What Triggers Mood swings in Borderline Personality

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Today’s video answers the question: what triggers the mood swings that you can see and borderline personality disorder?
One of the features of borderline personality disorder that make it look like bipolar disorder is having wide mood swings. I compared borderline personality disorder to bipolar disorder in this video.
But this gist of it is, with borderline personality disorder, you get quick shifts in mood that can last hours or even a day. Whereas with bipolar disorder, you get shifts in mood states that last for a minimum of four days for hypomania and two weeks for depression.
With borderline personality disorder, the shifts in personality are triggered by something, it just may not obvious what the trigger is at the time.
Here are some of things that can trigger your mood shifts:
Relationship problems
Feeling empty
Dissociative symptoms
Memories of trauma
Therapy is something that can help you make these connections so that you don't have to be as overwhelmed by the emotions that seem like they're coming out of nowhere. If you start by understanding that the intense emotions come from somewhere, then you can learn to accept the emotions, process them and let them pass without them overwhelming you. In dialectical behavior therapy you learn to do this with lessons on distress tolerance and emotion regulation.
There are a lot of strategies that are taught in dialectical behavior therapy. Take a look at this video I did on managing negative emotions. Thanks for watching. See you next time.
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@vickythecat1741 4 года назад

I hate how one word, one scent, one noise, one second of any memory can bring me back to that rollercoaster. It is so tiring, so exhausting. I wish people had more understanding of the horrific effect of constant mood swings and how easily they can triggered. I don't have a life - no friends, no relationships, no intimacy, no job (also due to physical disability), no hobbies outside of home, no social media - because I'm constantly afraid of triggering a bad emotion. If it weren't for animals, I don't see the point of living like this.

@lauragadille3384 4 года назад

I totally agree

@bertzerker747 4 года назад

It might be a matter of desensitising before functionally recouperating. With dialectic therapy. If the term is spelt right, I think alot more therapists will develop to accommodated these needs. 🙏

@No_Show94 4 года назад

I understand 😩🙏🏽

@angelabarrera24 4 года назад

I understand how you feel. I have borderline and bipolar with a couple of more things on top. It's exhausting trying to keep everything balanced.

@mosely25 4 года назад

God i felt all of this

@sgillman16 4 года назад

This disorder ruined every relation in my teenage years and early 20s

@faith119 4 года назад

Omg same I literally have 0 friends at this point and am 21

@j.e.m8506 4 года назад

Same I'm 28 now and also have no friends what so ever

@tessakrumpeltree9563 3 года назад

OMG. I’m 71, I have ruined my whole life and I want it over ASAP.

@alexisross4442 3 года назад

Same 23 :/

@imeim8015 3 года назад

Same💔

@dreamingofnaomi 3 года назад

Rage is definitely one of the symptoms that are so unpleasant about suffering from BPD. I'm angry and irritable all the time. And rage episodes seem to be triggered by the smallest things. It's painful for those around me and painful for me to be that person losing control on others.

@shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад

@@jessglam To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@drinkmorewater5341 2 года назад

@@jessglam hello I'm not the original commenter but I also have BPD & struggle with anger outbursts. Sometimes it's triggered by just a slightly off tone from other people, or it can be triggered when an unpleasant memory pops out of nowhere & upsets my day like Dr Marks pointed out, & it makes me angry & on edge with everyone for the next hour or 2. I am learning to manage my anger because I don't want to hurt the people around me, & I want to be in control of my emotions so that I'll have more mental peace.

@lillygustin7322 2 года назад

yea i feel bad , i’m not even sure if i actually have bpd but there’s some days where it’s like everything pisses me off for no reason and it just sucks bc my family obviosuly is affected by it but idk how to explain to them why i’m like that

@rezolution4340 Год назад

How soon after the rage do you realize what you just did and try to make ammends, Naomi?

@thejordanchronicles6715 Год назад

@@jessglam I’d say my biggest BPD trigger is someone speaking to me with a tone that seems ‘off’ from how they normally are (even though it could be nothing to do with me- but it makes me on high alert and REALLY triggers me)- the irony is I’ll then lose my cool and get MUCH more irate than I perceived THEM to be in the first place! Sorry I know I’m not the person who posted the comment but hopes this helps- I also cannot deal with criticism unless delivered in a very sensitive way as I feel I’m ‘useless’ otherwise 💚

@Tiredbutmighty 2 года назад

When I feel empty, it is literally like a deep bottomless pit. Its genuinely the most emotionally painful thing I deal with

@pedridemperi9872 Год назад

Go into the emptiness or the void and realise it is the base line of life energy. The emptiness is you and you can observe your human form a lot better. Do not see empty as bad. It is the place of eternal bliss.

@snoox27 7 месяцев назад

Feeling dead inside is how I describe it

@orenthabigg5973 8 дней назад

i feel u. i used to smoke weed until i passed out to cope. now i try working out and journaling. hope these things will be of use to u as well

@aksbs3700 3 года назад

2:00 the really painfull things is when your paranoia end up being true :) and realize you really got no one

@jenynz5334 3 года назад

I always imagine the worst in case it's true. When it's not, hubby says I'm too negative and paranoid. When it is, we fight because he doesn't want to admit I'm right. 😔🥺🙄

@vivianolah1966 3 года назад

ouch. hurts so bad.

@lovea1717 3 года назад

So true

@shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад

@@jenynz5334 Reduce negative thoughts with a strong determination. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. No deep inhalation-exhalation or breath counting needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@zhei4007 2 года назад

reality is your paranoia isnt right at first. by acting on your paranoia you create that situation yourself.

@NeighborhoodFatty 3 года назад

Here I am crying now because this is me and this isn’t what I wanted

@healand8866 3 года назад

Same

@mlivelostmcs 3 года назад

😥😞

@chelseagirl278 3 года назад

Hugs

@helena1151 3 года назад

Here, I’m not crying because this sounds like 100% me and of knowing that will help me deal with things better then it’s a good thing

@NeighborhoodFatty 3 года назад

@@helena1151 just a gentle reminder that because you do something doesn’t mean everyone else can do the same. I wrote that 8 months ago, even with meds and therapy I still struggle.

@alf8569 4 года назад

I have borderline traits and from years of therapy and getting older with more life experience I have been a lot better. To anyone suffering just know that it can & does get better. The mind can be so powerful and when you start healing you realize the lies that your mind has been feeding you all along.

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

You are so right Alf! Thanks for sharing this. It’s an encouragement for others. 😊👍🏽

@AyeshaKhan-sn1ds 3 года назад

Thank you for sharing this ALF, gives me hope!

@jazminemccoy7991 3 года назад

When does it get better 🙁😞

@muthaluva 2 года назад

@@jazminemccoy7991 I know . I just spent an hour in jail cause of an episode. 🤯😑😔😓

@ginasalinas7892 2 года назад

This is exactly what I'm coming to realize right now. I've been misdiagnosed with bipolar and treated to no avail. I was diagnosed 36 years ago and only now have the way my life is gone has proven that and borderline is the main aggregator in my life. I started looking inside for the basis of my anger. I've been to prison twice I've seriously hurt family members. But I'm starting to get better it feels like for the first time. I love you just because we're going through the same things. And thank you for going through them first so I could get this piece of advice from you

@potterlover96 Год назад

Disappointment is definitely one of my biggest triggers, mainly linked with the rejection sensitivity. If I've made plans with someone and they've had to cancel for very legitimate reasons (illness, emergencies etc) even though I know they didn't have a choice but to cancel, the disappointment really gets to me and I often start spiraling because of it :/

@BigTroubleD Год назад

This is so relatable. This only really happens with my FP but often I was looking forward to it so damn much. And the disappointment and rejection just hurts so bad.

@adrose1588 Год назад

✋🏼 disappointments & trust issues triggers me.. so tiring . Gets bored & mad, raging randomly, coping with it, restraining the mood swings, are very tiring..

@minkorrh 8 месяцев назад

Get help. It's not society's or your SO's problem to deal with.

@littlemissgroove 5 месяцев назад

God me too. It's torture

@Lidia.Bella.Italiana 4 года назад

I tell people it's not out of no where. That all the switches of moods comes from my emotions and that something happens to me for them to change so fast. No one gets it at all. It's so difficult being so severely emotionally liable. I cry a lot, am scared, panic and am angry/hurt a lot.... Since I was a kid and I'm 36 now.

@tessakrumpeltree9563 3 года назад

DO YOU CRY WHEN YOU DONT WANT TO. Crying is a huge problem of mine now (I’m elderly) and in my environment, I get scolded, punished, and berated for crying, guaranteeing complete abandonment. Any other criers? It didn’t used to happen, but now I’m in a nursing Home ruled over by people who do not believe mental illness is illness and they go out of their way to abandon, neglect, isolate, ignore, HURT me. I have no family and now no home to go to. I’m stuck here getting worse with wrong meds, wrong treatment, all my money taken by this establishment.....no hope. I got Covid but unfortunately got over it.

@tessakrumpeltree9563 3 года назад

So sorry. Try to change it while you’re young enough to do it.

@magicalindigoadult3838 3 года назад

Me to Im 36 I think this is normal because when someone says something to hurt me it’s logical to get angry.

@belindabrewer5271 3 года назад

Hey it’s not just you , many of us feel the same way ! I am 61 & BPD diagnosed as a 9 yr old with ADD & then at 24 diagnosed as Bi Polar & put on very strong meds & then one day I started crying & did so for a week before my husband put me in a mental hospital & I was diagnosed as BPD .... life sucks & no matter how many times I am managing my BPD well something will trigger my BPD causing me to loose ground & I’ve learned be trial& much error to educate myself on how BPD effects my life , I’ve learned many of my triggers & I’ve learned to keep trying each day can be a new start over ... for myself I’ve noticed if I can find why I’m being triggered I can avoid the situation or I can confront it with help from my husband ! That man deserves a huge Medal because after 38yrs he is still hanging on & with help I’ve learned you can survive BPD & have a good life ! Just never give up fighting to control it all !!

@sweetascandyxoxo 3 года назад

Ask for seroquel but not higher than 200mg. 150mg seems to be the sweet spot for myself. Without it it is just devastating and soooo debilitating

@LpsKittyPower 3 года назад

I wish my family didn't automatically forget i have BPD once I have an episode, I feel trapped in this triggering loop, no support, nothing.

@drinkmorewater5341 2 года назад

The lunch example resonated with me so much because it's so easy for me to go from being fine one minute to feeling alone & unloved the next, but I'm glad you pointed out that it's just distorted thinking. I need that reminder sometimes to not believe everything my BPD makes me think.

@BigTroubleD Год назад

It’s hard though sometimes, because I feel like I’m constantly gaslighting myself. Especially in relationships, like why will my partner do all this with and for other people but I can’t ask him to do the same for me?

@bionicle9336 4 года назад

As someone who was recently diagnosed with BPD just this year, it's helped me connect the dots. I struggle with EXTREME thought transitions all the time, and i truly needed someone to sit down and explain to me why I think this way. I feel like this explanation really hits home for me, as I'll go from really happy, content and proud-- to all of a sudden ravenous, spiteful and enraged... People tell me it can be controlled when I simply cannot do so. I'll look more into Dialectical Behavior Therapy for my own sake and mental health. Thanks Dr. M!

@tessakrumpeltree9563 3 года назад

Good luck friend. I should have done the same 50 years ago.take your best shot. A life is a terrible thing to waste.

@SavingWithTee 2 года назад

@@tessakrumpeltree9563 never too late, thank you for sharing 🖤

@JeremyRemele Год назад

Go get your hormones checked, trace and macro minerals, and pickup a hardcore, incredibly strenuous exercise training program to force your brain to go. Your BPD is all in your head MOST likely due to an underlying problem with your physiology stemming from negative lifestyle factors

@sunrae1337 11 месяцев назад

I was diagnosed this year at 42 and wow do I feel like a light bulb went off. Good luck! I’m in my cbt and Dbt now too.

@verobutterfly3029 6 месяцев назад

Good luck. Dialectical therapy did not help me but living with a friend or shared house Airbnb etc is the only help for me. I don’t like living on my own I need company

@morgannights76 3 года назад

Whenever I’m talking to people and they yawn, instantly I’m frantically trying to regain their attention before they dub me as boring and leave my life. I hate the instability of being alive

@katkatkatkat463 3 года назад

Thanks for talking about what people with BPD go through without demonising them. Great explanation.

@lopezlily365 3 года назад

Yes. Sometimes even in relationships we feel so intense in one, people think like we’re “too much” . And the ex can say I was this and that but don’t realize it’s hard with bpd.

@eleanorabibby 4 года назад

Thank you so much for making a video about BPD without resorting to "borderlines are so angry and dangerous - they scream/hurt people/say cruel things/etc!" It's so refreshing for someone in the psychiatric field to see us as people and not monsters.

@Ebthehousesitter 4 года назад

This has helped so much. My sister has BPD and for the longest time we didnt know what was going on. The mood swings were terrible and made me want to completely detach. Now that we know and she knows, it makes her easier to understand. She tries to manage it now and I am more compassionate of her situation.

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

Oh that’s great to hear Danni. it makes a huge difference just knowing what’s going on and then being able to recognize the triggers so she can better prepare for them.

@stephie8978 Год назад

My sister also has BPD. Everyone in the family acknowledges this except her. We all walk on eggshells, but her attention seeking outbursts and paranoid rages remain. It has gotten significantly worse through the years (we are now in our 50's). We don't want to cut her out of our family. Our parents are in their 80's and just want "everyone to get along." They cater to her due to their fear of her wrath. We have all analyzed our own words and behavior to ascertain what sets her off, but she just goes off on us and complains about her life and believes we all hate her. This is also affecting our children (she has 2; I have 1). They are young adults now. They are routinely hurt by her bizarre accusations and confrontations. My son can be quite diplomatic and doesn't let it get to him. However, her children are manipulated and miserable around her but don't confront her either. We have all tried limit setting with her, but that just makes it worse. Cutting her out of our lives is not an option, as the rest of the family is quite close. Would love to send her this video or a book, but I value my life.

@TamagoEgg 8 месяцев назад

@@stephie8978Acknowledging that she has BPD is a very scary step because it makes her believes that she is broken and not everyone else. However, both side of the party has the responsibility to act maturely and not resulting into cutting off contact. One's action will trigger the other person's response and we do not want that. It is advisable that you shall also learn not to avoid conflict or problems because you feel insecure to this situation(which you too have to work on yourself). Take it as an extreme case of anxious attachment style, set your boundary(not rigid/harsh), understand where she's coming from and guide her to therapy. Once she feels safe, she will work on herself. Triggering her even more just makes it worse. We all should learn open communication and not avoiding negativity rather than expecting someone else to change which we cannot take control of.

@Lola_Nico 6 месяцев назад

I am a older sister to a younger sister. I have BPD and I know it is hard to have us as sisters. But thanks you for gaining compassion for your sister. We really appreciate the effort our loved ones put in.💖

@jessiszk4676 4 года назад

I unexpectedly got overly emotional and choked up when you were giving the restaurant example. That example was perfect because thats is EXACTLY what I think when stuff like that happens. It’s like, why am I not worthy enough to be able to have a fun time with someone I thought was my friend. Are they embarrassed to be seen with me? Am I just a secret friend that they don’t want anyone else to know about? Why can’t I be invited to anything? And so on...and I get extremely angry and obsess about why the hell am I not worth it but other people are? Where did I go wrong? What’s wrong with me? Am I too ugly to be seen with someone? Why are they ashamed of me? Etc. I have a very hard time not obsessing about those thoughts. So, ya that example about the restaurant reaction was spot on.

@taylorbew1854 4 года назад

I'm the same. This last holiday was terrible because it's impossible to escape with everyone out and about. As the country reopens, it's been coming back in full force and I feel like I'm going to spiral down a hole

@jessiszk4676 4 года назад

Taylor Bew I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. I felt ashamed last night that I relapsed (thats what i call it when i have an out of control episode and take it out on myself physically) but I was proud i fought it for as long as i did. I spent over an hour telling myself to calm down. Breath. You may be reading into this wrong. And other positive things to myself. But then I couldn’t stay strong anymore and i felt ashamed that i gave into it. But as I said I am extremely proud of myself to have been able to catch myself in time and hesitate and even say anything positive to myself for even an hour. I don’t have any advice obviously, but I can at least say that even something as small as not losing your shit for even just a minute. Not acting out and reacting instantly, but even just a small pause before you react...is SUCH and AMAZING feeling! And to feel genuinely proud of yourself for something as what other people may consider small or insignificant...is indescribable but in a great way. It may not happen twice in a row but at least there can be a little bit of proof for yourself that BPD doesn’t control who you are completely. Hope that made sense. And I shared that knowing that even that is easier said than done. And the fact that you and I are still here, being able to leave a comment on a youtube video...and not in a psych ward, hospital, or 6ft underground ...says something too and we should be proud of ourselves for even that too! Sorry I just made the realization as I was finishing up this long comment! 🥰

@simev500 3 года назад

(2:16) “…imagining everybody else having someone to ask them but one one asking you…” Yes. Those imperceptible triggers that emerge out of nowhere can be pretty unnerving. It’s paradoxical that one afflicted with BPD needs others to feel less isolated yet interacting with others bring about unwanted self sabotaging and disorientating thoughts. Is FOMO an emotional projection accompanying the Abandonment anxiety?

@Tanya-ez3vn 2 года назад

I got diagnosed with Quiet BPD and my psychologist told me that because my BPD is ‘quiet’, I tend to act inwards than act out. It would be a great help if you could make a video about how Quiet BPD differs from other types of BPD. 🖤

@helenagackowska8398 6 месяцев назад

Me too!

@brandonpetersen5710 5 месяцев назад

Same here. Quiet BPD is arguably even more difficult to deal with because one of the "strengths" of quiet BPD is knowing exactly how to present,behave and respond so that you fit in, don't stir the waters up & keep relationships and meet work commitments. But underneath all of that supposed "high functioning" there is a terrified child role playing an adult, but not actually emotionally mature or even feeling like one. It's nuts. Sometimes I just want to say to people "I'm still basically a kid" but then that would be weird as fuck because I'm nearly 30.

@libertychannel6620 3 года назад

This example with restaurant is my whole life!I hate when people say about having a great time with another friend because I quickly remember my mother’s worlds “nobody wants to be with you” so I have different negative thoughts and see it as abandonment .I cried a lot but this video is very helpful thanks

@Brizzle-xy4dh 3 года назад

The first example you gave, I go through quite often..what if the thoughts that no one invites you and you’re always the forgotten friend, really are true? What if in reality, you DON’T ever get invited to take trips or go out to eat, or go out in general, etc? What if you always find out AFTER the fact that some get together happened, and when you mention that it would’ve been nice to have been invited, you’re told “you know you’re always welcome!” -_-

@marijawisocav 3 года назад

i wonder the same thing, what if they actually don't want me? what I'm right ? 😭

@katadam2186 9 месяцев назад

Ask someone out and make it fun

@BroAshley 4 года назад

Having a panic disorder last night and then waking up to this is like the definition of perfect timing.

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

Oh great broAshley. Glad it was helpful for you.

@nini.purple 4 года назад

You mean *attack* ?

@maje4120 4 года назад

@@DrTraceyMarks This question isnt really related... I have BPD however i get a little confused about the expression of anger/rage with BPD. I dont hardly ever lash out loud. All my anger stays inside, i may grunt & groan but not much out. Unless some of my behaviors im not seeing is actually anger instead. Could you possibly talk about how anger in BPD can be shown unconsciously please and thank you!?

@deonsimms1862 3 года назад

I have BP disorder and I was feeling empty

@shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад

@@nini.purple To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@oshifish2 4 года назад

Thank you for posting this topic. I was so happy last night cooking spaghetti with my husband, the sun was out and we had a lovely day together, Out of the blue I was stirring it and flashed back to my very abusive ex that would say I was "stirring it wrong" then it went to where he would debase me saying I did nothing right and many times it got more violent. I had to wipe the tears away and fought soooooo hard to get me centered again as not to ruin my perfect day with my now amazing husband. It is so so hard to find those triggers but when you do, fight them with all you can! xx

@blahblahblah8427 3 года назад

One really important thing I learned while in therapy was that every symptom has some sort of trigger. It doesn't just come out of nowhere as it seems. Identifying and understanding your triggers helps to manage your symptoms better in the long-run 😊

@shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад

Drunkcherries, To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@annaturquoise7114 8 месяцев назад

it’s important so socially contextualize yourself

@jinjin5804 4 года назад

I value these videos so much. I have BPD and this one just nailed my experiences. I grow and learn with you. THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR WORK!

@Mandalynn_Bay 7 месяцев назад

I have learned how to make myself as small as humanly possible. I seriously don’t want to be here any more. I am miserable trying to control myself and my behaviors not know why or how to correct it. My therapist is only talk therapy.

@Bookjunkie407 4 года назад

I have been diagnosed with BPD I hate when I watch movies and they make me emotional if something bad happens to like a character in the movies I burst into tears like I am them and I can't stop it. It's awful and embarrassing. Also for example in my relationship if I am having trouble that day my partner is mad at me and I can't control my thoughts or emotions for me if I get stressed and worked up I can start feeling itchy and see bugs. I have to keep my stress and anxiety down or take my aniexty medication.

@yoshitamaurya5623 3 года назад

I have been diagonosed with BPD and after taking medicine I haven't had any mood swings, why?

@MsAliensex 3 года назад

@@yoshitamaurya5623 you might have bipolar.

@mizery3331 3 года назад

See bugs?

@nicburke2031 4 года назад

BPD people don't give up on yourself! Therapy works well and you can be completed cured.

@tessakrumpeltree9563 3 года назад

Cured? Even a smidgeon of relief wold be welcome. But it’s too late now. I’m 71, broke, and in a nursing home that won’t allow psych treatment or meds.

@mariewilliams6631 3 года назад

@@tessakrumpeltree9563 there are loads of videos on RU-vid about dbt or cbt or stress management.

@tessakrumpeltree9563 3 года назад

Pretty sure the world gave up on me first. If I had money or family or a psychiatrist or psychologist or a home or a future. But I don’t and I dread Christmas Alone. Wish I could wake up in May.

@mzjoeykins 3 года назад

@@tessakrumpeltree9563 I hope you can find someone in the nursing home to talk to. Or possibly mend a relationship with a family member, family can often be forgiving and understanding when we reach out. Sending virtual hugs.

@Mooses98702 3 года назад

Thank you

@whimsicallymad7580 3 года назад

I wish more people could watch this video and understand that we folks with BPD don’t want to have these mood swings and we don’t want to “over react”, we just feel everything so intensely, and instead people label us crazy.

@alverict 4 года назад

Thank you, doctor!! Keep doing what you're doing please! ❤

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

I certainly will. Thank you 😊

@user-oh4zi3rr2i 4 года назад

Not to the theme, but I like your avatar!

@louiserecovery 3 года назад

@@DrTraceyMarks hey I was wondering if you could make a video on "quiet borderline" I have bpd and was wondering what the difference is between quit bpd and just regular bpd and if quiet bpd is a real thing? thanks!

@blacklightboy3671 3 года назад

Hi 👋

@alverict 3 года назад

@@blacklightboy3671 Hello!

@PickledPixiePie Год назад

In my personal experience, jumping to conclusions mostly: percieved threat, rejection, etc. It's like a mental/social "sacrifice the limb to safe the body", or in this case, the mental state. Trying to pre-empt things being judged or feeling left out like you're being bullied, when you aren't. My friends had to come to my house and DRAG me out of the house as a teen, but I always felt better after I reluctantly let them take me to hang out~

@MrJames1994UK 3 года назад

I was recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, with the help of videos like this one. Thank you for shedding light on BDP.

@linnyxmaria 3 года назад

I have been in psychotherapy for 5 years and I have improved a lot since then. Once you become aware of your thoughts and triggers you can take more control of it. Sadly for me, it doesn’t go away completely and sometimes the emotions caused by triggers are so heavy that eventhough I know it’s not appropriate for the situation, I can’t stop my mind from the negative spiral. My career is doing really well but I still feel lonely and still don’t have many friends. I am still scared for rejection and disappointment and also scared I will hurt anyone in a way. It’s not easy but at least therapy, my strength and determination have saved me from attempting suicide. I still think about it weekly but am more open about it to people who are close to me. Thank you for educating people about BPD. I hope people without BPD will see us as humans just like them who just struggle mentally on a daily basis because of childhood traumas. We long for the things just as every human being: happiness, safety and companionship.

@bapinzz 3 года назад

I have major depression and I recently decided to go to a new mental health center after the previous one ( who I only had one session with when they diagnosed me with major depression and prescribed me medicine) I didn’t trust them after this and stopped seeing anyone for a while because I felt no one really wanted to help me. So a few months go by and here we are at this new mental health place , they did the same thing , after one session. Excused any psychotic illnesses and just told me it was major depression. I know I have depression and have been struggling for years but I’ve always felt there was something more . I’ve always felt different. Different from everyone else . And this is why . I strongly believe I have borderline personality disorder because I’ve pieced everything together, what triggers me , everything . And how it’s so hard to explain my emotions.. it makes me so overwhelmed it makes me explode like no one understands. I feel I’m going crazy . I always get these outbursts of rage and I can’t handle them I can’t control them . I stay mad for so long and when I’m mad I get sad and mad I start to hate myself I start feeling empty and meaningless I feel like life is meaningless but sometimes I feel the opposite, sometimes I love my life and I see everything good and I start to think positive but all that changes by an inconvenience of a traumatic memory, relationship problems with my dad , and boyfriend, I start feeling hopeless and empty again . And I just don’t know what to do . Where to go to get help where to go where someone will believe me . I feel like no one will believe me so I don’t try to find a psychologist, I’m scared to go back to my newest psychologist because I didn’t take the depression meds she gave me because I read that this type can be dangerous for those with bpd, and I’m scared to tell them I didn’t take it because of that reason , because I’ll just feel stupid . I don’t know what to do 😓😓😓 my life is going down the drain and I feel like I can’t make good choices or any choice for myself I’m just so clueless in the world

@charlottewilliams9949 Год назад

I was laughing so much when she was re enacting a person with bpd's thoughts after that phone call so relatable! Not as funny when it's in my own head...but now I understand how hilarious it is I think like that !!! Thank you again for an eye opening video.

@runawayghost 3 месяца назад

this disorder sucks but it’s also comforting seeing the amount of people I relate with. It does make me feel better knowing I’m not alone in feeling this way.

@beatznatwor 4 года назад

When you started talking about the abandonment and rejection aspects I think it really helped clear things up for me. Love your content! Thank you for all that you do 🙏🏻

@sarahnahinudicks 4 года назад

I feel like I have had BPD all my life, I have always had mood swings. I was finally diagnosed by a psychiatrist last month. I can identify some of the triggers but I recently had a panic attack, I wasn’t thinking about anything just cutting strawberries for a dessert. Came out of nowhere, two fingers on my right hand started shaking violently. I was horrified and thought I had to put rushed to the hospital. Glad my boyfriend was able to help me through it. BPD can be so scary 🥺

@moncheri2300 4 года назад

Tracey I hope you know you're amazing. I've been watching your videos for about a year now and you've helped me understand my BPD so much more than any therapist ever has, thank you for continuously putting these videos out!

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

Awesome I’m so glad they’ve been helpful for you and thanks for continuing to watch all this time. 😊

@melinadistrict9428 3 года назад

I completely agree that the trigger comes from somewhere! I'm very self aware that all my triggers come from something that is going on or happened or I think will happen due to events in my current life! I just overreact! It is normal to sometimes worry abt your relationships w/ others, but what isn't is getting angry at that person due to assumptions made up in my head triggered by words or actions!

@carleighmiller542 3 года назад

This describes me almost to a T! I’ve been to so many psychologists and they have never mentioned BPD, I’m always labeled with anxiety and depression. But this is exactly how my emotions work!! Thank you for helping me not feel so alone!

@imchef17 3 года назад

You wouldn't believe the amount of times I come back to this video to help myself get regulated again. I love your no nonsense, straight shooting way you describe what is going. For the millionth time, thank you.

@parisadr5142 4 года назад

Omg thank you so much for answering😍 I can say all of them was so relatable and helpful. Not many Doctors do what you do and we really appreciate it.❤

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

Oh you’re welcome Parissa. Thanks so much for the question and I’m glad you were watching. I meant to reply to one of your earlier comments and let you know it was coming but I forgot. So thanks for still being around.

@parisadr5142 4 года назад

@@DrTraceyMarks you are so sweet. i always follow your amazing channel and videos

@brushstroke7190 3 года назад

Excellent video. Clear and to the point. No pandering, no fluff, no tangents. Only quick references to supplemental/relative content. Didn’t lose my patience at all while listening. Much, much better than others’ content. Thank you 🙏

@eggnbaconnn4919 4 года назад

I was diagnosed with bpd at 20-21 but all my life since the age of 6 I was diagnosed with adhd my moods are absolutely crazy hypo sad angry...I’m 26 next month I’m still trying to figure who I am as a person :(

@AlissaZ 3 года назад

❤️💜💙 you will find yourself eventually

@ray-de-yolisten9934 Год назад

This is a lot more complex than most people may think when they hear the term borderline personality disorder. This is definitely something we all should have learned about in elementary school or middle school.

@EvanBateman1 3 месяца назад

I definitely think that the basics of psychological disorders should have been discussed in schools. Learning about how people with depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd and anything else feel in day to day life could really make it better and less judged for people struggling, as people growing up will learn that we are all human despite having different struggles.

@yuriko189 4 года назад

I made sure to watch the ads in their entirety so you can make your money. You are doing a good work doctor. We appreciate and love you ♥️

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

Oh Thank you so much yuriko. I appreciate hearing that.

@yuriko189 4 года назад

@@DrTraceyMarks my real name is actually Tricia Bobb and I'm from Trinidad and Tobago. I have Bipolar Disorder Type 2 and your videos really help me. Thank you :)

@todalio9238 3 года назад

I'm finally meeting a psychiatrist in the weeks to come after 5 years of being concerned about myself. Thanks a lot for the description Dr! It made things a lot more clear than the basic vanilla-website list of symptoms most google search will send you to. Substance abuse has blinded me but I'm finally able to take a bit of distance with myself to see when and where things went bad. I'm not looking for any excuses, but knowing if my mind is ok or not will relieve me of a huge burden.

@genevievebelanger5067 2 года назад

I relate soooo much right here!! I did the DBT 2 years ago and it helped me a lot, even though I feel like I just went through the tip of the iceberg and I would need wayyyy more sessions to be fully healed from the disorder. I am still very easily triggered when I'm not being listened to when speaking or being cut short, when someone tells me I made a mistake when I am already aware and ashamed of it, which makes me prefer to stay alone and do everything by myself. I luckily have enough good friends who knows I will disappear for some time once in a while and not give any news or ask for some because I just need to be by myself, while in the meantime feeling like shit because I am not bonding with anyone while everyone else does. Yup, complicated!

@kieran867 4 месяца назад

Watching this through a mood swing calmed me down. I haven't been officially diagnosed, but I'm about 90% sure I have BPD. The signs are all there. I currently don't have the resources to get diagnosed and even though I know that knowing whether or not I have this disorder would help me out in the long wrong I'm scared of being ridiculed, looked down upon, or thought of as dramatic; it's happened before by psychiatrists, friends, family. My mood swings are sometimes excruciating, seeming to last for hours, when it's only been 30 minutes. I can't tell if I want to punch something, cry, or hurt. Thank you for the video.

@remaininganonymous4129 3 года назад

Hi Tracey, your videos are really helping me. Thank you so much for taking the time to make them. I like that the videos are short and to the point. I have BPD, it's truly exhausting, I'm 28. I have finally started being able to recognise when I am over thinking and losing control and able to focus on my breathing or use a distraction technique. Your videos have helped a great deal, thanks again x I forgot to add that I've found telling myself that I'm just experiencing emotions, I'm a believer that constant distraction from emotions isn't necessarily a good thing. I'd rather accept my emotions, telling myself it's just how I feel right now helps. The coping strategies for bpd are fantastic. However the part of bpd I find hard is the relationship aspect. I can go from love to hate in a heartbeat, it's quite scary. Bpd really is a terrible illness, I often ask myself will I ever have a relationship that doesn't cause me so much distress. I find it so hard to trust people.

@Patchlamb 11 дней назад

I have a lot of tools I use to keep my emotional dysregulation and mood swings from affecting my relationships- but internally it is still very painful. I made a new friend I really liked online, and I love hanging out with them, but one day they said "my other friend is going to join." I can tolerate this, most of the time, even when I dislike them giving strangers more attention (or- I mean they're strangers to me). But when their friend joined and made jokes and they were laughing, I just suddenly got so upset, spiraling about how that friend is probably funnier and more fun to be around than I am, and how they probably want to be with them more than me. I got kinda down, and eventually said I was tired and had to log off. I thought about that interaction over and over for hours after that, luckily my wife is a wonderful voice of reason for helping me deal with what I know are just irrational hurt feelings. In reality, such sensitivity is there because you really really just want your friend to stay, to not leave, to get closer to you, to like you. If I let my volatile feelings drive them away that defeats the whole purpose, doesn't it? I want to keep them, so I have to control myself, and let only those I fully trust with my mood swings and irrational fears know how I'm feeling, so I can sooth myself. Eventually, those mood swings subside, putting me back at baseline again, and I can go on being their friend just as I like it. Annoyingly, here I am, still very obviously remembering and thinking about an interaction that really had no negative impact on my relationship with that friend. We are still friends, and they don't know how internally sensitive I am. And I intend to keep it that way!! Knowing your triggers and how to handle them as softly as possible is such an important skill to hone.

@markdrost8458 4 года назад

my past has me interested in forms of dissociative ordeals, I have probably more the one in which the world about you pulls away and feels increasingly foreign, sounds like you're being closed off from contact, but the episodes that impart you with those types of senses, I mean mostly involvements with post-trauma, also would make you given to an outlet that would be ultimately sensitizing, PTS can have the effect of opening your heart

@hellos4540 Год назад

I have a friend who was recently diagnosed with bpd, so watching these videos are a great help to understanding how it works and how I can properly support my friend. Thankyou it’s very insightful ❤

@Mrs.Banerji 4 года назад

Is Meladaptive Daydreaming a mental disorder? Completely off topic but if you ever have time and resources to shed some light on it please do. I came across this term recently and I think it ruined my life mixed with IED. Doctors say mood disorder and clinical depression but it just doesn't add up. I'm 31 and really exhausted of this feeling.

@Tawroset Год назад

Same here. I only heard about Maladaptive Daydreaming a week or two ago but I've been doing it for most of my life, I just never knew it had a name.

@yObabeSitSmE 4 года назад

Thanks so much for this channel. Because of doctors like you, there is people like me who dare to speak openly as patients. Not long ago I"ve also opened my own channel as I have BPD and I am a trained Mental Health Activist. I was misstreated and discriminated by society by most of society but also from some doctos and I just dont get it when you should be all there to help. You are the perfect example of a Doctor who really cares. Thanks for giving us a voice.❤️❤️❤️

@puffcatco 4 года назад

Despite me not having a diagnosis, considering my age, plus the fact that they haven't properly worked out the symptoms, this really does seem to help my fear of abandonment. on a sidenote, I also experience mood swings that usually do have a trigger, but they're rather vague. I've had symptoms of borderline a while ago, but They're definetly not as intense as they are recently or now, given that I actually can have a proper attachment to other people, Which I usually couldn't, thinking that it was for the weak and such. everytime someone throws an insult at me, even jokingly, I pretend to mask the fact that I find it insulting. I start overthinking about it, which can result in anger outbursts, feelings of hopelessness and such. I also experience feelings of "Elation", which is usually caused by either feelings of loneliness, irritation or hate. During these periods, I might have less consideration for the feelings of other people. may it be taken into consideration that these symptoms come and go, and might return at certain moments. I've only really started to experience the full package since somewhere around February of 2020, but, I've had childhood trauma at the age of 6, which might also be a reason why I experience and feel this. It shifted from anger Issues, to low moods and slight fear of abandonment, which has gotten worse, when more people started to move away from me. Intense jealousy also comes with this. if, for example, I see two of my friends that I'm close with bonding together, I'll start to think that they'll find me useless. if someone hasn't talked to me in one or two days, I'll also think that people might've found a replacement for me. once, my current partner in my relationship Told me about this very friendly person that helped them with suicidal thoughts. I acted out rather rudely to that, which I realised later was a bad thing. On that same day, I started acting quite hostile towards the people that I love and care for. I also have trouble with being friends with other people, because sometimes It gets rather repetitive, but I'm scared to be honest about it, because of my fear of abandonment. it's only just now in 2020 where it really shifted into this Borderline-Like state. (This is not the entire story.)

@aspenmitchelle1648 2 года назад

Your video on bps and bipolar was amazing. I have both of them and I’m all over the place. But I have all 9 of the bpd criteria. Thank you for helping to sort that out

@beautifulsoultress3078 4 года назад

I experienced symptoms of disacciative disorder. Many times when I was employed at this stressful job. But everything was stressful during that time my home life and the job. I felt like I was going crazy. over 10 years later I get diagnosed with BPD2. Ive been needed help

@bertzerker747 4 года назад

Who tells you you are not allowed to feel the way you do?

@bertzerker747 4 года назад

Who can help you manage better by the way you feel?

@bertzerker747 4 года назад

It's grasped in an every day process. High feeling people don't want that to be made ordinary or atleast to become mundane. They choose to go on feeling. Narcissism is reducing the connection with inner emotional thought... 🙏

@bertzerker747 4 года назад

@BPD World no reason to complain. Less reason to suffer. We accept ourselves, fate can await. Take up the knowledge, grandeur is reason within itself.

@bertzerker747 4 года назад

@BPD World moving is on...

@constantdoodle32 Год назад

I haven't been diagnosed with this but the more I look up things the more they all make so much sense. The restaurant story is exactly what happens. Also a dumb memory pops up and just ruins my whole day. I'm so damn tired of it.

@daisies667 4 года назад

I have a lot of borderline symptoms but I've never dissociated before

@BBFCCO733 2 года назад

YES! I just realized this. When I started noticing my thoughts, I saw that a negative mood or darkness overtook me, but when I caught it and turned it around, mood got better. At the same time, when I speak with someone who I feel is not considering me or being dishonest , I get angry and honestly don't know how to avoid that or not let it get to me.

@addysaw 4 года назад

Can you possibly make a video addressing insomnia? Its very common for me to get literally 0 sleep, and I am not allowed to take sleeping medication anymore (especially benzodiazepines, had to do a 2 week medical detox from that) Thanks a lot! I've followed every tip you said in previous videos and notice an 80% improvement of all symptoms and without medication. Sleep still remains poor though

@nickjohn2051 4 года назад

My advice. Go see a neurologist. Not a psychatrist. A neurologist can use EEG scan. EEG scan is useful for identifying insomnia. If your insomnia can be detected by the EEG scan, most of them would use fMRI to idenfity the part of brain that is disregulated. If this happened, most neurologist would prescribe proper drugs for you. If that dont work, they can use surgery like deep brain simulation (brain pacemaker). A psychiatry cannot do surgery (brain surgery) even though they have medical degree. Psychiatry is a sham. Most of them make diagnosis even not on solid science. If you want someone that truly expert in brain, go see a neurologist. Dont believe me? Google Project Mkultra by CIA that experimented without consent the use of LSD to mentally ill patient. Google Soviet Union psychiatry corruption, where almost all people that against or outspoken to Communist regime are labelled as schizophrenic and their work even as scientist are redacted from public. A psychiatry is the only branch that have legacy treatment that dont have Randomized Controlled Trial. That treatment is called Electroconvulsive Theraphy. It is literal zapping our brain to induce seizure. Its like turn off and turn on your brain again.

@yObabeSitSmE 4 года назад

Hello darling how was it with the benzos detox? X

@addysaw 4 года назад

@@yObabeSitSmE it went much much easier than what people say online. However, I still use benzos to sleep now and then

@shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад

@@addysaw Benzos are habit forming. Try to reduce to the lowest mg. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад

@@yObabeSitSmE Benzos are habit forming. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@davidmacphee3549 4 года назад

You are the very best! I have seen negative comments you have seen too but as a professional, head doc, You are the very best!

@Kalina_Kitsune 3 года назад

Can you do a video on BPD vs schizophrenia? Does having an imaginary friend the same thing as delusions? I love all of your videos! I'm considering becoming a psychologist like my younger sister :) You make things so easy to understand!

@julesmpc1314 2 года назад

She always explains so much better than others

@suzannekalkstein7411 Год назад

I really appreciate your videos. Could you possibly cover C-PTSD and photographic memory?

@Frowntowner Год назад

I have 90% of everything spoken about in these videos, daily. I've been on medication and in therapy for 15ish years, my coping skills come in handy every so often, and i've made large strides regarding one specific kind of trauma in my life, but besides that i've slowly gotten worse through the last 15 years, though i appear to be stable it's because ive cut out everything distressing possible (but now things that i did not struggle with much before, socially, are causing me daily ups and downs) and my rage and anger is internalized where before i would lash out. I feel a bit more empty and a bit more bored, but a bit less volatile when i'm feeling maxed out. I don't have a bpd diagnosis, but i have severe recurrent major depression with psy features, ptsd, etc, and though its not on paper that i have access to seeing, bi polar gets brought up frequently. Ive lost most of my 20's and now most of my 30's. I haven't been able to ... ive brought up bpd a handful of times but cant seem to get things shifted into exploring that territory more. Just feeling stuck, and venting. Great videos, thanks you.

@mariamaican2013 4 года назад

Hi Dr Marks ❤️ Can a depressed person have lots of ups and downs in one day ? When im alone i tend to be sad and have a lot of intrusive thoughts but then if im with someone or im doing something fun I tend to feel a lot better . Even if im not doing something i can still have better moods and then ill fall back into a sad mood . Is this possible for a “depression” ? I am on a TCA and have been on it for about 2 months. Thank you!! Love your videos

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

Yes you can Maria. What you’re describing sounds a little like a typical depression. Did you see that video? If not take a look ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4bH8E3Wf-WA.html

@ladybaabaa3294 4 года назад

I find with my depression, even if I don't feel particularly social, when I spend a bit of time with someone I enjoy being with, it lifts my mood. It's fun, it's a distraction and it brings me out of my own head for a while.

@heatherdoesvoices9048 Год назад

Cannot stress how much your videos have helped. I've been living with these symptoms and never cared to look up what I might have, but every single description or scenario for borderline personality disorder is me to a T. I now know ways to cope and also work on bettering not only my life, but my partner and friends. Cannot thank you enough. ❤️

@samirah4423 Год назад

my partner just broke up with me yesterday because i snapped at him, and it hurt him because i've snapped/gotten angry for the smallest reasons. i love him so much, and i dont think he realizes the love i have for him because he only sees the negatives. What coping mechanisms do you use , if i may ask?

@samirah4423 Год назад

i would tell my partner that i would work on myself and managing my emotions, but this time i couldn't control it, and he said he was done with me because i said that multiple times to him, that i would change and act right. i blamed myself of course, but also blamed my medication because it caused me to have brain fog all day, and i couldn't control my emotions as well as when im not on medication, but i still would snap at him over dumb things before starting medication for my adhd and ocd. i did some research on the meds i took, and it says when taken together, it can cause more irritability, ect. ;-; i am so heartbroken, i go from crying, to being distracted, to crying again.

@dstudios3334 4 года назад

it’s there really a direct relation between eating disorder and borderline personality ? Thanks for this video, it’s explain a lot about what i feel everyday 😣

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

I really don’t know if there’s a direct relationship between eating disorder and BPD. Not everyone with BPD has an eating disorder and vice versa. Thanks for the question 😊

@jenniferelisa4937 4 года назад

I think it could be a way of self-harm just like self-mutilation.

@cynergyyy 2 года назад

Right as you said Abandoned or Rejected A light bulb went off in my mind and have discovered my deepest and root fear comes forth as being afraid that “I won’t be accepted or loved” or “nobody likes me” and that’s a profound belief, more like a programming that I’m not a likeable person - I’m not a loveable person. And this programming has ruled my life for a very long time (23 years!) and I just turned 24 and I accept myself and nurture myself to see the lies that have hung heavy over my mind heart and soul. I pray and hope that anyone with similar experiences may overcome their destructive self beliefs, patterns and poor programming. May we all overcome this💚💜

@amicamio2435 4 года назад

Hallo doc! Thanks for the video. I have a question regarding BPD and psychotic like symptoms. Some people with BPD have some psychotic symptoms especially when under stress. I know i tend to hear voices or/and have paranoia this usually resolve pretty quickly after the stress is resolved. What’s the difference between psychotic symptoms experienced with BPD and psychotic symptoms in bipolar or schizophrenia. What is happening in the brain? Is it different or just shorter ? Thanks !

@adamwright9150 Год назад

I'm speechless. Your example with the restaurant gave me chills. Literally the first person to ever put my thought process into words so..accurately. I don't even know how to react.

@Flo-cy4xc 4 года назад

Hello! Can someone have bpd without having impulsive acts, like buying compulsively, drugs, addictions... Or without having outbursts of anger?

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

Yes there are other symptoms. I go through the symptoms and this video ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-MLl4b9726wA.html. Also people can have aspects or features of personalities without having a full disorder.

@bruiserbrodie9018 3 года назад

I don't have BPD, but this really gave me a window on understanding it with the ppl that do have it around me.... Thanks for your great work.

@Brian15 4 года назад

Dr. Marks, when one has a very hazy, or poor memory of their childhood (before puberty), what is that indicative of?

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

Often it’s related to having unpleasant experiences in childhood. Some people handle unpleasant experiences by forgetting them. Poor attention can also make you forget a lot of details. There’s other things like having depersonalization episodes, dissociative fuque states - there’s really not one thing. Someone really answering that question would want to talk with you in more depth about what you actually remember

@Brian15 4 года назад

@@DrTraceyMarks Thanks so much

@kimberlybeshears4785 Год назад

I was recently diagnosed with BPD and it explains my mood swings and irritability. It explains why I get so butt hurt over feeling ignored or no one likes me. I forget to think about others but rather just how I'm feeling. I feel terrible about it, and I'm working on identifying triggers. But some of them are so small and insignificant.

@burnthepalo9416 Год назад

It’s great that you acknowledge this and working on identifying triggers. I wish my sister was the same. I truly believe she has bpd and also a covert narcissist.

@marib.52380 4 года назад

How I cope? Stay single 😉

@MR-qw5wb 4 года назад

Are you for real. Because this is literally me.

@marib.52380 4 года назад

M R 100%

@MR-qw5wb 4 года назад

Mari B. 💯

@zentient8840 3 года назад

Forced to be single again 😔

@ichangedmynameforyoutube 4 года назад

Omg. Yes...yes...yes...yes.. and YES!! Thank you for your videos. I have BPD, ADD and Bipolar disorder With PTSD and complex trauma. Sometimes just understanding some of these feelings and behaviors is soooo helpful

@g.r.2985 3 месяца назад

Wow!! This is SO real for me in my life, thanks so much. Just the title is worth a like, subscription and comment 😢

@imagismus 3 года назад

thank you so much for explaining this. I was just now feeling really down (seemingly out of the blue) and even cried a bit as you explained

@thespartanfox Месяц назад

I was diagnosed with OCD in my early teens. The two truly deep friendships I've had in my life were with people with BPD. Through some self reflection, I've been wondering lately if I might have BPD as well. Your first example with friendships really hit home for me. I tend to really connect with just one person on a very deep level, and when that connection starts to feel distant or they get in a relationship or they hang out with other friends, I begin to worry I'm being left behind or that my best friend is replacing me. While all these thoughts are happening, under the surface I know that I want my friend to be happy and that it's okay if they're in a relationship and have other friends. But my anxieties spiral and I end up in this pit. I feel angry and scared. Just recently my friend brought up a conversation she was having with a new friend and I felt really, really down about it-- thoughts like "but we used to talk about this all the time" or "why were they messaging them and ignoring me?" Your comment in the friend scenario about how the friend WAS thinking of you even while with the other friend is actually really eye opening and helpful. I'm going to have to take that with me and remember that.

@iTzJimBoi Год назад

I'm trying to make sense of all the traffic in my head in preparation for 2023. I've never considered myself as having mental illness. My upbringing was painful but all immigrant families abuse their children. In that aspect, I chose to shove down my problems. Now, I have so much garbage in my head and it's hard to pull them apart. Why is it that hearing someone say "Oh, we had fun last night!" makes me sad? True, I wasn't invited out but I don't need to be invited to everything. I've often wondered why "Fear of missing out" hurt so much until this video. It's because after every statement, my mind adds an extra sentence: "...and they did it without you". So here's to a year of unpacking. Another year of trying to dig through my mind to make sense of why seeing a child laughing makes me want to cry. Thank you, Dr. Marks. If it wasn't for you and other mental health professionals making these videos, I wouldn't be on this journey. I'm turning 32 soon and I can't seem to go to parties without being triggered or overwhelmed...not even to my own.

@kerripotkonen4300 12 дней назад

Thank you for the straightforward videos on BPD!

@obryaflorida5983 7 месяцев назад

i was diagnosed in 2020 & it was a relief to know what was wrong w me but self awareness is so painful bc i know i’m being irrational but no way to control it. it’s exhausting, it’s tiring, it’s embarrassing, it’s infuriating but i know that i am just a damaged person who wants kindness, patience, & someone to be gentle like i never had & to reciprocate the immense love i am capable of extending to those i care for.

@BeccaL2016 10 месяцев назад

In the first example, if that friend keeps telling you about the places she goes but never invited you, then I have to say that’s not a good friend to be around, maybe she intentionally wants to make you feel bad… but we can’t control how others act to us but we can control how we feel about it, if we get upset just because someone else doesn’t do things we want them to then your emotions are controlled by others, and you will be easily be manipulated!!!! Learn how ton control your own emotions… and you will be stronger when you are not easily be triggered by others!! Speaking from my own experiences!!!

@SacredCyclesOracle 4 года назад

As someone who puts a ton of effort into overcoming my mental illness, I read a lot of self development books that talk about how you create your own reality through your thoughts. A future video on this topic would be helpful for those who struggle with this concept as it makes it challenging to accept/beleive in mental illness disorders, and creates guilt/confusion around symptoms & diagnosis (thinking you could have prevented it had you just used "The Secret" or mediated more in your life). Mental illness starts to feel like an excuse or cop out for behavior related to both treated & untreated mental illness. I often spend hours researching and trying to understand at a scientific level if what I am experience is proven though science (ie something beyond my control) while also practicing mindfulness mediation, visualization, positive thinking, etc. As soon as an episode or symptom occurs, an enormous amount of guilt and anger toward myself follows becuase of the contradicting beliefs I see on creating your own reality/its all in your head messaging. Any insight and perspective on this topic would be so helpful.

@missmolly5129 6 месяцев назад

Great explanation! I don't experience dissociation (often) or derealization (ever), but I do have trouble dealing with strong emotions coming out of nowhere. I learned to connect them to a thought, but... Often, until I get to do that, I am in the full blown emotion, hyperventilating.

@RoxanaKristina 3 года назад

Yes, meditation, witnessing and having compassion to oneself...this helps A Lot

@foxemartin 2 года назад

I most definitely experience bipolar 2. Honestly, I'm worried I have both, because you're describing how my brain works.

@scottj719 4 года назад

0:48 The REASON can also be very damaging to relationships. Someone I believe it borderline always has a REASON for why they lost all composure, went off the deep end, and that reason was someththing YOU did. You know, really big things like taking too many napkins, or moving something out it's place and not returning it.

@DrTraceyMarks 4 года назад

Hmm...ok. Fair enough

@ciarosemuniz5898 4 года назад

Amazing 👏!! I noticed depersonalization and didn't know where it was coming from. Practicing emotional regulation really helped with the mood swings. Thank you so much for the video.

@verobutterfly3029 6 месяцев назад

I’m better when I’m in a relationship. I’m focused. I am almost perfect. I give space. When I’m living on my own I get mood swings. Bored. Irritable angry. Analysis nonstop

@Lemonz1989 7 месяцев назад

I think my neighbor and “friend” has BPD, but she refuses any treatment or to acknowledge that anything is wrong. She uses me as a “therapist” to help analyze every small detail her crush does or says. Sometimes she calls me up to 20 times a day, because she needs to talk about her crush. She mentions him in every single conversation, no matter what the original conversation was about. She has no hobbies, interests or other people in her life. She takes on other people’s personalities and interests if she likes them, so she can connect with them in some way. She does nothing on her own because she likes it or is interested in it. She cut out almost everyone in her life when I moved in next to her, because I hardly ever resist her like many other people in her life do, and I think that fulfills her social needs. I just listen for the most part, unless she has a freak out and verbally attacks me for no reason, or if I say something she doesn’t like. That’s when I usually react negatively as well, because I don’t deserve to be her punching bag. When I react negatively she ends up extremely upset and starts apologizing profusely, making me feel bad for “overreacting.” I’ve known her for over 2 years now, and I’ve never once been inconsistent with her, but she still thinks I’m rejecting her, or that I hate her when I don’t answer for a day or two, because I have severe and debilitating treatment resistant migraines, so there are periods I can’t function properly, including dealing with conversations or other mentally strenuous activities. I’ve told her multiple times that I won’t just ghost her for no reason, and when I’m unresponsive, it’s because I’m having a migraine, working or I’m sleeping. Now she has gotten it in her head that I’m somehow conspiring against her with her crush and/or dad behind her back, because her crush must be gay for whatever reason and since in gay, we are seeing each other behind her back. I’ve literally only ever seen this person once, where I said hi and he said hi. I was even with her when we met, so it wasn’t some clandestine meeting. She also accuses me of giving information about her to her dad for some reason. It’s exhausting reassuring her almost every day that I’m not talking to any of them.

@knightabraxas 3 года назад

I love the way you say "thanks for watching" - it's so warm, it feels like a hug ♡

@natashaalicia8105 4 месяца назад

One trait I don't share is the overwhelming feeling of not being invited to something. I couldn't care less if they're having fun without me because I'm not the going out type. I prefer not being asked. People bore me. I play pool and I love it. I can go out alone and come out with 4 or 5 new friends! Then they bore me. Essentially I get bored with people very often and I guess that's why I don't care about not being invited, or going out and have people ignore me, so either way, I make my own party. If they invite me and ignore me, I simply walk around and find another group and make my own party. Weird I know.

@sandydepoy9396 2 года назад

My memories constantly flash vividly and constantly throughout the day, without triggers, and they send tremendous emotions soaring. It's exhausting.

@paridhitripathi9978 Год назад

Well everyone goes through troubles, but living a life through troubles and being itself a trouble because of triggering issues, is altogether a tiring game. I want to scream it to my friends how much I'm stressed at every point that something might trigger my mood swings and I'll be blamed for not being calm, especially at work place. A lot of anxiety also comes from that people have no idea about this personality disorder, including my friends. Most of my friends think I overthink. And it can be removed by being busy and doing yoga. However, I don't think so. I feel the constant need to fill the void inside. I want appreciation at every step. And I keep feeling lonely most of the time. As if I'm not good enough, because no one is telling. It's emotional extremely tiring!

@natashaalicia8105 4 месяца назад

Trust me I know. People who don't have BPD can never ever understand. They tell us we're overreacting or being dramatic which only enrages us more, and the whole cycle starts again. It's exhausting. That's why I'm a loner. All I have around me is what I love, my cats and fresh air and none of them judge me or talk back. I love watching horrors or documentaries and I'm yelling at the screen, Go, Run, Behind you! I'm nuts but I love talking to the program. The only time I'll go into therapy is when I start having an argument with myself and losing!😂😂

@paridhitripathi9978 4 месяца назад

@@natashaalicia8105 I am seeing your reply now, and I want to tell you, that after taking DBT, things are quite normal to me. I no more think about what might trigger me. I don't feel intensely anymore. I have become more peaceful and all I do is observe things around me. If I'm scared or feeling shame, I know that the emotion I'm feeling want me to act. I can see the emotions lingering in my heart that cause all the pain. All I do is just observe them. DBT, I would recommend to all of those who are dealing with the symptoms of BPD. I've never thought I would ever stop lashing out on people. I don't even expect people to understand me anymore. It's good these days.

@jayjay1443 3 года назад

I almost lost a really amazing best friend because of this. I felt like life wasn't worth living without them... fortunately they came back... I still feel terrible for lashing out at them.... real or self perceived rejection or abandonment triggered me