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Thank you Coach Melanie. I came across your video tonight. I am toxic. Because of this toxic behaviour many people have been badly hurt because of my toxic behaviour. What makes things difficult is I have not learnt from my mistakes.
I spent hours crying when I realized that I'm such a toxic person, I felt like I'm the worst person in the whole world and I don't deserve anything good because of my toxicity. I've lied to people, broke their trust, exaggerated way too much, blamed people for things they never did, always played the victim card, seeked for sympathy and attention, betrayed people, bitched about so many people, acted like I was the only person who needed love & care and so much more. The only thing I like about myself is I always tried and I'm still trying to be a better person. This comment section made me realize that I'm not the only one who's getting hurt because of my own doings and I'm so happy to see that everyone wants to improve so they never hurt anyone like that again. To everyone who's reading this.. It's okay, you're a human and you're allowed to make mistakes. Accepting that you're a toxic person needs a lot of courage my friend. We all will become the best versions of ourselves ❤
I am feeling the same things.I know that I am a toxic person.There is one person in my life who is doing everything to make me happy but I am so toxic that I keep dragging every little thing or crying, making that person feel bad. I am trying not to do that but I can't control myself I don't know what to do.I want to change myself . It is getting very difficult for me.
Acceptance that you’re toxic isn’t enough. Changing your behaviours towards your partner, family or friends (even strangers) makes you a better person and creates the change that you need in your life
I realized I'm the toxic one in our relationship.. I was so insecure and I pushed my boyfriend away. All I can do now is to see him walk away and pray that he will meet a person that is perfectly suited for him. I love him so much and too much for me to Hold him back. I want him to be happy and me to be mentally stable. It's too late to have him back :(
@Danica….. I am in the same situation you were in…and I did the same thing to…I pushed him away with my insecurities and jealousy and now I realize that I had a good person and it maybe to late for the both of us also….I pray for you and hope God heals your heart just as well as He’ll heal mines……🙏🏾🙏🏾
Same. I kept talking about peace when I was the one ruining the peace and the relationship and hurt him. I'm just hoping he isn't gone far away and I get chance to work on us and make relationship beautiful like he did. But also praying that if he is gone then he meets a beautiful soul like himself and they be happy and peaceful together.
Wow! Give yourself tons of credit for being able to see that. You might find these videos helpful. ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA I wish you the very best!
I always blamed my boyfriend for being verbally mean, cold and avoidant towards me, but then after we broke up I realized....We both were toxic. I was also dependent, needy and defensive, there were so many highs and lows I felt like a drug addict. I'm angry to recongize it because of how bad he made me feel and how much I was treated like garbage all the time... but I also have toxic traits, and I don't want my pride to get in the way of my new relationships. I think I was afraid of accepting it because in my mind if I did that I was justifying his bad behavior and making it all my fault. Now I understand that even if I made mistakes, that doesn't give anyone the right to make someone feel like they want to die. (I'm sorry for my bad english, but I needed to get it out)
I'm sorry you have been through that! Good for you for being able to see it and want to change! Here are some videos that will help you with that. ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA By the way, your English is really good! 😀
Wow you just made me realize I'm not crazy! What you described is exactly how my relationship was, it's been almost 2 weeks since my breakup and I'm struggling but now I realize we both were toxic. I feel horrible for being this way and I really want to change. I hope my ex doesn't hate me but I hope he one day realizes his part in our relationship ending as well
@@indiadelon8771 Don't feel horrible! We all make mistakes and it's nice that you could analyze the situation in an objective way and take responsibility for what you can change. That gives you real power! The first weeks are the hardest, then it feels lighter, you've got this! I hope you feel better soon.
I realized I contributed and still practice toxic actions against my siblings and family. Hard to imagine I will ever be a good person. I'm too self centered but I'm afraid I'll loose everyone in my life because of it. So I'm very sorry you lost someone, please try not to beat yourself down. Try to look at it like a learning experience to be s better person for your next relationship. Your human, we're all human, we make mistakes and fall short, just dont give up.
I realized that I become toxic when one of my closet friend got mad and left me for realizing I was toxic. I’m watching videos to try and become a better person, for everyone and for me. It’s hard, but I want to do this. I need to do this, I don’t want to hate myself all over again.
Yah. I’m trying to impove myself and better it. Because I know I can change. It was a reality check when they said it, were still friends. But we are on a break to focu on ourselves
Today one of my Friend told me that I am the toxic person, that's the reason why everyone leaves me, ignores me, well not sad just that i woke up very late.
I went through a break up recently and now I’m realising how toxic I was. I’m determined to make sure I never hurt anyone else like that again. I never put a hand on them but i dumped all my mental stuff on them and didn’t realise how much that hurt them. I really don’t want to talk to people anymore I’m so scared I’ll lose and hurt mor people without realising
I was toxic and I wasn't aware of it. I broke someone's trust, controlled things to go my way. I made lot of mistakes and lose one of my beautiful friend. 🥺 Thank you for this one. ❤️✨
Lately I have realised I have been becoming the toxic one, I victimise myself quite a bit and I always seem to always steer conversation back to me, I don't talk to people I seem to talk at people, I want to get better for the people I love, its hard and I won't give up and I hope no one else does either
Thank you for this video, Melannie. It really helped. This is definitely one I needed. A toxic habit I’ve struggled with pretty much my entire life is jealousy. It used to be more about money and material things, but nowadays it’s more about relationships, it can be hard for me to be happy for a person that has a great relationship with someone else, especially if it’s someone that I’m particularly attracted to or kinda crushing on. I have to work hard to remind myself that God’ll send me the right person at the perfect time. But it can definitely be a struggle waiting. Haha
Good for you for seeing that and being willing to improve! That is the type of thing that shows God you are improving and helps Him bring that special someone into your life. Keep up the good work 💪
I needed this video. I have realized that I'm toxic. I have literally been my own downfall every relationship (whether it is friendship or not) didn't work out because of me. I have accepted this. I'm going to try to better myself, so I can get rid of my toxic habits and behaviors. Thank you so much for the video it helps a lot❤❤
100% same. I just can't believe how I still have few friends but obviously I have used their energy so much without giving anything back that now I am guilty everytime I have to ask for their help and it's making me alone because mostly I am alone.
I lost my love interest because of my toxicity. I'm working on making myself better. Don't know if I'll ever gain her trust but I'm willing to work on my toxic behavior to change my outlook for better relationships.
Wow! Good for you for being willing to improve! That says a lot about you! You can totally do this! A good therapist can help so much. be sure to reach out to one if you think you need to. God bless 🙏
I am here because I’ve turned my partner away due to toxicity and depression. I am trying my best to be better because I am inlove with him but he is absolutely closed off to me now no communication or anything .
It took me a lot of courage to write this but I am toxic to my friends and part of me thinks I learnt that from my parents who are currently in a toxic relationship. I am such a horrible friend to the point where I question: who am I? And how is it possible that I don’t know how to be a friend? I’ve had the jealous traits of jealousy and clingyness towards my own friends. I’ve lost a lot of my friends that means a lot to me and I want to get better.
I am so very sorry! Please believe me when I say you must be a good and strong person to see that you want to make changes! You can do this! A good therapist can help SO much. I wish you all the best! God bless! 😀
I leave my boyfriend because i am so toxic to him and i know it's hard for me to change that kind of behaviour.. i know as well its hard for him to have a toxic girlfriend like me so i leave him for his good. I love him so much, but I don't want to keep hurting him. I don't deserve to be with anyone , cause i know eventually I'll end up hurting my partner more and more.. i guess i cant have anyone in my life. Right..
PLEASE don't give up! If you recognize you want to change, you can totally change! I'm sure you are doing better than you think. Please reach out to a good therapist and you will feel SOOO much better and have healthy relationships!!! I wish you the very best! God bless you! 🙏
Just realized today that i am a very toxic person. I would force my friends to do what I want and use them to my advantage. I would often lash out at other people, shut out all their opinions and listen to only mine. Earlier today, my best friends told me about my toxicity and I just feel so disgusted with myself. Ever since quarantine I had faced mild depression, anxiety, and other issues which Ive managed to overcome so those obstacles changed me into a better person but before all that I was a bully. I was very mean, homophobic, and racist but I never really realized this until later on. I'm still surprised why my "best friend" still remained my best friend even after all those things I did to her, I truly am lucky. But now I just want to start a new page and change myself to be a better person and hopefully that it will overshadow my past.
Hello, I know this is a pretty late response but I have a close friend who I know is almost exactly like this. The situation is complicated, but I really admire him and want to get closer to him despite his faults. but he is one to get bored of people easily and doesn’t really like clingy people (one being me), but he has put up with me and has actually been pretty nice. But I’m also afraid that he’ll eventually get bored and move on. Do you perhaps have any advice? Also, I hope you are doing well with working on yourself:)
I do have a toxic habit where if I lose at something or it doesn't go my way I can get mad like livid usually because in my head I think everyones laughing at me like my existence is a joke but those are normally paranoid thoughts and I only realise it after I calm down.
Please help me.. I'm losing my best friend because he said I've changed and became toxic. It's my fault he hasn't been happy for weeks and was stressed out and sad. He got fed up of it, he said it wasn't worth it. I begged him for another chance although he gave me many, but he stayed. I told him I've changed but I lied.. I just need him to stay, so I'm learning to work on myself and not be toxic. I want to become a better person for myself and for him.
@@CoachMelannie 😔he told me i need therapy cause i have depression, anger issues and he wants to help me but no. Last time one of those tried to help me made my life so much worse. I don't trust those people or anyone at all
Thank you, my friend said I was toxic, I didn't think I was. When you gave suggestions of Toxicity, it was how my Dad was, then I realized I was acting like my Father. Thank you.
This is probably the best video you've ever produced. Very insightful and enjoyed the talk immensely. It's good to hear you talking a lot about God and getting people to focus on their lives in God. Good job Melanie my friend
One thing I did not take into account is that having toxic habits is something that should be dealt with like any other habit. Starving the want to do it, and acknowledging why it is I do it on the first place. Digging deep into myself to find out why I cannot control these feelings and working towards a lasting change everyday. I also learned to acknowledge that I indeed have these habits, to remind myself why it is I am doing the work
Please, PLEASE reach out to someone for help! I promise you can feel happy and have a happy life. NEVER give up, God loves you and wants you to be happy! It is possible. Please get help ASAP!!!!
I feel like because of quarentine i have gained some toxic traits and at school i have always felt a bit out of place, now that im trying my best to fit in, I feel terrible.. I feel like I was a better person a year ago What should I do? :(
I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles. The most important thing to remember is how VERY difficult this year has been. Don't be too hard on yourself, Covid has really made things difficult. It's so good that you can see that you have some traits you want to work on. Give yourself a ton of credit for that because really toxic people never will admit it. There are a lot of really great people that can help you. I really like Daniel Amen. He's on RU-vid and Instagram. Believe in yourself! You can do this! God bless! 😀
I'm young, I oversaturate things a lot. I see myself going to my friends to vent a lot and make things about me a lot (not my intentions but still) no one has CALLED me toxic, but I think it's cause they've been blinded. I want to change for the better, be the one my friend thinks about when they are sad, they know they can go to me, I want people to know I'm there for them. I've changed so much due to depression and overthinking, I'm doing tons of research on toxicity so I can be the best version of myself, for my friends, they deserve the whole world. They don't deserve me.
I needed to hear this. Whenever I google ım toxic, all google finds how to ‘deal with them’ and that makes me feel worse. It feels like it justifies why everyone hates me, it doesn’t help me. And all ı want is to be loved buy I lost everyone. Even if I change now, people will think Im being manipulative to get love. I dont know what to do. It turns out everything about me is toxic. How am I suppose to just be a different person? Im trying to do better but ı make a mistake again and then people stay even further away from me. (I make people feel awful and try to control them. I want people to see how talented I am.)
I'm so sorry you're struggling with this. Please reach out to a good therapist. They can help you feel better quickly! You're probably doing far better than you think! God bless 🙏
i destroyed 2 best friend relationships in one day. i had known them for over 13 years. it happened two months ago. i was spiraling down everyday and i was near suicidal because of what i did. i didn’t even realize i was acting toxic. it broke me. i hate myself for what i did yo my best friends. but im thankful that i am aware of it now. i miss them everyday and it hurts..
Thank you for this! I learned so much from this video! I know what to do now. Thanks to your advice, my boyfriend and I are happily better already. There's no drama and since I am a Christian, I asked myself "Why am I doing this? I want to to be a good and loyal person.." I find the answer by finding out how it comes from. And I learned my lesson. I shouldn't act dramatic if my jealousy comes on my mind.🤗 My boyfriend is Autistic and I'm really thankful for having him. All though we have text arguments sometimes, I learned every lesson thanks to your first video I watched on repeat.🤗❤️
@@CoachMelannie You would be the girl of my dreams, through studying the Bible together, where I feel I need to be a proper Christian more, though I feel I have been a proper Christian in the past, through supporting four charities, Action Aid, Samaritans, Rethink, and Cluewin Spastics. I hope if your brothers didn't like me, but I was hopefully your dream guy, you would make sure your brothers "roughed me up" as gently as possible.
Before I was searching for a video like this, I realised. There 100s of video, on how to know if your patner friend family or anyone is Toxic. However, there were only 5 videos I could find, which talks about improvement from this behaviour
just got into one friendship fallout and realized by myself how INSANELY toxic i had become these last 3 months. i put most the roots in my anxiety, then my constant self-shaming. i'm seeking therapy
I would have saved our relationship if I realized earlier. It took losing the person I love the most to realize that and would do anything to get her back and show I've changed.
Hello, not sure if you will reply but I have been struggling with jealousy and being insecure. I’d love to make the change I’m tired of constantly having to be on edge. I’ve tried breaking the habit but it’s been so hard, it’s like my mind wins the battle everytime
The charismatic part😓 i get told I’m a very likable person because of my personality and I feel like the used it unintentionally to manipulate my wife into thinking I’m a different person than she thinks I am. I had a bad habit of lying and making her feel like her emotions were invalid by saying she was to clingy and I need space. She decided she wants to be separated and I know I deserve it and I’m aware of all my toxic traits and never got help. This is the worst pain I’ve ever felt and not prepared for how long this is going to last but I’m going to therapy to dig deep and work on being a better person. This video helped me a lot. There’s not many videos on being a toxic person, there’s more videos on leaving a toxic person. Thank you
I had the best boyfriend for 9 years and I realized that I was very very toxic to him that he finally broke down. So I ended it today because I know my tendencies too. I've been trying to change, to be a good partner but I just can't so instead of ruining his life I think it's best to end it right now.
I’m asking myself if I’m the toxic one because I have picked up on a few terrible behaviors from my mean mom. I’m not evil like her but I realized that I don’t think before I speak like her!!!
How do you change if you have had toxic parents growing up? How do I stop blaming my parents for being the way I am right now? How do I better myself because I've realised that I didn't want to be like my parents growing up only to go on and become worse than them..I feel like I've become a monster
I think the difference between toxic people and people who are toxic is people who are toxic don't want to be. Toxic people don't and won't recognize they are toxic. I have also noticed I can be toxic towards certain types of girls. The wired thing is they dont think I am toxic probably because nice people always see the good in people.
Same I think there is a big difference between some toxic people, because usually the toxic person is a narcissist and doesn’t know he is toxic or he just doesn’t care.. I knew I was being toxic towards my ex bf and I was always aware and able to self reflect but it got so bad between us to the point I was verbally abusive towards him and repeatedly said stuff to him I’m not proud of and I felt mentally negatively affected by my own toxicity..I still feel all the shame and feel like it was mostly my fault. I was struggling with changing and controlling myself but I was able to change in some forms because I knew the relationship was slowly falling apart. He still broke up tho and I realized he was not so innocent either but I knew his mental health was badly affected by our relationship so I understand his decision although I wanted to fight for this relationship and become healthy again. I’m pretty sure it has to do with my depression and inability to control my emotions.. still can’t forgive myself for my behavior.
@@droqlet I'm currently at the same place. I was toxic to my girl and she decided to not want a relationship anymore. Devastated me!! It's actually appointing me to better my life and my relationships with other people. I pray one day we can reunite yet not putting to much pressure if it does. Currently very depressed but making small changes daily. I pray all goes well
@@droqlet oh my god same! I feel you! Glad youre taking action on it, me as well. Hoping to reunite with him bc I want to make thing right and better again. Sometimes we learn it the hard way
Good for you for seeing you want to improve! You can totally turn things around! A good therapist will help so much! I wish you all the best! God bless! 😀
I am now in the process of changing bad habits into a good one, and I can feel that this will take months or could be a year, but I do believe that everything takes time, there's no need to rush the healing and changing process. What's important is learning day by day and living everyday to be a good person, being good with colleagues, respecting them and loving them without hesitation, full blast, giving my all to be a better version of me. God bless us all 💕
Thank you for posting this advice. I also appreciate your bringing God into your advice. Looking back on my childhood I feel that I was toxic towards my friends due to being competitive. I feel that it was due to low self- esteem but I don't want to make excuses for my actions. I believe my toxic habits with my friends have faded. I also feel that I have a two-way, toxic relationship with my sister. I'm somewhere between being a teenager and a young adult. I would like to build a healthy home with my sister but with her toxic habits bring a part of the issue I am unsure of what to do. Do you have any advice? Thanks again for sharing your advice as a councilor and a follower of God.
Sometimes I make fun of people in front ok of others. I point out flaws and get a kick out of everyone laughing. I grew up in a household where this was the norm. I also have lower self esteem and get a high from making witty comments. However, I know this is a toxic trait and I'm trying to stop doing it.
Honestly I don't know what I'm doing here I already got the short end of the stick from my relationshio. I hate myself because I am toxic. I already gave up long ago on changong myself. So I don't know if these ever work, are people like me ever going to get better? I never got better
Please don't give up! Yes! You can get better, in fact you can feel great! Please reach out to a good therapist and get their help! You can totally do this! God bless 🙏
I'm so sorry! A therapist can help so much with this. Another thing that really helps is to start focusing on gratitude. Looking for all that you are grateful for in the people around you and all you have, your blessings. If you tell those you care about what you like about them things will get better. God bless 🙏
@@CoachMelannie thank you so much! Yes I am trying to unlearn all these habits I've learned from my childhood. My mom is the same way, and I think I got some of my characteristics from her..
I am toxic but I am cool 😎😎 and I will never change because I can't 😭😭 so I will suffer alone in this world . i will try to stay away from everyone easy 🙏🙏🙏
I really had been struggling for my toxic traits nowadays 😞 I don't know what to do anymore. Thanks for the advice ma'am. At least, I realized now that I'm really the one who's toxic in our relationship.
I lost the only person that was good to me. The one that wanted it to work but I pushed her away :( she’s gone now. I wish I was more aware at the time and I’m working on myself but she left.. it’s all my fault. I hate myself for it.
Ive been feeling his loss of interest for a while and my friend broke the harsh reality that i was the toxic person who drained them both. Theres so many of my actions that I would change and I just hope my new change will make them want to be around me willingly again
The only way to convince anyone is by the way you act. You have to prove that you really have changed and are going to keep up your new healthy habits. Remember that you don't get to choose the consequences of your actions. If you were a toxic girlfriend he's hurt pretty badly. Often a relationship like that can't be repaired. All you can do is truly change and look for another amazing person. Best of luck!
i always get so angry whenever someone ever has any different opinions than i do, i can never see anyone else's point of view, i realize im toxic and I'm gonna try 2 fix it. my ego is too big and i needa bring it down
I am a toxic person but i want to take myself out of it. I have a habit of lying and defending myself however i know that i am wrong but i keep arguing with my boyfriend. He loved me so much n he just requested me that don’t lie to me n please be honest. Now he is walking away, he gave me many chances but i just kept giving him justifications. What should i do???
I'm so sorry! Please believe me when I say you can completely turn that around! Give yourself credit for being able to want change! A good therapist will be able to help you so much! God bless! 😀
I realized I was being a toxic friend to one of my friends. I was being possessive of this friend because before I haven’t seen them in years. A few days earlier this week they recently blocked me and cut me off. I’m trying to do better and hopefully be a better friend to someone. We have been friends for 9 years.. and now it’s all down the drain. I don’t know how to cope with it
I have become toxic like my mum and I want to change but I have been aware of it for decades and keep getting de-railed (mostly my own fault). It is so important not to just follow your feelings in this. Thank you for this video, I will keep trying.
I was never ever toxic before. Quite the opposite, I used to be a people pleaser. But lately because of some events I began to change. I even became extremely revengeful. I don't wanna be this way but I feel like I have no choice because I gotta DEFEND MYSELF. I'm never mean for no reason. It's a reaction when others try to attack me. I'm simply trying my best to survive in a world full of sharks.... :( but I realised it's taking A LOT out of my time and energy....
I am the toxic person in my friends group. I apologized to them and stopped talking to them knowing I will be always judging everyone around me. I still feel guilty and I'm trying to not be hypercritical to me and to others.
i just got out of a toxic friendship and that person really influenced me in a bad way, sometime i repeat the things they hurt me with :(. i do not want to be toxic
It's great that you can see and understand what happened. You can totally do this! A good therapist will be very helpful to you! I wish you all the best! God bless 🙏
I'm a toxic person regarding negativity brought on from abuse, to protect myself from abuse as an adult I actively search out negativity which is easy in this world, the trouble is I have made family and friends walk away from me..
He Melannie. I thought this was honestly a great video and advice I definitely need to apply more to my life. But I think you should be clear to the unbelievers who may have been watching that ultimately the promise of Romans 8:28 is for believers, not unbelievers. That God ultimately works for the good of those who love him, not those who don't. (Just cuz you wouldn't want to give anyone false hope here.
I would like to start off by telling you where my relationship status is at. The love of my life is asking for space and time I have drained her to the fullest. I didn’t realize it at first until recently. I am the toxic one I would diagnose me as toxic PTSD depression. Please help by telling me the first step with professional help. What do I ask for and where do I go? I need it fast
I don't know whether am toxic or childish,so am 19 i have no friends and i feel like this is because am too controlling and desperate to have friendships hence i end up pushing them away......,as for my relationship am always fighting with my boyfriend reason being i always get mad over nothing, always want him to give me what i want immediately,i always want to know each and every move he does am too controlling and he is getting tired of my behavior...i want to change not for my boyfriend but for myself.
Sometimes it feels rly difficult to find help as a toxic person in order to fix yourself because as soon as people make videos addressing the problem they make you feel better by either redefining what you are from “toxic person” to a “person with toxic habits” or make you feel worse by saying things like “toxic people can never change” i just find it difficult when trying to employ methods to help myself because i either praise myself for nothing and sometimes brush off things as just “habits” or end up depressed because most people seem to think i cant “change” its to the point that i think that even in writing this i feel toxic as i get people to feel bad for me and in saying this part im just manipulating more in order to come off as innocent.
Iam in ego before. I always blame other People when i have something negative happen to me. being jealous of someone successness coz i Just thougt that It happen cos of me, but why i can not success too. being arrogant sometimes, being mad when no one reply my massage, etc. But at the several time, i though that what if im the one Who made that happen, wht if they dont reply my massage cos iam the freak People, or arrogant People, and another reason Come to my mind. Im not already dealing with my self first, im not already traet me better, i cannot make some positive vibes in my life, and the big one is im not already love my self first. It makes me didn't understand about wht the purpose of my life, wht is i really needed, etc. I already done the toxic habit. Now, i would like to change that habbit. I wanna be better person. Is It True if i take some distance to people who makes me feel worst before? It cos i would like to dealing with my self and fixing my self first. I dont want to show up my toxic habit again. Would u might give ur advance? . Thankyou
My old best friend told me that i was toxic, i personally dont see it but if she says i am then im willing to try, just the worst part is she never said how i was toxic although ive asked makes it so hard to change honestly
I'm a toxic person I really want to change my beautiful relationship is about to break I really need help I need to make it up to my fiancee he truly love me
Today I've realized that I am toxic to my friends, that I get jealous whenever I hear they stories and I just felt it and at that moment I was thinking "what is wrong with me? I should be happy for them, it is not right to want the exact same thing" and I really needed this video so I just want to thank you for the help you have given
I strted the relationship for 2nd time and I realized i dont really like him Cause whenever i say i love you it doesn't feel true plus we fight over the stuppidest things .... it bad to give someone a 2nd opportunity even thought you are not really convince of want you want?
I have realized that i am such a toxic person to my partner and seriously i don't know how to get out of it i love him so much but i had irritate him alot i am making issue of nothing too much controling do this and not this always wanting attention i am just sick of myself that i am the one who is destroying this happy relationship
I am the toxic one which i have recently come to the realization. She may be wanting to stay but i feel it is better to let her go because i love her too much to let her feel that worthlessness again. I don't wanna hurt her again.
i realize that i am toxic.. and i feel very horrible about it. and it's really hurtful to see all the things said about toxic people and i don't want us to feel bad about ourselves because of it. and in my opinion, most of the people who became toxic are like that because of how much they are hurting.. and it's really sad. and im trying my best to improve and get to a good place again. thank you for this video btw, it's really helpful and reassuring :)
I am a toxic person and i admit it thats why i broke up with her it's for the better :) thats why i came to this video so that i can learn to be a better person for my future relationship
Thank you for this video. It made me feel better in a way... But I also feel like I've been trying for a long time and can't change. I have nearly every toxic trait, my mental state is on a consistent decline... I really feel like its better to not get attatched to anyone anymore. I'm just somehow not learning from my mistakes. I know I'm messing up and hurting people but I'm struggling to cope with things in a balanced manner for both their safety and my own peace of mind. I've never been good at that in any aspect of my life. I cant even commit to basic self care routines, I'm always doing the bare minimum to survive to the next day. I'm not asking for advice, but i would appreciate if you'd say a prayer for me. I just dont know what to do after years of this. Again, thank you for your video. Hearing your patience was refreshing.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Please don't be too hard on yourself! Do you think it could be that you're dealing with some depression or low self esteem? Please reach out to someone you can trust for help! God bless 🙏
I have broke up with my girlfriend only realised 2 weeks ago how toxic she was.im a 39 year old single dad to an 8 year old boy that I raised on my own since birth. Been single 7 years when my son last year was 7 I met a girl and its all went wrong.only realised 2 weeks ago by watching your video and had to break up with her to save my self and my son.really lived a nightmare with manipulation. Drama. Insults. Even physically violent. Slapped me 2 times. Never did anything around and I have to keep a full time job and still feed my son and do everything else at home. Really thank you very much for opening my eyes I feel alive again.even my son feels diffrent.your an angel.thank you
What did you mean when you said “their lives continue in the downward spiral they’re in”are you speaking to about the people who are questioned about their toxic traits meaning asking about their toxic traits,or people who aren’t questioned meaning don’t care?
I completely understand! Have you seen these videos? ru-vid.com/group/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA Feel free to email me if you have other questions. melannie@coachmelannie.com God bless!
Any other time i would have been straight thinking "why does this girls mentions god so mouch" but i´m glad today i decided to start searching for a whay to deal with my toxic self, and honestly my problems with religion is something i can keep to myself but never have done it cause i´m afraid of having a father figure that will leave again or treat me like shit... i actually like you mention god now, is good to have someone looking out for you. Thanks so mouch for this video coach melannie
