Are you a fighter or a lover? From defensive to stone walling fighters, we're talking about conflicts in relationships and how we're working on doing better in our relationships. How do you come to sustainable solutions after a fight with your partner? Talk to us in the comments and tag a friend who will enjoy this episode. We cannot wait to hear from you! Video credits: Production: Garage Group Set: Golden Tulip Kampala Outfits: Fashion Episode Shoes: Shoe Puzzle Hair: Zuri Luxury If you found this video informative, please like it, share with someone who needs to watch it and hit that subscribe button for more videos like this one. Follow us on: Instagram instagram.com/bumploveug Facebook facebook.com/BumpLove Twitter twitter.com/bumploveug?t=kR7O... #HappyFriday #NewEpisode #BumpLove
Pumla I like that u can hear out weather good or bad but sometimes we don’t want to be so vulnerable when telling the story to u, so it’s not exactly dishonesty but it’s being worried to over expose everything
As a man, Bump Love is like a cheat code into the operation of a woman’s mind and this has been further personified in this conflict resolution espisode. My marriage is richer because of this show! Well done ladies.
Pumla wabula okola reseearch.. i love how you take Bump love as an Exam… you’re always there with facts.. “ I a book, i went met a counsellor” You’re so brainy.., I stan🥰
Ladies thanks for walking the journey and handing us the notes. One of these days we shall kwekalasa and sponsor a show as bump lovers. Yes....a show sponsored by the viewers❤.
I love it when ALL FIVE OF YOU are there. It makes me feel like my big sisters have all arrived and I'm sitting in a corner watching them spew wisdom. ❤❤❤
What makes this show captivating is the fact that each of these five ladies is unique in every sense and there's a way it makes the show just complete ❤❤❤
I absolutely agree with Pumla. That was my take when I got married 3 years ago, you don't have to wait years to learn something through experience, you can actively learn it from an authority on the subject matter. One of my personal axioms is "whatever you've not actively learned how to do, you don't know how to do" I think this truth is elusive in relationships because we are naturally relational beings. So because we have a native proclivity to relate we think we know how to do it well. But the truth is, just because you have a propensity towards something doesn't mean you're a master at it, mastery is a result of scholarship. So because many of us don't realise we need to learn how to relate, especially with the opposite sex, we go through life wounding each other, cos the truth is we don't know what we're doing. So, to any younger bump lover on here who is still not married or in a life long commitment, one of the best things you can do for yourselves while you wait, is to actively learn how to relate within the context of a relationship. As in study, the same way you studied your subjects in school. Get the book Pumla shared from, find other resources, but by all means ACTIVELY LEARN...my absolute best resource is Esther Perel, she's a Belgian - American Psychotherapist. She's brilliant, and she has a RU-vid channel, check her out. Love and Light💖💞💫
I'm a huge fun of Esther Peril too! I honestly don't know anyone in that space that is as amazing at disecting relationship dynamics as she is. Love all that you had to say here too.
0 seconds ago Rosette, you look so lovelyyyyy, the hair the dress matches the shoes. Racheal that dress is popping! Angella, I almost did not recognize you? You look lovely? The hair is giving royalty! Manuela that hair and out fit your giving these American celebrities who always look on point on vogue, no matter how old. You look fly anyway Manuela.Love you guys thank you, for being vulnerable and letting us into a little of your personal information. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
After watching this I feel so much better. I thought I was the worst in my relationship when it came to conflict. Hearing the same things shows that I need to give myself grace. I am learning and praying for self control in my relationship.
am have very high self control. a number of times i keep quite and come back to that issue when i have thought through everything. It has even helped with my friendships.
OMG, i just got on that Holy spirit part for Ranchel and waoooo... Ladies, it is a game changer.. the holy spirit is so real. Sometimes i even send a text when my data is so enough and on but going back i find the msg not yet sent and i have mastered to acknowledge its the holy spirit speaking and i will just delete for all ... My husband will say, whatever you have deleted, thank you because i am sure it was going to ruin my day😂😂😂
Racheal!!!! I feel like I am the one seated in your chair 😢😢😢😢😢 What a healing experience to hear you literally speak out for me, in every possible way. I cannot believe this! Hope we meet and have a conversation sometime. As if it is not enough that we both cut off sisterlocks in the same week 😢 Now this! You ladies are a great inspiration. Take care of yourselves! We need you alive to stand up for us and teach us to do the same for others ❤❤❤❤❤ A heart for each of you.
See your narrow understanding ability😂😂😂 i’m loving her so so much actually. Definitely she is the older one, something she has always highlighted it herself so what is your point?
No, Pumla is not yet 40 I believe she mentioned being 38 last year and I don’t think their age should be such a big deal let’s concentrate on the information coming out of them🙄🙄 what is wrong with people and all the scrutiny
So I don't even know if this would be seen. But ladies. Encourage people to always go back and watch the episodes Am re watching this the 3rd time but every time it has been a different revelation. The last statement is so powerful. Write down the things you want your partner to be and be that. Wooowooo.
Pumla giving nuggets as always❤❤I always look forward to her/your submissions!! Thanks ladies for yet another amazing episode. Ps. Rosette, I was looking forward to tasting Newman’s snacks when I visited Ug. Finally did. Soo delicious. Hopefully you will soon export to EU❤
Since I'm singular and have no experience in relationships plus I was raised by a single mom that being said, I have never experienced conflicts apart from neighbours and other people. Therefore, I will enjoy the comments and the show thank you ladies. ❤
Yo right Rosette! I have learnt that the devil is not happy with marriage,i learnt to exercise self control not to throw words anyhow because comparing my personal person am troublesome. Am not good at comforting but when he does i get to say what is on my mind. What has helped on my side,is self control ,listening and talk after not forgetting praying about it. Thank you ladies and dont forget to bring a male version with( Andrew kyamagero,Mr Mulondo, Ben and Baby KuKu) Thanks & keep serving love from a bump lover 4rm KGL❤
Ladies..you are transforming to greatness.Pumla's research is making her a psychologist one of these days... Angie the Friday catch up is vibe... Rosette sure self control is learned over time and it's a skill..Rachel great to learn that crying does not get you affectionate most times....Manuella..what happens then when you can not fight..ehh...that's still calls for self control....
My swt darlings we thank u for the advise and real conversations plus taking us a journey with u in your lives. More blessings may God reward your efforts and ministry.
One marriage councilor once said. As parents, we have to let our kids (depending on age) see some conflict. So they learn that things happen, how to resolve n form proper habits... Hearing Mauela, Angie, it now makes sense
I here Angie's side of view about talking about it there and then but the most hurtening thing is to be with a person who is not realizing the wrong he has done however much u talk about it
Nowadays, parents have taken confrontations to social media. Its so sad. Solving marital issues on socials while recording. Racheal, you are so wise as i enjoy listening to your perspective about marriage. I have taken a lot of what you have said over the years and used it in my own marriage. I also love that you used scripture to explain your solution to conflict. God bless you.
Bump love bump love bump love, goodness knows how u ladies impact me in all ways. I love and appreciate each of for every insight in every topic. Everytime I want to share my honest story and experiences I get reminded that the people who know me personally are put of this family 😂 and I shy away becoz then they will relate 🤭
Quite an interesting topic, what a lovely show, thank for being real., Like Rachel the English at mine can be real and tables a flipped, but am a work in progress, I can relate with you all. May God bless you all. Thank you for speaking life to many.
Love you ladies❤️❤️ Thank you so much for sharing your personal stories, we are learning from them. Thank you and may God bless your beautiful families ♥️♥️ Love from London
In my home, there was not much confrontation but I am so confrontational, I also fear. My triggers are: 1. Disrespect from men 2. Unfairness/injustice 3. Nonsense/unseriousness/mediocrity 4. Lies/hypocrisy/pretence 5. And others that really depend 😂
One thing I like about this program is that I can not watch it without a note book😊 Thank you for the educative conversations your really helping me grow better. I am just in my early 20s and this is grooming me to be a better version of me. Kudos 👏
Thanks Ladies for the great talk.. I can resonate with it 100%. In every relationship , you have to look at your self first , work on yourself to be the better version of you , the rest will be history.
Some people view conflict as a sign that you are not meant for each other. They don't realize that the fighting stage can last as long as it does for different couples.
Beautiful episode ladies and your increasingly look amazing every Friday! Racheal your opinions are always so real and giiiivvviiinnggg ❤ What triggers me is delayed communication from him that keeps my mind wandering since I'm in a long distance relationship. For resolving the conflict , Friday happens to be the day we agreed to have the most quality time for each other and so I use this day amidst the beautiful moments that's when I want to resolve everything that I felt uncomfortable with more so during the week. Then judging other people's relationships while telling him has helped me have access to his thoughts and also pass my bu opinions and feelings 😅( we judge other's relationships together)😅
"I guess as I resolve and work through stress by stepping back and focusing on myself, you do so by ending things." and that's the last time we spoke😂.so thank you ladies for sharing on how best we can resolve conflicts amicably as this has left me in a better place to handle considering that I feel healed and ready to move into another relationship and Rachel, thank you for teaching me better vocabulary and for being a calm lady.
I agree 💯 with what Rosette said about learning to ignore some insignificant arguments in a marriage because as a believer, I know that the devil is out there to "steal, kill and destroy " especially destroying the marriage covenant. Engaging in prayer rather than arguing about every little thing is important. Pray for your spouse in all areas of their lives, sometimes they go through things and need prayer covering. If I had known this some years ago, probably things would have turned out differently in my marriage. I am Praying for all those that are going through tough times in their Marriages. Stay blessed.
ohhh my goodness, where have you lovely ladies been all this while??? am watching you from the 254 and I think you are all so beautiful...and the talks wow..
