If you're reading this & maybe going to have surgery soon you might find that having a runners hydration backpack might be helpful because you can just reach for the tube part & just have that bag near you so you'll have enough when you need it probably for a day or so
Currently in the process of bribing my parent to let me do the whole diy hrt thing. (The gender clinic has been ignoring me for over a year.) I'm of age, but i don't have a job hnffgs Hoping this will be something i get to use soon.
if acronym LGBTQ was not present at the time then the guy could not advocate for it... the Q was added in 2016... and its LGBTQQICAPF2K+ google says in 2024
I’m so glad I came across this. I could’ve used this information back in the 90s but better late than never! Thank you I downloaded your video for future reference.
I'm scheduled for surgery in less than a month and I've been stressing all week about preparations. I live in Norway and we only have one hospital that offers gender affirming treatment, which means I have to travel roughly 70 miles and organize the whole travel plus hotel stay for my caretaker myself, and the hospital has given me almost no information to go off on :D I called them just to ask roughly how long I could expect to be on a sick leave for so I could plan it with my boss, and they just said "we'll sort it out when you get here". I also tried to ask how long I could expect to stay in the hospital, so I could plan my trip home (plane tickets), and they didn't give a good answer to that either. Their website offers absolutely no information on top surgery for trans people, only cancer patients. The lack of information is stressing me out even further, so I'm so grateful to have come across this video series! Will definitely be adding it to my watch list and go through them all (also, apologies for the small vent, I needed to let it out lmao)
holy smokes. I'm going to be a caregiver for someone undergoing top surgery and 4 minutes into this first video I know your channel is going to be so helpful for me. The person I'm taking care of has a similarly traumatic upbringing and already what you've said has reminded me of conversations I've had with them. Times I haven't acted as quickly as I needed to because they'd already been hungry for hours or had to go to the bathroom. So grateful to have come across your channel. Thank you so much <3
Your video hits me the most cause I have that same issue with either texting back or just calling people in general. I have that weird feeling that I can’t keep a conversation going
I got that pain in my stomach and I used to cry a lot as a kid over this feeling and one day my big sister told me I “cry too much and need to grow up” and I was probably 9 btw… but from then on I never cried infront of anyone in the family if at all. That completely changed me all the way up to college bc of the way I wanted to be seen as acceptable by my family and my sister who was like 10 years older than me. It impacted my life so bad and I didn’t know it was bc of this disorder which made me so emotional.
No one can be "born in the wrong body", our brains ARE our body just as much as any other part of it. We are the sex we are, regardless of what our personal relationship is with the sexist stereotypes in society. "Trans" ideology, is regressive and sexist, as there is no "correct way" of being a boy or girl, man or woman, all those terms do is indicate sex and stage of maturity - decoupling sex and gender and trying to make gender into this ludicrous concoction of personality and sexist stereotypes is beyond regressive - it actively harms people who buy into it - the idea that there is something wrong with a kid's body that needs to be chemically altered because they believe living up to sexist stereotypes is some real measure of whether they are a boy or a girl (and man or woman for adults obviously), is insanity. I have asked hundreds of "activists" and "allies" to explain what they are measuring themselves against to determine that they have a need to transition - NOT ONE person has been able to articulate what that is - not one person is able to distance themselves sufficiently to realise that THEY are the ones with a regressively sexist idea of what it means to be a boy/girl or man/woman and that that is the issue causing all the problems - their own misunderstanding and severely limited perspective/sexist misunderstanding of what sexist stereotypes/"gender norms" actually entail - they are not rules, they are not real boundaries, they are regressive ideas and generalisations - no one needs to live up to any such utter nonsense or feel comfortable with those stereotypes to be a boy/girl/man/woman - all those terms represent, and all they should represent, is sex and stage of maturity - by creating this whole "gender identity" nonsense, THAT IS WHAT CAUSES ALL THE DISTRESS, THIS FABRICATION OF A FRAMEWORK WHICH DISTORTS REALITY. No one - NO ONE - in the movement has been able to explain or articulate what this supposed "womanly essence" or "manly essence" is that they feel/know/need to transition in order to represent etc. actually is - yet you all actively believe in it and push for it to be accepted. That is ludicrous.
i’m worried that if i stay at home, i will get an infection from my cats. and if i go stay at someone else’s house, that i will spiral from not being able to be with my cats xD
My son and I have Ehlers Danslo Syndrome, and we have been put through hell by our family, friends, and health professionals. My son has a more severe form, and it was obvious he had health concerns from infancy. We were both adults when diagnosed, which happened after I received my son's educational file after his graduation from high school. Throughout his school years, he had modifications and adaptations made to complete assignments, testing and to the environment to help him to succeed in the learning expectations and goals that were identified for him each year and made to help support his learning needs. He was followed by BC Children's Hospital, Shriners Hospital, pediatricians, neurologists, orthopedics, physiotherapists, occupational therapists, orthotist and counselors He had multiple misdiagnoses throughout his childhood, but he only seemed to have some of the markers of these diagnoses. Buried in his massive school file was an unseen report from one of the professionals involved to help him by using technology. It was recommended by his team to explore the possibility of Ehlers Danslo Syndrome. I was never told about this. I brought this report to his family doctor, who was hesitant about pursuing this because he didn't see the point since there is no cure. I held my ground, and after months, he agreed to send him to a geneticist. As a part of this appointment, I had to fill out a thorough medical history of our immediate family and extended family. The 3 different geneticists agreed he had Ehlers Danslo Syndrome, and to my astonishment, so did I. For the first time in our lives, all the chronic pain, health issues, and complications made sense. Early diagnosis is the key to reducing the number and severity of injuries and the complications they caused, such as early onset osteoarthritis and osteoporosis. It is a factor and therefore a necessity in order to make all medical decisions. The family doctor was wrong in thinking this was a waste of time and money. I am so crippled up that I began using canes in my 30's, a walker in my 40's and wheelchair in my 50's. My son is 36 and doesn't use any mobility aides. I had a full knee replacement at 47. I have had multiple fractures, and when a fracture happens, the muscle, tendons, and ligaments surrounding the area are severely damaged. However my son's early diagnosis has ensured he doesn't get injuries because he has learned their is a high chance of injury with Ehlers Danslo Syndrome. I was forced to give up my career at 46, and I will never be able to return to work or volunteer in any capacity. I live with depression and panic attacks. This is the one area we are similar and it is because we have had the same difficulties associated with people who tell us they don't believe us . Living with Ehlers Danslo Syndrome means we often feel very unwell or too painful and can't participate in activities. We are left feeling isolated and questioning why??
Both my son and I have Ehlers and it's not easy to cope with all that is going on my body. Getting people to understand this genetic disorder. Hell I didn't understand it either but I was 47 when I was diagnosed. I grew up being told your lazy, your overreacting to pain, your faking it, your a hypochondriac, you're too emotional, you're whiney, you're out of shape, you are looking for sympathy, you like being sick or injured etc. Then there are those that say if you just... All of these hateful inaccurate inappropriate comments changed who I was. It made me self-conscious with no self-esteem. Every doctor I had unfortunately gone to help only created more issues. Medication doesn't work as it should. I went through painful testing where patients are supposed to be sedated, but sedation and freezing don't work on me. I have had teeth pulled when I wasn't frozen, At 7, I was slapped by the dentist across the face because I was screaming as he removed my teeth. I have been ridiculed by health professionals. I was held down against my will and ignored when I told them to stop! I was told to calm down and the medication will work but if your body is unable to metabolize this medication therefore it is like I never took this medicine therefore no matter how calm I was the medication will not do what it was expected to do, therefore my emotions would never have any kind of impact on me. I have been covered with bruises shaped like handprints.
I also struggle with using my cane. I have pots, so having something to lean on is really vital, but when I actually lean on it as much as I need to, the neuropathy in my elbows and wrists goes absolutely haywire 😭 I am trying to learn about other options
So, ive dealt with chronic illness since i was very young, and the pants moment really spoke to me. I remember once, during a flare up, i woke up in pain and needed to take painkillers, but my hands were so stiff and painful that i couldnt physically open the blister pack to get the painkillers out. Its a horrible position to be in, and I'd suggest folks plan for something like that- take your phone with you and ask your caretaker to leave theirs on ring. The guilt will suck, but if they care about you, theyd much rather be able to help than find you in the morning and feel their own guilt of not being able to help.
Naw I definitely feel yal..but it's been some time for me now since 2015 and now I'm 43 lol..so finally making that decision man..😊 I totally understand man..enjoy live it how you should.
Are non-binary and gender neutral people more likely to be autistic than trans people? I wonder what the stats are on that. I only ask because, and I don't know because it is not my experience, but I would think that being trans would mean you would have to pick up on all the social cues or try to emulate one gender. Wouldn't a person just be a mishmash of both if they were doing their own thing? Maybe your innate tendencies independent of social cues skew towards one gender over the other rather than both?
Hi Aaron Years ago this was one of my favorite videos of yours. I had just started with my transition and your youtube-videos were my safe place were I could come home and feel protected from the world. A lot has changed now and I found other safe places and "safe-people" in the real world. Still I am so glad that you provided me a sense of home when I wasnt yet able to find or create one on my own. For that I am forever grateful. ❤
Thanks for sharing your experience. It's good to see everyone's experience because it is equally valid. The fact that you shared this, shows that it's normal to not feel okay after surgery. I will have top surgery in the near future. I have huge hips and stomach and am not on T so This is definitely a concern for me too! I have tried to imagine what I wi ll look like in the mirror and I know it's going to be weird for a while. I'm hoping to get body contouring covered by insurance. For me, I always identified as gender fluid, but menopause made me look more "womanly," and I really began to struggle with my self-image. So, I'm taking it one step at a time. I've decided not to get graphs because I won't have anyone to help me at home post-op. I appreciate the tips you gave about opening the tops of water bottles too!!
I'm like 5 + months into testosterone and you have no idea how many times I've watched this video over and over again because every few weeks I kept getting scared to do it. 😭
I just want to point out that the library also included literature promoting pedophilia. I will never be accepting the normalizing of pedophilia, and I hope I’m not the only one here who feels that way.
