When You Can't Get Over Her Past | by Jay Shetty | XoXo 

Her past will ruin your future 😊, stay safe kings

Remember, everyone you meet is going to come with their own baggage. You just need to find the right person who loves you enough to help you unpack.

I accepted her past I never utter a single word about her past then guess what? She cheated on me😂

I worked on this just to make things work and eventually realized what I felt wasn't really jealousy or insecurity, but disgust at her being able to do very intimate things without a shred of intimacy. I was disgusted by her and broke up 3 days ago. It was hell. I had to choose love over disgust everyday and I won most days but it never stopped bugging me. For some strange reason I could never trust her. It was very weird. I'm pretty sure she had some narcissism, just like most promiscuous women. It was the right decision. Don't sell yourself short fellas. Fix what you can, but it shouldn't be a torture to be with them.

Guys care less about the longterm ex and more about the flings and one night stands. Why should I have to romance and spend my resources (time included) to get intimacy when others before had to do nothing. They get the best (fun part) of her at zero cost and we end up with the the total imperfect package and emotional baggage at full price. It's a crap deal.

Except for my case. Having a an ex girlfriend who had more than 20 casual sex partner and who and had a hand full of one night stands with random guys who she barely even knows their names, it's really something to consider. Having someone with that history say alot about that person. It really puts me off.

When you can’t get Over her past, it is time to let her go

Always judge a person by their past! Dont listen to anyone who says let the past be past. NO! The past came bring STDs and trauma into the present.

Jay each & and everyday I get inspired by your thoughts sorry from your teachings ....it makes me feel good while listening to you

Love is always a great answer

Remeber that love alone is not enough. You may be in love with someone but if you dont match. If you dont understand each other. This will always end up in breakup. Remember to be in love with the person you makes you feel and peace.

THE REASON WHY I LIKE TO BE SINGLE

A lock that can be opened by many keys is useless. Women need to remember that.

Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. A woman wants a woman with a bright future 💵 an a man wants a women with a good past no cc

JAY you are our great Life coach and Motivator I loved this story too much . Jay You are the one of the My greatest Teacher and life coach I Got so much Positivity on love , Relationship , Life & Suceess from you

So let me get this shit straight: After she gave her box out to whomever she wanted to, without any particular set of criteria for doing so, now she wants you to forget all that and act as if nothing that she did matters or will have a repercussion on her present and future behavior??? Fuck that shit show...

"Love you enough to unpack your baggage" Thank you so much Jay! There is smile on my face when I see a notification from your channel !

Thank you. This is me right now. Cant get over my bf's past. Tho I know he's changed and that it all happened before he met me, I still get terrible anxiety over it. I need to get over his past because i really love him. Wish i had not asked for details of his past because now it truly bothers me. I need to get over this.

Thank you so much J for the video! Is a life changing to me. God bless you.

Thank you for your videos!

I really appreciate his efforts on making simple short videos on relationships.

I know alot of people facing this problem. So true. Love ur videos. Keep up the good work.

This is what happens when we don't forgive the ex, and remove them from our past field of experience. Without forgiveness we drag those preconceived notions into new relationships.

Nobody is worth investing in people, stay single, relationships are horrible

Everyone needs someone who will loves him/her enough to help unpack those baggage he/she have. Just like in a relationship, before we step in, we should unpack and leave our past behind before we could go on with our life together with our newly found one.

Her past disgusts me. I cannot change her past but I can change my partner. Let's be practical, as a guy I am ok to live alone for the rest of my life but won't live with a non virgin. Girls, you have only one shot to have a meaningful and serious relationship, marriage or serious relationship. If you f**k it up it's on you. Get ready to die alone.

Those are lucky whose lovers dont have a past but there is one thing to keep that in mind your past should also be clean and hope for the girl who dont have a past 50 50.

Thank you Jay❤️ God bless you

James you are the one who changes my life.I don't know why your content directly touches me.Thank you again you make my day😍😍😍

You read my mind I needed this

You are always my daily motivation

Thank you for all of your content Jay. I can't express just how much your virtual guidance has helped me. Please, never stop doing what you do and being authentically you.

All the videos are really awesome and really inspirational. Thanks a lot jay

Past matters to me!!!!

This dude is amazing!

This is the problem I'm facing right now. My girlfriend slept with an impressive number of dudes in the past. She stops that lifestyle 4 years ago (which is the main reason I'm dating her ). But sometimes, I find it's hard to get over her past and I tend to overeact when she talks to other guys.

What a beautiful message, this channel really brights my day

This is what I've been waiting for. 🙌🔥📸

Relating my problems with this video bt now I have right way to change my person 😊😊😊😊 Thank you jay♥️

No matter what I can't forget him...though we were best friends

Beautiful....relationships are complicated but when you come to a common ground it all starts to make sense.

Historically, women are supposed to maintain their virginity until marriage. Before the birth control pill, people used to understand and respect that men prefer virgins. If you're not the kind of man who deserves a virgin, marry a modern woman who compares you to her ex boyfriends. If you're a man of standards, find a woman who respects you enough to save her most intimate experiences just for you. That's true love. 💕

This is such a powerful message.. to help unpack. Thank you Jay!

Thank you Jay for this as I had an issue with this and your advise has brought a new perspective to the issue. Blessings!

Never stop continue your work Because your every video makes one better

I used to do that with my boyfriend. He also spell her ex name lol But then i matured and when i watched your video jay shetty,i say congrats,you are really a man who knows a lot of what true love is.

It is one thing to have a past, it is another thing to have changed from the past. Is there anyone that does not have a past? Raise up your hand! If you raised your hand, that was a lie. If they have changed, forget the past as you want others to forget yours.

Awesome video Jay!❤ Love it!😇

Good advice thankyou jay

Love you man , thanks

You are just unbelievable jay😍

The best thing of this channel is English subtitles

Thanks bro... This is helpful

Good to know . One of the most important thing

Awesome video Jay doesn’t disappoint 👍🏼😊👏🏼 he should really think about coming out with a book 📖 I’ll definitely buy it 🤓he has such great advice 😊

Can't wait for another one on Mother son relationships.

Jay sir a video so that i can focus on my studies and divert my focus from relationship

Knowing the answer to some questions, isn't always good for a relationship. Every person on the planet has a story to tell and one they will never tell. Unless the woman has a sexual disease or has kids there is really no reason to know details. People love juicy stories about sexual encounters just as long as it's not about your partner. At the time they are telling the story it can even be exciting to you. Can be like a porn movie in you head, could even lead to sex or masterbating. Eventually jealousy or whatever you want to call it raises it's ugly head. Some very innocent can set it off out of no where. You will damn he/she said they used to do this act a lot. Why won't they do that with me. Then it starts to grow in your head. They told me they used to have sex all the time. Why do they say no to me. Resentment moves to a new level. Anger starts and the relationship starts to go down hill. Thing only get worse because anger is effecting everything and causing you to drift. Be careful about how much you want to know or even more important how much information you can handle. The elephant is always in the room once it starts to bother you.

100% right again Jay

Thank y0u f0r such vide0s❤❤

Now someone’s gonna see this video and doubt on me ! 😂 always she finds something bad in his videos and say that i am thinking about her like the characters do in the video !😂😂

Thanks man❤

I love this xoxo series

Not every one has a baggage and when u don’t have one it’s hard to ignore the other person’s baggage

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. You make all of my days better Jayyyyyyyy. ❤️❤️

That was beautiful💖

Thanks a ton..! 💚

And thats why you never share your past with ANYONE!

Last two videos are posted exactly on the time I felt so low. You're my motivator Jay. Love you from bottom of heart. God bless. :) 😍✌️

Well said Jay

Perfect!

Thanks jay

No, not all women come with baggage and men (especially higher value men) do not and will not accept her past and her baggage.

This man always inspires me. I just listen to him when i am down in life. Thank you JAY for all you have done ❤️👍

Thank you so much for your videos please keep doing

Totally me!! That dude is me!

My ex (i loved her) opened up to me about how she slept with teacher when she was 15! She also slept with men older than her (than me). She said that shit so casual, it made me feel literal disgust! We broke up shortly after, but she doesn’t know that i broke up with because of her past

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Tell that to him, it was so hard we broke up. I'm glad I'm not the only one suffering this it's heartbreaking

Hey jay, I love all your videos, I just wanted to say that some people might judge you on the fact that you don't have many millions of followers like other youtubers have but for me you are the best youtuber and you are doing the most meaningful job using youtube as tool. Thankyou for sharing you videos. Love from India👍

This is why #NoHymenNoDiamond She can never be yours if she has been with the whole block

The worst thing is to keep reminding them of their ex when In a relationship. It's also not good to keep rubbing in your ex or talking about them in a new relationship. A relationship should be built on the new. Past the past and if they bring up their ex its probably because their not over them.

😂😂😂 How sarcastic! This just piece of cake.. What about when you can not get over past with ex who is married, with kids and already cold dead for years Jay?!

New subscriber here🙋 Jay shetty is ❤ Thank u for sharing ur knowledge about life thank u for the good words u shared... God bless u😊

that's powerful

Love it..

Best of yours 💎

Your positive thinking makes people ignore all the red flags with people . Some mistakes are patterns not mistakes . People who have high numbers of sexy partners are red flags

So true 👌

Well said

Save yourself a lot of grief and pass on those promiscuous women.

Thank you jay

After watching your videos I having smile on my face and fresh full mind....thank you jay sir.. you are really amazing

Jay u r great...

I love it...

Beautiful ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

This is called Retroactive jealousy and the judgement totally depends on whether he knew about her past before he was in the relationship . If yes , he does not have the right to be angry about it now. If no , then it will be hard to get over the fact that she lied or hid about her past causing more thrust issue for him

History repeats it self !

Nah. I still will never be in a committed relationship with her because of her past

U my mentor mr Jay