Why 70% Relationships End in The First Year | Sadia Khan 

With our common dating histories of moving away from narcissistic women, it's a tough call who said more times wow during this interview. May those insights take us to what is the best for us in the longterm. Bless you my friend.

I would have accepted to join in on Instagram last week and I wasn’t available to at that moment. Maybe next time! 😉👍🏻

Awesome interview.. not that the interviewer excelled, he just knew when not to talk and chose the right guest. Of course, today that still puts him (you) in the top 1%. LOL. Seriously, sharing this. This woman (Sadia Khan) is brilliant and insightful. More of her please, thank you.

I noticed this is a perspective from a foreigner American women were not raised like this they are more privilege so they’re equals to their partners

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Loved this!! Makes so much sense, thank you Sadia and Lewis this was inspiring and helpful ❤️

Yay! So glad you were on this! You are delivering some much needed information both men and women need to hear. Amazing work Sadia!

I simp for Sadia!

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Are you single?

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Hhmmm.... my ex... Always attacking me with no basis then telling me she was always unhappy. Funny that, so was I but, I kept trying to build, compliment her & improve things for 33 years, but nothing made a difference. Everything I said or did ("clearly") was for evil, underhand, ulterior motives! Apparently.... 🤦‍♂️😥

Experts say 20 percent of people of the planet are emotionally healthy for relationships. It probably comes from having a happy childhood where kids got the tools of socializing and finding purpose, in a very loving caring way, and respect. So even if parents had trauma in childhood, they should go to therapy or practice mediation metacognition before starting a family and having kids, so they provide good childhood to kids.

​@@alexmanojlovic768 jesus,why,WHY you stay 33 years UNHAPPY,WHY YOU CHOOSE IT😢😢😢😢

@@ivanabadzim1303 4 children...

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I'm afraid little girls will always grow up worrying about their bodies growing up. I'm a millennial, too. And we worried about our body too cause of women in magazines. At least now.. we are able to see women being represented from all shapes, sizes, and colors on magazines, media, and tv/film. It's the parents' job to help kids BOTH BOYS & GIRLS to respect each individual's bodies. And to help them understand what's good and bad. Etc... For example... beauty fades.. but a woman with a brain and her education will get her very far. Etc...

There's no such thing as "extreme feminist ideology." Wanting to control our own economic and reproductive destinies is only extreme if your fundamental belief is that woman are and should be permanently dependent on men and male-dominated societal structures. And blaming relationship failures on feminism is simply ignorant.

@@howtosober I’m definitely not blaming feminism for that, you missed the point entirely. I can support equality and reproductive rights and the same time be in my feminine energy and not agree with every little thing “extreme feminists” agree on. But nowadays, you’re either all in or all out. Both men and women’s relationships seem so dispensable, and that is due to many factors. I recommend you listen to different views and get an idea of why yourself, fascinating but sad stuff.

​@@kittyantixgiirl it is already a big issue, I see them on the comment section . 14 years old girls being ashamed of their looks, do not like their body when they still need to grow Its way too common nowadays SAD

If she’s a single mother, recreational use only…

This doesn't just go one way. If she wants the attention of the world, she isn't right for anyone, and won't be satisfied with any ONE.

@@ZukMyZikFor every single mother there’s a single father if that’s the case

@@NoWayJose3456 and?

Absolutely

Truth Bomb. 👍❤

Some people have these values without money and have been walked away from due to their financial struggle!!!

26 high value men: men with self control

32.30 high value woman

Women receiving compliments and likes from possibly hundreds of men that are praising her for simply existing and inflating her ego is nothing like a dude watching porn by himself and it isn't replacing women. If men were going to do that, they would just leave

@@jackass992 Are those men not inflating the egos of those women in the same way?

​​@@jackass992it is men's fault as well. Too many weak men that are thirsty definitely helped create this issue. Women definitely hv inflated egos with the illusion of choices like she said but we gave them those inflated egos.

Yep there career and side gig that guys approve because girls who get an education are granted a good income with a bachelors level only in nursing which is tough otherwise she has to keep going to school cuz even a a lawyer woman have a bigger population in the field and get paid less but if in the porn industry they don’t have to much and make more sadly

Paid less than the man in field

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The environment and family examples have a lot to do with the poor way that people behave, and the opposite is also true

Try rejecting a lonely, anxious, panicky, broke, heartbroken and neglected guy with personality disorder. He’ll abuse, harass, stalk and commit crimes against you for years. Intruding in your private life, social life, ruining your career at a very sensitive stage without EVER having known you. All of which has no bearing on HIS life and doesn’t impact his life the slightest. Yet he will panic and feel triggered over everything that you say and do, without ever having known you. He will try to control the life of a stranger, always feeling out of control because you can’t control people. The need for control stemming from a broken engagement which made him feel like absolute shit because he had NO identity outside of it, followed by a reaction from a stranger, which send him spiralling down, losing himself for years on end. Refusing to see a psychiatrist. Talking ALL his piled up shit out on a stranger. Vicious. Angry at the world. Seeking revenge. Negative emotions at a sky high. Refusing to feel positive or focus on himself. Refusing to get help. Refusing to better himself and let go of what never existed. Not knowing WHY he’s doing why he’s doing. Falling short of why he claims are his morals and values thereby feeling like shit. Imagine falling so low, that you need a psychiatrist to tell you not to hack another persons phone because it’s a crime AND because you have NO right to intrude on someone’s privacy. You shouldn’t be in a position where someone needs to explain that to you. No one has ever told me that because I’ve never done it. You should be focusing on yourself and your future. Not people whose actions and words have no bearing on your employment, social life, love life or private life. People who reject you and have never been in your life, can’t possible have such a big impact on your psychological state or decisions. Why would you factor in a girl, in your decisions, who you’ve never met, talked to and who has never been a PART of your life? You can’t take her with you, if you move. So why is she a factor? THAT to him will be more important than focusing on himself, controlling himself and getting somewhere in life. He will waste his 20’s and 30’s ruining his life and that of others. A man who cannot respect himself or his own time cannot respect anyone else.

Also, the excuse she says women use: my partner isn't meeting my needs - is exactly what men say. It's nasty & manipulative, because it could be just a total lie anyway, plus it puts pressure on the partner to be nicer to them, look better etc etc, & feel bad about themselves- right when they find out they've been lied to and betrayed and don't need more psychological pressure.

How can a person not project their insecurities onto the people around them?

@@LilyFaith-vy3nw People project their insecurities onto others when they are unaware of their insecurities. The more self-aware you are the less you project onto others.

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So powerful!

Dr. Bruce Lipton: says most people behave in a way they were raised in ages 0 to 7 because at this age the brain and subconscious mind program is developing, so it continues to adulthood and most people are not aware of these negative habits they observe in childhood, unless they start to seek therapy you do mediation etc.

Some people stay single because of their trauma, not growing or bettering themselves, which means that they’re not healing or bettering themselves. You don’t heal all of your life. You do what you need to get out of that zone, WHILE you’re living a full life with a job, friends, traveling, etc. Life is lived in its totality. You can’t stop working because you’re traumatised or healing. Simple and incompetent people who can only do one thing at a time, need psychiatrists and better discipline. Because most people juggle job, family, dating and friends all at one, without whining about it. People who are traumatised from their parents marriage, a broken engagement, rejection or changing gender roles, are not taking a break from dating because a break means that they go back to dating. They’ve checked out from dating. Being single doesn’t mean that you’re happy, healthy, have no traumas, growing, employed, successful, wealthy, have options or disciplining yourself. It could very well mean that you’re being rejected because you have unrealistic expectations of what a marriage is or that you can’t talk to the opposite sex. You could very well be single AND unemployed, rude, unhealthy mentally and physically, not at all social, traumatised, lonely, selfish, broke, regressing, unsuccessful, living with your parents and amounting to nothing whatsoever, no personal growth, having learnt NOTHING new, etc. You could very well be single BECAUSE you don’t know how to talk to women, understand the particular girl’s sensibilities or where she’s coming from, etc. Any man who can’t talk to women, cannot have a successful relationship with one. Some single people are disillusioned, hopeless, traumatised and don’t want to risk putting themselves out there. MGTOW is an example. They’re extremists who view the world in black and white. They are not balanced. Trauma or no trauma, is NOT a reason to choose a relationship or reject one. Your reasons must be better. The world is filled with people who have trauma but can still enjoy themselves, become successful and have a family. WHAT are they doing differently? Small trauma doesn’t equate the trauma of being a war victim or rape victim. Some people are too immature, incompetent and self consumed, to think that their particular trauma is the end of their own world. Maturity and wisdom tells you that it isn’t. Most stalkers are single. That’s hardly a sign of happiness. Happy people don’t harass or stalk.They want relationships but don’t know how to talk to women.

I agree with you. Learned so much from this podcast. Definitely gonna revisit this and make notes and adapt the information for my betterment

I took notes too! I’m 29 and thought I’ve done a lot of good work on myself, but I see I need to grow in many ways

It doesn't stop. Life, in all it's many facets keeps bringing more things to learn and grow from. Stay limber of mind and body as much as you can. The idea of control can be dangerous because there are so many things that happen that you'll have absolutely no control of. Things can change in an instant. Learn to ride the wave and fall off the board as gracefully as you can because you will fall, and will have to pick yourself up many a time. From those experiences you will learn to rise, ride, fall and rise again. That's why working on staying limber helps.

Well done!!!🎉

​@@annagoldenGreat comment!!

Yes, that’s being an enabler. It’s unhealthy and it’s not love.

I'm so glad my lifetime crossed paths with Jordan and Sadia's lifetime.

Well said!!

She is a 304

She does say "unfortunately" a lot, though. I think that's her way of sugar coating the reality.

It’s deep, but I don’t think it’s entirely accurate. Sexuality is a value that attracts others, but it too dissipates.

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There’s also your car

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That’s really true..I’m really sad I was dating a guy who after a few dates is saying to me that he can’t commit..he can’t give me what I want and is not because of me but the fact that he can be honest it’s hard to let him go..but I know is better for me I have 38 years I want a relationship and a baby ..never in my life I was thinking I’m asking a lot 😢

@@andreea1352 You are not alone the same thing happened to me :(

@@sarastrange5282 We deserve more than this 🙏🙏🙏 we need to pray for what we deserve 😇

@andreea1352 same here, he’s honest from start that cannot give me what i want but because of that I don’t want to let him go, it’s been 4 years now. But yeah maybe it’s time to let him go.

​@@nurasaifulov1686I hope you find happiness outside of the unsatisfying relationship. It's really like breaking an addiction, having to chew your leg off to get out of a trap. It's awful at first to be without them, but it does get better. Lots of strength to you, you'll need it ❤

Part 2 is coming.

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Please stay away from avoidant . They will still cheat even thought you the most feminine being . For them cheating is a way to stay in control from their independency. Been there Be aware ladies ! 😂

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Which part do you mean?

Literally what she said.

Boundaries are a healthy part of any relationship and anyone's Self-esteem regardless of gender or what society makes you believe. It sounds to me like she wasn't interested in supporting what your needs were to the best of her ability. You deserve healthy boundaries. The fact that you're even willing to have that conversation tells me that you are healthy partner.😊

well said. it is always the same old lesson: you are what you love.

It's how you present yourself to the world

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What do you mean by self mastery and service towards loved ones?

all things self improvement meaning developing yourself (fitness, nutrition, finances, career, hobbies, social skills, emotional skills, therapy, etc) and service would be using those developed skills to benefit your communities (family, work place, church, etc)@@hari325

I agree with this, you get sucked into a negative perpetual state of mind that is not only unhealthy for you but if you know anything on how your mind works.. what you focus on expands. If you focus on all the negative and ugly aspects of dating then you will literally pull that into your life via circumstances, situations and people. You become what you think about most of the time.

Wow!! Very good point! I keep searching for ways to find a healthy relationship instead of focusing on the healthy relationships I already have. 80% of the time I’m very happy and content with my single life. 20% of the time I feel lonely and incomplete and that 20% seems to get 80% of my attention. It’s time I shifted. Thanks for the reminder!!

glad it helped, it is very normal and nothing wrong with that 20% where you get tempted to try to look for answers and look for strategies to fix things yourselves - just gotta remind yourself that that strategy never really worked, you are very much on the right track when you are mostly happy and content @@montanamarci3810

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Does that follow for self control from women blaming everything on their partner & spending habits?? I bet not, eh??

@@alexmanojlovic768 obviously.

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Lol She is a 304

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