What to do When Someone's Words Hurt You 

I was once so hurt that i found it difficult to breathe because of how sore my heart felt. Be considerate with your words please ❤

They may not realize it's hurtful but it really is

allow yourself to not like some people

YOU ARE SO RIGHT"HURT"PEOPLE "HURT PEOPLE!.

I spent all morning crying and my heart was pierced with pain over a few words someone said to me, thank you for putting it in perspective. Its ok to disassociate with people that hurt you though right? Even if it is family?

sometimes people just say things on purpose to make you upset and thats what has happened to me. most times i stay silent but it really bites at me and i cant stop thinking about it

I stayed silent when people were abusive. Just saying you chose not receive it doesn't help. I believe you should stand up for yourself. Tell people it hurts and you don't want to receive it. I stayed silent for years. It does hurt.

It is better to not get pulled into their attitude, but it is hard when it's your family and they always use you as the punching bag emotionally.

You can only hurt yourself. There is no word that has power or meaning until you give it that power.

I've been struggling with this for a very long time. This method of detachment is definetely the most helpful in dealing with rude people. Great advice.

This guy that was leading me on said “I don’t want to miss out on my dream girl if I’m tied down to you” I still cry when I say it aloud tbh 😞

I as a rule don't say things to hurt others because it creates negative energy and that reverberates in the zeitgeist....it comes back. Instead I go out of my way to project positivity...hoping that it will likewise reverberate.

I started this video still shaking from being so upset... By the 7th minute, I felt so much more calm. I hope to remember your advice when the moment arises again...

You can't imagine how you helped me today. Thank you. You really helped me to heal my heart, I was feeling very hurted. I feel really better now.

Thank you for this ❤️ I had a negative experience today that has had me reeling for hours. Your video literally has lifted a weight off my chest as you spoke.

As a sales person, I have to say, I do not look to get a rise out of customers... I don't throw them bait. If anything a lot of times I feel like it can be the other way around. I love your videos and use your tips all the time. I listen to the affirmations with my headset on my way to work. It sometimes gets me through the day. Thank you for your amazing leadership. But it goes both ways!! Sometimes people get bad customer service because, frankly they're just bad customers.

Thank you for this video. It helped me put things in perspective. As someone who goes out of his way to practice kindness, it's always a shock to me when I come across negative people in business. I forget that they are unconscious and tend to blame myself for their projections.

Good teaching, it seems like when am having a certain problem,am always moved to the exact video that I need to hear. Thank you,

My brother said all hurtful words to me all the time but dr. phil once said "You need to be your own best friend" and thanks to you i'm going to empower myself

This was just the message I needed today. Thank you. I love all your videos.

Very helpful in my time right now. Thank you! I love that you point out that it takes practice and mental energy. I will try.

When my boyfriend said Bad words to me I don’t say anything bad I just go somewhere and cry alone

Omg thank you. This helps me tremendously. Being an empath and intuitive is a lot and I struggle with this often.

Words hurt but that doesn't stop people from expressing themselves and being mean. It's just life.

Thank you Bernadette I try practising this all though sometimes I have taken the bait . I will try to be more aware because I hate negativity it is too much of a drain on your energy.

Thank you so much! I needed a reminder. God bless you for sharing your gifts for the "greater good" love, love and love your videos.

Thank you so much!! Needed this so much right now. Feeling better about the situation.

Her advice is sooo spot on…So glad I found this channel.

I am SO Very grateful for you and this right now! Thank you for transcending that message so completely and beautifully. I have been dealing with a lot of negativity around me and it basically always triggers that reaction in me. I have been trying to practice Presence and being ect. By myself, but when I'm with other people it seems to all go out the window. But you made me realize that it's going to do nothing for me if I can't sustain that state in the presence of others. I am REALLY going to start working on "not taking the bait" so to speak. But I do understand that it comes from a place of pain in that person. This is going to be one of the TOUGHEST things to overcome bc my ego starts to almost scream inside of me. Lol. But thank you so much for this. It was exactly the message I needed today.

I appreciate this video .🙏🏾

Thank you I needed to hear this so much.

Happy to stumble across this, prudent video🙌😍

I've watched this more than 20 times already...I love it. Thank YOU for sharing the video.

People may say words of rejection which may be hurtful

Thank you so much darling for these great ideas.

Thank you! This was very beneficial!

I really need to understand how to manage these feelings and how to process them. But again, your words are gold. Thank you so much

So helpful....thank you, Bernadette!!

Hi JustHolly, I hope you see this message, I can't reply directly to tag you because there is no "reply" option under your message. So... start by realising that NOTHING anyone says about you or to you is a reflection of who you actually are. It is a reflection of who THEY are. Abuse, bullying, unkindess... it is not a statement of the person being abused, bullied or hurt. It is a mirror of the level of pain within the person doing it. That is not to "blame" them, but rather a chance for you to say... "This is not about me. Their words are not true as a reflection of who I am. I AM GOOD ENOUGH. I AM BEAUTIFUL. I AM DIVINE. I AM WHOLE AND COMPLETE. I AM LOVING. I AM CARING. I AM ..... (positive affirmations that truly accurately reflect the real you". And secondly, pause for a moment and realise that if someone is hurtful and bullying, those painful words only come out of their mouth because some level of pain is within them. Our outer words and actions are just an extension of our inner thoughts and feelings (this is true for all of us, including you, and including this person who was unkind). That doesn't justify their words or actions, it simply helps you to understand that as uncomfortable and painful as it is to be on the receiving end of it, it is as uncomfortable and painful for that person who is doing it. They are cycling in their own pain. They do not know (in that moment) another way to be, OR their pain and discomfort is so great in that moment that they don't CHOOSE with free will to behave in a kinder way. It is very unsettling being around unkind people, because their state of mind and energy is uncomfortable. They are uncomfortable within themselves, and that ripples out to effect everyone around them. When someone doesn't feel comfortable in their own skin, when they cannot be their natural loving selves (as it is buried deeper down below their pain and discomfort) then they might try to compensate for it, and this can lead them into trying to be a certain way or do certain things that make them feel better, that make them "fit in" (putting others down in a misguided attempt to elevate themselves in their own mind or in the eyes of peers). The key right now is to look at this situation and know that the boys behavior and your friends responses, are not reflections of you. You are just as beautiful, worthy, good enough and important as the day you were born, and nothing anyone does or says will change that. Your mind feels hurt right now, but accurate perception is that the words were unkind, they were untrue and they don't belong to you. They belong to the other person, as a reflection of their own "stuff". Watch the video again and listen carefully to each part of it. Apply it to your situation. Be calm and breathe deeply as you listen, so you can really hear the lessons available (as often the mind is so busy and upset that it makes it harder to focus and absorb the life learning available in the situation). Also, you might like to listen to affirmations on my channel (the 400+ affirmations or the 120 for self-belief and confidence). I know you are young as you mention being in school, and so I acknowledge that it is tough at times being in peer groups and situations that can be confusing and difficult to process. When hurt it helps to reach out for support with trusted people around you, like your family, close trusted friends, school guidance counsellors, or teachers even if you feel supported in that way. Warmest wishes, Bernadette

Love your energy - it is challenging not to take the bait - but it's the best option to diffuse a toxic situation and more importantly being able to walk away with your self respect

Hello THANKYOU!!! for your very sound advice.You have brought me back to self worth and inner strength again-Bill Petillo

Such an amazing video. I love the part where she says that unless and until we practice, no book or meditation or affirmation would help! So true.

I only found your channel today but it couldn't have been at a more perfect time. Thank you for sending out your positive messages of hope and how to cope. I just had my 56th birthday just yesterday but it was one of the worst days in my life. Today isn't much better but I see that it's my choice to stop hearing and feeling all this negative talk and feeling all these low vibrations. I'm going to try harder and use your suggestions. Thank you again!

Thank you, it makes a lot of sense!

Thank you so much! I needed this video today!

I really needed to hear this , thank you 🙏 So on point and completely resonates

Much gratitude out to you Holly for being in service to me and others. What I got out of this is some great tools to not take things personal. It is really a hard thing to do as I easily fall back into the victim/ego role. Throw me the worm and more often than not, I take the bait. People are so good at casting out and wanting me to bite that big juicy chaos/pain worm. I feel like Dory. Just keep swimming. Or just keep practicing. It is hard work looking at myself. I also love that you put an emphasis on practicing. I often give it a go and it doesn't neceassirly work out, like the screenplay in my head, but I do try and give myself credit for what I have worked on each day. I'm Not doing it perfectly, but striving to be better. Great information. Thanks again. Love you.

Best explanation on RU-vid! I just subscribed.

Thankyou so much! This was just what I needed to hear after a conversation with a person who was being very passive aggressive to me. I will remember going forward not to bite the hook! Thanks again

Very well explained & helpful. Thanks for sharing & keep up the exceptional work!

Thank you so incredibly much, this video was very helpful for me. I will try to carry out these concepts.

This video help me a lot! I was about to commit suicide because one of my family members said many things of me that hurt me and I just didn't knew how to deal with the pain. But thanks to this video i am more calm and trying not to receive those negative comments in my life! Stay strong everyone and God bless❤

Very enlightening! Thanks for this piece.

Perfect way to explain this! Don’t take the bait! Choose Love! Yes. It hurts sometimes but after all, it really does Eventually conquer all…

Thank you for your awesome tips!! I’m working on it at the moment!!

Thank you so much going to start practising from today! Much love from the United Kingdom. ❤

Some good insights to consider in controlling your own emotional state. I struggle with anger so this is very helpful. Thank you !

Wonderful teaching, with double benefits, thank you so much

Thank you. Keep up the good work.

Thank you for making this video. I really needed this today.

thanks so much I ran into this video... I was really looking for an answer on what to do... I have a collegue who constantly hurts my feelings through words and actions...Thank you so much for sharing this.

Thank you so much ♥️

LOVE this!!

Thank you so much that helped immensely x

This is gold! 🙏🏻

Thank you so much, this kinda helps 💗

What a wonderful video, you've helped me more than I can express, keep up the excellent work

TY Bernadette, right on! I needed to hear this :^)

Wow you are so calming and beautiful! Also great words! Thankyou

This is so helpful I was hurt by someone negative words. I feel so much better after watching this video. Thank you so much 💕

thank you so much i really needed to hear this ... much love dear ♥

Fabulous advice. I MUST LEARN

Really needed that, thank you for those insights. Going to use them for sure. 🙏

Thank you so much for this video. ☮️

This helped me today, thank you so much!

This helped me more than any other video on this subject.

Thank you so much. Used this today with my middle school social study students. We were working on giving and receiving constructive feedback and this went brilliantly hand in hand.

Nicely put thank you for the video ❤️

Feeling a little low just a while ago.this is what I needed.thank you!

Thankuu so much this was really helpful!

Wow thank you for that it was very helpful!

This is exactly what I needed, thank you 💘

Totally helpful! thank you so much!

I just can’t get those words out of my mind,but this video helps.Thank you!

I was looking for something short and productive to watch while eating my leftover thanksgiving food and this is by far one of the better and more eye opening breaks I have given myself from school while eating my dinner

Thank you so much, miss. I needed to hear this now, as I was just hurt really badly by someone I adore to the fullest. I've spent this past year adoring them, which is something I've wanted to do for the past three years (since 2012) but felt too shy to do. I'm not angry with them though. It just hurts worse if the person is someone that means a lot. Hurts more than a stranger. I've cried three times since it happened yesterday. I'm an Indigo and I always thought they were too, but I don't know after this. Thank you for the guidance, miss.

You have helped me,changed my life.Thank You!

I like listening to your voice ! They should have been teaching this information in schools around the world, a long time ago !

Thank you.

ThankYou soo much it completely changed my perception and added a lot in me 🖤

Today I went to the Oahu cemetery with my sister to visit her friend's grave. The graveyard closes at 6 p.m. and we were few minutes away from our car and the gatekeeper and Overseer of the graveyard yelled at me, telling me to hurry up! When obviously they saw us rushing to our car. I felt they were rude. Visiting a friend who is deceased is a sensitive time. I really didn't appreciate that. The Overseer of the Graveyard acts like she owns the place.

Thankssssssss very much . Keep motivating i got my answer

Thank you so much for recommending this video..... Iam feeling peace after watching this 😊💓

Thank you . Love your videos

no one can give offense. you can only take it.

Mom say me such things that make me breathless, it sores my heart sm

thank you for sharing

You help me & giving me hope some times i can’t sleep thinking about the hurtful words that being said to me for no reason . Thank you

"B"....love your videos! Thank you for all the free advice! Your videos are spectacular!