What’s The Real Reason Why You’re Depressed, Anxiety-ridden, Or Unable To Accomplish Your Dreams???? 

It's not only letting go of what you want it to be; it's also being able to accept the worst case scenario and do the work anyway because your Soul deserves it.

Growing up with a very strict mom that it was “her way or the highway” or else she would be physically and verbally abusive.. this video has given me insight why I’ve always felt sort of lost and always being a people pleaser. I’m determined to overcoming this and really becoming my true inner self! Thank you for your great videos.. they’ve been a life saver

You are the first counselor that has really touched my soul. Thank you for this content!

Damn this one video is going to change my entire life

I was pretty much spoiled and had a mother who did most everything for me. I wasn't criticized. I had loving parents who let me do pretty much what ever I wanted to do. I still feel empty Grand unfulfillment.

Sven, I just want to say thank you to you. I just started reading “There’s a Hole in my Love Cup”, and I’ve been watching all your videos on here, TikTok, and Facebook. You’ve been helping me get through some feelings and a divorce. Again, thank you for what you do!

I recently discovered you on Tiktok and found your channel here. Been struggling for so long to find my inner voice. Even after years of therapy, meds, etc, I just can’t seem to find it. I’m gonna pick up your book and give it a shot. Thanks for your content and giving people like me hope.

Just found you and I already love your message. Thank you for sharing your gift ❤

I was born epileptic, and it didn’t rise through my system till I was a teenager, but I will say I had fear in my life. All my life and I was always chasing my mothers love. I will say that my mom even admits that when she was a child, her father, even though, I’m sure he loved her. He never said it and I always chased my mother for her love. I have two sisters they are twins. She always was showing affection to them, but angry at me for whatever reason whether it be school or whatever it wasn’t until high school that my epilepsy got worse, and there was always a problem with me with my condition with my worth or work ethic and the list goes on and on as much as I love my mother and I will admit a hear her voice in my head constantly she’s the core of the voice in my head. My father is secondary and my husband is a floating above the other two, who mirror and say the same things they say.

This is eye opening. For years I lived to please my mother with no indication on her part that she was happy with my choices. For years I've had a love hate relationship with her because I " wasn't the daughter she raised" her words. It wasn't until my father passed that I realized I couldn't keep pleasing this woman. All I wanted from her was acceptance, all through my teenage and young adult life, I just yearned to have a relationship with her where I could talk to her without arguing, without her disapproval triggering my anger. Your video made so much sense to me Sven. Why I fight with her, why she can't answer the question I've asked her for years " who is the daughter you raised?" I need to answer that and I haven't got a clue where to start. Thanks for your kickass advice!

I really feel terrible that I couldn't stand up for my father, but he was a force of nature, no someone t be stood up to.

Thank GOD! I am on a spiritual journey! Thank you! You are so right Thank you for communicating the way I have been feeling!

I worry so much that living with my toxic ex and all the trauma and violence he covered us in has effected my children who are now young adults I’m so sorry for ever subjecting them to him.

11:30 am This is a phenomenal conversation; extremely and I really mean extremely no-nonsense tough love session; and I want to thank you.

When I am dealing with my children, these are some viewpoints I want to keep in mind. Thank you for this..

Truth!!!

We are being taught not to listen and trust our own voice, but ALSO conditioned that we will be PUNISHED and abandoned for being true to ourselves.

LOL Mister you talk just like me. This is the right place for me to tune into for improvement.

Amen Brother….. I remember this

I’m on the third & I hate hearing it. I don’t give a fuck what the universe wants if it won’t let me explore my desires for myself. It just smashes down No’s instead of letting me discover it for myself.

I could listen to all day, such a deep guy that talking from first hand experience and sharing his wisdom , so much respect keep up good work my man 🙏💪 I'll be listening 😅☝️

Wow! I went through all 3 phases. I am in the third these days... at 53...I've just recently uncovered my total resistance to let go....And to be perfectly honest I still have fear also, of expressing fully... This is such an absolutely fascinating play, right? It's just a brilliant construct our lives are. Thank you! 17:49

( 1-2) I realize what I am (1 1/2-2) I have terror and thinking what the person who takes care of me with think since I have a health condition, my life is her in her hands but maybe if I were to- it would be a release

A lot of the above, and I'm hella deep, like oceans into ocean floors into more ocean floors, into sea caves and infinite places and then finally the bottom 🤣💕 no you are speakin' facts, my insight came from videos, books, sometimes ppl, but I'm an info nerd so I've had to teach myself, and try to create myself and you ate speakin' absolute beautiful facts, 💕

This was ME completely!!

What an amazing video. I have never heard these 3 stages before and the fact you can be in different stages in different areas of your life. I struggle with hearing my own voice in my childhood family. Yet i know what i want to do (my music). Yet i can't seem to make it happen (holding on to tight). So thought provoking. Thank you for your wisdom. ❤

Wow! A new friend showed me a video on your channel yesterday, and I knew I needed to sub. You are my man (as in my peeps). Your channel is doing exactly what my inner voice wants to do someday, and isn't courageous enough to do yet. Keep inspiring, man. I admire you and what you're doing here. Ty for helping us and serving in this particular way. Awesome 🎉

Totally true. It took me until 35 to correlate that everytime i listen to anyone but me, i only ever screw myself...and yes, doubted or undermined. And yeah, its like, YOURE wrong, times are different now. Thank you for sharing your experiences with me, however, unfortunately they are irrelevant. Thats hard to wrestle with.

I just stumbled onto your channel...I caught a clip of a different video and then found more. I absolutely love your style. Thank you for your videos! .... I'm 36. I grew up in a dysfunctional home. I had it better than many by and on most accounts, but we were dysfunctional. They fought often. And many times I was the one everyone vented to despite being the youngest in the family. I remember this because they all liked it and were happy when I agreed with them or was saying they didn't have anything to do with and they did all they could, but if I called them on their BS and held them accountable they would immediately tell me how that's just not the case or storm off. ... I've spend my entire life, until recently, trying to make them happy and do what would make them proud. All the while I've been miserable. ... it took what they believe was a mini stroke (probably caused by the consumption of copious amounts of alcohol over the years), which led to my blacking out behind the wheel (with alcohol in my system) and never making it to my friends house... instead I would up in jail with several charges. I eventually spent 4.5 months in jail behind those charges. ... my dad patronizes me and says he's proud (yet he looks down his nose at me as if he doesn't understand why I can't get my life together) and my mom just tells me "adult choices have adult consequences" (to which I always tell her I'm aware, but I'm also aware that that is half the problem- I was expected to be an adult as a child and never actually guided in making such choices/decisions; I just had to figure it out and do what I had to to survive...and well, here we are... ... she will immediately tell me how my problem has to do with my dad or my sis or anything and everything but her). To this day they have a hold over me because I (actually my fiance and i) still live with my dad ... I moved back just before I ended up wrecking and going back because I was contemplating a career change and he could use the help. When I met my fiance and we started looking to move out Covid hit and now we can't afford anything on our own so we are stuck. ... I hate it because I know my potential, I know what I'm called to do. I just can't do it while under his roof (he's a very oppressive narcissist). ... Your videos hit home/hit the nail on the head. I just wish I could 1. Get my family to listen and 2. Actually understand . Again, thanks for your videos!

You know, they say that a boy never really becomes a man until he’s buried his father. Now, mine has been dead to me since the moment he walked out when I was 12 years old. I don’t remember if I cried, but I do remember that I was forced to grow the fuck up. Bobby Axelrod

Love this guy's approach, great practice and theory!! Now I need to apply!

Sven thank you for your videos. They have really helped me understand myself. I'm working on me and it's scary. Going back to my childhood to now. Thank you

Thank you for making this. I’m starting to uncover the person that was beneath the surface the whole time.

I know EXACTLY the voices that are stuck in my soul. I know every word by heart. Don't remember most of the things I WANT to remember, but I can recite those word for word. How to clear it, how to forget it and stop hearing it? How to step outside the clenched up body on the couch and start to TRY again?

This is huge and it needed to be said. We all have those pivotal people in our lives that are trying to direct our steps in the right way. But, sometimes it does more damage than good... Don't wait until you're 60-something years old to figure this out do it now do the work now. It'll be the best thing that you ever done for yourself.

Exactly what I needed to hear, time to get started.

Sven……. Rod Baker led me to you…. Thank You.

Brother Sven…. Better and Better every time I hear it. Amen

Thanks Sven, I find your philosophy very insightful, useful, validating and inspiring. Have a kick ass day!

Love you.

You are very helpful.

Dude there's books literally with soul like this The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron, Dance The Sacred Art by Cynthia Winton Henry, I have chills this is so freakin' beautiful, 💕

This is so true and it has taken me almost 4 years to get in touch with God and my past journey that really fucked me up from my childhood.i have learned so much. Having peace in my soul and letting go. Thanks, I was happy to hear this message today.😃 I will buy your book I love to read this kinda stuff.

I live in a world and in a family where change healing yourself having a mental disability is taboo as the saying goes s*** rolls downhill and I got more s*** on my plate that I can even handle

Step 3- is trust the process- Thanks Sven- Great Advice

A point I'd add is that your step 3/level 3 doesn't need to be at odds with atheism or whatever. Talking about going with the flow of the universe is just a way of saying don't be afraid of new opportunities that arise. If atheists or other anti-religious people get upset about it, they're just getting triggered by the "spiritual" wording you use. People that close-minded probably aren't likely to master going with the flow anyway, lol.

Sven, you are such a tremendous gift to the world. I live for your videos, podcasts, etc. As I work through your book (and later, your courses) I am finally starting to figure it out. I've worked with so many therapists over the course of my lifetime - and then you showed up. And I am thanking God that you did! 🙏💗

God bless you brother 🙏. From my beautiful children and myself thank you ❤️

$$$ is the reason people don’t follow their dreams. My parents never told me what to do with my life. I didn’t have financial support or any guidance to follow my dreams- I tried- but lack of $ made me drop out of college

I know first hand it works!

I believe it was Freud that said a man doesn't become a man until he lives as though his father is dead. Paraphrasing of course

Thank you, Sven! I hear so much in your message ♡♡

Changed my life more than you’ll ever know 🤙🏼

Thanks Sven. Needed today.

I get it! As a parent and an adult child of parents.

I was made well aware but nothing I do changing my patterns accomplishing goals does not matter to my family I will never be good enough for them even if I was the Queen of Sheba

New subscriber!! Bought the book!!! Getting my ish together. I hear my thoughts but I don’t do what myself tells me to Im supposed to do.

Found you on tiktok today. Thank you !

This one really hits home. Thanks

I AM scared, fearful AND terrified.

So it's not courage that I'm missing when it comes to speaking my truth it's the lack of support compassion from the people they say I'm supposed to love you the most

❤

Would love to chat to you because mine was different . It took deep thought ( not over thinking) and over 5 year battle. With family and friends pressuring things

Thank you sooooo much for your videos.

Thank you! Your videos have been so valuable to me, and I also appreciate that you don't feel the need to put a wig on to portray a woman in any of your videos haha I don't normally buy things I see online, but your book needs to be in my hands... Haha ✌️

My boyfriend is irritated by my inner voice. As a kid, I always felt like I was never enough. My boyfriend reminds me of this all the time. He is critical and and inconsistent. How do I heal while he’s reinforcing my past traumas??

It's gotten to the fact I don't even feel a calling 🤦🏽‍♀️

nope. I like a lot of your ideas, Sven. but these... nope. sure. for SOME people, what you say here fits. but don't you think you're making rather sweeping generalizations..!?! there are SO many exceptions to these rules..!!! eg: me. no time or room to tell my life story HERE. (you'd likely find it very interesting, though...) suffice to say that I'm now 67 and I finally shook off the weightiest bits of life-long depression and anxiety at 65. (I still have some of both.) you wanna know why they're vastly diminished? simply because I no longer have to worry about how my life will turn out. I'm there. it turned out like this. and I accept my 'lot in life' - because at my age (and in poor health) acceptance is the only option. my life didn't go as I'd hoped it would - due to forces outside AND inside of me. but! it could be worse. it could be better! but it could be a whole lot worse. I was born knowing who I was and what I was here to do. I found ways over, around or under every obstacle that was thrown in my way. it was incredibly difficult. I was on my own from my 9th birthday when a drunk driver murdered my mother - leaving her 4 young children in the hands of the vile abuser she was divorcing. can you say PTSD? that was the first in a never-ending line of tragedies, loss, heartbreak. discrimination. trials and tribulations. poverty and failure. and very few wins. very many wrong choices. and very few good decisions. and here I am. I did NOT let the would-be controllers control me. I did NOT fear failure. my aspirations were "pie in the sky" - but I went for them anyway. all the things I believe I heard you suggest in this video - I did. and guess what..!?! l have some successes..!!! I have adoring fans all over the world. I have wonderful friends. BUT! I lived my entire life with debilitating depression and anxiety.

I don’t know how to let go. I found the love of my life, and I’m about to lose him because I ask too many question because I can’t let go. He says he feel like he can’t breathe and never wants to do anything with me anymore. I love him in a way I’ve never loved before and I don’t want to lose him and while we had a rough start it’s been 5-1/2 years we’ve been together and I know I can’t control everything or keep him from cheating but yes because of my past and some stuff my current did in the beginning dug up old stuff I do hold or restrict him and myself because it’s to the point he said he wants me out yes we live together but he doesn’t know he wants to break up. I sold my house for him and I to live together and my kids live here. Anyway I have held him soo close lately that he can’t breathe doesn’t want to even be around me and yet I’ve passed on fun things or going places out of fear he will go do something to ruin what we have. I fee he’s always chasing everyone but me and ignoring me. Idk 100% I do know he’s hung out with girls went to happy hour or chatted on the phone and yet hid it from me. Not that I need to see everything but I feel he can be secretive but there’s times he will show me and it’s nothing it innocent. How do I let go? How do I say if he goes and cheats I can’t control it but what if he does I don’t think I can handle the pain but if he really kicks me and the kids out of the house I know I can’t handle that pain either please help me. Idk what to do. Side fact he’s ADD with anxiety and depression I’m ADHD with OCD anxiety and what was noted as possible depression. Please help. Everyone thinks we are great together and we are just a couple of bumps I hope and not mountains. For love language I’m an affirmation and quality time touch, he’s a act of service, gifts, and touch. Idk if it makes a difference. Please!

What do you think of RSA rejection sensitivity dysphoria? I swear all my kids are riddled with anxiety. As adults they seek a lot of self soothing behavior and vices to cope. And avoid adulting responsibility. Gen Z and millennials. Adulting is difficult and tramatic at times. It is for everyone! They don't want my advice but they want my help. My parents were never there for me they just let me figure shit out on my own. So I give my kids as much as I can. But it's never enough or what they want. I even donated plasma to give my kid gas money to attend a funeral.

This is some serious shit people and this guy knows his fucking shit

Ever heard of Bill Gothard? There are a lot of people affected by his teachings.

14.40 is me...

I have a question. Let's say you give a cat a mouse to play with..an your told don't do that .then they go an give the cat a mouse .then you ask I thought you didn't want the cat to have the mouse..there respond is you didn't make the cat wait ..

"No one can be a man unless his father has died." - Sigmund Freud

I didn't realise at time that I should left parents and sister who used me abused me. I was superempath, actually stupid sheep.

Methmatics

Well I guess I'm at the Buddha level

This shit kinda crazy