Two Character Traits That Defines an INTJ

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This video explains why Intelligence and Confidence are the two character traits that set INTJs apart from the rest of the MBTI types.
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@yfaewwegfawg Год назад

Your bit on socializing is on point. I’m an INTJ too and it really does take a lot of trial and error like exercising; starting small, staying consistent, and building up. I believe younger INTJs struggle with socializing because growing up we see the loudest, most attention drawing people succeed (which isn’t natural to us). But as we get older, what makes you popular as a kid is not the same as an adult. Being impactful and brief with your words along with sharp wit and comedic timing is received so well in social settings as an adult, in my experiences

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

100% agreed with everything you said especially about popularity as a child compared to as an adult ✊.

@kensh851 4 месяца назад

i notice my extroverted loud friends would end up being deadass quietly inept during reports while my introverted ass ends up the loudest person in a room if given the floor

@miranda718 10 месяцев назад

I'm an INTJ female too. But I'm kinda lucky regarding the "learning how to socialise part". I usually didn't care about talking that much until it hit me quite hard when I was 18, the first time being out in society after graduating from high school. That was when I realised socialising skill is important. During that time, I suddenly noticed being a girl all I have to do is just to smile and laugh at everyone's joke so if I stay quiet, the crowd would like me too and I can get rid of the awkwardness. It was like killing 2 birds with 1 stone. It worked for years really! Until I got my first sales job at 24, by then only I got my human communication skills. Being in sales was really a tough journey, I still rmb how bad I was not able to talk with the customer. It was like all silence and when he asked, only I answered. But glad that I graduated from it. So to the intjs out there, YES U CAN DO IT u just have to put urself out there and let the environment forces u.

@justcallmejon22 10 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing your story! Life always hits us INTJs in the face when we realize we can't rely on the same process in different scenerios. We INTJs can do anything we set our minds to ✊

@vjforsythe2198 Год назад

This is so interesting. People have told me they can tell I'm intelligent when I've kept quiet or only asked a handful of questions to better understand something. People have always told me I have an affect of courage or strength, "you seem so confident!" When, in my interior, I'm mostly thinking I am doing something that makes the most sense. At my last contract, a coworker I really liked and had grown close to, laughed when she caught me casually conversing w a new coworker, "Watch out, here she comes with the questions!" I hadn't even realized it was something I was becoming known for. But the questions thing does endear people to you. If I ever feel like I'm not performing well socially, I just put the spotlight on whomever I'm interacting with bc people love to talk about themselves, and most people have something interesting to share, or just need to feel heard. As a young person I was too focused on what works or what makes sense regardless of how people feel about it and it's definitely rubbed people the wrong way. They always take things so personally, which was very bewildering growing up. INTJs are def walking BS detectors, as I have enraged certain ppl thru the years as I quickly pick up on the wool they were trying to pull over everyone's eyes 🤷🏽‍♀️ like I wasn't even really trying, it was just obvious they were full of 💩

@user-rx7uh9mg4f Год назад

I absolutely LOVE asking people questions especially about their professions, hobbies and future plans. I love knowing what their favorite subject was in university and what they learned most from their job. Seeing them talk passionately makes me like them even more, and I walk away feeling my heart and mind buzzing from all the new and exciting information. I wish I could do it more often but some people get freaked out thinking I'm digging info just to use it against them when in reality, it's just pleasurable for me. Humans can be so interesting when we are willing to sit down and listen. The other day I found out my favorite coach is actually an athlete and competing in a national team. I had no idea! I asked her about how to get strong core muscles and left with a grand plate of exciting information. The next time I conversed with her she gave me all the juicy details of about the teams she played with. People love it when you are interested in their interest or in them.

@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes Год назад

"Intelligence is magnetic and confidence is comforting" It's a beautiful sentence, and I agree. Maybe wisdom is attractive. It's very that, and it's one of our paradox : we doubt when we have not enough informations, because we know we can miss informations (Se inferior), and once we have enough informations, we have extreme confidence. I have the impression people are afraid of us, and think we are arrogant when we are confident and direct. Don't worry all make sense ^^ and it's very clear. When we have high intuition, we understand even when something is not very well explained. Our intuition complete the sentences, or the blanks. We understand the global idea. When someone don't listen to me, it's often because of the ego of the person, when the person think she is better than me because she is older, she think she have more experience and is more intelligent.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

Ego...😤

@user-rx7uh9mg4f Год назад

I've learned to use this tactic as an intj female when approaching people that I know are interested in me/curious but are too intimidated by my aura. I casually come up to them and start small talk that is related to the setting, then I'll say I feel shy but I want to ask them something (it's usually a well researched question based on that person's hobbies or interest) they usually are surprised and instantly warm up to me because I showed them my vulnerable side (being shy hence a bit scared of their rejection). I vividly remember how this woman's face was in pure shock when I told her I felt shy approaching her (I truly was because it's hard to break the ice as an intj) she happily answered all my questions and even opened up about her personal life afterwards. I think this works best when both people are interested in each other and it doesn't have to be in a romantic way. It could be mutual admiration. But showing some type of vulnerable trait really warms people up for the intj since we usually look intimidating and arrogant. I won't do this with people I clearly notice they don't like me (using Se by reading their body language).

@anjg7985 Год назад

Great information and sound advice.

@jackbradway8234 Год назад

Nailed it! I especially liked the asking questions. My coworkers sometimes get frustrated at me because I claim to never have executed the perfect event. Despite 18 years, not one event couldn't have been improved if one more question was asked in the planning. And then there is the handling of feedback. Sometimes a rave review comes in for a simple event, and coworkers are confused I don't jump up and down. Other times, no feedback is given for an event that was intricate and executed well. My coworkers get down that they didn't receive praise. I know what I did, and what we did. Confidence is knowing the intrinsic value you provide, not having to be told. As cliché as it is, Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People may be the most important "textbook" I've ever read. The tools he espoused helped me develop a cloak of extroversion and dig out of the Ni-Fi loop. As always, thank you, Jon, for being the most authentic voice for INTJs on YT. Rock on my virtual friend.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

Appreciate the kind words. It's a blessing and a curse knowing that we built what some may precieve as a masterpiece and to us it's only a beta 🙃

@coldxois Год назад

Great video Jon, im having a bit of trouble sleeping, but this video make it worth it, keep it up 👍

@badpoetry33 Год назад

I really admire you, Jon. I went from just appreciating your content to deeply respecting you as a human being, for sharing how you approached learning to make friends / dance with people. So many people (my INFP type included, me during periods of my life) who have trouble with the relational aspect of existence would rather sit on the sidelines and put our focus elsewhere. You were smart enough to realize good relationships are essential to our wholeness, had the intelligence and humility to set about learning how to have them-and finally the courage and grit to execute. And then share with the world that you did! I tip my sequined hat to you, beautiful soul, and hope to see you on the dance floor of life! 🎉❤

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

Thank you 😭. I know that even as an INTJ I index highly on Mama Te so I don't usually recognize how much work I put in or progress I make until afterwards. I'm just hoping to put content out there that my INTJ family can relate to.

@oliviarinaldi5963 Год назад

Jon I was about to remark on how easily you make it to learn what you are saying. Honestly, that's what I was getting ready to type when you told us about your cold and hoping you made sense. Dude, you have a gift for making difficult things easier.

@MrEcto Год назад

I didn’t know about personality types up until a few days ago. Stumbling upon this video really helped me make sense of myself a lot. I appreciate the content.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

Welcome to the fam ✊

@jdao858 Год назад

Absolutely true. 🔥🔥I love your content. Shows the real side of INTJ live and intentions most often left shrouded in shadow.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

Yup! I got upset that most INTJ content are so stereotypical that I decided to become a content creator myself 😅

@gwenbuchanan1 Год назад

you are so right on.. finally , feels so good to come across someone who knows how it feels to be a INTJ.. Thank you!!

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

We're definately rare, but not alone ✊

@missbealovesalbert8353 Год назад

You made perfect sense and didn't even sound sick.

@gillamon79 Год назад

I have a lot of fun watching your videos and I just want to make sure you don't quit! You got this! Also, I am pretty new to mbti and I'm also young, so I'm doubtful about my type but I've been guessing myself as an INTJ, so watching your videos helps a lot with self inspection

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

You have the rest of your life to figure out what you are and I hope you don't use MBTI as your identity. Use it instead as a tool to understand yourself better. Aside from that, thank you very much! I really do appreciate the support! 🙏

@gillamon79 Год назад

@@justcallmejon22 totally man, I see mbti as more of a hobby that I enjoy thinking about, but at the end of the day there is no putting people in a category, the way I see it personality is on a spectrum. Also I use mbti more for trying to understand people better and to write characters. It's just fun ya know

@SmashMaster Год назад

Wow! Yes… I’ve always been making the perfect plans with no room for failure… to find myself falling into the cushions of my risk planning strategies… or sometimes just hammering my plan through regardless of feasibility lolll 😂

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

It's so funny to hear that I'm not the only person that finds comfort in planning 😂

@sug4rb0mb Год назад

I used to get in trouble as a kid for doing both.. I'm so glad I've grown past that! and if someone can't handle it, then they can keep walking. besides, I wouldn't want to waste energy talking with them since it's likely they either wouldn't understand or wouldn't be able to keep up. and I got no time for small talk. 🙃

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

💯 INTJ

@derek_jesio Год назад

Thank you for producing this content. Unfortunately with these types of videos, view count will not sufficiently reflect impact (especially because only ≈2% of the population is categorized as the INTJ personality type). Your videos have greatly helped me in better understanding myself. Again, thank you.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

Helping other people is the reason why I make these videos. Growing the channel is secondary ✊

@normanyeo1039 Год назад

Googling how to have social interactions is something i totally related. Thats basicslly the story of my young life.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

😂

@epyon02alpha42 Год назад

For me, I find these traits come out mostly in gaming. I usually end up in a position of planning strategies and such mostly because I tend to be one of the more mechanically accurate people on my team early on, and this is attributed to doing all of the research and asking all the questions to understand an encounter before others even think to do so. It's also what gives me the flexibility to know when I can salvage a situation by flexing outside of my primary role to cover for someone else if something goes sideways, and has even led to moments where it almost seemed like I predicted that someone was going to make a mistake and was already there to fix it. I attribute those moments to the intelligence in having the awareness of everyone's abilities and habits as well as the overall encounter, and the confidence to know when someone is going to miss their mark and that I can fix it by just doing it in the moment, and leaving the explanation for how to correct it until later. The part that people don't see, and I go to a lot of lengths to make sure they never know, is how much effort and studying of all the things it took to make that moment happen. 🤣 But it absolutely helps feed into the "chess master" image people associate with us.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

Facts. Don't know who said this but, "The level of success you will achieve will be determined by the WORK YOU PUT IN when no one is watching." I'm a healer main in most games because it allows me to control the team while taking care of their mistakes.

@epyon02alpha42 Год назад

@@justcallmejon22 That quote right there is something I feel comes almost innately to INTJs. Like I've heard it said to other people in numerous situations and for them it seems like this eye opening moment at times, but for me it's always been that feeling of, "Well... duh..." It's what can make us great, if sometimes misunderstood and sometimes reluctant, leaders in a lot of settings. 😆

@phillipcowansjr96 Год назад

I am an INTJ as well, and I understand slowly getting to know someone before speaking with them about certain topics. For me, I can just pick things up pretty quickly. Do you think it can also depend on cultural differences/race?. For instance, growing up in different economical environments or family environments as well.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

100% that nurture comes into play for human development because it helps you engage with all your cognitive functions earlier in life. It's similar to how you can tell whether a person is the only child, regardless of type, there are life expereinces that that person did not go through that they have to develop as an adult whereas people with siblings have already engaged with those functions. Human psychology is interesting.

@malibustacys80085 Год назад

If you are trying to date woman, it is easy to find just friends. But the jokes aside, I always was and am more on the introvert side of the spectrum. And after I had found my small circle of friends, I don't really have the intrest in enlarging it.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

It's always nice to hear stories about INTJs finding their circle ✊

@badpoetry33 Год назад

ps - do one for INFP please :)!

@crystalchristensen7972 Год назад

Personal question to you @JustcallmeJon do you find the Adderall helps you keep track of time as well as maintaining focus ? I've been curious about Adderall. My ADHD as a kid went undiagnosed, but I'm pretty confident I'm neurodivergent.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

I definately feel the difference in terms of energy. I usually go a few days on and a few days off as to not be dependant on it. So yes, it helped me, it might help you as well.

@missbealovesalbert8353 Год назад

I despise small talk. Yes, when most people talk, I don't want to listen... lol. *I know how you meant it*

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

I don't enjoy it as much either but it really is a useful tool 😅

@pixiegrey6464 11 месяцев назад

I have to say, I am sorry for the social anxiety caused by people and that you have to do so much research in an attempt to make friends. And a question: Are you fulfilled in those friendships? I was lucky to grow up with an INTJ brother. The way he planned his life and succeeded in his goals are admirable. The sad thing is, people don't get him. The problem isn't him though. I think INTJ's are the type that needs to be sought out by others. By people that actually take the time to get to know the INTJ (and aren't easily offended😂). I also had to learn over the years to simply let people be wrong, to just have small talk (😏) and continue on with my day. INTJ humour and sarcasm is just the best. Especially when people don't get it 😂 Thanks for sharing! - ENTP

@justcallmejon22 11 месяцев назад

Thanks for your concern ENTP! I lucked out and found the community that I love and adore at an early age in my life. I didn't realize how fortunate I was until my late 20's what I had so most of my struggles happened before then. Being misunderstood will always be part of life for an INTJ similar to breathing but it's not too bad in small doses 😁

@esnardojaredralph94 Год назад

dunno if im the only intj that dont research about friendship, im not socially incline when i was about on grade 7 and grade 8 but when i get to grade 9 i met my friends and i learn to socialize from them and my whole highschool days ive learned the right way to socialize but sometimes at that time when i dont like to socialize i would stay silent but still my sh and highschool days i learned a lot on how to be friendly and socialize on strangers but not in a group, maybe a solo conversation

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

That's great to hear! It sounds like you have a good core group of friends. Now it's time to up your game and make group conversations feel natural ✊

@esnardojaredralph94 Год назад

@@justcallmejon22 actually group conversation are quite different from individual conversation, i need to exert a lot of my energy for group conversation and to keep it up and honestly it drains me fastly that way

@esnardojaredralph94 Год назад

@@justcallmejon22 but i do learn to become a happy go lucky when im around them, and take and make humors but not for too long

@yournidom6512 Год назад

Your content in this video was a game changer!! It can't be overstated how essential these two traits are for us (INTJs). I do, however, believe context adds nuance to how one is received as "intelligent" and "confident" and the different ways we have to socially dance as a result... due to social constructions of power (such as race and gender). I explain more in this audio response (only listen if you have time): ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-w9eTPV-Npyo.html

@MHBTNO Год назад

Just don’t make friends by becoming their “therapist” or problem solver because of your brains. Then it won’t be a friendship. Because they then only care about your skills they can put to use. Not about you.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

💯

@sylviaowega3839 Год назад

The INTP being the Ti user also asks as many questions

@kimtopology4257 5 дней назад

I have a question if a person has a mental illness does this change your type yes or no and why ?

@justcallmejon22 3 дня назад

I'm not really sure to be honest and that's something that I've been questioning since I started typology. But I think it makes sense that type comes before mental illness since it's something that you're born with so mental illness just might make it more difficult for you to fit in the common stereotype of your type.

@sylviaowega3839 Год назад

Elon Musk, unlike what must people believe is an INTP, not an INTJ. Mark Zuckerberg is definitely an INTJ. I know because I listened to both in several interviews, and how they both act socially

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

We should just tweet them and ask 😂

@jeffrey-825 Год назад

Conversations require the right people, ones who can lead the conversation initially where I can build off of. Closed minded or "factual" people (Do you have proof for this thought? If it's not set in stone, then it's not existent) kill the will to share thoughts for open minded conversations. I'd rather leave.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

There's truth buried underneath all rethoric, it's just up to you whether you want to waste your time searching for it. I feel like it's a waste of time as well 😂

@Daver2517 Год назад

Do you think the underline issue is the confidence in ones intelligence built by external reinforcement from the environment? ENTJ's brute force attack seem to build confidence quicker because the intelligence is positively rewarded and they tend to not have fear of negative outcomes. INTJ's on the other hand are low energy and tend to take longer to develop confidence in our own ability and rely on the soundness of the information instead of trial and error like the ENTJ's. We learn slower because of the lack of exposer and also react more negatively to negative outcomes and less positively to positive outcomes. Hence why we have to continuously exposes ourselves to social interactions and need more positive outcomes to become confident. ENTJ's are opposite; more positive to positive outcomes and less affected by negative ones. Maybe the response to negative outcomes is the underline component in this. Have you researched the Reticular Activating System? Also have you heard of the Fearless man channel? That has helped me a lot in that aspect and may help other INTJ's break through. Sounds like you did the work early on to desensitize yourself to negative outcome.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

Human beings are complicated and each person has their own experience that lead them to becoming who they are today. I'm not sure how to answer your question but I am going to say that I wasn't raised with positive reenforcement. I developed my thick skin from my fear of living a life I wouldn't be proud of. I'm not sure if that answers your question but I personally felt like a dog backed into a corner and my only way out was to learn how to survive.

@Daver2517 Год назад

@@justcallmejon22 "necessity is the mother of all invention." Sounds like in your case you were in an environment that you had to be what you needed to be. I don't wish for people to be in those situations but I think those might be the best for INTJ's. We are forced to use our gifts instead of being afraid to fail. Either we act or everything fails. I feel the most useful in that mode but it is not my preference to be in it. I rather just chill if I can help it like you said. But there is this aching in me that resonates with this line from "Hamilton" "I wish there was a war Then we could prove that we're worth more than anyone bargained for"

@sylviaowega3839 Год назад

@@justcallmejon22 Positive reinforcement is indeed extremely important

@fredrickcuambot1234 Год назад

Yet i don't feel like intelligent at all 😂💀💀 when in high school my friends used to call me mathematician because of my ability to solve abstract math problems but in college, i was like hell na i want to quit schooling already i don't feel like this is school anymore lol 😆 im thinking of vomiting already lol thinking of those days when i am very confident now that life broke up everything's falling apart 😩

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

I'm an INTJ and I absolutely despise how academia is currently set up so I understand. It sounds like things are turning sour for you and I hope that becomes better soon. It's a blessing and curse to an INTJ becausewe fall just as much as we achieve but every single time we become stronger and every single time we become better. You got this fellow INTJ ✊

@kindauncool Год назад

2:05 - 2:19 do you have an example?

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

I actually have a recent example to share! The conversation was about global warming and how the world is seeing records of highs and lows in regards to localized tempurature readings. I instantly made a comment about needing to fatten up and everyone was confused why. I then explained because global warming is going to thaw the ice caps so much that the world will eventually be underwater and that heavier people are more buoyant in the water so I'll have a higher chance of survival because I'll float while the skinny people will sink. It doesn't sound funny typing it but it got a good laugh from the group and it showed that I was able to arrive to a logical conclusion by the information that I recieved right now. I hope that made sense 😂

@kindauncool Год назад

+@@justcallmejon22 OHHH I SEE NOW LOL I do the same thing but I realize nobody's going to get it and I'm (rarely) pleasantly surprised when they do. Also, that joke **is** so funny. My favourite type of jokes are the ones that take the listener a second. The jokes where when you tell them, you won't ever *hear* the laugh, but you know it's coming eventually once it clicks.

@sylviaowega3839 Год назад

Question: Do you think that the INTJ is more similar to the INFJ, or an INTP? I think the latter as an INTP myself, but if you think otherwise, let me know the reasons why and I will give my own.

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

I believe that INTJs are more similar to INFJs because we don't share any of the same cognitive functions as INTPs. The INTPs can probably understand the INTJs more but the INFJs can relate. It's like growing up with siblings as opposed to being a single child and reading/watching videos about growing up with siblings. No matter how much you research, you'll never fully understand unless you've lived it (Ni/Se).

@sylviaowega3839 Год назад

@@justcallmejon22 I understand what you are saying, and I would generally agree with what you are saying, but based on sone of the latest research regarding cognitive functions, that the INTP’s true tertiary function is actually Ni, in lieu of the Si that most MBTI specialist assume. For instance, some experts believe that the INTP’s true function stack is Ti-Ne- Ni-Fe, in lieu of Ti-Ne-Si-Fe. In addition, I would invite you to read David Keirsey’s “Please Understand Me II”, in which he give a solid justification of how the INTP is most similar to the INTJ. Only the ENTP is more similar to the INTP.

@Cashcash08 Год назад

Are you a filipino?

@justcallmejon22 Год назад

I get that a lot but I am not Filipino.

@Cashcash08 Год назад

@@justcallmejon22 what's your ethnicity (is that the right term)?

@eutoteu5680 Год назад

You are arguing nonsense . If the truth shall kill them , let them die ! If you wish to engage in the social dance of endless lies , that is on you ! I choose the truth !