If he continually cycles between hot and ice cold in his pursuit, he might adore you but is not emotionally available. For your own sake, walk away and keep it moving.
How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. I heard that women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and I heard that science shows that women can bond very well with each other. I heard that generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a male can isolate himself and grief alone. I also heard that women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. I also heard that women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. I also heard that most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. I also heard that females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why girls tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than guys do. I also heard that women are very unique creatures, and women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man. I also heard that women are very sociable with each other, so if something goes wrong, they like to speak about it to each other. This is a way to develop trust among women. Women often relate their problems with other women, which makes them feel more connected in a way. I also heard that most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father. I also heard that most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers. I also heard that the bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist. And I also heard that the friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view. So if those things are true (which I am not sure at all), then how can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other? Also, men and women are both mentally and physically different from each other (which is true), but would that at all effect the bonding between a male and female?
Seriously, what’s the worst that could happen? She says no? Pfff I’d rather hear no than always wonder. Pain heals with time. Wondering lasts a lifetime.
So he's obviously talking about crushes. Let's see: Choice no. 1: become friends with someone first and just invite them out somewhere without admitting a crush, which would cause the immediate, unnecessary expected reciprocation. Choice no. 2: approach a woman the first time by shoving a dozen flowers in her face and tell her you love her. Discuss...
there's nothing more attractive and good about guys who're straight forward like if you like some girl tell her direct, i swear girls respect that even though they don't like you back but still they'll respect it..
i have told a couple guys i liked them before and one of them was like "that was very sweet of you but unfortunately i can't return your feelings at the time" (is that correct english? sounds wrong) and i think that was pretty respectful. didn't hurt that much :)
You fail to realize that good hearted shy people who are not well articulate with less talking (but more doing) do exist. And you also fail to realize that in this post MeToo world, its getting dangerous for men to approach and expres interest. Men get shame for it
I’m a female... I always hide my feelings towards guys I’m attracted to. Cause I don’t think they’ll like me back or want to date me. They’d probably be grossed out and think “ew” if they knew. I suppose it’s the fear of rejection and it just feels safe if they don’t know. ☹️😔 I guess I have confidence and self esteem issues... which actually are big turn-offs. I always hear confidence is sexy, and it’s true.
I'm the same way and I never used to be like that. I used to have a lot of people persuing me and I had a ton of confidence. Then I got into a very bad relationship and it changed me. I have confidence in general, but when it comes to romantic relationships, my confidence and self esteem are now very low around that, and I think it's mostly a protective mechanism so I don't feel vulnerable or get hurt. I have a lot of negative self talk happening, like why would someone want to be with me or desire me, I don't have anything to offer. When in reality I have a ton to offer and I'm a really great partner. Negative self talk is not true, it's just a lie to keep us from growing.
Definitely don't tell them your feelings because they will play games and hurt you. I'm in my 40s and me and my best friend say as soon as they feel they run away
lesson learned too! they will act their way through the other 3 because they've studied how to manipulate. The key is boasting OR over-complementing you, if they start sharing a painful past specifically to get your empathy (looking for manipulatable person), moving too fast or hot & cold - any inconsistent behavior, or any comments that put other people down.
Undercover Narcissists use empathy or false modesty to see how you react. It’s like reverse psychology, they will put themselves down to see if you will correct and compliment him. Covert narcissists are indeed masterful Players and are secretly manipulative. They come across as self effacing, humble, timid, shy etc to make you make the first move, to make you put in the effort, to make you react. They are secretly pulling the strings so they can secretly get you to do what they want. All under the guise of a “ Nice “ guy which is A Wolf in sheep’s clothing. Pay attention to inconsistencies in their words and actions, and trust your gut. Listen to your Intuition, the body never lies but “Nice” people do.
If some guy said this to me I’d notice how he’d diverted the conversation away from the subject being talked about into a conversation that’s all about him. I don’t think I’d think he was trying to impress me, I’d think 💭 hmm 🤔 no narcissistic tendencies there!!! 😂😂😂
Hmmm ... none of these sound like things a healthy man would do. Seems more like what manipulative, insecure men do. Healthy men are authentic & vulnerable.
Don't lie! Authenticity is generally good yes, but you already know there's nothing more unappealing than vulnerability when it comes to choosing a partner. If you really believe that then you're very disconnected from nature. Vulnerable fighting age men who failed to adequately safeguard their egos used to be food for rival tribesmen and on a quite real level, still are, unfortunately or not. Nothing kills the mood more than romancing or lying down with a marked man, I imagine. Note: I apologize already for any awkward punctuation here. I am not a grammar major.
Jerrell Lawrenceberg Em... most men. Don’t live in tribes now a days.... I understood what you meant though. But most women are looking for a guy who can be honest with her and real/authentic. Which is hard. Guys at first will probably have there guard up. They should eventually let it down though and be real... if not they have extreme trust issue and no one wants that.... at least not me..
@@Heather-hv7me I don't judge people on weather the have trust issues or not. At the end of the day it's about emotional connection. If you like a no good two faced psycho then I say listen to those instincts and don't feel pressured by society to cut him off. Same goes for plucky boy scout types. I was pointing out that weak men are unacceptable though. When I heard her say "vulnerable" I already knew that meant a pussy. Crying in front of friends and loved ones, for example, that makes you a pussy. Letting you wife cheat on you for fun, that also makes you a pussy.
Jerrell Lawrenceberg Kk that is something I can agree with you. Sorry if was a long night. So I misinterpret your comment a bit. Hope you took no offense 👌 Thanks for clearing it up and have a good day 😝😊
This is very cute to me...but guys wait too long and sometimes the right moment will pass you by...or someone else with guts will take that person away from you..be shy but don't be to shy about it...everyone is nervous at first...practice in the mirror and go for it.....love the video
Shiizaa Kerushii right? Like why do I need to decode and make first moves? If a man is truly interested, he should ask to spend time, not play stupid games and make us guess. Men like to say women are hard to understand but i find many of them to be much harder to know.
@@j.r.2674 because each person thinks there's some kind 'code' the opposite gender uses, which isn't true at all. Its all actually just sexism and untrue stereotypes. People act like each sex/gender is a different species and it makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.
@@vampiraJ then those people are not healthy. Healthy people don't act like that. It doesn't matter the gender. Also, people try way too hard and over complicate it. 🤦♀️ People let their fears and insecurities get in the way when they should just be. 🤷♀️
Reading comments bellow: most about how this is waste of time reading someone’s signs and not to waste time on someone like that. That is what is happening with dating and relationships these days, people give up so easily and so soon. If your gut feeling tells you she/he is the right one for you, he or she is worth fighting for. As someone shy like myself I wish people would give us a chance to open up and let us express ourselves.
Its one thing to be shy and socially awkward. This i can live with. However its another thing to express ur interest and then not reciprocate that interest. Im sick of men who say they are interested yet make no effort to keep a concersation flowing. To me if a conversation doesnr flow then neither will effective communication in a relationship. I dont have time for that. When u dont reapond with the same effort i give to you. Im pulling back whether its 2 days in getting to know your or 6months down the line.
Well if you men care enough you'd express yourself directly and intentionally and not steal our time, make us wait all the time, leaving us in the dark. But the truth is men like that DONT care and love enough! To invest and wait and go for a man with that character is actually SETTLING. Why should we freakin fight for a man to develop a great character? Fight for yourselfs to become an authentic human being. And then come with that to the table. Nobody should be fighting for a guy to develop. No you fight when you actually love eachother and somewhere something went wrong and you fight! But other than that... good people don't make you put up with toxic stuff and ask you to fight for them. Why not just function properly so no one needs to fight to make somebody be a good partner. What the heck!
Loved this vid.. 1. Give plenty of information in just some sentence. 2. Act like a duck act like cool but inside pedaling. 3. Nervous but hiding 4. Trying to make you laugh 5. He don't know where to stare and then he see at all the place 6 he make excuses to get close to you.
I have recently experienced exactly what you are relaying. This man was secretly in love with me for 17 yrs. I just realized it. There are Pages, Knights & Kings. I have always been with a King (he passed away). After you've been with a King, it's nonsense being with a Knight. A King loves his mate no matter what. There are no games, he is mature & he loves strongly with a whole open heart. I didn't know what a Knight was until I saw this video. Thank You 💕
I have had men secretly in love . One was my best friend. He didn’t say i love you he showed me he loved me . He was my king. Even tho he didn’t come out and say it. Many women get mad when they say it and not show it. Well he showed it and didn’t say it. He passed away on Easter this year.
He’s using tarot card references ......I’ve not even watched the video I’ve been reading comments.. pages are messengers,knights are in and out of your life and kings are there forever......
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Exactly what I'm going through with my current partner... 1. Plans 2. How he loves children 2. How he checks on me and my son. 3. How he asked if I still want to have another child 4. He sweat like hell, 😂😂😂😂 5. How he told me that his heart beat very fast when he is with me. 6. How he ask me what to eat for lunch. Even my 5 year old said "Mama this guy love you, but he is afraid to tell you" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. And I do love him as well..
@@llunavermella_bloodmoon I wrote it 4 years ago. I stopped acting like a duck a while ago because I can't even feel emotional attraction to anyone anymore. That's why I am now the duck itself. I don't act . (Sad LOL)
This is very insightful! I've observed all of these behaviors from men. They try to let you know how they're doing in life (their job, that they invest, the car they drive, that they go on vacations, own a home, etc). Truly noble men "produce more than they consume" so a good guy wants to let you know he can take care of business.
Men are not complicated at all, Please. They are like toddlers that never grow up. And they always say we are complicated. We are Indeed more mature and accepting. According to science. Much love 🙏💕🦋⚜️😇
But not every guy is the bold/confident type. I'm shy, too, so I tend to give guys a chance. I will even instigate a group activity to give us a chance to spend time together and get to know each other a bit. However, if he and I have been talking long enough for him to get comfortable with me and he still doesn't have the courage to ask me out, I tend to back away. I won't cut the guy off completely, but I friendzone him and start looking for somebody else to date.
You fail to UNDERSTAND that good hearted shy people who are not well articulate with less talking (but more doing) do exist. Yea.. so very mature of you indeed...
Can't believe how above and beyond all the other dating coaches you are! Your tips are so insightful, logical, and perceptive than the other, more obvious advice out there. Yours are the best videos on dating I've ever found. Thank you so much for doing them!
I just made the exact comment almost word for word on another one of his videos. He seriously has the most insightful relationship content on all of RU-vid.
When men talk about those "benefits" they have to offer, it seems like ego to me, and is a big turn-off. I am attracted to modesty not bragging. I guess it takes time to evaluate?
I think there's a big difference between an insecure guy bragging & a secure guy who mentions a few subtle modest "benefits". Although the example of benefits in this vid wasn't the best tbf & did come off as annoying lol
LOXE 365 okay I had my crush right where I wanted him but since he were hiding his feelings I got confused and I just went crazy with him being emotionless so I pushed him away 😔 match his energy
🙈 ive done that too. But i feel like even when not drunk ive been pretty foward telling him how much i like him and want him. My mom always says that babys and drunks never lie 🤣. Maybe i need to get mine drunk and see if he opens up 🤣
Thank you for adding that you are talking about good guys with good intentions. I see so many comments bringing up narcissists, and yes they're out there. They aren't the only abusive people though so I'm not sure why they get mentioned almost exclusive to any other abusers. And, to put it in my crude manner. Crazy doesn't count.
Yeah, it is very easy... it’s called walking away. If they can’t express themselves while dating or being your friend, it would be impossible to be in a relationship with them.
You fail to realize that good hearted shy people who are not well articulate with less talking (but more doing) do exist. Yea.. so very mature of you indeed... And then there's another category of men who fear being accused of harassment especially in the post METoo world where its getting extremely dangerous for men to approach and express interest
@@your-username-here2308 exactly. Let her let walk away from men who genuinely cares for her just because her brain is wired like this. Walk away instead of fighting for each other. Good, and she will settle down with a fat ugly heifer becos of the number of good suitors she walks from
This hits hard aside from #1. I try to compliment on my crush's personality and traits she has. Make her feel better when her mood is down or offer suggestions. Most of the time, i just offer an ear for her to vent or complain cuz i know some ppl just want someone to listen to them.
Yes Brian, Love,what you give out in your videos! You are Very perceptive. Men often say women are hard to understand and in some ways I have found men do have 'linear' behavioural patterns BUT my Man can be very hard to read! Thankyou for this video it is so true! Lesley xx
This is really funny!! I had no idea guys were trying so hard took into our eyes or make us laugh. They definitely aren't the player I thought. It's really cute, how hard they try!!❤
Boy,you totally made my night!!!I think I have noticed all of these behaviours in him,and though I was feeling he liked me,his behavior made me think he didn't like me...confused,but if you say they are to cover the feelings,then...
“Brian” I don’t watch your channel much but every video I’ve seen of yours seems completely accurate. When I do watch your videos it’s because I find it encouraging to see another man who gets it. Thanks for speaking out!
Great video! I constantly missed these signals way back in High School. Nice guys told me they had wanted to date me at reunions. I’ll pay better attention now!!!
This is the reason why some women end up going into toxic relationships with emotionally stunted men-babies because they "read these signs" from them when they truly are calm around women because they are not interested. Im dying single. This is too complicated
Ohh My God, Thank you so much for this beautiful video !! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THISS !! MY CRUSH IS INSANELYY IN LOVEE WITH ME AND I’M SOO EXTREMELYYY GRATEFUL !! ❤️❤️❤️🦋
