@@Staceypotterphotography I've never been in one without locks (some with locks that are kind of shitty, but none without locks at all) but the gaps in the doors are stupidly wide
there’s this trans girl at my school, and honestly I don’t want her using my bathroom, not because she’s trans but because I’ve heard her say “erm what the sigma” before unironically…
the whole “we’re more scared of you than you are of us” thing is so true. i’m a trans woman and when i go out in public, if i’m not as femininely passing as humanly possible, i will simply not go to the bathroom until i get home. i will just hold it. because the consequences of the wrong person noticing a patch of hair that i forgot to shave or noticing my lack of hips are far more dire than the consequences of me pissing myself. i will only ever go to a public bathroom if i’m all dressed up. it’s so scary to go to the bathroom in a world where everyone thinks you have a disposition for being a predator.
i mean just go to mens room who cares. Women are uncomfortable around men. Especially ones who still have genitals… Its not only about attacking, I think young girls shouldnt see that in that space thats all. Why are you scared to go to mens room? The same reason you wont go in there is the reason women dont want you in their private spaces just respect that
@@thegalhorowitz Oh nooo. Bad idea 😬 Those men will most definitely harass and assault a transwoman. Cis-women are understandably afraid of men but transwomen are not men. Cis-women being scared of transwomen is not supported by statistics but rather ignorance. The actual stats shows that cis-men are the ones worth fearing, especially if you are trans. Did you know that being a trans woman is currently more deadly than being a soldier in the deadliest war in American history aka the US civil war? Transwomen have a 1 in 12 chance of being murdered, transwomen of color have a 1 in 8 chance.. and soldiers have a 1 in 15 chance. If the goal truly is to protect our citizens it should centered around finding ways to protect the lives of our trans brothers, sisters, and non-binary pals.
So done with this comment section. Men have been assaulting women in bathrooms for years. In my teen girls self defense class, we were literally taught not to go into the bathroom when we felt unsafe because it was so common. And the whole "trans panic" wasn't a thing. Men did not dress up, they just walked in and did it. Trans women are not men looking to attack women, and even if one out of every 100 are, they are the VAST minority. I've been assaulted and threatened in bathrooms by men more than once, and not once did they need to dress up. And twice they got away with it still. Trans people are not the problem. It's cis men who feel that they have a right to women's bodies. If women banded together with trans women to call out the real problem, we could make some changes. You know, instead of demonizing someone who is often just as much a victim as we are.
I wonder when women will realize that the people leading this whole “anti trans women in bathrooms idea” are patriarchal men who are trying to distract women from the real issues leading to sexual assault. They don’t want bad things to stop, they want to distract from the bad things they are doing, and these terfs are eating it up like cake.
does cis mean cisgender? And if so does that mean biologically one of the two genders? And if so why not say that? Just a question, you seem like someone who would respectfully answer and help me
@@theinternet6981 then why not keep it how everyone has been saying it to help them understand by saying biological, and not a made up way of saying it?
She’s beautiful🥰 With so many gender nuetral bathrooms out there, it’s not like anyone would know who was trans anyway. I think people should just focus on using the restroom instead of judging others. If they are that concerned for their safety, we can just have private restrooms for the kids 👩🏾🦯
my university campus opened up all inclusive bathrooms where whoever needs to pee or poo can do so with ACTUALLY private stalls. im talking toilets are not in stalls, they are each in their own rooms, with full locking doors, not some wimpy locking mechanisms. and its honestly great.
@@garygray5107 I'd just rather nobody be able to follow me in and break the stall. A predator is much less likely to destroy a bolt lock than a flimsy stall hinge. Use the noggin!
@The_Bean yes but identity still remains key because the only defence is identifying a situation as dangerous. And for now we know that a man in the women's restroom is dangerous. As soon as we allow people who genuinely do look like men into the restroom we open the door for any man to dress up, go into women's restroom, and kidnap/rape.
I've been in a women's bathroom and found out later my friend in the stall was being assaulted by a man. He was not trans, he was not crossdressed. He just walked in at a busy bar and nobody cared.
@orangejello it happens a lot. No one fucking listens. You'd be surprised how often people won't say anything if something bad is happening to someone else. A lot of people have the "None of my business. I don't want to get involved" mindset
You have to be an extra idiot to think that this is a proper response to the concern. If a man wants to go into the women’s bathroom to assault women all he has to do is CLAIM he’s trans. THATS the issue everyone has. Normal people notice a full grown man storming into a bathroom to commit assault
I know! People act like random men are willing to spend thousands upon thousands of dollars to change their gender just so they can commit crimes in a public restroom? Imbeciles
I understand that you may not feel safe using the men's bathroom, locker room at the gym, etc so, why can't you understand women feel the same about being forced to share their spaces with men? Why do your feelings trump their rights?
@@Ultraconix thank you for these words; I agree with you 100%. I pray for the lgbtq people as well in hopes they will realize there mistakes and turn to our lord and savior.
@Ultraconix Trans existence isn't harming trans people, make it make sense. Having to live with dysphoria because transphobic conservatives and/or Christians are butthurt is harmful to trans people.
I walked into the restroom and there was a trans person in there. I had no issue with it, said hi. They rushed out quickly with their head down. I'm sure they waited until it was empty before they went in.
as someone who has trans friends, its pretty hellish for them. one was a trans man who couldnt go to the restroom without either being seen as a man if he went to the womens, or being seen as a woman in the mens. hes better now that hes been on hormones for a while but seeing the struggle they go through for something as simple as relieving themselves is just depressing.
Because they’re embarrassed and afraid of what someone will do. People drag them out and bully the innocent ones while being blind to actual predators. Even if there is that one bad trans person people only care that they’re trans then blame the entire community and label them.
@@cerb1221 Ok, but as long as my daughter is safe from any men entering the bathroom by posing as women. It does happen. There should be laws against that to protect children. I'm sick of all this trans privilege.
@@A-432-Zoneyour worry is not about trans people.. it’s about gross men who use gross tactics to do their gross things. Trans people use the bathroom for the same reason everyone else does, excluding them from the bathroom they need to be in puts them in possible danger. Forcing transitioning/transitioned trans women to use the men’s bathroom would result in a lot of UTI’s, not to mention the trans boys that would be forced to use the women’s bathroom.
I've been walked in on by a man in a small women's bathroom multiple times. even followed there. thank you. Men can and will harm you however they please. it doesn't take a bad wig and poorly applied lipstick to hurt someone
That is true, yet also there is an element of giving an inch and taking a mile, giving predators who previously would not have considered this an option. My main reason for considering this is the rise in sexual offenders self-identifying to gain access to female prison systems. It doesnt occur with the ftm trans community so clearly there is something in that. Plus women have fought hard for the small amount of space that we do have, why should we be made to feel guilty for feeling discomfort simply for agreeableness sake?
@Mary Kilbane it's straight men hiding. You are also twisted in your logic, saying Trans men are the offenders. Again. They are not. It's straight men pretending. Are yall really that dense and ignorant? I could say the same about all the gun violence, give everyone a mile by having access to guns so we can get shot up at the grocery store. Don't you feel guilty?
@@noonesishome you can definitely complain if someone’s being a creep. There’s a difference between someone being in there creeping/committing a crime and someone just trying to pee without wanting to kill themself or be killed
That could be better hate speech and transfer but you know that right Cause I'll make a joke about being trans At all the side and I get my comments blocked for hate speech Even i'm gonna tell you right now that was fucking hilarious Now tell you a story about this transferbit asshole But it can't because it has transfer big slars And youtube is about as smart as a Mentally challenged garden slug
@@tommyapples8490 yeah. i don't think the women are going to approve it. and it should be up to women. can't take away rights from other people. everyone has unisex stalls. we all be happy. end of story
@@o-kiku3939 both sides just want to do whatever they aren't supposed to. Men wanna go in women's room, women want to use the men's room. (Trans that is)
Nobody is going to change their whole identity to walk into a bathroom and assault someone, they’re just going to walk as themselves. You think someone who disregards the law and has no morals would feel conflicted about going into a woman’s bathroom? They have no problem assaulting someone but going into the wrong bathroom suddenly crosses a line for them?
@@heepofreepsexe so u need majority of assaults to rpve that has happened.. why can't they respect women privacy... If they want respect let them also respect... That's it... There are different bathrooms for men and women does it mean it's discrimination.. no... I don't think any woman would feel comfortable having an unknown male in her private space
@@sharonrebeccajames1209 As a female, I'm perfectly fine with a trans woman going into a public bathroom. It's not "my private space", it's a place to piss or shit and then leave. So many people act like the bathroom is some sacred place but it's literally just a piss and shit hole, essentially.
It also should be noted that if trans people are banned from bathrooms, a cis man could just go into the woman's bathroom and say "hey I'm a trans man I'm supposed to be here" just as easily.
@@dOlli3cOutur3? I was referring to if trans people were banned from bathrooms cis men could just walk in and claim they're a trans men so they have to be there (I might not understand your comment)
@@dOlli3cOutur3 they mean that a cis man could pose as a trans man, aka ftm, which would mean they could use the womens bathroom. cause if trans ppl have to use whichever they were asab (assigned sex at birth), then thats another situation where cis ppl can pretend theyre trans to gain access in places
A person with malicious intent is simply a person no matter what they might identify as or their sexuality, stop putting the trans community all together in a circle n calling us pedos n such.
the whole “trans people are dangerous cause public washrooms” thing NEVER made sense to me because literally nothing is stopping a cis man from doing the same thing
Maybe not , but definitely a man is more visible and raising lots of flags walking into a female bathroom that a person with long hair a heels (they blend in ). Toxic is playing a victim when you are a predator ( not all trans are , but specifically Dylan voicing his opinions to rally group of very sad, vulnerable teens and young adults, who are confused and want support and they find all those wolfs in sheep's skin)
@Mike Mc True but in that case more restrictive protocols for gun owning can help, especially those that ensure that gun owners are properly trained, are mentally able to have that responsibility and fully know their legal responsibility from owning a gun, it would especially help prevent a lot of suicides
@@raulponce9012 unfortunately people are extremely against stuff like that wich is why a father can beat his kids and wife and attempt to shoot them with a shot gun and still get shared custody, keep his guns and not go to jail. My father is living proof of that.
Then why does it matter who we include in bathrooms anyway if everyone’s free to do as they wish? Why is the bathroom debate such a huge topic if the sign stops no one???
@@raulponce9012 That's why I think learning about guns should be a required class in school. You don't need a carry license if everyone is properly trained. Like how everyone is expected to know how to read and basic math. You'd be learning in stages. Not actively using a firearm until you're in high school. But still studying them throughout all of school. And the cool thing is, if you decide you don't like guns as an adult, you can choose to just not buy one. Simple.
I was at a gas station and a man followed me into the bathroom. When I said “hey. Women only” he said “well it’s 2023. I identify as a woman”. I said whatever and let him. I wasn’t in the mood to argue. So he walked in with me and when I went in the stall he kept kicking at my door to let him in. Finally I called my dad crying and he came In the bathroom with the manager and got him out Edit: and for the people saying “well why do you have to hate Trans people”. I never ONCE said I hate the community. I hate that people use “I’m trans” to get away with crap like this. What would’ve happened if I didn’t call for help. I probably would’ve been raped or killed. It’s just sad that people (male, female, etc) have to deal with that thought of “what if this person isn’t actually trans and wants to harm me”.
You hit the nail on the head right there -the world is so fkd up because ANYONE can now simply SAY they “identify as a woman”, and use this insanity to assault women. This “gender fluid” nonsense intensifies the risks for real women to be harmed. It’s bad enough that women are already susceptible to men entering their bathrooms; now, the danger has been heightened by trans men.
@@karanvijay5902 I never said I hated them…. They just need their own bathrooms so girls AND GUYS don’t get awkward🤷♀️ all I’m saying. I’m not hating or judging anyone
@@karanvijay5902 this is a very unhelpful response to someone telling their experience. Do you realize how weird it is and how insecure you look to pop in just to say “ok yeah but, just remember not to generalize!” Don’t be the “not all men” guy. No one is saying all men do/will do this.
Literally. I'm thankful my high school had them because while I am trans myself, I current cannot transition due to financial issues and that unisex bathroom was heavens to me. I used it all the time because I wasn't comfortable using the mens restroom but didn't want to make the women in the women's restroom uncomfortable
Literally why are you looking so hard at other people in the bathroom? Who has the time? You go in, do your business, and leave. Why are ya’ll assuming you’ll be jumped by a trans person? Like I’ve gone to bathrooms with trans people and I am a cis woman. Not ONCE have I felt I was in danger because we all go to the bathroom to do the same thing: use it, wash our hands, and go live our lives. Ya’ll are making this bigger than it has to be.
pervert cis men has the time, to dress like a woman and pretend to be trans and look at other people. and use the Oh im not a guy, im trans’ excuse. it’s not real trans women who does that
Based. We should all be uncomfortable and scrambling to get out of the bathroom as fast as possible regardless of what gender and sex is being allowed in there /gen Public restrooms are so gross
any man goes into the bathroom while my underage daughter is in there are gonna have some seruous problems..there men..there not woman anyone who tells them they are feeding into their delusions..if you really wanted to help these people youd tell them their beautiful in thier own body..post up after 8 years statistically speaking far more likely to kill themselves because sooner or later they realise they are not in the body of the opposite sex there just in now a mutulated body...would you give someone with anorexia lipo suction? a generation of mutlated people history will look at this period like lobotomys in the 20s so many ruined lives for ideolgy and money
@@johnwayne7673 could you provide a source on that 8 year thing? That could genuinely have a huge effect on my opinion on trans people. So far every study I’ve seen has suggested that trans people are happier after transitioning, so this is could be insanely important if a study like this has come out
@@anothernerd6464Nah that guy is full of crap. Trans people are almost always happier and healthier after transitioning, less than 1% of people regret transitioning, and some of those who do detransition are doing so because other people in their lives made them feel unsafe. The high suicidality rate is entirely because trans people aren’t fully accepted by society. It makes us feel very scared and depressed.
@sam iam ok then it just so happens that one person who was in your case , just happened to be trans and bi, at some point we need to realise, theres always gonna be one or two monsters amongst every group out there Like zandy is still right, no person becomes trans to commit those acts, when ANYONE, trans/cis man/female can easily just go in and DO the act without the extra steps. if you know what im trying to say. the idea that all transwomen are men who wanna prey on women in the female bathrooms is simply not true. that is im hoping you arent a troll making up a story for a reaction.
Worked at a public theater for ten years. Had two incidents where the bathrooms were not a safe place. 1.) A married couple who was pissed off at two women for telling them to shut up in the movie & even got staff to tell the couple they needed to be quiet or would be asked to leave, the husband went into the women’s room & punched one of the women. The other one was able to get out of there & we were able to intervene before he could do more damage. 2.) This preteen/teen girl with special needs always came to see movies & her helper was a nun. There was one time we caught them in a sexual encounter in the women’s room. Fact is…danger comes in a variety of forms & unfortunately we live in very unsafe times. It’s not Trans People who are the threat. It’s just People.
Yep. The one time I was attacked in a women's bathroom... It was another woman. People forget it's not genitals or clothing that makes places unsafe, it's behaviour. I couldn't care less if a cis dude comes and uses the ladies toilet, as long as he isn't behaving inappropriately. I guarantee everyone at some point has been in a public restroom with a trans person also there, they just didn't know, because they're just there for the same reason as everyone else. They need to pee!
@@daisyadele967 except all these laws want to force some men to use women's toilets. And force some women to use men's toilets. ALL women should be able to use women's toilets. And ALL men should be able to use men's toilets.
@@daisyadele967making trans people use bathrooms that correspond to their assigned gender at birth is indirectly allowing the same thing to happen. a cis man could claim he's a fully transitioned trans man who's supposed to be in the women's bathroom and attack whoever he pleases. setting down laws to make it so trans people can't use the bathroom that suits them better only serves to make more people feel worse, it doesn't do anything for actual protection.
There's reasons why the bathrooms were originally separated, and that was to protect people, especially women and children. Allowing everyone the option to use whichever they feel like using isn't protecting anyone in fact, it's making it even more dangerous. There's a difference between someone being completely transitioned using the women's bathroom because they don't have that something that can be used as a weapon against women and children. In a perfect world, we wouldn't have to worry about all the fakes and perverted ones taking advantage of the community, but that just isn't the case. Because this is the real world, the safety of women and children needs to come before the .5%. Which the percentage is probably even lower than that because we are only talking about those that haven't gone through the surgeries yet.
As a cis woman, I hardly find trans people are the problem. Granted, I've never had an encounter with a trans woman in a bathroom, but I did have an encounter with a transphobic cis woman who threatened to attack me in the women's bathroom because she mistook me for being trans. She based her assumption on the fact that my hair was short and my bust was small. I couldn't even be bothered to try to explain to her that we're all born with different body shapes and I just ended up leaving and waiting until I was sure she left the bathroom so I could go use it in peace. So much about "we can always tell", huh.
Yep, I was 14 the first time I was harassed in a bathroom, I didn't even know trans people existed. But because I was making her uncomfortable (despite being alone in the bathroom till she entered with security) I needed to prove to her I wasn't a man. How was I supposed to do this? Oh yeah, by showing her I didn't have a penis. When I refused (obviously) I was called a pedophile and screamed at to leave (which I had been about to do when she walked in). So an adult demanded a child exposure their genitals and then called them a pedophile when they rightly refused. Oh, and she was blocking the door and telling me to stay away from her while screaming at me to get out. I can't leave if you won't let me.
@eee ee propaganda? No, the problem is people feeling entitled to commenting on and approaching other people in an aggressive way. Has nothing to do with the person or the setting. It’s entirely about people harassing others unprovoked.
@eee ee so trans women are getting harassed for trying to use a private bathroom stall. cis women are getting caught in the crosshair. and that's somehow our fault?? just stop harassing people who want to take a shit, wash their hands, and leave just like the rest of y'all!!
“We are not afraid of trans people coming into the bathroom, we are afraid of cis men pretending to be trans coming into the bathroom”- a friend I used to have Edit: oh LMAO thanks for all the likes I didn’t mean for it to get so controversial in the replys tho 😭🤌 here’s a cookie to anyone who’s reading this 🍪 don’t forget to drink water
@@alexthomson2202 well they certainly did not tell you to mind your own business and to not invalidate other people's experiences without knowing what you're talking about. there are tons of scientific research that proves the existence of trans people, if you actually cared you can simply google but ig you just don't want to shake your vulnerable preexistant believes
Yeah, statistics probably show cis men are responsible for more assaults proportionally than trans women (proportionally meaning factoring in the number of cis men vs. trans women) yet the media will report all over if a trans person assaults someone
Yes thank you, I saw a comment a few months ago about a woman who was attacked by a trans woman and she was advocating against trans women using womens bathrooms and while I do feel for her and don’t sympathize at all with the woman that assaulted her it was so sad to see that she became a transphobe cause of it.
It can definitely be related. Allot of "trans" people abuse the system that people absolutely advocate for to sexually assault and sexually harass. If we made bathrooms for trans people that'd be great. Pull a South Park I think they handled it absolutely right.
I worked with a transperson who was in the middle of transitioning (very different 30 years ago than now), and they were scared to death to go to the bathroom. They wanted me to go in with them for safety.
I feel the same way, I haven't begun transition but I already know I am trans. I do not walk into the women's restroom knowing that I look like a man and sadly am forced to dress as masculine, however, when I can I'd always ask a friend to go into the mens' restroom with me knowing how short I am and a feminine face I have. I've gotten weird stares to and I haven't even begun transitioning. They especially get weirded out when I talk because they wonder why my voice is so high pitch. It's just something that trans people have to endure.
@@gabrielrubio7388 yeah, I have a dude I'm friends with who just straight up refuses to go into the mens because he's scared of the other men in there, and what they'd think.
@@gabrielrubio7388 you're not trans, buddy. Look at the overwhelming majority of the population and look at how they view this.. Find security in being how nature created you. If youre gay, be gay. If straight, be straight. You cant choose who you're attracted to, nor can you choose what gender you were born as.
@@gabrielrubio7388or you could of never messed with yourself and then things would be how they are meant to be. You were created male by a big great God who knows the outcomes of everything that is ever done…. You should be happy to be male and that you don’t have to feel like your inside are attempting to become your outsides once a month. If you ever pass as female then be prepared for men to look down at you for not being a male even though you will always be a male 😅 how weird is that huh… it’s just how it is…. I have no clue why any male would ever want to be a woman…. If you just have a fetish you really need to kill that thing quickly. It shouldn’t live very long or serve you any good in the long run. If you get the down below removed remember it doesn’t ever grow back you only have the one. That’s just wild to me that any male would want to deal with some of the crap that I’ve dealt with. You sir have lost your marbles, I pray the best for you that you find them once again. I assume you weren’t born insane. 😅 I don’t think anyone really is born to be nuts 🤔
See reading the comments, one thing everyone has in common is 1. Men will attack no matter what and 2. Bathrooms are not a safe space. This isn't a trans person problem. It's just a society problem we need to focus on instead of attacking trans people for just existing.
You state that Men will attack no matter what but are happy to defend Men that disguise themselves as women and enter Womens toilets thus invading a female safespace.....you must be a recent Ivy league graduate.
That's the problem though. Transwomen don't want there to be any boundaries. No one will question a grown ass man that looks like a man and has a penis, because he can claim he's trans. That's the problem. No boundaries and then we give predators more access. How do people not understand this? If a transwoman is really trans you would think they would fully transition before they try to go into a women's restroom and risk making biological women uncomfortable. Like, come on now. This should be common sense.
If a man walks into the bathroom to attack a woman, women stick together and call for help. In the future they won't call for help or do anything to respond to any potential threat, because they won't know if that person might identify as trans & they won't want to offend. It will be much safer to have individual unisex stalls in the future.
@@DamianShivelyit does not, bc ppl can tell if a cis man is dressing as a women and just going in the bathroom pretending to be a woman, they would just go and assault and get out bc it really just is that easy
@@pshceluver2899it’s not even really about actual trans people. It’s about men who would abuse the trans loophole that would allow them to go into a women’s bathroom. If anyone would confront them about it they could just say I identify as a women and all of a sudden it’s supposed to be okay bc of inclusion. Like where do we draw the line? At self identification or an actual transformation?if we let anyone who just identifies as a woman into the women’s restroom you are going to see a lot more bad intentioned men posing as trans women to get in. An example is the man that went into a women’s spa room with his dick out and it was allowed cuz he said he identified as a women. There was little girls in there. If he didn’t say he was a women he would have been arrested for public exposure and/or sexual assault. but bc he said he was a women in a women’s spa room where women aren’t fully clothed it was okay.
@@DamianShivelyyes, it can. Men are so freaking smart nowadays. If men can dress up like clowns just to hurt kids. Why do you think a man not gonna dress up like a woman to identify just to rape women. A lot of men had done that shit already in Alabama. They should give trans people their own bathroom just to be safe as nowhere to be safe. You gotta think smart stop thinking the obvious. People are dumb and will do a lot of things to do illegal stuff. Number two I don’t think most women wouldn’t be comfortable having trans women in the bathroom, especially with their lil girls. Yes, trans women are not safe in boy's bathrooms but trust me women can be evil too so to keep everyone safe. I think just add a trans bathroom.
Are there trans people who also have a history or intention of sexual assault? Yes. I can think of 2 cases off the top of my head. Does that mean that you get to treat every trans person like a likely sexual predator? No. You are much more likely to actually find a sexual predator among cis people than among trans people *and* you are more likely to find victims of sexual assault among trans people than among cis people.
That’s the problem though. Cis people posing as trans people so they can be creeps and get away with it easier. The problem is that when you allow trans people to use either bathroom, that opens the door for anyone to freely walk into the bathroom of the opposite sex. So a cis man can walk into the women’s bathroom and no one’s allowed to say anything about it or kick him out because of “inclusivity”. No one is just flat out saying trans people are predators. If that’s what you think we’re saying then you’re missing the point. The problem is that the true predators, now have easier access than they did before.
This is what conservatives seem to forget, trans people are more likely to be victims of assault rather than be the perpetrators. And the trans community as a whole would hate on anyone within the community who is predatory, they would rather be on the side of victims even if the perpetrator was trans.
I agree on that last part, but no matter what we do to try to fix the problem, there is always going to be someone out there recreating that problem, to staring a new one. That’s just how the world is
Do you have a penis ? Use the males bathroom. Got a vagina use the females. Issue is Americans and Europe describe bathrooms by gender. Last time I checked genders do have specific genital requirements.
DNA chromosome do NOT change from XY male to XX demale. Dylan is a transvestite man. He will ALWAYS be a man! He should use a XY male's bathroom. I could care less if he wants to wear a dress & makeup as a MAN! Thats his choice.
Yeah, fun fact: as Dylan says, it is not technically against the law for a man to enter a women's restroom - and yet they did just pass a law in my state where it :is: illegal for a transgender man or woman to enter the mens or womens restrooms, respectively. I just want to know; and absolutely feel free to correct me or enlighten me as to your own laws, wherever y'all live, but... Where are our priorities when a CIS man can walk into the women's restroom before a Trans woman can?
A trans is still a biological man. Stop doing these mental gymnastics and learn to read the news of all of the physical, sexual, and verbal attacks that the trans are doing to women when they enter our bathrooms and other spaces.
Not disagreeing with you I just want to point out that they might not pass that kind of law because many mothers bring in their little boys into the women's restrooms in case they're not old enough to go the bathroom alone or they can't yet be left on their own in public. For a law like that to be passed they would have to define first if those little kids count already as men, what defines a man and when are they old enough to be considered a "threat" in a women's restroom. A law like that would just give us more issues than solve them. I wish there weren't any of these divisive gender laws to begin with
@@ginandromeda1618 I feel as though minors; already being considered less than capable of consent should be considered exempt from any hypothetical bathroom laws, :but:, but, but... :can: be tried as adults in cases where that minor dealt intentional and excessive harm to the again-hypothetical victim. Public restrooms are, of course, public- so then it's the users discretion. You can choose to use them in the knowledge that something objectively uncomfortable; as a product of the public, may occur. That said, assault cases regardless of gender occuring in the restroom aren't met with "Well did it happen in the bathroom?" in court cases - but the fact that an assault may have occured in such a space can determine a definite intent.
@@Keepersoftheflame If you're speaking from a personal experience with maybe some particular laws, could you list a couple for me to look into? -or maybe you're suggesting they're :all: pretty damn concerning(?).
It’s funny hearing so many debates in these comments. I’m a trans man and so many times have I just seen men walk into the womens restrooms. No not trans women, not crossdressers, not people who looked like they were trying to pass but weren’t, men. If a person (because men get assaulted too) wanted to walk into a specific gendered bathroom and assault someone they wouldn't go so far out of their way to pretend being trans to do so. They'll just do it. I've seen women and men just full-on go into opposite-gender bathrooms and no one bats an eye. But as soon as my trans ass just goes into women's or men's to take a quick pee everyone freaks tf out. Even when I've gone to gender-neutral bathrooms I've been assaulted by cis people. ME going into the gender-neutral bathroom to avoid problems because im trans gets assaulted by cis people in a gender-neutral bathroom. SAlters are just going to do what they want. They aren't gonna put on a dress, a wig, makeup, and raise the pitch of their voice just to go into a bathroom and assault someone they will just do it. This argument about trans people wanting to prey on people in bathrooms is so dumb to me cause every trans person I've ever met/talked to has some of the worst bladder problems known to man because we just hold ourselves and won't use a public restroom because of dysphoria and scrutiny from others. I've been told so many times by guys that they'll SA me since “I wanna be a man” just because I went into the men's room to piss. Girls have shit-talked me when they see me or hear me in the restroom and since sophomore year of high school I've just learned to hold myself. I promise you if you see or think you see a trans person using the restroom they are just in there to go and dip as quickly as possible. We aren't looking at anybody and we aren't even focused on anything besides going and getting out as fast as we can.
This is the point I've always made. Those big stall bathrooms are inherently unsafe to EVERYONE. Real inclusivity, and really protecting people, means individual stall with bolt lock.
@@danteortega6510 let people do what they want with their bodies - it's no harm to you • laws already exist against indecent exposure and assault in _any_ context
@@danteortega6510 They feel comfortable in their body. A mans body. They dont need help you do. This is none of your concern. So please get your transphobic self away. Thank you
Totally. It's interesting how little these commenters actually say in their posts, but how much hate and disrespect biological women receive in these aforementioned posts. Unbelievable. If you're a man, stay out of a woman's bathroom. I went in a woman's bathroom one time to change my daughter. I stood outside and asked women what I should do. They kept me safe for the three minutes I was in there. I made sure, after that, changing stations went into their men's room.
Okay that was pretty funny Yes we're going to pass them to be Then one guy that knew I was trans He comes up and he's looking at me I come out the girl's bathroom Ain't you like oh my god you went in there I'm about why you're going there Ah kevin please look at me Do you think I want to go in that bathroom looking like this Do you think i'm gonna take these two little girls into a bathroom that's male Look at me, Kevin. I'm wearing a mini dress heels and not to mention I mean just like my boss I said nay do you know what's happening you startling because I'll kill you Kevin do you think I really feed you my hormones Hell no boy I need it for myself But I had to go girls with me Betham called me mommy And believe me they were better off with me than the biological mother Who was imprisoned at the time And even her own mother said I made a better mother to her grandkids than her own daughter Now I don't look like a woman any more really because I lost my hormones And even though i'm very feminine for a male looking thing I'll never get back what I had But that doesn't talk my twenty eight year old daughter from calling me mom Or my two lebron kids from calling me nana And I still going to female bathrooms And once the woman started talking with me they realized one thing They're not a man that's a girl Ivan had one tell me that I was more girl than most curly girls she knew And I hadn't been on hormones in fourteen years I didn't bring her a picture from the nineties and shower She asked me if that was my sister I No that's me
Trans people are targeted specifically for being trans. In fact, trans people are 4x more likely to be victims of violent crimes. At that point, it becomes monkeys in a barrel.
@@PhDofUselessNawlige I know that, and to be honest I only use the disabled toilet these days because I use a wheelchair, but if toilets were rethought, made more private, which probably isn’t going to happen.
Everyone who wants trans people to use the bathroom of the sex they were assigned at birth just immediately tells me they’ve never seen a trans person before. Trust me there are PLENTY of trans men that would make women feel uncomfortable if they had to use the same bathrooms as them.
So true. It seems like when ppl think of trans people they only consider the female pov when there is the male pov as well. Like some guy just walking into a woman’s bathroom but he’s trans. I don’t think this is considered during the discussion.
The reason I’m against it is bc I seen a mugshot of a perfectly looking trans woman that fit the image and they got arrested for raping a 10 year old girl. I am for the children more than what an adult wants to do with their life. Smh
And you also won’t a MAN to piss in the woman’s bathroom is ok you would be fine with a man pissing in there is basically what your saying you have 0 issue with it
It’s crazy because if she walked into a men’s bathroom, you know she’d get some weird stares. There’s no winning with these people. They just don’t want trans people to use the bathroom, or quite frankly, exist.
@@erickricharson5196 being "biologically male" has nothing to do with what pronouns she can use. it's almost as if gender and sex are two different things or something! man, that would be wild, wouldn't it?
Any self-respecting sexual predator would dress as a janitor. Wolves never wear sheep’s clothing. They wear sheepdog’s clothing. Cause it’s cheaper and it fits better.
@@eliza1826dawg they aren't blaming janitors, they're saying it's easier and more efficient for a predator to dress up as a janitor then go through the whole gender swap process, which takes years.
Protect from what? Trans women have been using women’s restrooms all your life. Where is the evidence that Trans inclusion causes women to be less safe. Organisations dedicated to helping women and survivors like Rape Crisis, Women’s Aid, Refuge, Me Too, Time’s Up, Women's March, Planned Parenthood, Ms. Foundation, 3% Movement, National Women's Law Center, Gloria Steinem, WomanKind, UN Women, Everyday Sexism Project, ACLU, National Organisation for Women, Asian/Pacific Islander Domestic Violence Resource Project, Abortion Access Front, California Partnership to End Domestic Violence A Call to Men, Center for Reproductive Rights, Kentucky Coalition Against Domestic Violence, South Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, The National Network of Abortion Funds, National Network to End Domestic Violence The National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma, and Mental Health, Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence, CT Coalition Against Domestic Violence, West Virginia Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Iowa Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Idaho Coalition Against Sexual & Domestic Violence, Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence, National Resource Center on Domestic Violence, DC Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Georgia Coalition Against Domestic, Minnesota Indian Women's Sexual Assault Coalition, the Women's Legal Defense and Education Fund, Ohio Domestic Violence Network, DOVE (Domestic Violence Ended), Inc, The Women Worldwide Initiative, Inc, Angela Davies, Anita Saarkesian, Gabrielle Union, Jessica Valenti etc have all supported Transgender Inclusion as safe. The people who say that Transgender inclusion is a threat to women are The Daily Mail, Donald Trump, The Tories, Jordan Peterson, The Sun, The BNP, Matt Walsh, Ben Shapiro, Tucker Carlson, Piers Morgan, Julia Hartley-Brewer and Andrew Tate, who have always been against Women’s Rights. What does that tell you?
This is what I’ve been sayin for years. I live in constant fear of being SA’d for simply being trans, but people view ME as a predator! GOD I’m so FUCKIN TIRED of this worldwide hate campaign recently!
I once knew a trans kid in school who wrote an essay on the problems with gendered bathrooms, and the opening paragraph was always one that stuck with me. It talked about the perspective of a trans man, born a girl, standing between two gendered bathrooms. He just so happens to be wearing a pink top and painted nails that day. He realizes that if he were to walk into the men’s bathroom, he would be at risk of being assaulted by the men in there for being effeminate, or even assumed as trans. But, if he were to walk into the women’s bathroom, it’s very likely that all the other women in there would be uncomfortable or worried about a man being in their bathroom. People complain about trans people in bathrooms all the time. On how uncomfortable it makes them feel, when very little understand what it’s actually like in our shoes. It’s a lose-lose scenario, we either make others uncomfortable or risk being uncomfortable/assaulted.
It's always funny how trans men just existing basically blows apart transphobic arguments. They have such a hate boner for trans women that they forget that trans men are the complete opposite side of the spectrum
So am I not allowed to feel uncomfortable that a man, that says he is the same gender as me, is just pretending to be a women and use the stall right next to me? That’s not ok.
@@kenzie_ss if you can't tell that there a man why would you care also why are you uncomfortable with someone using the bathroom next to you everybody has to use the bathroom no matter what gender they are and I prefer to use whatever's comfortable to me I'm here to make myself comfortable not you that's how life works
the bathroom logic is just always so funny to me "ah yes nobody's gonna attack anyone if the bathroom has a gendered sign in it" meanwhile ungendered bathrooms are literally the same as gendered ones and two people of the same gender can attack each other also never understood why the male's bathroom is so unprivate?? like where's the separations, I don't think anyone is comfortable with seeing each other pee..?
Men don’t care you can look at my pee all you want I got nothing to hide. If I walked into a female bathroom alarms would immediately go off and I would have woman yelling at me. If I walk in a dress and make up not one’s going to say anything. it’s much easy to hurt someone when you have time to plan out an attack and read the room, you likely wouldn’t get that time as a normal male.
@@sophia-ui6bu doubt it helps, you don't need to be "a dude" to attack people, and you can do it anywhere publicly and most people won't even interfere, want public bathrooms to be safe? put some type of guard in there, not "🚺person with skirt" "🚹person" signs
Beautifully said. Attackers will just attack they aren’t going to go the extra mile and it’s disgusting that people will accuse an entire group of people for those reasons. Just because someone happens to identify a certain way and they do a crime it doesn’t mean that everyone else who identifies the same as that criminal, are criminals too.
You sound naive . A lot of transwomen specifically transition because their life gets easier then.(Lia Thomas for example). Its not an extra mile. Like Dylan is an attention whore and what happened after he started doing trans stuff? He became very famous before he tried and failed multiple times. Also you can get away with assaulting people easier because if you assault a woman and you are a woman also(even though you are not) you will get less of a sentence and unlike before you can do it way easier. If a biological guy beats you up , he beat up a woman(even though he didn't) so you can act like a victim. Like recently there was a trans weight lifter who mocked biological women because "they are weak". So a biological man identified as a woman just to beat him and he lifted 100kg more than the transwoman and then the complaining started of how disrespectful the guy is and transwoman turned himself into a victim. A lot of these people just happened to be weak men so when they become women they suddenly are at the top. Again will use Lia Thomas as an example. As a guy he was 400 something ranked swimmer. As a woman number 1.
Chris Chan, Jessica Yaniv, Lea Thomas was flashing HIS junk in the girls’ locker room. Murderers and rapeseeds who suddenly change their pronouns to they/them and said they’re trans so they can get to women’s jail, shall I go on?!
Years ago I was cornered by a man in the women’s bathroom in my office building. The bathroom had two stalls and he hid in the stall closest to the door so that he could trap whoever came in after him. I made it out without being physically harmed, luckily, but the discomfort of the situation has never left me. I have zero fear of a trans person in the bathroom, because I (and they) know who the real predator is.
as a trans man i don’t go into men’s bathrooms not because im trans bc of men that make me scared i always try to use gender neutral or disabled when i can
@@DOJOfficial. Think about it, some of us trans guys have feminine features and it can be easy to tell that we aren’t cisgender. So, us walking into a room sometimes full of men can be scary, because of the chance of getting assaulted.
Through all this bs drama about trans folks, does anyone wonder why they always assume the worst in these made-up situations? "A trans woman wants to just harass women in restrooms" Does she? Or is that what you would do in a women's restroom, Mike? 'Cause I got the feeling Mike thinks trans women think like him, rather than using the restroom like a normal fucking person.
Do you not understand that "she" is "he"? Do you not get how women can't possibly know the difference between someone who is truly suffering from gender-disphoria versus someone just playing a part to get an easy "PEEP SHOW"?
Facts. We have more tendencies to get attacked in an open park, grocery stores, at mcdonalds and on the streets than in an enclosed public restroom. Trust me, you just want to hate. You hate that other people can be themselves and live happier lives so you want to try to make their lives miserable like yours is. period.
Yes it is a possibility of a transwomen attacking you, but it’s not more than someone who isn’t trans. A man won’t go through years of ridicule, hormone therapy, etc just so he can touch someone. It’s okay to have fears and be skeptical, especially as a woman, but please try to think about your fears from a rational perspective. Trans people are about 2% of the US population, a lot of them victims of sexual assault themselves Edit: I’m aware there are cases of this happening, im not debating that. But there are transgender women who go on hormones and get surgeries, yet they’re still accused of this. And, how would you even go about making it so transwomen can’t use the women’s bathroom?? What are you gonna do?? Go “show me your birth certificate “ or “do you have a penis”???
@@franklinloll2229ou don't really know that, a lot of people are closeted) didn't realise it yet. Most of the percentage you see about the numbers of queer people are just guesses. Plus 0,5% of the US population is still around 1,5 milion people
But this has actually happened... specifically in prison!! When your a straight man serving out a life sentence for rape and murder its really not that shocking to see a predictor going to great lengths to gain access to vulnerable women in an enclosed space
@@auroraborealis4320It has? I'd love it if you linked me an article of at least one case where a man pretending to be trans went inside a restroom and harassed someone. Just one 🥺
a transgender could literally harass a woman and get away with it by simply denying it( if there's no other witnesses ). a man can never get away with such thing, and would get in trouble regardless cuz he shouldn't be there in the first place
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Idk i think we should have individually locking unisex bathrooms, take having more than one person out of the equation entirely. I have no problem with any specific group being in my bathroom, but I'd honestly prefer to be in there alone. IBS problems 😬
this is why i never go to the toilet at school tbh not only are they gross but i gotta wait for the dryer to turn on or something before i can comfortably poop lol. that’s my biggest problem not someone who looks like a woman but has a penis
I took a Gender Studies course at Texas Christian University (it's a real course & it's not as useless as Conservatives think), & I read in our textbook at 1 point that roughly 7% of the U.S. population (or about 1 in 15 people) is openly in the LGBT+ community, but only a fraction of them are actually in the T category (less then half of 1 in 100 people), so even for Republican politicians, FOX News hosts, & Conservative RU-vidrs, their blatant anti-transgender propaganda makes no logical sense (on top of being morally wrong) because they're attacking the minority group of a minority group.
1.6 million trans/nb americans. 320 million cia. Thwre has been 14 cis schoolshooters and 3 rrans achool shooters this year. Works out to about trans are 44.45 times more likely to shoot up a school rhan a cis person
1.6 million trans/nb americans. 320 million cia. Thwre has been 14 cis schoolshooters and 3 rrans achool shooters this year. Works out to about trans are 44.45 times more likely to shoot up a school rhan a cis person
Think the thing is measures are actively taken against that. While for the trans thing its just no pushback at all. its just yeah do whatever you want. at least it feels like that to alot of people@@5ammy1205
@@5ammy1205yeah but imagine a man walking in a woman’s bathroom, that might make woman uncomfortable, so it also makes woman uncomfortable if a man pretends to be a woman and go to the washroom
THIS IS WHAT IVE BEEN SAYING FOR SOO LONG. LIKE HELLO?? YOU THINK A CREEPY ASS DUDE IS GONNA GO THROUGH THOSE LENGTHS.. WHEN HE CAN JUST.. WALK IN?? NO..
Yes a creepy ass dude will go through those lengths and it’s has happened many times before. You want examples? Oklahoma Transgender student assault, Michael Martinez sexual assault, Isla Bryson, Shane Jacob Green: search them up
Try again. Men dress up as women and go assault women in the womens restroom. One news story i heard, the girl was raped and then the school turned on the girls rightly angry father, called him a terrorist, and the girl has been suspended from that school when its the boy who raped her who should be facing jail time.
@@samanthaelena4812 surely they'd just dress up as a janitor or go as they are and pretend to be a trans man, rather than dressing up "as a woman" (which most men find emasculating)
This is the best way I've heard it expressed. The real predators aren't following the rules, a bathroom sign isn't going to stop them. Trans people are more likely to be attacked, let them feel safe too.
This. Trans people are so much more likely to be attacked in any everyday situation. If I saw a women in the bathroom and had a hunch that she’s trans I’m not gonna say shit. Because it doesn’t matter to me. If a trans woman tried to go in the men’s bathroom she has a much higher chance of getting attacked. Use the women’s bathroom I know it’s safer and I will always be an ally that stands up for trans people’s safety and rights.
the feelings of the minority should not outweigh the feelings of the majority. Trans people should have their own bathroom and men should not feel entitled to use female spaces because they wear a dress and grow out their hair.
Do you also believe that everyone should be able to have a gun to defend themself. Because restricting for people who follow rules won’t help because people who won’t will still have them?
@@sirius767 Is seeing a box of tampons going to mess up their appetites or something? And most public bathrooms don’t store them (unfortunately), so women would bring their own and dispose of it. Unless they’re digging through the trash they wouldn’t even see it. And if there were menstrual products in the bathroom, so what?? You have to be SO immature to be upset about that. It is a normal bodily function that every afab woman goes through.
Nobody going that low will be stopped by a sign. Gender identity has nothing to do with it. Even if there was a trans person, or person who was pretending to be trans, who assaulted someone in a bathroom, thats a totally individual, person-by-person issue.
@@hydra9627 you realize that a lot of cis women who don’t conform to traditional gender norms are targeted by these laws too, right? even if you don’t care about trans people (i’m not saying you do, it’s just the most extreme version of this take), a law that empowers people to harass women based solely on their appearance should be an immediate red flag to anyone claiming to care about women.
“I just wanna go to the bathroom” literally. All we wanna do is be Able to live like normal people. We’re not trying to assault you, we’re not trying to defeat you in sports. We just wanna live like ourselves
@@madisxnn i looked into the two cases you mentioned. • martinez assaulted 10-year-old girl in a PRIVATE, RESIDENTIAL restroom. • ojeda assaulted a 16-year-old BOY in the MEN'S restroom. neither of these stories involve the women's restroom at all. i don't see how the hijab is relevant. we're not a muslim nation - and it wouldn't be a sin on the women's part anyways, she's not affected. trans PEOPLE are often assaulted in bathrooms, not just trans men. and frankly, that just shows that we're victims more than anything.
@@madisxnn I get where you’re coming from but if someone’s gonna assault someone in a bathroom they’re not gonna care whether they should be in there or not, they’re just gonna walk in instead of going through the effort of passing as trans-
A lot of people dont seem to understand that trans people have their own lives, loved ones, friends and family etc. The fact that so many people wish harm to a person just for being transgender is something I will never understand.
Yes but some of y’all have it wrong ans think automatically ans make assumptions about us that if we have considers or disagree with it we wish them harm which isn’t true some of y’all think he we don’t think or have the same opinion as you he hate you or wish you harm when it’s not always like that some don’t care your trans they just don’t want to share a bathroom with them not because they hate them but because they are putting there safety and concerns first just like anyone else there are so many concerns around the world y’all cant say people are trans phobic when They raise the concerns about this it’s ignorant
I believe the majority of people understand it’s wrong to hurt someone just because they’re queer, at least in America. It’s more so the political controversy around how much should we integrate transgenderism into society and what boundaries are social norms need to be put in place to accommodate this changing world.
Tell that to the other “trans person” that went to actually attack a women in the bathroom. People need to to understand that it’s not the trans persons fault it’s these rapist, pedophile, stalkers, creepers, and legit groomers that are doing this and it’s effecting the lgbt community and lgbt community is actually falling for it and are not calling it out and it’s make themselves look worse than they were before.
I love how Anthony when to just listen. Like, in this case with Dylan. Anthony has no experience being a trans person so he sits and hears Dylan out about this issue. I love this man so much.
Respect a woman’s space. They don’t want a transgender in their private spaces. We should have three restrooms. 1 for males 2 for females 3 for transgenders. I believe that’s a simple solution
Look at this weirdos muscles and his shoulders and his jawline. You can tell without a doubt that he is a man and I just can’t wait to see his reaction when he turns 40 and all his hair starts falling out 😂
@@H0sh13_starfan i have actually never seen a woman fixing her hijab in the bathroom. trans people can and will have the decency to simply look away in that situation.
@@H0sh13_starfan but isn’t changing hijabs fine if only women (or anyone who’s allowed to like the husband) can see it? If the woman changing her hijab is in a bathroom with women, then what’s the problem? Plus, she could also just go into a stall to change her hijab
I just watched a intersex man talk to congress about in the time that everything had gone down he had been attacked three separate times. One time he told he headed into the men's but was dragged out by a man. So when he tried to go to the women's the man threatened to kill the intersex man bc his wife was in there. It was dishearting watching congress willingly ignore someone begging for help so they may use the bathroom without the chance of being killed
@Takuma 👻 ? What does that even mean considering this? The trans individual was white if you are referring race and if you are that's not a very funny joke regardless as it's not a joke
@@timmywhy6563 just takes you guys 2 secs to say anyone who disagrees with this community is 'phobic' Shows how fast the trans community sizzles no arguments allowed, much like religion
you are making a huge assumptions on 1000s of people behaviors. there’s been videos of it happening already but i understand you won’t but you can’t say that for everyone and the physical power difference isn’t a chance people want to take
I’ve been in a bathroom before and a man made a move on me. He wasn’t trans, he was just a creep. There are creeps in every population type of people… It’s sad to see that used against trans people.
@@SnazzyArcade this is ridiculous, how many trans women are really imprisoned, and how many more men are imprisoned for different crimes? Prisoners are made up of mostly men. You’re fearmongering, and it is not working. It’s ill-informed.
@@SnazzyArcade the number of trans women in prisons is probably really small compared to the huge number of cis men in prison. A high percent of the small number people who fit into that category is not that surprising when it is a prison
Bathrooms separated by gender is dumb as hell. Gender Neutral bathrooms are the way to go. In Sweden we have them and the worst you'll see is that someone shat out their soul into the bowl
“crazy people out there looking for any opportunity to harm people” 9 times out of 10 won’t be putting on a wig, dress and heels to find that opportunity… there’s plenty of opportunity for that already but yeah let’s just blame and invalidate trans people instead of trying to actually fix that
I also want to point out that cis men can assault cis men. And cis women can assault cis women. If people truly cared about safety, they would promote individual locked bathrooms. Edit: For everyone getting pissy that I used the word cis, here's a bucket for your tears. When someone refers to Greyhounds and German shepherds, do you also freak out and say "GREYHOUNDS? We are dogs!". It's a LABEL to refer to something specific. Calm down 👇
Except if a man were to walk in as is, he can get arrested, kicked out, and removed immediately. If he just wears a dress and claim hes trans, he has free reign to do whatever he wants in that space. Hows does dylan not get this?
I’ve always said that someone who wants to do something illegal isn’t going to wait to be able to legally enter somewhere to do it. Most public bathrooms I’ve been too that have multiple stalls literally don’t even have a door, just like an extended hallway.
If cameras and/or witnesses see a non-trans man entering a women's restroom then it will be assumed by all that he may be committing a sex crime and his crime can be quickly impeded. A man who cross-dresses, because of the societal climate, can freely enter the female restroom as a man and could commit a sex crime unimpeded. No security or witnesses will challenge his reasons for entering the female restroom. Or, what if a woman alone sees female shoes on the floor from her stall. She can vaguely make out a dress through the crack in the door. She feels safe, believing it's another woman. She leaves her stall and is sexually assaulted. Had the man been wearing men's attire (shoes, pants, shirt, etc.) she would have been able to call 911 or scream for help before the crime could be committed and from the locked stall. Then, if caught, the man who dressed like a woman faces less steep punishment and can be placed in a woman's prison. This is why a man might choose to cross-dress to commit his crime-- it unfortunately becomes a crime with less impediment. Common sense tells you that most criminals prefer the easiest, least likely to be caught and prosecuted, crime.
@@DrivingMissLazy what are men’s shoes? Sneakers? There are a million ways we could make public bathrooms safer (cause also guess what? Women have assaulted women in public bathrooms) that leave trans people tf alone.
i can attest to this, as someone with a brother who’s FTM transgender. fortunately, he’s gotten to the point in his transition where no one has to question whether they’re looking at male or female anymore. yet he’s always expressed the fear around “coming out” or how if he were more casually open about being trans, it could land him being cornered in the bathroom at our gym
That's a fair concern. It's usually safest to stay closeted which sucks, but there was literally a trans man who sucked it up and went to he biological sex's bathroom but still got his ass beat and imprisoned, because ofc the man going into the woman's bathroom is gonna be a bad idea.
As a trans person, even if I still have to go to my birth-gender bathroom, I ain’t gonna attack you. I just gotta pee man. Edit: sorry let me re-word it. As a trans person, I still go to my gender-assigned bathroom. But if I was to go to the other one, I would just be there to mind my own business. Nothing above on what I said inclined I used the other bathroom.
I would never dehumanize you or wish harm to you in anyway. With that said, If I’m being honest I think you should have your own bathroom. 1) I wouldn’t want another man to harm you. An angry parent is dangerous. 2) There is bad ppl in every community. It’s usually harder for a woman to fight off someone born male, and perverted men will use trans rights to their advantage if possible.
@@Kiss_lyndai agree with this as a trans man, in one of my climbing gyms they have a special restroom assigned for trans females/nonbinary born male and trans male/nonbinary born female because someone got hurt by a dad for going into their restroom assigned at birth
If the bathroom bill goes up you’re just gonna have Transmen (fully transitioned, beard and all) going into the women’s bathrooms and Transwomen (fully transitioned) going into the men’s bathrooms (putting them in danger btw). Then y’all will complain AGAIN LMAO
@@Noxthesergal we are not going to the “trans men will hurt cis women”. I honestly doubt a transman would do something like that ESPECIALLY if they know what it was like to be a woman. And if they do they will get punished fairly for their actions. but anyone could walk into a women’s bathroom and assault a woman. Trans or not.
Tell that to the 15 year old that happened ar school. Her father was labeled as a terristic threat, because he went to the school board. That was the second time that student assulted a young lady in the bathroom
That's the total fault of the school board and is unacceptable for not holding the assaulter accountable. To me it's no different when high schools who have allowed rapes committed by teachers or star athletes for example to go unreported. It's more of a question of holding sex criminals accountable in my opinion. If we hold the people accountable for committing these crimes then we can help decrease the rates of these crimes. Trans people do not get free reign to commit rapes and the overwhelming majority of trans people just wanna be left alone and feel normal but cases such as the one you mentioned really affects all the trans people who want to just live their lives and trust me, trans people are just as disgusted and unsafe as you are about rapists in the bathroom because most rapists do not care who they rape as long they get away with it.
Honestly before this video I thought trans people in the women’s bathroom would be scary because men would make up excuses to go in the women’s bathroom because of that but I guess now I realize that’s unlikely to happen so thank you for stating this and thank you RU-vid for putting this in my recommended because now my mind is changed
@@jcd528 you do realize you can just walk into most bathrooms. Half of them don’t even have doors. You don’t need to go through the whole rigamarole of claiming to be trans like the girls bathroom is a secret club. You can just walk in and chances are no one will even notice.
we just need safer bathrooms. people don’t get assaulted in bathrooms because of trans people, they’re assaulted because of predators who can easily enter stalls. as women we should be looking out for each other and looking out for signs of people showing predatory behavior, not turning against trans women. trans women can be attacked just as much as we can, and they face as many problems as we do. turning against them is not the answer. instead, what you can do is listen and watch for warning signs of predatory behavior. for example. someone lingering in the bathroom for a long period of time who is watching people come in or looking under stalls. or if you hear someone make a strange and uncomfortable comment toward a woman exiting or entering the bathroom. maybe someone being followed into the bathroom who looks afraid. we need to be watching out for each other, not letting prejudice blind us from things that are actually happening. these comments break my heart because so many women have come forward about being assaulted in bathrooms by just average looking random people. trans people are not the monsters, and we need to stop stereotyping them as such.
Trans is the bridge these predators are using to gain access to places they couldn’t walk into as openly as they can now. You know women can only use the girls bathroom and not the men’s. Dylan used male bathrooms all his life until he suddenly became a girl at 26. He has a penis he can use the men’s bathroom something I cannot. Dylan wants to use our bathroom to validate himself. If he had empathy and caring for women he would understand that and wouldn’t demand to be in our space. You may be comfortable with a man dressed as a girl. I’m not and his preference shouldn’t put my safety on the line. Why can’t these men just grow up and use the men’s bathroom for heavens sake. We shouldn’t make many uncomfortable for the sake of the few. Why don’t people understand this. It’s not about trans at all it’s what it’s allowing because of it. Single sex spaces exist for a reason. They don’t just want the bathrooms. They want to be in female wards. Rape crisis centres. DV shelters. It’s opening the door wide to men coming into all those spaces. If you let one you have to let them all. If you’re truly trans and have transitioned and have a female physique and appearance that I don’t mind because I can’t tell they aren’t women. Dylan is a pretender whose doing this for fame and money I’ve been following him for a while. He tried gay. He tried non binary. He tried ten different ways to become famous. This is the one that worked. So why don’t you support women and girls instead of male pretenders who are doing damage to women’s rights and spaces.
@Trøüt and my point is that it’s ALWAYS been easy. there’s no security outside a bathroom telling a man that he can’t enter the restroom. someone can wander in at any time and prey on someone. my point is also that people tend to pay attention to the fact that someone is trans rather than paying attention to genuine potential danger. I’ve seen people in this comment section sharing their stories of how fully masc presenting men walked right into the women’s room and assaulted people. it happens at bars a lot because people are intoxicated and less likely to notice something is going on. there IS something that can and will be done if an assault in a bathroom is reported, so the narrative that someone cannot be held accountable for an assault due to them being trans is just false. if ANYONE walks into a bathroom and assaults someone they can be arrested for that. trans people also have a chance of being assaulted in the restroom as well, most likely ist for being trans and nothing else. I personally think that individual private bathrooms are something that should be put in place, because you can currently walk into a restroom with flimsy stalls and get into that stall fairly easily. the issue is not trans women being able to use the restroom, it’s how safe the restrooms themselves are. there is no statistic of trans people assaulting people in large numbers, and has never been. there are more priests that molest kids every year than trans people. the idea that a trans person using the restroom is any more dangerous than anyone else is just prejudice and hate.
@@emmadrinksbleach3246 No one is saying it’s trans people. That’s said over and over. It’s the ability to self identify because there is a gain to be had from it. Man gets arrested for rape? While awaiting trial he becomes a woman and now he’s in a female prison. A man with predatory tendencies walks into a ymca and says he’s a woman. He’s in the girls locker room watching teenage girls shower as he exposes himself. The girl tells the ymca that a man exposed his penis. The staff say he’s a woman so a man who would be arrested says the magic words. “I’m a woman.” Now it’s not a lewd act and indecent exposure to a teenager whose a minor. Now it’s a woman showering. These are two things that actually happened. There are many more. There has been women raped in prison by a man who said who was a woman. Don’t you see the problem now that the threshold is “self identity.” Men have exploited this. They will continue to exploit this. So women who should never have been victims if their boundaries had been respected and men weren’t given access they never would have been victimized. So it’s not about trans women at all. It’s what inclusion has done at the expensive of women and girls.
@@ashbash635 since when is this an issue? when a person is incarcerated and attempts to call themself a woman as a last ditch effort when they do not present as the opposite sex at all, that isn’t going to cut it. it also goes without saying that any person who exposes themself in front of someone else without the other person’s consent will still face consequences. I personally do not think that there should be public showers, as most people do not feel comfortable being around other naked people, but those people are just there to shower. unless someone is being actively sexual toward another person and harassing them, I can’t see how they don’t have the right to shower. by being in a public shower you consent to being around other nude people. if I’m in a public shower the last thing I’m going to do is stare at someone’s genitals, and most if not all trans women will not shower in public because they are afraid of other people seeing their genitals. moving on from that ignorance, my issue is that people make trans people out to be a HUGE issue in society that needs to be urgently addressed, and the situations that you are describing are either very few in total or imaginary. people like to ignore the fact that there are so many cases of cisgender men spying on women in restrooms, locker rooms, showers, etc. and those cases far outnumber the few, if any, cases involving trans people. it’s a classic case of people picking on a minority and acting as if allowing people to have rights will lead to horrible things. it’s just like how people have claimed that allowing LGBTQ people to exist will allow pedophilia to become legal. it’s propaganda that perpetuates hate against a minority, and distracts us from real world issues. our right to use social media privately is being threatened, womens’ right to choice is being slowly taken, trans and LGBTQ people are being murdered for simply existing, our earth is dying and a new project that has been approved will speed it up, and our schools aren’t even safe anymore because they are turning into war zones. trans people are 1% of our population and yet people still choose them to target and blame for everything.
@@emmadrinksbleach3246 in Canada it does cut it, actually. There’s no test to assume if someone is true trans vs. a male predator, so we either compromise the safety and comfort of all “cis” women or we have sex-segregated bathrooms.
