Weaponized incompetence is a behavior pattern where one partner pretends to be bad at simple tasks to get out of shared responsibilities. E.g burning food so that you don't ask him to cook again.
Equality is not wanting to be identical but wanting a state of having equal political, social, economic rights (right to vote, to fair trial, to education, to own property/enter legal contracts, to hold public office, to fair wages). Chivalry (wanting your door opened is like wanting to wear a scarf) is a matter of personal preference, i.e., neither here nor there matters gender equality. Whenever you are confused about what gender equality comprises, think of the other "forms of equality", such as racial equality, and what exactly those of minority race(s) (encompassing all genders) mean when they seek racial equality, they are not seeking to be whites. Or when persons with disabilities push for equality, etc.
If my husband every brings a side chick to my house, I won't even fight him. I will just find a side guy, bring him and we shall live as one big happy family. The 4 of us. It takes a village after all aiiiiii.
Once a relative was staying at my house and I came late from work only to find they had cooked just for themselves without considering me. My house, my food and they couldn’t even spare a thought. Never felt so disrespected like that
Don't disrespect back if someone disrespects you because you will be allowing someone to change you into a person you are not...its better you dissociate or love them from a distance if it has come to that...
Disrespect = lack of due regard. Any time someone doesn't give you (or you don't give) due regard its straight up disrespect. The standard for respect is so high that it requires humility to fully give it. And disrespect is not a petty offence. One act is enough to give you enough information to let you know who are dealing with. Also goes hand in hand with forgiveness/grace because ego always looks out for no.1. in which case how would due regard be given to anyone if you're the most important character? These concepts are transcendent
Aki the way I related with Julia about how stunned you become and continue with tasks after a disrespectful episode just shook me. Now I am an alright human but mahn! The things I have ignored in some relationships are inexcusable. Weuh! Lemme go heal again.
According to Google, mansplaining is the ''explanation of something by a man, typically to a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing.'' When men explain a concept to a woman the same way they would talk to a child because they think you are not able to comprehend the 'complex' details. It mostly happens in the work place for example, they are both competent and certified financial modelers but the man will explain a concept to the woman peer like he is talking to a child.
On having a problem and telling the other spouse, yes Jules, we need context😂! Sometimes it really gets out of hand and you go to the spouse to see if they can help!
The reason people overreact on things definitely relates to their perceived ego. But the truth is the ego doesn't really exist, it is an illusion. Once you realise that, it becomes so easy to not react at all to things.
Jules is such a mirror image ... I like how she was honest bout how she handles provocations ..as a reactive person I strike right back.n yes the kind of men uphold women's rights n protects women do sweep feet off.yes the higher rd is quite a challenge
Kila time Jules akiongea I see myself in those stories 🤣🤣🤣...life full of drama.....aaah! you just reminded me of that church leader when I was in highschool 😂😂...then the lady went home to tell my Dad 🤦..giiiiirrl, this is my buddy!!
Not me watching this on a Tuesday, sema kuchelewa🤦🏿♀️. Interesting convo👌🏾🔥. I live for Jules storoz😅🔥. Nyinyi ni warembo💕💕. Just Ivy looking good🤓. Lornzie❤️.
I am doing my MBA in Finance. But every once in a while, some guy who doesn't work in field or hasn't gone to school for it will try to mansplain basic Finance to me. I'm sure they wouldn't do it if I we're a guy.
@@honeststranger1070 the act of explaining something to someone in a way that suggests that they are stupid; used especially when a man explains something to a woman that she already understands. It's often rooted in the assumption that a man is likely to be more knowledgeable than a woman.
It's not really disrespectful if you disrespect someone for disrespecting you. It's just reciprocation. What you give is what you receive. It's not even about revenge
You babes have triggered me from here to Timbuktu. 😩 My then hubby brought home his side babe when he thought I was at my parents. Side babe walked in first and welcomed me into my matrimonial home. 🥴 I was speechless.
Jules like seriously u are my soul sister it's like everything uve gone through I have as well.. your likes, talents.. we share a lot it's crazy to me. I love u girl...
I keep talking to myself everytime am on the road. My mum keeps telling me to be nice and calm. It's annoying and disrespectful for people to drive like they are the only ones on the road.
For sure when talking with the girls its easier to call out bs, but as its happening to you in private, i too get in shock and i'm unable to respond/process immediately and let the disrespect fly Jules-thank you for being open to sharing all the things we too go through Ivy-thank you for such topnotch moderating and for this topic on disrespect Shikie-thank you for always having the words to express feelings we all feel but struggle to word them
I don't take gizzard and I can't take kuku kienyeji thigh. They were and are still dad's parts. You know the way some foods are not in your taste pallet and you have to learn, that's me with gizzards. 😂
I feel its so disrespectful to announce other people's news ,like success or even failures without their permission or before they do. like we've seen alot of people sharing something like pregnancy news ,miscarriage or promotion or even new business news before the owner. RESPECT PRIVACY, .u never know what one is going through to come to terms with the situation or news.
Fantastic seeing you all lovely ladies…love the engagement..Julez you’ve really lived walai, we need more info huko tiny little channel! I’m stuck hapo my man giving my friend time to talk about me in my absence…I can’t move past there I’ve not even tried to think whether it’s right or wrong of my friend..I’m frozen there. There’s different levels of loyalty at play here, my soon to be x friend on one and my man : read hubby on another..once man is elevated from boyfriend to fiancé to hubby..I wouldn’t except this move.
That's Hepeating (He + Repeating). When you say something and they pretend not hear or dismiss it but then repeat/reframe that same concept to you as if it was their idea. Like when you are in a meeting and you present an idea and it's not acknowledged but a man repeats it and they're applauded and given credit. Like if
@@muchemikimani5318 It's men who don't respect the humanity of women. Like these things are perfectly okay to do to maintain an upper hand over women. It happens a lot.
Great program, I thoroughly enjoyed it; so refreshing. Word of advice, stick to your accent, it's more authentic, the imported one (American) does not add value to the program, secondly try your best to refrain from explicits, it also does not add value to the positivity of this program. Young ladies, remain resolute, keep the faith and stay+. Jah Bless!!
mansplaining is also when a man explains something a woman had just explained, like in corporate, men who like to say, "what she is tying to say'...then goes ahead to say what the lady had said..
0:33 to 0:39 is the reason why divorce should be normalized; people act like am crazy for saying this but that's one disrespectful circumstance that nobody should have to go through
