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Many many years ago, I used to flirt with such a guy for a year or so... We never had a proper date. Then he disappeared, and reappeared 6 months later, only to tell me that during our "flirting period" he was seeing another woman. I appreciated his honesty (I deserve a slap) and we got into a relationship (two slaps). That relationship was the worst experience in my life... So a piece of advice here: if someone is willing to play with your feelings, that says a lot about his character and his ethics. You don't deserve any b@st@rd in your life. Just ruuuuunnnn !!!
Ladies, trust your intuition. I know we glorify logical thinking but women's intuition is second to none. If you are watching videos and videos to see if hes interested because you arent sure, he isnt interested.
When we as women have a full life - friends, job, hobbies, travel, family and high self esteem, then these losers don't get a look in and it's easy to shut them down early. If you keep attracting these men or falling for their bullshit or making excuses for their bad behaviour, then you have taken the focus off yourself and need to get yourself back on track with YOU first. A relationship with a man is a good thing, a fun thing but if he thinks he can treat you badly it's because you've forgotten to put yourself first and see yourself as the prize. Men are a dime a dozen. As women it's easy to attract them. But a good man will only be attracted to you if you are good to yourself first.
yes but not all women have friends close,or afford to travel or have a family ,yes in a perfect world we all should have that,but we dont..so they show up..
You are right about having an inner, safe circle. Also if I have doubts about a guy I tell him about my friend or brother. Just to let them know I'm connected.
I've been online dating off and on for a couple of years and I've learned a lot of very important lessons. If a man is chatting you up intensely for several days and then he suddenly disappears for several weeks and then circles back around to you... don't start chatting with him again. He wasn't attracted or interested enough in you to begin with which is why he ghosted you and the only reason why he's back is for the ego boost. Your heart will be broken if you try to force a relationship with this guy cuz he just isn't That Into You but he might use you as a placeholder.
If the man cares for you.. he will keep up with conversations that are ongoing...he will remember details. He will notice if you are sad or care if you are tired or sick He will call you after a few texts because he will want to hear you...not just read words that have no voice inflection. Love this. ❤❤
@@blackbeardsdaughter2613 he'll come around one day ... Or he won't . Either why I make my life how I want it and enjoy solitude because solitude is actually a gift :) ty for your reply and 'like'! 🫂🪽
I know this video is a few months old, but hope someone who needs this sees it: 1. Don’t fall for a person who always says they love the way you make THEM feel instead of saying they love YOU. 2. Don’t fall for a person who only messages you really early in the AM and really late at night, especially if they use the old “oh, I’m suddenly too sleepy to talk. Goodnight.”
I’m glad to see this helped! To elaborate on #2, some people try to use the, “you’re the first thing on my mind when I wake up/last thing on my mind before I fall asleep” lines to make you feel special. They’re usually trying to justify giving you as little time as possible.
I just told a guy yesterday that contacted me out of the blue yesterday after 2 months to leave me alone. I wasn't into his games and told him I needed consistency. He told me he had to get a new cell phone. I said no you're playing games and I'm not for it good bye
Yep, buying a cell phone doesn't take a couple of months. Besides, if he says he didn't have your number, then that's bullshit bcoz if you're important to him then he'll contact you asap
Sounds just like a Pisces I dated a couple years ago I met at the motel we both worked at. He used the I dropped my phone in the pool at work when he disappeared for a week. Then he gave me a line of crap when he ghosted me for a month came back claiming he missed me then one last time I said something in a text and poof he was ghosting me again for good.
It's fascinating to me how men are so self absorbed that stringing someone along just to feed their ego and wasting the woman's time and possibly hurting her means ZERO to them. I had a ex look me up once, the first thing I said to him was "You just broke up with someone, that's why you're here" and he lied and told me they broke up 8 months prior. I got back together with him and found out later it was just me holding him over until his next fling who he ended up marrying and having children with. Zero regard for uprooting my life and breaking my heart for the 2nd time. I learned a big lesson from that. It told me all I need to know about men. They are by far the most self serving selfish beings on this planet.
If a guy texts you all sorts of wild, boastful bs about how supposedly great they are but can’t be decent enough to ask you how your day is, RUN. Don’t walk in the opposite direction. RUN. He has hideous character and can’t even be a friend to himself, much less you. Which isn’t your fault. Don’t let shitty “men” make you think that you don’t deserve to be treated like a human being
That can go the other way with narcissism to they can just be so into you and ask you all the questions about you and then what they’re doing is they’re getting ammunition then they’re gonna marry you really fast and then I’ll be fast to get in a relationship with you in some manner will you sweep you off your feet? Listen to everything you say, the Mr. wonderful you need to watch those types too. I was married one he had a completely different life now he’s married again and he was cheating on her, so you know it is what it is run from the men or women.
I usually rent exensive cars and jewellery and clothing a bag full of fake money with a few 100 50 and 20 on top for a weekend and go clubbing clap few cheeks and ghost they think im rich when im a regular guy .my dad told me women love to feel special all u have to do is play the role and clap cheeks until u well establish then chose a wonan in her early 20 s and pamper her but always keep a side chic just incase things go left i wouldnt end up crying over spilt milk and he a right i get the girls every good simp want without being emotinally involve .sex is basic even animals and insects does it.surprise people need to be in a relationship with all the stress iand responsiblities just to bus a nut crazy plus most women already run through so jus hit and run no need to stay and burn .we born single and will die single inbetween life and death it just a field day.
They keep reaching out when they need to be acknowledged that they still feel. Like they still got it. This jerk Keep doing this to me but he's dead to me. If he cared about me he wouldn't be yoyoing with my emotions.
I don't know how anyone would want to continue a 'relationship' with someone who doesn't return a text, ask questions about you, and can't be bothered to actually call and talk. I don't have time or want to make an effort on someone who makes it a point of 'can't be bothered' or is 'too busy'.
*Some men may be casting their net very widely trying to see what fish they can catch.* And they may be not even single. They just enjoy the attention and the ego boost just like Brian so well articulates in this video. You as a woman got a lot of choice. It's easy to start thinking that all men are flaky or like to play games, but there are so many great guys out there. I've found that once I changed the way I view myself, I started attracting very different quality men.
@@ellengrace4609 I think once I started changing how I view myself, once I started believing that I deserve a man who actually wants to show up and be there for me, when I made a decision that I'll be speaking up when something doesn't feel right, I started attracting quality men. Those time wasters will still be casting their net, but now I know better, so I don't go for it.
@@ellengrace4609 ..u got to realize yo worthy and knw wat u want ..above al...make sure u choose to respect yoself....that way u won't validate washy washy feelings
I chatted regularly with a fellow on a dating site for two weeks…great conversations, somewhat in depth, excluding very personal info of course. He tossed compliments my way regarding how refreshing it was to converse with an intelligent woman, etc. He was the initiator in our chats. After a lengthy, “live” conversation (we were both online at the same time), I was sure he’d ask to meet for the first time…over coffee, or ask for my phone #. Nope. In fact, he didn’t contact me for three or four days and then started with the usual how are you, etc. I told him adios…I don’t want an anonymous pen pal. I learned a lesson. In the future, I’ll chat for a week, tops. If there is no mention of wanting to meet, I’m gone. Next! 😂
I busted the last one by not responding to the last one or two or three days by not responding to him. He would panic and ask where I was. I knew he didn't care. He never wanted to speak to me by phone but spoke to his ex every day by phone. Major red flags
Establish any new relationship in person with in person activities. Avoid texting unless to make plans. After a few months of things going well, texting can be added. Because the texting can actually go well, but in person doesn’t. It’s really an artificial substitute until you actually know the person. Made the mistakes of texting early on - now I don’t.
actually i had an online dating situ, and the texting was GREAT. i met up (with her) for first date, and it was like a nightmare. self-focused, not attentive... like if you pop in an art gallery and it's a DATE, why tf would you go across the damn room without the person?? the point is to talk. anyway everything was just... super weird and off. and yet the texting was fun, engaging and funny. i was gutted. texting after that was good. second date went the same as the first. DEFINITELY agree that texting can be good then in person is horrible. (for reference, am girl, so the guy/girl thing like vid title isn't relevant here._
Me too. Guys really push for that and it is a personal thing to do. It should only after several in person meets. You can feel a connection texting and phoning that when meeting in person the connection all disappears.
Funny how the obvious, common sense facts we should perceive for ourselves need to be explained to us. Bottom line, real, sincere connection is fluid, natural, not so difficult.
I really wish it was so easy to say "Bye-bye. Next". I rarely fall in love and only with someone I have already spent a lot of time with. It will be hard to move on, but I'll try. Thank you!
@@trixi1608 I get men winking and making jokes to make me laugh, flirting, asking if I have a boyfriend. Then when I think one in particular wants to take it further the reaction is always 🤷 where did you get that idea from??? I think I'm picking up wrong signals everywhere ☹️ From now on unless someone asks me out (they never ever do) then I have to believe they don't want me
This is where I am at with a guy ‘friend’ who stays in touch..no goal and not moving anything forward. Feels like he’s just making conversation and it’s not leading anywhere so I am confused cause I care about him as a friend, we haven’t dated, but don’t know what he wants. 😕🤷🏻♀️ I’ve given him time to suggest we see each other again, and nothing, so letting him go and moving forward by myself. Thank you 🙏
Thank you Brian. It has been 18 months of flirting etc. and that is as far as it goes. I kept wishing he would ask me out on a date but he never will. Maybe he just likes to have my attention as an ego boost. Either way I am moving on.
Girl move on I have been through the same and I hate his guts now. It's all about him and how you make him feel and the ego boost. What about our ego killing our self worth in the process
Girl, I can’t even stand 3 months of flirting that’s going nowhere. 18 months is too long. These idiots come back when we shut off their supply huh? Hope we have the strength to keep that door shut.
Definitely all about him having his ego boosted , I’ve been there the most annoying thing! Be really flirty with him then when he feels like replying leave him on read and completely disappear, that’ll do it for his ego 😂
Thing is not everyone is the same or does the same things for the same reasons. End of day, it’s simple, if you’re not being treated how you want to be, or you feel you should be, if you are not sure if they are interested or not, that’s already telling you something. Secondly please stop wasting time on needing this type of reassurance or 🤷🏻♀️ go enjoy your life, if something is ever going to happen it will anyway! This is just another guy taking up your time, getting what he needs from you, benefitting off you, reinforcing that he needs to tell you all what you honestly all do know, but ppl like this and feeling you need this is the only thing that’s holding you back. Women are smart, strong, capable and not just these saps who are hopeless in love and the rest. Again this is just another form of a man making you think/feel that you need him. Go be awesome, because you all are 🖤
My x always talking but she love me yet she and her siblings hate each other SMDH.that the problem right there saying love to me but everyone around u see as uncaring and selfish.hyprocrite .
I LOVE it when Women Give Great Advice to other women!! I wish We Ladies would be genuinely kinder to each other at the Work place; or everywhere we go; because men have much Respect for other men; and they don't Attack each other; nor pull each other down! ! MEN respect their own Gender Very Much!! I hope We Ladies can do the Same with Our own gender.
Talking to a man who used to work with my late husband though I didn't know him. Happy to chat and reminisce but I wasn't expecting much, but he kept pursuing. He said his wife was still alive but the marriage died years ago. Hmmm. So I suggested meeting for coffee somewhere neutral. He really wanted to come over. No! I looked up his "ex wife's name" and golly she had a hyphenated name with his and didnt work as a law assistant she is a full lawyer who administrated the courts for this whole part of the province. Dug further to see her posted family pics of her husband and grown kids. So next call he admits when confronted yes they still live together. No he doesn't want to date, he wants a "mistress" only. I said No thanks. And I never heard from him again. Guess reminiscing is over!! Men!
I believe that all situations in this aspect are to be learned from.. if we're attracting men like this we have to see that we need to heal what he's able to hurt within us. So don't just trash it and move on. Look at what he's brought to the surface in you and work on that so you don't have to be with another guy just like him.
Brian I just love all your videos ❤️ We women finally have to stop living our imagination and learn how to see man just the way he is for real with no excuses, no giving another chances. If the man isn't the right person we feel it at the begining, just watch his behaviour and listen to your intuition.
Validate me Validate me I need to know how special I am. They need a mother type woman. Who will treat his feelings with kid gloves and forget you are an Adult until bedtime.
@@TeutonicTribe So you’re saying I should limit myself from watching anything that doesn’t got to do with me? What’s your point? You don’t like what I just said? 😁
Brian I am a people pleaser Female, He is a Liar & a cheater He has a big ego.. I am going to listen to this everyday to remind me if he Liked me , he wouldn’t do what he did .. You help people see the light Brian Thank you 🙏🏼 ❤
@henryDOG. It sounds like your partner may be a narcissist. There are many good sites on RU-vid that can help you decide. If he fits the description RUN!
I like how you make me laugh at the situation and my own efforts whitout making me feel bad but instead feel empowered to trust myself and build myself up, thank you ! just what i needed ! and yes to the people in the chat, if we are here , it does not matter if he is a good guy ore a bad guy, if he makes you feel like you need to be here , then he is not right for you, hope you all feel as empowerd as i felt after this video, good luck
If there's one thing I know, it's uninterested men!!! I get them all the time, so unfortunately, I'm actually good at picking them. Not just on apps, when chatting but when I meet them in real life. Men are creatures of ego; many equate women, dating and sex as a social and ego status. So yes, unfortunately, sometime if they play it too cool, it's only for ego. Many years ago, I learnt it the hard way when I met someone and we really clicked on chatting. Then I realised he was just reaching out to me to vent and it was leading to nothing. It took me over two weeks to realise that and after that I just quit responding as I realised he just wanted to talk about his job etc but never wanted to meet up or do anything. And Brian's comment about the second date is also the same. If a guy doesn't engage in me, I'm not interested anymore because I know they're not interested. Unfortunately I have yet to meet a man who is interested!
They move you really fast. No respect for your boundaries, like will try too push you somehow to do stuff you don't wan't to or don't have the time to from do early on . They will badmouth their ex , pull the victim card, lovebomb you and find out your insecurites and use them against you to gain control. You will soon feel guilty , frustrated and confused. Take a gooood step back, and observe , run quietly . Don't call them out because they will often double down on their tactics. BLOCK. Been there, done that. You will become a shodow of your self. Take care of your self sweatheart. If you feel something is off, it's because it's off. Trust yourself.
my second time watching this dude and he's cracking me up over this very serious topic. GOTTA SUBSCRIBE!!!! THE HUMOR IS APPRECIATED!!! the lovely accent makes the humor more humorous!!!!!!
This popped up at the right time!! I needed to hear this and thought I already knew this because I FELT IT it, hearing it makes it worse because it sucks that people have to act this way. But it is what it is, I guess
Great information. This happened to me he just happened to be bored one night and got a hold of me. But because I thought more of him than he thought of me I thought it meant more than it did. Great video
Brian, thank you for your videos. Not only do they have great content, you speak without anger or aggression. You slide in some humor and BAM, you have a great video!! Very pleasurable to listen to ... thank you 😊
I found this very informative. I went out with a guy I guess you could say he was one of my old friends and still is a friend to this day but he like text me every so often and then ghosted me so I understand what you’re saying very well thank you for your information.
Thank you for mentioning about the phases of dating too because a lot of videos don't talk about the phases because my guy doesn't talk much but during the first 3 months of dating he was talking a lot but later, his real self emerged and he's not a big texter but he shows love in other ways. Sometimes it's important to know that because one might think he's not as interested as before and missed the other signs of his affection.
This video showed up in my recommended. Omg thank you so much for this. Makes perfect sense. I've never been in a relationship but when men are interested they come after you. If a guy is interested he will make time, be consistent respond and message periodt New subscriber
I've been watching some of your videos and you are hilarious. Even if all your videos have somehow applied to my sad dating life, you've made me laugh about all of it 🤣🤣
You got a Laugh from me, while I was reading your comment, but I wanted to say that if that is You in the picture; You are Absolutely Gorgeous and you have to feel and act like a Queen; because You look like One, but with Dignity and Respect for yourself first and then for the other person; if they Criticize You; that means he is Not Worth it!
Ever since I was Young, I met young women who told me; I want a man with Money; but Society always call women who want a Man that could give them a better lifestyle; "Golddiggers" because Society wants women to have Low Self esteem. But when you date losers; then you get Criticized for dating losers and everything bad thing they do to You; Society would say that it's your fault. And the other thing I wanted to say was; Men are Very demanding with the person they Want in their lives; and they want the BEST for them; So Why Not You ??
Brian thnx for a great content! I really enjoyed watching your video and can relate to all spoken scenarios. Unfortunately it is not easy to spot these spoken behaviors if especially you like this guy so your video is really helpful!
My two cents, based on my current experience: If hes not into you, he - never shares any personal details about himself. You may talk about dull stuff, like work et cet. But he wont tell you about his day, his family et cet. Its especially a BIG RED FLAG if his colleagues know him/ have more meaningful conversations with him than you, their supposed gf. -would prefer just texting you over having a conversation on the phone. -invites you to hang out in a lousy way like "if youd like, you can come." Like he would have with a colleague. -doesnt walk you to the taxi/bus station after the date, not drives you home. -is inconsistent about maintaining contact with you. If he gets silent for more than a week, and provides absolute zero information, why, frankly, just say him "bye" on the spot. -((If you happen to know how did his love life look like)): was super engaged with his exes, like always for them, providing for then, rooting for them, and with you, he does none of these. -doesnt really care about you, nor want to help you, like, he wont give you a lift even if he knows you would have a hard time getting home, -never compliments you -forgets about your b days
The funny thing is I keep seeing videos about this generation of men that are alone and removed from society. A lot of people blame women’s unrealistic expectations (income, height, size, etc). But, every video giving women advice on dealing with men is telling us how to not allow ourselves to be treated like crap. Perhaps height, income and package size have nothing to do with why these men are alone.?!
Mine said I love you but platonically after saying for months he wants to work stuff out…after dating a girl and hiding it… no he just doesn’t have people to listen to him complain…. I’m not allowed to call or come over….
I’ve been in the similar situation 😂😩 boy I don’t even wants to get into what I went through 😩😂. But really I learned alot about men from this experience. And never will I find my self in that position .
I was suppose to go out with a guy but I cancelled and wanted to reschedule. Schedule a meet and greet in the afternoon hours. He scheduled something to do, on the day of our meet up. Night time came and I no longer felt like going out and when he called and said he was done, he was headed home. I said we could reschedule and it's dark. He got smart saying what does being dark out gotta do with anything.( I met him on a dating site and he was driving from his city so thats why I was going for a day time type of meet and greet in a public setting if that makes sense) Well anyways he got upset and caught an attitude. He said it's not his fault things ran past schedule. I said I get it, things happen but still rescheduling is not an issue. So he instantly got off the phone saying I will call you back. He didn't. I didn't hear from him the next day either. So I made up my mind that if a person could get so upset so easily,then he isn't the person for me. His attitude was a turn off. So I made up my mind to be done. I get a text out the blue. Hey. Then you just disappeared. I honestly told him how I felt. He didn't respond or acknowledge anything I said. Come off hot and cold. So I stop responding after that bc I am no longer interested. I told him since he had in attitude I don't know what else to say to him. Ignored what I say and Get another text hey how your day going. I don't say anything. Get another text. GM with the lips emoji...smh.
