What your partner needs to know about the menopause transition, and how to support you!

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What your partner needs to know about menopause // Because we don't go through menopause alone, I made a video for your partner all about what your body is going through during the menopause transition. I discuss changes in hormones, changes in sexual health, and changes in your mood and mind. Listen in and share with someone who needs to hear this!
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@heatherhirschMD 2 года назад

What else do you wish your partner knew about the menopause transition? Tell me below!

@stephengoff4885 8 месяцев назад

I am a 49 year old man whose wife is 51 and has started going through it. It’s been rough for me because I didn’t understand how this is affecting her . Thank you so much for making this video

@buffienguyen 6 месяцев назад

I appreciate the inclusive information! :) I'm not a partner, I'm a young adult trying to support my mom haha

@TheEm2miller Год назад

As a man do you wanna know what I wish these doctors would tell ladies? I do my best to be understanding, I go without sex, I go without affection. We have to but those things do not change the fact that I have desires and needs as I am extremely attracted to my wife. You don’t tell them to take care of their man.

@kathyburton3142 Год назад

Ask her what can you do to make her more comfortable. Women have a harder time, especially if we have children, are body's go through a lot. I asked my husband to help me with payment for a full body cosmetic surgery and hormone treatment. We both went for tests, we're both on hrt now and we do it together, like going to the gym. Testosterone can help men and womans libido, skin, muscles and energy, women only need a little if they are quite low it would be nice for both of you to get all that back. Women have menopause much worse. It can be absolute horrendous. My libido is ok but i get very angry, tearful and paranoid of my partner, when in that frame of mind its not a good time to make big decisions like divorce and moving home until shes thinking straight. Some women get so bad without treatment they end up suicidal and admitted to a mental hospital. Go and look at a chart of a man and woman's hormone levels at age 51 and you'll see how low she is. Its as little as a babys hormones like 5% out of 100%.

@angelahamilton1980 Год назад

You do realise we feel guilt at not being able to meet those needs right? It’s not about not wanting you. It’s about physically and mentally not being able to be intimate. It can be painful. Hormone depletion ruins us and it takes a while to get back to who we were

@melkerner 7 месяцев назад

But when Men do it to their devoted spouse, they are bad people. I don't believe there is guilt - you all pat yourselves on the back for withholding like it's a sport. You simply quit caring abut your spouse and marriage, and make it all about men loving you enough to become a sexless shell of a person - that is IF you decide you don't need him anymore and want to flee to focus on your "self care". .@@angelahamilton1980

@JimmyPeaTV 9 месяцев назад

Thanks for this video Dr. I'm trying to understand and support my wifes situation without her knowing so it seems more natural. I found a few vids out there, but for a husband this was a fantastic stream. Thank you 🙏☮️❤️

@clararooney3661 Год назад

Im 35 years old and ive been going through the menopause since i was 22 when i lost my womb and ovaries, my husband has been amazing to support me,he looked it up and i always try to talk to him about how im feeling but there is the odd time where my body and mind is going through hell and i cant even explain to anyone what im going through, i went through it at such a young age and i still havent aceepted it xx

@cm1906 2 года назад

A fantastic video, Dr Hirsch! Thank you. I wish there’d been something like this when I went through perimenopause, both for my partner and for myself - as I did not connect so many of my symptoms with the loss of hormones. I’m so much better informed now, thanks to your work and that of other likeminded educators. I’m truly grateful. 🥰

@heatherhirschMD Год назад

Thank you! Feel free to let me know your partners reactions!

@GuidedByAngels Год назад

My partner is very supportive and really does listen and try to understand, i will defo share with him this video 😊

@GinaMusings Год назад

Rare that a partner cares if they are selfish infants, so be prepared to be abandoned or betrayed. It is for the best. Some men may stick around, but it has to be difficult for them, too, and eventually they will leave, but you can't blame them. It is hell dating, though. I gave up in my forties. Had radical hysterectomy at 26 years old due to cancer. It's been a very lonely life. No one understands. Not friends, family or men you date. They see me physically healthy and somewhat attractive and wonder why i dont date anymore. I make up excuses now because i am tired of people and their platitudes, "if they love you, they will understand, etc"...NO THEY DO NOT. That is from decades of experience of being rejected or betrayed. We all have to carry a cross and try hard to make the most of life. I chose to try and be an inspiration to others and be kind and a good friend. I surround myself with lovely people and stay optimistic. Being humble helps and finding joy in the little things. But maybe, just maybe the reason I am on this channel is because I haven't given up hope afterall.

@peemartick4655 4 месяца назад

It is always personal. Not her fault but leave if you are unhappy. It's not your fault either. No one should put up with being abused.

@jasonscoggins01 4 месяца назад

@melkerner 3 месяца назад

My wife started Peri at the age of 40 - unknowingly her libido dropped off and sex became painful (she NEVER mentioned it, indicated a problem or anything) which she attributed to relationship issues and her attitude became to convince herself in her head that she "never liking sex" - less and less, for 7 years and fast forward to today - until nothing for the last 8 years - now she is deep in Menopause, all the classic issues from weight gain, brain fog, hot flashes, sleep issues, cholesterol issues, thyroid, migraines, joint pain, itchy skin, hair loss, no touch, ZERO libido or desire. She refuses to discuss with her OBGYN, get hormones checked or anything to address the obvious hormone imbalance issues that have affected her physically, and mentally. How do you convince someone to get help when any suggestion is angrily turned into a "you just want sex" rebuttal? It's killing our marriage and relationship. She won't even kiss - but more important, she isn't receiving the proper care for all the issues which are only addressed individually instead of a whole perspective. Part of that is because she refuses to tell her doctors what's going on.

@AH-cy4md 9 месяцев назад

I went from being highly sexual, hyper sexual even, to now having absolutely zero desire for any sexual activity. Frankly, I’m quite happy with it, not being plagued with sexual thoughts and urges, and if I were single, there’d be no “problem “. My husband misses the intimacy, but we’re talking about it and will adjust. I don’t want to be on hormones medication. Sexual activity now seems like base, coarse behavior I don’t want to engage in.

@melkerner 7 месяцев назад

Adjusting means what? your husband will simply have to be sexless the rest of his life while you continue to be quite happy?

@Evil-Rod-Farva 6 месяцев назад

You have absolutely no idea the predicament you’re putting your husband in. I’ve made it very clear to my spouse that sex is important to me and I will not go without. If she isn’t taking care of my needs, I will outsource them without an ounce of guilt or shame.

@user-yu9bt2qn9j 5 месяцев назад

You are selfish and clueless regarding your role as a wife . An intimate relationship with your a spouse is one of the most important rules in a marriage, without that the marriage won’t last. I think your husband in the long run would be much happier without you.

@goldwater1984 9 дней назад

You shouldn't be surprised if your husband finds a girlfriend then.

@stephaniesteerman6338 Год назад

Could you tell what makes Magnesium Citrate better than Magnesium Glycinate? Or is it? I’m confused by all the different Magnesium options.

@Robert_Fiori Год назад

You say: “maybe men’s testosterone levels go down a little over time”. That is such an understatement. Being an advocate for women’s issues is great, but there’s no need to misrepresent the actual rate of testosterone decline with men. In fact, the drop need not be absolute to cause significant impact on wellbeing. Yet, while almost all women reaching menopause can avail themselves of good hormone replacement therapy this is not the case for men with a testosterone level that is reduced but in the ‘normal range’ for older men, and therefore current medical guidelines state does not warrant testosterone replacement therapy. Consequently most doctors (endocrinologists) refuse to prescribe the therapy! Most men have to put up with the physical and emotional aspects of hormone changes, while women have so many more options to address symptoms of their own hormone changes. The lower ‘normal’ testosterone level for men is considered acceptable despite the negative impacts, while the normal lower level of hormones for women is considered unacceptable. This is a double standard. The male partners of women with menopausal symptoms should, and do, support them. The menopause gets high visibility and sympathy and support for women abounds both from the everyday person and very much so from the medical community and pharmaceutical suppliers. Like many men’s issues however, their own journey and consequence of hormonal depletion hardly gets considered, and sadly for many (if not most) not even understood properly by their female partners.

@Pheediep 5 месяцев назад

Men don’t typically go to “zero” though. Women do. That’s the point.

@ashleyduncan8505 4 месяца назад

@@Pheediep yup! And 3 hormones at once! 😢 no comparison...

@JohnBerger-ff6jr Год назад

also im watching these videos on my own

@darthdu 10 месяцев назад

I'm agnostic, but I was Christian. This would feel like a new punishment from God. I'm engaged to a menopausal woman. How can I get married when I'm living with a similar but different person. I want to marry the woman I proposed to. I don't know who she is now. There is no help for men. No support groups, no advice save "How to support your wife through this." There is no mental health help for men. Once again we are left out in the cold and expected to be strong and supportive even though we are getting the fuzzy end of the lollipop.

@artrobinson2563 4 месяца назад

Serious question from a very confused, supportive husband: What if all recent symptoms point to perimenopause, and though even she agrees, she hasn’t or won’t look deeper into it herself? I don’t want to force an appointment on her she isn’t ready for, or maybe doesn’t want me to initially attend, if at all… I want to be supportive and I feel helpless. I’ve found this video to gain as much understanding as I can as a man on my own, but my wife seems avoidant to the acceptance and steps that she can and should explore to assist her through this time. What would you suggest I do?

@rockyrauf2529 4 месяца назад

How long does peri-menopause last before she goes into full menopause? Then how long does menopause last? Also can menopause lead to heart problems?

@anthonyhardy1 Год назад

We'll thanks however most of the info is already known from being with our partner. What I want to hear is what is to be expected long-term? Will she get some of her normal drive back or are we restricted to a life of hugs and hikes and kissess? I'm supportive and patient but what should be expected after her menopause is over? Will she want me then? It's so unfair for women in general.

@QueenBee-xd1xk Год назад

If she doesn't get on hormone replacement therapy then sex drive is unlikely to come back. Also sex will still remain painful. If she gets and stays on hormone replacement therapy and additionally gets vaginal estrogen suppositories (for the rest of her life), then she should have some rebound of sex drive and vaginal health, as well as a cessation or reduction of other menopausal symptoms. This is all detailed in this channel's other videos. Also menopause is never over, once you've entered it it's the rest of your life. This is why hormone replacement therapy is essential

@melkerner 5 месяцев назад

Kisses, you are getting kisses? Side hugs and pecks like my Aunt is all I can relate to at this stage.

@goldwater1984 9 дней назад

I had to tell my wife of 26 yrs that I will not be "friend zoned" by her. My needs haven't changed, and I would be forced to find a girlfriend.

@JohnBerger-ff6jr Год назад

what about if marriage was rocky but the man wants it to work but she doesn't because of menopause?

@TheEm2miller Год назад

That’s an uphill battle brother. That will test your resolve.

@AndrewDeSimone Год назад

Sane situation here. She kicked me out and ended our relationship because of menopause. It's best to just let them go. They will regret it in the end trust me.

@wd2518 Год назад

I’m at the brink too. I can’t even get her to go to a doctor that specializes in hormones..

@richardjimenez5944 6 месяцев назад

I'm going through this now for the past 4 years. My wife did not believe in divorce in 30 years of marriage that word never came out of one of our mouths. I'm not perfect but no way we should of gotten a divorce. She conjured things up to make me look bad just to end the marriage. Unfortunately there is not much hope in stopping her. Her mind is made up and yes one day she will regret it but we are the one's who are paying the price

@heathernail5706 3 месяца назад

Stepping in with similar situation here just to say… I highly doubt your wife up and left due to perimenopause or meno. Were you a model husband and in tune with her emotionally? Did you lift her up and validate her, hear her when she spoke? I’m willing to bet certain aspects of your relationship and behaviors have been tolerated for years, but once the buffer hormones go haywire, that’s all out the window w/zero tolerance for b.s. and marital deficiencies. I’m at a point where after so many years of putting myself last, saying yes to everything, zero affirmation and tolerating covert narcissistic and verbal abuse from my husband and the profound impacts it’s having on our 3 daughters… I’m so done. I am one of the few who can be financially independent and get out, but I’d rather die single and thriving versus live with a man child from here until dead! Not to say I’m an angel, but we’re at an impasse and he refuses to do any reflection or work on himself.

@maximbeckers7217 2 года назад

LP reacted d ryt way, she is Feliciee.Monster need of over drama, or over consider ations. She don't deserve *considerationsj. Lp പറഞ്ഞ പോലെ,, ജീവിതം തുടങ്ങിയല്ലേ ഉള്ളു, പഠിക്കട്ടെ.

@user-xs9835 2 года назад

Better not to share this info with men! They will never look at you the same desirable way !

@meechiebaby493 2 года назад

That's okay. We're invisible to them after 40 or 50 anyway. In fact, once synthetic, lab made sperm is on the market no one will need men. We don't need them now. Invitro fertilization will become more mainstream, and less expensive. Instead of dwelling on the reasons we would need men to look at us, I take pride in all the reasons why I don't need them to. I live my life for me, not for a partner I haven't met yet. If a partner thinks differently of you because you're transitioning through to menopause tell them to kick rocks. You don't need that kind of crap in your life.

@FlamingoCupcake28 Год назад

@@meechiebaby493that last part. If your partner truly loves you they will not think less of you. The comment you were responding to assumes all men objectify their romantic partners.

@Evil-Rod-Farva 6 месяцев назад

@@meechiebaby493men are responsible for your defense, your power grid, your toilet, your home, all appliances in your home, your air conditioning, your plumbing, your car, your roads, and notwithstanding the fact men are net tax payers and women are net tax consumers. But please do tell us about how synthetic sperm, unicorn flatulence, and girl boss magic will maintain all the infrastructure built by those pesky and needy men who just want some 20 minute of sex a week in exchange for the overwhelming value and comfort they bring to your existence. Your advice is especially moronic given that women leave marriages at 2-9 times the rate men do. Why would any logical man stay in a marriage where his primary need in that marriage (sex) isn’t met by the person who vowed to do so?