i thought because i veered toward a more feminine or androgynous gender expression i couldnt be a Real Guy. thank u for speaking about this!!!!!

@oolongteaforjoyluck17 6 лет назад

Aaron, I adore the print on your shirt! Do whatever you want to do, you look great!

@UnkillableJay 6 лет назад

The uterus thing was great. I also have a male uterus.

@shadow705 4 года назад

No you do not!

@Holzider 5 лет назад

you know what you are saying gives me the same amazing feeling of agency as reading max stirners work... thanks for that! you are amazing.

@usx-yy7bi 6 лет назад

Yoooo this fucking video. All of it. Gah I agree with everything in this video so much and I'm so glad there are others that feel the same way. Especially that bit about the social dysphoria. I used to love wearing heels for example but only in my room cause as soon as I'd walk out I knew people were going to see that and make the wrong assumption. Thank you for making this video ❤❤❤

@wezen4632 3 года назад

thanks for this i’m a feminine, pre-t, pre-op trans guy and i’ve been super insecure that i’m not passing and this video rlly helped me feel better

@davidandrew7012 6 лет назад

I feel happy when Aaron uploads a new video.

@s.c7105 6 лет назад

"it lives in MY body.' '...take the power back..." Hi I loved this.

@Alex-ge5nz 6 лет назад

Tysm for this video!!! Replace “binary trans man” with “nonbinary” and you literally took my thoughts and put them in a video lol ❤️ gonna go paint my nails now!

@mississippitransman8617 6 лет назад

I really like your geometric bear pillow! I want it 😭

@miloamsel2673 5 лет назад

A therapist I once went to said ‘the world isn’t ready for people like you’, and I experienced that with my family. They don’t believe who I am because I still enjoy nail polish, makeup and feminine clothes sometimes, though many friends of mine are okay with me doing that. They do see me as man that just enjoys being extravagant and fabulous; my friends and I empower each other so much by not making each other feel bad over decorations and clothes. But my family does. Maybe when I’m under hormone treatment they will ‘believe’ me more.

@noahb8730 6 лет назад

I used to present myself kind of alternatively with dyed hair, and piercings, and such, but I have toned it down so much since actively trying to pass. I miss expressing myself, but I know I would just get labeled as a butch lesbian if I did that. I am so much happier being perceived as male by the outside world, but I wish I wasn't so affected by what others thought. I can't wait until I'm far enough along in my transition that I don't have to hold back on the "feminine" aspects of my presentation

@poitou 3 года назад

That's exactly the video I needed right now. I'm a trans guy pre everything (I'm only out to my closest friends) and tomorrow I wanna go to school in a dress but I wasn't confident enough to actually do it. But now I think I'm gonna do it. Thank you so much!

@shimmertails 6 лет назад

I felt rlly good putting on makeup this morning and then when I saw the notification for this video I was like, "wow hello perfectly timed relevant message".

@JustFlynn 6 лет назад

oml I'm so glad you put a basecoat under the colour! I've seen so many people not do that and it gives me so much anxiety thinking of them trying to get it off later on 😂🙈 I shaved my legs last week and immediately regretted it. Mostly because I then felt naked and dreaded the hard stubble that was gonna come, but also because for some reason it made me sit differently? Like I started crossing my legs again (which I don't like anyway) and the way my legs moved just went all Venus Razor Ad which made me very uncomfortable, I can't wait for it to grow back tbh 😂😂 But it sucks that not "passing" as the gender we identify as can make gender expression feel like such a fragile thing. 🙈 Social dysphoria sucks major balls (can relate to the peeling off of the nail polish, always do it, so satisfying)

@kianatart 6 лет назад

THAT NAIL PEELING STIM THOUGH. I can't wear polish for much longer than a few days. 👌Rip me.

@sachan5358 6 лет назад

I’m so thankful for what you say in your video because I’m a pre - t trans guy and I repress myself to dress more “feminine” and wear makeup outside because people outside, would think that I’m confused with my gender or that I am a transtrender... so It is kind of sad.. (also I’m sorry if I made some mistakes cause I’m a frenchie 😂😂)

@covidcarekit 5 лет назад

Thank you so much for this. As an AFAB non-binary person, I often feel pressured to masculinize my gender expression in order to be read as more genderqueer. But I still love nail polish and earrings and pastels -it’s been hard to own that when people will often read me as a cis woman whenever I wear any of this elements (especially because of my high voice, soft features, etc). I love that you’ve found ways to express your gender that make you feel good, even when that might mean dealing with social dysphoria

@CarqlineCupcake 4 года назад

This really verbalizes a lot if my feelings. Im afab and before i started presenting more masc and realising i was nonbinary i really did enjoy presenting more feminine and it caused me so much doubt. What you said in the beginning and towards the end about enjoying things but not wanting to be seen is so on point for me. Looking feminine makes me dysphoric bc i know it makes people read me as a girl which is uncomfortable. But that doesnt mean i dont like it free from that. The things themselves dont make me dysphoric, its social dysphoria (which is most of my dysphoria incl body dysphoria is mostly about others perception). Im really glad you made this video i havent heard anyone explain the way I experience dysphoria until now and its making me feel a lot better.

@FinneganBeck 6 лет назад

I love your iris shirt!