Buy a computer for your boyfriend’s babysitter’s daughter?!! Sending money will “stroke his ego”?! “Send money first, then I’ll talk to you”?! Lordy, how much more proof would you need to know he’s a scammer?
I think the reason that we fall for scams so much now is because so many legit things actually require you to like pay first and provide this, and it actually gets people so confused some people… like seriously tho she literally wants to believe whatever she’s told
My daughters first boyfriend she was totally infatuated with. One weekend he got pissed at her because she was with her girlfriends. He apparently called her bitch. She immediately broke up with him and despite him begging for weeks (and despite her really liking the guy) she never caved in and kept it broke off. I was so proud of her. Ladies….. if I guy doesnt treat you with respect like this woman is describing, you should immediately dump him. Someone who cares for you would never ask you for money like this. Have the self worth to allow yourself to be treated like this.
Even if this man turned out to be real, why would she want to be in a relationship with him? The way he spoke to her was despicable; he was super rude and demanding money, he wasn't even trying to sweet-talk her into it in those last few messages.
Because she thought that she probably will be with him,and feel him in real life,but unfortunately he was just an imaginary guy,it's a sad thing to send to someone hard earning money,the parasitic guy in africa will enjoy life for some time by easy earning cash from desperate lonely womeb.
I think she’s used to being treated like that and the scammer knew that based on their conversations so he didn’t have to work as hard. Pretty sad actually.
Oh my, married twice and engaged seven times to a collection of alcoholics, narcissists and abusers. One experience after another without learning or reflecting that there are many pending issues on a personal level. That guy Chris is just a side effect. She'll find herself repeating the same pattern over and over again.
I was thinking that too, and to add to it, she refers to how all the other people she has "met" on social media were scammers as well. It paints a picture that she not only chases too much, but she chases after the wrong things. I hope that she can readjust her "wants vs needs" and fit realism in the mix and then, if she keeps her head on straight, I'm sure she could meet a really nice and REAL person to spend time with. There are a lot of authentic people on social media/dating sites and you can meet them if you stay in your lane. If you've chosen to message 5-10 people and they are all younger and more attractive than you are, and they are "all from Lagos" as she said (paraphrase) then it should tell you that you are probably using the wrong criteria and are not using good judgment/self-awareness.
She needs to do the work on herself to protect and detect toxic people and put herself first no matter what. I get it, I had enough narcs in my life including my adoptive mom. There is a point in life where you need to be on your own for at least a yr or more and really really do the work and be fully aware. SLOW things down to a point where it's even too slow.
So engaged 7 times since 2005 which would be an average of every 2.5 years. I'm jealous... I'm 40 and not even one engagement yet 😥. Ok, not jealous but dang where does she find all these men to commit?
@@Sandland113 someone shouldn't be looking to change anyone period. As the commenter stated above it's immature people who think they can change someone or be the one to rescue someone, only to end up disappointed in the end. For this lady I think she enjoys the drama. Her using the money to get this guy to talk to her says a lot about the games she plays as well. I get the feeling her partners weren't the only narcissistic, abusive ones.
People of abuse learn how to function in that type of environment. So when they are not it scares them, not having an idea when the other shoe will fall. Better to be in a relationship that they can understand. Even if they do not understand what they are doing.
She could have gotten back pay. She could just be on SSI instead of SSDI too but if she is on SSDI she could have gotten 5 years back pay depending on if she could prove her "injury" was going on then. It doesnt make any sense to me that someone would get SSDI just for fibromyalgia either. I have fibro, along with 7 herniated discs, 4 ruptured discs and enough arthritis to make a 90 year old blush. I also have lyme disease and a condition called M.E. and I lost the ability to walk completely yet Ive been denied 9 times. This woman is probably getting retired SSI due to her age and she may be getting maintenance or alimony because of her divorce settlement.
@@JaimeMesChiens She said she was 60 something in the video, thats why I thought she was probably on SSI but she said she was "disabled" because of fibromyalgia which just makes me mad hearing that so she may claim both. It could have been a divorce settlement of some kind too so shes living off of that, who knows. Either way shes not playing with a full deck.
@@8ofwands300 Yeah, you're right. She must be on disability with maybe alimony. Anything else would have to be back pay that she got of she applied and was denied before. Either way, shes dumb for giving any amount of money to anyone like that, its crazy.
i really wish the 'catfished' people would stop saying 'you were in a a relationship' to people..they weren't. that is where the entire problem lies..people convincing themselves that talking to a complete stranger online for a while is not being in a relationship!!
We have relationships with people all day everyday. It may last a couple minutes like with a cashier somewhere. Or a couple hours with restaurant personnel. Each interaction is technically a relationship. Think of the things that you want out of a romantic relationship. Good communication? Yep, that’s important for conveying my needs with service workers. Trustworthy? Yep, I’d like to trust my server to bring me the food that I ordered. Loving? Indeed, I’d like that to be expressed as patience in my interactions with others. Devoted? Uh-huh! Devoted to providing excellent customer service to me. So Lucy, these people are most assuredly in a relationship. Maybe not the kind that you’d have nor want. But they’re in it. Not you! Bow outta others relationships. Nun-ya.
@@hoosierbaddy3052 thats not what i meant...as is blatanly obvious. These people are callling online contacts 'boyfriend', 'girlfiiend'..when theyre are assuredly. They say they ;love' them, when they dont, they may have a very strong fanatsy about them, but they dont 'love' them if they dont know them. Its the social acceptance of that being a real; 'romantic' realtionship that makes it easy for scammers. They are investing these realtionships with expectations that do not exist. Telling me to 'bow 'outta' other peoples relationships is a pretty stupid remark...every single person on this thread is discussing this video...and actually, for a lot of people getting scammed, the more people, freinds & family,that take an interest the better...a lot of them try to avoid letting people know theyre sending money becasue they know what the response would be.
@@hoosierbaddy3052 you're comparing a chat with a check out guy to what others class as a loving relationship. None what do ever...and this platform for other people's opinion so it is everyones right to say how they feel, including yours.
Scam or not, why would anyone actually want a man who asks you for money? If any man is that broke, he definitely cannot afford to be in a relationship with anyone.
Come on!!! How do these men manage to pay their bills before these women come along? These are not victims. There's no excuse for this level of gullibility.
First red flag “many women were messaging him because he’s so handsome” the epitome of narcissism. If someone tells you that they’re so good looking they have all kinds of messages…run!
@@sara31773 yes, that’s a red flag no matter where you are at. If someone tells you they got so many people wanting them, you can bet your bottom dollar that person is a narcissist
I know right! Why do these people take on the blame the scammers put on them? And babysitter? How old are these babysitters because that terminology makes me think of a teenage girl. You are taking advice about marriage from a teenage girl?? These stories boggle my mind.
I can’t understand these women in their 50’s and 60’s would want a relationship with a man with a small child? That would be my worst nightmare. And why does a man his age have a toddler? And where is the baby mama? Logic isn’t in play here.
Same. When I was on a dating site and the scammers were like "I'd love you to be mother to my child" I'd be like nope. Not remotely interested in that!
A lot of these women are older and either never had kids or their kids are grown. While some women are more than happy to be done raising kids, some miss being needed like that on a daily basis. And some man telling them that he wants them to help raise their child shows a level of trust that makes them feel more secure and emotionally invested in this mythical future together that these scammers are trying to sell to these women. The more emotionally invested these women feel, the more they are willing to actually invest by sending money to make this future a reality.
The scammers either claim to be widowed. Or it's a sob story that when they were deployed they found out their wife was cheating with their best friend and stole all his money to buy drugs, which is why she can't have shared custody of the kids. The stories they tell don't change because scammers use scripts
He has her social security number???!!!! Unbelievable. He has been abusive and demanding money and she’s still in contact with him? There are no words.
Why would anyone want someone who they just met that's depending on them financially? It just doesn't make any sense to me, I would never want a man that I have to care for financially. 🤯
I don't understand that either. Also, the really dramatic, gooey, gushy "love" messages/poems the scammers send are so gag-o-rific. Just..... yuck. Those messages aren't sweet.... they're creepy.
WTF. Sending pics of his package before the first date is a huge red flag. Also in the military begging you for money. I would guess he was living in his mom’s basement.
She mentions “everyone else” when speaking of reverse photo imaging. I mean…. stop talking to people online that you don’t know. She needs to get off off the internet forever.
It seems that her openness to relay the toxic relationships she’s had in the past, opened a door for the scammer to be unusually mean and demanding with her as opposed to the finesse they have with others. They really do study what works with who. Absolutely awful 🤮
It's becoming a theme with the victims to say "it doesn't surprise me he's from Nigeria". Yet they sent small fortunes pretending they were "in love".🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
I’m having a harder time feeling sorry for this woman. A lot of times the victims of these scams are older, more naive women who are unfamiliar with this kind of scam and the scammers have more finesse. But this guy is very blunt- he straight out says “I’m not going to talk to you send me the money first.” His intentions are made very clear by statements like that, usually these scammers are more persuasive than that. As well as the babysitter’s advice/urging to just keep sending him money. Money is very obviously the main objective of these interactions. And I’m not even going to go into the emotional abuse and manipulation by accusing her of being selfish every time she hesitated sending him money and how the loss of his son’s two babysitters is all her fault. How did he take care of this supposed child of his before she came along?
@@BeliiSpii Most likely. These guys are amateur profilers. Like the FBI studies serial killers, scammers have studied their victims. Considering how many times and how long they have been doing this they have acquired a lot of information- they know what works and what doesn’t with each particular type of woman and tailor their responses based on that. So knowing her background almost certainly gave him an advantage.
You mentioned the psychological and emotional manipulation and abuse, and that is correct. Hundreds of women die each year who remain in abusive relationships. This really is no different. Welcome to the age of social networking, where lonely people become even more lonely and isolated and do not have the benefit of family and friends to warn them of the dangers. Really we have to view social media as another form of isolation used by psychopaths, narcissists and abusers.
@@sylwiawalks2932 , there is a huge difference between being in a relationship with your abuser who is there with you under the same roof and an abuser online. Just avoid the internet and social media.
Married 2 and engaged 7 times but NooooO the men are all the problems as far as she can see they're alcoholics narcissists and abusive but takes 'zero" accountability for the failed relationships 🤦🏻😮💨
@Livingston Lee ever heard of sarcasm? My comment was simply reiterating her assessment of past failed relationships ....she was dropping some heavy psychological disorders but never once placing the spot light on herself.
Yep. When one can't see a common denominator in a host of bad situations, they likely won't learn or change until they do. It's easier to blame other people than to look inside one's self and examine further. And her little stunt she pulled of using money to get him to talk to her when she _knows_ that is what he wants, speaks to something deeper in her, yet she's busy calling everyone else narcissistic and abusive.
@Livingston Lee your into psychology and you can't figure out the sense it makes is that they will go to any lengths to get money? its all about money? and professional grooming of the victim? study more about online scammers they also post stolen cameo's of models and whatnot as well so they know what they are doing
@CANADIAN UKRANIAN Yes, the scammers work with the victim's own narcissism. These women would rather pay out money than face who they really are (ugly, stupid, uneducated, crazy). A lot of them seem to have "fur babies", too.
@Livingston Lee I understand people get lonely and desperate but still common sense should prevail and rule over it. Rule with your gut intuition and mind and not just emotions and heart.
I'm only 6 1/2 minutes into the video and I'm screaming at my phone "why th would you give someone your social security number?? And if the "babysitter" put the wrong pin in, all you need to do is contact your bank or credit union, and if the "babysitter" quits, they would still have to pay the new one anyway, and not wanting you to meet her, means she if she even exists at all, is a money mule. The military is very well paid, and accounts are not frozen. Don't be desperate for attention, it's better to be alone, than to be scammed. Leaving an app, and going to hangouts is a HUGE RED FLAG!!! Get a dog, learn a hobby, adopt a kid, do something to keep busy, STOP online dating!! Get counseling for low self esteem. A decent person will come to you IN PERSON, don't give ss# bank account info, ECT!!
I really don't understand the "babysitter" saying the catfish loves her, just keep sending him money & stroking his ego. That doesn't sound enticing AT ALL. It was probably the scammer. He was probably all of the babysitters.
It still hurts to realize most of these people drive by panhandlers EVERY SINGLE DAY And avoid eye contact at red lights because "they'll use it on drugs" and "need to get a job"
Well it’s not like giving it to local panhandlers is much better. They’ll most likely spend it on booze or drugs too. At least with the scammers she gets a fantasy for her money.
The computer for the babysitter’s kid should’ve been a major red flag 🚩. His “she wants to be the one to hand it to her” explanation just doesn’t make sense. If the woman bought it and shipped it, the baby sitter would have been the one to open the box and give it to her daughter just the same as if the babysitter had ordered it herself online and had it delivered. If he had said something like “she wants to surprise her and go pick it out at the store together”- that would’ve been slightly (just slightly) more believable.
Combat vet here and actually a medic. There are no Marine medics. There are Navy medics that are assigned to and support Marines; but no actual Marine medics.
It doesnt matter who he really is!!! Unbelieveable! That's her concern?? She's having daily arguments over money and she's more concerned about finding out who he 'really' is???
Unbelievable. Does her disability affect her mind? Why is she so open with someone she’s never met face to face? Account numbers? Really? This lady and I are close in age. I was taught that women do not give men money. Why did she feel obligated to pay for his babysitter? She’s on disability. Why isn’t she concentrating on her health? Why would she want someone so demanding and mean to her? Is this what she likes? Her family needs to rally around her. She needs help!
I have never heard the babysitter ploy before😂. It's ludicrous to even fall for it. She needs serious intervention.Definitely looking for love with the wrong people. I wish her well, really hope she finds happiness soon.
I can hardly believe my ears. Thousands of $$$ later and the Quarter finally dropped? Never forget that a romance scammer cannot TAKE money from you - YOU give it to the scammer of your own free will.
Yes, when do personal responsibility and accountability finally come in? I can understand being scammed by a fraudster who is in the same room with you and talking to you and interacting with you. But someone you never met in person who often said they are half a world away?
This poor woman needs to work on herself. She admitted at the beginning she's been married twice and engaged SEVEN times to abusive men. Then the way this guy talks to her is also abusive and she continues on with it. She needs therapy or she is going to keep repeating the same patterns and getting into relationships with abusers, either in person or online .The only constant in all of her abusive relationships is HER. She needs to learn how to recognize abuse and get out at the first sign instead of staying in and allowing it. I hope she gets the professional help she needs. She's stuck in a Cycle of Abuse
Sorry am I the only one thinking this woman is completely stupid , she’s a experienced woman , numerous husbands been engaged 7 times , who in their right mind would think it’s their responsible for the Babysitter needing a lap top for her daughter , I just can’t get my head around the actions of this woman she’s nice looking not old ; She’s put herself in this position
She's not stupid, she's an abuse victim who keeps seeking out new abusive relationships because she hasn't gotten professional help to work on herself. She's going to keep repeating the cycle until she finds a good therapist who can make her see she needs to love herself first and learn how to set boundaries before she gets into another abusive relationship. And I would guess she probably grew up in an abusive household, so she thinks this type of treatment is "normal" which is why she married 2 and was engaged to 7 other abusive men
Oh no, that would be so terrible for him. I'm sure he was just dying to take care of an adult women who expects to be treated like a child for the whole relationship.
On one of the other Scamfish episodes, the "military man" in need actually asked his online sweetie-pie to send him money to buy a gun!! And she did! Didn't know your military couldn't afford to supply your soldiers. 😮
"Just send the money and he'll be nice to you". This is the kind of man she wanted????? And I swear, why do these grown women send their SSN to people? They should know better than that.
Unfortunately, this victim has a history of choosing bad partners (in person, and online she picked a scammer). It's sad that she can't see the red flags until it's too late.
By her own admission, she has been in 9 toxic relationships (not counting "Chris"). What's it going to take for her to realize that the common denominator in all this is not the men but herself?
wow. victim shaming much? she is lonely and she is wanting to be loved. I don't think that is wrong. Intelligent women have been scammed and often kind hearted people are scammed and attract these types of relationships. Yes the common denominator is her kindness and empathy.
@@sylwiawalks2932 Her "kindness" and "empathy" have just gotten her screwed over for the tenth time. These words should not be used to conceal what is actually a form of sloppy kindness and lack of self-respect. This isn't victim shaming, it's a REALITY that has sadly become her reality. If she is comfortable in her skin being a victim time after time then she need only continue to do what she is doing time after time, particularly continuing contact with someone like "Chris" who verbally abuses her time after time. When she gets fed up to the back teeth with being treated like she is worthless she will have taken a first, all-important step, to start to look inside herself and ask herself some hard questions, preferably with the help of a competent, no-nonsense therapist.
@@anne-elizabethmcgeary1023 The Nigerians must have forgotten about that or declared war on them again and the US is there fighting for them, so they can stay at home to continue their scamming.
I am learning so much by watching these and am trying to pass it on to my friends and family who might be at risk. But I also continue to be amazed....no, almost shocked by how quickly a woman can trust a total stranger with her personal information including her driver's license number and banking info. I mean, what the heck is going through their minds? It is truly mind-boggling.
I am usually 100% sympathetic towards scam victims, but 2 failed marriages and 7 broken engagements is a very good indicator of the kind of stability this lady has, and provides to her partners. She does not learn from her mistakes, she's desperate and has low self esteem and honestly, she's too old to be falling for such stupid shit. Some people just deserve all the shitty stuff that comes their way.
The strangest thing that I've noticed about her is that she knew people do scam people like this, and even knew that people from Nigeria scammed people all the time. Yet, she didn't check on this guy, except checking for photos and only found a copy of a private part that belonged to someone else online and still didn't see the problem. There are some people who don't know there are scammers out there, so that is why may of them are more vulnerable to these scams (usually after losing a long-term relationship with a spouse). But this woman knew these types of scams were out there, yet she gave her disability money to him (or money she saved before going on disability) like it was nothing. A person on disability is usually bringing in a lot less money than they did when they worked, so I guess she didn't value whatever money she had and didn't care if her social security was given out to someone never met who kept asking for money, and she gave out a lot of other personal information. She seems to have zero common sense, in addition to being desperate. It's like she really shouldn't be able to take care of herself and should have a trustworthy guardian handle her care.
Well the proof that she herself says the kind of men she meets is awful that’s because she is a damn magnet. How simple can you be. How can someone be so desperate for love ❤️ that they cannot see the red flags
Talked to the American 'business man'. He flew to asian country for a business trip. Suddenly his son was sick and asked me to send $3000 to her nanny. Nahhhhh !!! I blocked him . Its not my son anyway, who cares. Never meet any of them. I like men but I love my money more !!!!
I would have replied by telling Lover Boy that I had been kidnapped for ransome on the way to the grocery store because my car broke down and my bank account was frozen, and now the kidnappers and I are sick, hungry and need medicine. I WOULD HAVE ASKED HIM FOR MORE MONEY THAN HE ASKED FROM YOU! 😂
Loneliness wreaks havoc on the brain, it saps all discernment, and all elements of logic and reason, even though the lonely one might not admit it, they're being consumed. We can better serve family members, friends and loved ones, by doing what we can to keep it in check - a daily phone call or visit, not much to do for those we love! 👍
So let me get this straight…. Some guy that you’ve never met, has a babysitter that he hasn’t paid, and this babysitter tells her “he loves you, you just gotta send him money” and THEN (as if that weren’t crazy enough) HE tells her he won’t talk to her until she sends him money. She said it’s an everyday argument/battle. Uhhh hello??? The lights are on but nobody is home apparently! How about…just stop replying to his emails? Or does that make too much sense? This lady is a fool.
Wait, the "babysitter" is telling her to "keep sending him and stroke his ego and he'll marry you"...and nothing seems suspicious. Also Her: he is so nice also her: if I don't send the money, he blames me for his problems. 👌
