I have noticed that my se is better than my ENTJ friend I was able to pick up on certain things about a person that they totaled missed and didn't see any red flags and there were a lot but the ENTJ totally missed

I call it ✨auto pilot✨ mode

Is anyone else here an INTJ 8w7?

I fully get you on that „wasting my time“. Even if you argue I should have an easier time as an INFJ connecting along with other people’s notion of a good time. I personally get often upset after going out with other people realizing that I have wasted my time doing useless stuff, that did not get me anywhere (whatever this is). The best times are the ones where I am in tune with the people around me and I get the complicated stuff across that constitutes my inner world. Flow to me means seeing my Ni unfolding in real time. If the real time activities contradict my insights I tend to feel like I am on the wrong track and should be looking for a way out. The best remedy to me to get rid of that “wasting my time feeling” is looking for the right people and places to connect with rather than to just withdraw into my Ni-world.

Hey! Thank you so much for this video, I deeply appreciate you opening up to the world and to yourself. I do have a question, INFJ here and I didn’t quite get your Fi being ignored by your previous INFJ partners (so sorry about that btw..). Maybe I’m not super fit in the cognitive functions at all but although having FE I could never imagine ignoring my partners feelings or prioritizing other people’s feeling over those from my partner.. sorry maybe I got it wrong or am stupid 🥲 but this section stuck with me.. also I do have a crush on an INTJ atm and I don’t want to give him any negative feelings, including the one you mentioned. Thank you!! ❤️

Me going out after staying indoors for a few days: This is great. Can't wait to do this again. Me when I got home: exhausted and need at least half a day being alone to recharge, preferably one or two day staying at home unless going out almost immediately is necessary. I also don't do eye contacts naturally but need to be intentional and in moderation or I would unintentionally stare someone down. My eyesight have been declining since I was born prematurely so I have a more difficult time noticing and understanding facial expression but I picked up people's mood based on their voices, noises their movements make and word choices more. It may took me about a dozen of seconds staring to analyze one's facial expressions. (I didn't get an autism diagnosis because it's not available for adults in my country, but a Schizotypal one instead. It seems to have to do with the social environment I was raised in and my worsening eyesight growing up than developmental issues due to genetics or a combination of genetics and environment, as I don't have issues understanding metaphorical languages nor instinctively/ intuitionally figuring out social norms if I was told or got enough interactions as data. Conforming or not is another matter of Fi. ) The zone is so real. I could recite aloud two full A4 pages of something I memorized and recite frequently (e.e. at least once a day) while taking a shower and feel my mind drifting away contemplating something else. It usually go smoothly without a hitch but if I noticed my mind drifting and pull it back then it took me a few seconds to minutes to continue what I was reciting.

I couldn’t help but think of the Great Gatsby when you mentioned the system, where he has his rich person persona of always being polite and such, then there’s the side where he is who he is whenever he’s around close friends I really like how you worded that, where you exaggerate an element of yourself. Almost all the time I always secretly disliked how flexible I felt my actions and personality was, and I always had disdain for how how I acted or what I’d say where sometimes afterwords it felt empty, as if who I act to be is actively being watched from a distance by myself and such However, it is good to note that whenever you are like that it is someone you wanted to be or needed to be. While you directly worked on personas with awareness, I somewhat developed them subconsciously, and it seems they always were what I needed to be in a situation using elements of who I was, whether it’s very soft and caring to those who were emotionally weakened / struggling, or a relaxed attitude where I felt like was safe, or a somewhat arrogant and confident when challenged yet very cautious during normal circumstances, etc, where what I needed to be to succeed in whatever goal I had I was able to adapt to Idk where this was going, but it’s comforting to get reassurance that it wasn’t all empty nonsense

So accurate, oh, so accurate.

I have an INTJ neighbor with whom i just click! He is older than me and he respects me and i respect him. It seems like respect flows equally between us two.

For INFJ both mama and antie needed to keep the household in check. They take turns. Usually Fe mama pokes Ti auntie with the stick to do something to make the household clean. But antie is weak, so in order to do it she creates a system of habits, that functions on autopilot, unless we are in a deep burnout. It takes us time to create it, we have to take into consideration many variables to get around our procrastinating brain. But when it works, it works. It also usually includes external stimuli, aka having extroverts in our close circle or just succesful motivated people, which is supposed to restart the system in case it gets stuck. Good side of the situation is that it often takes thinking out of the box to create such detailed personalised system and make it work, which we can apply anywhere.

Intj having aspergers syndrome

3:20 i need a friendship like this ( - intp) I talk a lot, and have a lot to say, and want to collaborate, but i notice that my thoughts don't really go anywhere (since i'm talking to myself) so i'd be nice to use my knowalege to help somone and have set preimiters so i don't go soo off track. Having an istp friend sounds nice too. Respect to both types

6:12 that's what I learnt after many failed friendships. People don't change because we give them advice. They change because they want to. To save my energy I stop that automatic function, stop giving people advice or spending my brain cells for their problems.

9:28 - Wow, that really resonates with me. When I was young, I suffered from asthma. My mom didn't allow me to skip classes, even when my symptoms were severe. The solution? Medication. But I ended up taking too much of it. I made it through high school entirely dependent on asthma medicine. And you know what? That was the only time I never procrastinated. I'm an INTJ by the way.

I call it "burnout".

My current understanding of Si is that it's something like physiological sense and memory. Hence anticipating or recognizing feelings of hunger, tiredness, comfort, etc. for what they are and attending to them. I think stereotypes of strong Si users being nostalgic about the past and reliving memories intensely, might originate from this. My ESTJ partner once described seeing a crow (which he loves) and it's like feeling and experiencing all of the past encounters he's had with crows at that same moment, rather than seeing just the crow actually in front of him. My mother is an ISTJ and her reactions to some things seem, from my external viewpoint, like a physiological response to that no one else can see because the associations live inside of her. I'm not sure I'd describe Si not seeking improvement and just treating yourself well though -- that sounds more like Se to me. An Si user might have nice things, but more because they happen associate these things with comfortable or pleasant internal sensations. There's going to be a correlation there, but the goal is different. An Si user might also follow religious practices because they feel comforting. Btw, I love your videos and ramblings! ~ An INFP

Jon. I have a term to it. I call it superconciousnesss . Supermindfulness. This kind of power can be applied in buddhism.

Most of this resonates, good job expressing the ideas. Best thing I ever did was give myself permission to prioritize my sleep. It took until late 30s to realize I couldn't show up for anyone else or myself if I'm not giving my body regular sleep, and chronic sleep deprivation is not efficient in the long term anyway. Regarding long term memory, honestly thankful for the Se user ability to let the past go by getting rid of the totems. Take the lessons, forget the details. Maybe that is more unrealized immaturity to work on later.

Before the pandemic my infj bf had this idea of “going out and do things” 🙄 and I made a rule of max 1 day a weekend as I need at least 1 day to get over it, and no 2 consecutive weekends “doing things” cuz it just felt like frivolous busywork when I could be at home in the sanctity of my own mind. Why do things when I could just, like, not! Anyway, much earlier I went through a phase of “I’m just as extroverted as you extrovert” where I’d not go home for days. These days Se really wear me out. I also used to go swim at the pool alone (as exercise) but found it a zen-like experience where I’m in my head. I run Dungeons and Dragons and used my pool time (including the walk to and from) where I’d plan out my sessions. Loved it!

I need this: go. Son's of bitches, I do fall hard for that.

ENFJ🚺 - A Nurse or Flight Attendant with Unstoppable force INTJ🚹 - An Immovable Physical Therapist or Engineer

ah bon? An INTJ passing by:)

My exINTJ and me Enfp but still we talk to each other . One time we were on a date but i had this silly idea and many people were on date so I spotted one couple and started teasing them saying ayo another lovey dovey kiss kiss and he was embarrassed and he doesn't want to go out with me I know I was wrong and I have learned a lot from him that I should act normal and I am very thankful I always call him but he never calls but always pick up . He acts cold always but I always try to annoy or talk or irritate him . He sometimes gets possessive as I have a bunch of friends and he thinks I am flirting with them but I was always like that . our relationship was perfect but something was off between us I love him and after breakup I haven't found anyone like him when i told him I needed a break he thought I was cheating but later he found out that I wasn't cheating we are great as friends but I don't think we make a good couple sometimes I miss him wanted to be with him but I don't want him to feel down because of me and we were young at that time and I was focussing on my career but once I reached my goal i would probably ask him a second chance

thats whats up

Se will always be an inferior function to us 😅

What if you didn’t define yourself so completely within this myers briggs frame?? It informs a part of who we are to a certain extent, but what you described for the interaction with your colleagues just sounds like a regular off day when people prefer some alone time ??

I'm am HSP INFJ. I gotta tell you the only place with lots of people I feel good at are concerts. I've gotten dizzy even in big crowded malls. Ohhh, I do zone out, too, when I do seemingly Se things, yeah. So far I've noticed I do it, but didn't realize it fully until you said it now. It's like I'm there doing the thing, but I'm not actually there. As for Fe and Te at social gatherings, I often don't want to be there, unless it's full of intutives 😂 And when it's not, I rarely ask questions because I'm actually interested. It's usually too deflect attention from myself and not look weird at the same time. I'd always prefer one-on-ones ❤ A day without new info and a new insight or a new perspective on sth important is quite a waste. Although I do like ticking off tasks and seeing a tangible result of what Ni and Ti do and I like lists and summaries that I can go to for reminders. Thanks for the video! These ones feel like home ❤

I am a infj and l am so happy that my intj let me be myself! I don't need to hide my weakness. Turn out l can be real and someone appreciate it.

As an Intj, this really resonated with me. I use a lot of Se during the day (at work, with my friends), but in the evening the Ni comes out and takes over. Of course it's not that two sided, but I try to leave all this sorting out of information about my brain for the evening. That manifests in those things you pointed out: In shower, I do not realise if I already applied shampoo or not, I zone out a lot (even during the day sometimes, if I don't control it), in the evening I'm practically not there, I'm only in my head and if someone tries to talk to me I generate random nonsensical sentences xd. I hate when I don't have any time for thinking, because that leads to an absolute mess in my head and not making full sentences. About the „waste of time“ part, I feel like that too, but on the other side, when I do not engage my Se i feel like I'm missing out on everything. I didn't write any comment on youtube for like 2 years, but I have to make an exception with your channel, because you pretty much sum up not only our experiences but our struggles too damn well.

Lengendary explanation - thank you. Saving this one.

Very Interesting! Inferior Se is something I've been pondering for quite a while now, and most of what you said more or less hit home! When I engage with Se in solitude, whether on a walk or doing something sensory like eating, drinking or showering even, I almost always zone out while being stuck in my Ni world :') I forget that I did something and I'd do it again, or just overdo something without realizing it (Binge eating moment :'D) When I am with someone else? It's another story. It does truly feel like stepping into the world or coming to life, I become so engrossed in the other person with Se-Fe like my life depends on it. It's usually a good time and I imagine the other person also enjoys it, but Unless I tap into Ni during that time, expressing my thoughts and discussing them, I almost always come out of the interaction feeling like my energy was wasted and I'm a little empty :') Not to mention, in heavy Se activities like hiking or exploring or swimming, I feel myself too captivated by Se That I do things in a very... Released manner, often kind of embarrassing but very fun, though I do need to stay at home for quite a bit of time to recharge the Se energy, during which time I'm inclined to Isolate myself :')

INTJ-A here. Everything you said is so true. I really enjoy my Se and yet for me it requires a perfect plan before diving into sensory activity. Because I'm such a time freak, I hate wasting it on useless things. Having a bad developed Si I usually forget or don't mind too much about the past, but when I do I can clearly remember that using Se was great most of the time. I can't remember the feeling but I have some kind of a simple data, as if it was just written on the paper: "I had a road trip with my friends once, it was good." So I store this information in my brain with a "fun" label, and every time when I feel that I need to rest and have some fun, I go to my "fun" folder and choose the activity that would work the best at this or that particular moment of my life. In my childhood and teenage years I experienced a lot of Se-grip episodes, so I came up with a dilemma: how should I develop the "live in the moment" thing and not end up with a grip. Of course I created a strategy and then forced a Se development in a consistent, optimized and safe way. As you know, we, INTJs, are obsessed with self growth, and being well-balanced person might be one of our goals. I personally have it. The only anxiety I have is existential fear of wasting my time for nothing. I mean, life is too short, so I want it to be as full and vivid as possible. I often see the statement other INTJs like to say that we don't read/watch/listen/doing something for fun only. Well, I do. I figured out that reading cringe novels or going to the party/cinema/concert/other "waste of time" things might be used as an efficient cool multitasking opportunity to hit several goals at once: learn new patterns, learn our limits, learn socializing, learn enjoying little things, learn everything this life offers and many more. All of these work in advance and serve back in future. I don't want these activities much because I get stressed when overstimulated and/or forced to be in present time for too long, but I also know that I must not ignore this side of the life. So I plan. Depending on what I'm hyper fixating at the moment, I just choose some related Se activities and put them to my schedule, so it's never a waste of time. It's a part of a big strategy, lol.

Best INTJ channel on youtube. 10:27 This is way too accurate. I was eating while watching this video and didn't pay any attention to how the food tasted...

Health Legder forever

Not only we try to improve, if we find certain characteristics we want to change or develop, we do it. but even people who know us well see the changes, they think we are just acting. its always sad to see this everytime we try to change or improve. but after some repetition of this cycle, we learn to adopt and make it learning opportunity to help us learn about others and makes us even stronger. we learn to either express our authenticity or learn to believe in ourselves even without anyone supporting us. it would be nice if others can understand how authentic we are but whats thechallenge in that? But having similar communities where there are others who see and understand life as you is very liberating.

Idk. I am an intp but have strong Ni for sure. Like focusing through most probable way to achieve single future goal if that's what it means Ni, personal desire on the future. As Ti-Ni user, for sure not a sensor, i typed Lii sometime Ili on socionics, maybe Ti-Ne better suits (Lii). I don't care, but when eventually we walk through journey that no one sees and focus on, we end up feel lonely. But it's fine (coping mechanism). At least my point is, i feel at some degree, the same. Well, let's enjoy the journey though😊. If we Ni-ing for better good and good faith or good consideration that can lift our feeling, let's just go. I hope intjs feeling is good. I can't handle feeling either actually. I also have 2 infj friends actually. 1 always looks sad now because feeling not in the right place and time. I only could help him with fact that he is rare as Ni dom, so it makes sense. That's why he need to adapt accordingly. Infj live healthily in community, i hope best for him.

The ending sentiment is so genuine and kind it made me emotional ❤ thanks

This is crazy to stumble upon, didn't realise so many other people have this exact same way of thinking / analysing, and also how i'm not alone in finding stuff like CBT completely ineffective. I even have exactly the same views with regard to time haha.

I’ve definitely had trouble figuring out which type I fall into, they do seem similar, but I suspect I’m INTJ. People will say ISTJ’s are “detail oriented”, which is confusing because I’m an analyst and have no choice but to be detail oriented. But…I always find shortcuts. I’ve had coworkers and managers who when checking their work would just line by line check every little thing manually, and that just hurts my soul. There is a systematic way to do that! Trust me, give me 2 hours and I’ll find it and save you so much time! That said, I’d be happy to let an ISTJ check my work, they’d probably do a better job of it. The other thing is comfort. I do like comfort, I even escape to it. But when I have comfort in the absence of some form of improvement journey I get depressed. The best and worst times in my life are deeply tied to goals or lack thereof at the time. If there’s a type that’s just happy to be alive and live in the present, that’s what I’d rather be!

I have seen one of her videos about being an INTJ female, like myself. Pretty spot on for me as well. Thank you both for sharing! ✨✨🖤😁😁👽👽👌👌👏👏

...and INTJ's are often the best explainers...😎

Can you make a video on Ni vs Si I get confused about my type because of this because N or S is just a dichotomy and its cognitive function which matters.

As an ISTP girl who’s always had INTJ best friends, just want to say the love goes both ways 😎👊

I’m very much an ENTJ but everything Lindsay is me and my life

Ya do not look 35. Good luck finding a suitable partner, once you have healed from your break up.

Awhhh this was everything!

Thank you! I enjoy your videos and this one was really helpful, especially today. It's nice to know there really are other people out there, who have a smiliar mental set-up.

I'm revisiting this video because I'm experiencing apathy towards people. I used to write poems, but when I went through a bad depression, I stopped writing completely. Writing helps me feel and understand my emotions. Since I'm suppressing them, I also stopped listening to music anything that could make me emotional. But that was the worst thing I did; it only made me drown in depression even more. Art understands me it’s my only channel to my emotions, and I shouldn’t hide away from it. Thank you for showing the vulnerable side of INTJs.

I love what you said about inferior Se. Meditation gives Ni what it needs so that it doesn't just take what it wants. I'm a far healthier INFJ when I stick with my meditation practice.

Honestly, i start to doubt my Si in my awareness. I am mostly have strong memories of bad experience of the past. When i usually learning, thinking, or dreaming, i just ignore my body need. Yep, i feel it too when i don't have in the moment and in comfort moment like my friends do. I see intp and infp have good time with who they were or eating everything they love. I didn't get that. I do them, but i didn't feel the vibe. I was thinking i am an isfj/intp/istj/infp. I hate too much noise, i can't function well, it feels more Se inferior. I hate people being emotional on their judgement, this feels like Fe inferior too. I'm starting to wonder that i might be actually infj.