Some different ways to come out as transgender! Social Media Links: Instagram: / jammi.dodger Facebook: / jamiearaines Twitter: / jammi_dodger94 Email: jamieraines@hotmail.com Music: Bensound.com
Hey guys! Thanks for the positive response on the video so far, so glad to see your lovely comments, really hope this can help some of you :) Just want to say a massive thank you (and credit) to Shaaba who helped film, and then edited this video! Couldn't have happened without her - go check out her channel here: ru-vid.com/show-UCjZ97eKgNwC4j-z_6LDjfIg
Hey, could you make a video titled "The person who sent you this is transgender" or something similar? It would be super helpful. There are loads of "the person who sent you this is gay/bi" videos on youtube, but none about being trans. Also love your videos :P.
Jammidodger I'm never gonna come out. My parents don't believe you can "change" your gender therefore I'm stuck being female :( I bind and all that when I'm alone but whatever it doesn't matter anyway.
the funniest "coming out" thats happened to me so far is when i sent someone a snapchat saying "im trans" and they answered with " you like trains????"
Idk what you replied (curious cause that's awkward as hell though) but I would have sent a picture of Thomas the tank engine and "CHOOO CHOOO" as the caption
I started wearing a pin that said ‘THEY’ on it for days, after about a week my dad just kinda laughed and said ‘Ari, I get it, you’re nonbinary’ I replied with ‘no, I’m 7 rats in a trench coat’ he has a pretty good sense of humour :)
I was scared as shit to come out to my dad. I called him on the phone, and I start this big talk, voice all shaky, and finally I just say it- I'm a guy, I'm trans. And then he literally says "well, duh." It was the best thing ever- apparently he'd guessed at it for quite a while and was waiting for me to tell him, or maybe for me to realize it myself, lol. He said the moment I called him saying I had "something big to tell him" he knew immediately I was going to come out to him as trans. Literally, that entire thing could never have possibly gone better than that.
Shaaba. I just sent this video to my dad because I can't bring myself to tell him face to face and I'm nervous about when he sees it!!! (I sent the video to him and said "I'm Tarzan" haha)
I tried coming out today actually, twice, the first time no one was listening, the next I got so close but I chickened out when I was gonna say trans WHY IS COMING OUT SO HARD???
Chippy Gravy I blame it on the fear of being rejected... I tried coming out... five, fuckin, times... but every time I catch them in a good mood, they have something to yell at me for.
If you're an only child who's also trans and gay you could say "hey hey your son is gay" then when they say they don't have a son just be like "I am your son"
My daughter made it official by sending me a meme and I will treasure that forever. From a parent's perspective I can confirm that there truly is no wrong way to tell us, that every way is the right way. I fully understand how difficult it is for all you transgender people out there, but we are here for you and we will love you unconditionally (and if you are unfortunate to have a so-called parent who doesn't, then hit me up and I will tell you how proud I am of you and I will listen to your stories, I promise
@thelonelyrainforestdweller my dad began shit talking trans people and was making the attack helicopter jokes right in front of me a bit ago. so I get it sorta, I wish things were better too but we won't always have to live with these people. it's up to which is more important, abiding by what your parents think or being happy and letting yourself live
one time I tried coming out to my dad as trans while playing the board game Life; so I put a blue person in my car and waited for it to sink in with him until I remembered that he's color blind :'^)
With me it was screaming at the top of my lungs since I was four. But alas now I done seemingly everything society wanted me to do but never to be. I was giving myself a much needed hair cut for this hot summer. My daughter comes into the bathroom unbeknown to me and watches me gleefully trimming to the scalp. From behind me. She piped up, said you definitely need to stop denying your a dude mom/dad how long are we going to limp on this? Your 57. Man up already. Yes indeed you are so right I haven’t got a whole life ahead of me. Time to stop seeming and just be. To have guided such wonderful humans in this dark world fills my heart with joy. That both my kids can see who I really am and encourage me. They are adults now with babies of their own and the youngest calls me poppa he hasn’t got the grand down yet. 18 months. This is the kind of people that should inherit the earth. Love knows nothing but kindness.
I came out to my Dad as a trans man today and it went so well and I feel so lucky and relieved. My Dad is a huge Star Wars fan, so I told him by saying that he has something in common with Tattooine. He has two sons. It took him a little bit, but he realized what I meant and all he asked was if this would make me happy. I said yes and he hugged me and said that that was all he cared about. I cried.
I remember feeling like a complete wreck trying to tell my dad. and my dad's girlfriend already knew so I begged her not to tell him. I told him last year in May on the way to work, and he looked at me for two seconds staring. and then he busted out in song, I'll make a man out of you from Mulan. one of the most anticlimactic moments of my life.
meanwhile im constantly questioning if i am simply 'following the crowd like i know thats nonsense. but it doesnt stop me from fucking thinking it.. (im enby, and alot of the stuff mentioned in his videos i cant completely relate too. and yes i KNOW thats just because im enby, and because we all have different experiences i thought id never felt dysphoria but then dypshoria actually was and now i feel it all the time, so its probably that i simply didnt really pay attention to it. yknow .. stuff like that )' so being told this when trying to come out would *REALLY* not help me
guys quick update: they have been saying they will call me by my preferred name and encouraging family to do so as well (do they all actually call me my name? no) and they are slightly transphobic but its whatever because ill be moving out in a year so :)
I plan on getting top surgery and starting T, then climbing through a window at my dads house and yelling "yo I'm your SON" Edit: I just found this from ages ago, I came out to my family around three years ago and it went great! Thanks for the support in the comments!
My family went out to my dad's friend's house a week or so after i came out and you wanna know what happened? I saw a pink box that indicates someone bought a cake. "Can i have cake?" "Later." Ok. Later, they bring out the cake, and it's one of those stupid gender reveal cakes, "It's a boy!" Written in fancy-ass cursive. I didn't like that bery much.
I came out to my parents as pansexual. I had been hinting at it for months but they didn’t seem to notice. They accepted me right away...then a couple minutes later asked me what pansexual meant 😂
*My Friend Is Gay And He Came out by Walking Into Our Form Class And Playing The Song "It's Okay To Be Gay" on a speaker... I luv that son of a biscuit*
Ferdhaus Ismael Considerimg the fact he's a boy, no matter what people, his body, or even body system says, you'd be gay. It doesn't matter what your genitals are and such, all that really matters is what they feel they are. In his case, he is a boy. Making you gay. Hope this helped. ^-^
so I came out to my dad last night he basically said "idk... It's normal to hate everything about yourself at your age" and I'm starting to realize just how messed up my family is.
My friend came out to me in middle school by writing their new name (new to me) in my yearbook at the end of the school year. I almost didn't notice because they had signed it and it was almost illegible compared to the good summer wishes they wrote. I asked them what it said because I could at least tell that it was a different first letter. So they awkwardly explained that it was a different name. I was so honored that they felt comfortable and close enough with me to even tell me something like that because as far as I know, they came out to most other people by correcting their teachers on the first days of class the following September.
5:22 Bake a cake and dye the batter. Ice plainly. When the cake is sliced into and whoever you're coming out to sees the color, cheer and say "I'm a [gender]!" Nothing can go wrong when there's cake.
i straight up asked my mom for a binder and she still thinks i’m cis 😳😳😳 also i have a masculine “nickname”, oliver, and my sister has referred to me using that nickname right in front of her before
It always upsets me seeing how scared people are to come out to their family. I’m scared too, that’s why it’s upsetting. You could have the nicest parents, the most accepting parents, and you can still be terrified of coming out. The Tarzan one was hilarious though, they all were.
once, i was coming out to 3 of my internet friends and, instead of saying something, i just sent them a card that’s usually intended for the first time parents find out what their future baby’s sex is that said: ‘It’s a boy!’
I was also nervous about telling my dad; he's a little more stubborn and close-minded than my mom. I wasn't afraid he'd be angry or anything, mostly I was just scared he wouldn't believe me. Lucky for me, my dad broke the ice for me. He came to me and said if I ever needed to talk to him about anything, like my sexuality, he was here for me. So I, y'know, took the opportunity. He did indeed believe me; mostly he was just worried for me, but you can't keep your parents from being worried about you.
When I struggled to tell my mom she noticed something was going on and sat me down and went like "it's no problem when you're lesbian..." and looking back at it it was quite hilarious considering my sister was a closeted lesbian at the time
OMG Jamie I loved this video. One of your best actually! I thought closeted you had nailed it with the straight-up no-nonsense text but I never saw "I'm Tarzan" coming. xD Funnily enough I always wanted to be Tarzan before coming out as trans lol
I just recently came out to my sister. She's pan, and knows the pride flags and stuff, so that's why this worked so well. So basically I made brownies earlier on in the day and saved her some, 'n offered to do the dishes with her. I downloaded a picture of a trans flag and while we were taking a break, said, "Hey, do you wanna see a cool picture?" I showed her the flag and immediately got hugged.
When I came out as bi I left a letter for my Mum and dad, they found it and thought I’d run away, came charging up to my room and found me still asleep.After they woke me up they read the letter and were like, “yeah sweetie no shit...” 😂😅❤️ Good luck to anyone who is coming out ❤️💛💚💙💜
I'm gonna come out by sending this video to my parents Update: I showed them the video and they didn't get the hint so I just told them. Their response was basically, "I'll love and support you no matter what, you'll always be our daughter" 😭
Extra update: they now fully accept me and use the right name and pronouns consistently, for the last two years I've been on testosterone and I got top surgery done last year :)
I came out by going for a walk and texted my parents and waited for a response without having to actually talk to them. They were really accepting and nice and honestly they totally expected it. I texted my gran later and she was just as accepting and now all my family and friends know. Some of my friends still refer to me as she/her because they’re awkward about it and afraid to say the wrong thing but everyone uses Alex and most of them he/him pronouns. The only people who doesn’t know is my extended family on dad’s side of the family, and let’s just say I’m not going to the family Christmas dinner. This story is from a hardcore Christian family, my mum works as a full time priest and I go to church every Sunday. I wanted to just let you know how well it went for me even though the odds might’ve been against me. Of course, never come out unless you’re ready and if you might be in danger, but I haven’t regretted it a singe time. Coming out was probably the best experience of my life. :)
“Hey mum, I’ve got something to tell you” “Sure, what is it?” “I can’t quite seem to find the proper words...” “C’mon sweetie, don’t be scared” “Uhh... I don’t know, im too scared of your reaction” “C’mon darling. Are the girls bullying you again?” “No its not that” “What is it then?” “Uhhh... try to guess” “No, tell me.” “I’m... im a trans woman” “Oh... okay... wanna pick another name? :)” **silently dying inside**
My dad was teaching me how to change a tire when I came out to him. I liked that because I had an excuse to not make eye contact. His response was "well you're already pretty man-ish so I guess it won't be much of a difference". The only thing he needed to get used to were the pronouns and the name change.
I want to tell my family it's just I'm really not good at explaining myself or getting my point across- especially if I'm nervous. I also don't want to write a letter as I still find that really hard to do and I feel like it's a little dramatic(?) for my family. Like, I don't want to make it a big deal if that makes sense. I'm kind of stuck on what to do I've been trying for 3 years.
Omg I really get you, I had the same problem for a very long time and I really feel you on the "dramatic" part I had the same thoughts! I eventually (about a month ago) told them "I want to talk to you about something" to make it impossible/harder to back out and then I finally managed to tell them
If you feel like you're not good at explaining, maybe you could show your family a video explaining it / a trans youtuber / something like that after telling them you're trans and then just answer their questions. They're your family, so I'm sure they love you and will try to understand you ;) You can do it, I wish you luck~
This video made me SOOO happy! XD As a transboy myself, I didn't get to come out (school unfortunately did it for me) and my parents/entire family didn't take it too well. Your videos give me a lot of hope for my future tho! I'm so glad you're here making these awesome videos and making me laugh while you're at it. I'm giving a big like and I want you to have a fantastic day :) (also I love your t-shirts they're awesome)
Just starting my journey as a trans woman and this video really helped calm some of the anxiety I was feeling about coming out to the world. Needed some humor. Haha
I did it in attempt to come out to my sister here was the conversation: Me: I need to talk to you about something Sister: what is it? Me: *sweats aggressively* Sister: are you ok? Me: *whispers quietly* I'm genderfluid Sister: whatd you say? Me: nothing I just wanted to talk to you!!! Nothing specific!!! Hahaha!!! WASTED
I tried going the outright “I’m trans” way and then that failed because I couldn’t say it (got too scared to do it) so now I’m going to just bake a gender reveal cake and give my parents a heart attack first by letting them think I’m pregnant (ew) Either that or I’m doing something related to Hamilton (which we’ve all seen and love). “Son, I need you alive-“ “CALL ME SON ONE MORE TIME. Please. Seriously, please do it again.”
Hahaha, I wish I could had came out to my dad in a funny way, he saw me crying and then we had the talk. But I'm glad he accepted me :) Great video, Jamie!!! XD And good luck everyone!!!!!!! XD
I doubt anyone will see this but one way you can come out is if you are in school and your parents talk about your day at dinner you can say something like this. "So how was your day at school today? " "Good" You can say or anything else. "Did you learn anything today? " "Yeah. So quick question. In health ( or what ever class you think would work) we were talking about genders and they gave us a piece of paper that had a few questions on it. They had things like do you have more male or female friends ( you can use any question you want) and one question asked if we were a boy or a girl and I put boy" ( again use the gender you are. So if your ftm and you want to be called Tim, boy you can say 'I put boy' or if you are mtf and want to be called Fiona, girl you can say 'I put down girl') then ask, "Are you okay with that" If yes then say. "Okay (cool, great, thanks. What ever word you want to use) but can you call me" Then say your preferred name. If they are not okay with it just say something simple like "It was just a dare (pick a name) told me to do" Or you can try to explain that you are Transgender. I don't know if this will work I never used it. This is just an idea that you can use. If it goes bad cover it up with a different topic or class. Be safe when coming out. I know it is scary but please make sure you will be safe when doing it and have a backup plan just in case it all goes horrible. Stay safe.
I've been depressed all my life and I always think that something's wrong with me. A lot of things are wrong with me actually. I just thought that I'm a supreme weirdo. Until I got into meditation and self-acceptance practice, and suddenly all is figured out: that I'm actually a boy all along. It all suddenly make sense, and that's the exact shoes that I'll be fitted in. I was in constant denial and kept refusing the thoughts every time it came across since I came from a mildly religious Muslim family--in the biggest Muslim country in the world. This pain me bad. I knew I could never came out or they would kick me out of the house and or even send me somewhere to 'cure' me and violate my rights as a human being. My mother had kick me out of the house before only because I cut my hair off. Now I know that perhaps I wouldn't get the skin that I wanted or live the life with my own proper identity in this world. And if that's the case, I'll be alright. Even though I wish, I hope, a miracle will appear. But I would never be able to live a life as a woman. I could never get married, and I could never mingle in society with my current state. My plan is to find a decent job and buy me a nice house to separate me from my family and all of the people. And just live in isolation until the end of my times. I wish you all a happy and fulfilling life.
Idk why but this is seriously really helpful for me. It's calming all the anxiety i have about coming out, and I've been thinking of writing a little letter/sending a text. Oof I have so many emotions towards it.
Well, I actually got an idea from your autocorrect one! I could send my parents a text ( or just my mum I suppose, I dont have my dad's number hah ) that said " Mom Im like transgender ". Now I know that sounds a bit improper, but hear me out. If she gives a good response like " thats okay sweetie, I love you no matter what. Does this make you my son? " Then I can just be happy and glad yeah. If she gives a bad response, like " Im disappointed " Then I can just say " OOf I meant tarzan Hah. Autocorrect failed me. I was saying this because I climbed a tree lol " and it goes well either way! ( unless she says shes disappointed, then itd be bad, but at least she wouldnt know I was trans )) This all coming from a young kiddo who's pretty sure he's trans(It'd be FtM) and is just watching videos like these to see if I can find myself in em I guess lol, Im thinkin ahead of myself!
I’ve been super scared to come out to my parents bc I don’t know what they think about trans people and they’ve made some trans-related jokes- This vid gave me a little boost in confidence! Probably not coming out anytime soon but I feel better about it ^^
I came out to my mom and brother via email. I told my mom that she could tell any family members that she wanted to. She told my aunt, but said that I should personally come out to my grandparents. I wrote a letter to my grandparents coming out as trans and thankfully my family is very accepting!
You look SO amazing. I've always been so afraid of transitioning and the process. I don't know if I honestly want to transition (ftm) but I know I don't quite fit my own body sometimes. I know everyone is different, but recently after finding your channel, you're really helping me love myself a little bet more and more every time I watch or talk about my situation. Today my best friend told me that I am valid and I started tearing up. I've been so confused for so long, and I still am, but even during this stage, you inspire me.
I am planning on tying a helium "It's a boy" balloon (I work at a party shop) to a package containing two shirts I made saying "I ❤️ my trans son" and a note signed by Jamie. Does that sound like it would backfire?Thanks, you're one of my favourite people at the moment.
I’m gonna come out as trans to my mom with the help of my therapist soon. My mom can be open minded but she gets wrapped up in older thinking. After my brother (they’re okay with me calling them my brother) came out as non binary my mom was completely okay with it. Same with the furry community, she believed they were all low life degenerates, but after my brother taught her otherwise she was super supportive. Plus she really trusts what my therapist says, so it’ll hopefully help her understand
hi! my name is Felix, my pronouns are he/they, and i've fairly recently discovered that i'm trans. i'm not exactly sure what to call it, because i feel that i'm both a boy and non-binary, so if anyone has a word for that, please let me know because i'm really confused! i'm coming out to my close family on christmas either with a song and dance or maybe some sort of card. maybe i'll make a keynote presentation with one slide that just says "i'm trans" and then i'll jump out the window before they can react because i am fucking terrified. i know they'll accept me but it's kinda scary - it feels like my old life is about to be gone permanently. i'm worried they'll be hurt that i didn't like who i was, i'm worried i'll turn out to be wrong, i'm worried about my extended Trumper family finding out, i'm just worried. anyway though, good luck to all my LGBTQIA+ folks out there planning to come out! you are loved
Hey! I don't know if you're still looking for a good word to describe yourself, but I identify similarly and know a couple! I personally call myself transmasculine non-binary, or transmasc, but you can also use something like demiboy, masculine-aligned/masc-aligned, masculine non-binary, just masc, or even genderfluid (or masc genderfluid) if that makes you more comfortable, because I know I get days where I feel more non-binary and days where I feel really masculine. Or, if none of these feel right, maybe they give you some ideas! I hope that helps you out some! And I hope coming out went well for you, or will go well if your plans changed up a bit! I know I was really scared to come out to my friends, even knowing they'd all be really accepting, but I've been out to all of them for a year now and it's really nice to just be myself around them.
Hi Jamie, I really like your videos eventhough I know you exist for only 4 days now.. I just wanted to say that in these 4 days your videos really changed things for me. 5 years ago I realized I'm transgender although I've always known there's something different about me compared to "the other" girls but your videos have made me really think about what I want with my life. Long story short (or at least shorter), I literally just came out to my mum. I tried to tell her before twice, but she didn't take me seriously. Now I feel like she actually did and I couldn't feel more relieved. I'm really terrified for the future and all its changes and in which order I want to set them in motion, but I choose to be hopeful and optimistic. Anyway, thank you for being you and for your videos. Love
