INTJ Explain 5 Reasons Why We're Single 

"There's no place in my schedule for a romantic committment" is definitely an INTJ moment (coming from one)

"if you're an intj watching this video, I guarantee that there's a task you're pushing off right now". Ouch 👀🤣💯

Perhaps some INTJs are single because they do not get out of their house? 😂

As an INTJ we come off as narcissistic but I’m very loyal and have high morals. But definitely vengeful

INTJ have highest standards..within a second we'll know if you're the one or not.

My mother always said, "It takes an extraordinary man to be better than no man at all." Truth.

I'm an INTJ, we may come across as high maintenance (physically and/or emotionally) as we want and need to see other's on our level. Since INTJ's give it their best and all, we EXPECT that from others which is a positive and a negative depending on the situation. We are self-reliant thus finding a partner that benefits or complements us is hard cause usually other people can't produce the same standard we produce, but when you are in a relationship with us, we literally give it our all, we are loyal, committed and we don't BS around. We also love balance, we love our alone time with our thoughts but also yearn for companionship that isn't smothering or clingy. We rarely show our emotions so we may come off cold but we are really not, we are just logical.

I'm a 48 yo INFP female who's had multiple relationships with INTJs over the years. I finally found the one & we will marry on 10-13-23 ❤

We need an INTJ dating app.

Scarily accurate description. I think you covered it pretty well. We’re very purposeful and practical people when it comes to the romantic world. Ironically, that in and of itself isn’t very romantic 🤣.

The need for improvement is spot on. Once upon a time, I was engaged to a wealthy indolent fellow with the motivation of a stagnant pond. He wanted to waste his life watching tv. Everyone was shocked when I left him for one of his family's hired help. We're by no means rich. But always working on improvements. Best decision I ever made. ❤️

"...a waste of time for everyone!" 😆 i've never understood why people don't want to get the dealbreakers out of the way first

Me and my boyfriend are both INTJ’s and this was genuinely the most accurate INTJ video I’ve ever watched… spot on

I totally agree and would add just one more thing: I'm single because I'm the person who makes me happier, always. No one of all the people I've met so far ever went even close to that. It's hard to believe someone can understand, accept, and fulfill my needs more than myself. In the past, I tried to settle for less and only became the most miserable person ever. So, in the end, I always hope to be proven wrong by some Mr. Perfect-for-me-guy, but honestly I'm getting too old to not be realistic about the infinitesimal chances I have to meet him. And by now, I've become such a freaking pro at being emotionally and psychologically self-sufficient, that my expectations are even higher than in the past. So I'm doomed to be the INTJ woman devoted to her job, I guess.

If this were a year ago, I would likely be that commenter that proudly proclaims being single. I met my forever person and damn, you're spot on about revealing layers. I feel like I can let go and just be happy. It's so strange because I felt I was happy before. I was quite content having the same routine every day after work without anyone coming in to disrupt it. I don't know, she just added to much to my life that it was hard to ignore. She also wasn't put off when I brought up expectations for marriage and family and it made me feel like I wouldn't be wasting my time with someone just to find out our goals didn't align. Lastly, and I hate to admit it, but I think she's smarter than me, but at least I know that I've grown as a person so much since I've met her.

Wow you hit the nail on the head. I’m fortunate that I met my husband. He accepted me for who I am from day one. We’ve been together 43 years. I appreciate that an INTJ is speaking about INTJs!

I first took the MBTI when I was 30, not knowing what it was, and scored INTJ. A year or so later, I met the man who would become my husband in a mental health hospital. You get to know each other very well, very fast, in a mental health hospital. It. Was. As. If. Lightning. Struck. Over the years, as I looked back on it, I realized that in order to get through to me, it couldn't have been any less dramatic. Even our wedding was unconventional - a small ceremony in a county park - and he is eight years younger than me. At a time when having kids was still "convention," we elected not to due to our genetic and health histories. We've been married 29 years. He is an INFP.

My INTJ experience can be summed up in three words. Pain, Confusion, and Frustration. Most of the time I escape with gross and self destructive Se things. Although it's not nearly as bad as when I was between the ages of 20-23.

To be honest I can’t be bothered to search for a new relationship and go through all the faking to get an attention of another person. I like to be me without the other person to tell me to wear more lipstick, bigger décolleté etc. Since I took up German and Japanese I have all my time free filled up and I am learning something useful.

I still think its kind of twisted that God made INTJs to be their best version while being alone. Thats something I have really hard accepting about myself as INTJ but its so true.

Yes I agree with the fact we simply don’t clue in if someone likes us. We are rather oblivious. As a married INTJ A female relationships can be a challenge because we live in our heads so much. Also I don’t need my husband as much as he needs me, I have to make it a matter of focus to deliberately pay attention to him. I am logical, direct and he is emotional, and obscure in his communication style so it is definitely a challenge. He does not believe in the MBTI or other personality profile tests but I have found them to be incredibly accurate. It’s understandable why relationships take so much effort for us because being alone is so easy for us. But, through this 41 year relationship it has forced me to grow in ways I would never have achieved if I hadn’t been challenged so greatly.

I’m an intj woman. Just got in a relationship with an infp man who likes my blunt robotic nature. Threw me off guard. It’s going very well.

I love that you respond to everyone. This shows the level of commitment that the INTJ possess. 😊

Allow us to express our abstract thoughts without judgment. Yes, yes, yes!

The reason I as an INTJ am single is probably a little more unique but still very much applicable to the personality. People have mostly heard of asexual, but there's also something like aromantic. I'm 28 years old but I've never developed ANY feelings or romance for someone ever. Which is strange because I do have emotions. I know INTJ's are private about their emotions, or don't understand them and may seem cold, but take this and multiply this by three, and you have me. Romance and relationships however seem great... concepts to me. Just concepts though, only being able to be analyzed in a cognitive way. It seems amazing to be this connected to a person in this way yet it's feeling is totally foreign to me. I really think that this isn't just normal INTJ stuff, but sign of something more serious. I have never met a person, or knew of a person that experienced it the same way as me. Or rather... lack of experience.

Just stopped dating an INTJ and it’s very sad. I had no idea this whole thought process was going on and I was confused when it was finally revealed to me haha. It was mutual to end it and was the right decision but wow, what luck to meet someone that dedicated to a future life together. I genuinely thought they weren’t ready to think in serious terms because they said they didn’t know what they wanted so in the end it was me not bringing the gold to the table because I didn’t want to invest if it was just me wanting to (I was going with the flow to see where it would end up) which they saw as a problem for the long term goal (to see if we’d last til the bitter end). Bless our souls. But we ended because of dissimilar values, I was too sensitive for them and for me I didn’t feel emotionally secure with them. It’s a shame - INFP

I am am INFJ and i am so grateful for your insight into the INTJ bc i have found mine and I'm not letting him go. ❤ But i want to learn about him bc he is so special. I have dated a lot of people and no one can compare to the INTJ. I will follow him anywhere bc i trust him and i know that he is brilliant. So excited!!!!

I'm an INTJ and was married to an IN FJ for 48 years My first relationship after she passed away was another INFJ. What I learned was why she was single for 38 years. Lots of projects no completions .

The last part hits me right into my core. As you said, we are willing to change our 10 year plan for that special person, even most of the time they won't know it. If a person is worth to us, they don't need to know it. They are worth it. Just a shame we are, most of the time, getting misunderstood by people around us.

because we see all the hidden motives of all peoples action, so "love" is very quickly deconstructed.

Very accurate. And I've always believed that somewhere in the process of building my future, I'll meet that one person that just works and fits perfectly with me.

I was just having this thought: "I always need to have a project something to work on, even if I don't know the end goal" And I also though (don't know how I got there) "A relationship is a project in its self". I think this really reflects what you said about making your life revolve around the significant other. Not sure if the comment makes sense LOL

You legitimately are speaking what's in my mind, and explaining what's in my life. I feel so seen 🤣

As an INTJ, I got tired of being misinterpreted and of all the demands. Always explaining my decisions to people that make the mistake of thinking the rest of the world thinks like them. When you don't comply with the demands, they start to judge you and all the drama and arguments start. No thanks. So, I "work" in the fringe of society. No dating, no going out to get drunk or hammered etc. I only engage with society enough to have an income, which provides what I want and need to live life as I see fit. Peace, tranquility, building my house and classic car for relaxation is perfect.

We need alone time even when we are around someone else. We must always be able to hear our own thoughts. If conversation with someone else is mundane it aggravates us because it interrupts our thoughts.

I have tested FOR INTJ 3 times now. Relationships have always been a problem. Your video resonates. Thankyou for your explanation.

This was spot-on for me! My partner and I joke that our first date was more like a job interview, and once we realized we had compatible large goals, everything else fell into place. Over 20 years ago. He's been my support through undergrad and grad school, and now I'm supporting him through an unfortunate worker's comp injury. Had I not met him, or someone who met my intellectual standards, I would have been content to be a crazy cat lady. (He even supports that. Bless!) He gives me all the alone time I need, and understands when the world gets to be too much and runs interference. This reminds me I don't appreciate him enough. I do try to show it, no surprise to anyone here that saying so isn't something I remember to do.

I would add: We tend to express attachment by "taking care" of things that support them... while it's not viewed as a "romantic" gesture, per say, & clearly isn't seen that way by others, it IS how I express attachment...in a very practical way. I'm not very tolerant of the "mushy" nor "needy" clingy stuff... I detest being crowded & interrupting me when I'm in "my zone" will get a deep glare & silence... If the building isn't on fire, DON'T INTERRUPT ME!!!🖤

Yes, you really got everything right (except I would be willing to try to get into a relationship I was uncertain about)... but, in my case there's an extra thing: I'm very insecure about how the opposite gender sees me. I was bullied at school and called ugly in many different ways. Since then, I learned what works for me and had a great improvement on my looks, but men still don't approach me. And that's the thing... people know they are attractive and gain self confidence when others approach them "romantically". But since nobody approaches me, I feel unattractive and don't have self confidence to try to even talk to people who I'm interested in.

Absolutely agree! Thank you for the video. Some of my friends don't understand when I say that intelligence and abstract conversations matter too me very much in a potential partner. Only my intp best friend gets it. It would be hard for me to connect if we speak totally different "languages". Sometimes I hear from guys that I treat dates like interviews 😂 alone time seems weird for most guys because I don't demand attention and sometimes even irritated by someone overly emotional towards me especially in the first couple of months. I can't understand why people sometimes say I love you, miss you and something like that without thoroughly thinking and embracing it. Thank you again!

Any other INTJ take ages to get over a relationship? Forever analysing and daydreaming of “what ifs”.

I see people around me all the time staying in relationships that look draining and demoralizing, and I wonder what the heck they're doing. If I begin to have true interest in somebody, I definitely start poking around, both consciously and unconsciously to find any weak spots. Because if there's a weak spot, and the other person isn't willing to address it with me, I know it's not going to work, so I leave. It yields me being chronically single. But I would much rather live 10 years of my life single, then spend 10 years of my life in a crappy relationship

Believe me, us INTP’s are just as bad in relationships as INTJ’s; if not worse!

I'm am Aroace INTJ. My reasons for staying out and away from relationships are because it's so troublesome. Trust is shaky, one simple thing can break the trusts. It's too easy to get heartbroken. And I prefer to focus on something I actually need, like my education. So If I were to get into a relationship, I'd prefer to wait until I'm older and I have finished my education.

I would probably be single if it wasn't for my wife sitting on my lap 16 years ago.

I was single for a long time. Not because others didn’t find me attractive, but because they were intimidated by me. But one really persistent ESTJ was crazy enough to marry me and we’ve been married for 6 years now and have 3 y.o. son. Point 5 is very accurate. I was planning to go live abroad, but my husband prefers to be relatively close to his family home. I don’t regret it. Regarding alone time - it’s also true. Especially when my son was very small baby I used to go out to the shopping centre in places nobody would know me.

Spot on as usual. Hope you're having a great day 😌

For many years I did my best to suppress my natural personality traits and tendencies because I know many of them are the opposite of what society deems acceptable, and during that time I dated often. Now that I’ve grown a bit older and accepted who I am, I’ve become perpetually single. It just seems like a waste of energy at this point. Not everyone believes in a forever person. It’s not logical to believe in a forever person. You will grow and change through every phase of your life, and so will they. Believing you’ll always grow together is a lovely sentiment, but very unlikely. So you’re either going to inevitably part someday, or you’re going to keep someone around you don’t relate to anymore because commitment (and divorce is expensive). I think once an INTJ has been brutally honest with themselves about what relationships actually are, it becomes quite difficult to desire them.

I just love INTJ’s! Me as a INFJ, have so many similarities when it comes to all that you’ve mentioned…

Great video. Thank you for this. It is good to see someone explain what you can't. As a INTJ woman,with 24 years, and single since forever, i feel this video was very accurated. Keep doing great content.

Well put. I've watched other videos on the same topic and yours is the only one that truly gets it.

Thank you man. As an INTJ, this level of understanding literally brought happiness to my soul. And I found answers to many situations and behaviours of mine in my real life. And learned some good things too. Thank you. You're a great speaker btw.

I don't really know if I'm an INFP or INTP female but what I do know is that I've really fallen in love with an INTJ. I have a male INTJ friend. He's the only one I talk to who doesn't make me sound like a crazy weirdo from Mars. Our conversations are very weird but he makes me feel like it's really normal. We talk about everything. Philosophy, astronomy, psychology, physics, weird theories. We talk and discuss everything you can imagine. When I talk to him about a problem that's bothering me, after he insists that I tell him what's bothering me (even though I rarely talk about my feelings or problems), I find his words very rational and logical. It's like damn, man, give me a chance to be a little dramatic. How can you always be right?lol...... He's not only smart and confident but he's serious and hardworking and organized too. I appreciate that very much, even though I'm the complete opposite of him at this point. I'm very chaotic and random. But yes, I'm hardworking work, but I'm not obsessed...

If you do a deep dive long video, I will watch it. You're speaking to an audience that loves to learn and we will watch long videos.

Very interesting topic indeed. I can't speak for all of us but as a single infj female, I would definitely agree with reasons 3 and 4. For me a failed relationship equals waste of time, simply unforgivable lol.

Just came across this, so accurate haha. I'm an INTJ (27, male) and recently started dating an INTJ (28, female). Absolutely my best dating experience so far. Our very first date we went into detail about our current goals and plans. We're taking our time and it just flows well because we understand how we process stuff. I am putting some extra effort in the 'feeling' department trying to make her feel special and she does appreciate that. Don't know how we will end up, but I can already tell that Im willing to put in so much more effort than usually!

I am an INTJ-a and honestly, I watched this video out of curiosity about whether the reasons are correct or not. And, all is correct

As a 66 yr old INTJ Woman, it’s a drag being single, sigh. Had lots pursue me, have interest in me but never found an equal. Spent most of my Life alone and now question many things about the path I took. I believe being romantically shy has hurt me a lot.

i dated another intj. It sucks! Yes, i felt neglected... so much.. absolutely agree with you on this. Well, i tried to communcate it many times as well and tried to make schedule so i didn't bother him. But he didn't give any efforts.. so best to leave him.

You are the voice of our people!

Resonated with me for sure. Well done 👍

I’m an ENTJ woman. I’ve been watching your videos and it’s making me realize the beauty in relatability and same-ness. I always had this ideal that I wanted to be with an ENTP , but after meeting an intj my mentality is changing . I know I’m just one person , but I’d love more ENTJ x INTJ content . For one , I’m interested in intj masculinity and how that shows up

You're a very insightful young man, so many ideas very well stated in this video.

Hahahahaha! Your comment about INFP dating also made me laugh so hard! It's true that we dont have the same methods when it comes to dating compared to INTJ's, but I wanted to explain how it works with our cognitive functions so its not so intimidating to INTJ's (or precieved as a waste of time ;) Dating for INFP's is not linear. We dont know the exact route to get to where we want to go. We dont have a "blueprint" of what we want the future to look like. (Like Ni does). Instead, we're going on a road trip; we see the finish line, the destination, with the beautiful surroundings, luxurious accommodations, and fun activites to participate it. But we dont know all the details of how to get there or best route to take. So we need a few things to help us get there: Fi, our Compass, holds the secret core of what we're looking for in a relationship. It holds our most treasured ideas, dreams, and goals we want for our future with someone to be like). It always knows which way to point, even when we get lost and dont know where we are. However, we need more than just the "idea"/compass of what we're looking for in order to make that dream a reality. That's where Ne comes in. We need more detailed information in order to make a more accurate and informed decision on where to go or where to start. This can only come through "information gathering" (Ne), usually a combination of both research and personal experience. If Fi is the Compass, Ne is the Regional Map we use to travel down the new and unfamiliar. This map constantly updates and expands depending on where we are or where we want to go. Whatever data is gathered from Ne is sent to Fi, and then Fi either recalibrates and changes the direction or gives the green light to keep going the current trajectory. (Sometimes Ne experience also re-adjusts the Fi compass as well, like how Te can update Ni for INTJ's). All that information gathered by Ne, (whether approved by Fi or not) is then stored in Si for future reference. Si records previous information gathered about highways, ditches, road blocks, or bumpy roads and then informs Fi of which areas to avoid or actively look for in the future. Si is the Satellite Database (like the Cloud or like those up close photos in Google Maps) that informs and updates the Fi compass and Ne regional map of the best direction(s) to go. It can zoom in and out of photos and records everything with incredible accuracy. And finally, Te is the stick-shift Car we use to drive down all the different roads, paths, detours, and pit stops we take to get to our destination. It's a little awkward because the car is old and we're not familiar with driving stick-shift, but with enough time and practice, we get more comfortable. If we feel sufficiently supported from our Fi Compass, Ne Regional Map, and Si Satellite Database, we feel confident and empowered to jump in the car and just drive. It's a relatively slow and sometimes a bumpy and unpleasant ride, but what we gain through the entire journey and reward we reach at the end makes everything worthwhile.

Who are you and how did you get inside my head? ;) But in all seriousness, spot on. I'm also going to add an external reason to these as well. We're freaking intimidating to others. Because we tend to be perfectionistic, and we very often succeed in our goals (because of planning and contingencies). Our need for alone time and generaly being a bit withdrawn doesn't help out either, because we either seem emotionaly unavailable or completely without a need for social interaction.

I agree 💯 percent. Most people don’t understand us and misjudged us without getting to know us. I don’t want stagnancy even in friendships. I want someone who understands me and I can grow with them but is seems the majority of people are vapid and shallow. I only have two friends that I met in college and one of them is a fellow INTJ. Relationships are hard since I want to invest in someone who is willing to be in a committed relationship with me. I’m almost in my mid 30’s and I am willing to move for someone as long as I know that I will have a stable foundation with that person and they can understand my complex personality. I show affection to people who care about me and I know will be there for me. Some people will see that as cold but I don’t care.

I’m an 18 year old INTJ who recently just ended a very serious 2 year relationship (we were living together even tho we are young, I live on my own). And I have to say figuring out my personality type made me feel a lot better about my relationship life. Forever I thought I was a psycho for not being overly empathetic and tending to people every feeling and thought. My partner always complained I was never open and dismissive of their emotions and too focused on my career. But to me I thought if I focused on my career and built a life early the relationship would work itself out along with that. Anyways…. That plan didn’t work out, however that doesn’t change the end goal, but man relationships for us are different..

This INTJ 64 year young male found his next forever partner on Valentines Day (my wife of 37 years passed away). I established a detailed scope of work for the first date before asking her out (dinner, pool, karaoke, etc.). Everything has been going so nicely that I have started complimenting her on helping me get new goals and a vision for the future. As I reflect on this type of "sweet talk" I realize that I sound less romantic than a file cabinet, lol! :) Fortunately, she accepts me for who I am and is starting to learn what makes me tick.

as an INTJ who has an INFP friend, I can understand what you saying he literally goes around the street in the way to the school trying to reach out to girls and he tells me his stories about how he failed at it and he wants me to comfort him about it and im next to him thinking : (this guy is in another level than me what kinda superpower is that? i should ask him how he does it) but i tend to keep my cool and try to act normal and will tell him : (it's okay maybe next time) note: he is not that handsome too, in fact he is the least attractive guy around but he has the confidence of a Top G, i really admire him for this

super relatable. thank you Jon

video had a lot of great points. Felt nice to be so seen and understood in video format lol. like watching a doctor dissect my brain. And I don't know if it's because I'm a younger INTJ or because of the way I was raised but I definitely err on the side of "focusing on the big picture and chasing goals". That resonated very deeply with me. I've imagined many times what I would have to do in order to make a relationship work, the compromises i'd have to make in my personal goals and my sleep-work-sleep lifestyle, And then I've thought about what type of person I'd have to find in order to justify dropping my lifestyle and doing those things... So far my experiences have made me conclude that the reward hasn't been worth the risk of abandoning personal goals. I think for the INTJ it's really a matter of priorities and the person you meet. In my past relationships I naturally spent less time chasing goals, less time doing what I wanted so the relationship could live, but then at some point I realize I've been taking a backseat on my goals, and while I enjoy being around the person, I'd rather be doing what I truly want, and my priorities aren't really focused around a partner. when this happens is usually when the relationship ends. Like you said in the video, for most INTJs, If we were to suddenly find a person that is okay with our lifestyle (rare) or find a person that's more gratifying to be with than our self-fulfilling goal focused way of life (also rare), or if we gave up and decided our goals aren't worth chasing, or if we lowered what we can tolerate in our partner... Maybe we wouldn't be single.

We are complicated but we are worth it.

Hi Jon. It's my turn to be that person that says "I usually don't comment on videos but..." I'm amazed at how accurate you are in your observations and your delivery. From several videos I've watched from you, everything you mention is so on point. I started to feel a bit like an outlier in relationships and in life, despite being around several like minded Ni doms. I find the process of relationship building to be extremely draining. Especially as a woman, the expectation that I have to be soft/spoken and emotionally caring and open was a weight that made some of my experience in my relationships honestly hell. I haven't had that much dating experience, but I have to say the INTJ I dated was the best so far despite our differences in values and Ni planning. We both experienced the "your life goals revolve around that person" phenomenon with each other and would talk about our plans for the future with each other and how we were going to resolve different issues that we were not going to encounter for a long time. Keep up the good work and thanks for taking your time and life experience and sharing it with us.

Thank you for explaining it so well. As intj I couldn't give up my sacred solitude, but I recognize that sometimes that solitude is a bit cold...and it warms my heart to know I'm not the only one in the world with this vision. Not the only crazy, pretentious and romantic alien out here (like I often feel among my acquaintances). Thank you very much for this video, and many good things to you!

Thank you for this channel

You explained it so accurately and beautifully.

Since people of the INTJ type like to analyse (and sometimes overanalyse) everything, we also sometimes assume stances on romantic love in general that are less conventional as a result of that analysis. I also belong to this type, and I can say that I generally tend to view concepts such as "romantic love"/"being in love" critically. I see their historical origins (while many people perceive them as "natural" instead). I also see a lot of disfunctionality in the concept of "dating". I am capable of developing romantic and sexual attraction, and I have even been in a relationship based on "romantic love"™. However, as a get older, I realise that I don't have much use for this concept. I do, however, have use for the concept of "partnership". But I sincerely believe that "romantic love" (fleeting emotional state based on elevated hormone levels) is not a good foundation for a partnership for me (if it works for somebody else though, I am happy for them). Let me use an example from popular culture to illustrate what I mean. In the show called "The X-Files", the two main characters (agent Scully and agent Mulder) were partners in life: they had the same goal (searching for the Truth) and aims (keeping their project/life's work alive, investigating strange phenomena...), they risked their lives together for something important, went through a lot and, as a result, knew each other better than anyone could know them. Yet, they were not "dating", and you could more often see them hiding in the bushes and covered in slime while chasing aliens than having a "romantic dinner". I believe they have developed a romantic/sexual connection eventually, but this was such a small detail compared to the scale of their partnership (having the same life goal and saving each other's lives regularly is infinitely more important than "having butterflies in the stomach"). The romantic attraction was just an optional cherry on top, not the foundation of their relationship (the shared life's work was the foundation). I would like to have a partnership like that, based on the shared calling, not on "romantic love". Romantic attraction may or may not join the relationship later, it does not matter to me that much, to be honest. Unlike with romantic attraction, however, you cannot find a partner to share your calling with on a dating app. It has to happen naturally. You just work and grow in your field, hoping that one day you will come across a person who is driven towards the same goal with the same passion.

Love it. I can relate to these and I am grateful of you sharing this for all of us. I was close to a isfj however, after 8 years of testing (I waited that long because I was still young and hope that person would grow), yep- it a no. The relationship was like a follower and leader kind and that isfj just love for what I do (not who I am), needed more validation/ social interaction (less social means were not close) to which annoys me. I don’t need much validation or social compare to that isfj (I care more of quality over quantity), but of action like asking me to help you with something and under the sea level connections. I’m keeping my morals high and won’t compromise or waste my time on someone who doesn’t have depth, authenticity, the understanding pain/struggle/ of being an outsider of society, etc. I hope some INTJs know that you’re not alone and I too, as an ENFP get you 😊

OMG, when you said that we are 'pushing off a task right now'! I was supposed to be doing my revision for an exam...:/

Very informative! I’m actually an INTP married to an INTJ for 20+ years. Before that, I was a single until I was 28.

My main problem is that I cannot find someone with whom I can discuss things that seems interesting for me. And it's funny to find that most of my out of work interests are marked as "for children" (geology, astronomy, caves etc) :D

WOW! You hit this out of the park - Awesome but Perpetually Single INTJ

Spot on! Glad to be reminded to enjoy myself for who I am (:

You’re spot on. I can see a lot of it on myself.

That makes so much sense! I have met this one person a couple of months ago and they proofed themselves to be just the person that would work. I am an intj obliviously and they are an istp I think but we fit like peas in a pod.

I am a gay male INTJ, and this was spot on brother

Hey, I like your videos (style and content) and I subscribed. Good luck on catching up to Frank James 😄

Okay, I usually don't comment that much but your videos are super interesting. As an INTJ woman who is also interested in women... this is very accurate. I find it even harder to connect with women romantically because I miss all the clues to courtship or I don't know how to flirt with someone naturally. At least, with men, it's easier to know if a guy is flirting with you but with women omg.... this is another language haha.

Great video, btw!

you never know who wants what. I been in a few situations where people liked me as a man of mystery. As soon as I opened up to say hey look Im a person just like you. They get bored or become unsatisfied somehow. Some are like kids staring at an amazon package, there could be anything inside and the magic of that, is often worth more than whats actually inside.

Very accurate As I age, I realize I deviate more and more from my core type of INTJ I becomes feeling better staying in groups, having fun instead of running home as early as I can so I can work on updating my priority list or learning something I find this interesting but not sure how this has happened

EXACTLY!!! Without 'why' you've got nothing.

Being in a relationships always resulted in one thing for me: I was unable to chase my dreams. Being in my 40's now, I realized a relationship is not the answer to all my wishes and dreams. So... thanks a lot for your "studio audience" clap, dude! I'm better off alone 😉 PS you're right, the task I'm doing now in my back = plan for an emergency escape when SHTF in EU, with plan B, C, D, and backup-plans plus possible interconnected routes to switch from one plan to another if necessary. PPS I left a like for your effort.

Beautifully put 💕

WOW SPOT ON! "you do you boo boo" and hilarious.

Spot on. I left my career family, culture, country, language, my dream bookstores for my person. What this relationship has never been is stagnant. Hence why it was worth it.

Hi Jon! Im an INTJ (T). Im also architect, when I did the test for the first time and then I read the description was shocking for me. All was a description of my personality, thanks for the information.

You hit the nail on the head!

Thanks for this video

Very insightful 🌟