Its a given that men bring everything to the table. They ARE the table. Men have to earn good money, fix things around the home, do the harder and more dangerous jobs, not complain and rarely initiate dovorce. Therefore it is only natural men would want a woman who makes his life better, rather than be a liability to him. Men are the prize. So you do not get it - The question you are evading is the most important one a man needs to ask or the date will be over quicker than you even start eating.
Being a little old for the dating scene, I do expect a woman to bring things to the table, so to speak, in a relationship. My expectations are probably not the same as most men would want or expect. I expect that she will be as encouraging to me as I am toward her. I expect that she is appreciative of the things I do for her as I am for the things she does for me. I expect that she is my biggest cheerleader, as I would be for her. I expect that she would be excited for the things I love just as much as I would be for her (even though these things may not be the same). I would expect that she would try to bring joy to my life as much as I would desire to do that for her. And finally, I would expect her to give me space to be me as I would do for her. I suppose these are my expectations, because I have everything I would ever need and 50% of what I desire. I'm not lonely and live in my own home with little to no drama or chaos. I have peace, and I want to keep it that way. So anyone that would come into my life at this point, I would expect these things. We MUST both be able to add value to each others emotional wellbeing and together, and feel that we are more together than our sum separately. A real team... For me, it has nothing to do with money or skills... well maybe a few in the bedroom. Coming full circle, I guess if I ever was asked, what I bring to the table, I don't think I would be offended. I think I would lay it out the same as I just did, and see how that plays out with her.
Asking a female what she brings to the table is not equivalent to asking a man how much he makes...it is basically a question intended to know what she thinks are her plus points that help the relationship...I think it is a very much legitimate question...
Me ex said emotional intelligence. She didn't have a job and expected me to take her out to eat 7 days a week and live in my house. No cooking no cleaning. It was hilarious.
Please alowme to help you THE TABLE is the relationship. So what you bring to this relationship. So the best avise you can give a women is to learn what are the needs and wants of a man. For all you talking it is clear you have not idea neither. You want viwes and coments?? Ask men what is the more important thing they need from a woman. And you will see.....
Indeed, very bad dating advice. Apparently all responsibility is on men: be smart, be respectful, even when you're being masterfully misled and taken advantage of. On the other hand women have no responsibility whatsoever. Women have an obligation to be offended and leave instead of being empathetic to man's experience in a toxic society. Women should not give guys any benefit of the doubt, and guys should definitely learn the skill of reading women's minds to avoid asking uncomfortable questions. Also men have to be smart. You know, like when you have a bell curve of intelligence in the population, men just got to be above the bump, not below it. Then their dating issues will seize.
@@BadDatingAdvice You said some of it (like the the part that men should be smart), and the other bits I've added through interpretation. You're approaching this from the perspective of a woman who doesn't recognize there is a systemic issue, and ignoring the fact that there is really no alternative. Please conduct an experiment - create a dating profile pretending to be a man, then scroll through the profiles of women and see what kind of information is being put forward. You can also try matching with them, but make sure you have average guy pictures and not somebody from the 1%. So first thing you will see is that women put no effort at all to advertise what they bring to the table. In fact they project the opposite - they are the table. Assuming one has filled out anything on the profile at all, it will be something like "hot yoga, naps, walking, spas, travel" - selfish activities that contribute nothing to the relationship. Then try actually matching with one while looking like an average guy. If you get 1 out of 100 to match, that's like winning the lottery. In reality you have to like several hundred profiles before you get one match. Then what ? Do you try to work with what you've got, or do you try digging into the table before going on a date because you have so many other women to pick from ? I hope this helps. And no, no "Andrew Tate" material here. In fact first time I heard that name was from a woman friend of mine who said the same exact things as you did, and not for a moment stopped to learn about my experience despite being a friend.
@@fd15k it does appear that you are interpreting things the way that you like. As women, we also often hear that we should "pick better", we have to be smarter than average and pick up on every red flag upon a first date. So, if this is the standard for women this should also apply to men. I don't even need to ask you to make a fake dating profile to see what women are up against. All you need to do is look in this comment section...and at yourself.
@@BadDatingAdvice You're ignoring the science on this - it's not an even playing field. Yes, both sides have to pick good partners to match with, but that's not how it works in reality. In reality most women go after a very few percent of attractive men, most of which end up being "players" - attractive men that aren't players don't stay single for long and hang out on dating apps. Majority of guys on the other hand go for average women, who either reject them outright, or show up with a long list of demands. There are very few women especially on dating apps whose expectations are reasonable. What's the reason for this ? The reason is that as a society in the last few decades we kept telling women that they're special, independent, worthy of all kinds of stuff but never told them that with all of those benefits comes responsibility. So now we're harvesting that. Social media made things even worse, as now women can set unattainable standards because supposedly there are guys who can meet them (there virtually aren't). But hey, if you want to learn more take a look at Alexander Grace's channel for example. Otherwise we will just keep talking past each other.
@@fd15k I don't need to look at someone else's channel. I have real world experience. While what you say may be partially true it is not entirely set in reality. There may be cultural differences perhaps but what is see in the real world is vastly different and I reflect that in my videos. Best of luck to you.
I think women tend to overestimate the benefit (or lack thereof) of unbridled sacrifice by the man on behalf of the woman. The big thing is reciprocity. Many women intend to freeload as a societal right. Its not that she takes all the money, its simply, she fills the sole slot for a member of the opposite sex and completely mismanages it. Asking what she brings wont uncover her attributes or ineptitude, but many women think they are due a mans sacrifice and are God's gift to him. Practicing and learning discernment is the real skill because theres no use in asking a narcissist to self-identify, so i agree bad question
That's why my channel is focused in identifying these types of women not just "dating is a numbers game" type of mentality. As far as men "sacrificing" and women "freeloading" that's just not what's happening in the real world. Social media may paint that picture but it's just not what is reflected in reality.
