Was Dumping Him The Right Decision? 

+Artsy Tyger Agree. After I got in shape and grew my hair out longer. He started calling again! Well, you had a chance with me, but you invested nothing in the relationship except for me being a "Booty Call"

Uhm that depends on the growth of the person that got dumped.... I have friends that have broken up and now are happily married...

Yes this is so true

Or not. Especially when you have some kind of condition that seriously impairs your ability to judge another person objectively (my best guess is that this affects about 40% of women and 20% of men before any kind of therapy), you may find that there is nothing wrong with them, especially when you work out YOUR issues. If you don't, they may remind you why you left them, but it may still not be their fault. Or, in simpler words: I hate some women for their tendency to end perfectly functional relationships (or other kinds of good long-term commitments), and getting encouraged for it. And I also detest Matthew (for this video, not in general) for being business-oriented and not even mentioning the possibility of you having mental issues that destroy your relationship.

I’m currently in this situation..I took him back a few days ago and well the first few days and even this morning he was being the person I’ve always wanted him to be, until slow he started reminding why I left him in the first place.. I need to learn how to not take him back and how to just stay away from him..but it’s so hard cause you’re just used to talking with that person literally every day and sharing your darkest fears, etc.

If you felt like you could have deserved better and if the level of effort isn't equal then it was the right decision to make ❤️ Never let people bring you down xx

I feel you I did the same thing today...we give much more than they deserve which is bad and they take our kindness for weakness so finally they lose us...hope you are feeling better now I dont know when u upload this

@@themandynguyen I, too, broke up with a man (2 years) who had addiction issues. I could not come to terms with inviting this behavior into my future life. I believe there is a high rate of relapse and I won't subject myself to this type of lifelong pain. Like the song says, I was in love with your potential.

I feel you. I am in the same boat.

Good news though, he wasn’t the love of your life! You will find the love of your life! Cause the next one won’t make the same mistakes the last one did

i am with you, girl. i feel a tremendous amount of guilt for breaking up with him and causing him more pain than he’s already been feeling. much like your relationship, i needed to end things because i felt that we needed time to grow on our own. i know i did the right thing, but i keep doubting myself. he’s in such a dark place right now. my heart is aching for him because i’ve felt his pain before and i hate that he has to experience that. i only want the best for him; that’s why i’m letting him go. but, it’s so, so hard.

please be easy on yourself. you are only doing what’s right.

geez this is me right now and him. Ugh so hard

This directly speaks the words from my soul. It's just good to know that someone understands.. that's why I was searching for this topic on RU-vid in the first place. To release this feeling of "you did the worst possible thing". Thanks for sharing.

I feel the same. I send my deepest condolences because I know how hard it is. It’s horrible because I feel like society teaches you that love can overcome all, but what happens when love isn’t enough? The hardest thing you can do is cause pain to someone you love, but honestly sometimes you have to because you yourself should come first. At least that’s the thought I keep running in my head hoping it helps in my situation...

Girllll I wished I did this a year ago when he tried getting at my cousin while we were seeing eachother

Hi, I just broke up with him because I percieved his behavior towards to me as disrespectful. But I feel so sad rn and I cried so much. I can't stop thinking if I just wasn't "too strict" and if what I percieved as disrespect was really a disrespect :( I don't know... On one side he was so sweet, caring, loving, trying to find solutions etc, but when he was pressured he became emotionally unstable and suddenly treating me disrespectfully when questioning me because of rumors one girl did spread about me. Even told me "F*** u" when I broke up with him. I tried to be polite.

@@DZ-jz8bj i am questioning myself hard the same way you did. How do you feel now?

Leave when it gets too hard...gotcha.

I know exatcly how you feel. I left my girlfriend after 10 years. Hardest things i ever done. But it gets better!!

Same siss same

Same here...😰

Me too girl. Me too

The Movement same girl

hear, hear

@@KotoriOnWheels 😂😂🙏so true!

No

This is a stupid assertion.

Well I felt very loved and valued in my relationship but still had to break up bc he went back to his home country. It's not that simple

Damn sounds like my ex/relationship :,(

𝑴𝒚 𝒅𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝑰 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒊𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒆 𝒇𝒆𝒘 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒉𝒔 𝒂𝒈𝒐😢, 𝒖𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒍 𝑰 𝒎𝒆𝒆𝒕 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒃𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌 𝒎𝒚 𝒆𝒙 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒂 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕😊😊.,.

𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕𝒔,,,,𝑨𝒑𝒑 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒑🙏🏿🙏🏿.. ➕1️⃣,9️⃣5️⃣6️⃣,5️⃣3️⃣1️⃣,2️⃣4️⃣0️⃣6️⃣.:

You people are so weird, stay out of relationships

@Harry Pannu. It is her choice to reunite or not. I did the same with the ex who we both mutually respected and even wanted to marry. In the end, before he popped the question, I rejected and left him because I deserved better and God did led me to a better man via my husband and father of my children Frank. ^_^ Even if I had never met my husband Frank, I had already made up my mind to never go back and keep moving forward on my own without the ex because God is more than enough for me and I do not need anyone else to complete me. Though now, my husband and children are my blessings from God. ^_^

𝑴𝒚 𝒅𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝑰 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒊𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒆 𝒇𝒆𝒘 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒉𝒔 𝒂𝒈𝒐😢, 𝒖𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒍 𝑰 𝒎𝒆𝒆𝒕 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒃𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌 𝒎𝒚 𝒆𝒙 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒂 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕😊😊.,.

𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕𝒔,,,,𝑨𝒑𝒑 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒑🙏🏿🙏🏿.. ➕1️⃣,9️⃣5️⃣6️⃣,5️⃣3️⃣1️⃣,2️⃣4️⃣0️⃣6️⃣.:

Letting go of someone you love and which you know is right for you is also one of the hardest things, however, it was worth it in the end to leave him and thankfully before we were either engaged or married. To my surprise, God led me to a better man - my husband Frank.

I needed to read this tonight. I genuinely did and finding your message has given me lots of courage. I am exactly going through this.

This!

Tania diakoff hows that working out?

What happened??

Any update??

Same!!

Hope you are ok

Im right now at this point! I am in so much pain, its almost unbearable! The relatives and friends make it only worse! The mornings are the worse, when you wake up and feel that its real..... he is not there.,the urge to contact him is immense!!!! But I must be strong! How???? Fear, pain, sadness.... i need help did i do the right thing? Am i too fussy?

Going through the same thing. Hard as hell. But thank Gawd for Hussey!

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I agree.. mornings are the worst. And late night too. Be strong, you'll get through it!

we are back together now... in couples therapy,... lets see how it goes

I'm with you on this. I've got so many problems and I believed she'd be better off without me, but now all I can think about how she could have been the one to help me through. But I'm alone now and I have to grow from it. Find the lesson in it all or else it'll all be for nothing.

@@mosesart.47 Hey! So for me, I made this comment months ago, and I was in such a heartbroken and terrible place. I don't know what you're going through exactly, but I can tell you this, it gets so much better. It gets so much easier, and life gets better every day. I know you must be feeling terrible right now, but just take some time to take care of yourself, reach out to friends, and slowly but surely, you'll notice that things will get a little less heavy each day. I am in such a better place than I was 2 months ago when I wrote that comment, and I know you'll be so much better than where you are now in 2 months time. Hang in there. You can and you will get through this.

@@anna-ne9zk hey there! This truly means the world that you would respond. If Im being completely honest I dont share things with anybody in my life cuz it just feels like nobody cares, so I keep things in a lot until I can manage vetter on my own. But having you reach out to me, a complete stranger, has shown me that there are ppl who care and that what I feel matters and that I'll get through this! Thank you so much, you've truly made my week and I hope you've been maintaining in the middle of all this global chaos! Lol take care of yourself and I promise I'll do the same, bud!

@@mosesart.47 That's so kind of you!! I understand how you feel, sometimes it's hard to go about the day to day when you feel alone. I know I'm a total stranger to you, but if you ever need someone to give you some encouragement, never hesitate to reach out to me! Hope you're safe and healthy in this weird and stressful time :)

Alycea Wood hi. Any chance we can talk about this breakup subject? I’m in a similar spot...

Sometimes its good growth but sometimes its bad growth. Maybe you will learn the difference.

@@EmilyGloeggler7984 "bad growth" doesnt even make sense

But how about me as a guy? I still love her after we broke up for a year. Did i have a chance to get her back?

Love u need😂

Crumbs are never an adequate source of nutrition. No living creature can survive on it.

I feel this so hard right now

And what's the love you need?.

𝑴𝒚 𝒅𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝑰 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒊𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒆 𝒇𝒆𝒘 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒉𝒔 𝒂𝒈𝒐😢, 𝒖𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒍 𝑰 𝒎𝒆𝒆𝒕 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒃𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌 𝒎𝒚 𝒆𝒙 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒂 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕😊😊.,.

𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕𝒔,,,,𝑨𝒑𝒑 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒑🙏🏿🙏🏿.. ➕1️⃣,9️⃣5️⃣6️⃣,5️⃣3️⃣1️⃣,2️⃣4️⃣0️⃣6️⃣.:

Dumping someone is not courageous. It's a selfish decision at the end of the day. One person can't decide what's good for both. They are deciding what's best for them and that's all.

@@Jonovision81 One person has the freedom to leave at any given time though. Sure it’s selfish but that’s the given human right they have. I can’t stay in a relationship because he hasn’t granted me permission to breakup or we haven’t agreed upon it lol! If I want out, I’m out. If he wants out, he’s out. That’s the relationship agreement.

And for anyone who wasn't a responsible partner and ended things without thinking things through, it's also for the best that they ended things because they weren't showing up properly for the other person and weren't being a good partner, and their partner deserved better, and they needed time and space to grow and learn.

How are you feeling now? I'm incredibly interested, and in a similar situation you are just two months post break up. I miss her so much.

That’s exactly my situation right now. Please update on how you’re doing. I’ve been in such a dark place since I ended the relationship 2 months ago. I don’t feel hopeful about my future and worry I made a mistake.

@@moniquemartinez212 I just ended my 1 and a half year relationship yesterday and it’s pretty similar to what she was saying when I look back on the day to day I realize I was often in shitty moods and yea I was happy here and there I found myself often being emotional distant from my ex too. Idk of my judgment is skewed by the pain right now but hopefully the future helps me see it clearer

@@skyb5335 Same, that’s what I’m hoping too. We were together for a year and a half as well. I just hope with time I get more clarity about why I felt the way I did when we were together.

@@skyb5335 Hey, how are you doing?

Me to

I'm thinking the same thing too, glad I am not the only one.

I'm here fellas

Me to

I think I'm going to do that too

Cullen Folks hope it was worth the jump

skyhigh lihi I don't even know anymore

Niftysquash same here

Stay strong girl 💪🏽

Stay strong! Did you already move on?

Lin Du made me emotional that vid..

Yeah. That was so helpful, saved my day!!!

Yesssssss

Adi Jackson same story here!!

I relate to this so much

Wow relatable

Guys...i just dumped my person yesterday and today he texted me a whole essay stating my faults and saying i played with his heart ( even when i did so much for him for the past 2 years ). He even said I'll regret leaving him..so that made it clear to me that he only thinks of himself and his needs ya know? Like xD so much self importance that he thinks I can be with noones else in this entire world full of people. They're just jokers ready to hurt you bad. (ofcourse i don't mean to address the good guys who are well behaved and honest) it's just my person was a damn liar from the beginning and I ignored it cause I thought it's alright to lie sometimes.. xD he even lied he got an open heart surgery lmao xD and he always put me down, said I suck at things.. lmao they say when somebody gives u less importance you are attracted to them more cause u neeeeed that importance. That's what's been happening since 2years.. but i am so done.. this was my first bf and i wish I hadn't spoilt my last 2years focusing on teenage love rather than studyin for my medical exam 😂 we learn things the hard way and I'm glad im here today.

@@thecookielord744 same babes. but just like matthew said. u need to think of WHY u broke up. for me it's been a rough 6 days... since i broke up, but i know that this time (i broke up with him before and then ran back to him cause i missed something and wanted to fill the void! WORST DECISION cause it made this second break up painful. first time i was extremely confident.) so i know this time if i go back, there's no turning back or breaking up. he was really desperate and manipulating me, saying he will kill himself and wants to stay friends.. i can't deal with that again so i blocked him everywhere. if i unblock now, im doomed. i know i am emotional but i am at peace with it since i did and do still love him, but i know we didn't have a future together. yes he wants to marry me, i do too. but 1. different religion; i fear god, he doesn't as much as me and i NEED someone who makes me fear god even more than i do already. (we women forget what we NEED in a relationship cause we keep chasing the things we WANT) 2. he wants to live somewhere else in the future and i know LDR is NOTHING for me. 3. he LIES, HIDES and MANIPULATED me many times. I can't deal with someone who avoids conflicts thinking it will be better cuz no. u need to COMMUNICATE. and trust me, even if it is small stuff ladies, that red flag u ignored will bite u back in the future cause if i gave him a second chance (like he says how he didn't mind me flirting with others... UM DUDE WE WERE BROKEN UP?!; which leads to) 4. playing the VICTIM ALL THE TIME. i would never know if he cheated. i had to tell him 2 days straight that i know the truth. he kept CHANGING his STORY and that is so so scary and sneaky. his voice didnt shake once.... while lying STRAIGHT into my FACE!!! beware ! and when i confront he always played victim. so overall this was a toxic relationship. know when to leave and DON't GO BACK LADIES!!! LY ALL

This is so true! The second guessing is killing me

Both suck equally. Being dumped hurts more especially when the person is an asshole while dumping you.

@@shawnabattaglia1369 same situation. it's driving me mad

This is so true

Most untrue thing I've ever read.

I feel exactly the same way. I thought I would be fine but I feel awful. Super worried about him and miss him and waant him back.

I'm in tears. I'm thinking about texting his sister to tell her to keep an eye out for him. Idk if this will do more harm than good though. 😭 i feel like i ripped my own heart out too.

I'm with you guys :( . It hurts so much to see him in pain. Never thought it would feel like this being the one who ended it...wow. Realizing that the only thing that will heal us is time...pain is okay - it's a human experience. Better that we all experience it and work through it without pushing it down.

I'm with you on this. I've got so many problems and I believed she'd be better off without me, but now all I can think about how she could have been the one to help me through. But I'm alone now and I have to grow from it. Find the lesson in it all ir else it'll all be fir nothing.

L please don’t. You’ve caused this poor guy enough pain already. Let him be in peace without you pouring acid on the wounds you have already given him.

Me too

i have the same fear. He was nice, kind, caring...but i never felt any chemistry. He was attracted to me way more than i was attracted to him which led to my decision to end the relationship. It just didn't feel right. I'll be honest, i do sometimes think that Karma will get back at me...that i'll fall for someone who won't love me the same way...maybe i was selfish for not loving him back the same way. My mother loved him and so did my dad. He seemed perfect for everyone around me ...except for me. The thought of living with him for the rest of my life didn't make me happy, but sad. He was the nice guy, the perfect on paper guy, who did everything right...but for some reason i couldn't love him.

Elena Salvatore I have this lovely guy who loves me. Why don't I want him? I'm afraid I don't know what's right for me, I'm afraid that I might be alone. All of this crowds me & makes me feel indecisive.

rasnabegum2012 I'm sorry honey, I wish I could give you a magical formula to fall for the guy you want to love - but I don't think love / attraction works that way. You can't help who you love. Just think of it this way. You must know one person who loves someone who isn't good for them. You probably ask yourself questions like "how can he/she love someone like that?" I think that love is more powerful than any other emotional process. It's kind of like a disease that creeps up on you when your least expecting it and shakes you to the core - you start to question everything that you believed in and suddenly you see life and everything through a different lens. Maybe I'm exaggerating a little here... But that's how I see things and I believe it's not any less true. I wish you all the best. I hope you find the right person for you. Everyone deserves to love and be loved.

Then try telling it to the guy. If you do it with no fear of loss, then gz, you set him free and give him truth. If you get afraid and decide to keep him till someone better comes along (like my ex did) then gz, you are a selfish person that wants to eat a pie and keep a pie, at the cost of others.

I feel you, I'm in this situation right now

SOVEREIGN CRY Uh.... U r reported.

𝑴𝒚 𝒅𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝑰 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒊𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒆 𝒇𝒆𝒘 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒉𝒔 𝒂𝒈𝒐😢, 𝒖𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒍 𝑰 𝒎𝒆𝒆𝒕 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒃𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌 𝒎𝒚 𝒆𝒙 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒂 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕😊😊.,.

𝑴𝒚 𝒅𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝑰 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒊𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒆 𝒇𝒆𝒘 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒉𝒔 𝒂𝒈𝒐😢, 𝒖𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒍 𝑰 𝒎𝒆𝒆𝒕 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒃𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌 𝒎𝒚 𝒆𝒙 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒂 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕😊😊.,.

𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕𝒔,,,,𝑨𝒑𝒑 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒑🙏🏿🙏🏿.. ➕1️⃣,9️⃣5️⃣6️⃣,5️⃣3️⃣1️⃣,2️⃣4️⃣0️⃣6️⃣.:

EXACT situation for me! 4 years as well!

Karina really!! Video game!! So We are normal. Hope you are feeling better now , cuz still i have my ups and downs. All the love and support ♥️🙏🏻

Mine was always working or taking care of his dad. Noble things but nothing for me... not moving in together, no wedding, no children... after three years... So I broke up at an unexpected day when anxiety took over. I hd doubt after a few months but then I remember that he will never give me what I want. He just won't listen. He doesn't see me as a priority. Shame, after so much time, but we tried too many times.

Men don’t break up with their partners anymore. Their actions just change and they hope you leave.

Same 4 years and guess what he went back to his ex

did u dump him

+

Same

Same 💀💀

Gimme an update

Are you still happy you left?

I'm 26 and I did the same , I always worked so hard on myself , studying , learning skills and growing so when the right time comes I could be a great wife and a loving mother for my children , he is afraid of mariage and talks bad about the idea of it , I couldn't risk to stay with a guy who doesn't think I'm worthy of a lifetime commitement when plenty of guys out their could propose to me .

You 100% did the right thing

I recently broke up with someone too... And He was lonely and had many issues I can't help him with... Health and family issues... Right now he is devastated and assaulting me with Blames in my dms and im in pain too idk what to do

I can honestly relate to everything you’ve said so much. Hope you’re good 🥰

@@karinadansinghani3797 it’s been a little over a week now and I haven’t been this happy in a while. I still care about him but I definitely made the right decision.

I just did that tonight .I didn’t want to feel like i was dragging him along .Honestly he was the best boyfriend i ever had it’s just my feelings weren’t there anymore and i was trying to hold on so i wouldn’t hurt his feelings . My heart is broken because i didn’t want to end it if me and him was meant for each other and he’s all I’ve ever know frfr were was together for 2 and a half years .i felt guilty because he’s treated me amazing but i knew my heart wasn’t in the relationship anymore .

This comment helped me a lot!

@@jordan2143 i am currently in the same situation right now. Broke up with him 4 days ago but feel like it was a bad choice and hopefully I don’t regret it. But I didn’t feel much for him anymore and didn’t want to hurt him.

Seems like you are looking for something that doesn't exist ...

until you find out the grass isn't always greener

That is so well said. I agree, these comments combined with the video is beyond comforting. Stay strong ❤

Any update? In the same boat as you.

@@Pskinn hey hope youre doing well! So about 2 weeks or so after I ended things, he called and asked to see me and also asked for another chance which really raised my anxiety levels higher than ever and made me question my decision even more. I told him I needed time to think...while deep down I knew I deserved better and it was best for both of us to move on. And it was so hard to come clean about this (again!) but finally managed to tell him that it was wrong. I do think that I‘ve made the right decision and that really helps me with the anxiety that comes whenever I begin to question things.. I know it‘s a hard time for u and u have to give yourself time, but you‘ll be fine at the end ;) Hope things get better!

@@dorsa1773 I appreciate your response many thanks:)

@@dorsa1773 4 months later, how do you feel now?

@@xMikeyHardyx I feel a lot better now! The more time that passed the more I came to realize I made the right decision. Can‘t say I‘ve moved on completely, but I‘m definitely not the same person I was four months ago. Crazy how time can be such a healer. Thanks for asking btw:)

Thank you

I disagree. Don’t commit with anyone since that’s your case.

Anisa Ali 👏👏

How are you feeling now ?

I feel your pain (Also I love your profile pic 😍 world wide handsome)

Update?

𝑴𝒚 𝒅𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝑰 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒊𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒆 𝒇𝒆𝒘 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒉𝒔 𝒂𝒈𝒐😢, 𝒖𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒍 𝑰 𝒎𝒆𝒆𝒕 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒃𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌 𝒎𝒚 𝒆𝒙 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒂 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕😊😊.,.

miraclemaui Stay strong! Did you already move on?

Simone Bogus i am now 🙂

I just did today too and still feel so shitty omg for so many reasons :(

@marshmelo me too :(

I just broke up too, and it was horrible to see him so sad..

What was the reason?

How are you doing now ?does it get better ?i m going through it so if u have any advice?

+JadeyFadeyMCR I wish I had your strength. You're amazing :)

Natalie P. Wow, thank you! :) I'm not sure I'm strong or anything, but it helps to have faith in yourself and your worth. No matter what people tell you. So I mean when I say: you're amazing too! :) (and so is Matthew Hussey)

JadeyFadeyMCR Thank you :) Let's be honest, confidence is sexy as hell! ;-D

Natalie P. Very true, that and positivity/ happiness is very apealing too!

JadeyFadeyMCR I don't think it's law of attraction.dont know what it is but I know what your saying.for me that's happened so many times.once the pain goes away,here comes another roller coaster ride.lol

The main reason I fell In love with him was that he was passionate , smart and sensitive but he stop being that as the relationship progress . Im just not happy with that person anymore

KN N Good decision! If a guy doesn't meet your expectations you don't have to stay there and feel miserable for all your life. Move on and follow your own path, and hopefully you'll find a man who tunes in with you.

KN N that's my exact reason too omg so lazy just goes to show how serious he takes u

KaiBlueSky I totally agree with you. Me and my ex were together about 4 years and he left last year around this time. He was jobless and very depressed with the situation. I always tried to give him motivation but it never really worked. He went back to his parents and still being very confused. I do miss him and his family a lot but I think it will be hard for him to change his personality.. I think I need to move on but it is really hard. Just he is back of my head though I am seeing someone and make me doubt if I am making right decision. I’m just trying to move on and hope I am not wrong and not missing him and his family anymore ..

KaiBlueSky omg I’m going threw that rn ! That’s why I left him but I miss him so much and us and it hurts so bad

I chose the break up with my boyfriend because he had such bad mental health and it was so difficult to continue for the both of us. I know he is hurting and I feel so guilty, I am in pain everyday. My chest literally feels tight. But I know that is didn’t work. I love him so much but it wasn’t healthy. I know that we both deserve to heal and to be happy.

@tami you have a good heart. A lot of people bring all the negative memories to the front of their minds and focus on that. You like me tend to focus on the good times and slowly forget the reasons why it wasn't going to work..

Now how you feel??

Channary Voeng I'm totally agree 👌

yolanda verdugo are you with him now?

I went back 3 times he did the same thing, it even got worse...

your intuition was this guy was not that into you. do you think he was seeing someone on the side? my ex gf was texting me regularly after breaking up with me after we dated for 2 years. she said she needed space to sort out issues and as much as wanted to believe that , my gut told me she found someone "better". and i was right . i hired a PI and found out she was seeing this rich guy who works in her building for 6 months before she dumped me. she was obviously trying to keep me hanging on just in case her new bf and her did not pan out. trust your intuition.

Exact same situation with me and a lot of other girls/guys. No need to waste time, and why would you want them anyway if they don't want you in return? I'm sure you're doing better now without him.... :)

I had a similar situation where I was talking a guy I really like but he ended up telling me he doesn't want a relationship now so I gave him a chance and said will wait for 3-6 months then we'll decide. Unfortunately, he started losing interest of me and wasn't making any future plans to see me. Once I felt that I was upset, I knew something wasn't right. The night I told him to stop talking, I was so scared that I'll lose him. He ended up letting me go. Right at that moment, I knew he isn't the one. I felt the pain and fear after we stop talking but it makes me realize that I wasn't trying to hold onto him but rather I'm just scared to be lonely and want a companion. Now I just focus on self-improvement, and learning how to deal with loneliness and be mentally strong so I don't need to rely on guys. :)

@@josephineh4391 bruhhhhh tell me why that same thing happened to me, he said the exact same thing and After I left him, I saw he was seeing another girl. Lmaoo what a loser

Sometimes things just don't stay the same anymore It's a chaos and you should leave Well done!

ZOE'S HEALTH.BEAUTY.LIFESTYLE Same here girl, I feel

Haha, you all think the guy will just take you back. It's not that easy with a self respecting man.

Kenneth Reichelt I have seen one taken back, it all depends on how deeply they feel for each other and what ended things and how. It is rare but not impossible. People also do change after their journey alone, they grow and can come to visualize things differently

Zoe-Holistic Health 5 months and he declined when I wanted to go back. Good for now :)

Sunethra K you are so brave I wish I could move on just like you did I had the same problem with the family part but I'm too afraid to move on because he always controlled me for four years I feel so weak now but I hope I can get better by time 💔

Medo Jariody I never had a bad relationship, he was trying to focus on work but it was pulling me away for a long time that it becoming to a stage of no relationship if I let it continue. I'm one month post break up, it's hard but I am still not contacting. I miss him and if he values me he will come back I guess. If it's not serving you and your young please leave if it's abusive. We have one life to make it correct hun. I wish you the best, sending you love. A man and woman should value one another.

Redmar Belle your very young. Is this due to cultural reasons for her not being able to spend time? Well it's almost two months. I called him and no voicemail. It's gone. So I just sent a text wishing he was having a good break and wanted to say hello. So his choice whether he wants me or not. We can only do so much for people. We have to listen to our gut intuition and follow. Mine said to call for some reason, so I did and feel more at ease with his no response to be frank. Tells me so far that he still is in doubt which is a turn off. Piece of advice. Never give your fill heart. Always keep 20% with you to forfill your own needs.

i'm exactly like u i found out that he was lying to me and ...I'm ending it right now at this moment :/

Sunethra K you will find an even BETTER connection with someone else. We are all human beings hardwired for love and reexperiencing deep emotions and connection. :)

Red Bean o

Are you doing okay? I kinda feel like I'm in a similar boat. I have trauma in my past that makes it really difficult for me to stay in a relationship. I have a lot of sensitivities, and it is a lot for a partner to have to deal with. I am so torn over whether I did the right thing by leaving or whether I let my fear response take over too much. I've left someone in the past who I probably should not have left, although sometimes I've stayed too long. I think I'm just broken.

@@deprofundis3293 I'm doing just fine thank you. But are you? Can I just say you are not broken, you were just feeling and maybe it was for the wrong heart so you left them. Whether or not you think it's right now, you left them because society believed you did not need that person. Your sensitivities are not a lot for a partner to deal with. Have you ever seen that video with the guy saying "You are perfect for the heart that's meant to love you" Your sensitivities should not define who you are, or who you are with or what you can do with a relationship you are not broken you are everything.

@@aahiyah_yourdad5677 Thank you so much. I really needed to hear that. I spoke with my therapist, and she was worried that I'm taking too much of the blame (as I often do), especially because my sensitivies aren't typically irrational...just sensitive. And our society shuns a more rational view about respect towards other people in favor of baser jocular attitudes. Anyway...I know I still haven't tried enough and that there must be someone, somewhere out there, who is emotionally intelligent and respectful of women's issues. Thank you again for your response and heartfelt empathy.

@@deprofundis3293 Don't be too hard on yourself and you are most welcome.

I can resonate. I just ended it with a guy. I have attachment issues because of childhood trauma as well. Sometimes I am not sure if it is my trauma-fears trying to convince me to end something good or if it is a truly valid reason. Sometimes Idk if I am just too picky and so I can't settle down with anyone who is a decent guy or if I keep picking the same bad guys who make me want to run and help me repeat the cycle. The trauma brain makes dating so hard. I have been to therapy but I still struggle with trusting myself and my own feelings.

Liv Hudock,So sad to hear your story 😪

I ended a relationship too with my boyfriend today and I feel bad 😔 But it is for the best for the both of us

Same lll be good in a few weeks

Like how you feel now ?

I noticed that. I tried looking up help for people who broke up with someone and are hurting but everything is geared towards the person that was broken up with.

Angie Ngalura im going through that pain right now too, relationship of 5 years. Hang in there, sending love your way

thank you so much for sharing your love and reaching out to me. i am in a better place now as far as accepting my new reality. Hope you are doing well right now. It only get better. XOXO

what about now ? is it better ? i'm afraid that the pain will never go away.

Angie Ngalura did y’all stay broke up? Did y’all get back together ? Are y’all ok? I need an update 😭❤️