what if you can become everything you wanted to be?

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yeah aging is worse than death. it truly is when you think about it. i always knew that time will pass and how things will be different. i just learned to accept it but i then thought about how different i would've felt if i wasn't changing for the better - and what would have happened if i was not so self reflective. i thought about the other version of me - the unhealed one and what she would've been like and it was horrifying to think about.
hence i made this video at 1am in the morning. i sleep early these days so it was considered late for me lol. so excuse me if during some clips i was very "emotionless" looking - i was just in auto mode and talking aloud to whatever comes to me head lol.
anyways i hope you guys enjoyed this video and i hope this one gave you a different outlook as well i love you all so much.
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@mirinah 27 дней назад

Sooo true, that “ik you wanna die well lucky you, you’re going to” mentality helped me so much.

@cloudymoon5442 20 дней назад

That’s sad that it helped you but also not cuz it’s true -

@i_love_rescue_animals 27 дней назад

I'm probably one of your oldest subscribers. I'm 61 years old. I'm still working on myself. Your video brought up so many good points ( even though it was a little chaotic - but I actually enjoyed that!) - and yes, you ARE definitely mature for your age. I was such a CHILD at 23, 24. Yikes. I have improved, but I am still not fully the person I would like to be. I was "retired early" by corporate america, bounced around a while working for myself and decided to leave the country to have a who-knows-what final chapter in another country (Portugal). I am here with my two cats. I've made friends here and am trying hard to learn the (very difficult) language. Working on oneself is a lifetime commitment I think unless you are one of the lucky ones who gets life figured out - or reaches some state of enlightenment. Your videos are very comforting and very insightful and help me to think about my own path. Thank you for the great content.

@elisschern 27 дней назад

I’m so very proud of you!

@gesuisgen 26 дней назад

🤍

@sefamamu 18 дней назад

🤍🤍

@Bgtan_466 11 дней назад

Well I am pretty sure many people tried to dissapoint you or you maybe had problems with yourself but honestly you can tell that I am so proud of you and remember that you're enough 💗

@sadumae 27 дней назад

i stayed up till 6am from scrolling on my phone and only slept 4 hours 😭 this makes me feel bad about myself and i don’t know how to improve

@cusam9389 27 дней назад

Just try to do little by little. Sleep at 5am then 4am then 3am etc. or listen to your body when you feel tired and go to sleep. Maybe try something else to fall asleep to like reading or spinning until ur dizzy.

@Lu-ot8hs 27 дней назад

Sleep should be your red line , it's the door to all physical illnesses , if you can't afford health issues , SLEEP .

@user-bb1pp7ws4r 27 дней назад

This was so me so i started staying up whole day and went to sleep at 6 pm then slowly extended it to 10 pm-11pm and i automatically wake up early give this a few days!! Coming from a person who went to bedt at 7:30 am❤

@TheAnashea 27 дней назад

It’s okay! Just do better next time!

@user-kn2qj1yr1k 27 дней назад

try to delete social media and see how life will be, I started this challenge with myself a few days ago and I felt free, I slept well, and I have now the energy to complete all my schoolwork...... and I'm gonna complete this challenge to be honest cuz i start feeling myself again (btw I'm obsessed with socials so ofc it wasn't easy to delete the whole platforms) but trust me it works, just try it for a few days and then when there's no tiktok & ig .... u will be able to get ur life back, and ofc ur sleep schedule too. and then ur screen time will be less (●'◡'●)

@charlizebianchi5364 27 дней назад

Stumbling across your channel is one of the best things I've come across on the internet.

@EmotionalTangerine 27 дней назад

Same ❤

@Iamthe_o.k.o.t.a 26 дней назад

I know.

@am06l 27 дней назад

Ur channel is like a therapy to me , I’m 19 and i live with a (very) strict parents , I spent most of my life at home doing nothing but pleasing them , I’m not allowed to have friends or go out to anywhere not even with them , i never sat in a cafe or went to the cinema, I feel like i have no independence, no character , cuz they didn’t let me try anything at all or even let me communicate with people other than those they chose, i feel so much behind compared to the other people in my age , BUT I decided that I will build my own life, character and mindset BY MYSELF , luv u ❤️‍🩹

@naviinea 27 дней назад

I'm 17 and everything you've said I've felt as well. Being able to not go anywhere even school events like prom or even do anything and being compared and not being able to be enough for my strict parents. But resonating to this video and this whole channel has given me therapy and motivation.

@LuuAsked4Question 26 дней назад

I recommend watching Tam Kaur's videos! She says a lot of useful tips, that can help. Not a sugar-coated one. and she made a video about how to cope with strict parents.

@akinasiel 26 дней назад

GOOD LUCK!!

@am06l 26 дней назад

@@naviineait feels warm to know that someone live like me , but don’t give up we still have a whole life waiting for us, and I promise one day everything will change for good 🫂❤️‍🩹

@hyacinthgrows 25 дней назад

I'm 20 and your comment really resonated with me. I really hope things get better for us all

@lizuwuwd3ytwegfdhewuhjf 27 дней назад

this whole entire video feels like a poem holy shit via you're amazing

@romansoehuazelei1925 27 дней назад

I agree but I faced it. I overcame it. It is an accomplishment.

@cherrysws_ 27 дней назад

4:58 via was definitely being fr

@mabatho.mohaleamalla 27 дней назад

This video is literally such a huge wake up call ohh my word 😭😭

@akuma_hon 26 дней назад

Literally needed to hear this

@im_just_vidu 27 дней назад

It feels nice to know "There's gonna be tomorrow even if I'm not here." 7:30 "Time is going to pass either way so you might as well become the person you like." ❤

@CallmePrincess78 27 дней назад

I am so glad that I found this channel.

@vampycatt 27 дней назад

“If our greatest fear is to sink away alone and unremembered, the brutality that time will inflict upon each of us will always run stronger than any river’s murky waves - Miguel Syjuco

@Me_AyaTee 27 дней назад

for the 500k celebration i really think that sitting in ur room like cozy vibes and answering qsts is a good idea

@sennnosc 27 дней назад

i turned 17 this monday and i can't belive that i've made it. you inspire me so much, thank you for being here

@yo_-kl4te 26 дней назад

Happy birthday 🫶🫶

@Britt-ig4wq 27 дней назад

Hey, I just wanted to say that I'm very happy I found your channel. I am a teenager right now and your videos give me a lot of comfort. You made me realize that it's normal to struggle in life and that it is okay to not feel okay at times. I've been worrying about my future lately, but I realized that that is alright and that I need to focus just as much on the present and enjoy this moment as much as I can, since the future is unpredictable. So, thank you. ♥♥♥

@disallusionment4449 27 дней назад

Its crazy and comforting to grow up feeling the way you're describing and then finding out that you're not the only one who has only felt guilt, shame, broken, unloveable, like they ruin everything, like they might not ever be normal, etc. Thank you for talking about your experience, you're helping a lot of people :)

@Najat2311 27 дней назад

bro i missed her so much

@seafarer_ 27 дней назад

In my late 20s now and this is sooooo real. It sucks seeing the time pass, feeling yourself age, and knowing that you’ve become someone you don’t like. Luckily I caught myself on time and made choices that would put me back on the path towards becoming the person I want to be. Also seeing your parents as role models and feeling the veil drop as you grow up? So real. It genuinely felt like losing a religion.

@user-nm5nl3ul6c 27 дней назад

YOUR LITREALLY SO PRETTY ILY

@user-cz8ei8et8t 19 дней назад

My family makes me think that I don’t deserve anything, and now I’m struggling to change that

@raissatavares5625 27 дней назад

I think it's so beautiful when you say you're protecting your younger self, the child, from bad things to happen. I feel like I do the same thing for my younger self, the teenager, I want to protect her from everything, especially from bad people. She deserves to be happy and proud of where we are now

@im_just_vidu 27 дней назад

This is my weekly therapy session ❤

@nadew.02 19 дней назад

I'm becoming 22 in a few weeks. Throught my entire life I have built up so much anger and hate towards myself that it wrecked me mentally and physically towards the end of my teenage years. Right now I'm figuring things out, and your video translates EXACTLY how I feel. Thank you so much for making this video ♡

@KhushiSharma-te6lx 27 дней назад

I am feeling so down cause I feel like I’m letting my younger self down, and feel like all the people around me are achieving the goals that I wanted myself to achieve…. I really don’t know how to be okay with myself again? I don’t know how to feel proud of my self again

@beigepiano-du5dk 27 дней назад

don't compare yourself to others. everyone goes through life at their own pace with each their own resources and that's okay.

@PsychesFlora 2 дня назад

It's a really good sign that you're having these thoughts at 23. I'm 30 and the last decade has been traumatic, I had similar feelings that you express in this video recently. When I was 23 I was subject to a therapists abuse (I had gone to therapy to better myself) and sadly since I fell on the wrong therapist it made it worse and I really accumulated a lot of hatred due to injustice over the years. Despite everything I also learned a lot about myself, my flaws, insecurities and my own strength and resilience. It gets to the point where you're at rock bottom and you're your own worst enemy. My anger at my parents was also super intense because I know a lot of my problems come from my upbringing and yet they don't understand. My advice coming from a few years down the line is keep thinking in this way, it's very good, keep trying to better yourself, celebrate your victories, live life for the present, have experiences and don't be too hard on yourself. Know your boundaries, your vision and your worth. Don't dig yourself too deep into a hole of depression, because depression is a hole that gets harder and harder to get out of. But therapy with a good therapist and genuine desire to progress is great. So is note-taking/journalling.

@misaandcoart 4 дня назад

Honestly these videos of yours help reduce my anxiety so much. I'm 29 and feel like I've just waited for a good portion of my twenties for things to "get good". Like some miraculous event would happen and suddenly my entire life would be miraculously changed. No, it takes effort and I don't think that clicked for me until around 2017-2018 when I started my personal development journey. You're already so wise. Please keep making this kind of content (as long as it brings you joy). It genuinely helps.

@dedododo123 27 дней назад

I honestly like the way you view the world, it's very interesting to hear you talk about death in a positive light. Keep up the good videos!!

@soulmateashley 27 дней назад

This is so true, I'm still young but im turning the person i just do not wanted to be and i finally realized so I'm going to start my journey to be the best version I've never known of myself. I love you so much Via you actually motivated me since the beginning.❤❤

@dee468 27 дней назад

F 💣 s are out of control. Thanks for your honesty and vulnerability.

@serenecaroline 14 дней назад

5:00 I am so grateful that you posted this video!! thank you so much Via, something happened today and for the first time I felt like, "no, wanting to end my life shouldn't be the answer.Just because someone doesn't feel that I can have emotions and problems, doesn't mean that I don't have them at all." I am here for myself.

@lydiaflih8114 27 дней назад

I see a lot of myself in your younger self. I've always had a guilty feeling whenever I would do something for myself such as going out with friends. When my best friend had invited me to spend the summer holiday with her family I declined the offer and I said I couldn't because I had to save money. But in truth, I declined because I felt like it was not for me, like I was not allowed to experience this. Lately I have noticed I always have this feeling of not deserving good experiences that can bring me joy. I've always felt like I was only allowed to do what I was told to do, what would benefit others. So now I have a hard time doing things that would only benefit me, I see them as uncomfortable. Now that I have finally realized that I can change so thank you, your words really helped me.

@ozges1755 27 дней назад

You literally talked about everything I have on my mind its crazy! Living with the trauma from my parents as well since I literally was their marriage therapist since I'm a child and felt like I'm the one who's holding them together so I have to sacrifice myself. Now with 30 years I realized that literally everything was wrong and I was never myself and just like you I try every single day to be someone I love to see in the mirror and to be proud of. Thank you so much for sharing this it gives me so much motivation and makes me feel less alone ❤🥺

@StarlightxSlasher224 27 дней назад

I'm typically a silent watcher but I feel compelled to extend my gratitude. You put me in such a good mindset for the days and I value and adore your perspective of life~ Thank you for making these!

@yoursuwu6503 27 дней назад

Omg you litterally don't have an idea of how much this video just helped me. I was talking about this with my psychologist yesterday and the part that hit me the most was the "you don't have to be the best, just become a better you" and that's so so true omg Thank you for this video, I feel a little better now about all the shit that goes through my mind almost all the time. Maybe I should just start living. Finally.

@SajidaBanu-fl6kr 27 дней назад

I wanna see you answer questions sitting down in a comfy place with you having tea (or anything you want tbh) and have a good time with us. I feel so much better after watching this video. Thank you and take care❤

@Yasmine-yp2kk 27 дней назад

ANOTHER GOOD DAY WHEN VIA POSTS LETS GOO WOOOOOOOO❤❤❤

@sarahdawson975 9 дней назад

I don’t know how you have all this wisdom at 23, but thank you from this 44 year old still trying to figure this life out 🙏🏿

@rahel6354 27 дней назад

you're videos are my inspiration in life Via, thank you. really mean it

@leenabunanah3947 26 дней назад

you said every thing i wanna say thank you to be here we love you via

@ozleemsi 27 дней назад

this is the video i've been waiting for, thank you Via, and love you

@slaaaaay2536 27 дней назад

Thank youu so much for this!! Congratulations with 500k

@derinstt 27 дней назад

I am literally so happy that there are people like you on RU-vid! Thanks for being open about your feelings,it makes me feel not alone every time.

@kkuremi 27 дней назад

you articulate your thoughts and advice in a way that brings me a lot of comfort. thank you for sharing and also love your content!!

@annelisiedeoliveira2088 26 дней назад

This was exactly what I needed to hear, thank you so much Via, your words are life changing

@amaruu23 24 дня назад

she's so real for this tysm via this really helps a lot

@llltvhllltvhlll 27 дней назад

you best girl 😭 thank you, this video is really helpful❤️

@thechaosofcaffeine 27 дней назад

thanks for another video, via! you always release them just as i need to hear whatever you talk about XD tysm, i appreciate it

@missa1999 27 дней назад

Thank you for this Via! Many people need this kind of talk and I'm sure it was very healing for you to speak your mind

@maviligaya 27 дней назад

this is the reality check i needed, i love listening to your videos via💌 thank u for always speaking up about stuff i would never have known i needed

@leah2097 24 дня назад

congrats on 500k via !! you deserve it sm, my favourite person on the internet

@sinxofbetha 26 дней назад

your monologue videos always feels like some kind of art, so thankful to hear these thoughts

@sana-gq2ur 23 дня назад

i very much needed to hear that 🥺 i’m cheering for us all on our healing journey ❤

@frvncs479 27 дней назад

missed watching your videos via😭 i just came back and this channel is already at 500k subs! you deserve all the love girl, keep going!❤

@im_just_vidu 27 дней назад

Congratulations on 500K subs Via.I remember last year I was so happy when you got 20k & was always hoping your channel would grow big.I'm so happy it's happening❤🎉

@bbmn2l 27 дней назад

i literally love ur diary/talk vids so much, they're very comforting! pls post more of them

@danielavanessavegaceron7998 27 дней назад

Congrats for 500k! ✨✨I’m so grateful for your channel, i feel seen because of your videos and i really appreciate it, so thank you so much. I love you 💗🫂

@cora6937 27 дней назад

this genuinely came at the perfect time. i like to imagine that you're me in a few years letting me know that ive gotten to a better place in my life. i just relate to like all of ur vids so deeply.

@yeojin6759 27 дней назад

the way i just stared into your eyes and started cryingg.. man the comfort you give me i love you so much

@fibra-ox1tj 27 дней назад

This is so true, the earlier you make peace and fully accept yourself the better life will be.

@chelle430 26 дней назад

I love how you spoke so freely about this!! Because of that it’s literally so easy to understand what you mean by the topic of your video - thank you for your motivation via

@creeping.nuthatch 27 дней назад

Love seeing your videos like this, they always seem to appear when I need to hear this shit the most. Thank you for sharing these small parts of your life and experiences!

@that_girl683 27 дней назад

Genuinely thank you so much for posting this and actually being real or honest cause not a lot of people do that or talk about this. You have no idea how much this helped me i was thinking about killing myself like 2 hours ago ok but i cant cause i have parents but their also the reason why i want to just disappear. This video helped so much thank you your awesome ✨💕

@tananbaterdene7057 25 дней назад

Your videos always comes up when it's needed to me the most. Love everything you do. Everything I feel you put it into words and I'm really grateful of that

@maryam_e1499 26 дней назад

honestly no words can express how much you make me feel seen and understood 🥰 thank you so much for this video via 🤗

@miffyz. 27 дней назад

Via I appreciate you so much. These videos are truly inspiring to me because I suddenly feel like journaling and becoming a better version of myself lol. tysm

@finthehuman3649 27 дней назад

i was feeling so sad so this came at the best time 😊 thank you sm Via ❤️

@Leobooki 27 дней назад

Hi Via , Happy Sunday ✨☀️ loved the video today and definitely brought on the motivation ! Thank you 🌸 Have an amazing rest of your week !

@delinaspersonalaccount7737 27 дней назад

Congrats on 500k!!!! A Q&A sounds awesome idea! Thanks for all the videos u make for us, and ill be looking forward the next one!💚🌻

@MsYANGJEN День назад

Needed this so much today !! Thank you for this video girl ❤️❤️

@shefalo 27 дней назад

one of the best videos i watched in a long time. thank you

@kaushiki6350 15 дней назад

These sit-talk videos are soo gold to me, like everything you say puts suchhh sense into me. It's like i want these videos summarised into pictures and have them pasted on my walls and that isn't even possible but these are so so so precious.

@gamfjdj1443 16 дней назад

I never thought i could relate to a RU-vidr/ stranger so much. I relate to much its honestly so healing to finally see that im not alone

@tamsindave 2 дня назад

this is actually a very impactful video. thank you for this.

@catthi56 22 дня назад

not this video specifically but all of your journal entries have helped me a lot with understanding things that bother me and i've found it really comforting that there is someone out there that is confident enough to say all of these things and be so realistic about life. so i wanted to say thank you sm for making these, and I've been really grateful to have found someone like you who openly speaks about these topics. so ty a lot and im very appreciative

@yoons7 24 дня назад

ok this hits in the right spot like really opening my mind cause ive been neglecting or procrastinate idk which one :) ty Via 🌷

@AnnabelleLadislau 27 дней назад

i love you via, thank you for being you ❤

@melto2.0 27 дней назад

didnt think i needed this type of talk :' you are so down to earth, AND i wish you the best of everything bb

@nabi-162 27 дней назад

💗💗💗 ME GIGGLING LIKE A CHILD WHENEVER SHE POSTS (MISSED YOU MY GIRL)

@shibrashamim4050 3 дня назад

thank you honestly u said the things i was always thinking about and its crazy how much i could resonate with this. definitely taking a lot of things and words away from this. ily have a great day too!

@user-zq5fq5uo8d 27 дней назад

Everytime, when I see you and listen to you. I feel it so much and I am so happy to see that you talk about things that are not spoken. Thank you for being there for us ❣️

@Nia_109 27 дней назад

Thank you so much via , I really needed to hear this. It was like an unpaid therapy ❤❤ 😢 congratulations for 500k🎉🎉..you came soo far, im watching your vlogs from one year now and i can see changes in myself too and I'm soo happy that i found your channel when i needed it the most You can make a video on summer outfits like the autumn ones you made earlier🌷🌷

@azra2886 27 дней назад

you might be my favourite youtuber. Thank you for this video 🩷🩷

@zuzanna_marianna 26 дней назад

that's first ever real motivational actually good advice video I ever saw, life changing.

@yagnikasenu988 26 дней назад

I just wanna say I love you.... You are saving me each day .... Helping me into my self reflections, healing, analysing, and so much stuffs... Watching you is therapy..... Thank you for putting so much effort into your videos .... The way you are making me accept myself more and more, I can't thank you enough... Extremely grateful for your content.... I hell love your journals.

@AmmuAmmoos-yh2gd 25 дней назад

Talking about your younger self really resonated with me.... Thankyou for this lovely video ❤

@Yatta333 27 дней назад

I would love a sit down video, they’re always engaging because you put so many different clips. Also love your point of view & how the idea of death grounds you, I don’t think it’s morbid. & as someone who was told I would be a great grandmother when I was in middle school I relate to living like an 80 year old, great philosophy ❤

@its1amandiamcravingfood 27 дней назад

tysm for making this video via!!! i've been struggling a lot w my mental health lately and this video really helped me :3

@Thistrueone 27 дней назад

omgg via the thumbnail is super pretty!! also, thanks for being so real with us. :))

@TK-mt6zl 27 дней назад

You have no idea how much I needed this. I’ve been in this viscous cycle that I don’t deserve to be happy because I’m a horrible person and succumbed to my past mistakes. However, when you said “You are going to be with yourself for the rest of your life”, it really put into perspective that I could either ruminate on my mistakes and conclude that I’m a bad person or that I could work towards becoming a person that I could be proud of. I have a long journey ahead but at least I have a starting point with an end goal. Thank you so much for this video.

@dior5204 27 дней назад

Via is so amazing and talented.Thank you via for helping me mentally💗🎀

@gretareggio8938 26 дней назад

The problem is that young adults that have been through a lot know how to be a good parent because of their parents' mistakes...but being concious of everything makes them not wanting children. The irony... the presumably best future parents don't want children

@tsa_lizsb7571 27 дней назад

Your videos motivate me to love myself alot. Love youuu❤

@Madi_RB 7 дней назад

I love you so much omg tysm for making this🙏😭

@faizashabih7851 27 дней назад

Hey Viaa you really helped me alot thank you so much for putting so much effort and creating a safe space for us and to heal ourselves. free therapy and giving advice that change our perspective of something negative to something positive I love youuuuu Viaaa❤❤❤

@moonlightm2328 25 дней назад

Your videos always come at the right time! I’ve been living my life not improving and feeling the way you have felt in this video but I plan to start working in myself starting this summer since I’m going to start college next year and by then, I can start to have my own independence! 😊

@g0sia. 24 дня назад

Ahhh I really need to hear that. I'm going to turn 21 in not even a full 3 weeks, and I feel so lost, I really don't know what is happening anymore. Changing is hard but I really want to become a true me. That video really helps me with organising my thoughts a little bit, I really enjoy watching your content because there are so many things that are similar to what I feel. Thank you for sharing, love your hard work and honesty🥰

@bumblebee_mrs 26 дней назад

You are so wise Via, way beyond your years. It took me much longer to open my eyes (no shade to me).

@samantab8783 27 дней назад

You're the older sister i needed but never had, that part where you were speaking to parents echoed my very thoughts. Thank you via and its so comforting to know that there are people out there who might understand me ❤️🌸

@-Sooyasoo- 27 дней назад

Gurl. I love you! There's a lottt of things you've taught me and you've taught me to love myself and be my best friend and you're srsly my big sis ❤ love you, Via!

@melocakk 27 дней назад

whenever you post i just stop what i do and watch your video, it's really like a therapy for me.also please don't stop making these deep conversation videos, they're my favorites i just love them. it's like having a real conversation with you