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Today, we have 6 hearings covering a 7 month period with
a couple where dad has supervised visitation due to major
mental illness and mom’s been charged with a DUI that will
send her to jail. Dad is pushing for unsupervised visitation
immediately but he recently violated their PPO. Should he have
unsupervised visitation and how long is mom going to be in
jail?
Let’s see what the commissioner thinks...
Tell me your thoughts in the comments below...
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@lookingatlegalstuff 5 месяцев назад

🛑🛑🛑There is an UPDATED VERSION OF THIS VIDEO HERE: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-FPd2MUmD-yc.html🛑🛑🛑

@cherylsabol387 8 месяцев назад

OMG if the dad was in jail because of a DUI the mom would immediately get custody!

@kristinmichelleyt 7 месяцев назад

The problem is that dad isn’t really fit to care for him full time either.

@zip1233 5 месяцев назад

@@kristinmichelleyt says who? dudes been doing everything they ask for 2 years and they literally won't give him an opportunity

@kristinmichelleyt 5 месяцев назад

@@zip1233 he has supervised visits, there’s a reason for that.

@zip1233 5 месяцев назад

@@kristinmichelleyt and she's literally fucking in jail. the dudes been doing literally everything that asked for years and will not let him progress past supervised visits

@oliviatree 5 месяцев назад

Not true. That is a false hypothetical.

@samanthamocko7723 9 месяцев назад

I feel so bad for this father. He is doing his best to see his son. This is so unfair.

@amandamandy2811 9 месяцев назад

Dad may have been chaotic and mentally ill at one point, but it’s been a year. At what point will they stop punishing him? Besides it’s the mom who’s looking at prison time for a DUI causing bodily injury.

@yakk13 9 месяцев назад

I agree. They won’t even listen to him. He’s done everything right. They are making up stuff to put in the way for some reason. He asked , since he can’t speak to the mom directly, can he get one more visit to replace all the ones he missed because of someone else. Not unreasonable. A small child will quickly forget a parent if not seeing them regularly. Why not give him the one visit?

@rosemaryus-ct6151 9 месяцев назад

they arent punishing dad; supervised visits are for the protection of the child.

@yakk13 9 месяцев назад

@@rosemaryus-ct6151 supervised visit part I get. The letting the mom make up excuses so he misses out on most of them I don’t get. If he missed that many, why not let him have a few more? The child is going to forget him and it’s not his fault. She’s taking the kid on fabulous vacations, while the kid hasn’t even seen him at all.

@GovilGirl 8 месяцев назад

It should have be on mom to find substitute monitor if her friend fell through since she doesn't approve of it being dad's Grampa.

@GovilGirl 8 месяцев назад

He has been solid for 2 years and is very open and solid on what his trigger risks are.

@patriciaosullivan1010 9 месяцев назад

Mr Lawrence is right on. Mom has issues too, and Shane is getting penalized for an under control mental illness. Obviously it needs to go slow and be monitored for both parents.

@ccsorn 9 месяцев назад

I think it is ridiculous that a convicted person gets to use their children as a factor in their sentencing. The victims might have children too and easily would be impacted more than 40 days.

@lostineggsaisle 8 месяцев назад

You're right, but in the victims situation there's no way around their child being impacted. It's already happened. Also, the child in the perpetrators life has been impacted as well and if they can save a little bit of trauma from another child it might be worth it depending on the entire situation. I hope that makes sense. I'm not really saying people should be able to use their children to get out of things, but finding alternative sentences that might not take them away from their children as long might be helpful just to avoid more trauma to more children.

@jamesrice4072 8 месяцев назад

"Use their children"? Please name one jurisdiction in America that has any guidelines that reduces the sentence because they have children? THERE IS NOT ONE. Certainly some judges might let thatsway them. Just the same as if someone is caring for a terminally IL parent, or any other factor in a person's life. But there is not a box to check that gives them a shorter sentence if they have children.

@elreytriton 8 месяцев назад

@@jamesrice4072 there doesnt need to be a "guideline" written. Most women NEVER see jail time behind their crimes. Men are automatically blamed in most situations even unless she's stealing or something. Even then she'll most likely get a bunch of unsupervised probation.

@markc13579 8 месяцев назад

at the end of the day it wasn't a factor, as she was given a 40-day sentence.

@carmp3fan 7 месяцев назад

@@jamesrice4072 Did you not watch the video? They referred to it.

@selmamartin8737 9 месяцев назад

Dad deserves better. Mom was high and drunk. She crashed her car into someone and hurt them. Shame on her for doing this to his dad. Shameful.

@tinykitsune0387 9 месяцев назад

Exactly

@poppylover200 9 месяцев назад

She doesnt care. I'd love to see that trial. Sounded like she didnt get the plea deal she expected, i wonder wh😮‍💨

@texasproud8822 9 месяцев назад

@@poppylover200 I wonder if the mom might have known she was going to jail but let the court think she was getting house confinement to put off the dads additional visitation.

@SteveWillNotDoIt1984 7 месяцев назад

The court system will punish a father for being bipolar, but provide assistance for bipolar mother. Unbelievable

@Be-A-Good-Human00 9 месяцев назад

How does she have so much control in their case, after what she did??? My God cps involves themselves in wayyyyyyyy smaller instances than this, but yet cps is not involved AND shes calling all the shots, wth is going on??

@kimberlyhunt2052 8 месяцев назад

I lived in Washington my entire life until retirement. I've seen the courts so against fathers rights case after case. When will they understand that the Dad's are needed as much as the Mothers. It really needs to change.😢

@Janice-hc5ri 7 месяцев назад

I had a friend in Spanaway her husband was fighting for custody of his son from a previous marriage. He had credentialed evidence of abuse and neglect and he still was denied custody. Made me feel so heartbroken for the little boy. My friend just cried her heart out!

@kimberlyhunt2052 7 месяцев назад

@@Janice-hc5ri exactly this scenario over and over again. It's very sad for these children.😥

@kimberlyhunt2052 5 месяцев назад

A very good friend of mine finally got custody but he had to hire a very good lawyer that cost him over $10,000 and so many court dates along with a lot of creditable people to testify against her. He finally got full custody.

@notsparks 9 месяцев назад

Best part of mom's shenanigans is that the crash took place at 2pm and was severe enough that the other car went off an embankment, rolled onto its side then caught fire. Also, I am an attorney in Washington, where this all occurred and haven't made it to the end, but if there are serious mental health issues it's unlikely that he would get custody and more likely that a family member will be a temporary guardian. Stress can exacerbate mental health issues. They could do a trial of unsupervised visitation, and if he appears, he is stable, granting permanent unsupervised visitation and potentially moving to shared custody. I also just looked into the situation and she received a very small sentence given the severity because they gave her a Parenting Sentence Alterative so she had a 364 day sentence with 274 being suspended (so 90 days and served 30 beforereleaseit appears), then 12 months probation with random drug and alcohol screening.

@deedeebolen 9 месяцев назад

Thats disturbing that she can use being a parent to get out of being penalized for her CRIME!! 😞

@notsparks 9 месяцев назад

@deedeebolen I don't necessarily agree that this is the right thing, but it's the law here, so her attorney made a good deal for her. Washington has fairly lenient rules - we have prison nurseries for pregnant women to stay with children in prison if they give birth, and they may move into halfway homes for reintegration. Keeping children with their parents is generally a high concern for the judges around here (and the legislators), to the point we'll keep kids in jail to keep them with a mother.

@rosemaryus-ct6151 9 месяцев назад

i retired from dcf and everything u say is true but it's not what people want to hear when they dont understand the implications of mental health nor alcoholism, nor how the system works.

@notsparks 9 месяцев назад

@rosemaryus-ct6151 that's a primary reason I don't practice family law. Nobody is ever happy with the outcome and parents who probably loved each other at one point will try to take every opportunity to stick it to the other as revenge even when that may not be best for their child(ren).

@rosemaryus-ct6151 9 месяцев назад

@@notsparks if they could put their kids first they wouldnt need lawyers. nearly always the hate runs deep. i dont blame u for not wanting to be in that but where would we be if we couldnt find a good lawyer? thank god i had a good lawyer. my husband quit paying the mortgage and thought nothing of putting his four children on the street.

@RSJ-Texas 9 месяцев назад

Wow. This state is just totally against the father. Even though the mother is in jail for drunk driving. Unbelievable !!!

@GovilGirl 8 месяцев назад

She was super high on weed too not just booze.

@GrouchyDragon 7 месяцев назад

He shows promise in his progression but zero effort. Time after time he sat on his hands when he should have made a motion. And breaking the tpo... Dude!

@tarakoschnitzke4730 5 месяцев назад

This judge is......in fact if u watch his hearings it's a regular theme...

@Caffeinatedown 9 месяцев назад

The mom just keeps escaping true consequences. He’s done everything and gets crumbs.

@elle-d3286 9 месяцев назад

I feel awful for him. What's the point of this lady judge? She just keeps saying no to visitation, setting anotjer court date and changes nothing.

@sweetdeath1971 7 месяцев назад

I hate when fathers are treated like this. I think the mother is the worse of the two parents. Mother is doing pot and drinking. That is not safe for the kid/kids. Where the father is doing amazing with everything and should be able to have his son unsupervised. She sounds like the unfit one to me.

@sharonb.7867 7 месяцев назад

You are so right!! This dad worked so hard and kept getting thrown under the bus!!

@scrumps101 7 месяцев назад

This is utter BS. This man has a mental illness that he’s maintaining and meanwhile is doing everything in his power to be a good father. Yes, he slipped up by sending the copy of an old letter to mom. But as he stated, he’s had one minor slip up in the five years since they parted. He should at least be getting the parenting time the judge allows. No one is helping him get these visits. It’s on him to find a “supervisor” for these visits and the judges just shirk it off that the supervisor isn’t reliable. The court should have something in place for this. This child needs his father and he goes weeks without getting to bond with his dad - because no one cares enough to assist. Meanwhile, mom was off drinking and getting high to the point of a DUI with injuries to 2 ppl yet gets a slap on the wrist and all the parent time in the world. Wtf

@ryanchristie3030 6 месяцев назад

@@scrumps101AMEN!! This one really makes me so ANGRY!! He needs to look into filing a claim regarding his civil rights. I find it really funny how as soon as that was brought into this the judge changed her tune, if not I guarantee he would still be going around in circles like he has been for the last yr of videos we’ve seen.

@larryscharnweber9805 9 месяцев назад

If anyone needs proof of his recovery; all you need to do is watch his demeanor and responses during these hearings. If he was not recovering he could not have maintained his composure time after time as his appeal for more visitation was being repeatedly turned down.

@sukiwatson 9 месяцев назад

Wow! Her going to jail and him violating the restraining order even though he is supposed to be in such a hurry to see his son. The only good thing about this is their civil and not screaming at each other. The mom is a hypocrite by always saying she is worried about the dad but kind of doesn't think what she does is wrong. Mr. Lawrence is doing a fantastic job. It is a shame that dad relapsed. I am glad the judge made both parents continue to get drug testing. I hope they both get it together for their child. The mom seems like a control freak. I really don't think she wants the dad to see the son. But has no choice.

@texasproud8822 9 месяцев назад

Were Tessana’s parents or boyfriend forthcoming about her problems?? Fair is fair. Both parents should be under the same scrutiny.

@QuintessentialUltimatum 9 месяцев назад

There’s a huge past we don’t know about. There is a restraining order for a reason…

@trialsemail2 9 месяцев назад

And the fact that it has been a LONG STANDING protection order says A LOT!! I am currently in a circus show in family court. I am about to push for suspension of visitation/parenting time for the other parent

@marthajanethvidea-vega1532 9 месяцев назад

I hate how mom never wants to give an inch . I bet if you ask the child if he would rather spend time with his cousin or his dad, he would choose dad. But oh well, at least he'll be able to get all his visits now.

@kalligirl4374 9 месяцев назад

Thank you for posting these hearing one after the other! It was great to watch it this way! 👍☺️

@lookingatlegalstuff 9 месяцев назад

You're welcome! I try to bundle as many hearings together as I can in my videos as I also like to be able to watch one after the other, especially in this courtroom where nothing happens very quickly, so when I bundle them it feels like something actually happened, lol. I try to do this whenever possible so I'm not usually the channel that puts things out first, but if you watch it here you'll probably get a more complete case. That's the goal, anyway. I also try to follow up on the cases that we are watching and I create a playlist for every case that has an update as well as a playlist for every judge. You can always check a case's playlist to see if there are any updates. Thanks so much for watching! 🙏❤

@mandygingerich6701 9 месяцев назад

This whole situation is sad. A dad that wants to be in his kids life is being kept away by the court.

@markc13579 8 месяцев назад

all he had to do was to have some supervised visits in the beginning and establish a track record of good visits and he could have gotten unsupervised visits.

@kristinmichelleyt 7 месяцев назад

@@markc13579This! He was granted a 3rd party supervisor instead of at a center, he couldn’t come up with anyone reliable. That was literally all he had to do and he could have gotten unsupervised faster. He had all the excuses why he couldn’t get his shit together and get it done.

@QuintessentialUltimatum 9 месяцев назад

HE IS LUCKYYYYY he isn’t going to jail over violating the restraining order. They are usually super STRICT on that. It’s a completely separate charge too to violate a restraining order.

@pleasestopurcrap 9 месяцев назад

He needs a free pass. They've railroaded him every step of the way

@QuintessentialUltimatum 9 месяцев назад

@@pleasestopurcrap I agree for sure, I just mean from person experience they usually take them VERY seriously. But it might be because the PPO it was done through family court not criminal. Later on in the hearings they say that.

@tishhobbs6998 6 месяцев назад

Yeah. Extraordinarily unfortunate action on his part. He does need a break. She isn't being sweated by this court and does not live/raise with her child? Has serious charges endangering the public and she makes the rules? That commissioner always annoys the F out of me.

@Jalle6673 9 месяцев назад

Shane should have spoken up and let the new judge know that his time had been cut temporarily so the mom could have weekends too. It is unfortunate that a new judge stepped in. Otherwise, he might have gotten unsupervised visitation.

@brettpomeroy6804 7 месяцев назад

It was clear that the judge was busy that day and didn't feel like giving him the time or attention he deserved. She is a piss poor person

@jc-ol4cb 6 месяцев назад

@brettpomeroy6804 I'm glad you said that. I felt the same. This is someone's else being manipulated by one person of authority. Makes me sick. Seems mom is worse than dad and still has control. Judge needs to be reviewed.

@sulvogel14 9 месяцев назад

If dad was in jail for the same he, he would never get time. It's so one sided

@tarakoschnitzke4730 5 месяцев назад

Always is with this judge

@karacarlstrom9865 9 месяцев назад

So dad has been stable and doing good for an entire year and they still aren't giving him adequate time. The court system is absolutely ridiculous because it's all for the mothers and their bad behaviors and never being held accountable.

@magi267 9 месяцев назад

It's understandable because of this Commissioner, Mr Delay

@seanwexler8051 9 месяцев назад

As a father who was awarded custody after my child's mom had much less severe bad behavior than this (in CA of all places), I don't think it's necessarily a problem of the court system as a whole, rather an issue with certain courts/judges. But in this case, it's absolutely shameful. I can't help but believe if the table's were turned and a dad caused a major wreck while DUI, he'd be dragged through the mud and constantly told to think of what could've happened if his kids were in the car.

@karacarlstrom9865 9 месяцев назад

@seanwexler8051 I agree with you 100%. I watch alot of these cases and it just always gets to me when the mothers aren't held accountable for the things they do and how they behave but yet like you said, if the tables were turned it would be a whole different approach.

@Ladyfirebrand 9 месяцев назад

I can’t watch Nelson anymore - he is so frustrating

@rhianabrooke 7 месяцев назад

I never thought about ADA... Shane needs a lawyer.

@QuintessentialUltimatum 9 месяцев назад

So under these circumstances anyone who is manic bipolar shouldn’t have time with their kids… k.

@sarahsaplainpotatochip1537 9 месяцев назад

Every single time she says they have plans… if I was him I wouldn’t be so nice about it anymore

@Jalle6673 9 месяцев назад

Why did it take until last visit for Mr Lawrence to bring up the fact that the mom was just as much at risk as the dad was?! He had been stable for 2 years as regards to his mental health concerns, from the sounds of it, at the time that she got in the DUI crash severely injuring two people. So even at that point she was more of a risk to the child than he was. Seems like the court made Shane jumped through fiery hoops. I think the biggest problem was when the judges switched. I think the first judge would have given him unsupervised visits at the court hearing where instead, a newfemale judge stepped in The new judge evidently didn't do inadequate review of the case. In fact I think the dad would have gotten unsupervised visitation even before, if only he hadn't texted the mom, there by breaking some form of productive order. I think that most of the time the court system works okay, but in this case, they failed the child and the dad by restricting him to reduced hours visitation for way too long, just because the mom wanted weekends also.

@taylorgayle7271 9 месяцев назад

Mom is sober because of conditions of bond. Just because she has a kid she doesn’t go to jail? Her parents have been raising her and her child! Unfair!

@libertywatcher1247 9 месяцев назад

Just because this man has bipolar doesn't mean he shouldn't have the right to father his child. He's doing everything right, and it seems to me that he's being punished for having a mental illness.

@rosemaryus-ct6151 9 месяцев назад

and who's going to protect the child when he gets manic? stress causes mania and taking care of a child is stressful. safety comes first.

@libertywatcher1247 9 месяцев назад

@@rosemaryus-ct6151 oh please. There are millions of people with bipolar who are great parents. He's on his medication and getting regular treatment

@markc13579 8 месяцев назад

the court asked for some supervised visits, once he did that he could have gotten unsupervised visits. He held up the process.

@elainetoohey3892 7 месяцев назад

Having bipolar does not mean you can't parent. I have bipolar and have raised 3 amazing children. Ignorant stigmatizing.

@aregolas 5 месяцев назад

@@markc13579 the supervisor held up the process by being unavailable.

@Blueyes05 9 месяцев назад

Hopefully you will be able to provide the February hearing for us to watch. I think there’s a bunch of us cheering for dad. I was a little worried about Mr Lawrence’s up until this last hearing due to I felt he was against the dad getting unsupervised but yet mom wasn’t being punished when she had almost as bad of an issue going. If she hadn’t had the wreck when she did then the dad might not be to the point of finally getting unsupervised visits. I also agree with you that the mom is probably lying about how often she’s using drugs and drinking. I’m wondering if they use to do weed together. Praying dad continues to stay on the right track with the restraining order.

@jamjam8793 8 месяцев назад

The mom did pass a hair follicle test before she went to jail. You have to be off the stuff for quite some time

@k.stacey7389 6 месяцев назад

Almost as bad of an issue? When did Dad almost kill two people?

@ellenmccully490 6 месяцев назад

Mom lives with her parents big plus for her

@selmamartin8737 9 месяцев назад

He at least deserve unsupervised. Come on, mom is in jail. Dad is begging to be part of this child’s life.

@Brit626 9 месяцев назад

Unfortunately, I don't think it will happen because of his history of mental illness.

@rosemaryus-ct6151 9 месяцев назад

how do u know what he 'deserves?' u dont know his history. he just violated a protective order. both parents are iffy.

@Brit626 9 месяцев назад

@@rosemaryus-ct6151 I agree that both parents are iffy. And frankly, I'm not comfortable with either parent being around LO. ETA: wrong word.

@trialsemail2 9 месяцев назад

Honestly speaking, I feel that it is a bit concerning that he is pushing SO HARD for UNSUPERVISED time. In my case (just personally speaking, but in my case and in my opinion) if the other side/parent pushed THIS HARD about UNSUPERVISED time, the court would LESSEN the time if he did this or pushed this hard. Bipolar disorder can flare or flip at ANY MOMENT!! I think it is a red flag that he wants alone time so badly?? ****I will add that I still am 40 minutes from when this hearing ends from when I wrote this comment!!****

@Brit626 9 месяцев назад

@@trialsemail2 Oh, I completely agree with this. It should be noted though that he's been taking his medicine and doing exactly what is asked of him. Then again, I don't really understand BP enough to make an accurate enough judgement.

@Capkirk 8 месяцев назад

Sean is not completely stable if he can’t abide by a court order. Saying he wants to have another baby with her? That’s stalker crazy. He’s pushing too much and it’s going to backfire

@rhianabrooke 7 месяцев назад

As soon as GAL said that the person who delivers the child can determine if he is fit, you could see the wheels turning in moms head.

@QuintessentialUltimatum 9 месяцев назад

I think it’s fucked up that people have to see different judges all the time and every time they pretty much start over all the time. I actually have had this happen to me but in criminal court. It is fucked up.

@tinykitsune0387 9 месяцев назад

Yes a lot of what was put over in this case seemed unnecessary

@QuintessentialUltimatum 9 месяцев назад

@@tinykitsune0387 and it makes me so mad because when a child is young, every single day is so critical in the relationships they will have with their parents and even when it comes to shaping them into being who they are.

@tinykitsune0387 9 месяцев назад

@@QuintessentialUltimatum i know not all fathers are saints but what irks me about these is these moms are doing the very things the judges throw fathers into jail for but its okay because moms are special for some reason like not almost every woman can be a mom it’s statistically not special

@sharonb.7867 7 месяцев назад

IT IS ABOUT TIME!!! I wholeheartedly agreed with Mr. Lawrence about Shane's rights!! I was a daycare director for 27 years and I saw some of this type of situation. Shane was being raked over the coals when he'd done EVERYRHING the courts asked of him!! He was humble and compliant and still they didn't insist on his time with Abel!! The mother nearly killed someone in an alcohol and drug related episode and they acted like she hadn't done anything wrong!! Finally, at about 1 hour and 20 minutes into the video Mr. Lawrence started to nail it down!! Were they volalating his civil rights!?!? YES and YES!!! You go dad!

@abbylane2718 7 месяцев назад

🎉🎉Great for SHANE AND ABLE no more supervision for him. 🎉🎉

@kimlerner9593 5 месяцев назад

So very happy for them!

@magi267 9 месяцев назад

I can't believe it's retired Commissioner Nelson, the one who just keeps putting things off over and over again.

@wristdisabledwriter2893 9 месяцев назад

Judge when you hear she’s on pot and alcohol to the point she was in a car accident, the solution is remove the kid from mom if need be give to grandparents and make her prove herself to get supervised visits and than unsupervised etc

@jh9374 8 месяцев назад

Hasn’t she been clean and sober for quite some time?

@sommerhoover2010 8 месяцев назад

So I kind of got the mom’s concern in the beginning but after hearing, after hearing where dad sounded completely reasonable, compliant, coherent and willing to do anything the court wanted to see his kid, (drug testing, more doctor visits, etc.) and the court let the mother have input while she was currently charged with drinking and driving and smoking weed that caused an accident that injured 2 people and was facing almost a year in jail, I almost lost it. Then while she was in jail, they couldn’t make changes to parenting time bc she wasn’t there bc SHE WAS IN JAIL! GTFOH!!! Who is she to make some morally superior opinion like she’s some saint??? And every time the dad asked to make up parenting time, she “already had plans”. Sorry, but out of both parents, she comes off as a bitter pos with a vendetta. I don’t think dad said one bad thing about her, did everything the court asked and offered to do more. He deserved his unsupervised time with their child way before it was finally granted. Shame on the court for dragging this out. And shame on mom for being a bitter jerk. Just know that one day, your kids will grow up and they’ll recognize who was being the shitty parent. It’s easy to manipulate toddlers, but not so much when they grow up and can see the whole picture. Stop being childish and put your kids first bc you look so gross to reasonable people.

@abbylane2718 7 месяцев назад

Yes, you hit the nail on the head 😢

@tishhobbs6998 6 месяцев назад

He should at least be able to have Wed for 2 friggin hours. Play ball, do homework, have dinner by themselves. It is friggin rediculous.

@ReleaseTheQuackers 9 месяцев назад

*FATHERS DESERVE THEIR RIGHTS* just as much as mothers do. Fathers always get shorted in court, even if the mothers are trash. Too often kids get tossed into foster care rather than giving their fathers the ability to parent equally or totally. Fathers pay child support, carry insurance, pay for supervised visits, even sometimes paying transportation costs to see their child or children. Mothers don't get ordered to pay these things as often and purposely make it hard for the fathers to get equal time. It is DISGUSTIG!

@rosemaryus-ct6151 9 месяцев назад

1) he's bipolar so there's a safety issue. 2) he has supervised visits because there's a safety issue. 3) he just violated a protective order. no one should be rushing to hand the child over to him. the circumstances are dictating what will happen. that being said, u should know that my son got primary custody of his small daughters when he got divorced; one was an infant and the other was age 2. he got very good terms in the divorce. court is not ALWAYS against a father.

@ReleaseTheQuackers 9 месяцев назад

@@rosemaryus-ct6151 This father has been clean and sober for 2 years and under proper supervision. He is not the one that drove drunk and high causing injury to two people. She got a slap on the wrist and hardly an eye was blinked about her having care and control of the child. My dad raised me after my "mother" split when I was 9 months old in 1972. Even then he had to fight to keep me when they divorced. The court was going to just hand me back to a woman who abandoned me while my dad was at work so she could go out with her boyfriend and get drunk and high. She lied again and again in court then kidnapped me. Her father faked a heart attack so she would show up at their house and my dad could take me back. She did not ever visit me and barely ever contacted me until I was 14yo. Even then she tried to lie about what went down 13 years before. I have been a witness for several of my male friends in custody cases. The courts favor mothers even when evidence shows how drunk, high, or mentally delusional they are. One of my male friends was in court every 6 months or so for 6 years trying to get full custody of his 3 kids because they were being left at friend's and relatives' houses for weeks sometimes. During this time my friend didn't know where his kids were often and missed out on his time with his kids. The courts didn't seem to care that these kids were missing school, being shuffled around like pets and not seeing their dad. She was arrested 8 times for DWI, DUI and assault. She was jailed 5 of those times for more than 2 weeks each time. Still the court was telling him to jump through fiery hoops and balance on needles paying child support to a woman who did not care for her kids at all. My friend finally got full custody and his kids needed intense therapy to learn how to recover from all the neglect and cruelty from their mother. One of his kids took his own life when he got to college and was stalked by his mother. She is currently doing jail time for that. Fathers RARELY get equal rights in the court system. Your son got lucky.

@rosemaryus-ct6151 9 месяцев назад

@@ReleaseTheQuackers no he's the manic one who keeps violating a protective order. neither one of them is fit to parent.

@texasproud8822 9 месяцев назад

The courts that I have been watching really upsets me with the “primary” caregiver issue. The parent that was able to be a stay at home parent because the other parent worked a lot shouldn’t be given primary custody based on being home while the other parent worked. Both parents should be treated equally and the stay at home parent should get a job.

@ReleaseTheQuackers 9 месяцев назад

@@rosemaryus-ct6151 *ONE TIME* and it wasn't counted against him... maybe you need to watch it again without blinders

@warriorb_yotch 9 месяцев назад

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@lookingatlegalstuff 9 месяцев назад

Thank you very much! I'm so glad you enjoy the channel and thank you for watching!

@OctaviaDLewis 9 месяцев назад

So horrible! Total BS.. They are alienating dad. 😡

@rondajackson300 9 месяцев назад

Sooooo dad is fighting to get time after a mental break but mom crashed drunk driving and going to jail but no one questioned whether she should be have Supervised visitation?...

@emma2370 9 месяцев назад

Exactly. People saying the father is a safety risk but not looking at the mother that drove drunk?

@QuintessentialUltimatum 9 месяцев назад

In the last hearing the GAL really changed his tune, like 180 degree change. I am super curious as to what happened behind the scenes.

@kimlerner9593 5 месяцев назад

ok. I'm retracting my view of Mr. Lawrence. He's exactly right about Shane's civil rights. Bravo to him.

@melissa74066 4 месяца назад

This guy is relentless. Glad to see him fighting so hard for his time with his son. 😊

@tishhobbs6998 6 месяцев назад

It is so foolish od mom's parents not to develop a relationship with dad as he has strived to heal himself. That relationship becoming functional is essential for the childs growth and happiness.

@khristyp 9 месяцев назад

I hope these parents do continue to stay well. What I thought seemed unfair was Dad had to jump though so many hoops for having a mental problem but Mom seemed to get away with a hand slap for a drunk driving accident causing personal injury to others.

@DesiArcy 7 месяцев назад

As the judge pointed out in no less than three of the hearings, Dad wasn't making progress in large part because he was failing to file the right motions even after the judge directly explained that he needed to file a motion to place the issues he wanted addressed before the court, and that she literally *could not rule* on the issue he wanted unless it was actually before the court.

@psweeneyville 9 месяцев назад

I was a bit worried about the GRL but good job on hearing #6!

@poppylover200 9 месяцев назад

He did! Actually above and beyond for dad. So glad he was/is a constant in the situation...addressing dad getting f'ed, handling the situation very fairly and professional.

@rhianabrooke 7 месяцев назад

The first judge even said he'd like to believe that the mother would work with dad if the supervisor couldn't attend. As in. Find someone else.

@falconbattle_systems1249 9 месяцев назад

Pt3 of my comments on this Case 6 Good on Dad for getting in this paperwork. Now keep on this track dad. Again, dad you're doing great, of course this BMT is not going to agree with what you want. She is in this for control. She wants to control everything you do with this child, and how to control your mental health. Thats right it takes time to get meds right, when dealing with mental health. However, there he is clean and sober, mental health is being cared for, and has not had a relapse. He is doing everything as required and again this should not be a problem any longer. This BMT should have been in jail for the entire 16 months. GAL is doing a great job here. Great to hear the ADA being brought up. This is very well could be a major problem for the mom and her family as well as the court for violations of his civil rights. Have that information sent and served on each other or through the court. Dad stops doing things for the BMT. You do them for you, stop going backwards to appease this horrible controlling woman. Dad go out and get a small toddler bed for your little one. This is a big thing for the courts for the child to have their own bed. Now on the BMT I'm going to tell you this, she is going to disagree with everything, as she would be losing control, and she does not like to lose control or be in charge. Yes, you were in jail, and you can do your own research. Good then testing should be a problem for you to show this to the father. Continue the connection only if she can control it. So, she meets with her probation officer, and gets a UA. Show these tests the HFs are very expensive to do. Meth and coke can only be tested by blood, not a swab. Time to move into the future. Judge time, good on the judge for the granting for the father. Good steps in the right direction in all of this. Awesome Un supervised visits. Every other weekend is a good thing, and daytime visits as well. So it should only be sent to the GAL not the mom, and the GAL is show it at the next review. These test needs to be random, so she cannot prep for it.

@alexandraphares8511 7 месяцев назад

Meth and coke can be detected using a mouth swab/saliva test, and actually stays in saliva longer than blood... Cocaine has a detection period of approximately 1 day for blood, 1-3 days for saliva, 3-5 days for urine, and 90 days for hair. Methamphetamine has a detection period of 4 days for saliva, 1-3 days for blood, 3-5 days for urine, and again 90 days for hair. Mouth swabs and blood tests are mainly used to determine recent drug use, but to determine long term use, a weekly UA or hair follicle would be the most reliable... That or a drug test patch, which would show 24-48 hrs prior to application, have a continuous testing period of 7-10 days, is tamper evident, and is difficult to dilute, substitute, or adulterate.... The results of drug test patch have also been upheld by the Supreme Court and is used by many courts around the USA.

@SteveWillNotDoIt1984 7 месяцев назад

@@alexandraphares8511 A mouth swab doesn't detect any drugs past 48 hour

@WoodlandT 9 месяцев назад

Mr Lawrence is such a great GAL. I have a lot of respect for him

@texasproud8822 9 месяцев назад

It makes me wonder if the parental sentencing is another reason she fought the father getting unsupervised visits. Did her lawyer tell her she wouldn’t qualify if she allowed him unsupervised?

@vivaciousom5347 9 месяцев назад

What is parental sentencing? I’ve never seen that term. Is this term from a certain state?

@tinykitsune0387 9 месяцев назад

Its where to keep children out of foster situations the parents in my area at least do probation or home confinement

@vivaciousom5347 9 месяцев назад

@@tinykitsune0387Thank you!! I think drunk drivers that cause harm should go to jail. The grandparents are willing to take care of young Abel. Being a parent shouldn’t literally be a “get out of jail” card.

@tinykitsune0387 9 месяцев назад

@@vivaciousom5347 i agree but unfortunately our system really caters to mothers and seem to follow this moms are best for children and in lots of cases that is not true. Not that the dad in this case was perfect either but it felt like he was really working to control his disease and do what was best for his child and he only got viewed as someone with a black mark because of his illness

@awkwardlyamy3765 9 месяцев назад

WE ALL HAVE YOUR BACK!!!! YOU'RE DOING A GREAT JOB! THIS ISN'T YOUR FAULT! HE DIDN'T ASK TO BE BORN WITH A MENTAL HEALTH ISSUE..

@toportime 6 месяцев назад

Sounds like the mom keeps planning things with the son during the dads time. Suprising the courts have not noticed that. Shame on her!

@liamoshea9383 9 месяцев назад

I cant believe the judge let that guy arrear inn a moving vehicle.

@sweets8446 5 месяцев назад

This man judge is always for the mother. She’s going to jail but taking away from the dad. Mom goes to jail the child should be with dad, period

@rhianabrooke 7 месяцев назад

Wow. If she had done this in Florida, her ass would be in prison for probably 5yrs, as a parent or not.

@scrumps101 7 месяцев назад

Mom states that this DUI accident was a “one time thing” that she drank and smoked weed”. I’m calling BS. Statistically, people will drink and drive 80 times before they get a DUI. She either has the worst luck of any drunk driver on the planet or is lying.

@NoFilterEver 9 месяцев назад

I swear I think these judges are trying to push this guy over the edge and have him screw up! No reason he shouldn't be able to see his child alone! The mom is the one who almost killed 2 people and ONLY got 40 days! The system is a freaking joke for dads and people trying and putting in the work to better themselves! Only reason mom's clean is the accident SHE caused due to drugs and drinking!

@nb-user25 9 месяцев назад

I hope she has to pay the victims of the crash as well as serving time in jail.

@brendaselzer9353 7 месяцев назад

So Dad's being punished for a mental disease which is noncriminal and Mom is getting off Scot free for a criminal act... Got it. Mom sitting there all smug and judging Dad is totally pissing me off.

@ChiliCattt 9 месяцев назад

Having known a few people with major mental illnesses who had legal problems, the concern of the court wasn’t the mental illness, it was the fact that most people who are diagnosed mentally ill go off their medication several times as adults for various reasons. This means that should the father choose to go off his medication, the court would have placed the child with a parent with major mental illness. There’s a real concern for the safety of the child and the liability of the court. I’m not saying right or wrong, I’m just speaking to reasoning. This concern was reinforced no doubt when father was given more time with his son and his reaction to that was to break the no contact order with a love letter. It shows that any deviation from a rigid plan immediately throws him off course/balance, and since children’s behavior is not rigid, this is a genuine concern. And for what it’s worth, I think mom and Mom‘s family are playing games. She works in a per diem industry but she doesn’t have a phone? Her mother doesn’t know how to reach her, even though her mother has the child, and she lives with her mother? The child is almost always sick on the father’s weekends but well enough to enjoy outdoor activities on hers? BS.

@rosemaryus-ct6151 9 месяцев назад

most people dont understand the implications of the mental illness. plus people drama abounds, yes.

@texasproud8822 9 месяцев назад

And as soon as the dad got unsupervised visitation she wanted phone calls on his time. Her parents should have been supervising a weekly FaceTime between the child and father in my opinion. It doesn’t matter if you like him or not when your grand child is older the child needs to know you loved him enough to try and support a relationship with his father.

@jessicacook5722 8 месяцев назад

Him wanting more medication isn’t about anything other than not cycling. He wants to be a father to his son. I don’t think anyone should be finding fault with that. If we’re going to split hairs, mom should also have supervised visitation. And her parents, (enablers) should have no say in anything.

@ellenmccully490 6 месяцев назад

Mom lives with parents which is why they feel safe with her

@jillspence7227 9 месяцев назад

He doesn't seem to understand that HE and his choice of supervisor are the reasons he doesn't get visits the way he wants them.

@sharynpettersen662 9 месяцев назад

You are absolutely correct 👍

@rosemaryus-ct6151 9 месяцев назад

right... his major mental illness and the fact he keeps violating the protective order doesnt have anything to do with it...

@merrybells 9 месяцев назад

The mom has to approve the supervisors too. They didn't talk about whether that was a problem with him finding a more available supervisor or not.

@joycemarie9702 5 месяцев назад

He was manipulating the court by making it sound as if he was missing visits as if it was mom’s fault! This guy is not being honest and I have a bad feeling about him. He obviously can’t even get his own mother to help supervise consistently and stepfather has a restraining order against him. He lives in a sober living center and thinks it’s good for the child to sleep. That’s gross!

@andreastiemeyer2183 9 месяцев назад

Dad could probably have had the full 36h per month with his son if he had looked for additional supervisors and then used different ones for different days. But he didn't want that, because he thought that complaining about the current situation would get him closer to unsupervised visits. There is something about his single-mindedness on this issue that I find disturbing.

@alyssahedman9438 8 месяцев назад

I agree!

@my73Thing 9 месяцев назад

She is worried about marijuana and she herself was busted DUI and marijuana in her system. Why is she not being required to test.

@sharynpettersen662 9 месяцев назад

She is being tested by parole

@ibelf2465 5 месяцев назад

It’s not just the marijuana. Sounds like this guy is severely bipolar with a very wild episode of mania. That in itself upset his own family members to where they don’t want anything to do with him. Marijuana in this case is not this guys friend. I think they both belong under the same microscope:

@zip1233 5 месяцев назад

So the father has a mental breakdown and gets his parental rights basically stripped, has gone trough counseling and everything asked of him, but the mother gets drunk and high and nearly kills two people and gets a slap on the wrist and doesn't have do do anything. Father 100% needs a lawyer, he got shafted the entire time.

@kcarmymomxs2551 6 месяцев назад

This poor man needs to take this to the Supreme Court because this isn’t what they were working towards

@rosemaryshoffner1906 9 месяцев назад

This father is being railroaded so the mother can receive a lighter sentence... He's done well, yet she injured others while drinking and driving 🤔

@valeriemichelle_proudroughneck 9 месяцев назад

I am only half way through and this lady judge is irritating… everyone goes through issues….The mother is in jail so legally, he should have custody of the Son… or at least unsupervised visits… I’m irritated that he is getting the shit of the stick yet. The Mom, who clearly had a drug and alcohol problem gets a whopping 40 days in jail or whatever it was.

@rosemaryus-ct6151 9 месяцев назад

1) he's mentally ill and there are safety issues because of it. 2) he has supervised visits because there's safety issues. 3) he keeps violating a protective order. the safety of the child comes first. neither parent would win any gold stars. u dont stick a child with a nonfunctioning human being just because they donated a sperm or egg. the child deserves something better. the mom actually got a year in jail but part of it was suspended. these are not normal people 'issues.'

@carmp3fan 7 месяцев назад

Look at that- the first time he doesn't try to argue for unsupervised visits the GAL does. Sometimes you've just got to be quiet.

@HeyItsKayJayBae 6 месяцев назад

She better worry about her impending PRISON SENTENCE instead of keeping her son away from his dad!

@theunfortunatespectacle7381 9 месяцев назад

This judge is a fool. The father asked for every weekend about 30 times, and the judge misheard him 29 times.

@nb-user25 9 месяцев назад

WHY didn’t he just file a motion to change visitation???? She told him to do this at the previous hearing!!

@sharynpettersen662 9 месяцев назад

It was denied due to his breaching the protective order

@rosemaryus-ct6151 9 месяцев назад

because he's not functional?

@julierochell80 8 месяцев назад

Why wouldn’t he file a motion for custody while mom went to Jail!

@britanybabcock6859 6 месяцев назад

These judges drive me up a wall. The father is trying so hard and this all just keeps being pushed out over and over.

@katc6317 7 месяцев назад

Totally feel for Dad. Glad to see him working so hard to be there for his son. Cannot believe how l lucky Mum was with crash and keeping custody with limited prison time. Don't think it would be the same if she was the Dad in this situation.

@my73Thing 9 месяцев назад

If it was Dad she would be all over stopping his visitation

@jessicaclementz6735 5 месяцев назад

I hate seeing people who work their hearts out to get their ducks in a row continuously getting shafted 🤦‍♀️

@stephanielockwood3736 7 месяцев назад

This judge is not fair to this father at all! This dad needs a lawyer it’s ridiculous!

@NYLI11 7 месяцев назад

I would do anything I could to get my son to have more time with his dad. Wow this is sad

@trinity2145 5 месяцев назад

I can’t handle these judges, commissioners I feel bad for this guy. He needs to get a lawyer. I hope he filed a motion.

@dianealtjohnson4769 6 месяцев назад

Wow! She can have a DUI and get in trouble for drugs and do it knowing she is the only stable parent and then gets to keep him away for similar issues! He needs an Attorney.

@Venessa101 3 месяца назад

She's in JAIL and the kid is with HER parents and not the dad. If he had a lawyer, he would have had full custody during.

@earendil0888 8 месяцев назад

I feel like the Dad is getting hosed and needs to get a lawyer. It is understandable he doesn’t know the difference between an oral motion and written motion with the court

@itsalwayscoldhere 7 месяцев назад

I’m happy after all of that I’m glad dad got something in his favor. Really pulling for him!

@blueaquarius1505 7 месяцев назад

Awesome how we get to watch all of these one after another. Good job!👍🏽

@lisajustlisa2923 9 месяцев назад

I am so happy for Dad!! Mom still acts like she is perfect, but she is not. The same way she wants her mistakes forgiven, he does too. He has proven himself over time and deserves the credit he is finally receiving for that. I hope and pray that things go great and am looking forward to the review hearing in February!

@jacksyoutubechannel4045 9 месяцев назад

The impression that I get is that she's afraid. It's hard to believe the person in this sort of dynamic has really changed, because promises to change are part of the dynamic. The existence of a protection order is a bit of a red flag, but _the first time he has her phone number, he messages her a photo of a love letter?_ Mom obviously has her own stuff going on, but this is the sort of thing you really have to look out for. If things turn out fine, no one thinks about it again. But if Dad decides to punish Mom using their child, this is the sort of thing that gets pointed to with everyone angrily wondering how this fell through the cracks.

@retreivermomx2847 4 месяца назад

It’s infuriating that this dad has done everything and this mom is going to jail and this guy can’t get unsupervised visits with his kid. It makes me so angry. If the roles were reversed they would strip that man of any rights!! 🤬🤬🤬

@johnescobar7711 6 месяцев назад

Can he not get a court appointed supervisor? This is ridiculous. It seemed like the judge didn't care to help with that at all. If the supervisor was available, he would've had such a better relationship with his son. Instead, he has been alienated. He was on the verge of getting unsupervised visits and overnight. So disappointing

@erickab8533 5 месяцев назад

How come every thing is a concern for the dad. But mom, who is facing prison time, is not a concern?! Her parents get to watch HIS child? I don’t get it.

@debbieb5400 8 месяцев назад

Safety for the child first. This is a wise judge.

@acesbros2966 6 месяцев назад

Well, its kind of a happy ending here. Kid gets two parents who are working on their issues and seem to be doing well or making some progress. Somehow it’s working despite the tremendous difficulties this family started with.

@jillspence7227 9 месяцев назад

Sending that text to the mother was a big red flag. Maybe he is not as stable as he is saying.

@Brit626 9 месяцев назад

To be fair, and to give him some credit, he did realize that his actions were wrong and takes responsibility for it.

@sharynpettersen662 9 месяцев назад

Yep that shows the court that he has disregarded their orders and It was not just one text also he doesn’t seem to have family support/ supervision that is a big concern for the courts

@jenniferk. 7 месяцев назад

Wow! Here is a dad who's there and trying, and the courts have more concern for a mother who shows little to not initiative in life!! The courts are wrong in this case! It is obvious that the court he is dealing with has no respect for fathers, and than she cuts him off like his fight to do better means nothing. I think she does not want him to share his stability. Shame on them. Not only does he suffer, now you have ruined a child's relationship. You have assisted the mother in severing the bond between father and son. Shameful

@armontecalvo 8 месяцев назад

Father should agree to allow child to stay with moms parents and continue integration. He has issues, goes a long way in agreeing to keeping child in the home he’s been in, and quite frankly the grandparents have been the only consistent an stable people in child’s life

@Valdezgirl1016 6 месяцев назад

Oh my goodness! The dad never gets anywhere. How in the world does she get to say what happens with this child while being sentenced for DUI and dad does EVERYTHING to make things right and he gets nowhere! This really isn’t justice.

@janicefarmer2387 8 месяцев назад

The courts have bent over backwards for mom and taken time from dad for no good reason. So she keeps the child business but then he's sick when it's dad time. Dad needs to find someone reliable for visitation. Mom seems to think that anything she does is ok and forgivable. But not dad.. why isn't mom being drug and alcohol tested? Why is the judge taking away more time? The system is messed up.. she had no issue committing the crime as a parent. 40 days, are you friggin kidding me! So mom got more than 40 days?